@semiprecious007 the camera could have already been in the kitchen. They do have a baby. Regardless, the point is his behavior and only her, the one who deal with this fool knows.
He looks just like this guy who invited me for a hot tub while his parents were at a family reunion made sure to get me by having a good night then going cold They can't say what they mean or mean what they say
My ex was yelling “STOP HITTING ME” as he was beating me almost to death in the street he stalked me in outside of my work…as soon as the confrontation started I hit record in my pocket. After 10 years it still makes me sick to hear. There’s something deeply wrong with these people.
I deleted my video, I was scared to listen and didn't even think someone would believe me even with this video bc so many times he said I was wrong, mentally exhausting
Her being quiet and just watching him, made his face crack. You can see the slight smile where he thinks he is getting away with it, followed by the gulp and nervousness.
This is exactly how my partner talks to me. We had couples therapy, and he spent the entire time gaslighting me and taking control of the narrative. He worked incredibly hard to humiliate me. The therapist saw right through it.
@@sstjohn1986 I was in a similar position about 20 years ago, he insisted on getting therapy as a couple. Within minutes of us sitting down with the therapist, the aggressive sniping, talking over me, threatening stares and other behaviours started. The therapist, he was amazing, called it right out. Was one of the few first steps I took to get out. I finally knew that others saw what I saw too and that I was not unhinged in any way. I hope that you get out
Gaslighting like this is so scary in the moment. Truly scary. Makes you feel like that person is capable of doing anything. It is a traumatizing thing to see and deal with.
Omgoodness I felt this all the time..i thought "if this is the "sometimes you", who are you really deep down?? No wonder all the feelings of safety went out the window
That's just a two year old in a man's body. He's trying to elicit a response and break her mentally. Laugh in his face. Laugh hugely. They can't stand it when anyone is happy. You can't fix these people. They don't know what love is.
It’s a form of brainwashing Constantly making you doubt your reality. That’s why, victims like myself, started recording. And the telling her that she’s crazy and she needs to get help and needs medication… Yep, I used to get told that too.
Same. I have adhd and that got used against me time and time again. Instead of being supportive like a normal human being, it was all the usual bs "you're crazy" "you're psychotic" all that lovely stuff. My new partner has NEVER pulled that crap with me. That is classic projection. No sir, I may have trauma, but you're twisted. You, sir, need serious help and possible hospitalization. Sedation too lol
I made the mistake of bringing him to my therapist sessions. By the time he had brainwashed the therapist, I was told by this therapist that I was making scenarios up. And recording stuff makes me look crazy.
The fallen children have a choice, please seek the treasure and you will never be alone, disappointed, will have peace when the trials come, and stand for justice! Jesus is the Lord of everything! Jews and gentiles wake up!
This is soooooooo validating. Some people don't understand that people like this really do exist and then they make you feel even crazier. My parents were pedophiles and then they told me that I was psychotic. I truly believed that something was wrong with me for so many years. I wish more people knew how to assess what's really going on. He doesn't really look hurt. You can tell he's acting. You see the smirk. Real who just had water thrown on them wouldn't have reacted that way.... There would be more pain in their face. Also, he wasn't even wet at all. But a lot of people would say that she's the abuser without seeing the second clip. They don't understand how these people muddy everything up.
The fact that she needs to take all those precautions because she knows he’s going to gaslight her tells you everything. People who are gaslit learn to be in hyper vigilance 24/7, I mean it, they cannot even sleep well. This woman needs to RUN away from this person. And he needs help as well, unfortunately, it’s almost impossible for someone with NPD to ever be able to accept they need help. Mad respect to anyone with NPD who seek treatment, you are true unicorns 💙
I left my abusive husband 10 months ago and this episode of gaslighting reminds me of some of the things he used to do to me. He knows the truth, I know the truth, and he knows that I know the truth, but nevertheless, he'll blame me for something I didn't do!!! Doesn't make sense, but we, the victims, have all gone through this and now we know what it was all about. I'm 65 and he tortured me for 42 years. I'm healing myself now!
Congratulations on getting out. It's definitely time to heal. Do the things you want to do and that bring you joy. I'm planning mine as well in my 50s. I don't have any support other than my adult daughter but she gets it. I'm disabled so I feel so stuck but I keep myself busy doing what brings me happiness in the meantime. I've completely disengaged.
So so so proud of you! It takes sooo much strength esp after that amount of time. You got this, life will be SO much better for you! All the good vibes your way🤍
I am happy for you. I recently got out of an almost 2 yr relationship with one. Actually, he left me and I should have left him after he had episodes like this. He would do things and then blame me when I reacted or confronted him. He loved to say that I am broken, insecure, and selfish when I have never been any of that. He was all of that! He got mad when I confronted him about his selfish and insecure actions or his lies. He'd treat me like a queen one minute and tell me how beautiful I am, and the next minute, he would calling me names, disappear, and just..eew. I hate I let him into my life, but I am getting better daily.
Omg that smirk triggered tf out of me! gave me flashbacks over here. I remember my ex injuring my leg pretty good pushing me backwards over the toilet once then insisting I hit HIM with the shower curtain rod and he was just trying to get away. Pushed it for days until I ended up apologizing for something I literally never did just to make it stop. I’m so glad I’m free of that stress 🙏🏼
I'm so sorry you had to go through that! But I'm so happy that you managed to leave that relationship. It's never as easy as "Why don't you just leave?!" I know that you don't know me, but I'm really proud of you!!! 💖 I hope the rest of your life is as stress free as possible. God bless you my darling 💕 xxx
@@ellacabella1984 oh you’re so kind 💕 thank you for being so sweet. These days I’m happily married to a lovely man who’s never so much as raised his voice at me and my ex is still miserable and jumping from one dysfunctional relationship to the next! Always much younger than him of course, to ensure he has the control. I’m glad I finally woke up and realized he’d never change.
Never in life would I ever apologized. I would of taunted him with the truth everyday. My narc brother threatened me because if girl friend told a lie on me. He threatened to kill me which started a war in my house. I said yall all deserve if other. She finally told the truth about a month later that she lied on me and it was still my fault smh. His brother came to my house when I was not home. Called a friend to kick his tail out my home. How dare you threaten me and think you coming in my home. That was dead on arrival.
Yes my sister told me to see a psychiatrist because I didn't want to drive home together with her. That scared me. The reason I said no to her suggestion to drive together was that one hour before she made a humiliating joke about when we were young and I could not defend myself bc new people were at the dinner table so I protected myself and just wanted to go home!
This is so triggering…I’m dealing with this exact situation now 😢 it’s terrifying watching someone try to manipulate you and what you see with your own eyes by insulting you.
Once you realize you are with a narc, it’s good to try to safely record some of the foul stuff they do because they’ll have you questioning everything. Seeing this video helps her to rebuild her confidence and trust in herself.
But remember these people are off the chain so if she were to get caught by him having videos saved of him being an evil demon, he could potentially loose his mind and hurt her.
Love her foresight to film him before he did it. But I also know when it gets to the point you're recording, you're so stressed to confirm what's real.
My ex husband didn't do this but he definitely would say horrible things to me and when I would bring it up later he would straight faced say "I never said that" and I'm like wowwww. I had to record all our conversations after that.
Lee I think you should know you’re doing SO much good, and clearing a lot of karma you’ve been carrying with you in the process. You didn’t let that evil take you, you took it and transcended it for good. That is powerful man ❤
I've had someone gaslight me tons of times. I eventually snapped and called it out. I told them that the argumwnts they were presenting were manipulative and insulting and explained to them why that was. Then I told them to never pull that shitt on me again. After I started checking them on it, they started checking themselves. Arguing against gaslighting is useless, call it out.
Her captions are all too familiar. I hope she's out or making plans to be out. I'm stuck, but my complete avoidance of any discussion appears to be working for now. I've completely disengaged. I use to stand up for myself because I didn't want my daughter's to see me take this crap. He just made me look crazy for years. They're old enough now to be figuring it out.
This was my life for over a decade. Now, I’m just protecting my peace… and sanity, tbh. Love how you, as a diagnosed narcissist; bring awareness from a view that most will never show. I applaud you, sir. 👏👏👏 💯🫡 Thank you! 🙏
This is how my younger sister ended up in jail after getting beat when she confronted her ex about cheating on her. She’s petite and she’s is not confrontational or anything. He went ham on her she tried to get him off and he called the cops on her because she was DEFENDING HERSELF. He is 3 times bigger than her and has no history of violence or abuse on her record.
Similar happened to me. I was in jail absolutely covered in bruises. He had me arrested bc he had one single scratch on him. Not three, not four, one single. All the female inmates were like, omg what happened to you? Look at her! Easily one of the worst experiences of my life. That’s when I learned the difference bw a bad relationship and an actual life ruiner.
The problem with narcissist going to therapy is they lie so much that the chance of them actually being honest to a therapist is almost 100% not gonna happen and for them to admit that they are piece of shit. It’s just not in their nature like their number one rule that they are better than everybody
Was living with my Narc mother last year because she is disabled, broke her arm, needed help and I was hoping to save. I should have known better, but ultimately, when she realized she couldn’t control me, she did what she always does and called the police to file false charges. Not only did I have a witness, but I was Facebook live streaming her the entire time that way she couldn’t say I “manipulated” the footage (even when she is caught red handed & recorded, she gaslights even harder and claims I’m able to manipulate videos 😂). So I started live streaming her gaslighting & well, now our entire small town knows what she is. I have a restraining order against her now. Even though I took down the original live stream, dozens of my followers and friends screen recorded it too. It’s sad we have to always be vigilant around them - which is why I cut her & the flying monkeys out of my life.
Ugh I'm so sorry. You even went to take care of her too. 😢. My mother was very manipulative. I had to go no contact at an early age. It's hard being an Orphan,but there are lovely people who will invite you into their family.
Been here so many times. Made a stupid decision ti bring him to my therapy sessions. He brainwashed the the therapist . By the time i realised what was wrong the therapist told me i was making scenarios up and recording him was making me look crazy. That was the day i left therapy
They're able to brainwash people very easily. Our situation with my sisters, the other family took down the men in our family, three churches, and my cousins in their state to their side, and they're trying to break my sister who married in right now. This video is the two main men in their family. If we didn't trust in God, I don't know what we'd do.
This is just about water. But man it makes me think about every time I was gaslit and just had no clue. Told I was crazy. It does make you crazy lol. What a horrible thing to do to somebody else. Make them question reality with lies because you don’t have the balls enough to take accountability.
I think it was also about inconveniencing her. I think she had it out because she needed it for something & he was jealous or angry that she had that thing to do.
I can already tell she fell for him because he initially used mountains of charm and attentiveness. Because I think a lot of women would wonder if he’s even playing for our team. Also, there is a baggie of something on the table, so you have gaslighting, possibly someone who enjoys getting fuel from women AND men, and possible addiction…. YUP, sounds Narkie to me.
That’s hilarious once they realize they’re being recorded they put the act on and flip the script and it’s funny when they don’t know you got recording of them not knowing it’s a sad world we live in when we got these fk’d up jerks playing mind games that and make you out to look crazy which is why we all need body cams now smh…
I am laughing. Oh the memories. Yep!!! So true Lee. Why always the "crazy" or "psychotic" title? Do they not realize the mind games are dangerous? Truly confuses the other party. I used to say "I'm confused" over and over again towards the end.
The water stops like right before it gets to him. Homie is crazy and needs serious help, that’s the type of person to hurt you when leaving though.. I hope this girl gets the strength to leave and has a good support system to help her.
@MegaMommaUlman The micro movements with his head and mouth are extremely effeminate. Also, men who are not comfortable with their sexuality, tend to have deep resentment and frustration (not stemming from any one action) towards women, as they have repressed sexual needs that are not being met.
@MegaMommaUlman He's possibly a guy on the DL and taking it out on her instead of walking in his truth. He possibly hates women deep down inside because he wants to freely be one. So instead of being real with himself he bullies her because he hates himself. Then the fact that he calls her homie,bro ,dude like she's not his lady is very weird! That's what I got from it idk I could be wrong. Being gas lit doesn't feel good.
This is precisely why they need to make a distinction between domestic violence and domestic abuse. Because the Court's view it all the same when the judge sees that you don't have black eyes and bruises many times they will dismiss you and write you off as though you're crazy and complaining only adding to the abuse that you suffer. I have witnessed this first hand and it's so sad. You can definitely suffer major abuse even though you don't have a black eye. But they will act as though you should be grateful because some people literally have broken bones and bruises as if you being destroyed from the inside out it's not that big of a deal. It's very sad
My creepy coworker asked me do I have boots. I said for what? He said because his friend told him about this nice restaurant and he wants to pick me up from my home and take me on his Harley motorcycle. I told him no thank you. Next day was Valentine’s Day he brought food and a valentine card for me. I rejected it and told him I don’t want anything from him and to leave me alone. I never in my life had to tell someone no so much in one week. He was opening doors and cleaning my car windows. Basically trying to make me feel indebted to him. I guess it dawned on him finally that I wasn’t falling for his nice guy act and he was harassing me and I might report him. This man told me he doesn’t date co workers he was just trying to be my brother in Christ 🥴
I believe you I had a coworker follow me to my car after work to try to invite me to dinner lmao when I turned him down he told people I was crazy and wouldn't leave him alone. He turned around and was reported to HR for harrassing someone else then he tried to vent to me while on the clock!! He was so weird he got into trouble again for being aggressive to his clients and starting smear campaigns on women!!He found a new job thank God!!!😂😂😂😂
Thank you! Sometimes it is difficult to simply explain what this is to people. This guy is able to believe his own lies. He probably tried to say he was just kidding after being presented with the video proof of his actions. Or he doubled down on his innocence.
I go through this with my bipolar partner 😵💫🤦🏾♀️.... I know exactly what she's going through. Can't defend yourself because it escalates to them screaming and breaking stuff Can't walk away because it escalates You are always the bad guy even though you have done nothing what so ever . Sis we both need to run run run and run some more
My wife thinks that when she pokes me and I get annoyed and then protect my boundaries, but have a little fear of her so I smile , but it is a fear smile, that I am the narcissist. The other day in the car I asked her something and she said “ if you don’t stop I am going to smack the sheet out of you”. I was driving and she adjusted herself so I flinched and took my hands off the wheel. She then called me crazy for taking my hands off the wheel! She then compared me to one of her male business associates and asked why I could not act more like him. I felt like saying “ I used to be just like him before I married you and all of a sudden your narcissistic personality popped out”! Every one thinks she is a doll and so sweet and beautiful. Truth is everyone she has in her “ newer” friends circle whether male or female” are all there because they have something to offer in terms of her business or her appearance or they are famous in some way”. Little do any of them know what really would happen if she was living with them. Her own family wants almost nothing to do with her !
Definitely plan your exit plan. She's ready to take it physical. I'm so sorry it's really hard to be a male and deal with this when it reaches a physical point. You will be the villain if she plays her cards right. Leave the house or stop car and silently walk away. You've got a real challenge with that one. Glad you're seeking information and support.
I lived with one of these types, as a roommate, and he convinced everyone I was insane when I moved out. Only after a police officer told him to stop stalking me and he left me alone, he found a new victim which was previously a mutual friend. I will never forget having a conversation with his new victim over a case of beer a few months later, who apologized and told me that the narc was a psychopath.
Icing on the cake and ironic that he’s listening to Chris Brown. I hope she leaves him a person like that will never change for her, too far gone unfortunately #smh
They appear to have a child too 😢. It's so hard to leave a narcissist when you have children. You're tied to them for life and the courts don't see it. It gets ugly in court. Glad she's getting proof. The day my kids turned 18 was incredible. I wou only use email to talk about the kids or visits. Unfortunately his genes won out and lost my son to the narcissism. He was hitting full bloom with his. I miss my son,but I cannot trust him at all. There is definitely a genetic component.
In my experience with Narcissist they all make the same facial expressions when caught or confronted. It’s real triggering to watch this. Thank you for the awareness
Even if she did not have video of him doing it you can tell he's lying. After my ex casually and callously told me he was having an affair for months and I wasn't allowed to be upset because "taking other girls on dates isn't cheating until I sleep with them," I started recording and he started yelling at the top of his lungs saying he never said that I made it up. He forgot he has cameras in his house so I told him to roll his house cameras then and prove he never said it, and he kept making excuses as to why he didn't want to roll his house cameras. So even though I wasn't quick enough to get him actually saying it, you can totally tell by his actions that he did say it and is just saving face. But then happens all the time and it leads me to more confusion because I thought narcissists truly believed what they were saying. However if he really did think he wasn't doing anything wrong then why didn't he double down when he saw I started recording? That's when I learned what reactive abuse is. He knew what he was saying was ridiculous. He just wanted me to react. That's why the angrier I got the wider his smile and the more ridiculous his statements became
I had an abusive narcissistic ex, he still lives with us. But I’m trying to make plans to move secretly… I tried audio recording him but he nearly broke my phone. Idk what’s worse, the psychological or physical abuse smh.
Please be safe, and yes, make all your moves in silence. You may have to leave some of your possessions behind, but your peace and emotional wellbeing are far more valuable. They can become crazed and dangerous when they know you’re trying to escape them.
Be careful. My bf has broken two of my phones, my tv, my walls. He also beat me really bad. We’re on the path to recovery, and I believe in him. But! I also am not scared of my bf when he is sober. So I keep him sober now the best I can. I guess what I’m saying is, you might need to get out before he beats you too. It isn’t worth the pain and fear. But I found a way to forgive my bf and we’re working on his issues together.
@@jailenecisneros7586 Although you love him, this is seriously unhealthy and you’re only safe for now. You are in a toxic and dangerous relationship. Also, It’s not your job to keep him sober. His sobriety is his responsibility. You are engaging in codependent behavior. Please research this and try to break this toxic cycle. Dr. Ramini has some excellent videos on dangerous narcissists.
it took him everything not to smirk seeing her face after that accusation, but he's still so committed to the bit 8/10 acting, so glad i don't have anyone in my life atm that is so overt, hope she's gotten support, wishing better for both of them
While she was secretly filming him he threw water on the table then put the water bottle against his own face it must've dried. He's a clown I wish we could get an update!!!🤡
You could tell by the smug look on his face after he accused her that he was lying. People like this get off on the sense of power they get when subjecting someone to this psychological torture.
Dude!!! That hit me in my inner child feels! No wonder i dont play well with others... i like how he yells and then demands you make eye contact so he can make it all your fault.
There was a high chair in the room. Imagine the POS as a father for the next 18 years. Good for her recording this. She is going to need this evidence if he would lie about water...what else would he lie about.
I started recording my ex for THIS very reason!!! I'm disabled & one of my meds causes memory issues. HOWEVER!!! Bc he knew this, he thought he would get by with gaslighting me better. But I got smart & protected myself. I recorded our fights for MY sanity!!! I knew I wasn't saying what he said I did & I knew I was saying what he said I didn't. Sometimes you have to protect yourself from the toxicity!!! I eventually got out of his clutches, but it took me too many years. After him, I FINALLY started therapy & let's just say I not only did more introspection than before, but learned a few things about trauma bonding. Thank God I broke yet another cycle that stemmed from my egg donor.
You can even see from the splatter of the droplets on the table that it came from his direction🤣 there's almost no water directly in front of him and tons of it splattered toward her! If she threw water at him it would've landed all over the table directly in front of him instead of on the otherside. 🥴
Cameras and recording devices are so helpful in toxic abusive situations. I recorded my DV ex and turned it into the police. He completely denied it. They charged him and took him to jail. The court accepts hidden recordings in dv situations to be used as evidence. For those who say that you need to state that you’re recording for it to be legal, it is a whistleblower law.
I’m so glad she got it recorded.
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@@MentalHealnessLee, isn’t the angle and timing of the video suspicious?
@semiprecious007 the camera could have already been in the kitchen. They do have a baby. Regardless, the point is his behavior and only her, the one who deal with this fool knows.
@@eileenfuentes6975 I’m sure the camera was already there either way I’m glad it was on record
Yup, brings to mind Dave Chappelle's "gotcha b*tch!" 😂
One step away from a domestic violence assault.
Dude is OBNOXIOUS = GONE
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He looks just like this guy who invited me for a hot tub while his parents were at a family reunion made sure to get me by having a good night then going cold
They can't say what they mean or mean what they say
Only , 😂im now old enough to not gaf young enough to do it again 😂it meaning weather the storms
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Fair. We all learn thru love and war! Take care!
He calls her dude, bro and homie.
He would call me "my nigga" and I would be puzzled and I would ask if that meant he was now my bit#@ and I could bend him over, he went silent .
i think he also calls other things "fabulous"
Look at earings , so dead give away
Immature
He looks like a man child. What's sad is they have a child.
Bcuz he doesnt want to admit what he is really into.
He even called her psychotic, which the literal definition means a break from reality....
I read that they always accuse u of what they're doing.
So much projection in this gaslight 😳
Dude clearly knows he's broken
My ex was yelling “STOP HITTING ME” as he was beating me almost to death in the street he stalked me in outside of my work…as soon as the confrontation started I hit record in my pocket. After 10 years it still makes me sick to hear. There’s something deeply wrong with these people.
I deleted my video, I was scared to listen and didn't even think someone would believe me even with this video bc so many times he said I was wrong, mentally exhausting
How did you record with the phone in your pocket?
@@brendarewan7441 …..you hit…record….🤯
@@brendarewan7441She recorded the audio, she didn’t film the incident.
I know--it's like there are no words to describe the level of twisted psychopathy they have. No words. 🩷
Her being quiet and just watching him, made his face crack. You can see the slight smile where he thinks he is getting away with it, followed by the gulp and nervousness.
It’s called “Dupers Delight” Just one more sick thing these POS’s do when they’re proud of their behavior.
thats a demon
That’s exactly what it is. Spirit of Leviathan and Jezebel.
I don't even need no characters from books to tell me that's a demon.
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Yup
@@newdayrestoration5391you said it !!!!!
This is exactly how my partner talks to me. We had couples therapy, and he spent the entire time gaslighting me and taking control of the narrative. He worked incredibly hard to humiliate me. The therapist saw right through it.
Thank god your therapist saw through it, but you really need to leave him if you can
@@sstjohn1986 I was in a similar position about 20 years ago, he insisted on getting therapy as a couple. Within minutes of us sitting down with the therapist, the aggressive sniping, talking over me, threatening stares and other behaviours started. The therapist, he was amazing, called it right out. Was one of the few first steps I took to get out. I finally knew that others saw what I saw too and that I was not unhinged in any way. I hope that you get out
My therapist believed him. He's so charming. He did/does this kind of BS to me all the time.
@@banana13claribelthat's not ok. It's a serious form of phycological abuse. You could break one day if you don't get out of that situation
Gaslighting like this is so scary in the moment. Truly scary. Makes you feel like that person is capable of doing anything. It is a traumatizing thing to see and deal with.
They are capable of anything!! Everybody be careful!
Omgoodness I felt this all the time..i thought "if this is the "sometimes you", who are you really deep down?? No wonder all the feelings of safety went out the window
You are so right! Can mess with you for yeeeaaaaarrrrrsss.
Because they are capable of anything to save their own self image.
That's just a two year old in a man's body. He's trying to elicit a response and break her mentally. Laugh in his face. Laugh hugely. They can't stand it when anyone is happy.
You can't fix these people. They don't know what love is.
This is EXACTLY what they look and sound like! Girl RUN
It’s a form of brainwashing
Constantly making you doubt your reality. That’s why, victims like myself, started recording. And the telling her that she’s crazy and she needs to get help and needs medication… Yep, I used to get told that too.
never doubt yourself, if they say otherwise and put you down then let those demons go
Same. I have adhd and that got used against me time and time again. Instead of being supportive like a normal human being, it was all the usual bs "you're crazy" "you're psychotic" all that lovely stuff. My new partner has NEVER pulled that crap with me. That is classic projection. No sir, I may have trauma, but you're twisted. You, sir, need serious help and possible hospitalization. Sedation too lol
I made the mistake of bringing him to my therapist sessions. By the time he had brainwashed the therapist, I was told by this therapist that I was making scenarios up. And recording stuff makes me look crazy.
The fallen children have a choice, please seek the treasure and you will never be alone, disappointed, will have peace when the trials come, and stand for justice! Jesus is the Lord of everything! Jews and gentiles wake up!
I absolutely HATE gaslighting. 😭😫🥺
This is soooooooo validating. Some people don't understand that people like this really do exist and then they make you feel even crazier. My parents were pedophiles and then they told me that I was psychotic. I truly believed that something was wrong with me for so many years. I wish more people knew how to assess what's really going on. He doesn't really look hurt. You can tell he's acting. You see the smirk. Real who just had water thrown on them wouldn't have reacted that way.... There would be more pain in their face. Also, he wasn't even wet at all. But a lot of people would say that she's the abuser without seeing the second clip. They don't understand how these people muddy everything up.
Whats sick is that he seems to be enjoying what hes doing, like he actually gets off on it and thinks its funny.
He definitely thinks he's the smartest person in the room.
Yeah wouldn’t be evil if someone didn’t enjoy bad things
that's precisely what's happening.
That's because he does!
Enjoyment is why they do it. 🤷🏽♀️
The fact that she needs to take all those precautions because she knows he’s going to gaslight her tells you everything. People who are gaslit learn to be in hyper vigilance 24/7, I mean it, they cannot even sleep well. This woman needs to RUN away from this person. And he needs help as well, unfortunately, it’s almost impossible for someone with NPD to ever be able to accept they need help.
Mad respect to anyone with NPD who seek treatment, you are true unicorns 💙
I left my abusive husband 10 months ago and this episode of gaslighting reminds me of some of the things he used to do to me. He knows the truth, I know the truth, and he knows that I know the truth, but nevertheless, he'll blame me for something I didn't do!!! Doesn't make sense, but we, the victims, have all gone through this and now we know what it was all about.
I'm 65 and he tortured me for 42 years. I'm healing myself now!
Congratulations on getting out.
It's definitely time to heal. Do the things you want to do and that bring you joy.
I'm planning mine as well in my 50s. I don't have any support other than my adult daughter but she gets it. I'm disabled so I feel so stuck but I keep myself busy doing what brings me happiness in the meantime. I've completely disengaged.
So so so proud of you! It takes sooo much strength esp after that amount of time. You got this, life will be SO much better for you! All the good vibes your way🤍
Good for you.
He knows the truth, I know the truth, he knows I know the truth but nevertheless!!!
Perfectly said! They will still hold on to the lie no matter what.
I am happy for you. I recently got out of an almost 2 yr relationship with one. Actually, he left me and I should have left him after he had episodes like this. He would do things and then blame me when I reacted or confronted him. He loved to say that I am broken, insecure, and selfish when I have never been any of that. He was all of that! He got mad when I confronted him about his selfish and insecure actions or his lies. He'd treat me like a queen one minute and tell me how beautiful I am, and the next minute, he would calling me names, disappear, and just..eew. I hate I let him into my life, but I am getting better daily.
Omg that smirk triggered tf out of me! gave me flashbacks over here. I remember my ex injuring my leg pretty good pushing me backwards over the toilet once then insisting I hit HIM with the shower curtain rod and he was just trying to get away. Pushed it for days until I ended up apologizing for something I literally never did just to make it stop. I’m so glad I’m free of that stress 🙏🏼
I'm so sorry you had to go through that! But I'm so happy that you managed to leave that relationship. It's never as easy as "Why don't you just leave?!"
I know that you don't know me, but I'm really proud of you!!! 💖 I hope the rest of your life is as stress free as possible.
God bless you my darling 💕 xxx
@@ellacabella1984 oh you’re so kind 💕 thank you for being so sweet. These days I’m happily married to a lovely man who’s never so much as raised his voice at me and my ex is still miserable and jumping from one dysfunctional relationship to the next! Always much younger than him of course, to ensure he has the control. I’m glad I finally woke up and realized he’d never change.
My husband broke my leg and gave the same excuse. I couldn't walk for three months, and I still live in constant pain
@@grace52775 I’m so sorry. I hope at least that you were able to get away from him 🤍
Never in life would I ever apologized. I would of taunted him with the truth everyday. My narc brother threatened me because if girl friend told a lie on me. He threatened to kill me which started a war in my house. I said yall all deserve if other. She finally told the truth about a month later that she lied on me and it was still my fault smh. His brother came to my house when I was not home. Called a friend to kick his tail out my home. How dare you threaten me and think you coming in my home. That was dead on arrival.
Pure evil that tries to literally kill you slowly.
Energy vampires, Satan incarnate.
That smirk at the end was bone chilling tbh... who knows what he would do when he inevitably escalates 😮
My narc has the same exact smirk. Disgusting
A guy who calls his lady “bruh” and “homie” like this..in a serious moment.. mad disrespectful and childish as heck. Yuck!!!!! Plus the narc behavior
Yes, I completely agree. he's a child cosplaying as an adult. Get away from these types. They 100% unadulterated pure cray-cray.
"You need to be hospitalized" is the scariest part of this.
Yes my sister told me to see a psychiatrist because I didn't want to drive home together with her. That scared me.
The reason I said no to her suggestion to drive together was that one hour before she made a humiliating joke about when we were young and I could not defend myself bc new people were at the dinner table so I protected myself and just wanted to go home!
The gaslighting and projection is very real!
Yep. I got so tired of being told I was mentally ill....
This was my now ex-husband. I quit caring about what I thought other people were thinking and rescued myself.
This “dude” is *zesty* as hell, homieee 😂😂😂😂
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He expected her to shout back but she didn't so he stopped.
This is so triggering…I’m dealing with this exact situation now 😢 it’s terrifying watching someone try to manipulate you and what you see with your own eyes by insulting you.
Once you realize you are with a narc, it’s good to try to safely record some of the foul stuff they do because they’ll have you questioning everything. Seeing this video helps her to rebuild her confidence and trust in herself.
But remember these people are off the chain so if she were to get caught by him having videos saved of him being an evil demon, he could potentially loose his mind and hurt her.
@@fizarrah Very true. That’s why I said “safely”. Be smart about it.
My ex did this to me all the time. It can really mess with your mental health. Good for her for recording it and seeing truth.
Love her foresight to film him before he did it. But I also know when it gets to the point you're recording, you're so stressed to confirm what's real.
People like this are extremely dangerous. They will destroy you and everything you’ve worked hard for.
My ex husband didn't do this but he definitely would say horrible things to me and when I would bring it up later he would straight faced say "I never said that" and I'm like wowwww. I had to record all our conversations after that.
Did you divorce him? respectfully
@@daintyone4617 yes he's my EX husband.
@@daintyone4617 she said ex
Good that he's your EX. Look after yourself xx
Plot twist: the guy just has BPD and short-term memory loss
Lee I think you should know you’re doing SO much good, and clearing a lot of karma you’ve been carrying with you in the process. You didn’t let that evil take you, you took it and transcended it for good. That is powerful man ❤
You can tell the water was nowhere close to him. Drops are away from him...not even close to his sweater. He is sick😢
He put some on his face while she was recording him so he did it to himself and it must've dried
I've had someone gaslight me tons of times. I eventually snapped and called it out. I told them that the argumwnts they were presenting were manipulative and insulting and explained to them why that was. Then I told them to never pull that shitt on me again. After I started checking them on it, they started checking themselves. Arguing against gaslighting is useless, call it out.
A true narcissist wouldn't adjust Or stick around in my opinion. Likely dealing with some cluster b personality, though.
Although I agree with the previous person's comment, How do you call it out?
Her captions towards the end are🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 They will gaslight tf out of you, and there is NO acceptable response. Including no response🤣🤣😭😭🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
Yeah, they'll just throw a hissy fit if you point out all the flaws in their logic, actively ignoring the very valid points you just brought up
@@octoberwildsmoke9065 Yup, total meltdown
Her captions are all too familiar.
I hope she's out or making plans to be out.
I'm stuck, but my complete avoidance of any discussion appears to be working for now. I've completely disengaged. I use to stand up for myself because I didn't want my daughter's to see me take this crap. He just made me look crazy for years. They're old enough now to be figuring it out.
@@naturegazer6749 I'm so sorry to hear that, but I'm glad you seem to have found a tactic that helps. Disengaging helped me In my experience as well.
This was my life for over a decade. Now, I’m just protecting my peace… and sanity, tbh. Love how you, as a diagnosed narcissist; bring awareness from a view that most will never show. I applaud you, sir. 👏👏👏
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Thank you! 🙏
This is how my younger sister ended up in jail after getting beat when she confronted her ex about cheating on her. She’s petite and she’s is not confrontational or anything. He went ham on her she tried to get him off and he called the cops on her because she was DEFENDING HERSELF. He is 3 times bigger than her and has no history of violence or abuse on her record.
AND if course the MAKE cops believed him😮
Similar happened to me. I was in jail absolutely covered in bruises. He had me arrested bc he had one single scratch on him. Not three, not four, one single. All the female inmates were like, omg what happened to you? Look at her! Easily one of the worst experiences of my life. That’s when I learned the difference bw a bad relationship and an actual life ruiner.
You can see the slight smirk on his face that comes and goes as he breaks in and out of character
They all have severe anger issues, they need therapy. I was with one for 8 years… 8 yrs too long.
The problem with narcissist going to therapy is they lie so much that the chance of them actually being honest to a therapist is almost 100% not gonna happen and for them to admit that they are piece of shit. It’s just not in their nature like their number one rule that they are better than everybody
When your partner makes you the enemy, your relationship is OVER. LEAVE.
Was living with my Narc mother last year because she is disabled, broke her arm, needed help and I was hoping to save. I should have known better, but ultimately, when she realized she couldn’t control me, she did what she always does and called the police to file false charges.
Not only did I have a witness, but I was Facebook live streaming her the entire time that way she couldn’t say I “manipulated” the footage (even when she is caught red handed & recorded, she gaslights even harder and claims I’m able to manipulate videos 😂).
So I started live streaming her gaslighting & well, now our entire small town knows what she is. I have a restraining order against her now.
Even though I took down the original live stream, dozens of my followers and friends screen recorded it too. It’s sad we have to always be vigilant around them - which is why I cut her & the flying monkeys out of my life.
that's pretty epic ngl
I had a similar situation 😔
Ugh I'm so sorry. You even went to take care of her too. 😢.
My mother was very manipulative. I had to go no contact at an early age. It's hard being an Orphan,but there are lovely people who will invite you into their family.
@@naturegazer6749 same here
This is genius.
He acted like he was a victim so well...that's scary!! Most police would believe him, if you hadn't gotten that on video!! 😮
@@GG-vv1zq I’m ashamed to say even I believed he was the victim at first until the evidence came out.
Yeah he needs to go. He’s nuts
You can literally see him trying not to smile. Its fun for him
Been here so many times. Made a stupid decision ti bring him to my therapy sessions. He brainwashed the the therapist . By the time i realised what was wrong the therapist told me i was making scenarios up and recording him was making me look crazy. That was the day i left therapy
But not the relationship? What?
And him too...
Right?
They're able to brainwash people very easily. Our situation with my sisters, the other family took down the men in our family, three churches, and my cousins in their state to their side, and they're trying to break my sister who married in right now. This video is the two main men in their family. If we didn't trust in God, I don't know what we'd do.
You weren't the one needing therapy. And what a lousy useless therapist. I've seen many of them.
Your therapist was unfit
That's NOT gaslighting, that's flat OUT LYING
It's even sadder to see that a baby/small child is involved (the highchair).
Even his shirt says DRIP lol
This is just about water. But man it makes me think about every time I was gaslit and just had no clue. Told I was crazy. It does make you crazy lol. What a horrible thing to do to somebody else. Make them question reality with lies because you don’t have the balls enough to take accountability.
I think it was also about inconveniencing her. I think she had it out because she needed it for something & he was jealous or angry that she had that thing to do.
Bro, that is a perfect example of doopers' delight. When he smirks at the end. Yikes.
And he’s overselling it at that…🤦🏾♀️
Maggie thank you for saying the Truth!!! Will never forget it!!! Im so proud of you!!!❤❤❤
I can already tell she fell for him because he initially used mountains of charm and attentiveness. Because I think a lot of women would wonder if he’s even playing for our team. Also, there is a baggie of something on the table, so you have gaslighting, possibly someone who enjoys getting fuel from women AND men, and possible addiction…. YUP, sounds Narkie to me.
You can clearly see the pattern of which the water was thrown, from his direction. What a GREAT human.
😶 I'm so glad the other camera was running... I'd save it all, send to a lawyer, because he also admitting to wanting them committed. 😒🚮
His T-shirt actually says “Barbaric vibes” in Japanese 😂
That’s hilarious once they realize they’re being recorded they put the act on and flip the script and it’s funny when they don’t know you got recording of them not knowing it’s a sad world we live in when we got these fk’d up jerks playing mind games that and make you out to look crazy which is why we all need body cams now smh…
He's with the wrong partner and I'm not talking about her gaslighting 😂
I am laughing. Oh the memories. Yep!!! So true Lee. Why always the "crazy" or "psychotic" title? Do they not realize the mind games are dangerous? Truly confuses the other party. I used to say "I'm confused" over and over again towards the end.
The water stops like right before it gets to him. Homie is crazy and needs serious help, that’s the type of person to hurt you when leaving though.. I hope this girl gets the strength to leave and has a good support system to help her.
Total narcissistic he is.
Omg my ex, they make you think you’re going crazy, tell you that you need to take medication. Pure evil.
Before I even saw proof I had anxiety the look in his face was like flashbacks to my ex
Once you've experienced it and got out, it's easier to see and so triggering I agree. Especially the smirk.
@@tinap8227 yes the wicked smirk tells you it was planned and
This guy looks like he's.... suppressing his true identity. That's probably why he's a narcissist. He's terrified of who he truly is.
Proof he knows exactly what he is doing
He can't stand her and is definitely living on the DL with his ZESTY SELF! These Narcs be out here NARC'N!
Anyone else think his suppressed sexuality is what is causing his inner shame and guilt and thus projecting and abusing those around him?
Yep…I peeped that too👀
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Wow? Can you explain more? I would like this perspective?
@MegaMommaUlman The micro movements with his head and mouth are extremely effeminate. Also, men who are not comfortable with their sexuality, tend to have deep resentment and frustration (not stemming from any one action) towards women, as they have repressed sexual needs that are not being met.
@MegaMommaUlman He's possibly a guy on the DL and taking it out on her instead of walking in his truth. He possibly hates women deep down inside because he wants to freely be one. So instead of being real with himself he bullies her because he hates himself. Then the fact that he calls her homie,bro ,dude like she's not his lady is very weird!
That's what I got from it idk I could be wrong. Being gas lit doesn't feel good.
This is precisely why they need to make a distinction between domestic violence and domestic abuse. Because the Court's view it all the same when the judge sees that you don't have black eyes and bruises many times they will dismiss you and write you off as though you're crazy and complaining only adding to the abuse that you suffer. I have witnessed this first hand and it's so sad. You can definitely suffer major abuse even though you don't have a black eye. But they will act as though you should be grateful because some people literally have broken bones and bruises as if you being destroyed from the inside out it's not that big of a deal. It's very sad
My creepy coworker asked me do I have boots. I said for what? He said because his friend told him about this nice restaurant and he wants to pick me up from my home and take me on his Harley motorcycle. I told him no thank you. Next day was Valentine’s Day he brought food and a valentine card for me. I rejected it and told him I don’t want anything from him and to leave me alone. I never in my life had to tell someone no so much in one week. He was opening doors and cleaning my car windows. Basically trying to make me feel indebted to him. I guess it dawned on him finally that I wasn’t falling for his nice guy act and he was harassing me and I might report him. This man told me he doesn’t date co workers he was just trying to be my brother in Christ 🥴
I believe you I had a coworker follow me to my car after work to try to invite me to dinner lmao when I turned him down he told people I was crazy and wouldn't leave him alone. He turned around and was reported to HR for harrassing someone else then he tried to vent to me while on the clock!! He was so weird he got into trouble again for being aggressive to his clients and starting smear campaigns on women!!He found a new job thank God!!!😂😂😂😂
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That was so creepy of him…. I’m so sorry you went through that..
On my ....
Yeah that’s not gaslighting though. It’s stalking and harassment.
Thank you! Sometimes it is difficult to simply explain what this is to people. This guy is able to believe his own lies. He probably tried to say he was just kidding after being presented with the video proof of his actions. Or he doubled down on his innocence.
That's the terrifying part, the fact that they adamantly believe their lies to be true and in some cases harmless.
You can tell he’s “Acting”
He’s Laughing on the inside.
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Everything about a narc is like a couple computer digital programs...very predictable 😂
@@hardwiredtoself-destructio7614that disgusting piece of a 🐱
That's because this whole thing is a skit
He is totally unconvincing, despite a lifetime of experience. Gives me the Willie’s, like all narcs.
That’s Diddy saying he didn’t do anything before the video came out
The smirk said it all!
Amazing how he thinks the louder and more upset he gets will show how innocent he is, but it actually just shows his guilt!
It’s also a bullying and intimidation tactic.
I go through this with my bipolar partner 😵💫🤦🏾♀️....
I know exactly what she's going through.
Can't defend yourself because it escalates to them screaming and breaking stuff
Can't walk away because it escalates
You are always the bad guy even though you have done nothing what so ever .
Sis we both need to run run run and run some more
My wife thinks that when she pokes me and I get annoyed and then protect my boundaries, but have a little fear of her so I smile , but it is a fear smile, that I am the narcissist. The other day in the car I asked her something and she said “ if you don’t stop I am going to smack the sheet out of you”. I was driving and she adjusted herself so I flinched and took my hands off the wheel. She then called me crazy for taking my hands off the wheel!
She then compared me to one of her male business associates and asked why I could not act more like him.
I felt like saying “ I used to be just like him before I married you and all of a sudden your narcissistic personality popped out”!
Every one thinks she is a doll and so sweet and beautiful. Truth is everyone she has in her “ newer” friends circle whether male or female” are all there because they have something to offer in terms of her business or her appearance or they are famous in some way”. Little do any of them know what really would happen if she was living with them. Her own family wants almost nothing to do with her !
Start planning your escape dude
Just leave, they manipulate us so much while in relationship that we think there is nothing better outside. But alone is the best option
Get out!
Definitely plan your exit plan. She's ready to take it physical.
I'm so sorry it's really hard to be a male and deal with this when it reaches a physical point. You will be the villain if she plays her cards right. Leave the house or stop car and silently walk away. You've got a real challenge with that one.
Glad you're seeking information and support.
I lived with one of these types, as a roommate, and he convinced everyone I was insane when I moved out. Only after a police officer told him to stop stalking me and he left me alone, he found a new victim which was previously a mutual friend. I will never forget having a conversation with his new victim over a case of beer a few months later, who apologized and told me that the narc was a psychopath.
He's not even a good actor. I lived with this BS for 20 years it nearly drove me insane. I thank God everyday I got away from my abuser.
This guy is evil !!! 🏃♀️ RUN!!
thank you finally the truth comes out
Icing on the cake and ironic that he’s listening to Chris Brown. I hope she leaves him a person like that will never change for her, too far gone unfortunately #smh
They appear to have a child too 😢. It's so hard to leave a narcissist when you have children. You're tied to them for life and the courts don't see it. It gets ugly in court. Glad she's getting proof.
The day my kids turned 18 was incredible. I wou only use email to talk about the kids or visits. Unfortunately his genes won out and lost my son to the narcissism. He was hitting full bloom with his. I miss my son,but I cannot trust him at all.
There is definitely a genetic component.
In my experience with Narcissist they all make the same facial expressions when caught or confronted. It’s real triggering to watch this. Thank you for the awareness
Even if she did not have video of him doing it you can tell he's lying. After my ex casually and callously told me he was having an affair for months and I wasn't allowed to be upset because "taking other girls on dates isn't cheating until I sleep with them," I started recording and he started yelling at the top of his lungs saying he never said that I made it up. He forgot he has cameras in his house so I told him to roll his house cameras then and prove he never said it, and he kept making excuses as to why he didn't want to roll his house cameras. So even though I wasn't quick enough to get him actually saying it, you can totally tell by his actions that he did say it and is just saving face. But then happens all the time and it leads me to more confusion because I thought narcissists truly believed what they were saying. However if he really did think he wasn't doing anything wrong then why didn't he double down when he saw I started recording? That's when I learned what reactive abuse is. He knew what he was saying was ridiculous. He just wanted me to react. That's why the angrier I got the wider his smile and the more ridiculous his statements became
And they NEVER, EVER, EVER change.
I had an abusive narcissistic ex, he still lives with us. But I’m trying to make plans to move secretly… I tried audio recording him but he nearly broke my phone. Idk what’s worse, the psychological or physical abuse smh.
Just leave, he probably knows anyway. Take care. Alone the best
Please be safe, and yes, make all your moves in silence. You may have to leave some of your possessions behind, but your peace and emotional wellbeing are far more valuable. They can become crazed and dangerous when they know you’re trying to escape them.
Be careful. My bf has broken two of my phones, my tv, my walls. He also beat me really bad. We’re on the path to recovery, and I believe in him. But! I also am not scared of my bf when he is sober. So I keep him sober now the best I can. I guess what I’m saying is, you might need to get out before he beats you too. It isn’t worth the pain and fear. But I found a way to forgive my bf and we’re working on his issues together.
@@jailenecisneros7586 Although you love him, this is seriously unhealthy and you’re only safe for now. You are in a toxic and dangerous relationship. Also, It’s not your job to keep him sober. His sobriety is his responsibility. You are engaging in codependent behavior. Please research this and try to break this toxic cycle. Dr. Ramini has some excellent videos on dangerous narcissists.
it took him everything not to smirk seeing her face after that accusation, but he's still so committed to the bit 8/10 acting, so glad i don't have anyone in my life atm that is so overt, hope she's gotten support, wishing better for both of them
You throw water on me. Meanwhile he’s dry
Exactly what I was thinking 😢
While she was secretly filming him he threw water on the table then put the water bottle against his own face it must've dried. He's a clown I wish we could get an update!!!🤡
You could tell by the smug look on his face after he accused her that he was lying. People like this get off on the sense of power they get when subjecting someone to this psychological torture.
The water placement is obviously that he is lying
People like this are dangerous.
Insane. Are people like this not psychopathic?
Theres such a fine line between the two
Dude!!! That hit me in my inner child feels! No wonder i dont play well with others... i like how he yells and then demands you make eye contact so he can make it all your fault.
He was very zesty during that gas lighting
A woman in him and not a man, like what is that😂
There was a high chair in the room. Imagine the POS as a father for the next 18 years. Good for her recording this. She is going to need this evidence if he would lie about water...what else would he lie about.
My gaydar is going off lol
Yeah...she has a Petrie dish of issues growing in her home😢
narcs don't have sexual orientation, they are supply-sexual
Yuuuup
@kyvministries lol petrie dish is a great description 🤣 sophisticated way of saying fruit pie 🤣
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Thank you!!!
Phew. Triggered. Chile
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Tell me about it smh doesn't feel good 😢
I started recording my ex for THIS very reason!!! I'm disabled & one of my meds causes memory issues. HOWEVER!!! Bc he knew this, he thought he would get by with gaslighting me better. But I got smart & protected myself.
I recorded our fights for MY sanity!!! I knew I wasn't saying what he said I did & I knew I was saying what he said I didn't.
Sometimes you have to protect yourself from the toxicity!!! I eventually got out of his clutches, but it took me too many years.
After him, I FINALLY started therapy & let's just say I not only did more introspection than before, but learned a few things about trauma bonding. Thank God I broke yet another cycle that stemmed from my egg donor.
You can even see from the splatter of the droplets on the table that it came from his direction🤣 there's almost no water directly in front of him and tons of it splattered toward her! If she threw water at him it would've landed all over the table directly in front of him instead of on the otherside. 🥴
He tried to put it on himself too just to blame her I guess it dried up😂
Cameras and recording devices are so helpful in toxic abusive situations. I recorded my DV ex and turned it into the police. He completely denied it. They charged him and took him to jail. The court accepts hidden recordings in dv situations to be used as evidence. For those who say that you need to state that you’re recording for it to be legal, it is a whistleblower law.
It's sooo disgusting how they gaslight. How are you suppose to reply to gas light Lee?
Asking a narcissist for guidance. That's like asking the devil for directions. I'll pass.
You don't. It's like feeding a fire. You leave
You escape.
you go no contact.
“A strange game. The only winning move is not to play.” - Wargames
Bro and homie. Every time I hear those words it makes my skin crawl