Why I don't have a perfect MINIMALIST WARDROBE //Minimalism Struggles
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- Опубліковано 20 жов 2024
- Even though I have an extreme minimalist wardrobe, I am not in love with all the pieces I own. In this video I am going to explain why I still keep pieces in my wardrobe that are not 100% perfect.
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When we finally understand that clothes are tools not means, we are finally going to make peace with a mindful mind. Thanks for the video Lia, you are beautiful because of what you are and not the clothes you wear. 😊🙏
Oh, thank you! You said it so well! I don't dress to show off the clothes but to have them as tools so I can be my best (most comfortable) version 😉
Love how genuine and authentic your videos are 💕
the clothes themselves may not spark joy for you, but being sustainable does!!! so in the end, you technically ARE keeping what sparks joy ;P this has definetly made me think differently about what things I want to keep. Thank you Lia 😘
I agree completely! We are not our clothes! Our clothes should serve us and our needs and not us spend so much of our time, effort and emotion on them.
Yes! I think it's great to have clothes we like but they are not everything ☺
When I owned lot of clothes it was easier to find favourite items because I got to choose from so many now that I decluttered and also changed size I feel as I don’t have favourite comfy jeans or fun colours.. so I’m not sure if I should go back to maximalism again . This vid made me feel better when you say all items doesn’t need to be perfect
Just as we change as people, our wardrobe can slowly shift to be the best fit for us in the each stage of life. Really great video Lia! I think being intentional with what you have, and thinking about articles on a case by case basis is important. Glad I found your channel, just subscribed, keep it up!
Thank you for your comment! Yes I try to be intentional but still allow myself to change ☺
I'm currently on the hunt for a perfect wardrobe and youre videos really help with the overwhelming process!
I am glad the video helped you! I just found a piece I was looking for today (but on an online marketplace) so I really hope it is going to change my wardrobe for the better. But you only know once you have lived with it for a while and that is ok too... I have been improving my wardrobe for five years now and it is still a journey ☺
I just recently got rid of a majority of my clothing items in my attempt to become more sustainable. As a musician who performs a lot, I find it hard to stick to a more basic wardrobe. Especially when I also live in Canada where there is unpredictable weather. You've inspired me to challenge myself. Thanks for the amazing content.
That sounds really interesting but challenging! I am glad I could inspire you and I am sure you will find a great solution! I'd love to have a real winter here, but I am also glad that there are only a few very cold days a year in Germany ☺
What a fresh perspective - even though I know nothing’s perfect, it hadn’t even occurred to me that maybe my standards will rise as I have fewer items and because of that, “perfect” is a moving target. I appreciate your videos!
Yes! I agree! Personaly I don’t have a perfect wardrobe either, but it has become much more perfect since I started to sow my own clothes :) I often use second hand material like old t-shirts that has got a color that I like but maybe not the shape I want. Old sheets or curtains are also often good materials to make bigger items with, like dresses or pants.
Oh yes, I love upcycling old fabrics into clothes too... I realized I didn't use my sewing machine a lot and decluttered it. But maybe one day I will buy a better one and then I'd love to sew more clothes again ☺
I use to have mending evenings together with some friends. If you have a friend with a sewing machine maybe you can visit? ;)
I think the more I stay away from instagram, the happier I am with my clothes. 😂
I've found nudie jeans to have lovely deep pockets (they are mostly unisex styles, so I think that's why). They are always organic cotton and ethically made but I still buy them only secondhand because they are quite pricey.
Oh, I can totally understand that! Instagram can be an inspiration but it can also just take away creativity and being happy with yourself. Oh, that is a great tip, maybe I will look for nudie jeans too now ☺
Such a refreshing perspective. Thank you for this video! Sometimes you just need things to wear. It creates a lot of pressure to always be in pursuit of the perfect wardrobe. I think it's great to be happy with where you are, but knowing there is still room for change.
I love how you manage to bring such a complex and accurate personal truth. Great video,
in general thank you , I connect very much to everything you bring
Hi Lia, your videos always bring
me happiness. Thoroughly enjoy
all you content. There will always
be viewers in the remarks who think
they know how you must or should
arrange your wardrobe. Really.
You can do and have what you
whatever you wish. All the best.
Much love.
Thank you for this nice comment! Yes, that is true, but for this question one a lot of people we're just wondering and I thought it could actually add value to the "minimalist wardrobe" discussion ☺
I was one of the commenters on the other video, thank you so much for explaining :) Good luck finding the perfect pieces
You're welcome! 😉 I thought it was really interesting that many people asked that and therefore I thought more about it and made this video☺
I very much appreciate your thoughtful perspective on this. I found it really helpful. Thank you for creating these videos. I not only find them helpful to my own minimalism journey, but they are calming and gentle.
I totally share your frustration with the pockets in most women's jeans! Love this video! I am in a very similar place in the wardrobe process...though I think I probably have a few more pieces than you do right now. Like you, I don't want to be forever swapping things in...so I'm being super particular about whatever clothes I buy....and it takes time to find the "right" ones. Glad I found your channel!!
Just a suggestion Lia. Why do you
not start a Patreon account. It
may be worthwhile. I would gladly
support it and be a Patron. Think
about it.
I have been thinking about it and I am sure eventually I will make one. For now, I just don't know if I could do any additional content for patrons and I think that would be something I want to do in return for the support. But thank you for always being here and suggesting this! It already helps a lot when you watch the videos and comment ☺
@@ecofriendlia My pleasure Lia.
I think you are wonderful to be
studying at Uni and the mother
of a young boy. Bless you both.
To be honest I struggle a lot with this... I don't know what my style is and find it very hard to like a lot of pieces that I own. I do care what I look like, I wish I didn't, but I do (T-T) I like to look good but at the same time comfortable and this can sometimes be a struggle. I want to look at my clothes as tools or objects that help me go through my day, but it's hard to do that sometimes and leave style aside. It's not even about social media, but more about my own expectations, I guess. Your videos and Yeom videos help a lot, so hopefully, I can start making some progress and stop having this unrealistic expectations and notions regarding my clothing. Thank you~🍃
I totally get that, I was there for many years... Just keep in mind that it is a process and that it is normal to not be "there" and I am sure most of us are still figuring out our wardrobe, the same goes for me... I am sure you will reach your goal more and more over time☺ and thank you for being here! ❤
I agree with the fact if I got rid of everything I didn't like, I would not have as many practical clothing pieces. I tend to struggle a bit with purchasing to many items in a go sometimes, so I have been trying to slowly stop myself from doing that as I am trying to stop shopping. As I think we forget sometimes that what we have is enough, the annoyingness of consumerism breaking the link. There are some pieces in my closet that are 10 years old and still holding true. I had to replace my jeans at the start of the year as the seams on mine kept on coming apart and had been previously repaired, bought 3 pairs only wear 1, but on the plus side at least I have backups. But you will find great pieces eventually as well, it truly does take time and I'm the same I like to try everything on before I buy it.
To stop having more and more things I follow my very loosely placed rule of only replacing things. But If I found a piece I really want I'd also just take it with me and see later if I want to get rid of something else... Normally it works out☺ Oh yes backups seem like a gold idea as long as it's not too much ☺
I really like your thoughts on minimalism. And can associate myself with them.
Thank you for sharing.
I feel exactly the same. I decluttered and now I have clothes that fit and do their job. I don’t super love all of them. But I wear them all.
I have three pairs of jeans. I only love the one because the other two are soon worn out, but I will use them till they fall apart. I have five t-shirts, I have just bought them because my old ones did all fell apart at the same week. Then underwear, one sleep wear and one set of work out wear. My wardrobe needs sweaters because I don’t own any at the moment. Other than that I think my wardrobe is ok. I never run out of clothing when I wash two times a week. It’s not perfect but it works for me
That sounds amazingly simple! ☺
Greetings from Russia!)) I am really happy that I’ve subscribed to your channel as your videos are highly inspiring. I fully agree with you that sustainability matters a lot. It also takes me much time to find a suitable piece of clothing. And as I have spent so much time looking for it I want it to work long. And I’am lazy), I don’t want to spend so much time in shops. Unfortunately, I don’t have second hands at hand, and I don’t want to travel to the other part of the city, so the only way out door me is to shop just in one place I have found. So, I drop into it when I have to buy something. In most cases I easily buy what I want. Sometimes the item is sold out))). My wardrobe is quite minimalistic as it is only 50cm wide))) But I wish I could declutter the rest of our things... It’s extremely difficult if you have a big family(
Oh, thank you for your kind comment! It sounds like you do a great job when it comes to create and maintain your wardrobe as sustainably as possible! ☺
Again an amazing video, Lia 🤗 Thanks a lot!🍀
That's a pity with the 2nd best things 🤔 Because, of course we absolutely love our favourite clothes and want to wear them all the time - but then again they also fall apart much easier/faster and sometimes it's hard to find a similar item of the same quality...
Also that we like something just "not so much" like our most favourite objects, doesn't mean that we don't like it at all...if you like it 2nd best: that's actually VERY much...it's not like you would completely hate it, you know what I mean? 😅 for me that was such a big realisation! 🤣
(and quite healing from my little depression of not getting rid of my too-much-stuff MUCH faster😁)
Oh wow! 25€ that's actually A LOT for 2nd hand pants!! 🤤 a bit like the "fancy" chi-chi vintage depot-vente-shops in Paris 🙈
like...you could get new ones for much less, if there wouldn't be that ecofriendly/sustainability question 🤦♀️ aiaiaiii 😖
Do you guys have no Caritas/Kolping/Emmaus/Volkshilfe - shops in your city?
There they do sell clothes more affordable and it has social aspects as well, like they're employing long-term unemployed or people with special needs.
But you know...even if you said owning less makes you happier (which of course is true for all of us following the minimalist/sustainability path)
I guess there's no need in being SO focused on a certain amount of items...I think it makes not really a difference if you now have 15 or 25 items...like, it doesn't matter if you have 1 or 2 or even 10 clothing items more - For me, you still would be an EXTREME minimalist who makes intentional and sustainable decisions, is reducing her Co2impact by buying 2nd hand objects that have already been produced and by buying these, you're saving them from ending in landfill.... and who tries to inspire others by showing personal impressions of her own individual journey (AND BTW doing a great job with it👌)
THAT is SO much more than the average person out there can say, so I think you really can be a bit proud of yourself, you know? 😘
A question that I'm interested in is, what do you actually do with the old clothes that you declutter? Do you sell them or do you make creative art projects out of it, or use them as cleaning rags...that's always my problem: with the sustainability question I do have SERIOUS problems of "just" throwing away stuff 😣 I always try to find a new purpose or home for them until they fall apart...NOT easy 🙈🙈🙈
One suggestion on how to be happier with some pieces in your wardrobe would be to learn to sew and make them yourself. Of course there will be some learning curve and first pieces may be far from perfect. But eventually you will come to the point, when you have the idea of how exactly that piece should look like - how long, which color, pockets or no pockets, which neckline - and you will be able to sew something signifantly close to that picture in your head and not search for the item in thifshops for 2 years. Just an idea. Maybe not for you - but in general, for those who can be intersted in one possible solution to that. The downside of this approach is that sewing comes with stuff... like there will be some number of items you will need to keep around to sew. So maybe it is less minimal, but kind of sustainable I guess... Anyway, thanks for the video!
Yes! Totally! I do sew my own pieces sometimes or knit them, but I decluttered my sewing machine and now it is harder (the one I had was giant but really bad quality, so it was always a hassle) but making my own clothes is definitely a solution, at least for one part of the problem. Sometimes I also don't know what I need and only realize it is not perfect when I use the thing I thought was perfect before... ☺
@@ecofriendlia when I was a kid and had my first attempts on sewing - I was using my mam's sewing machine and it was really heavy and quite old and needed repairs like quite often. I feel like it was part of the reason that sewing did not become my hobby back then. But it feels much different now when I own my own machine that is new and that I can lift easily with one hand - it is so easier, it doesn't stuck and it is not bulky. So, may be one day, when you will feel like owning a sewing machine again - mentally erase the image of the one you previously owned and look for light and modern one:)) Thank you for answering and thank you for your videos - I sincerely enjoy them!!
Lovely video as usual my darling. I wish to be like you one day. Keep it up!😍🇬🇧
Thank you! I am glad you liked it, but just so you know my life is maybe not as desirable as it seems on the screen... I am sure you will find the wardrobe and lifestyle that makes you happy one day (hopefully soon) 😉
What about a capsule wardrobe? I am not sure that it is a capsule wardrobe yet. So ist would be not about pieces, but about a concept.helped me a Lot. I know someone who ist wearing second hand uniform
My style has stayed the same. My weight has not, so I do currently own items that I don't like, but for now they are practical. Good video.
My most favorite minimalist ☺️
Ohh, thank you ❤
Great video! I also keep items I don't really love simply out of the desire to "wear them out." Could you talk about what to do with clothing that is torn, or stained? I hate to throw it away but I assume that thrift stores wouldn't want these items. I would love your suggestions.
Thank you! Oh yes, that is an issue where I haven't really found a great answer yet... Maybe upcycled them into things I need but at some point, we just don't need more cleaning rags ... In the end, I think it is always better to at least recycle fabric that is not a functioning piece of clothing anymore instead of throwing ut into the regular trash...
I recently got rid of clothing that where not comfortable was not wearing and will not wear. I was left with favorite legging, jeans shirts, sweatshirts and one jacket.
That sounds amazing! ☺
This totally makes sense!
Great topic!😀
Thank you!
A very inspiring video👍
Thank you! I am glad you liked it! ☺
Tu as tout à fait raison.I am like you I am not in Love with all the pieces that I have.
Oh yes, I think this is completely normal 😉
I still have clothes i do not love and still in process of decluttering and i do it very slowly by wearing them out because i don't believe that not loving something is good enough reason for me to just throw it. If i was stupid enough to have all the access in the first place, than least i could do for the environment is to wear them out. :)
That is an amazing and very sustainable decision! I try to do that but sometimes if a piece is in good shape I give it to somebody else who wants it if I don't want it anymore. But the way you handle it is definitely safer when it gets to knowing the impact and story of your clothes! ☺
@@ecofriendlia to be completely honest, i also gave away to charities few of my items that were in excellent condition, but that was some time ago. Everything else is not new so i just wear it now. Slowly and painfully I'm going towards extreme minimalist wardrobe. :D thank you for your support and compliment, I appreciate it
This all makes sense, no need to consume more than your comfortable. All ok were all different, in lifestyle, continent, weather but a commonality is covid. This makes many things including thrift shopping very hard.. Stay healthy and safe everyone!
You are so right! And it is so much more important to protect our health and that of others than going shopping because we thought of a pretty piece we want! ☺
Perfect minimalist wardrobes exist only on perfect minimalist channels on UA-cam which are fake and I do not follow.
Truth is, being sustainable and minimalist means you wear what you already have in your wardrobe, shopping mistakes included, to the last piece of fabric and tear. That's what I do. At this stage I only own a 10% clothes which I don't like and regret buying but I don't care, I'll wear them anyway, when they're destroyed I'll think about replacing them or I'll simply keep wearing the rest I own as I can do without many pieces and don't miss owning things I used to own in the past. They're just clothes for God's sake, being a minimalist should be about conquering peace of mind forgetting about shopping and false needs, not spending our time crying over our unsustainable wardrobe! Love from Italy! 💙
I guess you are right, and perfect wardrobes don't actually exist. Maybe depending on what you call perfect. I totally understand your perspective but I think there are a lot of people that think clothes are very important even when being a minimalist. I am somewhere in between, I like to wear clothes I feel good in therefore I do give away things that don't fit me or my lifestyle and I personally think that is ok as long as I am not just throwing them into the garbage. But clothes are really not that important and I hope we all have other topics we are more passionate about ☺ and the way you handle your wardrobe does indeed sound like the most sustainable way possible!
If you love you're self you gif you're self the best..and if you dont like the item...way you can gif it away .to someone how love it..
.ore swift it with a friend.
I think you wanted to talk about the life span of clothing items...not every item in anybody's wardrobe has the same life span...one tshirt may have a 3 year life span and one may have a 5 year life span...so there will always be pieces that need to be replaced... a wardrobe can never be perfect which makes it perfect!
So true! Yes, I guess our favorite pieces (and also the low-quality ones) have the shortest life span, but that is just what it is ☺ I really like my wardrobe and how it changes over time!
@@ecofriendlia Yeah! The favorite ones...🤣 And then you dont even want ro get rid of them despite them having holes 😂
Wearing items that often, as required for so few pieces, they will not last ten years. Although I don't know how long each item would be expected to last I think you could find out. Also it is not determined by years but how many washes.
I think that's true to a point - and the sleeve-wear on Lia's sweatshirt is indicative of that! But embracing mending -- and especially _visible_ mending -- extends the life of garments a LOT.
How do you not have to do laundry all the time if you only have one of the items?
I do laundry every few days, but despite having one pair of jeans (which I do wear more than one day in a row) I do have sweatpants and linen pants so I always have enough for the few days until I do laundry again. The same goes for tops... ☺
1 Timothy 6:7:8
7for we brought nothing into the world, so that we can take nothing out of it; 8but if we have food and clothing, we will be content with these.
I live by this. This is extreme minimalism.
Well done, great video.
What's your major plz?