Marriage is a significant life decision, and research indicates that committing to and settling down with another person can have a profound impact on our personalities, both positively and negatively. Have you changed since getting married and is it in a good or bad way? Join us on the show today as we talk changes in marriage. Thank you all for watching! Shout out to our amazing glam teams for these amazing looks! MANUELA'S GLAM; Wardrobe: Cadia Fashion House Make Up: Tina Brows 0779 790379 Hair: Zuri Uganda BEVERLEY'S GLAM; Hair: Natural Afro by Bev Dress: Mshanana from friendly neighborhood shop BARBARA'S GLAM; Make Up: The Sununu Effect Wardrobe: David Kabenge Jewellery: The SN Store Hair: Viluxe Beauty
This topic cuts deep for me. I always wanted to be a submissive wife but never again. I lost myself and supported my spouse through it all as I took a back seat.. but I truly know that was the worst thing I ever did. Now I am taking my life back and finding myself again.
God help you find yourself again. Please watch our earlier episodes on submission...... Submission to be done right, has to be done by both parties; 1. Submit one to another: Ephesians 5:21 2. Husband submit to Christ, woman to husband: Ephesians 5:22 3. Husbands love your wives: Ephesians 5:25- 29 A man that loves his wife, would never allow her to lose herself because then he would be losing himself.
Thank you ladies. As for me, it is not marriage but a mature relationship that changed me to a better version of myself. This man spoke to that great woman in me, he was so patient with my immaturity but above all, i was willing to make the changes. It all goes back to acknowledging your weaknesses and knowing that you need work, then the man will also be able to cultivate you.❤
Thax alot ladies.Marriage changed me alot.I used to be a person who wouldn't forgive and would always bring back all my spouse's past errors.Oh my God..... marriage has taught me that it is a journey of two forgivers.
Marriage healed me for sure. Am an only child, my father died when I was about 1 year old and my mum died when I was 19. Got married at 24, am now 33 with 3 kids. I have my personal people. Thank God😊
This conversation brings to me to the musician that is currently in hospital. Ever since his wife left with the kids this man became unrecognizable. The weight loss is astoundingly visible. So its true that men benefit more in marriage.
Emmanuella brought it out very well. You can tell your husband about changing a certain behaviour and he refuses,but he later gets problems out of what you had earlier warned him about, thats when he automatically changes out of experience. Thx Emmanuella
I am not married yet, and at first I thought the conversation was going to be one-sided as many I have seen with women pandering to men. But this was very insightful, honest and educative. I enjoyed it! Thank you for discussing these salient issues.
For me, Marriage has changed in a way that I nolonger achieve over minor issues, I just let them go but when it comes to my career, I dont let marriage control me much because I know people change and this is something one can regret if they let marriage control it. I made sure my career goals were shared with my husband to make sure that he never stops me when it is time to work on them.
Thank you for the very informative programme beautiful ladies. I've just stumbled upon you. You are all very articulate, informed and humorous and you give each other time to talk which is rare with most Ug presenters. Mwebare nyo.
Married at 20 and marriage broke me, belittling, comparison...... Stopped everything that i had passion in and lost myself. Am regaining my self confidence through serving in church and working. Feeling beautiful again
@@marieclaireuwera8303 Kati pray to God for triplets ate girls 🤣🤣.I also love them all but the name Beverly is very nice and the owner suits it very well.I can't imagine having a daughter with such personality.
Am a work in progress, trying to unlearn, relearn and learn new things,am more of a Manuella character so am working on the ka-selfishness,but I always ask my husband for my own progress reports given men barely talk,this year by far has been the hardest for my marriage but we are working on it, talking about the uncomfortable and actually allowing each other to be mad and then work thru it.
You can actually die, I still fight to be heard. My light almost went off, I looked so old, tired and lost confidence. My parents saw it, my siblings did not know how to help because I had always been STRONG. I am still fighting.
Isa a Friday 🎉🎉🎉🎉 Wuhuwuhu 🎉🎉hoooo reading the headlines,I had to grab some snacks 🥨 to just sit and pay attention and learn because I would like to be married some day so am here for this nugget 🎉🎉🎉
The topic is firreeeee Accommodating each other isn't that easy Since we were raised from different communities And really, thanks so much, ladies for always tipping our marriages with spicy topics of this kind.❤❤❤❤ Lots of love to my lovely husband for all the great support through all this transition we going through together
Thank you ladies ur all smart. I thank God for the work He is using u to do. I have learnt a lot from bump love. My marriage is better but most importantly my parenting has improved to 100%. Yes i changed when i got married but i think its because i got married to a man of a different religion.
I love you Ichumar, Manuella, and Beverly.And i love the topic of marriage, coz I'm married and I have changed alot into a better person than before when I was single selfish and etc. Beverly I love your confidence and the attire.
Do you know, those girls who have confidence, smart and hard working,I put down all myself to fit in the man's understanding,I really thought I would change him but I finally failed with two babies.I fear marriage I love. Myself
For my case we've not yet walked down the aisle just kawundo kakubye edirisa, so in my kawundo, I have gotten children, more financially organised and grown in my mind, me intention about the future I feel I wouldn't be where I am if I was still single. So for kawundo has organised me
I love you all, ladies. You're gorgeous as ever. Manuela, I'm sorry about Blake. I hope he gets his full recovery, and I pray for divine health for all of you ladies and your families. Anha, regarding this name thing, names are always mispronounced. I always ask people how they pronounce their names. I learn and hope not to mess it up. I am more concerned about how people write my name, especially on documents, because that could have serious effects. Renowned psychologist Jordan B Peterson said we need to raise socially acceptable people; if you do not come from a good background of emotional balance, you can learn to be emotionally grounded. Many virtues can be learned, it takes time and effort but it can be done. I used to be very argumentative when I was younger, and I had a rebuttal before I even knew the topic of discussion. I had to win every time because of the narrative that I come from a strong matriarchy and we are solid. On the other hand, my paternal side is calm, cool, collected, level headed, they do not just ''kupakuka'' 🤭 I had moments where I never accepted, defeat, no retreat and no surrender. But after meeting God, I am very guided, I have no pride, I admit when I am wrong, I do not let people push me around. I am still assertive but not rude, not using ''brutally honest'' to deliver feedback, I am more empathetic and compassionate. We can just learn to have good basic manners. I think good Christian marriages really exist, and they make us better people. In all we do, communication still ranks the highest in things we should be doing to thrive in everything we do. Another learning key point I got around people not agreeing with my opinion or rejecting the idea is the idea is what is rejected and not you as a person. So, even as we fight, we fight fairly and do that on the subject not character. My take-home is lets be self-aware; let our value system match our belief system and not glorify bad manners; when we know better, we should do better. We can unlearn the bad things, learn good ones, and relearn or even amplify the good stuff. Thank you for sharing.
Upon realizing that you probably married for the wrong reasons; the changes that come with the marriage are usually negative yet you don’t want to leave because you want to keep up appearances. *thinking out loud*
Of course people change after marriage! It's inevitable! So you can choose to be conscious of it and be intentional about getting better. Or you can choose to go with the flow and end up worse.
People keep calling me Diana 🥴, way back I used to be comfortable with it, but now a days I take a step to correct them, my parents named me Dinah not Diana 🙄
The other thing I have realized is that marriage will try you but then God has a way of holding your pieces for you,in that he helps settle the dust when you finally get out of your selfish self,it's beautiful but it's hard work,no body ever tells you that growing up nkonka marriage is hard work, unpacking your selves,the dirty laundry, the willingness to walk with someone to a place in your lives that is unknown.
I have most definitely changed I don’t understand this calm cool person that Iam right now especially in times when there is a fight Am also a fully grown human being
Those small things can be said if only you are happy from the inside, some of us can nolonger give good compliments in marriage because we are broken from the inside
1:00:14.Hmmm. Even if you have to think about it, why not acknowledge that you have heard the question and you need time to respond?? The men who behave that way are just taking their wives for granted. The same men do not respond to their bosses like that. When asked a question, they will gently and humbly respond to their bosses ALL the time. They will not just walk away because they need time ro think.
That is what I thought until I learned that; home and office are two different places, a boss and a spouse are two different people. Confusing the two will either make your home the office, or the office your home.....
@manuelap.mulondo That's right. They are two different places and two different relationship dynamics. But patience, courtesy, forgiveness, grace, respect etc are constant. You cannot show up as a dismissive and unattentive partner at home and be the complete opposite to the outside world and I excuse it. Oops.
Once you start comparing the man and what he does to the woman and what she does, you have lost the cause at that moment - men, husbands, ought to simply focus on their part and get great at that through life as should the women, wives for that matter! Ot makes sense for the tyres on a car to say they do all the spinning while the car seats just enjoy the best part of the journey just because they tell the story from the limited perspective they hold! This i shall say, seek knowledge, understanding, wisdom, love and courage to walk the journey of marriage
Please ask your make up person to use shades that blend well with your natural skin tone. It’s she/he paints your faces with charcoal when you tones are really these beautiful yummy cocoa shades showing on your neck’s shoulders etc
Marriage is a significant life decision, and research indicates that committing to and settling down with another person can have a profound impact on our personalities, both positively and negatively.
Have you changed since getting married and is it in a good or bad way?
Join us on the show today as we talk changes in marriage.
Thank you all for watching!
Shout out to our amazing glam teams for these amazing looks!
MANUELA'S GLAM;
Wardrobe: Cadia Fashion House
Make Up: Tina Brows 0779 790379
Hair: Zuri Uganda
BEVERLEY'S GLAM;
Hair: Natural Afro by Bev
Dress: Mshanana from friendly neighborhood shop
BARBARA'S GLAM;
Make Up: The Sununu Effect
Wardrobe: David Kabenge
Jewellery: The SN Store
Hair: Viluxe Beauty
I am a testimony. My husband healed me. That is, God helped and used him for my healing.
@@faithkokimunyua3626 wow marriage was created to be a good story .
When are they bringing you to the show and you tell us how?
I love Barbra submissions and stories she always shares.
Indeed, her stories are so relatable and so natural.
She's very true to her self.
I love her alot
This topic cuts deep for me. I always wanted to be a submissive wife but never again. I lost myself and supported my spouse through it all as I took a back seat.. but I truly know that was the worst thing I ever did. Now I am taking my life back and finding myself again.
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God help you find yourself again. Please watch our earlier episodes on submission......
Submission to be done right, has to be done by both parties;
1. Submit one to another: Ephesians 5:21
2. Husband submit to Christ, woman to husband: Ephesians 5:22
3. Husbands love your wives: Ephesians 5:25- 29
A man that loves his wife, would never allow her to lose herself because then he would be losing himself.
Thank you ladies. As for me, it is not marriage but a mature relationship that changed me to a better version of myself. This man spoke to that great woman in me, he was so patient with my immaturity but above all, i was willing to make the changes. It all goes back to acknowledging your weaknesses and knowing that you need work, then the man will also be able to cultivate you.❤
A story for the ages.
Thax alot ladies.Marriage changed me alot.I used to be a person who wouldn't forgive and would always bring back all my spouse's past errors.Oh my God..... marriage has taught me that it is a journey of two forgivers.
Manauella I like your nails ! You used to have long nails but these ones are good
Used to? Sure? 🫣🫣🫣🫣🫣
Beverly, very smart the purple looks good on you and the shade of lipstick is on point.
Thank you❤
Marriage healed me for sure. Am an only child, my father died when I was about 1 year old and my mum died when I was 19. Got married at 24, am now 33 with 3 kids. I have my personal people.
Thank God😊
That's do beautiful
@@Nambozobev thank you
This conversation brings to me to the musician that is currently in hospital. Ever since his wife left with the kids this man became unrecognizable. The weight loss is astoundingly visible.
So its true that men benefit more in marriage.
Am patiently waiting for a Bump love live show to physically interract with these amazing ladies.😍
Barbra okinkubila..... I love ur calmness ....
Emmanuella brought it out very well. You can tell your husband about changing a certain behaviour and he refuses,but he later gets problems out of what you had earlier warned him about, thats when he automatically changes out of experience. Thx Emmanuella
That's when you know God worked a miracle
Friday 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉this team💐 has kept us learning, relearning, unlearning, healing, growing 🌸🎇name it all❤ all year round, thank you Beloveds
I am not married yet, and at first I thought the conversation was going to be one-sided as many I have seen with women pandering to men. But this was very insightful, honest and educative. I enjoyed it! Thank you for discussing these salient issues.
For me, Marriage has changed in a way that I nolonger achieve over minor issues, I just let them go but when it comes to my career, I dont let marriage control me much because I know people change and this is something one can regret if they let marriage control it. I made sure my career goals were shared with my husband to make sure that he never stops me when it is time to work on them.
Thank you for the very informative programme beautiful ladies. I've just stumbled upon you. You are all very articulate, informed and humorous and you give each other time to talk which is rare with most Ug presenters. Mwebare nyo.
I remember my dad telling me to stop being argumentative and defensive when I got married.It’s tough but am better now though sometimes 😅
Married at 20 and marriage broke me, belittling, comparison...... Stopped everything that i had passion in and lost myself. Am regaining my self confidence through serving in church and working. Feeling beautiful again
the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with can really build you or actually break you. so "choose" well
True ❤
If my first born happens to be a girl,I will name her Beverly coz I love Bev's personality.
Thank you so much
For me it's a challenge cos I love them all and would love to name my daughter after each of them 😂😂
@@marieclaireuwera8303 Kati pray to God for triplets ate girls 🤣🤣.I also love them all but the name Beverly is very nice and the owner suits it very well.I can't imagine having a daughter with such personality.
Exactly what I did after watching Beverly 😂😂😂
My exact thought because wow, she is just so amazing. First girl is definitely going to be Beverly
Wow!!!!the submissions in here are amazing❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ thank you for sharing
Am a work in progress, trying to unlearn, relearn and learn new things,am more of a Manuella character so am working on the ka-selfishness,but I always ask my husband for my own progress reports given men barely talk,this year by far has been the hardest for my marriage but we are working on it, talking about the uncomfortable and actually allowing each other to be mad and then work thru it.
❤❤Commenting before I watch because I know I will love it
You can actually die, I still fight to be heard. My light almost went off, I looked so old, tired and lost confidence. My parents saw it, my siblings did not know how to help because I had always been STRONG. I am still fighting.
You should be heard......you deserve to be heard
Yr like me too much stress in my 20,s the guy was a conman exchanging words with women.and I left after wasting my energy
Hi ladies. Looking gorgeous 😍
When Bev said "discharge party," 😂😂😂 it's not funny, but I imagined
This was such a beautiful conversation. I’ll need to come back once in a while to rewatch.
Isa a Friday 🎉🎉🎉🎉 Wuhuwuhu 🎉🎉hoooo reading the headlines,I had to grab some snacks 🥨 to just sit and pay attention and learn because I would like to be married some day so am here for this nugget 🎉🎉🎉
Personality is standard,you can only change your behaviour to adjust 🖊️🖊️🖊️
My Beve is so smart 🥰🥰.
The topic is firreeeee
Accommodating each other isn't that easy
Since we were raised from different communities
And really, thanks so much, ladies for always tipping our marriages with spicy topics of this kind.❤❤❤❤
Lots of love to my lovely husband for all the great support through all this transition we going through together
Wow, what an incredible discussion, ladies you have shared so much wisdom nuggets. Barbra, loved your submissions, spoke to my heart ❤
Bless you ❤
Bev you look awesome in the attire....
Thank you!
Thanks ladies. I love the cohesion in your team
Manuella is looking lovely
Thank you
You guys are making me love marriage n pick interest 😊
Awesome topic be blessed ladies
People normally say marriage is learning and relearning .
Adjusting to what level because someone would want you to adjust to his comfortability?
In a healthy marriage, BOTH partners must be adjusting......
Thank you ladies ur all smart. I thank God for the work He is using u to do. I have learnt a lot from bump love. My marriage is better but most importantly my parenting has improved to 100%. Yes i changed when i got married but i think its because i got married to a man of a different religion.
Nowadays I deserve a shout-out 😂😂😂 am the first
Friday is a Bump love day.
I love you Ichumar, Manuella, and Beverly.And i love the topic of marriage, coz I'm married and I have changed alot into a better person than before when I was single selfish and etc. Beverly I love your confidence and the attire.
Thanks for watching
...when something breaks inside during marriage, it will take a mountain to fix it. But, just like Manuela says...it dies.😢
I Love You Ladies 😘💞💞❤ Thank You for inspiring me always
Thank you so much Bump Love for this episode.i
Hi Friiiiiiiidddaaayyyyy😂😂😂😂here to take notes❤❤
Banange today l came early just went to pee came back mbu 19 mins late yiiiii bump love .
The topic is fireeeee
😂😂😂😂😂
You peed for 19min😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
Brave you are stunning 🥰 you are giving Korean glass skin
credit:movit😊😊😊
Hey Lovelies ❤
Please talk about men who don't allow their wives to work, minister in church, etc. Please talk about that
Thank you for sharing
Do you know, those girls who have confidence, smart and hard working,I put down all myself to fit in the man's understanding,I really thought I would change him but I finally failed with two babies.I fear marriage I love. Myself
Bev, maintaining that posture for more than an hour is crazy😊
When it's in you , you maintain it effortlessly. 😊
I must have fome strength exercise. That day.
For my case we've not yet walked down the aisle just kawundo kakubye edirisa, so in my kawundo, I have gotten children, more financially organised and grown in my mind, me intention about the future I feel I wouldn't be where I am if I was still single. So for kawundo has organised me
Quick recovery Blakeeee❤❤❤
Thanks hun
Barbra looks beautiful 😍
Thank you ❤
I love you all, ladies. You're gorgeous as ever. Manuela, I'm sorry about Blake. I hope he gets his full recovery, and I pray for divine health for all of you ladies and your families. Anha, regarding this name thing, names are always mispronounced. I always ask people how they pronounce their names. I learn and hope not to mess it up. I am more concerned about how people write my name, especially on documents, because that could have serious effects.
Renowned psychologist Jordan B Peterson said we need to raise socially acceptable people; if you do not come from a good background of emotional balance, you can learn to be emotionally grounded.
Many virtues can be learned, it takes time and effort but it can be done. I used to be very argumentative when I was younger, and I had a rebuttal before I even knew the topic of discussion. I had to win every time because of the narrative that I come from a strong matriarchy and we are solid. On the other hand, my paternal side is calm, cool, collected, level headed, they do not just ''kupakuka'' 🤭
I had moments where I never accepted, defeat, no retreat and no surrender. But after meeting God, I am very guided, I have no pride, I admit when I am wrong, I do not let people push me around.
I am still assertive but not rude, not using ''brutally honest'' to deliver feedback, I am more empathetic and compassionate. We can just learn to have good basic manners.
I think good Christian marriages really exist, and they make us better people. In all we do, communication still ranks the highest in things we should be doing to thrive in everything we do.
Another learning key point I got around people not agreeing with my opinion or rejecting the idea is the idea is what is rejected and not you as a person. So, even as we fight, we fight fairly and do that on the subject not character.
My take-home is lets be self-aware; let our value system match our belief system and not glorify bad manners; when we know better, we should do better. We can unlearn the bad things, learn good ones, and relearn or even amplify the good stuff.
Thank you for sharing.
Agree that proper communication ranks no.1
Upon realizing that you probably married for the wrong reasons; the changes that come with the marriage are usually negative yet you don’t want to leave because you want to keep up appearances.
*thinking out loud*
You have the option of leaving you know
We do need to get married for the right reasons. Great point
I would love to know what I can engage in after Husband, children, what comes afta that ?
Purpose, why were you created?How can you impact other lives?
What i see change many times is the prayer routine/ intensity/ zeal. I struggled with it for long
True. Isn't that why Paul said, we shouldn't get married in the first place?
Love you ladies❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
please let us know what to do after ticking the boxes
Beverly you're top notch in tha attire 😂🎉
Thank you❤
I love the topic be4 even listening in, woow
Barbra about that dress you look so beautiful
Of course people change after marriage! It's inevitable! So you can choose to be conscious of it and be intentional about getting better. Or you can choose to go with the flow and end up worse.
Ahhhaaa,you are scratching me guys,i have changed alot because of marriage.At some point it was as if i did not have a life of my own.hmmm
Talk abt it it took me years to finally learn that i have alife of my own
Marriage a change is a must
Ma ladies are here ur smart mamas❤❤❤❤mama kalimunda Barbra that dress mwaaaaaa much love to u
Bump love Friday. Yaaaay
Great content
Furahide is for bump love❤❤❤❤
Not me sitting down with a pen and notebook every Friday to take notes ,thank you alot ladies ,you speak to my life 💪
You have understood this season of BumpLove
Hahahahahhahaaa oooh my dear Bev... prayer for a year in 5 minutes 😂
Very good conversation
This dress Barbra ❤❤
Thank you ❤, it was made by @Davidkabenge
People keep calling me Diana 🥴, way back I used to be comfortable with it, but now a days I take a step to correct them, my parents named me Dinah not Diana 🙄
@Barbra please share the link for Helgas mentorship program.
Please tell us what we can do after the boxes
Thy bump love daaaaay , 💃💃💃💃
The other thing I have realized is that marriage will try you but then God has a way of holding your pieces for you,in that he helps settle the dust when you finally get out of your selfish self,it's beautiful but it's hard work,no body ever tells you that growing up nkonka marriage is hard work, unpacking your selves,the dirty laundry, the willingness to walk with someone to a place in your lives that is unknown.
And yet no matter how loud they say this, we never really hear..... we walk into the institution completely blinded
Beverly you need more eye shadow and eyeliner as Manuela's. Your previous show on your skin care routine inspired me.
Bless!
iam not changing for any one period.
I hope you change for yourself though.....none of us is perfect
I have most definitely changed
I don’t understand this calm cool person that Iam right now especially in times when there is a fight
Am also a fully grown human being
How I love you guys❤, I pray I meet you one day
Bav l love the dress code manshallah
Thank you
Manuella I like your nails
You will not like them next week 🫣🫣🫣🫣🫣
My Ladies. ❤
Am late today but finally am here. Hi ladies🙋
mbu humbly applied.....hahaha
I got to know that, men put more attention on the tone of voice than the words, their ego is delicate
Babras dress on point
Thank you ❤❤ it was made by @ Davidkabenge
Much love from Kenya 🇰🇪
Karibu sister
@Manuela the make up plug 🥰 it’s bangin
Those small things can be said if only you are happy from the inside, some of us can nolonger give good compliments in marriage because we are broken from the inside
Sending hugs love.
This is true
Someone please tag the Helga the ladies (Manuella and Barbara) speak of so often.....Please!!!!
Mrs Mulondo that teacher must have been a chemistry or physics teacher😂😂😂at OLGC
Shhhhhhhhh
@ 🤐🤐🤐😅😅
Marriage is another PHD done together with a masters at the same time omg
😂
True
Lol Beverly, not the leagues that come up each and every other second
My toxic marriage changed me for the worst😢
I'm so sorry hun. Cyber hugs
I sell mishanana just like the one of Beverly and more ❤
1:00:14.Hmmm.
Even if you have to think about it, why not acknowledge that you have heard the question and you need time to respond?? The men who behave that way are just taking their wives for granted. The same men do not respond to their bosses like that. When asked a question, they will gently and humbly respond to their bosses ALL the time. They will not just walk away because they need time ro think.
That is what I thought until I learned that; home and office are two different places, a boss and a spouse are two different people. Confusing the two will either make your home the office, or the office your home.....
@manuelap.mulondo That's right. They are two different places and two different relationship dynamics. But patience, courtesy, forgiveness, grace, respect etc are constant. You cannot show up as a dismissive and unattentive partner at home and be the complete opposite to the outside world and I excuse it. Oops.
Once you start comparing the man and what he does to the woman and what she does, you have lost the cause at that moment - men, husbands, ought to simply focus on their part and get great at that through life as should the women, wives for that matter!
Ot makes sense for the tyres on a car to say they do all the spinning while the car seats just enjoy the best part of the journey just because they tell the story from the limited perspective they hold!
This i shall say, seek knowledge, understanding, wisdom, love and courage to walk the journey of marriage
Please ask your make up person to use shades that blend well with your natural skin tone. It’s she/he paints your faces with charcoal when you tones are really these beautiful yummy cocoa shades showing on your neck’s shoulders etc