@Kars Kars You’re actually wrong though. The StopAsianHate campaign was literally in response to that white guy murdering a bunch of Asian people in a nail salon. Also, “toxic feminism” isn’t really a thing, especially not a thing that has been normalized by society. Where and how are large swaths of feminists making men feel guilty for being?
Cancel culture has always existed. What do you think overthrowing of governments and monarchies are? It’s no more than a buzzword that lacks any form of original thought. It’s a way overused term.
Alux, if you ever do a part 2, I hope these will be included: - Entitlement - Rudeness - Body-shaming - Vulgarity - Being made to feel abnormal for dressing modestly - Trolling - Narcissism
Let us also include deriding people who remain virgins until they get married or until death(maybe), because this is their matter of choice or religious, social or cultural inculcation. Because I don't see anything wrong, absurd, weird or uncool about preserving virginity. It's quite ironic that in the turn of the 20th and/or 21st century virginity has become an object of utmost reproach, as losing virginity before marriage( especially applicable to women and somehow required to men) was deemed condemnable to death in the olden or ancient times, particularly in Jewish, Moslem, Indian and most eastern societies.
I appreciate how neutral and objective this is. Usually the type to chastise drinking as a pastime wouldn’t chastise overtime. These things are all genuinely normalized and largely negatively impactful.
God, I so sick of hearing about toxic masculinity. Being masculine is protecting others and violence unfortunately is need to fight violence. The problem is society wanting men to act like women. Even when men talk about their problems most don’t care and are glad that you have them.
Completely agree that no one cares about men as much as women! Also it seems like bosses whether male or female are giving more importance to women - so where will men go? Who will listen to men? I’m worried about men’s progress in general these days; it’s quite concerning, especially those men that decide to genuinely complete the path..
I don't think there's anything inherently wrong w/ the qualities you mention (unless they're being used for evil purposes). But, even the guy who played him, Daniel Craig, has called out the James Bond character as a womanizing drunk - www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/films/news/james-bond-very-lonely-sexist-misogynist-says-daniel-craig-10480576.html
17) Gossip 18) internet Trolling / cyber bullying 19) Schadenfreude 2o) exalting mediocrity, learned helplessness rather than Merit and Excellence (a Race to the Bottom)
Lately hve been blamimg my parents for not taking me to a great schools till i realized Alux drops informative videos everyday which are 10X more valuable than the gigantic books i used to carry to school in those big bags, i been watching alux since 2018 and i really feel like i can give a speech on a graduation ceremony
@@plusbonus1165 Piece of paper doesn't give you anything it's just saying I went to classes. What is a lot more valuable is showing your employer you have experience.
@@judgementwings you can’t get the experience if you don’t have the piece of paper which shows you are even able to do the profession in the first place.
So glad I left my toxic life behind me. Never actually liked it. More of a peer pressure type of thing but I’m blazing my own path now, healthier and ready to take on life’s challenges
You don't know how lucky you are. I'm 63 and well before the internet, your options were either follow the crowd, or deal with social isolation. I'm still working on my toxic stuff. Its like they say, once you taste alcohol and indulge in other substances, your body will always remember that feeling and continue to have cravings.
I have $350k sitting in the bank but my goal is to avoid inflation and make more money, I'm considering what stocks to invest in before seeing this video
@@codyzachary3047 The simple trick is by diversification, spreading your risk and picking your profit in portions, I'd suggest you consult an investment professional for proper guidance
Men : Showing their natural abilities/feelings Woke society : You know it's okay to cry/be weak/be mediocre Men : but I do what I feel WS : You are T O X I C !
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@Joe Thompson I saw the recommendations but I didn't bother chatting her up. I keep loosing telly I still don't understand how the forex markets works thou.
I think the point was it's wrong to be too scared of being fat, even more than much more terrible things in life like cancer, nuclear war or parent's death.
I think the point is: you shouldn't be "scared" of being fat because society will see you diferent, but to be well with yourself and not be afraid of what society gonna think about you... Now the fact that being fat is unhealthy and can bring you a lot of health problems is another story
If you're 19, out of high school, and you fear putting on a freshman fifteen, that's one thing. But if you're 9, you're still in elementary school, and you're already afraid of gaining weight, you're setting yourself up for an eating disorder.
Ma'am you say it exactly how it is and I really appreciate that Aluxer!!! Honesty is the best way to go Alux and I truly love this platform for just that!!! Continue to mentor us and tell us what exactly is needed!!!
Exactly!! James Bond was a masculine man. That´s why if you feminize men like society do now, they are not going to be men anymore, same with women having more masculine traits. Biologically they become less attractive...
There is a toxic feminity also which I don't think you want to discuss in this video because you don't want to reduce your viewers and creating more dislikes. But you also know the truth. There are not just men who are guilty, there are women also. But you don't want to show it. This is just another baised thing with Alux also. Blaming everything on men.
Been a huge fan of this channel for years. Earlier this year I noticed they’ve been putting less effort on the content and has gotten too leftist with their views.
There’s a reason why men and women are different. We don’t operate how women do. If toxic masculinity is talked about, take accountability as women and talk about toxic femininity... sounds like women these days are too entitled. No we don’t wanna hear about feelings or act passive aggressive over small things. If being “unemotional” bc you have goals to accomplish is considered toxic then we’re doomed as a society. There’s nothing attractive about a man expressing his feelings all the time. And for the most part women love playing games. They just gotta have control over E V E R Y T H I N G... make it make sense...
I'm actually gonna defend my blaming my parents for giving me a hereditary brain disorder, and then not helping me with it growing up. I don't think that's toxic. Ironic thing is, telling people not to blame their parents, when their parents failed big time, is toxic.
I think what she meant is, instead of blaming your parents, try and look for the positive in life. Regardless of what they’ve done it’s best to move on instead of wasting time blaming others. Think of it as a chance to do better than them in this life. To help others who has suffered like you have and worse. Trust me it’s best to forgive them and move on, as hard as that may seem, I’m 100% sure God will bless you for it. God has many blessings for you and everyone, we just have to open our eyes and see it. The fact you’re alive today and you’re able to go out into the world and do something good, it’s a lot more than what a lot of people can and could’ve done. Just be thankful you made it to here brother. Keep looking for the positive and leave the past where it belongs. Today’s a new day, praise the lord with a gracious heart for it. Have a good day man. ❤️👍🏼👏🏼
I don't think you got the point but maybe this will help you understand. You know your parents fucked up so what are going to do about it? A. Blame them and whine about it B. Start from where you are and create a life you (nobody else) control
@@Grizerg easy for you to say "Bruh, forget it and move on"............ would you say the samr for someone who got abused his whole life, don't matter what they did... horrible. You don't know what you're talking about
Hey, out of curiosity Alux. Do you film your stock footage yourself? Because in each video there is always some random person using an apple macbook with the logo covered by a white circle
1. Drinking 2. Blaming your parents for everything crack about you 3. Sexualizing Children 4. Overtime 5. Fear of getting fat 6. Gender stereotypes 7. Toxic Masculinity 8. Accepting mediocracy and applauding effort instead of results 9. The crazy role models that people look up to 10. Adding sugar to everything thing we purchase 11. Racial bias 12. The enormous amount of screen time people get 13. Using your kids to make money off social media 14. Expecting immediate answers 15. Wastefulness Have a nice day❤️ I Love you
How is being independent part of toxic masculinity? I'm training myself not to "insta-Answer" every text or email or Skype I get. Not everything requires an immediate reaction
I think it's not about being independent....it's more about *expected to be independent* anddd women usually are *expected to be dependent* and that's where the problem is 🤕 Just let a person be whatever they want to be and things would be so much easier 🥲
Most of this list is good. The "Toxic masculinity" entry isn't, at least overall. The womanizing aside, the rest of the traits you listed as being toxic there were actually pretty good. Stop playing games, Alux.
"boys will be boys" is practice for the day when they have to be men to provide and protect their families against any and all enemies. "violence is preferable to impotence" - Ghandi
If you're going to mention "toxic masculinity", you've really got to mention "toxic femininity" to maintain credibility too. There is absolutely nothing with being masculine, and a society suffers when its men are weak. Likewise, there's nothing wrong with being feminine. Both can be toxic and perverse, but both can be embraced for what they are in healthy ways - both for the individual and for society.
Wow! I haven’t realized how toxic some of my bad habits were. Thanks for making me realize that waiting for immediate response is absolutely horrid! 💪 I’ve also been a victim and a suspect of ghosting, and you’re right-there’s nothing cool about that!
The people in the comments whining about the ‘toxic masculinity’ point - you’re proving the point. Masculinity isn’t toxic the same way that friendships aren’t toxic - unless you push it. If you can’t accept that toxic masculinity exists, you’re admitting it’s been normalised.
I always blamed my parents for me not being where I wanna be in life, because I never had a chance to try anything when I was coming up. Just being programmed with religious dogma and propaganda. I realized over time they were just doing what they felt was best, and the best they could. Alux I have always loved your videos. But, this one right here, sent my respect level to another peak. Your content is help me transform my life into something, I never knew I could be. Thanks.
As a father whom is now divorced, I always thought I would do a better job raising children than my parents. Boy was I wrong. I spent a lot of time in church because my mom was an active church goer. But here's what I've concluded from that.... Prayer is what I do to help my childs safety and welfare. I am not going to be there to watch her every day, so I go to God through prayer for his help and assistance.
Being afraid of being fat isn’t bad. Being afraid of being unhealthy is not unhealthy. Who wrote this one? Why is the video critiquing toxic normalizations in society normalizing *obesity?* As though it’s not something someone should avoid and the avoidance of it is *bad!* I’d understand if they said over-worrying in general was bad, but they didn’t. They singled out worrying about being fat. Nor did they suggest that worrying about being fat is counter-productive to avoiding it. No. They just said “worrying about being fat bad. Think of the children!” Not anxiety, or impossible beauty standards, just being fat. Most of the points were good, but this one just sticks out so much and is nonsensical. And then they go on to explain how there is too much sugar in food! And the point about toxic gender stereotypes misses the mark. It roughly translates to “Men bad because they are pressured to act toxicly, women bad but not really because they’re not doing what they want to do to social pressure.” The video started off okay with some good points that were given decent explanation only for it to sour in the middle as if nobody would notice. P.S. Of course a child is going to worry about their appearance over getting cancer! That’s like saying a child is more worried about not getting candy on Halloween over the stock market crashing. It’s a manipulative metric to use.
With points 7 & 11, I would probably also add that being a man and being accused of anything is another major problem in society. When it comes to stories such as sexual assault, domestic violence, divorce etc. If it's a man who is accused of those crimes before even facing trial, the media and social media automatically portray them as criminals, misogynists, sexists, thugs, wife batterer or whatever. And when it's later revealed that the woman made up those accusations because they for example ended a long relationship or divorced then there is no appropriate punishment and it is usually by miracle alone to let the man off the hook and prove the woman was lying. Or even in divorce proceedings, the woman automatically gets custody of whatever she wants and the man has to make do with whatever she decides to leave behind, including not getting custody of the children or house pets, as well as any money/assets they earned. Hence why organisations such as Fathers4Justice exist because men are automatically treated like criminals in courts and the woman is automatically believed while men have the burden of proof for everything. There should be appropriate changes in the law that gives sufficient punishment for women who accuse men of heinous crimes such as rape or domestic violence after a breakup or divorce nor should they automatically be allowed to take children away or any possessions until proof of ownership is obtained. But if a woman is accused of abusing, sexually assaulting or whatever to a man, then there is hardly any news coverage, the insistence on being proven guilty before making accusations is the narrative in the news. What's worse is that the male victim of these attacks are laughed at, called unmanly, weak or whatever BS people spew out because he "let a woman do that to him" or even calling the man "gay" if he reports a woman sexually assaulting him. Which is another toxic masculinity.
I'm a South African and our law in divorce is that by default a kid goes to the mother. Another thing is that if you and your ex girlfriend had a child and you specifically said you don't want a child yet she kept the baby. You are obligated by law to pay 18 years of child support.
That's just disgusting, it's similar in the UK too, a woman can sue for child support even if it was expressed by the man he doesn't want a child and the pregnancy was accidental. Even if that doesn't happen, the man is still portrayed as the bad guy because they apparently "walked away from their responsibilities" despite them saying they didn't want them in the first place or weren't ready for them and will then have it forced on them just because the woman wants to keep the child.
I do agree with you in this point, and I think that man suffers way more pressure from society then woman do, despite it looks like that the women are always the victim and the women is the discriminated one... I think women are more free then men, but society will never admit it
Isn't it interesting how the same group that sexualises children is also the same group that's claiming masculinity is toxic? If its so toxic then why is society trying to instil those traits into women? I don't feel any social pressure to be violent. Quite the opposite actually. Plus it depends on the violence. There is virtuous violence. The violence i would employ to protect my (future) wife and children from the guy who breaks down my door in the middle of the night would totally be appropriate. The problem is that society has pushed fathers out of the home. Fathers used to teach their boys how to restrain our violent tendencies and employ them for good. As for being independent, society is pressuring us to rely on the government for everything we get. Early Americans valued independence.
I'm disappointed Alux, why didn't you include toxic femininity? It's not because it doesn't exist because I'm sure we can think of examples. radical feminism invented this term "toxic masculinity" as a way to stereotype men. I wish you didn't fall for that bias
Male bashing is very prevalent today. The better solution is to exam yourself before blaming the external world, and yes, I do apply this my own life every day. "The self examined life is the only life worth living" (Plato).
Great one Alux! My most toxic behaviour is Overtime. It's hard to disconnect when you have your own business. Nevertheless, it is still toxic and should be managed.
Alux, One of my sons friend who’s a trouble teen, stabbed a boy( terrible I know) he’s being held on a $500,000 bond and will be charged as an adult at 16. Same State, a Korean man shoots a 6 year old through his window and had a bond of $10,000 he’s out. Thank you for highlighting this. This teen I know personally wants and need his dad, but the root of the problem will be overlooked and he will be threw away like an animal.
4:44 Toxic Masculinity has it’s place, homie. Putting up a “Tough Guise”- (It’s a documentary archived on PBS [America’s Public Broadcast System website specifically] online for free and Trailer on UA-cam) versus being a tough guy for protection is an important distinction that needs to be dwelled upon for years. Real talk.
This video should literally be on everyone's screen coz everyone irrespective of their age and gender could learn and avoid the aforesaid toxic behaviours so that the upcoming generations might be free of such worthless and socially accepted toxic behaviours
Don't understand the toxic masculinity and featuring James Bond. I call that part of the video Toxic Femininity. And being fat (or too thin) is not a good thing, it leads to all sorts of health issues.
The points you have brought out in this one amazing I really get the understanding of what you're trying to say and I'm going to try and fix it might be applying to me thanks for the advice
Toxic femininity is also normalised, like when women demand that something should be given to them or a position be made easier for them to get to just cause they are women
One of the most toxic behaviours is "being negetive is cool " people harvest and spread negetive thoughts just because it's COOL. If someone says they like Titanic , a random person in crowd will say that it was the worst movie they ever saw. Not because they have really didn't like it , but to stand out. PEOPLE PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT BEING NEGETIVE, SPREADING HATE AND BULLYING IS NOT COOL !!
People who behave like that most likely will never change when you want them too. They change when they are ready to. You can't change people, but you can change the people you associate with. It takes a lot of energy to be successful. I have friends only for certain occasions. When I need a crowd, I call that ol negative buddy. Otherwise, I now look for more forward thinking types.
I have one reservation about the overtime point. While expecting overtime or naturally doing overtime despite disliking the job would certainly fit appropriately, I think there is an exception for circumstances where you truly enjoy what you are doing and everyone is accepting and grateful but not pushing for taking the overtime. Of which I think is another toxic behavior: Hating your job or working for the of it being socially relatable even if you do actually like it.
I'm sorry, but obesity should not be normalised either. Obesity leads to several comorbidities such as diabetes, atherosclerosis, heart failure.... Metabolic syndrome is not meant to be normal
Being glued to my phone is the worst! I mostly use it as a camera. Then I'll post a photo in a garden group, and ask questions about the photo, such as what plant is this... what should I do about that bug problem, etc. Then the stream of answers begins, and I am checking constantly. It's like my brain is in need of constant new info. THANK YOU for this info you have provided. Ohhhh, the irony. LOL
The career and wealth advice you give here would be considered toxic masculinity and independence. Being a damsel in distress in a mans body won't get you anywhere good.
Oh my god yes! Please spread the word about ghosting as being disrespectful and toxic! I’m sick and tired of people just ghosting away their problems. I know it’s the easiest thing to do but geez stop treating me like just one of a million that don’t matter.
Ok so there's this one girl whose parents forced her to live outside with the dogs starting when she was just a toddler. She wasn't rescued until she was near adulthood. Now, this girl runs around on all fours barking and behaving like a do because it was the dogs who practically raised her. So now you're telling me that she should just "get over it?" Her barking and running on all fours is her own fault now that she's over 18? She doesn't have the right to blame her parents for screwing her up?
8:12 this disgusts me. Racist stuff like this is still happening? Why, why do you people still seperate the consequences of people depending on their race? You call yourselves good police officers? Im so sick and tired of this, actually- no, its not just me, im definite half of the world is still annoyed by this freaking discrimination. I have a lot to say about this but I'm just gonna leave it at here: For these type of officers watching this, grow up and learn to treat people of color the SAME WAY you would treat the average white person. Stop depending their consequences on their skin color.
I have one: Being told to change your personality. I am tired of hearing everyone telling me to be less shy and speak more. I have anxiety and I can't!!
I overspend to compensate for my childhood poverty like no other. Time to be a grown-ass adult. Thanks for bringing light to our toxic behaviours. This is truly one of your more insightful videos applied to my life.
Racial bias, okay where is the evidence of this. Not once when watching the news has this been an issue. And trying your best, is always all we can do. Trying your best is not a substitute for working hard. When telling an athlete at the Olympic Games, do you tell them to win or do you tell them to try their best. At the end of the day if someone really tries their best then that is all that can do.
That's not toxic masculinity. Toxic masculinity is the idea that a mans behavior and expected cultural behavior comes out as being oppressive to women, such as the work place and LGBTQ
You could also add:
1. Being told what to think.
2. Undervalue the human being.
3. Cancel culture.
@Kars
Kars
You’re actually wrong though. The StopAsianHate campaign was literally in response to that white guy murdering a bunch of Asian people in a nail salon. Also, “toxic feminism” isn’t really a thing, especially not a thing that has been normalized by society. Where and how are large swaths of feminists making men feel guilty for being?
Cancel culture has always existed. What do you think overthrowing of governments and monarchies are? It’s no more than a buzzword that lacks any form of original thought. It’s a way overused term.
What is cancel culture?
On god #1for sure smh
Alux, if you ever do a part 2, I hope these will be included:
- Entitlement
- Rudeness
- Body-shaming
- Vulgarity
- Being made to feel abnormal for dressing modestly
- Trolling
- Narcissism
You know its bad when you are triggered with some points, we need to right the world, we need to clean it, make it virtous, make it just
@@basedcataphract5852 ya u must change the framework called "law" for that
Let us also include deriding people who remain virgins until they get married or until death(maybe), because this is their matter of choice or religious, social or cultural inculcation. Because I don't see anything wrong, absurd, weird or uncool about preserving virginity. It's quite ironic that in the turn of the 20th and/or 21st century virginity has become an object of utmost reproach, as losing virginity before marriage( especially applicable to women and somehow required to men) was deemed condemnable to death in the olden or ancient times, particularly in Jewish, Moslem, Indian and most eastern societies.
You could have also included toxic femininity with toxic masculinity
Yes! That is where she has shown her feminist attitude.. I agree that she was biased when she only spoke about male chauvinism!!
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But what is toxic femininity? What common/normalized female socialization is toxic? I feel like I never get a clear answer to this question.
@@AddBowIfGirl You could do your research for a better understanding.
@@khalif19971
But there is no academia about it so what source am I researching? Can’t you just say what it is to you?
It's a social left, economic right channel. This restricts the perspectives that will be expressed
I appreciate how neutral and objective this is. Usually the type to chastise drinking as a pastime wouldn’t chastise overtime. These things are all genuinely normalized and largely negatively impactful.
God, I so sick of hearing about toxic masculinity. Being masculine is protecting others and violence unfortunately is need to fight violence. The problem is society wanting men to act like women. Even when men talk about their problems most don’t care and are glad that you have them.
Completely agree that no one cares about men as much as women! Also it seems like bosses whether male or female are giving more importance to women - so where will men go? Who will listen to men? I’m worried about men’s progress in general these days; it’s quite concerning, especially those men that decide to genuinely complete the path..
17. Promiscuity.
18. Sharing everything that’s going on in your life.
I think these are better than many of theirs
What is the n. 17?
What's number 16?
better to be slutty than too celibate, at least for some people who were just born with a itch problem.
@@ulyaref3281 having reckless sex w multiple partners
How is James Bond toxic?
Why is expecting men to be competitive, independent and rational toxic?
Alux gone woke and full of BS.
I am so glad she mentioned James Bond but not Johnny English.
Mr English is marvelous
@@joebloggs8292 this is the worst, bull shit filled video I've seen from alux. I hope I don't see another.
I don't think there's anything inherently wrong w/ the qualities you mention (unless they're being used for evil purposes). But, even the guy who played him, Daniel Craig, has called out the James Bond character as a womanizing drunk - www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/films/news/james-bond-very-lonely-sexist-misogynist-says-daniel-craig-10480576.html
Ignore the nonsense there's no such thing as toxic masculinity
Is it me or ghosting has been more prevalent over the years?
I believe it has become more prevalent!
People prefer to walk away without any “mess”.
I see it in dating the most. After a good date, she would not respond to me. I get the "hint."
Weak people's tool buddy.....
I ghost a lot some people aren’t worth the time....and I don’t got time to explain it to hurt your ego
17) Gossip 18) internet Trolling / cyber bullying 19) Schadenfreude 2o) exalting mediocrity, learned helplessness rather than Merit and Excellence (a Race to the Bottom)
Lately hve been blamimg my parents for not taking me to a great schools till i realized Alux drops informative videos everyday which are 10X more valuable than the gigantic books i used to carry to school in those big bags, i been watching alux since 2018 and i really feel like i can give a speech on a graduation ceremony
Yes, but you don't get the piece of paper that gets you the better job/pay.
@@plusbonus1165 Piece of paper doesn't give you anything it's just saying I went to classes. What is a lot more valuable is showing your employer you have experience.
@@judgementwings you can’t get the experience if you don’t have the piece of paper which shows you are even able to do the profession in the first place.
Cope
So glad I left my toxic life behind me. Never actually liked it. More of a peer pressure type of thing but I’m blazing my own path now, healthier and ready to take on life’s challenges
Same here👊👊
You don't know how lucky you are. I'm 63 and well before the internet, your options were either follow the crowd, or deal with social isolation. I'm still working on my toxic stuff. Its like they say, once you taste alcohol and indulge in other substances, your body will always remember that feeling and continue to have cravings.
I have $350k sitting in the bank but my goal is to avoid inflation and make more money, I'm considering what stocks to invest in before seeing this video
@@codyzachary3047 The simple trick is by diversification, spreading your risk and picking your profit in portions, I'd suggest you consult an investment professional for proper guidance
@@luketrench6567 Yeah sounds ideal, always wanted to give investing a try and I'm still enthused used about it, mind sharing your experience?
Men : Showing their natural abilities/feelings
Woke society : You know it's okay to cry/be weak/be mediocre
Men : but I do what I feel
WS : You are T O X I C !
Taking toxic back for the boys! Come here girl I got something venomous for you lmfao.
be a grown up man, you know she is saying the truth
Yea, man need to be more emotional... we need more weak man! 😂😂😂🤦♂️
Let’s play that Britney song now, shall we? 😜😈
I think this is the problem. Crying being seen as weak.
Who ever see this may God bless you and your family stay safe
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The idea of toxic masculinity is an absurdity.
Number 5: being scared of being fat. What's wrong with that? I'm not sure if I see the problem here.
Number 7. Is James Bond toxic?
I think the point was it's wrong to be too scared of being fat, even more than much more terrible things in life like cancer, nuclear war or parent's death.
I think the point is: you shouldn't be "scared" of being fat because society will see you diferent, but to be well with yourself and not be afraid of what society gonna think about you... Now the fact that being fat is unhealthy and can bring you a lot of health problems is another story
I thought it odd that James Bond was considered toxic.
Me too
If you're 19, out of high school, and you fear putting on a freshman fifteen, that's one thing.
But if you're 9, you're still in elementary school, and you're already afraid of gaining weight, you're setting yourself up for an eating disorder.
Ma'am you say it exactly how it is and I really appreciate that Aluxer!!! Honesty is the best way to go Alux and I truly love this platform for just that!!! Continue to mentor us and tell us what exactly is needed!!!
agreed !!
I understand the point made... but if James Bond gave into his "feelings", there wouldn't be a James Bond lol 😆
Exactly!! James Bond was a masculine man. That´s why if you feminize men like society do now, they are not going to be men anymore, same with women having more masculine traits. Biologically they become less attractive...
There’s also a feminisms too and feminazi
Toxic masculinity is an unicorn term that only comes out of entitled people's mouths.
@@LaNguyenBTong there’s also a counterpart, toxic femininity
@@Manuel-gu9ls the "third wave" of feminism is toxic.
There is a toxic feminity also which I don't think you want to discuss in this video because you don't want to reduce your viewers and creating more dislikes.
But you also know the truth. There are not just men who are guilty, there are women also. But you don't want to show it.
This is just another baised thing with Alux also. Blaming everything on men.
I agree! It shouldn’t be called toxic masculinity. It should just be toxic traits because it happens on both sides .
Been a huge fan of this channel for years. Earlier this year I noticed they’ve been putting less effort on the content and has gotten too leftist with their views.
There’s a reason why men and women are different. We don’t operate how women do. If toxic masculinity is talked about, take accountability as women and talk about toxic femininity... sounds like women these days are too entitled. No we don’t wanna hear about feelings or act passive aggressive over small things. If being “unemotional” bc you have goals to accomplish is considered toxic then we’re doomed as a society. There’s nothing attractive about a man expressing his feelings all the time. And for the most part women love playing games. They just gotta have control over E V E R Y T H I N G... make it make sense...
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I'm actually gonna defend my blaming my parents for giving me a hereditary brain disorder, and then not helping me with it growing up. I don't think that's toxic. Ironic thing is, telling people not to blame their parents, when their parents failed big time, is toxic.
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I think what she meant is, instead of blaming your parents, try and look for the positive in life. Regardless of what they’ve done it’s best to move on instead of wasting time blaming others. Think of it as a chance to do better than them in this life. To help others who has suffered like you have and worse. Trust me it’s best to forgive them and move on, as hard as that may seem, I’m 100% sure God will bless you for it. God has many blessings for you and everyone, we just have to open our eyes and see it. The fact you’re alive today and you’re able to go out into the world and do something good, it’s a lot more than what a lot of people can and could’ve done. Just be thankful you made it to here brother. Keep looking for the positive and leave the past where it belongs. Today’s a new day, praise the lord with a gracious heart for it. Have a good day man. ❤️👍🏼👏🏼
I don't think you got the point but maybe this will help you understand.
You know your parents fucked up so what are going to do about it?
A. Blame them and whine about it
B. Start from where you are and create a life you (nobody else) control
@@Grizerg easy for you to say "Bruh, forget it and move on"............ would you say the samr for someone who got abused his whole life, don't matter what they did... horrible. You don't know what you're talking about
Yea ok but also do something to help urself
Hey, out of curiosity Alux. Do you film your stock footage yourself? Because in each video there is always some random person using an apple macbook with the logo covered by a white circle
I forgot which video it was, but they said which stock footage service they use for all their videos.
Am so glad someone can talk about the children aspect....Nice one Alux
To some ppl, existence of others itself is toxic 🤣
Hell is other peopl6
I second that
I hate humanity
Precisely, we all are uniquely different
Twitter people hate other people's happiness.
Why's being entitled spoiled brats not in this list!?
Exactly. Specifically regarding women.
It was. Point 2.
1. Drinking
2. Blaming your parents for everything crack about you
3. Sexualizing Children
4. Overtime
5. Fear of getting fat
6. Gender stereotypes
7. Toxic Masculinity
8. Accepting mediocracy and applauding effort instead of results
9. The crazy role models that people look up to
10. Adding sugar to everything thing we purchase
11. Racial bias
12. The enormous amount of screen time people get
13. Using your kids to make money off social media
14. Expecting immediate answers
15. Wastefulness
Have a nice day❤️ I Love you
Bro delete this one. Let ppl watch the whole video and learn or else ppl will only understand superficially.
How is being independent part of toxic masculinity? I'm training myself not to "insta-Answer" every text or email or Skype I get. Not everything requires an immediate reaction
I think it's not about being independent....it's more about *expected to be independent* anddd women usually are *expected to be dependent* and that's where the problem is 🤕
Just let a person be whatever they want to be and things would be so much easier 🥲
Most of this list is good. The "Toxic masculinity" entry isn't, at least overall. The womanizing aside, the rest of the traits you listed as being toxic there were actually pretty good. Stop playing games, Alux.
Alux probably let a couple dudes hit that has some of those traits
"boys will be boys" is practice for the day when they have to be men to provide and protect their families against any and all enemies. "violence is preferable to impotence" - Ghandi
I would also add two more toxic behaviours to this:
1. Feminism
2. Victimising women
If you're going to mention "toxic masculinity", you've really got to mention "toxic femininity" to maintain credibility too. There is absolutely nothing with being masculine, and a society suffers when its men are weak. Likewise, there's nothing wrong with being feminine. Both can be toxic and perverse, but both can be embraced for what they are in healthy ways - both for the individual and for society.
Wow! I haven’t realized how toxic some of my bad habits were. Thanks for making me realize that waiting for immediate response is absolutely horrid! 💪 I’ve also been a victim and a suspect of ghosting, and you’re right-there’s nothing cool about that!
Why is not wanting to be fat on this list? Getting fat is unhealthy. Wanting to be healthy is not toxic behaviour.
The people in the comments whining about the ‘toxic masculinity’ point - you’re proving the point. Masculinity isn’t toxic the same way that friendships aren’t toxic - unless you push it. If you can’t accept that toxic masculinity exists, you’re admitting it’s been normalised.
Another great one!🇳🇬🔥 Bravo Alux
I always blamed my parents for me not being where I wanna be in life, because I never had a chance to try anything when I was coming up. Just being programmed with religious dogma and propaganda. I realized over time they were just doing what they felt was best, and the best they could. Alux I have always loved your videos. But, this one right here, sent my respect level to another peak. Your content is help me transform my life into something, I never knew I could be. Thanks.
As a father whom is now divorced, I always thought I would do a better job raising children than my parents. Boy was I wrong.
I spent a lot of time in church because my mom was an active church goer. But here's what I've concluded from that.... Prayer is what I do to help my childs safety and welfare. I am not going to be there to watch her every day, so I go to God through prayer for his help and assistance.
Being afraid of being fat isn’t bad. Being afraid of being unhealthy is not unhealthy. Who wrote this one?
Why is the video critiquing toxic normalizations in society normalizing *obesity?* As though it’s not something someone should avoid and the avoidance of it is *bad!* I’d understand if they said over-worrying in general was bad, but they didn’t. They singled out worrying about being fat. Nor did they suggest that worrying about being fat is counter-productive to avoiding it. No. They just said “worrying about being fat bad. Think of the children!” Not anxiety, or impossible beauty standards, just being fat.
Most of the points were good, but this one just sticks out so much and is nonsensical. And then they go on to explain how there is too much sugar in food!
And the point about toxic gender stereotypes misses the mark. It roughly translates to “Men bad because they are pressured to act toxicly, women bad but not really because they’re not doing what they want to do to social pressure.”
The video started off okay with some good points that were given decent explanation only for it to sour in the middle as if nobody would notice.
P.S. Of course a child is going to worry about their appearance over getting cancer! That’s like saying a child is more worried about not getting candy on Halloween over the stock market crashing. It’s a manipulative metric to use.
Thank you for addressing the disgusting issue of sexualizing children! As horrible as pedophilia is it needs to be discussed.
With points 7 & 11, I would probably also add that being a man and being accused of anything is another major problem in society.
When it comes to stories such as sexual assault, domestic violence, divorce etc. If it's a man who is accused of those crimes before even facing trial, the media and social media automatically portray them as criminals, misogynists, sexists, thugs, wife batterer or whatever. And when it's later revealed that the woman made up those accusations because they for example ended a long relationship or divorced then there is no appropriate punishment and it is usually by miracle alone to let the man off the hook and prove the woman was lying.
Or even in divorce proceedings, the woman automatically gets custody of whatever she wants and the man has to make do with whatever she decides to leave behind, including not getting custody of the children or house pets, as well as any money/assets they earned. Hence why organisations such as Fathers4Justice exist because men are automatically treated like criminals in courts and the woman is automatically believed while men have the burden of proof for everything.
There should be appropriate changes in the law that gives sufficient punishment for women who accuse men of heinous crimes such as rape or domestic violence after a breakup or divorce nor should they automatically be allowed to take children away or any possessions until proof of ownership is obtained.
But if a woman is accused of abusing, sexually assaulting or whatever to a man, then there is hardly any news coverage, the insistence on being proven guilty before making accusations is the narrative in the news. What's worse is that the male victim of these attacks are laughed at, called unmanly, weak or whatever BS people spew out because he "let a woman do that to him" or even calling the man "gay" if he reports a woman sexually assaulting him. Which is another toxic masculinity.
I'm a South African and our law in divorce is that by default a kid goes to the mother.
Another thing is that if you and your ex girlfriend had a child and you specifically said you don't want a child yet she kept the baby. You are obligated by law to pay 18 years of child support.
That's just disgusting, it's similar in the UK too, a woman can sue for child support even if it was expressed by the man he doesn't want a child and the pregnancy was accidental. Even if that doesn't happen, the man is still portrayed as the bad guy because they apparently "walked away from their responsibilities" despite them saying they didn't want them in the first place or weren't ready for them and will then have it forced on them just because the woman wants to keep the child.
I do agree with you in this point, and I think that man suffers way more pressure from society then woman do, despite it looks like that the women are always the victim and the women is the discriminated one... I think women are more free then men, but society will never admit it
As for James Bond being toxic, no he's aggressive and protect himself from death. Awm
Isn't it interesting how the same group that sexualises children is also the same group that's claiming masculinity is toxic? If its so toxic then why is society trying to instil those traits into women? I don't feel any social pressure to be violent. Quite the opposite actually. Plus it depends on the violence. There is virtuous violence. The violence i would employ to protect my (future) wife and children from the guy who breaks down my door in the middle of the night would totally be appropriate. The problem is that society has pushed fathers out of the home. Fathers used to teach their boys how to restrain our violent tendencies and employ them for good. As for being independent, society is pressuring us to rely on the government for everything we get. Early Americans valued independence.
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I'm disappointed Alux, why didn't you include toxic femininity? It's not because it doesn't exist because I'm sure we can think of examples. radical feminism invented this term "toxic masculinity" as a way to stereotype men. I wish you didn't fall for that bias
Male bashing is very prevalent today. The better solution is to exam yourself before blaming the external world, and yes, I do apply this my own life every day. "The self examined life is the only life worth living" (Plato).
women normalizing cheating .
Baby trapping too.
Great one Alux! My most toxic behaviour is Overtime. It's hard to disconnect when you have your own business. Nevertheless, it is still toxic and should be managed.
Alux, One of my sons friend who’s a trouble teen, stabbed a boy( terrible I know) he’s being held on a $500,000 bond and will be charged as an adult at 16. Same State, a Korean man shoots a 6 year old through his window and had a bond of $10,000 he’s out. Thank you for highlighting this. This teen I know personally wants and need his dad, but the root of the problem will be overlooked and he will be threw away like an animal.
Don't forget the celebration of vulgarity. foul language, porn, and sleeping around. and then being proud of the fact that you do these behaviors.
4:44 Toxic Masculinity has it’s place, homie.
Putting up a “Tough Guise”- (It’s a documentary archived on PBS [America’s Public Broadcast System website specifically] online for free and Trailer on UA-cam) versus being a tough guy for protection is an important distinction that needs to be dwelled upon for years. Real talk.
This video should literally be on everyone's screen coz everyone irrespective of their age and gender could learn and avoid the aforesaid toxic behaviours so that the upcoming generations might be free of such worthless and socially accepted toxic behaviours
I'm glad I don't smoke or drink. I read how it ages you. If people would Drink responsibly, the world would be a bit safer.
Key word responsibility...
Lost me with “ toxic masculinity “ it doesn’t exist
Lol
Don't understand the toxic masculinity and featuring James Bond. I call that part of the video Toxic Femininity.
And being fat (or too thin) is not a good thing, it leads to all sorts of health issues.
My toxic behaviour
1. Blaming my parents for everything crap about me.
2. Feeling good when on diet.
3. Ghosting has been the best feature of me.
Toxicity has no gender or sexuality, it's a trait that any human can have, no matter what or who they are attracted to.
Agree.
TOXIC MASCULINITY, seriously Alux? You too?
Too bad, this was a great channel a while ago.
See you.
Yeah I disagreed with them on that too.
Just see Taylor Swift's video, The Man
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That is why most men nowadays are feminine
one of the most awaited and most timely piece for Aluxers 👌 huge appreciation 🙏
The points you have brought out in this one amazing I really get the understanding of what you're trying to say and I'm going to try and fix it might be applying to me thanks for the advice
What is wrong with being 'Independent and ambitious'? This is not 'toxic maculinity'.
Alux, what is "Toxic Feminity"?
Toxic femininity is also normalised, like when women demand that something should be given to them or a position be made easier for them to get to just cause they are women
One of the most toxic behaviours is "being negetive is cool " people harvest and spread negetive thoughts just because it's COOL. If someone says they like Titanic , a random person in crowd will say that it was the worst movie they ever saw. Not because they have really didn't like it , but to stand out.
PEOPLE PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT BEING NEGETIVE, SPREADING HATE AND BULLYING IS NOT COOL !!
People who behave like that most likely will never change when you want them too. They change when they are ready to. You can't change people, but you can change the people you associate with. It takes a lot of energy to be successful. I have friends only for certain occasions. When I need a crowd, I call that ol negative buddy. Otherwise, I now look for more forward thinking types.
Now that's a video I know I will only find on this channel. Thank you.❤️
but growing up with narcissistic parents is a different thing.. you need to let go and save yourself.
Thank you alux even though I think there is more to be added to this list I think you really hit it spot on with these ones 😍❤
Also can you do a video on the best ways to lower your taxes?
Great video. Everything on this list is very true and everyone needs to hear👂 it.
This is yet another great video from Alux, keep it up Alux.
I don’t think fear of getting fat is a bad tbh
Thanks Aluxer. Hope to see you in person one day.
I am sick of being told that my masculinity is toxic. This is the worse thing that society is doing to males.
I have one reservation about the overtime point. While expecting overtime or naturally doing overtime despite disliking the job would certainly fit appropriately, I think there is an exception for circumstances where you truly enjoy what you are doing and everyone is accepting and grateful but not pushing for taking the overtime. Of which I think is another toxic behavior: Hating your job or working for the of it being socially relatable even if you do actually like it.
I'm sorry, but obesity should not be normalised either. Obesity leads to several comorbidities such as diabetes, atherosclerosis, heart failure.... Metabolic syndrome is not meant to be normal
Being glued to my phone is the worst! I mostly use it as a camera. Then I'll post a photo in a garden group, and ask questions about the photo, such as what plant is this... what should I do about that bug problem, etc. Then the stream of answers begins, and I am checking constantly. It's like my brain is in need of constant new info. THANK YOU for this info you have provided. Ohhhh, the irony. LOL
The career and wealth advice you give here would be considered toxic masculinity and independence.
Being a damsel in distress in a mans body won't get you anywhere good.
"Throw away a broken hairdryer instead of replacing it." Did she mean repairing it? Otherwise, this makes no sense.
Girls used to wear blue abs boys used to wear pink.
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Some good points mixed with woke $hit! Nice way to access all types of people Alux, sell to everyone!
don't get triggered snowflake
@@joe2k20 ya ya we know you like LGTV
@Destroyer Much better than a full woke meal! 😂😂😂
I don't deny toxic masculinity, but where was toxic femininity on this list?
I always used to think about screens being everywhere and disliking it, while no one would talk about it. So, thank you for mentioning it.
By far, Best Video You guys have done, thank You so much for sharing this useful informatión.
Glad Kendall mentioned. So true.
Thank you so very much for shedding light on item #11. Thank you!
Oh my god yes! Please spread the word about ghosting as being disrespectful and toxic! I’m sick and tired of people just ghosting away their problems. I know it’s the easiest thing to do but geez stop treating me like just one of a million that don’t matter.
as per usual guys, keeping it real, I love it, every point is so true that this video need a part two
No it isn't there's no such thing as toxic masculinity
We need another video on useful online courses cause nowadays its really hard to find good ones!
Ok so there's this one girl whose parents forced her to live outside with the dogs starting when she was just a toddler. She wasn't rescued until she was near adulthood. Now, this girl runs around on all fours barking and behaving like a do because it was the dogs who practically raised her. So now you're telling me that she should just "get over it?" Her barking and running on all fours is her own fault now that she's over 18? She doesn't have the right to blame her parents for screwing her up?
Thank you for making this video, it’s such an important video everyone NEEDS to watch!!!
You're a joke
I think you need to dial back on the toxic masculinity. A man can express masculinity without being toxic. Other than that, I approve of your list.
I would really want to see a video going deeper into number 8's point about accepting mediocrity and applauding effort instead of results.
Being too accessible to certain people
Alux always deliver great content
8:12 this disgusts me. Racist stuff like this is still happening? Why, why do you people still seperate the consequences of people depending on their race? You call yourselves good police officers? Im so sick and tired of this, actually- no, its not just me, im definite half of the world is still annoyed by this freaking discrimination. I have a lot to say about this but I'm just gonna leave it at here: For these type of officers watching this, grow up and learn to treat people of color the SAME WAY you would treat the average white person. Stop depending their consequences on their skin color.
I have one: Being told to change your personality. I am tired of hearing everyone telling me to be less shy and speak more. I have anxiety and I can't!!
The Screen time exposure in this age is becoming dangerously scary....Thanks for Sharing Alux
Decline of humanity has begun
I overspend to compensate for my childhood poverty like no other. Time to be a grown-ass adult. Thanks for bringing light to our toxic behaviours. This is truly one of your more insightful videos applied to my life.
Racial bias, okay where is the evidence of this. Not once when watching the news has this been an issue.
And trying your best, is always all we can do. Trying your best is not a substitute for working hard. When telling an athlete at the Olympic Games, do you tell them to win or do you tell them to try their best. At the end of the day if someone really tries their best then that is all that can do.
Who all here never tasted a single drop of alcohol like me??
Haven't you had cough syrup, mate?!
That's not toxic masculinity. Toxic masculinity is the idea that a mans behavior and expected cultural behavior comes out as being oppressive to women, such as the work place and LGBTQ