5 Ways You Can Let Natural Consequences Teach

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[@summer1rose]

Hi Lori! I've watched many of your videos so far, some several times. I think I might be making it a daily/nightly reminder! I am a single mother of 4 kids ages 5-8(with no twins- imagine that). I find myself getting frustrated with them often, reacting before listening and your videos are a great reminder of the kind of parent I want to be. I definitely resonate with the ideas that you purvey and I greatly appreciate your videos. Growing up I had an emotionally neglectful childhood and a lot of negative events happen in my life, but luckily had some great role models in the more extended family. Even so, it's difficult for me sometimes to react in the way that the positive influences modeled for me versus the not so positive. It is certainly a journey having children, and simply going through life. I've found that watching your videos helps me to gain a friendly reminder to stay calm and teach through love(as cheesy as that sounds).
On to this video: I don't have my kids do daily chores, but have implemented having them help around the house with small things when they need to get done such as fetching more toilet paper and putting it away, emptying small trash cans, etc. Within the last 6 months or so, I realized how ridiculous the laundry situation was at our house. My goodness, so much laundry. I was washing, drying, folding, putting away, lugging huge laundry baskets up and down stairs.. horrid. So, I finally utilized a neat system that works for us. I purchased 4 small baskets, one for each kid in different colours, from the dollar store that is perfect for their size. Every other day(or whenever it needs to happen) they bring their baskets downstairs to dump in the washing machine, then put them in the living room and when all the clothes are dry I simply sort them into the respective basket. I don't really even fold them anymore, which I realized was somewhat of a waste of time since they rifle through their drawers to find clothes and they get all crumpled and wrinkled anyway. Oh well, I'm over that! To make it a bit easier for everyone, I sort out socks and unders into a separate basket to sort and fold and put on the top of each basket when I'm done. This helps drastically because the small stuff doesn't get randomly accidentally put into the wrong drawer. This system has worked really well for my family and has really saved my back and a whole lot of time!
Another thing I've done is we do a big clean of the whole house. I admit it also, I have a hard time keeping my house clean, but the clutter is the worst of all so that is something both my kids and I struggle with. Working on it, though, so that's good. We do a big clean and pick up of the house once a week, usually friday after school or sometimes saturday depending on what our schedule looks like. They don't particularly enjoy it, but I do think they enjoy the end result and it's really helped with every day pickup. I've been hinting at if we keep it clean and pick up after ourselves, we have much less to do during the big cleanup so that seems to have really got them thinking about that whole situation. We also have a box that I put stuff in that I find lying around and if anything is still in there after our big cleanup it goes in the donation/garage sale pile. I've developed a purposeful pattern of putting my stuff in there that I haven't put away in there too as if it were theirs so that first of all it helps me stay accountable and also it seems more fair to the kids! Over time, the big cleanup has taken less and less time and that really impresses me! Also since they were toddlers and starting getting more toys, I started doing a family tradition of the donation giveaway box. Every year in December(before Christmas) we go through all of our things - toys and games, blankets, stuffed animals, clothes, etc and with Christmas coming up it helps them get more motivated about putting things in the bin, which has translated into a more every day thing as well. It seems like they have been able to let go of their things much more freely. Personally, I'm still working on it but I'm trying :P! I try to go through clothes more on a regular basis since these kids grow so fast, wow! It's so amazing how different their styles and personalities are. Just incredible!
WOW that was long. Too long didn't read version: some of the above are ideas that helped my family so I thought I'd share, I greatly appreciate the videos that this lovely lady Lori posts, and although from this post it may seem like I'm sugar coating the frustrating bits of my life with my children I am so proud in writing just some of the simple changes we've made in this household to improve everyone's well being. I appreciate the journey that everyone goes through both as a parent and a person(including children) and the challenges that can come with life. It's simply fascinating and wonderful to me how caring so many people are and how it seems as if more people are coming into the realization that everything we do affects either ourselves and/or others in some way to varying degrees and that we are becoming more conscious and aware of this in general. LONG RAMBLE FROM ME, but perhaps something I've said will help someone out there in this beautiful world! :)

[@Julie-hi5fy]

Love this....have you ever read Concious Parent? It feels like you have!

[@rachelbrown5093]

This is a great video. Thank you for posting it!

[@pineforest1442]

Natural consequences are not limited to teaching children. My favorite example that a lot of people take for granted is the Yellowstone Gray Wolf in which the wolves of Yellowstone were hunted to extinction. That did not work out well for us.