They tell me my email account has been compromised. They tell me why don't I just check one more time just to make sure I did not do make any mistakes. But there is one thing here, Nate- wise. My OCD tells me to avoid being myself in the workplace, it tells me to check every word I say, every step I make. And when I do that, compulsion, of course, it makes me more and more anxious. But, I got promoted. I don't know if that's because of what things happen or because I do those compulsions.
Lately my thoughts about everyone i love dying have stopped and now I am starting to think everyone at my job is against me. These videos are so helpful thank u! I loved the happy Gilmore reference!
My thoughts try to convince I'm in another dimension and there's compulsions I can do to return to the original, it is so very distressing since this seems to be a pretty niche theme and there's little I can relate to. Could you make a video about how to deal with thoughts we can never be certain of? All of your content has been of great help though!
Tell me to try a certain type of colour t shirt with a Chocolate jacket which I don't have..and force me to go to the shop and look for that jacket and try it if will match or not ... if i don't do that I'm feel so overwhelming...my ocd recovery is really going good this days, After I follow your steps of not doing compulsion although the thought continue exist and Still bother mee and its tell me it's better to do now and you will be okay if you don't do now you will do it future so it's better to finish now your compulsion
What bothers me the most is when I feel like I’m not having a big enough reaction to the thoughts! So in my mind it’s like “well maybe you want to do it” “you’re not panicking so maybe it’s just you” “you want to do it” “it’s just you now”
I have that. I feel like I have to keep ruminating & working in my head making the thoughts right & that they are fake over & over. If I don’t do that, it means I’m condoning them & making them real & the truth, even though I know they are all fake & just wanting me to feel bad about myself. The thoughts go away for a time but then they always come back for me to have to work on them more. It is exhausting. These videos do help me feel better about it all & knowing I’m not alone
Great video , for people that have ocd i want you to know that the healing is possible , living a happy life is possible , no matter how bad sometimes the ocd attacks but you no longer suffers like the beginning because now you know exactly how it works , it won't be easy for ocd to trick you like before , stay strong 🙏
Recovery is possible FOR SURE when it comes to OCD. It's just doing the right treatment and committing to it. Exposure and response prevention is the way to go. I teach it step-by-step in my course if you're interested. www.ocd-anxiety.com
One problem I have is an intrusive thought, something I find disgusted about then an image I didn’t want to see. So I’ve kept analysing them wondering “does this mean something? Why did I think that? What’s wrong with me?”. I’ve tortured myself multiple times constantly asking myself if I truly think like that. I’ve tried to stop but it’s in the background waiting for me to slip up. Until I realised that they don’t have a meaning. A scare that I shouldn’t worry about. Thank you so much for all of these videos, they’ve helped me through so much already
That’s something I too experience frequently. As well as other intrusive thoughts, for instance that I wish harm upon someone that I love when in reality, I am disgusted and horrified by such a concept and is rhetorical opposite of my values. It’s been many years of this, but I have to say, these videos help. I wish you and everyone else reading this the best of luck on your journeys towards feeling better ❤️
Intrusive thoughts come from a lack of mental stimuli. When you have too much idle time, your mind will tend to veer off into random thoughts thus creating thoughts that can be "intrusive". This is why the old saying "an idle mind is the Devil's playground" holds so much truth.
Sometimes yeah but not always, even when you're super busy at work, an intrusive thought can bother you. So it does not always work like that. Plus if you keep trying to make yourself busy just to runaway from a thought it's more like a compulsion than a solution.
@@justmadeit2I am disabled and currently have a lot of time. I been having intrusive thoughts. I need to have a social life because now it's just me and my thoughts. 🤔
I so agree!!! Ocd thoughts can sometimes become dangerous, or at least so I believe. For me, it sometimes gets hard because I can't tell if the thought is mine or not. And pretty, soon I start to question whether or not I believe this thought, which all sends me into a spiralling downfall of compulsions and doubt. It's hard, believe me, but with Jesus and God and the beautiful Holy Spirit's help, I believe I can eventually overcome this! God Bless You All!!!
What’s difficult is when they sucker punch you. For instance right after my 4th baby I saw briefly a documentary on Casey Anthony in the hospital room and the thought came to me, “what if I harm my baby?” It freaked me out and I spiraled for months on it.
This is where most of the worst intrusive thoughts come from us the damn media. Things most of us would never think about. It gets us when we are sleep deprived or full of adrenaline and then they STICK. Hugs, Momma.
this is also how it started for me. there was a crime scene documentary about a daughter who did something awful to her mom that i saw like weeks ago before i had intrusive thoughts attack me. then one stressful day at home it suddenly popped in my mind that what if i had the tendency to do the same to my mom? it freaked me out. i couldn't come close to her for a while.
This video helps a lot. I see a lot of so called "phycologists" making claims that our thoughts and dreams are absolutely valid and true. Which if you're a normal person you can easily dismiss this because we all know how bizarre and weird our thoughts can be especially dreams. But since I have OCD I believed these people and it caused me to dissect these thoughts and dreams and it was no good. I appreciate you clarifying this Nathan. It reminds me of this Proverb- "He that trusteth in his own heart is a fool, but whoso walketh wisely shall be delivered." Proverbs 28:26
The worst part of my ocd is the negative & disgusting thoughts are becoming real, I am unable to sleep at night for almost 4 years, My financial state is not good enough to have a house in which the bathrooms will not trigger my ocd, its getting worse day by day. None is there to help me.
This helped SO much!! I knew a lot of this but my son has really been struggling and just today finally shared it with me so I did some searching on YT and found a bunch which also relieved him seeing he wasn't the only one. Thank you!
I've really been struggling with intrusive thoughts this past couple of weeks, and these videos are really helping me to put them in perspective. Thank you for being there.
I thought I was becoming psychotic or something. Didn’t realize I’m just obsessing over the idea that I might be going crazy…. I’m just obsessing over the idea and it’s making me crazy.
Exposure therapy was some of the worst anxiety I’ve ever felt in my life but it really did help. Actions speak louder than words, and a thought does not do either on its own. Great video!
Exposure did not help me at all. All I become was pushover and people pleaser since no one instructed me how to handle abuse, bullying, mobbing - and how to survive without money/job after I confront abusers and they fire me for speaking the truth and hold them accountable. In the end, if exposure works then third world countries would be wealthy, organized and happy like Scandinavia - yet they are up the their neck in corruption, crime, abuse, mafia. Exposure works in psychological security, safety. It does not work in narcissistic abuse ambient.
@@danniellejohnson448 Sorry, that was not the clearest way of saying that I was trying to say that thoughts do not always lead to action, especially thoughts we have deemed as intrusive. Exposure therapy does s great job of showing how great of a difference there is between having a thought and acting upon a thought.
Thank you for this, recently my intrusive thoughts have been on a continuous loop. And it’s not restricted to recent events, according to my brain I’ve been messing up since I can remember. I found it quite debilitating and it’s taking me to some very dark places.. I’m going to try the strategy described in this video. Fingers crossed I’ll start to feel better soon. Thank you again. X
they are still instrusive thoughts, the human mind has no limits, which includes also disturbing intrusive thoughts, its okay nothing is gonna happen, me too i experience the same thing with those thoughts
This is a heavy one, Nate! I hate those days of wanting to "take a break" from my body due to overwhelming anxiety of discomfort. It's days like that you gotta go for a run, or exhaust yourself with a workout and something other than being face to face with a pixelated screen. It can be, personally, really terrifying having a day of depersonalization. Someone commented below about having thoughts about being real- I, too, think about how I'm experiencing the world (stimuli) through my eyes and brain and get sorta freaked out, like that's a "do not pass here" sorta thought. "Do not enter", or "wrong way" street sign. lol. I also find engaging with a friend or coworker on those days through conversation very helpful, since we're social animals. Thanks, Nate!
So for the past two weeks or so, I have been not feeling myself because of something some one said to me. I keep replaying what they said and wonder why they said it, re-analyzing everything from my past to come up with logical answers… this is gotten me no where but having head aches all day, anxiety, acting weird at home/work. How could something so small effect my life like this. I am researching techniques to get back on track and this one has helped for sure! For a few hours today, I had an “who cares” attitude and I was actually at peace. I will continue to work on me!
Needed to of heard this last week , convinced myself something terrible was happening to me which introduced many many intrusive thoughts which I believed was true. If you find yourself thinking “what if?” That is an intrusive thought, become aware of this if you feel these thoughts and reassure yourself it’s only a thought and thinking it doesn’t mean it will happen
@@sshhrruthii youre not alone girl!! i have those thoughts frequently too to the point where ive dreams where im cheating on my partner. it is scary but remember that cheating requires INTENTIONS you cannot mistakenly cheat on someone
Thank you Nat! I say this everytime but that's because it's true You are an Angel! I mean seriously 2020 was a disaster that was when OCD came at its peak without even me knowing it was OCD it was a lockdown and family conditions were not so good so that we could afford a therapist and thanks to the lockdown I couldn't even meet the school councillor that's when I found your channel when I had my first OCD attack SOCD the breathing anxiety and suddenly as I just scrolled through your videos all of my thoughts made sense After that it was a long journey including depression and confusion but Today I'm just out of it out of it all and understandingmy values didn't only help me in ERP but have also made me a better person today! You understood when no one could and evryone was on the verge of giving up on me including myself you saved my life...Pls continue to do whatver you do...it's a blessing to be able to save so many lives with such a. Powerful tool, the internet I just hope and pray everyone gets through this...Never give up on yourself people you are gonna be with you forever and so it's important to treat yourself with love! Believe in yourself! This too shall pass
i have ocd, and i cannot control my thoughts. i always overthink every thought even if i know this thought isnt the reality. it can be extremely frustrating and i just cant stop thinking about it, but at the same time it disturbs me. im trying to find a way to control these thoughts and realize its all my head and my brain is trying to make me believe it. thanks for this video, this helped♡
I know these videos are trying to be helpful but if we keep our problems fresh in our minds by watching these videos then they become counter productive.
Thank you! I have had a very disturbing thought lately as though I did something bad, and I feel the guilt for it even though I didn't do anything. A couple months ago that same thought was bothering me, and I couldn't do things normally then, it didn't last for long, but this time it is lasting even longer. If a certain disturbing thought lasts in your head for a bit over a week, will it stop eventually? Because this certain thought is as though trying to change my mind and make me a horrible person, that's how it makes me feel. I hope it will leave me alone soon and I will feel like myself again!
Hello! I wanted to message you but have no means of doing so as I’m not on any of the social media sites! But I want to let you know that you have been an active part in changing my life for the better 😊You deserve every success with your business and thank you so much for everything you do. I believe you are one of the few channels who genuinely help people. You have explained intrusive thoughts, helped me to see how behaviours and thoughts are linked and how to identify and stop them. This was massive for me. You must be helping so many people with their struggles. Unfortunately I can’t thank you enough 😅please keep doing what you’re doing and good luck!
OCD and Anxiety my thoughts definitely own me…. My mind is so active due to the attention given to my thoughts. I can’t get control of them, the hardest part is trying to hide my ocd whilst in the workplace. It’s a huge reason that my home life is one of isolation. I feel I have to hide myself away, to protect people from my compulsions. Thinking that I wouldn’t want to put this type behaviour onto others. It’s exhausting to me, so I would carry an enormous amount of guilt that my compulsions would impact others happiness.
@@jetpond7904 keep communicating. The worst thing I ever did was withhold all my thoughts from those few that actually care about me. I hope you have a support mechanism around you.
What disturbs and discomforts me the Most is the Constant repeat of these thoughts, i have hocd and i have a fear of like becoming or coming out as homosexual/Gay. I watch vids for advice on these thoughts then i get relieved and in a happy state knowing its not true, But then these thoughts kick in and have me questioning “Are these thoughts true, Maybe im in denial?” Then i panic and then Get emotional due to the power of these kind of thoughts im still battling it and even when it feels like its gone it will move to plan B or its last resort and say “If you dont get scared or react to these thoughts it will become true” Then the Cycle repeats i know im gonna overcome it but the Thoughts are making me feel like its never gonna go away so if yall have advice please put it in the comments because i rlly need it. Stay Strong!!!
Your videos are so helpful. I hope you realise what a lifesaver you are. This one really made me laugh - the idea that you would help yourself to some bacon off another person's plate!😃
I loved that too Meadow that made complete sense however I know that what the consequences are if I do that however I struggle because of the unknown consequence of my own intrusive responsibility thoughts … so I’m trying to understand that my thoughts is just as silly as taking bacon off someone’s plate (well maybe the waffle looks better to me lol) but still it is so difficult
@@VeganowledgeJJ Not easy but does get easier once you accept the thoughts and don't try to rationalise them or argue with them in any way. They start to fade once you accept that they are part of your makeup and are just thoughts. Sending you best wishes.
My brain is the biggest sceptic. I usually figure out what's wrong quite quickly, but it just doesn't believe me. For example, my OCD's biggest trigger is change. And I know this. And last week, I started at a brand new school and work at a reptile shelter, which took up all my time this week. The 3 months before that were just filled with free time, so that whole thing was a huuuuge change. Well, my OCD kicks at as little change as buying a new plant or book, so you can imagine how I'm feeling right now. But as you can see, I determined the trigger. But my brain still tells me "Yeah that makes a lot of sense but...It surely can't be it.". And that's so unbelievably annoying because you *know* what it is but you're still acting as though you don't!
These thoughts come from the same place as other thoughts, like, did I get a birthday card for someone, or did I get gas for the car, or did I turn off the stove, or did I wake up late?
Thoughts are Just product of the Brain, but sometimes my intrusive thoughts showed me i didnt express Anger on some behaviour that People where doing to me, and i couldnt function before pills, function i Mean i couldnt read, speak, because of severity of them.. Always find a help.. It is Brain disorder
Hi guys, need a little help, I was scrolling reels once and out of nowhere a really disturbing reel came, but now I am not able to shake it off my mind I don't know how to do it, help
Nate, thanks for this, very helpful! I often start thinking "if I disregard my anxious OCD thoughts, that means that I might miss the signs of something bad happening in the future until it is too late". Its as if I see value in holding onto the OCD to provide me with "early warning signals" about bad stuff coming my way. Do you have any advice how to let go of that kind of thinking?
Give it permission to stay, now you are in charge because when you push it away it is in control and when you give it permission to stay now your in charge. Peace, love and stay blessed.
I'm having intrusive thoughts about transforming and morphing in to other people also thoughts of losing my sporting ability and achievments if I do tasks or do things. What do I do? I'm living a nightmare
I’ve had thoughts telling me I was delusional. Thoughts that appear delusional. Followed by “if you have this thought, you must be xyz, or crazy”. Like bruh……OCD is annoying
i’m researching this so maybe i can help my partner and the issue they have is that their intrusive thoughts shame them for letting them exist. is there any advice anyone has for this kinda thing?
Cuando aparezcan que se diga para si misma "perfecto me encanta sentir vergüenza, dame mas" y que sienta La vergüenza, que la abrazo. De acá a 2 semanas más o menos va a estar bien Todo esto tiene una explicación si te interesa saber más mira el canal de "la ansiedad me tiene miedo" pero esta en español Pero básicamente es eso
Why do i obsess over it though like most people can have a unwanted thought pop in then can just dismiss it, but my brian plays it on repeat thats what stresses me out the most. Anyone in the comments have this issue? If so how do you deal with it?
To anyone willing to answer: Welcoming the thoughts and 'acting' as if they don't have any meaning feels like acting to me, still. The first reaction, subconsciously perhaps, is often still one of disgust or 'not wanting'. Does acting as if the thoughts have no meaning for me, even if I feel like they do touch or hurt me, actually help?
I have a question about false memory OCD. When we 100% heal from this will we know what happened in the past or we will not even think about it anymore? The guilt is awful feeling.
Yes I wonder this to . It's like I'm pretty sure I know I didn't do something but my.ocd keeps saying something else and I have to keep reminding myself with the facts that it didn't happen 🥺 it's a whole back forth thing in my head 😭
Can you please talk about ocd spiraling. You ignore one thought and then another one comes then another then another, all to make you do the compulsion. Major doubts
My OCD is more like a person. Like it names itself and I have 2 people that tell me to do my OCD and it is kinda like my ego and super ego but it controls my OCD and I can't get them out of my head.
Hey Nate-wise, when I do a compulsion without realizing it, then I realize it is a compulsion, should I mess up the compulsion or just stop it immediately or I just complete the compulsion?
Hey Chris! I can't tell you specifically what to do. I know people tend to mess up the compulsion or stop it and respond differently to it. Allow that feeling to be there and reduce on its own, staying with the uncertainty.
Intrusive thoughts and urges randomly pop in, right? Can they come in the form of gestures/movement and instinct? In other words, can you "consciously" plan to do something IN THE SECOND by instinct (and move to "do" so), while subconsciously, you weren't going to? When I was 14, I was diagnosed with OCD, and a guy in class insuIted me and I raised my hand, but thought "No, stop! That would be wrong." I felt the urge and "consciously planned" to hit him, but maybe that gesture/near-act was combined with an intrusive thought? The more you condemn something, the more you feel like doing it as an OCD. I'd always condemned violence, but I raised my hand to hit the guy, but maybe it was just a conscious mind trick while the subconscious mind was my non-violence charm? Again, can conscious planning and instinct be your behavioral intrusive thought, IN THE SECOND?
My latest daily intrusive thoughts. Sarcastic hurtful comments from siblings spanning 40 years now. Their words in my head daily and even hourly? Why? Yes they are negative emotion laden of course? Is this common? Are these ruminations I presume? Why negative comments from siblings the thoughts that are happening now?
Can what-ifs be acknowledged as intrusive thoughts? I have too much idle time nowadays because of my summer vacays and now it pokes me whenever I'm relaxed.
Something that I've always struggled with is how do you differentiate between a meaningless thought and a true gut feeling that might be a warning? My cousin died in a car crash and my aunt always says she had a bad feeling before my cousin (her son) left the house that night, but she obviously let the thought go. This traumatic experience has always haunted me. How do you differentiate? Thank you for your videos they are so helpful!
I don't know what I think about the "gut feeling" I think a gut feeling doesn't prevent the future. Or the outcoming. Sometimes I have a gut feeling too that something bad will happen but I try to say to myself everything is okay nothing bad will happen. Sometimes it's just Anxiety. And I'm so sorry for your loss..
Just focus on present. Thought that thought is not stopping is itself is a thought dont take it seriously your mind is making the thought because its think its important show that its not by not engaging with that thought.and slowly frequency of that thought will be reduced.
Hello Can anyone please tell me: if I have these "intrusive" (idk if they are) thoughts and search for it online and all I see is that I was right, what am I supposed to do? I mean it's just the truth, is it still OCD or am I just being dramatic ? It has been almost a year now.. idk what to do
What do your thoughts tell you? 🧠
They tell me my email account has been compromised. They tell me why don't I just check one more time just to make sure I did not do make any mistakes. But there is one thing here, Nate- wise. My OCD tells me to avoid being myself in the workplace, it tells me to check every word I say, every step I make. And when I do that, compulsion, of course, it makes me more and more anxious. But, I got promoted. I don't know if that's because of what things happen or because I do those compulsions.
Lately my thoughts about everyone i love dying have stopped and now I am starting to think everyone at my job is against me. These videos are so helpful thank u! I loved the happy Gilmore reference!
My thoughts try to convince I'm in another dimension and there's compulsions I can do to return to the original, it is so very distressing since this seems to be a pretty niche theme and there's little I can relate to. Could you make a video about how to deal with thoughts we can never be certain of? All of your content has been of great help though!
You, Mark Freeman and Ali Greymond are seriously lifesavers.
Tell me to try a certain type of colour t shirt with a Chocolate jacket which I don't have..and force me to go to the shop and look for that jacket and try it if will match or not ... if i don't do that I'm feel so overwhelming...my ocd recovery is really going good this days, After I follow your steps of not doing compulsion although the thought continue exist and Still bother mee and its tell me it's better to do now and you will be okay if you don't do now you will do it future so it's better to finish now your compulsion
What bothers me the most is when I feel like I’m not having a big enough reaction to the thoughts! So in my mind it’s like “well maybe you want to do it” “you’re not panicking so maybe it’s just you” “you want to do it” “it’s just you now”
I have that. I feel like I have to keep ruminating & working in my head making the thoughts right & that they are fake over & over. If I don’t do that, it means I’m condoning them & making them real & the truth, even though I know they are all fake & just wanting me to feel bad about myself. The thoughts go away for a time but then they always come back for me to have to work on them more. It is exhausting. These videos do help me feel better about it all & knowing I’m not alone
Yesss ik this it's like ur brain keeps telling u that you need to give it more attention and stress about it.
youre using word "maybe" because it is not you who wants this, if it were really you, you would have done it by now.
A second ago
I was feeling same:(
Great video , for people that have ocd i want you to know that the healing is possible , living a happy life is possible , no matter how bad sometimes the ocd attacks but you no longer suffers like the beginning because now you know exactly how it works , it won't be easy for ocd to trick you like before , stay strong 🙏
Recovery is possible FOR SURE when it comes to OCD. It's just doing the right treatment and committing to it. Exposure and response prevention is the way to go. I teach it step-by-step in my course if you're interested. www.ocd-anxiety.com
Too expensive though we trying 😢
I’m at my wits end
Thank you for that encouragement!
One problem I have is an intrusive thought, something I find disgusted about then an image I didn’t want to see. So I’ve kept analysing them wondering “does this mean something? Why did I think that? What’s wrong with me?”. I’ve tortured myself multiple times constantly asking myself if I truly think like that. I’ve tried to stop but it’s in the background waiting for me to slip up. Until I realised that they don’t have a meaning. A scare that I shouldn’t worry about. Thank you so much for all of these videos, they’ve helped me through so much already
That’s something I too experience frequently. As well as other intrusive thoughts, for instance that I wish harm upon someone that I love when in reality, I am disgusted and horrified by such a concept and is rhetorical opposite of my values. It’s been many years of this, but I have to say, these videos help. I wish you and everyone else reading this the best of luck on your journeys towards feeling better ❤️
Weirdly by trying to think back on a thought to make sense of what it was you thought, you end up creating another one and then feel more disturbed
Intrusive thoughts come from a lack of mental stimuli. When you have too much idle time, your mind will tend to veer off into random thoughts thus creating thoughts that can be "intrusive". This is why the old saying "an idle mind is the Devil's playground" holds so much truth.
Sometimes yeah but not always, even when you're super busy at work, an intrusive thought can bother you. So it does not always work like that. Plus if you keep trying to make yourself busy just to runaway from a thought it's more like a compulsion than a solution.
I have intrusive thoughts at work, walking down the street, where i worship and now it's to the point where it's hard for me to go to the supermarket.
I actually agree with that. I’m being unemployed a long time and I’ve been unraveling
Nooo,i have them all the time😢even while studying😢
@@justmadeit2I am disabled and currently have a lot of time. I been having intrusive thoughts. I need to have a social life because now it's just me and my thoughts. 🤔
I so agree!!! Ocd thoughts can sometimes become dangerous, or at least so I believe. For me, it sometimes gets hard because I can't tell if the thought is mine or not. And pretty, soon I start to question whether or not I believe this thought, which all sends me into a spiralling downfall of compulsions and doubt. It's hard, believe me, but with Jesus and God and the beautiful Holy Spirit's help, I believe I can eventually overcome this! God Bless You All!!!
I believe with God's help we will overcome. I needed to hear this!❤
Amen we got this!
Man I didn’t realize I was dealing with OCD intrusive thoughts praise Jesus ❤
Amen❤
I have ocd and it really is bad I make these dumb things like if I don’t catch this I will blah blah i really hate ot
Can we just congratulate this man on how humble he is regarding our mental health, really hats off man 👏👏
What’s difficult is when they sucker punch you. For instance right after my 4th baby I saw briefly a documentary on Casey Anthony in the hospital room and the thought came to me, “what if I harm my baby?” It freaked me out and I spiraled for months on it.
This is where most of the worst intrusive thoughts come from us the damn media. Things most of us would never think about. It gets us when we are sleep deprived or full of adrenaline and then they STICK. Hugs, Momma.
@@sadiemoreno3642 exactly. That's how my latest obsession came about. And now it's still very present
this is also how it started for me. there was a crime scene documentary about a daughter who did something awful to her mom that i saw like weeks ago before i had intrusive thoughts attack me. then one stressful day at home it suddenly popped in my mind that what if i had the tendency to do the same to my mom? it freaked me out. i couldn't come close to her for a while.
This video helps a lot. I see a lot of so called "phycologists" making claims that our thoughts and dreams are absolutely valid and true. Which if you're a normal person you can easily dismiss this because we all know how bizarre and weird our thoughts can be especially dreams. But since I have OCD I believed these people and it caused me to dissect these thoughts and dreams and it was no good. I appreciate you clarifying this Nathan. It reminds me of this Proverb- "He that trusteth in his own heart is a fool, but whoso walketh wisely shall be delivered." Proverbs 28:26
The worst part of my ocd is the negative & disgusting thoughts are becoming real, I am unable to sleep at night for almost 4 years, My financial state is not good enough to have a house in which the bathrooms will not trigger my ocd, its getting worse day by day. None is there to help me.
He has many many videos! But this one hits home, hits hard!! One of his best videos ever!! Now to replay it many times over to make it sink in!
This helped SO much!! I knew a lot of this but my son has really been struggling and just today finally shared it with me so I did some searching on YT and found a bunch which also relieved him seeing he wasn't the only one. Thank you!
That urge to figure it out. That feeling is so strong, it’s my clue to use what I learned in ERP.
I've really been struggling with intrusive thoughts this past couple of weeks, and these videos are really helping me to put them in perspective. Thank you for being there.
I just want to tell you that you saved me. youre just a wonderful human being.
I thought I was becoming psychotic or something. Didn’t realize I’m just obsessing over the idea that I might be going crazy…. I’m just obsessing over the idea and it’s making me crazy.
Exposure therapy was some of the worst anxiety I’ve ever felt in my life but it really did help.
Actions speak louder than words, and a thought does not do either on its own.
Great video!
Exposure did not help me at all. All I become was pushover and people pleaser since no one instructed me how to handle abuse, bullying, mobbing - and how to survive without money/job after I confront abusers and they fire me for speaking the truth and hold them accountable.
In the end, if exposure works then third world countries would be wealthy, organized and happy like Scandinavia - yet they are up the their neck in corruption, crime, abuse, mafia.
Exposure works in psychological security, safety.
It does not work in narcissistic abuse ambient.
What does that mean? Actions speak louder and thoughts not on their own?
@@danniellejohnson448 Sorry, that was not the clearest way of saying that
I was trying to say that thoughts do not always lead to action, especially thoughts we have deemed as intrusive.
Exposure therapy does s great job of showing how great of a difference there is between having a thought and acting upon a thought.
All of this information is absolutely valuable, However as soon as the video ends my intrusive thoughts and anxiety starts, and it's bad too!
Thank you for this, recently my intrusive thoughts have been on a continuous loop. And it’s not restricted to recent events, according to my brain I’ve been messing up since I can remember. I found it quite debilitating and it’s taking me to some very dark places.. I’m going to try the strategy described in this video. Fingers crossed I’ll start to feel better soon. Thank you again. X
What to do when the intrusive thought is really disturbing
they are still instrusive thoughts, the human mind has no limits, which includes also disturbing intrusive thoughts, its okay nothing is gonna happen, me too i experience the same thing with those thoughts
This is a heavy one, Nate! I hate those days of wanting to "take a break" from my body due to overwhelming anxiety of discomfort. It's days like that you gotta go for a run, or exhaust yourself with a workout and something other than being face to face with a pixelated screen. It can be, personally, really terrifying having a day of depersonalization. Someone commented below about having thoughts about being real- I, too, think about how I'm experiencing the world (stimuli) through my eyes and brain and get sorta freaked out, like that's a "do not pass here" sorta thought. "Do not enter", or "wrong way" street sign. lol. I also find engaging with a friend or coworker on those days through conversation very helpful, since we're social animals. Thanks, Nate!
4:30 - Key moment in the video... how to tell thoughts that require attention from thoughts that are just fluff. We need to be clever thinkers.
Thanks for your response! I love that equation!
So for the past two weeks or so, I have been not feeling myself because of something some one said to me. I keep replaying what they said and wonder why they said it, re-analyzing everything from my past to come up with logical answers… this is gotten me no where but having head aches all day, anxiety, acting weird at home/work. How could something so small effect my life like this. I am researching techniques to get back on track and this one has helped for sure! For a few hours today, I had an “who cares” attitude and I was actually at peace. I will continue to work on me!
Needed to of heard this last week , convinced myself something terrible was happening to me which introduced many many intrusive thoughts which I believed was true.
If you find yourself thinking “what if?” That is an intrusive thought, become aware of this if you feel these thoughts and reassure yourself it’s only a thought and thinking it doesn’t mean it will happen
OCD forces you to have intrusive thoughts as long as you are awake. The only time I don't have intrusive thoughts is when I'm sleeping.
haha no i have thoughts about cheating even when im asleep when thats my worst nightmare.
@@sshhrruthii youre not alone girl!! i have those thoughts frequently too to the point where ive dreams where im cheating on my partner. it is scary but remember that cheating requires INTENTIONS you cannot mistakenly cheat on someone
Thank you Nat! I say this everytime but that's because it's true You are an Angel! I mean seriously 2020 was a disaster that was when OCD came at its peak without even me knowing it was OCD it was a lockdown and family conditions were not so good so that we could afford a therapist and thanks to the lockdown I couldn't even meet the school councillor that's when I found your channel when I had my first OCD attack SOCD the breathing anxiety and suddenly as I just scrolled through your videos all of my thoughts made sense
After that it was a long journey including depression and confusion but Today I'm just out of it out of it all and understandingmy values didn't only help me in ERP but have also made me a better person today!
You understood when no one could and evryone was on the verge of giving up on me including myself you saved my life...Pls continue to do whatver you do...it's a blessing to be able to save so many lives with such a. Powerful tool, the internet
I just hope and pray everyone gets through this...Never give up on yourself people you are gonna be with you forever and so it's important to treat yourself with love! Believe in yourself! This too shall pass
OCD feels like the demon corrupting my mind and soul
i have ocd, and i cannot control my thoughts. i always overthink every thought even if i know this thought isnt the reality. it can be extremely frustrating and i just cant stop thinking about it, but at the same time it disturbs me. im trying to find a way to control these thoughts and realize its all my head and my brain is trying to make me believe it. thanks for this video, this helped♡
I love this. I agree, a thought is nothing more but a thought in your head
I know these videos are trying to be helpful but if we keep our problems fresh in our minds by watching these videos then they become counter productive.
Thank you! I have had a very disturbing thought lately as though I did something bad, and I feel the guilt for it even though I didn't do anything. A couple months ago that same thought was bothering me, and I couldn't do things normally then, it didn't last for long, but this time it is lasting even longer. If a certain disturbing thought lasts in your head for a bit over a week, will it stop eventually? Because this certain thought is as though trying to change my mind and make me a horrible person, that's how it makes me feel. I hope it will leave me alone soon and I will feel like myself again!
It goes away eventualy
It was the Happy Gilmore clip for me 🤣 Nathan you are a Godsend in this community.
Thank you Nate!! Your videos has been helping me a lot go through my health anxiety!
When I watch these video I feel good but after some time it's same I have to rewatch these videos
Thanks for this video it really helped me this morning with a strong , repetitive thought .
You are a life saving person man
Thank you for this wonderful video. God bless you, and anyone else reading this, with a truly blessed holiday season.
Hello! I wanted to message you but have no means of doing so as I’m not on any of the social media sites! But I want to let you know that you have been an active part in changing my life for the better 😊You deserve every success with your business and thank you so much for everything you do. I believe you are one of the few channels who genuinely help people. You have explained intrusive thoughts, helped me to see how behaviours and thoughts are linked and how to identify and stop them. This was massive for me. You must be helping so many people with their struggles. Unfortunately I can’t thank you enough 😅please keep doing what you’re doing and good luck!
You're so incredibly kind! Thanks so much for taking the time to write this all out. I hope you're doing well!
This is honestly the least I could do 😅thank you so much.
OCD and Anxiety my thoughts definitely own me…. My mind is so active due to the attention given to my thoughts. I can’t get control of them, the hardest part is trying to hide my ocd whilst in the workplace. It’s a huge reason that my home life is one of isolation. I feel I have to hide myself away, to protect people from my compulsions. Thinking that I wouldn’t want to put this type behaviour onto others. It’s exhausting to me, so I would carry an enormous amount of guilt that my compulsions would impact others happiness.
I’m so sorry man. You can and will get through this
@@jetpond7904 thank you for your post. I am making those small steps to try and regain some control. I hope you’re well?
@@stewkelsall definitely not me. I just woke up today crying because of it and been in bed for 2 hours ever since I woke up. I just feel done for.
@@jetpond7904 keep communicating. The worst thing I ever did was withhold all my thoughts from those few that actually care about me. I hope you have a support mechanism around you.
@@stewkelsall my family is supporting me and I now have a therapist .. but nothing is helping. I just don’t know what to do.
What disturbs and discomforts me the Most is the Constant repeat of these thoughts, i have hocd and i have a fear of like becoming or coming out as homosexual/Gay. I watch vids for advice on these thoughts then i get relieved and in a happy state knowing its not true, But then these thoughts kick in and have me questioning “Are these thoughts true, Maybe im in denial?” Then i panic and then Get emotional due to the power of these kind of thoughts im still battling it and even when it feels like its gone it will move to plan B or its last resort and say “If you dont get scared or react to these thoughts it will become true” Then the Cycle repeats i know im gonna overcome it but the Thoughts are making me feel like its never gonna go away so if yall have advice please put it in the comments because i rlly need it. Stay Strong!!!
Your videos are so helpful. I hope you realise what a lifesaver you are. This one really made me laugh - the idea that you would help yourself to some bacon off another person's plate!😃
I loved that too Meadow that made complete sense however I know that what the consequences are if I do that however I struggle because of the unknown consequence of my own intrusive responsibility thoughts … so I’m trying to understand that my thoughts is just as silly as taking bacon off someone’s plate (well maybe the waffle looks better to me lol) but still it is so difficult
@@VeganowledgeJJ
Not easy but does get easier once you accept the thoughts and don't try to rationalise them or argue with them in any way. They start to fade once you accept that they are part of your makeup and are just thoughts. Sending you best wishes.
Thank you for that encouragement!
I always like to go with the “that’s nice” as a response lol
i struggle with this along with existential ocd. i go back and forth between not feeling real & then being freaked that i am real.
me too. I'll sometimes think of those disturbing thoughts... that I'm just a meat bag that's experiencing the world through eye balls. Bizarre.
How are you now?
Keep watching these videos, they will give you strength and courage
Thanks Nathan! You're doing a great job. God bless you.
My brain is the biggest sceptic. I usually figure out what's wrong quite quickly, but it just doesn't believe me. For example, my OCD's biggest trigger is change. And I know this. And last week, I started at a brand new school and work at a reptile shelter, which took up all my time this week. The 3 months before that were just filled with free time, so that whole thing was a huuuuge change. Well, my OCD kicks at as little change as buying a new plant or book, so you can imagine how I'm feeling right now. But as you can see, I determined the trigger. But my brain still tells me "Yeah that makes a lot of sense but...It surely can't be it.". And that's so unbelievably annoying because you *know* what it is but you're still acting as though you don't!
What you resist will persist. Thank you so much
Remember guys It is ok to be uncertain
You are AMAZING, Nate. Thank you
This video has helped me so much. Thank you
I needed to hear this today. Thank you!
This is a very helpful video♡ thank you nathan you're awesome!
Love it!
Love you mate you don't know how helpful your tips are for me... 💓💓 Stay blessed my brother 🙏🌼
These thoughts come from the same place as other thoughts, like, did I get a birthday card for someone, or did I get gas for the car, or did I turn off the stove, or did I wake up late?
Thank you so much for this video!! It helped me a lot!👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Thoughts are Just product of the Brain, but sometimes my intrusive thoughts showed me i didnt express Anger on some behaviour that People where doing to me, and i couldnt function before pills, function i Mean i couldnt read, speak, because of severity of them..
Always find a help..
It is Brain disorder
Hi guys, need a little help, I was scrolling reels once and out of nowhere a really disturbing reel came, but now I am not able to shake it off my mind I don't know how to do it, help
Nate, thanks for this, very helpful! I often start thinking "if I disregard my anxious OCD thoughts, that means that I might miss the signs of something bad happening in the future until it is too late". Its as if I see value in holding onto the OCD to provide me with "early warning signals" about bad stuff coming my way. Do you have any advice how to let go of that kind of thinking?
La ansiedad es el salto al futuro, pensalo y trata de vivir el presente
Thank you, your videos are really funny and informative 😊
I just find it hard to control them😢
*Intrusive thought enters*
Me: You have no power here. Now be gone before someone drops a house on you.
Thanks. You have helped with my own anxiety.
Give it permission to stay, now you are in charge because when you push it away it is in control and when you give it permission to stay now your in charge.
Peace, love and stay blessed.
Saying "enjoy your brain" to an OCD person is like the most savage dark humor imaginable...
What about the intrusive thought is that something bad will happen to someone you love?
I'm having intrusive thoughts about transforming and morphing in to other people also thoughts of losing my sporting ability and achievments if I do tasks or do things. What do I do? I'm living a nightmare
I’ve had thoughts telling me I was delusional. Thoughts that appear delusional. Followed by “if you have this thought, you must be xyz, or crazy”. Like bruh……OCD is annoying
You are one amazing man.
You help me so much with my clients. Thank you
This was helpful, thank you.
i actually feel a little better
thanks for this :) your gentle delivery of the message is really soothing
Thanks for all your help bless you I cant afford ur class or id take it you have helped me tho bless u
How can I tell if the thoughts are intrusive?
Thank you awesome into i will put this into practice God bless you
i’m researching this so maybe i can help my partner and the issue they have is that their intrusive thoughts shame them for letting them exist. is there any advice anyone has for this kinda thing?
Cuando aparezcan que se diga para si misma "perfecto me encanta sentir vergüenza, dame mas" y que sienta La vergüenza, que la abrazo. De acá a 2 semanas más o menos va a estar bien
Todo esto tiene una explicación si te interesa saber más mira el canal de "la ansiedad me tiene miedo" pero esta en español
Pero básicamente es eso
2AM And still awake by my thoughts
Thank you very much. I still fighting but this help.
Why do i obsess over it though like most people can have a unwanted thought pop in then can just dismiss it, but my brian plays it on repeat thats what stresses me out the most. Anyone in the comments have this issue? If so how do you deal with it?
To anyone willing to answer:
Welcoming the thoughts and 'acting' as if they don't have any meaning feels like acting to me, still. The first reaction, subconsciously perhaps, is often still one of disgust or
'not wanting'. Does acting as if the thoughts have no meaning for me, even if I feel like they do touch or hurt me, actually help?
Please pray for me since i get these ocd thoughts always. It’s distressing and difficult. If you could I would appreciate this.
Is he saying that I own my intrusive thoughts? 😮
I have a question about false memory OCD. When we 100% heal from this will we know what happened in the past or we will not even think about it anymore? The guilt is awful feeling.
I feel you
Yes I wonder this to . It's like I'm pretty sure I know I didn't do something but my.ocd keeps saying something else and I have to keep reminding myself with the facts that it didn't happen 🥺 it's a whole back forth thing in my head 😭
@@DogMommy. I feel for you man, its absolutely horrific 😞
@@Piker2346 yes ugh it sucks 🥺
Unfortunately it still sticks with you you may not have the thoughts urges or images but you’ll still know it’s been there
Can you please talk about ocd spiraling. You ignore one thought and then another one comes then another then another, all to make you do the compulsion. Major doubts
My OCD is more like a person. Like it names itself and I have 2 people that tell me to do my OCD and it is kinda like my ego and super ego but it controls my OCD and I can't get them out of my head.
@plantopiamedics Sure. :)
Thank you so much ❤
Hey Nate-wise, when I do a compulsion without realizing it, then I realize it is a compulsion, should I mess up the compulsion or just stop it immediately or I just complete the compulsion?
Hey Chris! I can't tell you specifically what to do. I know people tend to mess up the compulsion or stop it and respond differently to it. Allow that feeling to be there and reduce on its own, staying with the uncertainty.
Intrusive thoughts and urges randomly pop in, right? Can they come in the form of gestures/movement and instinct? In other words, can you "consciously" plan to do something IN THE SECOND by instinct (and move to "do" so), while subconsciously, you weren't going to? When I was 14, I was diagnosed with OCD, and a guy in class insuIted me and I raised my hand, but thought "No, stop! That would be wrong." I felt the urge and "consciously planned" to hit him, but maybe that gesture/near-act was combined with an intrusive thought? The more you condemn something, the more you feel like doing it as an OCD. I'd always condemned violence, but I raised my hand to hit the guy, but maybe it was just a conscious mind trick while the subconscious mind was my non-violence charm? Again, can conscious planning and instinct be your behavioral intrusive thought, IN THE SECOND?
My latest daily intrusive thoughts. Sarcastic hurtful comments from siblings spanning 40 years now. Their words in my head daily and even hourly? Why? Yes they are negative emotion laden of course? Is this common? Are these ruminations I presume? Why negative comments from siblings the thoughts that are happening now?
Thank you so much!
Can what-ifs be acknowledged as intrusive thoughts? I have too much idle time nowadays because of my summer vacays and now it pokes me whenever I'm relaxed.
What about the sensations that come with the thought
Thanxx sir I was suffering from continues thoughts and my health and studies is also affecting but I will practice it and also doing good life style.
Something that I've always struggled with is how do you differentiate between a meaningless thought and a true gut feeling that might be a warning? My cousin died in a car crash and my aunt always says she had a bad feeling before my cousin (her son) left the house that night, but she obviously let the thought go. This traumatic experience has always haunted me. How do you differentiate? Thank you for your videos they are so helpful!
I don't know what I think about the "gut feeling" I think a gut feeling doesn't prevent the future. Or the outcoming. Sometimes I have a gut feeling too that something bad will happen but I try to say to myself everything is okay nothing bad will happen. Sometimes it's just Anxiety. And I'm so sorry for your loss..
WhT do you do when the thoughts don’t stop . Like a flood of intrusive thoughts at once ?
Just focus on present. Thought that thought is not stopping is itself is a thought dont take it seriously your mind is making the thought because its think its important show that its not by not engaging with that thought.and slowly frequency of that thought will be reduced.
Hello Can anyone please tell me: if I have these "intrusive" (idk if they are) thoughts and search for it online and all I see is that I was right, what am I supposed to do? I mean it's just the truth, is it still OCD or am I just being dramatic ? It has been almost a year now.. idk what to do
I suffer with pure OCD it's awful but I hope I get the help I need for it
Thanks!