Talking about friends, I do have some friends that I am actually reconsidering if they are necessary. I do enjoy the time I spend with them but I am starting to doubt if they are really who I should be spending/wasting my time with. If it turns out that they are not bringing anything to the table, I am not sure how I can break it to them that "this is the end".
Thanks Dorian, I'm almost 34 and I'm on the same road.. came from a single family home and poor. Thanks for the motivation! Could you do a video on IBMs apprenticeship program, do you know anything about it?
Crack... simple speech but fills of inspiration. I'm on your Discord channel and we briefly moving around to this topic, but it's good to hear it again.
You can achive alot in just 4 years, if you are in your 20s, 30s 40s or even 50s. I found a good job, bought a nice house, found a wife and now expecting a child. Never give up!!
I loved how you worded that, “money, solves a lot of problems.” I hate that saying “money doesn’t buy happiness,” but you know what it does buy, less problems or not having to worry about making ends meet, and that equals happiness to some of us! If you ever grew up poor or struggled you know money buys you less worry, less stress. Only people with a lot of money say it doesn’t buy happiness because they don’t even know what makes them happy, so of course it wouldn’t work for them. Those of us who grew up without it however…
Happiness has a value and most people stay ignorant about it especially in this capitalistic society we all live in now. You and I know it has a dollar value. But I have to disagree that only rich say money doesn't buy happiness. It also goes for the poor as well, some will be happy being poor, but in general as those who say it use it to cope with their situation. I have heard it over the years from various people of different financial backgrounds: 'if only I had this much, I just need this much to retire, I want to not have to worry, I don't need much money'. The most recent one was exactly the opposite thinking, 'more money more worries'. But I understood why his mentality is like that. He heard enough stories of families torn apart because of money, he himself experiencing it. Still even with those experiences, as a person outside looking in, I know he would be happier with a few thousand readily available.
Exactly. It’s one of the many hypocrisies of this society. Something people say to make themselves feel better. “mOnEY dOeSnT BuY hApPinEsS” ….but yet everyone and their mother is crying about the wealth gap and the cost of living. How many rich people commit suicide compared to the poor? The difference is like night and day.
Money gives you *freedom* - both kinds of it: 1. The freedom _to_ do good things - options or choices that most of us don't have, e.g. holidays and home-ownership and enjoyable careers. 2. The freedom _from_ bad things - health insurance and emergency funds and bailouts from rich family if anything goes wrong; infinite second-chances. Rich people have the freedom to choose to be happy and get therapy or less stressful jobs. Many don't, but it's still better than not having that freedom in the first place.
I'm kind of the opposite. I was a great kid in school, joined the Army at 18, had my Bachelor's degree by 24. Had 2 career jobs that paid well. Then I hit 30 and now at 32 I'm in the worst place I've ever been in in life and feel like quite the loser. Trying to turn it back around, but it hasn't been easy. This year was first time I ever had a negative bank balance and first time I ever went two consecutive months without employment. Reflecting and watching this video, I realize I stopped doing a lot of the things I really focused on and pushed for before. I got complacent and kind of gave up for a couple years, just existing and not living. Spending more than I needed to as well. But I used to be so good at adulting when I was younger. :| Need to get back
If only it was that easy to find a 'good partner'. I'm 33 and just about to buy my first place on my own literally next week. As much as I'd love a good partner, nobody should wait around for one. These things can be achieved alone.
I'm 35 now, my 20's were a complete waste, from blowing up a good job in banking I had back there it just went downhill all the way to rehab for cocaine adiction. I lost everything, the little shit I got left I got together 3 years ago and started learning to code by myself, just relentlessly grinding and learning non stop til this day. I was hired last january to a Senior Fullstack Developer role, the pay was so good that I could leave Brazil and lots of those bad memories that still haunted me. Now I'm living in Canada, still working remotly for this Brazilian company and trying to land a job here in Canada. So YES, everyday is a new day to get your shit together, a thousand mile journey begins where one stands, so don't give up guys!
I had suicidal pangs due to depression and that's when quit my last job at the age of 35 and since then - for a year now - I have been freelancing on things like content writing and subtitling in English and German (as I cleared my intermediate certification recently). I had decided I won't go back to the BPO jobs I was into. While freelancing I started consuming more and more content on things like Content Marketing and Coding. That's when Python happened to me. At 36, I am doing a Python Bootcamp and also learning things on Blockchain. From being in total shit at 35 to being someone and with childlike curiosity at 36, I have learned one important life lesson - IT IS NEVER TOO LATE And THIS is precisely why I can relate to you and your channel a lot man. Great going!
Hell yeah! Keep going! You got this! It is never too late. We’re all a speck of dirt in this vast universe living inside a small blue dot 🌍 spinning thousands and thousands of miles per hour. It is truly never too late for anything!!!
This video came at perfect timing. Thanks for sharing I can relate especially with sacrificing good relationships as collateral damage while learning to code and distancing from bad relationships
Your not alone, first thing first Your health. Get rid of your addictions, get rid of your problems. The things holding you back, mine was video games, food, and depression. It's been 6 months since I've touched a video game, I am now eating clean, I've gotten real about me ever holding a degree It's not in the cards. Man I'm trying to turn this around. I really am.
Dude I love that you're reaching out to other guys who struggle. I was a goddamn TWEAKER. Needles and everything. Homeless. Pushing the cart. No lie. Whacked out of my mind. 15 years later, I work in a cardiac cath lab, making just about 6 figures or close to it, depending on how much extra I work. I'm saving to buy properties and I'm on my way to financial freedom with a plan. Change is slow and sometimes unnoticeable. It comes with SETBACKS. But guys, it comes. It happens. All you have to do is start with something small and build on that success. You're better than you think, guys
Thank you so much Dorian, I'm 31 now and I'm learning JavaScript, HTML, CSS and after that React because I want to be frontend developer and this kind of videos help me a lot to never give up and just keep on coding one day I'm going to achieve my goal to be Freelance, thanks a lot bro!!
I really like the way you approach to the problem, in a world where everybody is a winner in social media, seeing a person that can say "I'm a loser and I got a job and got to be successful" Is something that is really inspiring. Thanks.
well said. I've been learning how to code for 5 years now on the side and I just recently got a job. Battling with how to handle relationships because I love hanging out with friends but I know I should focus on this career if I want to get better. and some relationships have to be sacrificed for a better future even if they are healthy ones.
Great video. What I can add from my own experience is: even if it is a hustle job take the key skills from it and develop them further (customer service, sales, etc); have a mentor (even if it imaginary or public person whose' skills you wish to attain); develop skills for life which can help you find a job even if the pension age goes up again or war breaks out. There are more, but that will be a longer discussion I guess. :)
I tend to feel like I wasted my life, and I'm only 20 years old. I've been trying to get my life together slowly but surely. I love watching videos like these. I also stopped playin videogames. I just felt guilty playing games when I havent achieved anything meaningful yet. Hopefully when I become a software engineer, that achievement will make gaming actually fun again.
I personally play videogames to spend time with my friends, It's not about achieving something while playing it's about having fun. Just like any hobbie
Same. I have to sacrifice the time of playing game for learning to coding. Coding is pretty fun so it not hard to break my gaming addiction but it still won't give the same amount of dopamine as gaming so I need to be disciplined.
You’re only starting, believe me! Also about that guilt, it can develop into imposter syndrome but this is something very common. Life as an engineer can become very burnout so having outlets to release the stress and enjoy life are very important, look at video games that way. Sure, maybe putting 16 hours every weekend on a game might be a little excessive but hey, if it releases the stress then it’s important! Just remember to have fun, always :)
Hey Dorian, really appreciate the authentic and helpful content you're putting out there man. I'm turning 30 this year and sometimes feel like I've wasted a large portion of my life, but for opposite reasons (always doing what I'm supposed to do, rarely what I feel a calling to do). I quit my job last year and am learning finally learning to code, but it's hard not to let the comparison game get me down sometimes. I often find your videos to be a good cure for that toxic 'comparing' mindset. Keep doing what you're doing man, there are people out there that really benefit from your story and perspective.
@@lucasalmeida-fx9lb cara, consegui um emprego numa area legal, ja pedi demissao e ja to empregado dnv. Recomeçando a vida dps dos 30 e dando tudo certo. Valeu por perguntar
I definitely feel this I'm completely different from who I was in my mid 20's and younger. I'm almost 30 now and I just wanna kick myself for how much time I've wasted on video games, relationships and partying my whole life. Hate thinking where I could be right now if I knew back then what I know now.
Just read this comment and I’m in the same boat. 29 and nothing to show for it. I too am kicking myself whilst friends and people I know have bought houses, have many qualifications, good careers like teaching and psychology. I’m over here like what on earth am I doing lol.
bro I feel this. I’m 23 and finally accepting that I may have to do some things I never wanted to do in order to overcome poverty. no shame to anyone still trying to figure this thing out. take that job that pushes you out of your comfort zone, save that extra cash. lots of us are in the same boat
man bro I'm trying to get my shit together now and seems like every time I need some words of wisdom you drop the perfect video that motivates me to keep learning and keep pushing.
The important thing for me, besides all you said in this amazing video, is to get to know yourself better and don't punish yourself when you fail, recognise your patterns and try to improve the situation, one step at the time. If your direction and mentality is right you'll get where you want to be.
Your videos have been a huge source of inspiration to me lately. I'm 33 and even though I haven't messed up as much as you did - in terms of drugs or going to jail - I also feel like my 20's were a total waste of life! I was trying, but from a more experienced perspertive, now I see that I absolutelly wasn't trying hard enough. Not even close to it. To find motivation to start over after more than 10 years doing basically nothing to improve is reeeeally hard. The feeling is (or at least was) that there was no way that there was still any perspective for me in this life. And now I've been studying code everyday as I was gonna die tomorrow. Something I should've already started doing many years ago, considering I'm enjoying it so much. I'm really grateful that you choose to share not only the perks, but also all of the shit you've been through and how you managed to overcome all of that. Thank you!
Thanks Dorian🙏🏼 I’m at a stand still in my life at 24 and I have some goals. Often times I do feel like a dependent loser. This helped tons. Thank you, seriously.
I'm also 24 and slowly trying to get my life back together. Living with parents that have had serious health problems, falling behind on previous goals, working low-wage dead end jobs, and struggling with mental problems really hits hard. I think life is defined by hardships, trials, and disappointments. How can one learn and improve and be a better version of oneself, if everything works out, without any difficulties?
“And you’ve gotta have a good work ethic and show up every day. And hustle, you’ve gotta hustle. You’ve gotta put in the work. That’s just how the world is. I don’t care what anyone else says, and if you don’t wanna do it then you reap what you sow…” Incredibly well said and true.
Damn i am going thru your pre success story. I have no social life its all about hustle and steps. In a year I'll be done with graduate school and I am hoping to see this change. My 3 jobs are getting me by without too much bills loans. I basically feel like right now I don't exist outside of my school or home.
I found you by accident,but I stayed because I'm at the stage that you were at. And I really love what you had to say. Nearly all the improvement videos on UA-cam exclude 30 YO as if life is over at that age. I really appreciate you making this. Thank you.
I took care of someone for 5 years. Brain Cancer, cocaince addiction, a year in jail, and a year in parole. And then they left, and the took EVERYTHING. Now im broke, literall 0.38 cents to my name for the past month. only 7 changes of clothes. With just my computer as my only valuable. I dont even have a phone. im starting from scratch, and i need videos like these. I have no direction, i lost my purpose for waking each day, and now i feel like im scrapping the sand to figure where to go. I've been working the hardest i ever have, for years. its just things that arent getting me money, but personal growth. but man i need to find my way soon, because personal skills/development doesn't fill the stomach
@@alorgb7440 Felt like they needed me and if i left they wouldnt of survived. Guilt mainly, but also feeling like i also had no where to go. and in those kinda situations, you hope it gets better, that the person you first met will come back and be the real them. But they usually dont get better.
@@Stevenwinrar Damn, your comment makes me have a Trust issues...... Anyway, I hope you may find the light at the end of the tunnel. I believe you can do it.
Thank you Dorian I just recently stumbled upon your channel and just wanted to say your videos have been inspirational and motivating for me. I spent my 20’s just partying playing video games had a lot of odd jobs while wanting to do something with my life but lacked the motivation to do anything. Now that I’m 31 I FINALLY have the motivation to get into coding and turn my life around I want to be able to look back 10 years from now and say I’m glad I did this
Just wanted to say your channel is a goldmine for people who are trying to change their life especially if your in the beginning throws of learning code. Thanks for sharing your life.
Im 30. Dropped out in 9th. Ive been studying JS for a month now and it all seems intuitive. Ive fully immersed myself in it. Gone are the days where i watch vids on whatever game i was playing. Now its tutorials, concepts and goals to work on to eventually get a job as a web developer. My biggest fear is the over saturation from all the people who want to do it too. I live in Arizona. Huge city. Tons of job postings. I understand it may take several months to land a real interview, but i still worry theres too many people and not enough jobs to go around. Please reassure me lol. Is web development, or ANY development with javascript still a viable career path? Not necessarily easy to get into but not impossible?
I dropped out at 9th grade also. Learned to code at 32. That was 5 years ago and even then I would hear the "over saturation" problem all the time but the truth is there's still a ton of jobs out there. Learn your stuff, build your projects, build your portfolio, network and apply before you feel ready. If you're focused you can do it!
"oversaturation" does not account for your potential and the amount of work that you're willing to put in. Most people who begin this journey will probably give up along the way. You can choose to keep going. You can dedicate yourself to making good projects, working on your portfolio etc.. You're assuming that it's purely a numbers game and it's not. There are a lot of intangibles that you can use in your favor.
I think the most important think is to understand that no matter how "over saturated" a job is not a problem, in fact i think its an advantage, if you can show to a pottential employee that you outperform the rest of juniors, you will get a job
I'm hearing about oversaturation since I was 17 years old, and I'm 27 right now. In the tech market the things evolves too fast, a bunch of new technologies comes out every year. And with new technologies, comes out new job roles and opportunities.
@@DorianDevelops Since you dropped out of high school, did you ever go back and complete it, or get a GED? And at this point, is it necessary for you to have it to have a successful career?
seeing guys like this gives me a lot of inspiration. right now im without a job, thinking about changing careers after my doctorates and sometimes i think i have no hope in my future, then you find this video, and you start thinking again and maybe I will make a change.
Amen, preach it Brother! It's not gonna come to you, you have to go get it! You also hit the nail on the head, don't hang around toxic people, and surround yourself with people who are also trying to better themselves!
100% man! That's why you're one of the few people I still talk to now bro! I know I'm not always the best at keeping in touch. You may not know it but you really helped me find my way back when we first started hanging out way back in the days! Even though I was kind of a douche back then 😅 You had a big impact on me and I always looked up to you as like an older brother!
I'm 35 and while certain things like my career and housing are concrete, everything else is missing. Family and partner are non-existent. Friends all moved away or cut me out of their life. And some half baked hobbies that just act as money pits. Started an online business for side hustle too. Everything is so unfulfilled.
I’m 32 in my self taught journey I picked data science honestly watching your videos is truly inspiring I swear it’s like we were one in the same growing up but this was the best decision I decided to make thanks man keep ‘em up 💯
Oh, it definitely helps. I'm tempted to go into a full "tell my entire life story" mode, but it's probably not the best idea right now. I just wanted to let you know that this video REALLY matters, thank you very much, peace.
Great video. I feel like I have been through a similar process. I am currently 28 and about to buy my first property (mortgage) and have a decent job in data science all because a few years back I decided I had enough, basically wasting my time on meaningless pursuits and i wanted to go for what I really wanted in life. Even after just a couple of years hard focused graft things have changed greatly and for the better. Totally agree it's all an internal change of your own mindset to create the kind of world/life that you want to live in. Looking forward to what the next 10 years will bring, like where you are now. Thanks for the video and sharing bro
Thank you man soo much, i was stuck in youtube and videogames loop that i couldn't star coding, so thank you so much for that man. Now im back in track!
I really don't know how to put my thoughts into words together but I just wanted to say thank you for your down to earth life advice. With a lot of patience and a lot of hard work there isn't anything you can't achieve. Wish all of you get the strength you need to reach your life goals and dreams.
I had everything back then when i mean i had everything literally i had everything but lost it all i mean lost it all again due to my reckless lofe style,felt like giving up only this year i almost took my life 4 times couldn't live with thw pressure and shame but of a sudden i felt inner strength amd decided to try one more how i came about this channel cause i really want to try one last time amd thanks for this rwad through alot of comments and they helped too guess i wasnt alone all along
Thank you so much, you have given me so much hope. I know now because of you and your videos codeing is not for me. I am an outside guy, i cant sit in front of a comouter for hours even if its fun.You have given me a push to start my own thing.
Very inspirational, I'm 38 now and been working to fix my life for the past 4 years Thanks for the encouragement your helping a lot of people keep it up[
I am grateful to have come across your videos on personal development- I am 31 years old right now, but your videos offer alot of hope and insight on how I can avoid making mistakes in my 30s and how I can make my 30s even better than my 20s!!
hey man just wanted to say super inspirational. i feel that as a 18 year old like myself. most people feel like there stuck, and everyone keeps telling them to take that first step. but never give them the guidance or maybe even the first shove to get moving. my brother is 20 and is thinking about dropping out of college after taking double the normal classes. (yes, double lol) but i feel as though i have nothing to show him on how to make it in this world. my single parent owns her own company but like i said. she just keeps telling him and I to get a move on or get some shit going but we feel quite clueless. i hope i can use some of this info on my coding/programming journey. i have alot of coding connections so far but I know it wont go far unless i have the effort to show for it. much love mate.
First minute sounds a lot to me 😄Now im 30, finishing university, starting to get things done, no more parties... hope it takes some similiar turn as you did
I'm glad I found your channel. You put a lot of energy into your videos and it shows. I can relate to the content in this video because I also spent my 20's and some of my 30's just drifting around (recently turned 37). However, I don't agree with the perspective of "making up for lost time" which you expressed in another video. Everyone is on their own journey in life and we all have different starting points. Some of us need to be adrift for a while in order to figure out our place in the world. You wouldn't be who you are today if you hadn't had the experiences that you've had. Maybe if you had spent your 20's just grinding, you would've crashed in your 30's and overcompensated by getting into drugs, alcohol or gambling later in life. Who knows.
This is what people need to understand about their journey in life. The past is what makes the present person. I'm pretty sure someone thought of that quote already. But that's how I live, make the decisions and prepare for the ride.
@@frog6054 30s is not the end of the road, my boy. But if you start now, you can have your life in order within a few years. Of course you won't figure everything out, life is a journey. But the best you can do is work on overcoming your vices and building your life on a solid foundation of strong principles and a good character. I'm not a "loser" by any stretch of the imagination, I have a law degree and I work for myself. It's about more than just money and education for me though, which is why I'm not fully satisfied with my life.
I am sure everyone who has ever met you is EXTREMELY PROUD of you!!!! Being able to look honestly in a mirror and seeing a better path no matter the current or past situation makes you a super hero!!!!!!! I am sure you life will met with ever continued success. You understand intimately, hard work can solve all and it can. It one really wants to move Mount Everest with spoon, they can, if they really want to. While you have an incredible message about hard work, I think the even more powerful message you are pushing but not being specific about it is, "the way you do anything is the way you do everything." Meaning, you need to expect more of your self and others and work toward those goals at the same time no matter what job you have do the absolute best you can do at it, people do notice.....
My life can't get any worst, it's like starting from rock bottom, from the very beginning for me and I'm 41 years old. But seeing your videos has inspired me to start all over again and learn to code, I know it's going to be really hard but there nothing absolutely nothing in my case to lose.
@@TheFirstOnlyRealUltra please don't say this, there's literally complete dumbasses that can do web development, you don't need to be a genius I promise. I myself am looking for work as a waiter while I learn coding on the side
Hi Dorian, i appriciate your content a lot. It does help me out immensely as somone who is close to 30 and wasted life on drinks, smokes, drugs and video games. It feels great to relate to someone who got there already.
Thank you for making this video! Im relating to everything from rough childhood to drugs to hustling for tips in a club , and now Im 27 ready to move into a more professional setting. I did manage to receive my bachelors degree in health science but my gpa isn't good enough to get into grad school and the jobs I can get are low pay. I want to learn a new skill that actually pays well and im thinking about coding.
Dorian, I just want to say thanks. I'm learning a lot from you and hearing it from someone who made it out of a tough situation makes me feel more confident that I can also be successful one day. I hope you continue uploading this kind of content as it boosts my morale (I think the others as well). Have a great day!
Thank you for posting this video. You are 10 years older than me and you sound exactly like I am right now today, I’m going to follow your advice and hopefully in 10 years I’ll be able to look back at today a completely changed man.
The funny thing is that 85% of the general pubic (and that’s me being generous) are stupid, incompetent, and just plain lazy. So when normal people who didn’t bother at the beginning of their lives start doing stuff working, saving up, getting new Job skills in their mid 30’s it is more than Doable. Because the bar has been set soooo Low by the General Public that being, Able bodied, having basic understanding for Reading and Comprehension. Memorization. And the willingness to do the Jobs no one else wants to will put you well above that bar that has been set by society, and Employers will see that.
Loving your channel! I am a Brazilian that lives in U.S and just finished my marketing degree and decided to change the whole path and go to programming.
It's really cool that you've done all that you have & do all that you do, on top of what you already do for work, AND THEN also make videos for UA-cam that are actually really good quality. I don't think I could ever be that focused & determined & driven. It's really impressive. I just always been afraid to focus on anything because I don't want to lose my wider sense of things. Like, I've never done anything in particular because I've always wanted to do like... everything. Now I'm 31 going on 32 in 7 months and I have absolutely nothing to show for it. It's really defeating. Really defeating. I'm so swamped & behind on rent & bills right now. It's disgusting. Working dead end jobs, doing 60 to over 80 hours some weeks just to stay busy & have enough money to not worry about paying my bills or rent at the end of every week or month. It just gets so aggravating some times though. I've lost my cool a few times & knocked what little tower I had built down working such long hours and then found myself in a hole that I then had to dig myself back out of. This video & the shorter version came really close to really connecting with where I'm at & what I've gone through. I had a dual parent household, but I think I would have been better off in a single parent household and... so many other things. I never did anything bad but never really did much of anything at all beside trying to stay busy & not think about things. I never really had any body who cared & didn't really have the patience or see the point in putting a lot of time & money & effort into trying to go to school after high school because I didn't want to have to live at home so that I could afford to go to school while only working one job in order to be able to have the tike TO go to school. I don't know how I expected that to work out in the long run. I didn't really think about it. I guess I figured that so long as things were withstandable now, than they should be later. I never kept very high standards & never wanted to much either, and couldn't have afforded it anyway, so I didn't really mind or feel like I was missing out on too much. Well, let me tell you, ten or twelve years down the line here now I don't think I could be ANYMORE frustrated or bored or unfulfilled or disappointed than I am with myself & life than I am right now. But, like the sayings go, we often don't see how things could get any better when things seem good, but things can always be worse, no matter how bad they seem. That's not the perspective I want to have or keep, but those are phrases you often hear. I just feel so lost, man. I grew up in the middle of nowhere without even a little town & never had a lot of friends & so hustling of any kind wasn't really a thing I grew up around. I'm going to put in a few more applications today, but they're all for more dead-end jobs. Production & warehousing. Stuff I can hopefully do a bunch of overtime at & dig myself back out of this new hole I've dug myself into. I want to go at it with a different mentality now though. Like, I need to get out of this hole, but after that I really do need to put my money into things to make my self & life better. Things that are worth it & provide a little worth & value back. I can't tell you how much I hope that I can turn things around for myself in the next few years. The sooner the better. I would REALLY like to be making 100k sometime no later than between my 35 & 36th birthday. I'm a hard & smart worker who likes to do the best job that I can. It's just been one thing after another in life, man. It really isn't fair. I mean, some people are lazy or have bad intentions & don't deserve anything in my opinion, while then you have other who work hard & have good intentions but the world doesn't really help them if it doesn't also bury them in setbacks & obstacles. I'd like to do something like a skilled craft or trade, but I would also like to do something to help the world & people in general, like go to school for economics & sociology and/or psychology. Maybe even politics or policy making. The world is so screwed up & I often think the answers seem so simple. It's a mad, mad world. The good die young, man. The good die young. Thanks for this video & the shorter version. It felt personal & honest & really kind of helped. Fingers crossed. I wish a good life were as easy to have as cracking open the right fortune cookie. If all life were like that we would probably take it for granted. After a life without it, though, let me tell you, I'm pretty sure I would appreciate it now. Not having earned it, though, I would probably only end up ruining that life & ending right back where I currently find myself anyway, like I feel poor people who win big lotteries probably would or do. Most schooling, especially college, seems like just such a waste though. Semester style school years waste so much time & then they pack your course load with so many "fluff" classes that have nothing to do with your degree major or minor it just seems like such a waste of time & money & attention & effort. It's really, really frustrating & disheartening. I wish there were other options. Of course there are tech & trade schools or even apprenticeships. A lot of tech schools have bad reputations though, & trade schools & apprenticeships are by and large only for highschool kids or looking for kids freshly out of highschool. The same with colleges & universities. Like, it really should be easier for adults of any age to go back to school for anything, and it should be direct & efficient & affordable. Everyone wants to target the kids though. "Get them nice big loans they'll take half their lives to pay off. Forget anyone who didn't go to school right out of highschool." I feel we live in a rather disfunctional, crippling world. I wish I had the commitment & know-how to make my own UA-cam channel picking the world apart & talking to people about problems they have had in the world & life & other problems they feel & see in the world at large & talking about & researching why these problems exist, persist, and where they come from & what could be done about them & maybe even encouraging action to change things & taking those actions my/ourselves. The world really, really, REALLY needs to change, man. Really. Anyway, thanks for the video, man, it really hit home. Serious. Thanks for being personal & honest & open. We could use a hell of a lot more of that in the world.
I am working every day on coding and I really want to make my life better. Your videos are very valuable. They are helping me to keep my path towards my goals. Thank you so much for sharing all these thoughts!
You're my kinda youtuber! The no bs, authentic kind 👍 I'm Just starting going through all of your vids, so apologíes if you have alredy spoken about this, but if you get a chance could you maybe talk about the kinda dev job that is talked a lot, the kind that requiers insane night shifts, no outside life out of work, life sucking schedules etc, like, whats your experience or opinión on those, or Whats your day to day like? I would trust your honesty 100% more than most other ytrs 😁 you got my supoport, already subscribed 😁
You have no idea how this helped me. Im in the middle of changing my life. As a 38 year old unit dispatcher for facilities dept in a hospital, lost all my life savings / retirement due to bad investment choices. im trying to get my feet wet to become a pharmacy tech. Im in the same boat as you, following the money. Hoping from one job to another but never had the courage to learn a new skill. I have a 5 year plan. To get my pharmacy tech license, work for pharmacy, get my ITIL cert and move to clinical informatics dept. Always loved i.t. just choosing a different route. This is so inspiring to hear. I felt like youre directly speaking to me.
One of the best video out there on UA-cam. Always real, hard-hitting and relatable. Thank you Dorian! Like I've mentioned earlier, my wife showed me your video and that pushed me strongly into coding. I am 6 months into this coding journey with a full time restaurant job from 4pm to 11:30pm. Yet, I always devote minimum of 6 hours everyday to learn coding after my hectic shift. My goal is to become a Web Developer before the end of 2022. Thank you again and good luck to everyone who's aspiring to become one!
You sound so much like me. I was a terrible student in high school, skipped college went straight to work, fucked around in early 20s smoking and drinking. But I was slowly starting to cut the social life out of my life, 2020 really sped up that process. Now im 26 and im starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Chapeau bas! That’s what I wanted to hear rn. Sometimes you doubt if it’s worth hassle and work harder than anyone else around you, and then a man like you is giving you a little bit of hope;) cheers
I am more than happy to listen to your success story. You have a long life ahead of you. Your family will be your anchor to continue to live on. Not everyone can do what you did. Playing the long term game in life really can be underestimated.
Wow, don’t know how I landed here but I identify with you. Work ethic, meeting a good life partner and focusing on what’s important changed my life. I have everything I ever wanted as it was those 3 things that got me there. Cutting the bad ppl out of your life is key.
I am embarrassed. I’m 36 and a waitress. I made great money in Arizona. I was in nursing school, Covid happened, had to drop for my “personal beliefs.” I chose to move across the country and it’s a smaller city and I took a huge pay cut ($40,000 pay cut!!). Now I’m scrambling to figure out what the hell I’m going to finish school for. I don’t even drink, never been a party girl, but trauma and loss can really negatively effect someone’s life in many areas. So stressed out, but part of me is glad I’m pushing myself out of the industry. Waiting tables sucks the life out of me. I’m the only person to blame.
Thank you a lot bro ! I'm using your videos not just for learning code things but for motivation too, and I'm also learning English and your way to speak help me to get better with my listening. You're a big referent to follow, hope you keep sharing with us all your knowledge And experience in live.
"I stopped wasting my time on people, as terrible as that sounds"....terrible, I think it sounds golden. My ex of 6 years cheated (hid entire relationship on twitter, all the posts.....I don't have twotter, easy to hide), so now I'm at that point where people, girlfriends and/or friends are out of my life. Im 29 now and actively trying to find my niche. Got my degree and working in accounting the past 2 years, but like you said, at a 50k salary, and its time to earn more. I just discovered your page yesterday, and I think you're about to be my mentor counselor. Thank you
Take it from me there's time to improve your life but it might not be easy and it's probably not going to happen overnight.
Dorian, Videos like this will always be valuable and your viewers really appreciate it. (but you already know that based on you intro). 😊
Appreciate these honest videos brother, I started following you cause of the coding stuff and stayed around for these kinds of videos.
Talking about friends, I do have some friends that I am actually reconsidering if they are necessary. I do enjoy the time I spend with them but I am starting to doubt if they are really who I should be spending/wasting my time with. If it turns out that they are not bringing anything to the table, I am not sure how I can break it to them that "this is the end".
Thanks Dorian, I'm almost 34 and I'm on the same road.. came from a single family home and poor. Thanks for the motivation!
Could you do a video on IBMs apprenticeship program, do you know anything about it?
Crack... simple speech but fills of inspiration. I'm on your Discord channel and we briefly moving around to this topic, but it's good to hear it again.
You can achive alot in just 4 years, if you are in your 20s, 30s 40s or even 50s. I found a good job, bought a nice house, found a wife and now expecting a child. Never give up!!
How old are you
Ty starting at 47
Congratulations Jim and best of luck with your future endeavors 🙏🏻
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
what if im a teenager
I loved how you worded that, “money, solves a lot of problems.” I hate that saying “money doesn’t buy happiness,” but you know what it does buy, less problems or not having to worry about making ends meet, and that equals happiness to some of us! If you ever grew up poor or struggled you know money buys you less worry, less stress. Only people with a lot of money say it doesn’t buy happiness because they don’t even know what makes them happy, so of course it wouldn’t work for them. Those of us who grew up without it however…
Happiness has a value and most people stay ignorant about it especially in this capitalistic society we all live in now. You and I know it has a dollar value. But I have to disagree that only rich say money doesn't buy happiness. It also goes for the poor as well, some will be happy being poor, but in general as those who say it use it to cope with their situation.
I have heard it over the years from various people of different financial backgrounds: 'if only I had this much, I just need this much to retire, I want to not have to worry, I don't need much money'. The most recent one was exactly the opposite thinking, 'more money more worries'. But I understood why his mentality is like that. He heard enough stories of families torn apart because of money, he himself experiencing it.
Still even with those experiences, as a person outside looking in, I know he would be happier with a few thousand readily available.
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Exactly. It’s one of the many hypocrisies of this society. Something people say to make themselves feel better.
“mOnEY dOeSnT BuY hApPinEsS”
….but yet everyone and their mother is crying about the wealth gap and the cost of living. How many rich people commit suicide compared to the poor? The difference is like night and day.
While money may not bring happiness, the lack of it is sure to lead to a miserable life.
Money gives you *freedom* - both kinds of it:
1. The freedom _to_ do good things - options or choices that most of us don't have, e.g. holidays and home-ownership and enjoyable careers.
2. The freedom _from_ bad things - health insurance and emergency funds and bailouts from rich family if anything goes wrong; infinite second-chances.
Rich people have the freedom to choose to be happy and get therapy or less stressful jobs. Many don't, but it's still better than not having that freedom in the first place.
Never underestimate the power of discipline.
100%
@@DorianDevelops 💯
Does nothing, we live in society that determines what you are.
@@tbcstuff3634 F the society !
Discipline is the core power ie "will"
I'm kind of the opposite. I was a great kid in school, joined the Army at 18, had my Bachelor's degree by 24. Had 2 career jobs that paid well. Then I hit 30 and now at 32 I'm in the worst place I've ever been in in life and feel like quite the loser. Trying to turn it back around, but it hasn't been easy. This year was first time I ever had a negative bank balance and first time I ever went two consecutive months without employment.
Reflecting and watching this video, I realize I stopped doing a lot of the things I really focused on and pushed for before. I got complacent and kind of gave up for a couple years, just existing and not living. Spending more than I needed to as well. But I used to be so good at adulting when I was younger. :| Need to get back
Good luck man you can do it. It’s a marathon not a sprint !
Just keep going on. Time passes either way. DO what you HAVE to do.
wish you good luck, brother
Good Luck brother!
" A problem well stated, half solved "
Good luck
If only it was that easy to find a 'good partner'. I'm 33 and just about to buy my first place on my own literally next week. As much as I'd love a good partner, nobody should wait around for one. These things can be achieved alone.
I'm almost 60 and I'm still trying to get my life together.
heyyyy
I pray for your succes sir.
We're all on our own journey in life. It's not too late. Who knows, you might make it to 90. 30 years is a lifetime.
Daaaamn never too late brother...keep punching 👊
Too late bro, just retire and call it a day
I'm 35 now, my 20's were a complete waste, from blowing up a good job in banking I had back there it just went downhill all the way to rehab for cocaine adiction. I lost everything, the little shit I got left I got together 3 years ago and started learning to code by myself, just relentlessly grinding and learning non stop til this day. I was hired last january to a Senior Fullstack Developer role, the pay was so good that I could leave Brazil and lots of those bad memories that still haunted me. Now I'm living in Canada, still working remotly for this Brazilian company and trying to land a job here in Canada. So YES, everyday is a new day to get your shit together, a thousand mile journey begins where one stands, so don't give up guys!
proud of you man! im 36 here and need to turn shit around
@@greggreg7400 go for it man!
@@greggreg7400 can’t stop won’t stop you got this Greg! Same jut turned 30 discipline mode
I had suicidal pangs due to depression and that's when quit my last job at the age of 35 and since then - for a year now - I have been freelancing on things like content writing and subtitling in English and German (as I cleared my intermediate certification recently). I had decided I won't go back to the BPO jobs I was into. While freelancing I started consuming more and more content on things like Content Marketing and Coding. That's when Python happened to me. At 36, I am doing a Python Bootcamp and also learning things on Blockchain. From being in total shit at 35 to being someone and with childlike curiosity at 36, I have learned one important life lesson - IT IS NEVER TOO LATE
And THIS is precisely why I can relate to you and your channel a lot man. Great going!
Hell yeah! Keep going! You got this! It is never too late. We’re all a speck of dirt in this vast universe living inside a small blue dot 🌍 spinning thousands and thousands of miles per hour. It is truly never too late for anything!!!
Good for you. Hope you are doing great.
How reading this comment gave me hope more than the video. Thank you.♥
I don’t think you can cure actual depression using Python but I’m glad it works for you.
This video came at perfect timing. Thanks for sharing
I can relate especially with sacrificing good relationships as collateral damage while learning to code and distancing from bad relationships
Collateral damage is the best wording for that! It's exactly what it is. Hard but necessary!
As someone who is in their 30's with a similar story it's really refreshing to see another delinquent getting their life together.
Your not alone, first thing first Your health. Get rid of your addictions, get rid of your problems. The things holding you back, mine was video games, food, and depression. It's been 6 months since I've touched a video game, I am now eating clean, I've gotten real about me ever holding a degree It's not in the cards. Man I'm trying to turn this around. I really am.
im in my 20's and i feel like a failure even tho im actualy doing really good compared to everyone i went to school with.
Dude I love that you're reaching out to other guys who struggle. I was a goddamn TWEAKER. Needles and everything. Homeless. Pushing the cart. No lie. Whacked out of my mind. 15 years later, I work in a cardiac cath lab, making just about 6 figures or close to it, depending on how much extra I work. I'm saving to buy properties and I'm on my way to financial freedom with a plan.
Change is slow and sometimes unnoticeable. It comes with SETBACKS. But guys, it comes. It happens. All you have to do is start with something small and build on that success. You're better than you think, guys
Thank you so much Dorian, I'm 31 now and I'm learning JavaScript, HTML, CSS and after that React because I want to be frontend developer and this kind of videos help me a lot to never give up and just keep on coding one day I'm going to achieve my goal to be Freelance, thanks a lot bro!!
30 years old here and also learning JavaScript, HTML and CSS. What is the plan after that? My end goal is freelance and remote work
40 and starting...
@@cokabs I started working as a software developer when I was 37, so it's more then doable.
@@nickiemickie2584 could you provide any insight on how to get started? I’m interested in doing this. Thank you in advance
Good luck
I really like the way you approach to the problem, in a world where everybody is a winner in social media, seeing a person that can say "I'm a loser and I got a job and got to be successful" Is something that is really inspiring.
Thanks.
well said. I've been learning how to code for 5 years now on the side and I just recently got a job. Battling with how to handle relationships because I love hanging out with friends but I know I should focus on this career if I want to get better. and some relationships have to be sacrificed for a better future even if they are healthy ones.
I love you Kofi.
I can relate to your upbringing almost entirely. I turned 29 this March and I'm looking to get my ish together. Thanks for uploading this.
Great video. What I can add from my own experience is: even if it is a hustle job take the key skills from it and develop them further (customer service, sales, etc); have a mentor (even if it imaginary or public person whose' skills you wish to attain); develop skills for life which can help you find a job even if the pension age goes up again or war breaks out. There are more, but that will be a longer discussion I guess. :)
Не очаквах да има и други българи, които гледат този канал. 😁 Много добър съвет между другото , напълно съм съгласен!
Sales leads to freedom I wouldn't knock on it. It's how I'm going to flip my life.
I tend to feel like I wasted my life, and I'm only 20 years old. I've been trying to get my life together slowly but surely. I love watching videos like these. I also stopped playin videogames. I just felt guilty playing games when I havent achieved anything meaningful yet. Hopefully when I become a software engineer, that achievement will make gaming actually fun again.
I personally play videogames to spend time with my friends, It's not about achieving something while playing it's about having fun. Just like any hobbie
Same. I have to sacrifice the time of playing game for learning to coding. Coding is pretty fun so it not hard to break my gaming addiction but it still won't give the same amount of dopamine as gaming so I need to be disciplined.
Same. You have to remember that you’re young and need to take advantage of your time.
I had this feeling when i was 20 years old. Now I'm 26 and live in a debtfree apartment, now I absolute love gaming again 😍
You’re only starting, believe me! Also about that guilt, it can develop into imposter syndrome but this is something very common. Life as an engineer can become very burnout so having outlets to release the stress and enjoy life are very important, look at video games that way. Sure, maybe putting 16 hours every weekend on a game might be a little excessive but hey, if it releases the stress then it’s important! Just remember to have fun, always :)
Hey Dorian, really appreciate the authentic and helpful content you're putting out there man. I'm turning 30 this year and sometimes feel like I've wasted a large portion of my life, but for opposite reasons (always doing what I'm supposed to do, rarely what I feel a calling to do). I quit my job last year and am learning finally learning to code, but it's hard not to let the comparison game get me down sometimes. I often find your videos to be a good cure for that toxic 'comparing' mindset.
Keep doing what you're doing man, there are people out there that really benefit from your story and perspective.
Im 30, Brazilian, broken... Just quit my job and now I have nothing, but I believe in myself e I know I will overcome
Youre a sniveling coward.
E aí? Como você tá hoje?
@@lucasalmeida-fx9lb cara, consegui um emprego numa area legal, ja pedi demissao e ja to empregado dnv. Recomeçando a vida dps dos 30 e dando tudo certo. Valeu por perguntar
I definitely feel this I'm completely different from who I was in my mid 20's and younger. I'm almost 30 now and I just wanna kick myself for how much time I've wasted on video games, relationships and partying my whole life. Hate thinking where I could be right now if I knew back then what I know now.
don't think of it as a waste of time if you enjoyed it. you just need to balance what you like doing with progressing in life and all will be well.
Relationships are important, the rest I agree I messed up.
Just read this comment and I’m in the same boat. 29 and nothing to show for it. I too am kicking myself whilst friends and people I know have bought houses, have many qualifications, good careers like teaching and psychology. I’m over here like what on earth am I doing lol.
Respect to you man....
It takes courage to share the hardships.
Kudos to you.
This is inspiring.
from astronaut to doctor to teacher to plumber to programmer this man is so motivated 🤣
Bro I thought I was the only one that noticed
you forgot cop and firefighter xD
@@MunitionsDudTester he's my dad too
I f*cking love this 😂
Gosh!!!! 😂😂😂 Took me few seconds
bro I feel this. I’m 23 and finally accepting that I may have to do some things I never wanted to do in order to overcome poverty. no shame to anyone still trying to figure this thing out. take that job that pushes you out of your comfort zone, save that extra cash. lots of us are in the same boat
you can do college for 50$ a month. look into degree hacking, excelsior, wgu, and sophia.
man bro I'm trying to get my shit together now and seems like every time I need some words of wisdom you drop the perfect video that motivates me to keep learning and keep pushing.
Don't swear, that will also help you.
The important thing for me, besides all you said in this amazing video, is to get to know yourself better and don't punish yourself when you fail, recognise your patterns and try to improve the situation, one step at the time. If your direction and mentality is right you'll get where you want to be.
Your videos have been a huge source of inspiration to me lately. I'm 33 and even though I haven't messed up as much as you did - in terms of drugs or going to jail - I also feel like my 20's were a total waste of life! I was trying, but from a more experienced perspertive, now I see that I absolutelly wasn't trying hard enough. Not even close to it. To find motivation to start over after more than 10 years doing basically nothing to improve is reeeeally hard. The feeling is (or at least was) that there was no way that there was still any perspective for me in this life. And now I've been studying code everyday as I was gonna die tomorrow. Something I should've already started doing many years ago, considering I'm enjoying it so much. I'm really grateful that you choose to share not only the perks, but also all of the shit you've been through and how you managed to overcome all of that. Thank you!
Thanks Dorian🙏🏼
I’m at a stand still in my life at 24 and I have some goals. Often times I do feel like a dependent loser. This helped tons. Thank you, seriously.
I'm also 24 and slowly trying to get my life back together. Living with parents that have had serious health problems, falling behind on previous goals, working low-wage dead end jobs, and struggling with mental problems really hits hard. I think life is defined by hardships, trials, and disappointments. How can one learn and improve and be a better version of oneself, if everything works out, without any difficulties?
@@cn5561 I was a stand-still well went into my 30s. Don't feel bad, just go for it! :D
“And you’ve gotta have a good work ethic and show up every day. And hustle, you’ve gotta hustle. You’ve gotta put in the work. That’s just how the world is. I don’t care what anyone else says, and if you don’t wanna do it then you reap what you sow…”
Incredibly well said and true.
Damn i am going thru your pre success story. I have no social life its all about hustle and steps. In a year I'll be done with graduate school and I am hoping to see this change. My 3 jobs are getting me by without too much bills loans. I basically feel like right now I don't exist outside of my school or home.
I found you by accident,but I stayed because I'm at the stage that you were at. And I really love what you had to say. Nearly all the improvement videos on UA-cam exclude 30 YO as if life is over at that age. I really appreciate you making this. Thank you.
I took care of someone for 5 years. Brain Cancer, cocaince addiction, a year in jail, and a year in parole. And then they left, and the took EVERYTHING.
Now im broke, literall 0.38 cents to my name for the past month. only 7 changes of clothes. With just my computer as my only valuable. I dont even have a phone.
im starting from scratch, and i need videos like these.
I have no direction, i lost my purpose for waking each day, and now i feel like im scrapping the sand to figure where to go.
I've been working the hardest i ever have, for years. its just things that arent getting me money, but personal growth. but man i need to find my way soon, because personal skills/development doesn't fill the stomach
why did you care for someone, that doesn't give a s**t about you, for 5 years in the first place?
@@alorgb7440 Felt like they needed me and if i left they wouldnt of survived. Guilt mainly, but also feeling like i also had no where to go.
and in those kinda situations, you hope it gets better, that the person you first met will come back and be the real them. But they usually dont get better.
@@Stevenwinrar
Damn, your comment makes me have a Trust issues...... Anyway, I hope you may find the light at the end of the tunnel. I believe you can do it.
I needed this. You’re so underrated, wish you continual success 🤞🏻
Thank you Dorian I just recently stumbled upon your channel and just wanted to say your videos have been inspirational and motivating for me. I spent my 20’s just partying playing video games had a lot of odd jobs while wanting to do something with my life but lacked the motivation to do anything. Now that I’m 31 I FINALLY have the motivation to get into coding and turn my life around I want to be able to look back 10 years from now and say I’m glad I did this
Just wanted to say your channel is a goldmine for people who are trying to change their life especially if your in the beginning throws of learning code. Thanks for sharing your life.
Im 30. Dropped out in 9th. Ive been studying JS for a month now and it all seems intuitive. Ive fully immersed myself in it. Gone are the days where i watch vids on whatever game i was playing. Now its tutorials, concepts and goals to work on to eventually get a job as a web developer.
My biggest fear is the over saturation from all the people who want to do it too.
I live in Arizona. Huge city. Tons of job postings. I understand it may take several months to land a real interview, but i still worry theres too many people and not enough jobs to go around.
Please reassure me lol. Is web development, or ANY development with javascript still a viable career path? Not necessarily easy to get into but not impossible?
I dropped out at 9th grade also. Learned to code at 32. That was 5 years ago and even then I would hear the "over saturation" problem all the time but the truth is there's still a ton of jobs out there. Learn your stuff, build your projects, build your portfolio, network and apply before you feel ready. If you're focused you can do it!
"oversaturation" does not account for your potential and the amount of work that you're willing to put in. Most people who begin this journey will probably give up along the way. You can choose to keep going. You can dedicate yourself to making good projects, working on your portfolio etc.. You're assuming that it's purely a numbers game and it's not. There are a lot of intangibles that you can use in your favor.
I think the most important think is to understand that no matter how "over saturated" a job is not a problem, in fact i think its an advantage, if you can show to a pottential employee that you outperform the rest of juniors, you will get a job
I'm hearing about oversaturation since I was 17 years old, and I'm 27 right now.
In the tech market the things evolves too fast, a bunch of new technologies comes out every year. And with new technologies, comes out new job roles and opportunities.
@@DorianDevelops Since you dropped out of high school, did you ever go back and complete it, or get a GED? And at this point, is it necessary for you to have it to have a successful career?
seeing guys like this gives me a lot of inspiration. right now im without a job, thinking about changing careers after my doctorates and sometimes i think i have no hope in my future, then you find this video, and you start thinking again and maybe I will make a change.
Amen, preach it Brother! It's not gonna come to you, you have to go get it! You also hit the nail on the head, don't hang around toxic people, and surround yourself with people who are also trying to better themselves!
100% man! That's why you're one of the few people I still talk to now bro! I know I'm not always the best at keeping in touch. You may not know it but you really helped me find my way back when we first started hanging out way back in the days! Even though I was kind of a douche back then 😅 You had a big impact on me and I always looked up to you as like an older brother!
@@DorianDevelops you were always there for me, I'll always have your back!
I'm 35 and while certain things like my career and housing are concrete, everything else is missing. Family and partner are non-existent. Friends all moved away or cut me out of their life. And some half baked hobbies that just act as money pits. Started an online business for side hustle too. Everything is so unfulfilled.
Damn. Have started doing better? Feel like I'm on the same course maybe
Don't worry. You're in a better situation than most. Don't feel bad
I’m 32 in my self taught journey I picked data science honestly watching your videos is truly inspiring I swear it’s like we were one in the same growing up but this was the best decision I decided to make thanks man keep ‘em up 💯
Oh, it definitely helps. I'm tempted to go into a full "tell my entire life story" mode, but it's probably not the best idea right now. I just wanted to let you know that this video REALLY matters, thank you very much, peace.
Damn dude this video really hits home... I also just recently got my life together at almost 27.
This video definitely encouraged me to take on what I'm facing right now. Thank you.
Great video. I feel like I have been through a similar process. I am currently 28 and about to buy my first property (mortgage) and have a decent job in data science all because a few years back I decided I had enough, basically wasting my time on meaningless pursuits and i wanted to go for what I really wanted in life. Even after just a couple of years hard focused graft things have changed greatly and for the better. Totally agree it's all an internal change of your own mindset to create the kind of world/life that you want to live in. Looking forward to what the next 10 years will bring, like where you are now. Thanks for the video and sharing bro
I am about to get 28 Dorian. I am also a loser. Your videos give me hope.
Thank you man soo much, i was stuck in youtube and videogames loop that i couldn't star coding, so thank you so much for that man. Now im back in track!
I really don't know how to put my thoughts into words together but I just wanted to say thank you for your down to earth life advice. With a lot of patience and a lot of hard work there isn't anything you can't achieve. Wish all of you get the strength you need to reach your life goals and dreams.
I had everything back then when i mean i had everything literally i had everything but lost it all i mean lost it all again due to my reckless lofe style,felt like giving up only this year i almost took my life 4 times couldn't live with thw pressure and shame but of a sudden i felt inner strength amd decided to try one more how i came about this channel cause i really want to try one last time amd thanks for this rwad through alot of comments and they helped too guess i wasnt alone all along
Thank you so much, you have given me so much hope. I know now because of you and your videos codeing is not for me. I am an outside guy, i cant sit in front of a comouter for hours even if its fun.You have given me a push to start my own thing.
Very inspirational, I'm 38 now and been working to fix my life for the past 4 years Thanks for the encouragement your helping a lot of people keep it up[
I am grateful to have come across your videos on personal development- I am 31 years old right now, but your videos offer alot of hope and insight on how I can avoid making mistakes in my 30s and how I can make my 30s even better than my 20s!!
Here's to those that have to get it out the mud. Took the long damn road.
Thanks for this video.
I feel that we appreciate it more when we get it and we're also more motivated to keep it!
hey man just wanted to say super inspirational. i feel that as a 18 year old like myself. most people feel like there stuck, and everyone keeps telling them to take that first step. but never give them the guidance or maybe even the first shove to get moving. my brother is 20 and is thinking about dropping out of college after taking double the normal classes. (yes, double lol) but i feel as though i have nothing to show him on how to make it in this world. my single parent owns her own company but like i said. she just keeps telling him and I to get a move on or get some shit going but we feel quite clueless. i hope i can use some of this info on my coding/programming journey. i have alot of coding connections so far but I know it wont go far unless i have the effort to show for it. much love mate.
That is exactly what I needed right now.
Thanks Dorian
First minute sounds a lot to me 😄Now im 30, finishing university, starting to get things done, no more parties... hope it takes some similiar turn as you did
I'm glad I found your channel. You put a lot of energy into your videos and it shows.
I can relate to the content in this video because I also spent my 20's and some of my 30's just drifting around (recently turned 37). However, I don't agree with the perspective of "making up for lost time" which you expressed in another video. Everyone is on their own journey in life and we all have different starting points. Some of us need to be adrift for a while in order to figure out our place in the world. You wouldn't be who you are today if you hadn't had the experiences that you've had. Maybe if you had spent your 20's just grinding, you would've crashed in your 30's and overcompensated by getting into drugs, alcohol or gambling later in life. Who knows.
Can't agree more, If I didn't utterly wasted my time in highschool, I would've never woken up in my 20's and got my life together
This is what people need to understand about their journey in life. The past is what makes the present person. I'm pretty sure someone thought of that quote already. But that's how I live, make the decisions and prepare for the ride.
I'm 18 years old and about to start grinding and this comment makes me afraid that I will be a loser when I hit my 30s.... Hopefully no.
@@frog6054 if you don't start grinding now you'll be a loser in you 30
@@frog6054 30s is not the end of the road, my boy. But if you start now, you can have your life in order within a few years. Of course you won't figure everything out, life is a journey. But the best you can do is work on overcoming your vices and building your life on a solid foundation of strong principles and a good character. I'm not a "loser" by any stretch of the imagination, I have a law degree and I work for myself. It's about more than just money and education for me though, which is why I'm not fully satisfied with my life.
I am sure everyone who has ever met you is EXTREMELY PROUD of you!!!! Being able to look honestly in a mirror and seeing a better path no matter the current or past situation makes you a super hero!!!!!!! I am sure you life will met with ever continued success. You understand intimately, hard work can solve all and it can. It one really wants to move Mount Everest with spoon, they can, if they really want to. While you have an incredible message about hard work, I think the even more powerful message you are pushing but not being specific about it is, "the way you do anything is the way you do everything." Meaning, you need to expect more of your self and others and work toward those goals at the same time no matter what job you have do the absolute best you can do at it, people do notice.....
Thank you for this. Stumbled by this cause of your google certification video. Glad to have been curious enough to click this video.
My life can't get any worst, it's like starting from rock bottom, from the very beginning for me and I'm 41 years old. But seeing your videos has inspired me to start all over again and learn to code, I know it's going to be really hard but there nothing absolutely nothing in my case to lose.
same here at age 40, gotta start with a shitty job soon. can´t see myself learning to code, eventhough I´m interested
@@TheFirstOnlyRealUltra please don't say this, there's literally complete dumbasses that can do web development, you don't need to be a genius I promise.
I myself am looking for work as a waiter while I learn coding on the side
@@epicgamer0007 thanks bro, that´s very encouraging !! 👍
@@TheFirstOnlyRealUltra yeah man as long as your alive it's never too late 👍
@@KonohazFinest truth 👍
I'm so glad I found your channel. You sound exactly like me, it's great haha. Thank you for providing value to people that are on similar paths
I just want to say, watching this video was like hearing the hard truth with great advice from a friend who genuinely cares. Thank you Dorian.
Got linked to your channel from Fireship. Your an absolute inspiration dude. Keep killing it.
Hi Dorian, i appriciate your content a lot. It does help me out immensely as somone who is close to 30 and wasted life on drinks, smokes, drugs and video games. It feels great to relate to someone who got there already.
Thank you for making this video! Im relating to everything from rough childhood to drugs to hustling for tips in a club , and now Im 27 ready to move into a more professional setting. I did manage to receive my bachelors degree in health science but my gpa isn't good enough to get into grad school and the jobs I can get are low pay. I want to learn a new skill that actually pays well and im thinking about coding.
An hour-long subscriber, thank you for the valuable life lessons and tips, I genuinely enjoyed watching the whole video.
Dorian, I just want to say thanks. I'm learning a lot from you and hearing it from someone who made it out of a tough situation makes me feel more confident that I can also be successful one day.
I hope you continue uploading this kind of content as it boosts my morale (I think the others as well).
Have a great day!
I'm from Italy, and I want to tell you with all my heart that, you are an example and motivate me so much, thank you and always keep it up!
I'm from Brazil and I want to thank you for sharing it man... I'm trying to put my shit together and this video came as a inspiration. Thanx m8!
Thank you for posting this video. You are 10 years older than me and you sound exactly like I am right now today, I’m going to follow your advice and hopefully in 10 years I’ll be able to look back at today a completely changed man.
The funny thing is that 85% of the general pubic (and that’s me being generous) are stupid, incompetent, and just plain lazy.
So when normal people who didn’t bother at the beginning of their lives start doing stuff working, saving up, getting new Job skills in their mid 30’s it is more than Doable.
Because the bar has been set soooo Low by the General Public that being,
Able bodied,
having basic understanding for Reading and Comprehension.
Memorization.
And the willingness to do the Jobs no one else wants to will put you well above that bar that has been set by society, and Employers will see that.
Keep the good work dude!!! Your story is amazing and so inspiring. Also the real experience which you share here on UA-cam is priceless.
Thank you 🙏🏼. The boost I needed to carry on.
I am on my journey to learn web development❤ You're an inspiration
Loving your channel! I am a Brazilian that lives in U.S and just finished my marketing degree and decided to change the whole path and go to programming.
It's really cool that you've done all that you have & do all that you do, on top of what you already do for work, AND THEN also make videos for UA-cam that are actually really good quality. I don't think I could ever be that focused & determined & driven. It's really impressive. I just always been afraid to focus on anything because I don't want to lose my wider sense of things. Like, I've never done anything in particular because I've always wanted to do like... everything. Now I'm 31 going on 32 in 7 months and I have absolutely nothing to show for it. It's really defeating. Really defeating. I'm so swamped & behind on rent & bills right now. It's disgusting. Working dead end jobs, doing 60 to over 80 hours some weeks just to stay busy & have enough money to not worry about paying my bills or rent at the end of every week or month. It just gets so aggravating some times though. I've lost my cool a few times & knocked what little tower I had built down working such long hours and then found myself in a hole that I then had to dig myself back out of. This video & the shorter version came really close to really connecting with where I'm at & what I've gone through. I had a dual parent household, but I think I would have been better off in a single parent household and... so many other things. I never did anything bad but never really did much of anything at all beside trying to stay busy & not think about things. I never really had any body who cared & didn't really have the patience or see the point in putting a lot of time & money & effort into trying to go to school after high school because I didn't want to have to live at home so that I could afford to go to school while only working one job in order to be able to have the tike TO go to school. I don't know how I expected that to work out in the long run. I didn't really think about it. I guess I figured that so long as things were withstandable now, than they should be later. I never kept very high standards & never wanted to much either, and couldn't have afforded it anyway, so I didn't really mind or feel like I was missing out on too much. Well, let me tell you, ten or twelve years down the line here now I don't think I could be ANYMORE frustrated or bored or unfulfilled or disappointed than I am with myself & life than I am right now. But, like the sayings go, we often don't see how things could get any better when things seem good, but things can always be worse, no matter how bad they seem. That's not the perspective I want to have or keep, but those are phrases you often hear. I just feel so lost, man. I grew up in the middle of nowhere without even a little town & never had a lot of friends & so hustling of any kind wasn't really a thing I grew up around. I'm going to put in a few more applications today, but they're all for more dead-end jobs. Production & warehousing. Stuff I can hopefully do a bunch of overtime at & dig myself back out of this new hole I've dug myself into. I want to go at it with a different mentality now though. Like, I need to get out of this hole, but after that I really do need to put my money into things to make my self & life better. Things that are worth it & provide a little worth & value back. I can't tell you how much I hope that I can turn things around for myself in the next few years. The sooner the better. I would REALLY like to be making 100k sometime no later than between my 35 & 36th birthday. I'm a hard & smart worker who likes to do the best job that I can. It's just been one thing after another in life, man. It really isn't fair. I mean, some people are lazy or have bad intentions & don't deserve anything in my opinion, while then you have other who work hard & have good intentions but the world doesn't really help them if it doesn't also bury them in setbacks & obstacles. I'd like to do something like a skilled craft or trade, but I would also like to do something to help the world & people in general, like go to school for economics & sociology and/or psychology. Maybe even politics or policy making. The world is so screwed up & I often think the answers seem so simple. It's a mad, mad world. The good die young, man. The good die young. Thanks for this video & the shorter version. It felt personal & honest & really kind of helped. Fingers crossed. I wish a good life were as easy to have as cracking open the right fortune cookie. If all life were like that we would probably take it for granted. After a life without it, though, let me tell you, I'm pretty sure I would appreciate it now. Not having earned it, though, I would probably only end up ruining that life & ending right back where I currently find myself anyway, like I feel poor people who win big lotteries probably would or do. Most schooling, especially college, seems like just such a waste though. Semester style school years waste so much time & then they pack your course load with so many "fluff" classes that have nothing to do with your degree major or minor it just seems like such a waste of time & money & attention & effort. It's really, really frustrating & disheartening. I wish there were other options. Of course there are tech & trade schools or even apprenticeships. A lot of tech schools have bad reputations though, & trade schools & apprenticeships are by and large only for highschool kids or looking for kids freshly out of highschool. The same with colleges & universities. Like, it really should be easier for adults of any age to go back to school for anything, and it should be direct & efficient & affordable. Everyone wants to target the kids though. "Get them nice big loans they'll take half their lives to pay off. Forget anyone who didn't go to school right out of highschool." I feel we live in a rather disfunctional, crippling world. I wish I had the commitment & know-how to make my own UA-cam channel picking the world apart & talking to people about problems they have had in the world & life & other problems they feel & see in the world at large & talking about & researching why these problems exist, persist, and where they come from & what could be done about them & maybe even encouraging action to change things & taking those actions my/ourselves. The world really, really, REALLY needs to change, man. Really. Anyway, thanks for the video, man, it really hit home. Serious. Thanks for being personal & honest & open. We could use a hell of a lot more of that in the world.
Thank you for sharing your journey and keeping us from falling victim to the negative artifacts of conformity!
I am working every day on coding and I really want to make my life better. Your videos are very valuable. They are helping me to keep my path towards my goals. Thank you so much for sharing all these thoughts!
You're my kinda youtuber! The no bs, authentic kind 👍 I'm Just starting going through all of your vids, so apologíes if you have alredy spoken about this, but if you get a chance could you maybe talk about the kinda dev job that is talked a lot, the kind that requiers insane night shifts, no outside life out of work, life sucking schedules etc, like, whats your experience or opinión on those, or Whats your day to day like? I would trust your honesty 100% more than most other ytrs 😁 you got my supoport, already subscribed 😁
You have no idea how this helped me. Im in the middle of changing my life. As a 38 year old unit dispatcher for facilities dept in a hospital, lost all my life savings / retirement due to bad investment choices. im trying to get my feet wet to become a pharmacy tech. Im in the same boat as you, following the money. Hoping from one job to another but never had the courage to learn a new skill. I have a 5 year plan. To get my pharmacy tech license, work for pharmacy, get my ITIL cert and move to clinical informatics dept. Always loved i.t. just choosing a different route.
This is so inspiring to hear. I felt like youre directly speaking to me.
Thank you for telling some of your back story, it trully makes me feel better. I can relate somehow with many of the things u said.
One of the best video out there on UA-cam. Always real, hard-hitting and relatable. Thank you Dorian!
Like I've mentioned earlier, my wife showed me your video and that pushed me strongly into coding. I am 6 months into this coding journey with a full time restaurant job from 4pm to 11:30pm. Yet, I always devote minimum of 6 hours everyday to learn coding after my hectic shift. My goal is to become a Web Developer before the end of 2022.
Thank you again and good luck to everyone who's aspiring to become one!
Dude! You are so amazing, thank you so much for all your advices! I'm in my 20's so your words are very value to me. Thank you so much for this video.
recently stopped smoking weed to dive in on coding and focus full on. coding more and playing games less i feel you. thanks for the hope man.
You sound so much like me. I was a terrible student in high school, skipped college went straight to work, fucked around in early 20s smoking and drinking. But I was slowly starting to cut the social life out of my life, 2020 really sped up that process. Now im 26 and im starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Chapeau bas! That’s what I wanted to hear rn. Sometimes you doubt if it’s worth hassle and work harder than anyone else around you, and then a man like you is giving you a little bit of hope;) cheers
I am more than happy to listen to your success story. You have a long life ahead of you. Your family will be your anchor to continue to live on. Not everyone can do what you did. Playing the long term game in life really can be underestimated.
One of the best motivational videos Ive ever seen and Im the type of person that searches for motivational videos on youtube from time to time
Thanks for this brotha. Inspiring story, especially since I see a lot of myself in your journey 🙏🏼
Wow, don’t know how I landed here but I identify with you. Work ethic, meeting a good life partner and focusing on what’s important changed my life. I have everything I ever wanted as it was those 3 things that got me there. Cutting the bad ppl out of your life is key.
Thanks a lot, Dorian. I really enjoy your videos. Keep doing what you doing.
I am embarrassed. I’m 36 and a waitress. I made great money in Arizona. I was in nursing school, Covid happened, had to drop for my “personal beliefs.” I chose to move across the country and it’s a smaller city and I took a huge pay cut ($40,000 pay cut!!). Now I’m scrambling to figure out what the hell I’m going to finish school for. I don’t even drink, never been a party girl, but trauma and loss can really negatively effect someone’s life in many areas. So stressed out, but part of me is glad I’m pushing myself out of the industry. Waiting tables sucks the life out of me. I’m the only person to blame.
Love a good comeback story. 🙏🏽
Thank you a lot bro ! I'm using your videos not just for learning code things but for motivation too, and I'm also learning English and your way to speak help me to get better with my listening. You're a big referent to follow, hope you keep sharing with us all your knowledge And experience in live.
As someone with a similar history and is now trying to become a dev at 27 your videos give me a lot of hope. Thanks!
This was phenomenal! Thank you so much for this. Please feel free to make more videos like this.
"I stopped wasting my time on people, as terrible as that sounds"....terrible, I think it sounds golden. My ex of 6 years cheated (hid entire relationship on twitter, all the posts.....I don't have twotter, easy to hide), so now I'm at that point where people, girlfriends and/or friends are out of my life. Im 29 now and actively trying to find my niche. Got my degree and working in accounting the past 2 years, but like you said, at a 50k salary, and its time to earn more. I just discovered your page yesterday, and I think you're about to be my mentor counselor. Thank you
thenks for this one dorian!!! from argentina, i keep watching your channel! 😊😊
thank u inspirational boi, whenever coding gets difficult (bashing my head at the concept of recursion) i go to u for stamina
thank you so much. keep doiing this . giving us hope that we can turn around our life. blessings upon you
This just gave me the courage to start again