Living Alone ? 3 Tips to help with Loneliness

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  • @user-px6sp2ou4i
    @user-px6sp2ou4i Місяць тому +11

    I have lived alone past 14 years now, love living alone, if I want company just go out with a friend for lunch or voluntary work.. I wouldn’t want my life any other way…. 😊

  • @blackrook29
    @blackrook29 Місяць тому +13

    Being dumped is the worst experience . I’ve learned never get close to anyone again

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому +1

      @@blackrook29 sad for you 😢 it’s so hard to trust again. I think when you get really comfortable with who you are you then you attract the right people into your life . I hope this happens for you x

    • @Fegga1955
      @Fegga1955 Місяць тому

      Same here

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому

      @@Fegga1955 😢🤗

  • @vickichadwick7508
    @vickichadwick7508 Місяць тому +12

    Ahhh thank you great tips I love hearing to stop waiting for the perfect time to use or wear something. My youngest daughter reminded me to go ahead and do things while I can and not to worry about the cost. She’s right after scrimping and saving for decades I decided to spend money on doing what I enjoy now! None of us is promised tomorrow. Anyway I try to be especially kind to others as I’ve needed a kind word very often and it means everything at times.

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому +1

      @@vickichadwick7508 wWell done on doing things for you and how lovely to have a supportive daughter. Kindness always comes back to us tenfold. It sounds like you’ve got a good balance in life x

  • @joankirkland6255
    @joankirkland6255 Місяць тому +2

    Thank you so very much. My family is all.gone
    I have a great husband .My so. Whom I adored threw me away 4 yrs ago.I have 2 rescue Pugs and thank goodness for them both. One is 17 yrs old and one is 14 yrs old.I don't go out at all from the major depression for my son
    .I am going to go out next week.Color my hair and I will feel better about going out.Your suggestions are exactly what I need to do.Thank you from.Texas........
    Born in Liverpool England.stilll homesick after 50 yrs.xxxx

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому +1

      Oh my heart really feels for you. I do love a Pug 😍Well done on taking those first steps. If you feel up to it let me know how you feel once you’ve done your hair and had an outing xx

  • @carolineash1104
    @carolineash1104 Місяць тому +16

    I have guys chatting me up so much younger than me and I’m 58 tomorrow!! But I so can’t be bothered. I’m happy on my own. I’ve recently bought some summer dresses to my weight loss!! 3 stone since last June. 🎉x

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому +5

      @@carolineash1104 good for you and well done on your weight loss 👏👏

    • @carolineash1104
      @carolineash1104 Місяць тому +1

      @@FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn ❤️

    • @noracoyle4988
      @noracoyle4988 Місяць тому +2

      Well done🌹

    • @Dave-bb3vy
      @Dave-bb3vy Місяць тому

      Loneliness isn't as bad as people think

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому

      @@Dave-bb3vy I think it’s different for everyone 🤷‍♀️ . Some people really struggle but I do think it’s something to work with until you really enjoy your own company

  • @soniapaterson6340
    @soniapaterson6340 Місяць тому +7

    I have watched this at the right time tonight and everything you've said I agree with, especially the compliments and wearing whatever clothes make you feel good. I saw an older lady with a really great haircut this morning and I wanted to say something but I didn't. Watching this has now reinforced me to actually say it next time, so thank you for that and also for posting this as I don't normally engage with social media but I am learning to try new things that make me feel good about myself. I really enjoyed listening to this, keep going and being you. x

  • @MrJBest78
    @MrJBest78 Місяць тому +29

    I have learned that just because I’m single, never married, no children, that does NOT mean that I’m lonely. Just because I’m working my shift at my busy grocery store, at a concert surrounded by 30,000 people or more, OR, with family or so called friends at a packed restaurant, that also does NOT mean that I’m not ALONE.

  • @biba350
    @biba350 Місяць тому +7

    Just come across your channel
    7 months in being single at that crippling stage of loneliness no friends needing to get out of my comfort zone
    Had good hair cut stop colouring my hair he hate me not colouring love my silver yours is lovely Thank you needed this today subscribed ❤

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому +2

      @@biba350 Good for you, enjoy your lovely new look. I wish I could magic things better for you but it’s a process we have to go through 😢 you’ve already made some changes so don’t be hard on yourself. Do something nice for you everyday even if it’s just a tiny thing x

  • @Mar-vg4us
    @Mar-vg4us Місяць тому +8

    I just want to say I think you look fantastic! I have a teenager (very recently turned 13) and she loves fashion, looks, all that kind of thing. Since she was a tot if she saw a girl wearing something or a total outfit and said to me look at her, she looks great I always encouraged her to go up to that girl and say "excuse me...I just wanted to say..." She just does it herself now. You never know what anyone is going through and a compliment from a stranger can make their day, week, month, who knows. I think your video is amazing. Good on you. Keep posting!

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому

      @@Mar-vg4us Thank you so much, that’s really lovely of you and very much appreciated x

    • @noracoyle4988
      @noracoyle4988 Місяць тому

      I'm 67 ,single live alone worked as a nurse for nearly 50 years.
      I suffered quite severe hair loss which wrecked my confidence.
      I spoke with my hairdresser and I'm going to have a mesh put in.
      I'm really excited and looking forward to looking fabulous😄

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому

      @@noracoyle4988 Good for you 👏👏 You sound like some self care is very much deserved after helping so many others. I’d love to hear how you feel once you’ve had it done x

  • @BigHeartNoBS
    @BigHeartNoBS Місяць тому +17

    I love being alone ❤ I feel lonelier with other people than what i'm actually alone. If I start feeling lonely because I don't have a guy.I just remember how irritating they can be.And how my being alone is a blessing. That I don't feel so bad because the way more relaxing than having some irritating , gnat of a man bothering me

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому +4

      @@BigHeartNoBS 👌 you are so right so many people say they felt lonelier in their marriage then when it had ended . Counting our blessings really helps x

    • @christinehow3595
      @christinehow3595 Місяць тому +1

      Well said
      Who needs a man ! Ha

    • @janeh5949
      @janeh5949 Місяць тому +1

      Ive been With two men, the first one lost after 35 years of marriage. The current line who is a man of God ,We read the Bible in the morning and pray together.

    • @christinehow3595
      @christinehow3595 Місяць тому

      @janeh5949 best idea Jane.
      I can't be asked after losing my husband after 35 years of marriage.
      Then meet a Narc Rock Star who used and abused me .
      I'm happy on my own . Believing in God .
      Take care.

    • @tinamaxwell922
      @tinamaxwell922 Місяць тому +1

      Bad experience puts me off having relationship

  • @juliapace2845
    @juliapace2845 20 днів тому +1

    Love this celtic knot tutorial. I hope to see more kinds of knots.

  • @akferren1
    @akferren1 Місяць тому +3

    I work from home and aside from running to the store every once in awhile and walking my dog, I make it a point to do my hair and makeup and put on a nice outfit every day.. it makes me feel good.. I also chat with people on my walks and that does make me feel less lonely

  • @vickichadwick7508
    @vickichadwick7508 Місяць тому +3

    Ahhh thank you so much this reminded me life is short enjoy each moment and wear those special clothes etc we are special…we’ve been there for our children etc now we deserve to treat ourselves. Thank you for sharing so inspiring!

  • @DottyDolly-39
    @DottyDolly-39 Місяць тому +2

    I take my crochet to Costa. Always get somone coming up to me saying wow, thats beautiful.

  • @mangisty1007
    @mangisty1007 Місяць тому

    So glad I found this video! 🙏🏼❤ Thank you.

  • @Gracefully60
    @Gracefully60 Місяць тому +1

    Lovely to come across your channel. I enjoyed watching this video. I am so comfortable with doing things on my own. I enjoy my own company. Thanks for sharing. 🌷

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому +1

      @@Gracefully60 Thank you for your lovely comment , it sounds like you’ve got the perfect life balance 👌😊

  • @juliafisher5844
    @juliafisher5844 Місяць тому +1

    Thanks for sharing your honest feelings and great tips ❤

  • @celestinachristy6609
    @celestinachristy6609 Місяць тому

    I loved your talk. Thank you.

  • @DottyDolly-39
    @DottyDolly-39 Місяць тому +3

    Ladies at library always talk to me. ❤❤❤

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому +1

      @@DottyDolly-39 thank you for sharing , it’s a great place to meet people and find out what’s happening in the local area x

  • @chelly7383
    @chelly7383 Місяць тому

    Good morning 🙏 🌄 ☺️
    Amazing you came on my channel. Thank you for saying your story, I truly appreciate you ❤️
    I live alone, and yes, it's true what we go thru as we become alone, I use to run to restaurants to have a glass of wine to talk with someone. But it wasn't a very good feeling after, I still had the void.
    I have been great and have appreciate my peacefulness, with a grace of God I'm good now. I don't run to the restaurants for a glass of wine, and if I do I'm on my own and it feels great!! ❤
    Have a good day today and always 😊 💛

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому +1

      @@chelly7383 thank you fir taking time to leave this lovely message. I’m so pleased for you that that you’ve found your peace 🥰

    • @chelly7383
      @chelly7383 Місяць тому

      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn Thank you, and I'm glad I ran into you. Take care 🙂

  • @user-id1ij8vc8i
    @user-id1ij8vc8i Місяць тому +1

    Thanks love you too I no it's hard it's what you make it on my own at 74 it can be done thanks 😘

  • @DottyDolly-39
    @DottyDolly-39 Місяць тому +1

    New Viewer. Loving your outlook already.

  • @begoniaperez4179
    @begoniaperez4179 Місяць тому

    Thank you for sharing your experience!

  • @marydrummond8832
    @marydrummond8832 Місяць тому +3

    Thank you .

  • @freyavanderwesthuizen7281
    @freyavanderwesthuizen7281 Місяць тому +1

    I am so lonely as I Lay here alone in my bed waiting to go the the netherlands to be euthanized, where is my loving partner , he’s busy in work because when I’m gone his life will continue , yes life does go on , but laying here having nothing better but think of my impending death makes the loneliness worse . Even though i have spent forty years most of it in bed alone, you would think i would be only to grateful to die , or as I think of it to rest , to sleep for eternity with no pain , very little sleep , it will be the best sleep of my life, a sleep like no other ! I am sorry if I have upset anybody, this lovely lady has taken time out to help lonely people , how i wish she had the power to help me . Thankyou lovely lady , I hope you find who or whatever banishes you sense of being alone xxxx

  • @leighwiseman8389
    @leighwiseman8389 Місяць тому

    Thank you, great advice x

  • @marypoulton6332
    @marypoulton6332 Місяць тому

    Very much enjoyed listening to you.

  • @christinehow3595
    @christinehow3595 Місяць тому +1

    So true what you say .im happy on my own .
    Im in Lincs

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому

      Hi it’s lovely to hear from a fellow Lincs yellow belly 😊

    • @christinehow3595
      @christinehow3595 Місяць тому

      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn Thank you for your reply 👍
      Moved up here after I lost my husband too Cancer
      Then meet a narc who abused, cheaters,lied too me
      Made me very ill .
      Then I had Cancer and beat that .
      So really been on my own since .
      Best wishes

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому +1

      @@christinehow3595 Gosh you’ve had it tough. Well done for getting to the other side and keeping strong 🤗

    • @christinehow3595
      @christinehow3595 Місяць тому

      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn Yes . I say Girl Power ha .
      Have a knee replacement soon . That be fun .
      Love your channel.
      Will be checking in again .
      Best wishes x

  • @amandasymon4363
    @amandasymon4363 Місяць тому

    Love your realness - thank you 🙏

  • @chrisshowering7357
    @chrisshowering7357 Місяць тому +1

    I have been caught up in a situation with a guy I've known him for a long while. It's been a physical situation. I didn't feel i can trust any other man but n9w I don't trust him anymore I am better off without a man. I'm not lonely I have 2 daughters 3 grandchildren so far. And my darling cat Kitty who I dearly l9ve.

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому

      Sometimes being on our own for a while helps us to find out what we truly want/ need. Enjoy your time with your lovely family and your special kitty 🤗

  • @user-bb5nk9tg3e
    @user-bb5nk9tg3e Місяць тому +2

    We choose to be alone.

  • @danielastoica3354
    @danielastoica3354 Місяць тому

    Lucky you! I would like to work from home as well!

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому

      I am lucky but it comes with all the ups and downs that self employment offers. No sick pay, no paid holidays and often cash flow issues. That said I wouldn’t have it any other way 😊

  • @ltalbot1237
    @ltalbot1237 Місяць тому

    Thank you so much 😊

  • @colleenrose5355
    @colleenrose5355 Місяць тому

    Thank you so mucy❤

  • @FrancesRobinson-yn2ks
    @FrancesRobinson-yn2ks Місяць тому

    (This is my first time here.) Thirty-five years ago, after 20 years of marriage, I left my first husband. I was and am an introvert, but, even so, that first year was horrible. I had never lived alone in my whole life. My parents and sister (we had never been close) were not at all supportive -- they were Catholic, and I was the first divorce in three generations, on both sides (mother's side and father's side). For over 10 years, my ex and I had been great friends with three other couples, but when I left my ex, those friendships unraveled. However, in a year or so, I was just fine again. Five years later, I married again -- someone I didn't really love but he had lots of family. Yeah, that wasn't right -- LOL -- and three years later I left him (with no regrets). LOL And I didn't go through "that first year" again. This time I knew what to expect. //// I realized the other day that I've been living alone now for almost all of the past 35 years. I do get lonely for a brief while every day. I do get very lonely once in a while. But some bouts of loneliness are pretty normal, and those bouts aren't going to kill us (I think) as long as we're not very lonely all of the time every single day. //// I have had a great life (not without tragedies like everyone else). And I'm still having a very good life. And I think that's what really saves me. Every single day -- several times a day -- I am spontaneously grateful for my past and present life. The gratitude just wells up inside me. I have loved and been loved by people who literally changed my life just by knowing them for a while. I've had many wonderful experiences in my life. Having and raising children. Good men friends. A lot of traveling (when I was in my 20s). A great job (same employment for 30 years). Great coworkers. A lot of volunteering. Going to plays, musicals, theatre, concerts. Even the tragedies (just two examples: I was raped -- TWICE, my only daughter was murdered) -- they have made me a better person (I think). //// As I said, there are still times on some days when I feel so lonely that sometimes I cry. But, again, I am so very grateful -- every single day -- for having been born, for being alive, for the experiences in my life (even some of the bad ones) -- that I am doing well. I was a Hospice volunteer for 17 years (off and on), so, even though I am more than likely going to die alone, I am prepared and not afraid -- not thrilled at the thought of dying and death, but still prepared. //// Thank you, Louise, for you and your video blog. I think I'll stick around for a while. And I promise to NEVER write NEARLY this voluminously again. 🙂 I PROMISE.

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому +1

      @@FrancesRobinson-yn2ks I really appreciate you sharing your story, thank you. So many would have given up with the tragedies you’ve endured but your daily gratitude is to be commended . I hope others read your message and are inspired by it xx

    • @FrancesRobinson-yn2ks
      @FrancesRobinson-yn2ks Місяць тому

      @@FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn Thank you. You are very kind. //// Again, I promise not to write any more tomes. LOL

    • @FrancesRobinson-yn2ks
      @FrancesRobinson-yn2ks Місяць тому

      I just wrote two quasi-tomes. I think I need to cut off my fingers. LOLOLOLOL

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому +1

      @@FrancesRobinson-yn2ks I think it means you have a talent for writing 😃

    • @FrancesRobinson-yn2ks
      @FrancesRobinson-yn2ks Місяць тому

      @@FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn LLLLLLLLLLLLLLOOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL I've been told, all my life, that I "should write". Started in 9th grade (US) -- my 9th grade teacher told me that I should write, and it's never let up. Many people have told me that. All my life. That doesn't mean I need to take it out on innocent UA-cam blogs. LOL And I DO know that brief is almost always better. And if people want a book, they'll read a book. On a most serous note: it is kills me that there are so many 65+ (both women AND men) who are SO lonely and who have no or little idea of how to navigate getting old. We are encouraged all our adult lives to save for retirement. But NO ONE prepares us for everything else related to old age. And, now, COVID and inflation have hardly made life easier. smh

  • @rosiew8-fenn
    @rosiew8-fenn Місяць тому

    Hi there, I’ve just found your channel. I currently live in Alsager but I am from Gosberton Clough! Where in Lincolnshire are you? Lovely to see you on here xx

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому

      Ive lived at Holbeach Clough,lLong Sutton and Sutton Bridge so know that are well. Mind you it was 30 years ago 😳 I’m now back where I originated from in a little village called Orby not far from Skegness. I have to confess I had to google Alsager 🙈 it does sound lovely xx

  • @munchkinheaven7877
    @munchkinheaven7877 Місяць тому

    Love this info. New subbie here

  • @user-qs3cz9rl6s
    @user-qs3cz9rl6s Місяць тому

    Wonderful

  • @DottyDolly-39
    @DottyDolly-39 Місяць тому +2

    Shop in a different town, you'll meet new people with fresh eyes.

  • @franceshaggitt3104
    @franceshaggitt3104 Місяць тому

    I feel so alone. I'm a single patent. Left abusive ex nine years ago. Now my 13 year old has gone to live with ex as his behaviour was poor and noone believed me. My 17 year old is with me but out all the time and he's missing his brother and his dad is isn't giving him enough time or support him with driving lessons like he promised. I feel guilty as I can't afford things for him like that not a holiday for years for them yet ex goes away without them with partner every year.
    I wonder who will look after me. I do all house stuff. I had breakdown when younger son was behaving poor..
    I couldn't function.
    I used to go out a lot when I got better as not had much life or friends at all.
    I have had a bad experience after the ex too. I left them both.
    My family is parents just didn't want to know as I left ex.
    I now am trying to get a teaching job again as I had one years ago. I have had depression from .the treatment of others.
    I now think if I met someone I'd have another grief if husband died . Or left. Pray for me

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому

      I’m sorry to hear your having a tough time though it sounds like your trying your best so try to be kind to yourself. Well done for getting back out there career wise. As woman we try so hard to hold it all together especially for our children. Are there any women’s groups near you . Maybe worth a google to see. Just getting out a having a coffee with some like minded people would give you so much needed time for you. It’s so hard to put it into words with out sounding condescending or patronising but there are people out there who care x

    • @franceshaggitt3104
      @franceshaggitt3104 Місяць тому

      @@FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn I try but not found my People

  • @brendamanchester6969
    @brendamanchester6969 Місяць тому

    💗🙏🏻

  • @user-hk4gg2eu3e
    @user-hk4gg2eu3e Місяць тому

  • @bonnymolloy5511
    @bonnymolloy5511 Місяць тому

    🙏

  • @franceshaggitt3104
    @franceshaggitt3104 Місяць тому

    im.close to Lincoln near hull

  • @tiggywinkle20
    @tiggywinkle20 Місяць тому +2

    No, loneliness is not fun if you are sociable. May suit some but not me!

    • @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn
      @FromStabletoHome.DiaryofMyBarn  Місяць тому

      @@tiggywinkle20 I get what you’re saying but I think for some people you can be surrounded by people and still feel lonely. I guess it’s how you feel inside

    • @franceshaggitt3104
      @franceshaggitt3104 Місяць тому

      Me too

  • @sheilahannon5812
    @sheilahannon5812 Місяць тому

    You are gorgeous love you

  • @franceshaggitt3104
    @franceshaggitt3104 Місяць тому

    Ps if anyone wants to message me ....as im lonely....

  • @debstaylor2217
    @debstaylor2217 Місяць тому

    Shallow

  • @MrJBest78
    @MrJBest78 Місяць тому +3

    I have learned that just because I’m single, never married, no children, that does NOT mean that I’m lonely. Just because I’m working my shift at my busy grocery store, at a concert surrounded by 30,000 people or more, OR, with family or so called friends at a packed restaurant, that also does NOT mean that I’m not ALONE.