OMGOSH JULIE, WHAT A NUT JOB! 🥜 GOD BLESS YOU & GRATEFUL YOU KNOW HOW BEAUTIFUL YOU ARE WITHOUT A MAN TELLING YOU. YOU KNOW YOUR WORTH HONEY! STAY BLESSED 🙏❤
And… in ONE “date”, Julie sees ALL red flags, embraces her beauty, empathy & spirit. Any energy not hers, RETURN TO SENDER! 📬 Lovely dress btw. Super creepy it was recognized. Well done! TY for sharing all your life experiences. Much love to you. 💗🕊️✨
How bizarre! If that was him on his best behavior for a first date, just imagine how he'd devolve on future dates! He sounds quite scary and we're all glad you dumped him asap. You deserve someone special who shares your values and treats you with love and respect. Your soulmate is out there somewhere and you'll find each other sooner or later.
Only other women notice a pretty woman. I worked in a huge place full of young women many years ago and this is what I saw in *my* age group: Men just wanted a mousy-looking woman with no self-respect who they could use and abuse, and the women put up with anything. Put the men through school and then carry both the bread-winning and home-making jobs for the rest of their lives. Some of the men even confiscated their wives paychecks or told them what they could and couldn't buy with their own money left after paying their share of expenses. The men came home from work and sat on their asses while the wife worked until bedtime taking care of the babies he stuck her with. Or they were out seeing another woman. They routinely harassed and disrespected their wives for what reason I don't know. Then if she became disabled they took off. I don't know why those women didn't leave after a few months. It can't have been sex; they were raised being told it was enjoyable only to men, and keeping that information in mind by both marriage partners, it often was like that. I know women have more self-respect now but this video makes me wonder if they still have much of a chance of finding a man worth having around. Why give a huge hunk of time and effort for something that could wreck your life or is at best worthless?
Always meet the first few times in a public place and don't get into his car or go to his place if he lives alone or let him into your place if you live alone. Don't even let him know where you live at first. How long it would take to change this depends on his behavior and your instincts. It helps to have a big protective dog or to live with family members, especially if there's a man in the house.
As someone else said, this is called negging; insulting, then complimenting, then insulting. It’s meant to break a woman’s confidence, I’m glad it didn’t work on you! Block the number, because he will try to call back and do it some more
Right?! Choosing that dress was a gift. However, even without it, her “date” was shouting his true nature from the rooftops.🚩I’m relieved elevator ride ended safely. Buh-bye! Stay safe all. ♥️
Many times the real them is not revealed until you meet them. I was talking to a guy that was introduced to me by a dear friend. We spoke for almost 3 months before we met. His first lie was he was 5'10. When we agreed to have lunch, he was shorter than me, and I am 5'4". He also told me he's used to sleeping with his dates the first night. Goodbye was immediate. Never saw him again...what a loser. He didn't sound like that on the cellphone.
I’m sorry - you made me laugh. Your poor date was my entertainment for the night. You are safe. That’s good. At least you didn’t tell him what you do. That might have really freaked him out. You are a wonderful caring person. You’ll meet someone who realizes that and what a gem you are. And they’ll be crazy if they let you go!
The first sign of that conceited narcissistic behavior would have turned me on my heels away from him as fast as my little feet could carry me! His behavior spells DANGER.
You handled it Great Julie. I am a Hospice Nurse , my 1st time commenting on your channel. Life is Short so loved how you kept it moving with that guy. I have shared your channel with other my co-workers Hospice Nurses. This is your calling. So Thank You... So YOU seem to have so much more to offer , so hope your dating life goes better. You have such a great way to expressing yourself, thanks for sharing.😎
Myyyy. You find him certifiable? What Utopia have you been living in?😉. The man was probably an Introvert and found her a little over powering. If they had talked a little bit more they may have been able to work through it. And had a good time. Maybe. No bad/mad people here, just misunderstandings.
@@petersavage9456 He behaved like a certifiable NPD nut job and was emotionally abusive to her. Nothing she did warranted for this treatment. You're making excuses for a bully and that my dear makes you an enabler.
So glad you know how to smell a rat right out of the gate and not let it get any further. We are better off alone if that's what's waiting. But there are good people in this world. We just have to get back on the horse. Kudos to you!
You dodged a bullet there! I swore off dating a couple years ago and I’m sticking to that! I know some great things can happen with online and I know it’s tough to meet people when we work a lot but there are Billions of great guys out there ! You deserve the best and I truly believe in Karma!!❤
I’ve run across some oddball people in my life but none as strange as the individual you’ve described. Especially after some preliminary communication prior. I thought he was going to say something about his ex wearing the same dress. But there seems to be a heck of a lot more going on with him other than the dress. Remember to lock your doors, too strange!
You are so gorgeous Julie! What an absolute jerk! I'm so sorry. It's hard not to get jaded. At least you can laugh about it. What an odd reaction. Yellow florals must be his nemesis!
What is wrong with men these days. You’re gorgeous! Compassionate, caring and downright perfect! I’ve actually recommended wearing the same clothes as in my profile and my date so meeting would be easier. This was a long time ago before people got weird.
If I was into girls I wouldn’t just date you, I would marry you. You’re so beautiful inside and outside, you have a kind heart and a generous compassionate soul. I wouldn’t mind dying near you because I know you would be there to comfort me. You’ll find the right person for you, the one that really deserves you, and I mean all of you !!! Blessings 💗🦋
I want to think the safe move would have been to excuse yourself to the powder room and avoid a potential dangerous elevator ride by leaving discreetly. Sounds like he was trying to reason with himself for being out of your league. Definitely his loss. Beauty can intimidate men that lack confidence.
What an odd person. At least he didn't ask you to stop by his office on the way to dinner, which turned out to be a two hour Multi-Level Marketing seminar like a girl did to me once.
I can't imagine actually looking for someone to date online - much less meeting them in person. I'm pretty dang old (75) - so I guess that's it, Julie. I think you're incredibly courageous to have gotten that far - and SO GLAD you walked away pronto. Wonder how we managed to meet people before internet...work, school, friends, events? Its simply another way to meet people, but just seems creepy to me. One thing I've learned ? you NEVER truly know who people really are. Stay safe, Starchild! We love you❤
Yikes! You are too much fun for online dating-maybe get involved in an activity you like. I met my husband playing softball for the company I worked for. ❤
The internet is a great tool. But I do wonder whether it has made people impatient and intolerant of each other. I think online dating has encouraged a throw away attitude. If the person they meet is not PERFECT in all ways at the very first moment of meeting - then its off on to the next one. There are stories of lots of people who didn't hit it off at first but later became great friends or partners. I think both people did their part to bring this down. I think a lot of miss understandings too place Here.
@@DianaJG8 its nothing to do with meeting online. Its people's attitudes to each other. I'm sure he didn't do much to help, but she sounds like someone who gets angry fast if she thinks someone is being rude.
Julie, You already know this, do not see this man again. If he texts you more and asks to meet again, gives you reasons for his behavior, but how he feels there is a special connection, etc and yada, yada - just block him.
Wow! This sounds like something you’d see on a movie! Equally as uncomfortable as the scene in Bridesmaids when Kristin Wigg’s character goes on a blind date. (She sits with his weird kid waiting on him to get off of the phone as she overhears him talking crap about her to his ex…after his kid eats a few of her birth control pills…ends up excusing herself) Like your date, total nightmare! I find it absolutely weird that he recalled the photo of you in the same dress. He was “social media stalking” each of your photos! You dodged a bullet, thank goodness! 😂
Ms. Julie, you are an extraordinary human being. That male is a disordered zero. I'm sorry you experienced a toxic weirdo. There is a wonderful person out there for you !
Thanks for sharing this. Sorry he was such a jerk! You are fortunate to have got the Hell outa there! Had some horrible experiences like this in the past and one turned into a narcissistic abusive relationship that almost took my life! Not being dramatic. You are lovely and the right person will come to you soon.:) Thanks for all of your informative videos. I am a holistic practitioner, medium and death doula for people and animals. It is so important for people to not be afraid of passing and your videos are so great! Keep up the amazing work! Blessings! xo
Wow you sound like a very interesting person what with the line of work that you are in.....dont people have doulas for when they are having babies as well....what does a death doula do.....might take a look in you tube to see if there are any videos. :)
@@tashalennox4398 Hi yes there are birthing doulas...I provide spiritual support ,offer therapies like REIKI to the family and person who is passing. I work with the hospice doctors and nurses to provide all that they need to have a dignified passing and transition. I think the videos Julie does are so informative and helpful to people to understand more and to perhaps not be afraid of death and the entire process.
Something to consider: Immediately becoming fixated on the appearance of a dress from a photograph-- this is behavior that definitely diverges from what we typically view as "normal." Not to medicalize this guy's strange thought processes, but... he could legitimately be operating in a compulsive kind of way that he himself is not fully aware of. I find the "I don't blame you" message interesting. Could indicate that he is starting to become aware of the bad vibes he puts out Meeting potential romantic partners online is a minefield. I'm middle-aged and widowed a year ago, not ready to get back out there yet, but I don't think I would go back to the hassle of online dating. The best ways to meet people are through mutually shared experiences or activities. I love Meetup for that. Hiking groups, dinner clubs, museum groups, I've met some great friends that way. It can also lead to romance, but the focus is just on having fun and communing with people. It's a more natural way of sizing people up, seeing if there is chemistry. Wishing you luck 💕
Well, always wonderful that it all became transparent right off. At least you wasted just a small amount of time. Love that you stood your ground and stood up for yourself. 👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗
AWKWARD! I'm glad you respected yourself and left. It's brutal out there. I did meet my husband online. But part of the process was crawling through the weeds! Stay safe!
Girlfriend, you handled yourself admirably. People can be so strange. You have to be so careful, and dating is overrated. I’m a straight woman and I don’t particularly care for men and the way that they think and behave. It was his loss, let’s just put it that way. Don’t worry; live your life; be happy; you do great work; and the right person will come along at the right time; probably when you least expect it.🙂
This guy sounds like a total narcissist. You must beware of people like this. If he starts to love bomb you RUNNNNN for the hills! You know exactly who you are. Since getting sober you will have become more confident, reflective, self possessed AND you can spot a nutter from a mile away! The one thing I learned when I got sober 16 years ago was to trust my gut. This guy set off your red flags, believe that! I am a caretaker personality, never wanting to hurt other people this caused me no end of trouble. Julie, you are innately caring and compassionate and you know your boundaries…that’s kind of rare. You will find someone….and they will be VERY lucky to have been found! ❤🎉🤗🙋🏼♀️🇨🇦🕊💖☃️🤷🏼♀️ sending love, light and a hug! You have given me so much comfort. Thank you lady! 💖
Thank you for sharing your story. It's so important for people to know you can get up, and walk away when those red flags are flying in the air right away. Don't wait!! You are lovely and amazing.
The Universe unfolds exactly as it should... from Max Ehrmann'a Desiderata. I HAD a trusted therapist who sometimes nods off to sleep during our session. At first I felt slighted; then a moment later I found it funny. THX 4 sharing your experience. Perhaps he just was too distracted by the dress because he wanted to wear it..... ; P I would send him swatch of similar material and the address of a local dressmaker!
When he commented on your dress you should have just very sweetly said”But it’s the only one I own. That’s why I’m looking for a man who will support me and my six kids and four dogs” eye flutter. Then watch him run for the door😂😂
WOW! Just wow! Some people really need a few pointers before going out to a date; let alone some professional consultation… glad that you managed him out so humanly and professionally. Great job!
I must admit, that makes me feel better. I've definitely been on similar first dates. I thought maybe I'm ugly or something but you are so beautiful so maybe I'm ok😂
Hey Julie..I love that you are strong and confident Good that he showed his true nature early! There are idiots everywhere who often don't reveal themselves until its too late. You are gorgeous and deserve so much better. He should have concentrated on the content of the dress. We cant all afford new clothes just for a date! Onward and upward! :o) xx
That guy was messed up …! So you wore your favourite dress … what the hell! (And you look adorable, BTW!) You dodged a bullet, Julie … good call. Proud of you girl. 😘❤️🇨🇦
Wow, that's so weird!! 😅 I'm not as confident as you, so I would have been VERY uncomfortable lol. Wish you a better date next time, you look very pretty in that dress! 😊
Oh man, that was crazy. It's sad what people go through these day with dating. My daughter who is around your age goes through the same stuff. You deserve better, glad you stopped it before it could get worst.
Omg, that IS awful & I'm sorry you experienced that! Weirdos are one reason I do not online date. Granted, you can meet weirdos in real life, but my experience has been more so online. So I just do not use online platforms as my way.
He was strange, out of sorts by your dress.. Smart , beautiful, confident women 👌 you scared him silly! Thanks for sharing the way to politely get away safely. I really like your videos. Thank you for sharing a bit of your life.
I'm on the dating scene also and have had so many bizarre dates that I could write a book. This gave me a good laugh with you. Sorry you had to leave home for that
Oh, girl. You've dodged a bullet there. Do not engage! If you engage at this point, he'll know he's got ya. Stay safe! Having your own hard-earned self-respect is what matters most 💜
Good for you for knowing your own worth and leaving. You're strong, smart, and beautiful and you don't put up with BS. That's the full package, for someone who isn't intimidated by strong, sassy women.
Oh Julie, I have had similar experience, I'm 54 and last time I went on an Internet date was 7yrs ago. Terrible narcissist I'd met and put me off for ever. Happier on my own now. I think it's dangerous too. Take care 🌹
I would have been nervous to ride down an elevator with this guy. What strange and awkward behavior! I met a guy once on a dating app and he was so nice and charming and handsome and I had a lot going on in my life at the time and so I had to postpone meeting him for quite a few weeks and he actually turned vicious and hostile because I wouldn't make a date with him. I really dodged a bullet, and it sounds like you did too.❤️
Oh my gosh RUNNNNNNN! Julie, you are gorgeous inside and out and that guy is a total creeper. Please be very careful, as I know you are, with online dating or even a blind date. These days, we can't be too careful. You handled the situation perfectly as was obvious by His shock. Bet, he's had a lot of dates that were unsettling for those poor women who he took advantage of their kindness. You keep wearing that dress too, girl. You are lovely! Stay safe and wishing you many blessesings.
Run...That interaction was a "gift" from your GUIDES. You have seen the "authentic" him. About your dress...you are beautiful, no matter what you wear. Your love and kindness for others shines brightly through. He's just not for you.
I think you should go out on a date with me. If it works out, it's great for both of us. If it doesn't, I will get to hear about what a horrible date I am in one of your videos and we can both have a laugh :)
Hey Ken, if you were fortunate enough for a date with Julie (which your snarky asinine comment clearly disqualifies you), and you obsessed about apparel and acted like a Dick, then maybe you should be mentioned in her video. But, this is outing you enough right here on a public forum...
Narcs are horrible , never give away your energy and power babe ! You look amazing with that divine smile, and got a heart of gold , your the best ❤️❤️ 🙏
From Canada: Hey! I'm 90 years old this year. If I was 50 years younger I would definitely try to get to know Nurse Julie. She is a beautiful person and I wish her well. Glad you got out of that situation. Good job.
Dear Nurse, and a good one too, there are a lot of strange people out there, and we all bump into them. What a brilliant move on your part just to go. So pleased you are happy and confident within yourself. He was seriously strange Julie, so glad he's gone.
Haven’t had to worry about that for almost 35 years. My wife? Our first date was to Church. SECOND DATE was to the shooting range. 34+ years of bliss. I pray everyday for the Lord to take me first. She’ll thrive without me. My life would be a living HELL without her.
lmao what was his obsession with you wearing the same dress? That’s so strange. It sounds like he said it as if the problem is self-evident, which is even weirder!
Yessssss beautiful! Owning your worth! Never settle! Well done!!! Thanks for sharing! This is gonna help a lot of people to stand up for themselves! I'm loving who you are!!! ♥️
He’s the type that puts others down to feel good about himself
Exactly!
Well that's putting it nicely...hahaha
OMGOSH JULIE, WHAT A NUT JOB! 🥜 GOD BLESS YOU & GRATEFUL YOU KNOW HOW BEAUTIFUL YOU ARE WITHOUT A MAN TELLING YOU. YOU KNOW YOUR WORTH HONEY! STAY BLESSED 🙏❤
And… in ONE “date”, Julie sees ALL red flags, embraces her beauty, empathy & spirit. Any energy not hers, RETURN TO SENDER! 📬 Lovely dress btw. Super creepy it was recognized. Well done! TY for sharing all your life experiences. Much love to you. 💗🕊️✨
How bizarre! If that was him on his best behavior for a first date, just imagine how he'd devolve on future dates! He sounds quite scary and we're all glad you dumped him asap. You deserve someone special who shares your values and treats you with love and respect. Your soulmate is out there somewhere and you'll find each other sooner or later.
Yep. Your got one thing right.🤔 Your name. 😉
@@petersavage9456 A little touchy are we? Guess you must be the bad date then😂
Only other women notice a pretty woman. I worked in a huge place full of young women many years ago and this is what I saw in *my* age group: Men just wanted a mousy-looking woman with no self-respect who they could use and abuse, and the women put up with anything. Put the men through school and then carry both the bread-winning and home-making jobs for the rest of their lives. Some of the men even confiscated their wives paychecks or told them what they could and couldn't buy with their own money left after paying their share of expenses. The men came home from work and sat on their asses while the wife worked until bedtime taking care of the babies he stuck her with. Or they were out seeing another woman. They routinely harassed and disrespected their wives for what reason I don't know. Then if she became disabled they took off. I don't know why those women didn't leave after a few months. It can't have been sex; they were raised being told it was enjoyable only to men, and keeping that information in mind by both marriage partners, it often was like that. I know women have more self-respect now but this video makes me wonder if they still have much of a chance of finding a man worth having around. Why give a huge hunk of time and effort for something that could wreck your life or is at best worthless?
Always meet the first few times in a public place and don't get into his car or go to his place if he lives alone or let him into your place if you live alone. Don't even let him know where you live at first. How long it would take to change this depends on his behavior and your instincts. It helps to have a big protective dog or to live with family members, especially if there's a man in the house.
@@madwoman8297 🎯💯
As someone else said, this is called negging; insulting, then complimenting, then insulting. It’s meant to break a woman’s confidence, I’m glad it didn’t work on you! Block the number, because he will try to call back and do it some more
You deserve better Julie. Avoid the narcissists, weirdo’s and scaries. Stay safe and enjoy finding your perfect for you match.
Man did you dodge a bullet there! Good for you for confronting him and knowing your worth ❤
Oh my God!! He sounds scary…🥺
It’s great that you wore that dress. It might have taken longer to spot this weirdo if you hadn’t. Onward and upward.
Right?! Choosing that dress was a gift. However, even without it, her “date” was shouting his true nature from the rooftops.🚩I’m relieved elevator ride ended safely. Buh-bye! Stay safe all. ♥️
How peculiar. He's triggered that you wore the same dress. Glad you asserted yourself Julie. You deserve a gentleman 🤗 Seriously weird date 🚩
Julie, you deserve better. So glad you got outta there safe. Screen those guys a little closer next time.
Still, super glad you’re safe !
Many times the real them is not revealed until you meet them. I was talking to a guy that was introduced to me by a dear friend. We spoke for almost 3 months before we met. His first lie was he was 5'10. When we agreed to have lunch, he was shorter than me, and I am 5'4". He also told me he's used to sleeping with his dates the first night. Goodbye was immediate. Never saw him again...what a loser. He didn't sound like that on the cellphone.
I'm really glad you ended it and that you got home safely.
I’m sorry - you made me laugh. Your poor date was my entertainment for the night. You are safe. That’s good. At least you didn’t tell him what you do. That might have really freaked him out. You are a wonderful caring person. You’ll meet someone who realizes that and what a gem you are. And they’ll be crazy if they let you go!
The first sign of that conceited narcissistic behavior would have turned me on my heels away from him as fast as my little feet could carry me! His behavior spells DANGER.
You handled it Great Julie. I am a Hospice Nurse , my 1st time commenting on your channel. Life is Short so loved how you kept it moving with that guy. I have shared your channel with other my co-workers Hospice Nurses. This is your calling. So Thank You... So YOU seem to have so much more to offer , so hope your dating life goes better. You have such a great way to expressing yourself, thanks for sharing.😎
He is certifiable! So glad you’re home safe! ♥️♥️♥️
Myyyy. You find him certifiable? What Utopia have you been living in?😉. The man was probably an Introvert and found her a little over powering. If they had talked a little bit more they may have been able to work through it. And had a good time. Maybe. No bad/mad people here, just misunderstandings.
@@petersavage9456 He behaved like a certifiable NPD nut job and was emotionally abusive to her. Nothing she did warranted for this treatment. You're making excuses for a bully and that my dear makes you an enabler.
Sounds certifiable to me too!
@@petersavage9456 He didn't want to talk, he asked for silence. He did get the "I don't blame you for leaving" part right.
She does not have to do social work on him. I'm a firm believer in "nip it in the bud". C-yah.
So glad you know how to smell a rat right out of the gate and not let it get any further. We are better off alone if that's what's waiting. But there are good people in this world. We just have to get back on the horse. Kudos to you!
The saying, 'Don't cast your pearls before swine' comes to mind! ☹
You dodged a bullet there! I swore off dating a couple years ago and I’m sticking to that! I know some great things can happen with online and I know it’s tough to meet people when we work a lot but there are Billions of great guys out there ! You deserve the best and I truly believe in Karma!!❤
Sounds like he knows he’s a wacky job.. 😂
I’ve run across some oddball people in my life but none as strange as the individual you’ve described. Especially after some preliminary communication prior. I thought he was going to say something about his ex wearing the same dress. But there seems to be a heck of a lot more going on with him other than the dress. Remember to lock your doors, too strange!
You are so gorgeous Julie! What an absolute jerk! I'm so sorry. It's hard not to get jaded. At least you can laugh about it. What an odd reaction. Yellow florals must be his nemesis!
Julie, you are a beautiful woman with so much to offer in an adult relationship. You are worth it ❤️
What an A hole!! At least you got a funny story out of the date 🤣 You deserve someone beautiful on the inside, just like you 💗
What is wrong with men these days. You’re gorgeous! Compassionate, caring and downright perfect! I’ve actually recommended wearing the same clothes as in my profile and my date so meeting would be easier. This was a long time ago before people got weird.
If I was into girls I wouldn’t just date you, I would marry you. You’re so beautiful inside and outside, you have a kind heart and a generous compassionate soul.
I wouldn’t mind dying near you because I know you would be there to comfort me.
You’ll find the right person for you, the one that really deserves you, and I mean all of you !!!
Blessings 💗🦋
Oh my! Watch your back, Honey! That man sounds like an abuser.(I speak from experience, unfortunately) Hugs!
I am so glad you got out of there. It truly sounds like something is broken with this man.
OMG it really does take all sorts 🤣🤣 I'm glad you walked out, that kind of behavior is not to be trusted. Watch out for his face in the news!
This world has turned into a "Dumpster-Fire". This guy doesn't know what he's missing. I hope you find "Mr. Right".
I want to think the safe move would have been to excuse yourself to the powder room and avoid a potential dangerous elevator ride by leaving discreetly. Sounds like he was trying to reason with himself for being out of your league. Definitely his loss. Beauty can intimidate men that lack confidence.
She sounds like she's confident and clever enough to look after herself with a mans advice on such issues 😉
Yes, not only beauty, but confidence as well.
What an odd person. At least he didn't ask you to stop by his office on the way to dinner, which turned out to be a two hour Multi-Level Marketing seminar like a girl did to me once.
So glad I am past all that. You gave me a great laugh. Wonderful! Bless you for all the amazing work you are doing.
Don't think it was meant to be funny but everyone finds something funny. Lol.
Thank goodness you made an escape. Pleased to know you got away safely. 😊
You’re too beautiful and lovely as a person to endure such nonsense! You deserve a king to match the queen that you are!❤️❤️
I can't imagine actually looking for someone to date online - much less meeting them in person. I'm pretty dang old (75) - so I guess that's it, Julie. I think you're incredibly courageous to have gotten that far - and SO GLAD you walked away pronto. Wonder how we managed to meet people before internet...work, school, friends, events? Its simply another way to meet people, but just seems creepy to me. One thing I've learned ? you NEVER truly know who people really are. Stay safe, Starchild! We love you❤
Yikes! You are too much fun for online dating-maybe get involved in an activity you like. I met my husband playing softball for the company I worked for. ❤
Bonnie - At 67 I 100% understand, but I found my someone online and I couldn't be happier for 15 years now. So, it CAN work out. ❤️
Bonnie you need to get a tinder
The internet is a great tool. But I do wonder whether it has made people impatient and intolerant of each other. I think online dating has encouraged a throw away attitude. If the person they meet is not PERFECT in all ways at the very first moment of meeting - then its off on to the next one. There are stories of lots of people who didn't hit it off at first but later became great friends or partners. I think both people did their part to bring this down. I think a lot of miss understandings too place Here.
@@DianaJG8 its nothing to do with meeting online. Its people's attitudes to each other. I'm sure he didn't do much to help, but she sounds like someone who gets angry fast if she thinks someone is being rude.
Oh. My. Hell.....That is SO weird on so many levels 😳
You are amazing.
I'm glad you got outta there safely! Whew!
Lol! Thanks for sharing. Glad you dodged that bullet and that you’re safe. Watch your back for a while in case he stalks you.😬
Julie, You already know this, do not see this man again. If he texts you more and asks to meet again, gives you reasons for his behavior, but how he feels there is a special connection, etc and yada, yada - just block him.
Well, if you're ever in Colorado... Good food, good conversation, good time - guaranteed!🥰
Sounds like you escaped with your life right there! Love, love, love your content ❤️ ❤️❤️❤️
Haha. Men dammit. Lol. Sounds like he's going to ask to try again lol
I'd say it was a good thing you wore that dress. It's nice to know you're dealing with crazy right away! Stay safe out there!
Wow, DC, what great insight. Never thought of that.
Wow! This sounds like something you’d see on a movie! Equally as uncomfortable as the scene in Bridesmaids when Kristin Wigg’s character goes on a blind date. (She sits with his weird kid waiting on him to get off of the phone as she overhears him talking crap about her to his ex…after his kid eats a few of her birth control pills…ends up excusing herself) Like your date, total nightmare! I find it absolutely weird that he recalled the photo of you in the same dress. He was “social media stalking” each of your photos! You dodged a bullet, thank goodness! 😂
RUN, JULIE, RUN!! glad you're safe 😊
Ms. Julie, you are an extraordinary human being. That male is a disordered zero. I'm sorry you experienced a toxic weirdo. There is a wonderful person out there for you !
Thanks for sharing this. Sorry he was such a jerk! You are fortunate to have got the Hell outa there! Had some horrible experiences like this in the past and one turned into a narcissistic abusive relationship that almost took my life! Not being dramatic. You are lovely and the right person will come to you soon.:) Thanks for all of your informative videos. I am a holistic practitioner, medium and death doula for people and animals. It is so important for people to not be afraid of passing and your videos are so great! Keep up the amazing work! Blessings! xo
Wow you sound like a very interesting person what with the line of work that you are in.....dont people have doulas for when they are having babies as well....what does a death doula do.....might take a look in you tube to see if there are any videos. :)
@@tashalennox4398 Hi yes there are birthing doulas...I provide spiritual support ,offer therapies like REIKI to the family and person who is passing. I work with the hospice doctors and nurses to provide all that they need to have a dignified passing and transition. I think the videos Julie does are so informative and helpful to people to understand more and to perhaps not be afraid of death and the entire process.
Something to consider: Immediately becoming fixated on the appearance of a dress from a photograph-- this is behavior that definitely diverges from what we typically view as "normal." Not to medicalize this guy's strange thought processes, but... he could legitimately be operating in a compulsive kind of way that he himself is not fully aware of. I find the "I don't blame you" message interesting. Could indicate that he is starting to become aware of the bad vibes he puts out
Meeting potential romantic partners online is a minefield. I'm middle-aged and widowed a year ago, not ready to get back out there yet, but I don't think I would go back to the hassle of online dating. The best ways to meet people are through mutually shared experiences or activities. I love Meetup for that. Hiking groups, dinner clubs, museum groups, I've met some great friends that way. It can also lead to romance, but the focus is just on having fun and communing with people. It's a more natural way of sizing people up, seeing if there is chemistry. Wishing you luck 💕
You're not only a pretty angel but a wise one. I'm so glad you wore the dress that triggered his true self. Not a coincidence! You're loved.
Well, always wonderful that it all became transparent right off. At least you wasted just a small amount of time. Love that you stood your ground and stood up for yourself. 👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗
This is bizarre. What a huge loss for this fellow. Beware of this person. Glad you followed your gut and ended the date. We all love you.
Oh, sis, I’m so glad you walked out!
AWKWARD! I'm glad you respected yourself and left. It's brutal out there. I did meet my husband online. But part of the process was crawling through the weeds! Stay safe!
Omg well done! Crazy people are out there plenty. Warm regards from Sweden 😊
So glad you got out of there!! You are a beautiful example of how we need to honor ourselves!
I am so glad you shared!! I have been on some ridiculous “ dates”. The kind that shock you. Keep sharing!
Well done Julie, some people are just beyond understanding!
Girlfriend, you handled yourself admirably. People can be so strange. You have to be so careful, and dating is overrated. I’m a straight woman and I don’t particularly care for men and the way that they think and behave. It was his loss, let’s just put it that way. Don’t worry; live your life; be happy; you do great work; and the right person will come along at the right time; probably when you least expect it.🙂
This guy sounds like a total narcissist. You must beware of people like this. If he starts to love bomb you RUNNNNN for the hills!
You know exactly who you are. Since getting sober you will have become more confident, reflective, self possessed AND you can spot a nutter from a mile away! The one thing I learned when I got sober 16 years ago was to trust my gut. This guy set off your red flags, believe that! I am a caretaker personality, never wanting to hurt other people this caused me no end of trouble. Julie, you are innately caring and compassionate and you know your boundaries…that’s kind of rare. You will find someone….and they will be VERY lucky to have been found! ❤🎉🤗🙋🏼♀️🇨🇦🕊💖☃️🤷🏼♀️ sending love, light and a hug! You have given me so much comfort. Thank you lady! 💖
Thank you for sharing your story. It's so important for people to know you can get up, and walk away when those red flags are flying in the air right away. Don't wait!! You are lovely and amazing.
I hope you said “Yes. We can not talk for a lot longer than that” when you walked out!!
The Universe unfolds exactly as it should... from Max Ehrmann'a Desiderata. I HAD a trusted therapist who sometimes nods off to sleep during our session. At first I felt slighted; then a moment later I found it funny. THX 4 sharing your experience. Perhaps he just was too distracted by the dress because he wanted to wear it..... ; P I would send him swatch of similar material and the address of a local dressmaker!
Scary girl...and he's very self absorbed it seemed lol! So dang proud of you to choose to end it!
When he commented on your dress you should have just very sweetly said”But it’s the only one I own. That’s why I’m looking for a man who will support me and my six kids and four dogs” eye flutter. Then watch him run for the door😂😂
WOW! Just wow! Some people really need a few pointers before going out to a date; let alone some professional consultation… glad that you managed him out so humanly and professionally. Great job!
I must admit, that makes me feel better. I've definitely been on similar first dates. I thought maybe I'm ugly or something but you are so beautiful so maybe I'm ok😂
You are beautiful too, Valerie.
@@rogerherbst6978 thank you so much
Hey Julie..I love that you are strong and confident Good that he showed his true nature early! There are idiots everywhere who often don't reveal themselves until its too late. You are gorgeous and deserve so much better. He should have concentrated on the content of the dress. We cant all afford new clothes just for a date! Onward and upward! :o) xx
You did the right thing. There were so many red flags with that guy.
Nothing better than a woman who knows her self worth and has high standards!
You go girl! Better things are right around the corner!
Good for you!
He was evil!! You dodged a bullet!
That guy was messed up …! So you wore your favourite dress … what the hell! (And you look adorable, BTW!) You dodged a bullet, Julie … good call. Proud of you girl. 😘❤️🇨🇦
You are awesome !! Great story ❤👍🏻
Wow, that's so weird!! 😅 I'm not as confident as you, so I would have been VERY uncomfortable lol. Wish you a better date next time, you look very pretty in that dress! 😊
Oh man, that was crazy. It's sad what people go through these day with dating.
My daughter who is around your age goes through the same stuff.
You deserve better, glad you stopped it before it could get worst.
Thank you for the laugh! Good for you for walking out. Beautiful dress by the way.
ditto
Omg, that IS awful & I'm sorry you experienced that! Weirdos are one reason I do not online date. Granted, you can meet weirdos in real life, but my experience has been more so online. So I just do not use online platforms as my way.
Good for you, follow your instincts ladies. Sorry you had to go through this and thank you for sharing this with us.
He was strange, out of sorts by your dress.. Smart , beautiful, confident women 👌 you scared him silly!
Thanks for sharing the way to politely get away safely.
I really like your videos.
Thank you for sharing a bit of your life.
I'm on the dating scene also and have had so many bizarre dates that I could write a book. This gave me a good laugh with you. Sorry you had to leave home for that
Be grateful he showed you exactly who he is from the start. Some people hide their true selves until much later.
Onward and upward Julie! 😁
I am so glad you got out of that situation as fast as you could. That was sort of scary.
Oh, girl. You've dodged a bullet there. Do not engage! If you engage at this point, he'll know he's got ya. Stay safe! Having your own hard-earned self-respect is what matters most 💜
I follow up,you treat us your audience great,love how you dealt with the situation,I’m in bed smiling 🙂
Good for you for knowing your own worth and leaving. You're strong, smart, and beautiful and you don't put up with BS. That's the full package, for someone who isn't intimidated by strong, sassy women.
OMG! What a night. You sure don’t need anyone like that! It sounds like he’s not used to a strong woman. He did t know how to act!
Oh Julie, I have had similar experience, I'm 54 and last time I went on an Internet date was 7yrs ago. Terrible narcissist I'd met and put me off for ever. Happier on my own now. I think it's dangerous too. Take care 🌹
I would have been nervous to ride down an elevator with this guy. What strange and awkward behavior! I met a guy once on a dating app and he was so nice and charming and handsome and I had a lot going on in my life at the time and so I had to postpone meeting him for quite a few weeks and he actually turned vicious and hostile because I wouldn't make a date with him. I really dodged a bullet, and it sounds like you did too.❤️
Oh my gosh RUNNNNNNN! Julie, you are gorgeous inside and out and that guy is a total creeper. Please be very careful, as I know you are, with online dating or even a blind date. These days, we can't be too careful. You handled the situation perfectly as was obvious by His shock. Bet, he's had a lot of dates that were unsettling for those poor women who he took advantage of their kindness. You keep wearing that dress too, girl. You are lovely! Stay safe and wishing you many blessesings.
Thank God you have real self-confidence. You dodged a narcissist!!!!
Run...That interaction was a "gift" from your GUIDES. You have seen the "authentic" him. About your dress...you are beautiful, no matter what you wear. Your love and kindness for others shines brightly through. He's just not for you.
I think you should go out on a date with me. If it works out, it's great for both of us. If it doesn't, I will get to hear about what a horrible date I am in one of your videos and we can both have a laugh :)
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Hey Ken, if you were fortunate enough for a date with Julie (which your snarky asinine comment clearly disqualifies you), and you obsessed about apparel and acted like a Dick, then maybe you should be mentioned in her video. But, this is outing you enough right here on a public forum...
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Get in line mister 😂😂😂 i am number 32.098 but she is wurth waiting for❤️🙏
Lol. Shoot your shot, friend. Good luck.
Narcs are horrible , never give away your energy and power babe ! You look amazing with that divine smile, and got a heart of gold , your the best ❤️❤️ 🙏
Julie.. you need to go on blind dates? Seriously? You're so amazing that I'm surprised you haven't been snatched away by someone already.
From Canada: Hey! I'm 90 years old this year. If I was 50 years younger I would definitely try to get to know Nurse Julie. She is a beautiful person and I wish her well. Glad you got out of that situation. Good job.
@@billfarley9167 Go for it ☝️ give it a try sir !
Dear Nurse, and a good one too, there are a lot of strange people out there, and we all bump into them. What a brilliant move on your part just to go. So pleased you are happy and confident within yourself. He was seriously strange Julie, so glad he's gone.
Aaaand that's why I hate dating
Haven’t had to worry about that for almost 35 years. My wife? Our first date was to Church. SECOND DATE was to the shooting range. 34+ years of bliss. I pray everyday for the Lord to take me first. She’ll thrive without me. My life would be a living HELL without her.
@@ExSoldier762 You're a poet. I'm sure she chose well. And so did you.
I feel like you just described the last dozen dates I went on before I stopped dating altogether 3 years ago! Who needs it!
Way to set boundaries Honey!! You slay!!
Pretty much the actions of a narcissist. Glad you walked away from that one.
lmao what was his obsession with you wearing the same dress? That’s so strange. It sounds like he said it as if the problem is self-evident, which is even weirder!
Yessssss beautiful! Owning your worth! Never settle! Well done!!! Thanks for sharing! This is gonna help a lot of people to stand up for themselves! I'm loving who you are!!! ♥️
You should have set up a 2nd date…and worn the same dress.
That's too funny. And then a third one.
Girl, ain't nobody gotta put up with that. Good for you for cutting it short and getting out of there. 👍👍👍
😂 I thought you handled that superlatively 😂