Struggling to get Married, Toxic In-Laws, Setting Boundaries, 20s Advices... Q&A! | simplyjaserah

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  • Hello loves! I'm answering some of your dilemmas that you all shared on my instagram! Please comment down below if you have a better solution or response to any of the questions that were asked so that we can help each other! In this video I give advice to those struggling to get married, have issues in their marriage, feeling like a burden on your family, help set healthy boundaries, toxic family members and in laws, and some advice I would give to my 20 year old self and to 20 year olds! I try to always take a faith based approach to all my problems and try to learn from my past experiences and mistakes so I hope this video provides some Islamic perspective to marriage and our duty as muslimahs and daughters.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 42

  • @User68375
    @User68375 Місяць тому +33

    Ok are we not gonna talk about how absolutely PERFECT your hijab is in this video 😂❤ lol just had to point it out, love u girly

  • @aneesahm4301
    @aneesahm4301 Місяць тому +24

    To the sister with a December deadline to get married, please don’t rush. It may make you end up with not the best partner. Trust Allah’s timing. He’s the best of planners! Making du’a for you! 🥰

  • @halalaffirmations
    @halalaffirmations Місяць тому +10

    May Allah grant everyone a righteous spouse and nice in-laws. ❤ It’s important to listen to Muslim affirmations that help battle this kind of negative mindset. I have a “spouse affirmation” that helps those wanting to get married. I hope it helps. 🤲

  • @fozf9193
    @fozf9193 Місяць тому +8

    You should do more of these Q&As

  • @Jameerfamilychannel
    @Jameerfamilychannel Місяць тому +8

    Marriage is a lot of work and kids test your marriage even more. There are challenges so don’t rush it because the wrong partner will make it even more challenging. Enjoy being single and having time to yourself. Been with my husband for over 20 years and we have 4 children. It’s really difficult to have alone time.

    • @nahiedlaila9601
      @nahiedlaila9601 Місяць тому

      Thankss for the advice and insight! Its so hard to be single and not crave to be married, we always want what we dont have even if it isnt necessarily better than what we already have. Are you happy being married or do you miss your single season? Thats what i do worry about once being married you have to grieve your old version of urself when u were single bcuz life is never the same again afterwards especially with kids. How did you know your husband was the one? I really struggle with that bcuz i am deciding whether to marry someone but i still have my doubt cuz he is not fully my type but other than that he is alhmdl a good guy as far as i can tell. Do you have advice on how i should go about this, i really dont know what to do anymore and its stressing me out😔its hard for me not to compare to other girls that are already married seemingly effortless while its such a struggle for me😞i find it hard to understand and trust Allahs plans for my life as much as i am trying😔

    • @noreenbi9079
      @noreenbi9079 Місяць тому

      ​@@nahiedlaila9601
      Well if u don't like him u shouldn't marry him.
      How 2 know if some1 is the 1 is if he makes u laugh.
      U like his company.
      If his genuine about marrying u .
      U don't really know any1 until u live with them .
      How old r u?

    • @noreenbi9079
      @noreenbi9079 Місяць тому

      How old are ur kids?
      U can go out when they are at school

    • @nahiedlaila9601
      @nahiedlaila9601 Місяць тому +1

      @@noreenbi9079 he matches all the points you mentioned, but i still have doubts that my issue😬

    • @noreenbi9079
      @noreenbi9079 Місяць тому +1

      @@nahiedlaila9601
      Oh OK what are ur doubts? 🙂

  • @user-zm3no5xb6t
    @user-zm3no5xb6t Місяць тому +5

    Have your traveled by yourself before? What do you do if you don’t have good friends around you? How do you heal and move on and up as single muslimah?
    Yes make friends in your 20s! If one doesn’t work out, go out and make new ones!

    • @aj__love5919
      @aj__love5919 Місяць тому +6

      I think the most important thing to know about the 20s is if you don’t make great friends let it go focus on yourself👏🏼 this advice literally I’m not kidding not a lot of people tell and I’m here to tell those who are in their 20s learn to let go! You have your whole life to create great friends but let go of the ones that aren’t worth it

    • @user-zm3no5xb6t
      @user-zm3no5xb6t Місяць тому

      @@aj__love5919 you think ppl in their 40s with all the people they’ve met by then or have care to make new friends? Or even care at all?

    • @aj__love5919
      @aj__love5919 Місяць тому

      @@user-zm3no5xb6t I can tell you those who don’t let age define themselves will explore, workout, live life I have seen it in my personal experience as well. It all depends on you, if you keep a toxic friendship that’s on them, I would rather explore my options and In Sha Allah Allah will grant amazing friends people just gotta trust in Allah. Some times it’s not them it’s the other. Having a growth mindset is extremely important vs fixed mindset

    • @noreenbi9079
      @noreenbi9079 Місяць тому +3

      ​@@user-zm3no5xb6t
      Yes ur right .
      Having friends isn't always a good thing.
      U only need 1 good friend

  • @hadizajibril8682
    @hadizajibril8682 Місяць тому +4

    Lovely vlog ❤

  • @tabasumtabasum6129
    @tabasumtabasum6129 Місяць тому +1

    Don't rush into a marriage. Make a conscious decision as opposed to a pressurised decision. This is the rest of your life and it's a very delicate relationship. If you're not happy then speak up. Allah swt has given you this right.

  • @ewablonska
    @ewablonska Місяць тому +1

    yes, pressure about marriage is ery big i think in all communities... We can't do anything... Just live like we want, I believe that God have perfect person for everyone 😍😍😍

  • @aj__love5919
    @aj__love5919 Місяць тому +3

    To the girl who is feeling pressured to get married at a certain time- don’t put a time line to get married let Allah handle everything and pray Tahajjud ♥️
    To the person who had toxic in laws: create boundary, tell your husband as it is respectfully remember that. You need to say it respectfully just like you would treat him with respect 😊
    Women start feeling as a burden when people around her start making her indirectly or directly start feeling as a burden. Don’t do this to them or anyone…… you might have great intentions but no it’s burden burden is burden
    To all the people: focus on yourself and your prayers and Allah will handle everything ♥️

  • @Joaaribah
    @Joaaribah Місяць тому +1

    Oh this sounds juicy from the titel!! Let me hear this one out 😂❤

  • @user-zh6gj4yt7s
    @user-zh6gj4yt7s Місяць тому +2

    Good video ❤

  • @Sumble
    @Sumble Місяць тому

    Please make a part 2!

  • @ok_ema_
    @ok_ema_ Місяць тому

    Please could you do another one like this but based around friendship or a different topic? 💙

  • @zaakiyahmarikkar7652
    @zaakiyahmarikkar7652 Місяць тому

    need a part 2

  • @tayyabamulla7821
    @tayyabamulla7821 Місяць тому

    Thank you for the advice

  • @noreenbi9079
    @noreenbi9079 Місяць тому +4

    Dont live with ur inlaws

  • @Beautylifestyle222
    @Beautylifestyle222 День тому

    How did you lose that subscribers?

  • @KalaFarook-c8d
    @KalaFarook-c8d Місяць тому

    Make-up a to z your mum loves you your brother loves you and i love you we just want you to be happy😅

  • @user-ix5qd1bp4q
    @user-ix5qd1bp4q Місяць тому

    Hope , Masjids can helpful .

  • @A-Muslim-girl-from-Yemen.2
    @A-Muslim-girl-from-Yemen.2 Місяць тому

    اللهم سخر لنا من عبادك الصادقين المصلحين من يكونوا عوناً لنا في طريقنا ندائي إلي كل مسلم قال عزوجل (قُلْ إِنَّ رَبِّي يَبْسُطُ الرِّزْقَ لِمَنْ يَشَاءُ مِنْ عِبَادِهِ وَيَقْدِرُ لَهُ وَمَا أَنْفَقْتُمْ مِنْ شَيْءٍ فَهُوَ يُخْلِفُهُ وَهُوَ خَيْرُ الرَّازِقِينَ) وقال النبى ﷺ(ما نقص مال من صدقة ) رواه مسلم وقال ﷺ ( أنفق يابن آدم ينفق الله عليك) متفق عليه وقال ﷺ:( مَا مِنْ يَوْمٍ يُصبِحُ العِبادُفِيهِ إِلَّا مَلَكَانِ يَنْزِلانِ، فَيَقُولُ أَحَدُهُمَا: اللَّهُمَّ أَعْطِ مُنْفِقًا خَلَفًا، وَيَقُولُ الآخَرُ: اللَّهُمَّ أَعْطِ مُمْسِكًا تَلَفًا سِالُتتكِ بّالُلُُه 💔الُجْلُيَلُ الُجْبّارَ انَ تْنَقًذَنَا قًبّلُ انَ نَمٌوَتْ مٌنَ شِدِتْ الُجْوَع انَتٌْخيَكِ انَيَ دٌِخلُةِ ْعلُى الُلُُه تْمٌ ْعلُيَكِ انَيَ فَيَ وَجُْهك انَـيَ اخـتْكِ انَـيَ اتْرَجْـاكِ اتْـوَسِـلُ الُـيَـكِ انَـقًـذَنَا لُـوَجُْـه الُـلُُـه. يَــشِــُهدِ الُــلُــُه يَاٌخـيَ انَ مٌنَ الُــصّــبّاحُ حُـتْا الُـانَ يَــحُــرَمٌ ْعـــلُيَـنَـا الاكل غير الماء ( ('''''''''''''''' اخي اول كلامي انا اقسم بالله على كتاب الله اني لااكذب عليك ولا انصب ولا احتال اني بنت يمنيه نازحين منالحرب انا واسرتي بيتنا اجار الشهرب 20 الف يمني والان علينا 60 الف حق 3 شهور وصاحب البيت من الناس الي ماترحم والله يا اخي انه يجي كل يوم يبهدلنا ويتكلم علينا ويريد من البيت للشارع لانناماقدرنا ندفعله الأجار شافونا الجيران نبكي ورجعو تكلمو الجيران ومهلنالاخره الأسبوع معادفعنا له حلف يمين بالله هذا بيخرجنا إلى الشارع رحمه واحنا. بلادنا بسبب هذا الحرب ولانجد قوت يومنا وعايشين اناوامي واخواتي سفار والدنا متوفي الله يرحمه ومامعنا أحد في هذا الدنيا جاانبنا في هذه الظروف القاسيه اخوتي الصغار خرجو للشارع وشافو الجيران ياكلو واوقفو عند بابهم لجل يعطوهم ولو كسره خبز والله الذي له ملك السموات والارض انهم غلفو الباب وطردوهم ورجعو یبکو ایموتو من الجوع ما احد رحمهم وعطلة ردها لقمت عیش والان لوما احدنا ساعدنا في إيكيلو دقيق اقسم بالله انموت من الجوع فيا اخي انا دخيله على الله ثم عليك واريد منك المساعده لوجه الله انشدك بالله تحب الخير واتساعدني ولو ---بـــحق إيجار البيت مع تراسلي واتساب على هذا الرقم 00967716649494 وتطلب اسم بطاقتي وترسلي ولاتتاخر وايعوضك الله بكل خير اخواني سغار شوف كيف حالتهم وساعدنا وأنقذنا قبل أن يطردونا في الشارع تتبهدل أو نموت من الجوع وانا واسرتي نسالك بالله لولك مقدره على مساعد لاتتاخر علينا وجزاك الله خيرا،-.@.،@:^@:؛>»≋𝖊≋𝖊≋𝖊≋𝖊≋𝖊≋𝖊≋𝖊≋𝖊≋𝖊≋𝖊≋𝖊≋𝖊≋𝖊≋𝖊≋%%؛؛،&&^%؛%؛%%%؛🎉😢😢::؛؛:%^^

  • @mianawan
    @mianawan Місяць тому +1

    This woman is so desperate for UA-cam attention

    • @nahiedlaila9601
      @nahiedlaila9601 Місяць тому +6

      How? She is actually helping people out and validating peoples struggles...smh🥲at least she cares about others by sharing her own experiences and giving good Islamic advice wherever she can. That makes her empathic not desperate know the difference🙃why comment negatively if u can just click away why bother watching and commenting...

    • @NavierBlue9603
      @NavierBlue9603 Місяць тому +5

      This person is just hateful. Do not pay attention.

    • @medfreak
      @medfreak Місяць тому +8

      Y so hateful? Get a life bro