Tactics narcissists use to wear you down
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- Опубліковано 21 жов 2024
- A narcissist will lie to your face like it’s nothing. #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic
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I like your approach Danielle. There's no reason to feel responsible for a person who's just bent on exploiting you.
If I had a dime for every time I forgot my point over word salad...
I kept asking myself, what's wrong with this person! Can't she just say sorry!
1) she never apologies
2) she never give or support you
3) she only take
4) she has know remorse
5) she doesn't want to talk about her behavior
6) she comes back like nothing happened after discard
7) she's always in need of money or gifts
8) she hate you for questioning her behavior
9) she insult you and call you names when you say no to her demand
10) she never appreciate anything
11) she always come back with "hey" when she does something wrong and you get angry!
12) she'll leave you when she does something wrong instead of apologize... she'll give you time to forget about it. instead of saying sorry!
13) she'll come back with "hey" where are you? I'm bored. She act like nothing happened.
14) if you don't respond to her, she insult you!
15) she only care about herself
16) she's only interested in what you can give her
17) she give you nothing but sadness
18) she only love what you give her
19) she'll call you complaints
20) she will tell you that you have problem
these are what I was going through with this girl for the past 2 years plus... I never knew about narcissist until I came across your channel. Thank you!
Your knowledge is so incredibly valuable and important.
OMG 😅 so true! Everything.
They'll lie if the truth sounded better
Regarding boundaries:
"Being too assertive for your own liking, is better than being a doormat for an abuser".
What a statement !
When we meet a new person, our soul doesn't accept that the person is a narcissist and we start justifying their behaviour
As an empath, I give them the benefit of the doubt. But soon things go downhill in a hurry.
DANIELLE RADIN FOR PRESIDENT
Thank you for the positive messaging and subsequent reaffirmations. Amazing hair
Spot on. We do not need to put up with abuse for any time or any reason and we owe the obusers NOTHING! Thank you.
I like the part about word salad. Often they want to come off as superior. One guy I knew would talk on and on without making a clear statement. I finally realized that was the point.
OMG😅 I know what you mean!! Exactly, just like you said it!
The old saying; they speak another language.
Never mind the word salad, the circular conversation, the micro shifts.
There's no rabbit hole when you're off the planet 😉
Still stuck in orbit.
They’re a pez dispenser when it comes to lies. The lies just keep coming. Take it seriously enough to leave but not so serious that you wreck your beautiful self. You’re a wonderful loving soul. Never forget that❤️. Protect yourself and move your cute butt along🥰✅
everything you just have said is on point! thank you so much for sharing you experiences and thoughts!
What’s another lie? They’ve gotten this far with it, why change?
I am joking with myself: Only when a narcissist is apologizing or is thanking he/it KNOWS he/it is lying...In all other cases he/it is sure of speaking the TRUTH...Thank You, gorgeous Strength!!👍💚🌺😊💯%!!🎁🌈⚓!!
Your parents raised you right. You have such a strong sense of self and being strong ❤
If these goblins ever told the truth instead of answering "Living the Dream" they'd say....."Living the Lie."
Isn't that still better than living a nightmare that even if you yourself created it... wouldn't you lie about certain things that you don't want people knowing what you have done for one reason or another maybe it's caused upset and problems in general for more than just you so you learn to shut up about it?
Walking away for good is a discernment that isn't used as a weapon like the narc does, but a internal compass. The more you let it be known what the finish line is, the more the narc will stretch out the pain with narc tools of malevolence. All very normal, common, decency base boundarys. Sometimes its like...why did I have to learn this ? The answer is it didnt come as original equipment.
This is bang on the money with them, thank you
We are not slaves and we can not be forced to do anything we do not want to do. We do not owe narcisists anything. We must not pot up with abuse any more. Thank you. Spot on!
"You don't owe them anything"...including guilt or feeling like it was your fault.
Speaking to myself here and I'm sure some other people probably feel the same way.
Thank you for these videos.
😢yupp. That was so hard in the beginning❤.Been 6 months since now since no contact. Feeling So much better now.
😢yupp. That was so hard in the beginning❤.Been 6 months since now since no contact. Feeling So much better now.
Considering how conspiratorial this must sound to anyone who hasn’t experienced it, and considering how pervasive it actually seems to be…
I’m very thankful someone like you, and with your credibility, has been sharing so many valuable insights about this topic.
Because it’s devastating what they can do to someone. Strip mining a person of… damn well near everything. Inside and out. While the world outside looks upon the victim as if it’s all their doing… and entirely their responsibility. Society doesn’t seem to have that kind of outlook when it comes to other heinous crimes. And since narcissistic abuse is such a uniquely sophisticated concoction of many… many criminal acts… yeah. I think this topic could use a hell of a lot more spotlights on it. Until those who carry on like abysmal creatures, while masquerading as humanitarians, have no more places to hide.
I think it's becoming more recognized. These videos really help me. I used to think about a toxic situation and realize that the person is mean or whatever. Now I see they suffer from a disorder. And it's just plain unhealthy to be around them.
@@davidsalo8397 thankfully word has been getting out. I never thought I’d see the day between 10-15 years ago, or so.
On one hand, I agree fully with your take. They are uniquely troubled people who, even in the best of scenarios, for the most part seem incapable of understanding how and why their machinations are so cumulatively devastating.
On the other hand, there are the effects of what their disorders do to other people. And in the more extreme cases, it’s an absolute nightmare. Just as convoluted as any other case but… it’s like a form of artificial intelligence mired and driven in an insatiable emptiness, hell bent on destroying someone as a partial method of regulating itself.
I walked away a couple of weeks ago (final block 🚫), and I can still hear my narcissistic overseas 'friend' screaming from the rooftops.
Thank you for this video and to many others who are educating and promoting healing from narcissistic abuse.
I walked away from mine Saturday 14th January and blocked him. To save myself any manipulative upset I offered to go to the shops for him. When I left I called him to tell him I wanted a better life than the one I had with him. Shirt, simple without any long explanation.
My Ex would not look me in the eye when he spoke to me and always stared upwards. That told me he was nervous about something. He would come out with weird names and 'gobbledegoo' phrases as word salad and would talk to me and mix his words up in an effort to throw me of course. I could hear him many a time say daft silly things to the ornaments or sift toys we had as if he was talking to a real person. 🍒
Even if it is your grown adult children 😭 This is the hardest thing I've ever had to do is walk away from my daughter. I don't get to even see my granddaughter anymore because she uses her as a weapon. So sad that my granddaughter is being taught hate. She will grow up one day and see her mother for who she really is and that's tragic 💔
So true in every way
It's interesting how experiencing this can be devastatingly unhealthy for some people, like it feels like it literally kills the heart.
So it was like going from being on top of the world & having huge reason to live to the opposite not having a whole lot of desire for anything anymore.
From such an incredible high to beyond the lowest low.
the yellow looks extraordinarily good on you !😊
True Dat! 💯 accurate.
Thanks!
💯👍, so very true.
Another great message, thank you.
Thank you
aahh confuse stuff right said.💐
You’re correct, but narcs don’t use “word salad”. They just use confusing language.
Exactly!!!
Soooo true
I know!
She would often tell me that my breath smelled, I had BO, she even made a big deal one time that my shorts smelled.
She gave me a complex.
Same here..with my breath smell..
Yes
Yesss❤
Why they are like this what made them do this way
You are really wasting time with their word salads and lies invalidating you.walk away then they respect you.
So if nobody is supposed to be abused...why advocate for abusing an abuser or beating down people on say the registry who cleaned up and don't continue but just are still on there even if they only have one offense?
They should be on the registry for even one offence, period. They may have been one of the 1 in a million rare cases who actually figure out that they are the problem and put the work to change, but that only helps them live a better present and future. It doesn’t change the past and erase the consequences of their actions in the past. That’s the whole point of consequences. You have to live with them. Forever. Otherwise what would be the point or the future deterrent to re-offend? Same as the victim has to forever live with the damage caused to them.
@@KittyKat8946 okay just a case of why hold people to who they were for life when they were kids at the time themselves
@@KittyKat8946 particularly because some of them act because of the negative consequences to destroy themselves so I find it a lot more complicated, particularly when they as kids asked to be not forced to be in a situation that puts them at risk of hurting someone because they feel out of control and have their reasons to struggle with opening up to psychological professionals because they inform them they will share with the controlling parent what they are struggling with and facing restrictions rather than being worked with because of how the parents operate.
@English Aron ----- because everyone has to face the consequences of their actions, sooner or later....
That's called Device Justice.
Why are you so beautiful?