1. Remind yourself there is nothing to figure out 2. Choose to do anything but a compulsion 3. Bring your awareness down into your body (out of head) 4. Mindfulness exercise
Thank you so much for this as ive only just realised I have been ruminising for years, especially when things go wrong in life dragging me into a downward spiral in which recently has started to affect my emotional state. What makes it worse for myself is i feel guilty for how i feel because me and my wife are expecting our first child in October. However, just watching this video has helped lift me. Need to remind myself, small steps and acceptance.
Small steps are very important! Rumination is something you do want to stop overtime, as it tends to be just a negative thought Loop that leads to more mental health issues. Now that I’ve been in the recovery stage for few years, I really don’t spend much time thinking about anything, which is very peaceful !!
@@MyOCDCoach Think one of my problems is that when i find a technique to manage certain things i then expect everything to go away. I need to give myself time.
@@MyOCDCoach I have a question. Can rumination last for years, if not, decades? I've been researching it more and some people say they can ruminate about a specific thing for decades. is this true? will my rumination about a specific topic last forever?
I'm perfectly aware what those 'quick fix' mental compulsions/ruminations do to my ocd, but damn it's hard to stop. I have a thought about something, and I feel 'dirty' in a sense, so I need to neutralize it with another thought, or mental image, and of course it has to be perfect - if it's not, gonna start all over again. It can take literally hours, and for what? Few minutes of 'peace', because the thought will pop up again lol. These days it's not as bad as it used to be, but I still catch myself from time to time in a loop of rumination, and I just need to 'neutralize' it, because you know... its hard ;]
One way I combat this is tracking compulsions (not daily - too much) but weekly to work towards zero. I do this with 1:1 clients and in my memberships. They need to get to zero and this helps immensely. Too many try to do it on their own.
Question: If the intrusive thoughts are not centered around a particular subject then how do you stop ruminating? I thought stop and get anxiety over repeating songs in my head, imaginary conversations with people in my head, thinking about the past, thinking about the future, and the thing is the thoughts are entirely random.
This is great information thank you, but with all the guidance of not going to analyze your thoughts and sort of ignoring it every time, are we also not fixing the root cause? Eventually we will have to sit down with our thoughts and feelings and do that inner work right? I think sometimes I over analyze because there’s a part of me that hasn’t been healed yet or something that I need to work on and accept/change. I hope this makes sense
If you’re not analyzing it, you shouldn’t be thinking about the root cause at all. Plus, the root causes just that You tend to be anxious and don’t have the coping skills. The work is ERP, which includes acceptance work
Thank you! I cried through this whole video realizing just how bad my ruminating & ocd has become. I’m just “in my head” and it’s something I don’t really talk to anyone about or feel like anyone understands. I didn’t even realize I’m doing it literally almost all the time, trying to find solutions, torturing myself.. it’s exhausting & it takes up all my productivity over-thinking, over analyzing , re-analyzing everything, from all of my life’s mistakes, to what I should do with my future, worrying about my kids, what this or that means about my worth. Always feeling unworthy, broken & trying to just find the right solution to “fix me.” Are there specific types of therapy that work well for extreme ocd & rumination? I just started seeing a therapist & she gave me a paper on distorted thinking styles & told me to identify some of mine.. but it’s like a constant barrage, it’s hard to even pinpoint & pick apart a single thought, other than it’s often just proof of all of the things that are wrong with me. I don’t even know why it’s gotten so bad in just the last year or so
You need to get ERP treatment...it's the gold standard treatment for OCD. Anything else won't work very well. I offer options at www.myocdcoach.com if you'd like!
I have been dealing with harm ocd and now my obsesión is about being crazy, so I have intrusive thoughts of i could do anything that crazy people do, like act wired and things like that. Is this still ocd? I think I need a session
What's a good way to not solve the problem through ROCD? Like for me my biggest thing is I wanna be near my partner but im also scared about it, how do I try ERP and learn to love my partner naturally again when my brain will fixate on an attractive person or think about how Valentine's Day is coming up and how im expected to be happy and all romantic when im scared. I'm scared of lying to myself or my partner and it's hard to bring awareness when my brain wants to love my partner but my thoughts won't let me
I didn't even know ruminating was a thing till a few yrs ago,a bit confusing cause ive always thought im just in my head a lot and a deep thinker lol which i like some of that and coming up with solutions easily but its harder to act on them than to just think about things
How to stop ruminating: 1. Look at 5 things you can see. Try describing them. Colours and textures. 2. Pick 4 things you can touch and feel their textures. 3. Pick 3 things you can hear. 4. Pick 2 things you can smell. 5. Pick 1 thing you can taste.
I was pretty good at maybe, maybe not with my thoughts but I’ve noticed that I’ve compulsed so hard through researching OCD that I literally ruminate about OCD, my ocd focuses on relationship but I do problem solve in my brain like oh I just need to do this blah blah
I have health anxiety and I’m also tapering off prescribed benzo which results in extremely scary and debilitating symptoms. Because I have health anxiety, I ruminate 24/7 about benzo withdrawal. Im trying to figure out how to “fix” it when there is no fix. And I also think I’m dying every day. Is this ocd? Can you help?
It can’t be, if you’re doing them compulsively in response to OCD. One way to know is to ask yourself “could I not do this at all, or for a while?” If that’s uncomfortable, it’s a Compulsion.
1. Remind yourself there is nothing to figure out
2. Choose to do anything but a compulsion
3. Bring your awareness down into your body (out of head)
4. Mindfulness exercise
Thank you so much for this as ive only just realised I have been ruminising for years, especially when things go wrong in life dragging me into a downward spiral in which recently has started to affect my emotional state. What makes it worse for myself is i feel guilty for how i feel because me and my wife are expecting our first child in October. However, just watching this video has helped lift me.
Need to remind myself, small steps and acceptance.
Small steps are very important! Rumination is something you do want to stop overtime, as it tends to be just a negative thought Loop that leads to more mental health issues.
Now that I’ve been in the recovery stage for few years, I really don’t spend much time thinking about anything, which is very peaceful !!
@@MyOCDCoach Think one of my problems is that when i find a technique to manage certain things i then expect everything to go away. I need to give myself time.
I’m ruminating on how to stop rumination
Rumination (a compulsion) can latch onto anything!
@@MyOCDCoach I have a question. Can rumination last for years, if not, decades? I've been researching it more and some people say they can ruminate about a specific thing for decades. is this true? will my rumination about a specific topic last forever?
@@kittycake1294 absolutely! This is why getting the proper help is so important! Ruminating keeps you in the OCD cycle.
REAL
Meee too lol
This is really helpful. Thank you. I hope I can get through this.
You got this!
I'm perfectly aware what those 'quick fix' mental compulsions/ruminations do to my ocd, but damn it's hard to stop. I have a thought about something, and I feel 'dirty' in a sense, so I need to neutralize it with another thought, or mental image, and of course it has to be perfect - if it's not, gonna start all over again. It can take literally hours, and for what? Few minutes of 'peace', because the thought will pop up again lol.
These days it's not as bad as it used to be, but I still catch myself from time to time in a loop of rumination, and I just need to 'neutralize' it, because you know... its hard ;]
One way I combat this is tracking compulsions (not daily - too much) but weekly to work towards zero. I do this with 1:1 clients and in my memberships. They need to get to zero and this helps immensely. Too many try to do it on their own.
Question: If the intrusive thoughts are not centered around a particular subject then how do you stop ruminating? I thought stop and get anxiety over repeating songs in my head, imaginary conversations with people in my head, thinking about the past, thinking about the future, and the thing is the thoughts are entirely random.
I ruminate about what happiness is and now I feel disconnected from reality and it's weird state of mind to be in
This falls into existential OCD.
@@MyOCDCoach right ok I've looked into this more and it makes sense. Any tips? Thank you
@@thegamingrelish9272 stop focusing and checking your feelings. Allow yourself to have all types of feelings without giving them too much meaning.
Very nice explanation 😍
Thank you 🙂
Would you consider constant researching OCD, watching videos, going on forums as a compulsion?
These are common compulsions, yes.
@@MyOCDCoach Definitely, yes !
This is great information thank you, but with all the guidance of not going to analyze your thoughts and sort of ignoring it every time, are we also not fixing the root cause? Eventually we will have to sit down with our thoughts and feelings and do that inner work right? I think sometimes I over analyze because there’s a part of me that hasn’t been healed yet or something that I need to work on and accept/change. I hope this makes sense
If you’re not analyzing it, you shouldn’t be thinking about the root cause at all. Plus, the root causes just that You tend to be anxious and don’t have the coping skills. The work is ERP, which includes acceptance work
Thank you so much,this video really helped me :)
You’re welcome!
THANK YOU FOR THISSS😩🥴🥺🙌🏼
Thank you! I cried through this whole video realizing just how bad my ruminating & ocd has become. I’m just “in my head” and it’s something I don’t really talk to anyone about or feel like anyone understands. I didn’t even realize I’m doing it literally almost all the time, trying to find solutions, torturing myself.. it’s exhausting & it takes up all my productivity over-thinking, over analyzing , re-analyzing everything, from all of my life’s mistakes, to what I should do with my future, worrying about my kids, what this or that means about my worth. Always feeling unworthy, broken & trying to just find the right solution to “fix me.” Are there specific types of therapy that work well for extreme ocd & rumination? I just started seeing a therapist & she gave me a paper on distorted thinking styles & told me to identify some of mine.. but it’s like a constant barrage, it’s hard to even pinpoint & pick apart a single thought, other than it’s often just proof of all of the things that are wrong with me. I don’t even know why it’s gotten so bad in just the last year or so
You need to get ERP treatment...it's the gold standard treatment for OCD. Anything else won't work very well. I offer options at www.myocdcoach.com if you'd like!
Me too
Believe me talking with parents works
I have been dealing with harm ocd and now my obsesión is about being crazy, so I have intrusive thoughts of i could do anything that crazy people do, like act wired and things like that. Is this still ocd? I think I need a session
I would absolutely love to help you with this! Visit www.MyOCDCoach.com to schedule a session or join a recovery program!!
What's a good way to not solve the problem through ROCD? Like for me my biggest thing is I wanna be near my partner but im also scared about it, how do I try ERP and learn to love my partner naturally again when my brain will fixate on an attractive person or think about how Valentine's Day is coming up and how im expected to be happy and all romantic when im scared. I'm scared of lying to myself or my partner and it's hard to bring awareness when my brain wants to love my partner but my thoughts won't let me
I didn't even know ruminating was a thing till a few yrs ago,a bit confusing cause ive always thought im just in my head a lot and a deep thinker lol which i like some of that and coming up with solutions easily but its harder to act on them than to just think about things
We think it’s normal because we’re not in anyone else’s head. It’s not normal (no need to shame), or healthy.
Do you accept insurance?
Unfortunately, I can’t. I do have payment plans on many of my programs though!
How to stop ruminating:
1. Look at 5 things you can see. Try describing them. Colours and textures.
2. Pick 4 things you can touch and feel their textures.
3. Pick 3 things you can hear.
4. Pick 2 things you can smell.
5. Pick 1 thing you can taste.
This is a helpful technique, and one of them that I talk about in another video!
Great video! Do you do virtual sessions? Let me know.
I do, yes! I work with clients all over the world. www.MyOCDCoach.com
Thx so much your awesome !!
You’re welcome!
I was pretty good at maybe, maybe not with my thoughts but I’ve noticed that I’ve compulsed so hard through researching OCD that I literally ruminate about OCD, my ocd focuses on relationship but I do problem solve in my brain like oh I just need to do this blah blah
Yes, exposure is great but compulsions need to get to zero.
Are you better now
I have health anxiety and I’m also tapering off prescribed benzo which results in extremely scary and debilitating symptoms. Because I have health anxiety, I ruminate 24/7 about benzo withdrawal. Im trying to figure out how to “fix” it when there is no fix. And I also think I’m dying every day. Is this ocd? Can you help?
You mentioned, obsessions and compulsions, so there you go.
You can do it ❤ start working on your OCD and we will get better.
Is watching these types of videos a form of compulsion that strengthens the OCD?
It can’t be, if you’re doing them compulsively in response to OCD. One way to know is to ask yourself “could I not do this at all, or for a while?” If that’s uncomfortable, it’s a Compulsion.