The worst is not even the abuse itself, it’s them punishing you for standing up for yourself. For “talking back”, for “being inadequate” & “ungrateful”. The worst part is going out in the world, getting abused by others, taking it & gaslighting yourself that you “made them do it” because you’re so “flawed”. If you weren’t so “flawed”, they wouldn’t have been “forced to be so harsh with you.” NEVER TURN THE OTHER CHEEK! BE 100x as vicious back to them!!!
This is so true especially blaming yourself for their wrongs and somehow making yourself believe it’s all your fault becuase every time an adult snaps at home you’re always to be blamed even in your absence. It’s also good to deprogram yourself out of it and just see people for who they are!
I have been reading comments on all these videos. It's scary how all our experiences seem so similar. This is narcissism. Extremely damaging. I wish us all healing.
The moment when you comfort them and they are shocked when you STILL REMEMBER accurately how they abused you as a small child due to trauma. And they deny it......they literally don't think you will remember it...
Your work and your channel are so important I am sharing it and I really wish more people see how you put the right words on a situation that so many of us are living. There is a deeply rooted tradition of abusing daughters in African families and making them mere object for everyone's use it is sad to see other young women who grew up in a western countries share this terrible experience knowing all the shit we have to go through outside the household. I cannot imagine the horrors women in africa have to endure. It is so scary how everything you said apply to me I mean there is a pattern. This video made me realise that I have been abused I was aware of being abused by my father because he was physically violent but I never tought about mental abuse and I assure you that every single thing you said applied to me, from the bullying, the gossiping with other family members, laughing and celebrating when something bad happen to me, doing all the chores, caring for my father and brothers, being told that I wasn't beautiful or just my mother comparing herself to me as a daughter I just accepted it. I am watching you with a lot of empathy and I am happy to see you overcome this unfair treatment I am eager to follow your healing journey. Waiting FOR PART 3.
I’m so sorry you went through that. I’m glad you’re awake now. God is bringing all this to light so we can expose these narcissists that are so prevalent in our society.
Thank You for Part 2🙏 My heart goes out to you I also grew up in an African household/s and had similar experiences like the one you had throughout my life, maybe not to the degree you're explaining (again sending you much love and healing💕) but your story definitely hits home and I can relate to your suffering. I'm proud of you too🤗 Much love, healing, joy, and abundance to you💜 To Us Finding Our Peace and Joy and Not Letting Low Frequency Beings Suck the Life Out Of Us🙌♥
10:10 That's so interesting!! I never thought of that. I've noticed this about people/strangers with me. They do stupid things to get my attention. People become so angry with I'm into myself, like when I look at my nails, my reflection, when I am dressed well. People are mentally ill.
The worst is not even the abuse itself, it’s them punishing you for standing up for yourself. For “talking back”, for “being inadequate” & “ungrateful”. The worst part is going out in the world, getting abused by others, taking it & gaslighting yourself that you “made them do it” because you’re so “flawed”. If you weren’t so “flawed”, they wouldn’t have been “forced to be so harsh with you.” NEVER TURN THE OTHER CHEEK! BE 100x as vicious back to them!!!
This is so true especially blaming yourself for their wrongs and somehow making yourself believe it’s all your fault becuase every time an adult snaps at home you’re always to be blamed even in your absence. It’s also good to deprogram yourself out of it and just see people for who they are!
I have been reading comments on all these videos. It's scary how all our experiences seem so similar.
This is narcissism.
Extremely damaging.
I wish us all healing.
I hate that I had to cook my father and the whole household too. It was humiliating to serve everyone while not caring for myself.
@@ElizaFragmented and you’re the last to eat 🤦🏾♀️
I'm still stuck😭
The moment when you comfort them and they are shocked when you STILL REMEMBER accurately how they abused you as a small child due to trauma. And they deny it......they literally don't think you will remember it...
Your work and your channel are so important I am sharing it and I really wish more people see how you put the right words on a situation that so many of us are living.
There is a deeply rooted tradition of abusing daughters in African families and making them mere object for everyone's use it is sad to see other young women who grew up in a western countries share this terrible experience knowing all the shit we have to go through outside the household. I cannot imagine the horrors women in africa have to endure.
It is so scary how everything you said apply to me I mean there is a pattern.
This video made me realise that I have been abused I was aware of being abused by my father because he was physically violent but I never tought about mental abuse and I assure you that every single thing you said applied to me, from the bullying, the gossiping with other family members, laughing and celebrating when something bad happen to me, doing all the chores, caring for my father and brothers, being told that I wasn't beautiful or just my mother comparing herself to me as a daughter I just accepted it.
I am watching you with a lot of empathy and I am happy to see you overcome this unfair treatment I am eager to follow your healing journey. Waiting FOR PART 3.
When you take a breathe it’s like they get upset at you for utilizing air.
I’m so sorry you went through that. I’m glad you’re awake now. God is bringing all this to light so we can expose these narcissists that are so prevalent in our society.
I respect your story, self love is the best love.
Thank You for Part 2🙏 My heart goes out to you I also grew up in an African household/s and had similar experiences like the one you had throughout my life, maybe not to the degree you're explaining (again sending you much love and healing💕) but your story definitely hits home and I can relate to your suffering. I'm proud of you too🤗 Much love, healing, joy, and abundance to you💜
To Us Finding Our Peace and Joy and Not Letting Low Frequency Beings Suck the Life Out Of Us🙌♥
10:10 That's so interesting!! I never thought of that. I've noticed this about people/strangers with me. They do stupid things to get my attention. People become so angry with I'm into myself, like when I look at my nails, my reflection, when I am dressed well. People are mentally ill.
You are so strong and beautifull ❤
I relate to this so much 💔
I was waiting for part 2 !! Thank you so much for this content ❤❤
🙏🙏blessings to you
Awww You are so welcome
My love, Good Job! Escaping these demons! You are powerful!
Thanks for sharing with such generosity ❤❤❤ You're a beautiful soul ❤💥
Babe rightttttt
My dad yells at us for eating derogatory remarks every time
We are trained to worship men
You should be a model 😍
Your mum is a typical pick-me mother