Brother, Its A Request Kindly Make A Video On - How Muslims In Iceland Fast For Nearly 22 Hours? I Believe & Hope It Will Inspire The Youths. ua-cam.com/video/-6vfsYwXW6I/v-deo.html
Brother I am in very difficult situation and I don’t know what to do.it has been 1 year I got married with a guy who didn’t had any documents of uk and now I am 6months pregnant .my husband doesn’t gives time to me at all when ever his home he makes phone call or watch’s dramas .when his at work for 8 -10 hours he doesn’t calls me at all ,I did told him how I feel about it.now his telling me when he gets documents then he will go back to Pakistan.i told him I am your wife and how can you leave me here alone and your unborn child ,he said Allah will look after you.i am extremely broken he doesn’t even cares about the child.
This type of lectures r causing hatered towards marriages. Women and men both r avoiding it and I see scores of intentionally unmarried young men and women around me. Mothers r scared to bring in a daughter-in-laws who will steal their most precious treasure while women r looking for a man that they can boss around and men r finding other illegitimate means. Every house I see has old parents taken care of by an unmarried or divorced daughter while sons r living with their wives serving their in-laws. What we need is to teach both boys and girls 1st how to choose an appropriate partner 2nd how to be fair with every family member from both sides 3rd how to be paitient while influencing each others bad habits. Does the lecturer think that this world is filled with perfect men and women? U don't get jannah for having perfect ppl around u, u get jannah by struggling with imperfect ppl around u. That is y in older times the advice of ullema to be paitient made homes while current young ulema's stand up for ur rights advice is destroying marriages and family systems.
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi vabarkatuhu brother can you kindly make a video on how a parent should be caring and how to not make them insecure please .Allahafiz
Kaha hai aisey husband .... I suffered and compromised a lot more more inmy in laws.still my mother in law abuses me ..... Feel insulting everytime....in our whole joint family....
By the way, there's nothing wrong about being dark-skinned. Unfortunately, almost all cultures in Asia and the Middle East are negative towards dark-skin. I'm surprised and disappointed that even many Muslims are this way. Allah made your skin so you shouldn't call yourself ugly. Racism is unacceptable in Islam.
Dark skin?i dont have dark skin but it is actually better than light, the skin pigment that makes darker skin is beneficial to us protects us from the sun more...Alhamdullilah👌🏼
I was about to write exactly the same comment : there's nothing wrong about being dark skinned. God is the one that has chosen some people to be dark skinned some other to be light skinned but at the end no one is better than anybody unless they're pious.
I have been in an abusive relationship. I have tears in my eyes as I watch this. It is so relatable. I am so glad I'm out of it. Islam is such a beautiful religion.
Asalaamualakum my dear sisters .. Be strong , when those tears flow down your face they will be accountable for ..forgive my dear sisters and be strong..Allah is with you..my dear sisters ..be strong ..wasalaam my beloved x
@@LR-kj8ec Stay Strong 💪 May Allah SWT Heal your pain and reward you immensely in return of dealing All the sufferings. Ameen🤲 Just Believe in that The best is yet to come! (Either in This Duniya or The Hereafter.)
A man should not be angry in expressing his love for his wife Never forget how much she has done for you and all the things she has left for you and your family A little appreciation and a kind smile will make her day
my husband has not engaged in conversation with me since 2009. His response and answer to all my question is yes, no and hmmmm. It is very sad. He treated me poorly. But he talks nicely to his siblings (all his sisters) and female friends. What should i do? i am tired of his attitude. He did not change and hidayah belongs to Allah.
@@emmykebanski7665 Divorce sister. I can't believe you've 10+ LONG YEARS like this. It is not right. It's haram the way he's treating you. Almost like he's waiting for you to leave. Sis, he don't want you. At all. Please leave. He'll never change towards you. NOT because there's something inherently wrong with you, but the fact is there's something inherently wrong with him. NOT YOU. You deserve better, it is your right to deserve better, and Insha-Allah, you'll get it as soon as you free yourself from the shackles of this sham marriage. You can do it. Don't falter, get weak, or give up. You making it this far only proves how strong you really are, even if you yourself can't see it; the rest of us can. We love you, pray the best for you, and sooner rather than later, you'll finally see that for yourself once you divorce. Good Luck sister. May Allah protect you, guide you, and grant you success, Ameen.
*SO many males have completely missed the point of this lecture. They refuse to be educated and instantly use this as an opportunity to complain and insult women in the comments. Astagfirullah.* *A muslim should not be ignorant or arrogant. You are perfectly capable of having misogynistic faults. Take a moment to work on your flaws and make yourself a good and desirable man before criticising others. Only then will you attract someone of equal value.* *If you're only attracting low, silly women then look at yourself and ask why a high ranking good woman doesn't look to you. May Allah guide us.*
Woody Broody I saw that, it’s disappointing to think people feel that way when so many men and women face difficult trials in attempt to perfect themselves for Allah. Overall, it boils down to misunderstanding. They learn about their rights, but not their duties. They love to demand, but not provide. Some ladies will not consider a man without a certain wage in fear of being taken from her fathers house and having to live in less than what she’s accustomed to. But she should also have something of value to offer besides beauty. A lot of men demand their wife be pure and chaste when they are not themselves. Or that she cook and clean for them when that is not an Islamic requirement for a wife, but a basic survival requirement for an adult. Yet, they they barely provide financially or she can provide equally if not more. The point isn’t to put men and women against each other, but to consider that if we all were given our perfect equal at this moment a lot of people would be disappointed to realise their spouse won’t meet their high standards. The answer is to better yourself and only ask what you can give. It’s not responsible to wait for a pious person to come along and make you more practising. Pious people also deserve spouses of high piety. They shouldn’t have to lower their standards or settle for someone who refuses to work on themselves, but wants the sun and the moon. May Allah guide us and forgive us all.
I cry everyday because of my husband who I loved so much it was Unconditional Love, a very strong love Allah swt put in my heart for my husband and he destroyed everything with his lies, tricking me and other women into polygamy marriages only for lust/sexual desires, my husband didnt provide for me. I loved him so much and I was loyal, never cheated on him and now I cry so much, i have mental health problems, emotional abuse and physical abuse because of his lying and tricking me into polygamy marriages and the other women don't know about me but Allah swt exposed him to me and then he moved his wife and children out of London Tooting to Blackpool I think so I cant tell her the truth, she dont know about me Terrible. I couldn't find the other women. His family knows everything SubhanAllaah Ya Allah. Even now his telling me theres no wives and children Ya Allah SubhanAllaah. This was a eye opener for me that how Muslim brothers lie and tricking women into polygamy marriages or they have secret wives and secret girlfriends and their still looking for other women for marriage when they have secret wives and secret girlfriends and secret children, even their own family, mothers and fathers dont know about. Allah is great. SubhanAllaah. No respect for other peoples mothers, sisters and daughters when you have your own mother, sisters and daughters SubhanAllaah... from this horrible experience, horrible, horrible experience that Muslim brothers can abuse us like this and noone cares, SubhanAllaah, I realised that us Muslim sisters dont get justice, Muslim sisters suffering so much in polygamy marriages and the Muslim brothers get away with it because polygamy is in the Quran. My husband didn't love, care, provide, may bill's, he didnt pay rent, he didn't help me, he never buy food for me, its was about lust/sexual desires and all I get from people is it's his right, polygamy is his right and look at what he did to me Ya Allah, Allah is so good. Allhumduillah for Allah. Allah will give me justice soon. Muslims dont understand how this horrible experience made many sisters leave islam, if your mental health is destroyed then your deen Islam will be affaced SubhanAllaah. Now I understand why so many Muslim sisters left Islam, other Muslim sisters took their hijab off and stop going Masjid, sister were being mentally abused, emotionally abused and physically abused, no help or support for converts to Islam, now I understand why sister started new relationshipwith non Muslim men. What I've learned from this horrible experience Muslim brothers can oppress their wives and get away with it and the ummah support him in his oppresstion SubhanAllaah. (((Please don't trust noone, dont trust people on online, even Muslim can be fake, dont trust noone when it comes to marriage, my husband was lying and tricking women into marriage when he was already married with children, girls/women your talking to a man for marriage but you don't know his already married with children and this is happening alot))) ua-cam.com/video/LC3EoR3gOF0/v-deo.html
Very true... I'm not offensive to the parents of them but in every Desi family, parents teach their sons that they can do anything and they're the king.... And daughters like, "well, there's some restrictions, you can't do whatever you want and just marry soon and obey your husband.. doesn't matter whatever he does, he's your husband so shut up"
@@moniraaktershurovee5645 Don't know what you're talking about. I and many of my friends don't get that special treatment. May be get out in the world more and stop getting your ideas from the TV.
@@faebalina7786 yea man. that's why im an athiest buddhist because in so many religions and cultures women are looked down upon even if the religion doesnt explicitly promote it
Aslkum the most beautiful thing of this video is the statement that "All femals are the property of Allah " SubhanAllah ....this just made me cried.....Allhumdullillah
@@DiamondsRexpensive Technically thats true since the parents pay for everything and are dependent on them for a very long time. But you are right this behaviour needs to stop.
They have kids so that the kids could sacrifice their adulthood looking after elderly parents. My grandparents took me in when my mom was ill, but I'm expected to look after them, but nothing I do is ever enough. Anyways, I'm going to move out and I'm expected to live with my in laws and be a _model_ DIL. My uncle has to stay with my grandparents. That's just the standard in our culture. My grandparents do plenty for us, for me and I love them, but my grandad is a narcissist and I pity my nan and uncle
Please pray for me that I find a man who treats me right and doesn't hurt me in any way. I feel very discouraged but only trust Allah. It hurts to see how women are treated and I am so scared to be treated badly. Please pray for me and my family who are having a hard time getting married.
Pray tahajjud, do istigfar and make during tahajjud... Tahajjud and istigfar is solution to each & every problem. May Allah bless u with a pious, loving and handsome husband ☺
i dont understand how ppl thinks that its alllll the damn time women are innocent. ..even being a girl...i think i am hating women because i was bullied by jealous , envious, toxic bitches at university. i know not all were bad... but majority were so damn jealous of me... whenever i see a women suffer anything. ..i dont have sympathy for her because what happened to me by girls makes me hate women so much. stop trying to defend women everywhere. . some are really as cruel as men or mothrr in law or whatever. i am very much done with girls... now i am ignoring them avoiding them..now those bitches themselves come towards me because they are affected by my ignoring them. but ill continue to ignore them to make them.. its quite sad but because of my experience i dont feel empathy for girls. please all of u stop acting like its women who are best everytime, everywhere. . some are very professional jealous bitches also
I don’t understand why the mother in law will bring the girl of her choice and after marriage is the first person to not like her, like you did like her and now what if you didn’t like her why bring in your family?! 😅
She choosed what she thought was the best cleaning/cooking service and after marriage she suddenly realizes that a daughter in law is not a free new servant, so she gets upset with her for not being what she expected, it what happens in a lot of cases...
No, they still hate every other girl that can potentially be his wife. Once someone steps in that role she is on the target. Thats why they purposely try to choose someone who will be easily tackled, someone soft spoken or not a threat at all. Then they use all their mind games to confine her only to the duties at home while she continues to be the number 1 priority of her son by ruling over his mind and heart. The Husband and wife will meanwhile never be able to build a healthy relationship built upon love and trust.
Insha That's true, people are only comfortable mostly with their direct family once you become part of that everything you don't know about your spouse shows up.
I'm just so scared of marriage..my parents are so nice .. they treat me like a princess but the idea of going to a man with a new family is very scary ...
summi mz If you end up having a problem with your in laws ask your spouse to move out, other then that try not to make this video overwhelm you, get to know your in-laws and see what their like.
Yet children are allowed to get married in islam at a very young and immature age. Im muslim and i love my religion, but just don't understand how a teenager would be allowed to get married after she reaches puberty.
Ruby Reef It was the culture, there was a time where being a teenager was looked upon as being an adult. You notice how most teens hit puberty very young? Thats when most cultures state that they're now adults and prepared for marriage and children. Biologically speaking that is correct but otherwise I agree, just wait a while. Thats why most people marry in their twenties or some even in their forties or thirties.
@@cinna_sultan that's exactly what i mean. People get mature at different paces; some are ready to have a family in their twenties, and some in their forties. Yet some cultures make it obligatory to get married before a certain age, like an "expiration date" is set. My culture does that too. What If some teenager or immature person wants to marry, without thinking it through, and ends up getting divorced? Not saying it woyld always happen, but it *has* happened before me. And i don't think there is anything in the religion that really opposes it.
Being called dark is not an insult, it’s a skin tone. A beautiful one at that. But I’m sure ustadh didn’t mean it like that. He was only pointing out what people perceive as insulting.
If only you knew how hard being a dark skin woman is .When in your own family they give out your fair skinned cousins to get married before you because you are dark skinned
@@lemonvate9860 Salaam sis, remember that Allah made you (us) this way, and he finds us beautiful. I'm sorry your family made you feel that way. InshaAllah you'll marry someone who'll see your values and love you for you.
I don't think he meant anything wrong, it's just because in some cultures, being dark skinned is viewed as a flaw when Allah made us all beautiful and all different, this is a cultural problem that needs to change
It is because of these issues that the children of married couples having such problems avoid marriage like the plague when they grow up. Some daughters even become misandrists after being exposed to such environment. These in-laws think they are entitled to treat the woman like a servant. So according to them, a wife is a servant who doesn't need a salary and is a baby-making machine. I know there are horrible women out there as well, who emotionally abuse their husbands and blackmail them. Both genders contribute to this issue.
Assallam, i observed that most /men always complaints their women talking too much and the husband cannot tolerate. I think husband/men dont want to listen the woman voice in day but they need the woman voice ONLY at night in bed. Sorry to say this is the men behaviour in the marriage life. Its very pain thou.
S S - men are already tired of feminist narcissism, and it is not a secret anymore like crying babies act under the garb of misplaced men’s behavior impacts every little heart burn or acid reflux a feminist experiences. Feminist too have butts but men’s are more magnanimous not to see those butts are hurt. 🥱
@@SS-mu3tj Woah you gotta calm down. Calling others "butt hurt" when you are basically acting the same way. We can all be keyboard warriors. But that won't solve anything. All of us (men & women) are tested in different ways by Allaah. Blaming others all the time will only increase the severity of the test.
Fun fact, women can choose to do a job or take care of children or even both while men are required to go to work and be a bread earner, Islam really out there addressing women's rights.
@@travellerashik1471 no one has the right to abuse or take your rights away no matter if theyr your parents or his or anyone else as everyone is answerable for their own actions on the day of judgement and no abuse will be over rided the rights were given to all women, Islam is fair to everyone, no one is allowed to treat or be treated like this. Plus I'm talking from experience my parents and now my in laws. There is a severe punishment for anyone who does not fear Allah and treats anyone like this.
Emina Hamidovic Do the basics, see if you like him and if you don't complain to your father but give him a chance. We know women want all the demands in a man, hes not a superhero and he's not a millionare but if he's dignified and good then he could be the spouse for you.
@will d May Allah guide you Astaghfirullah Why do you have to use our beautiful religion to justify your arrogant and mysogynistic views on women? Yes, women have been commanded to obey their husbands but the way you put it would make anybody question their beliefs about the treatment of women from their husbands in Islam.. You could instead be polite and humble to share your knowledge and views, not only would that invite a discussion and you'd get a chance to learn something you didn't know about, it wouldn't scare or discourage anybody to share their opinions on the matter May Allah forgive us and protect us from all kinds of evils Ameen
@will d why do you think Allah revealed that so men can 'control' their wives? Clearly you've misunderstood the verse and interpretating based on your views on women I may be wrong so I pray that may Allah have mercy on me and guide me to the right understanding as well ameen
@@muhammedmateen4728 Even if it is for the sake of Allah(swt), I dont think Allah says to stay with the one who is abusive to you. If he does not treat you right & disrespects you, we have the option to divorce and divorce is not a bad thing in Islam. Only difficult once you have had kids. May Allah (swt) protect all of us.
Unfortunately, compassion, respect and empathy are very rarely taught and children learn by what they see. The Mother is the most honoured person is Islam yet very few are taught how to respect and cherish her. This is prevalent throughout generations and has resulted in women becoming abusers and seeking to avenge the pain they are feeling and male privilege. Respect, honour, compassion and empathy should be taught alongside everything else we learn. Many people follow the rituals of religion and are praised for their ‘practice’ of Namaz etc but it’s all wasted when behind closed doors they are abusive and disrespectful. Your spouse should compliment you and your relationship with your parents not supplement it. Mothers in law can be possessive and viscous they take it out on the daughter in law because they feel inadequate and don’t know how to love.
Once I went to a mobile shop and the man working over there knows my father and uk as usual they will ask each other how the family is doing and all. Idk whether it was his daughter or niece that she wanted to study more but the husband's parents did not allow her to go. And the worst thing is when the husband is an easy going person and the parents take advantage of that son and the parent say " oh dont let her go. She should be living with u and serve u" I'm like huh? Like they care about the son tooo much that they dont want the girl to be happy
After divorce im living with my mother since 6 years and im unable to find any good Muslim man who can do justice .. everyone wnt to make gf but no one came to marry.
@saeed mohamed you can count them on your fingers and they are already married or engaged or busy with studying and making a man out of themselves. Many men want a gf these days, because a gf is cheap and he can have so many gfs... 🙄🙄🙄
saeed mohamed they’re becoming a very small minority sadly. I’ve also noticed that many - even the ones who call themselves religious - are looking for girlfriends first
i felt sorry for the women whose husbands treat them like there slaves there are men who think that their parents comes first than their wives because they only heard the line that you cannot say { off } to you parents .
Its a balance between wife and parents, both are important, there are far too many old people abandoned in old age homes, assisted living facilities or in flats all alone, so lets not go to extremes in our stance on this topic.
@Beautiful-Me You shouldn't say such things about an entire country of people, if you had a bad relationship, that was a test for you from Allah, and Alhamdulilah Allah helped you. Pointing fingers at other people is a mark of poor character, may Allah grant us good character. If we have true taqwa in Allah we will always see good in things and we will not malign anyone let alone an entire population. May Allah grant us true taqwa. Lets not create disunity in the ummah inshaallah. May Allah guide us.
Every female deserves respect' there should be no ego, or either anything should be pointed out because: a girl, lady is like a worker who works since her birth to until when she didn't die; faults are in all of us, but a man should respect and stay kind' Whether it's his: daughter, sister, mother or wife or even a girl who is nothing. This ongoing society and system already messed a lot" please make your future by your own hands. Ali Muzaffar.
Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, brother I wish more men understood this as you do, In Sha Allah we will teach our sons to be grateful for the roll women play (and vis versa). Because now that I've a 1 month old daughter I feel very protective that she don't get under valued as you just explained. May I ask what uncouraged this thinking in you?
@@sabrinauddin1495 I'm a 21, year old author. I had a disabling problem since birth. So I have wrote down a book which published last year. As I mentioned the problem, since 2013, I connect a great bound with sisters. And believe it or not I had a beautiful and adorable desire of having 3 daughters in the future. Ali Muzaffar.
Dearest brother Please make dua for women around the world we don't have brave men for us not good for world and hereafter. We r left unattended and insulted. May Allah help us on right way with brave and strong faith partner . Ameen
It's very painful when women don't get help from their inlaws, I thank Allah that he gave me strength to get rid of abusive relationship and in laws after 16 years Alhumdulillah parents of ummah should give daughters the strength to support what is right not to tolerate everything beyond our imagination.
@@sisterindeen8333 Alhumdulillah by the grace of Almighty Allah I am feeling good and living good please pray for ummah and the people in india pakistan and Bangladesh that have changed islamic culture by taking Dowry and expecting more from the daughter in law and her family, please forgive me but this is bitter truth that people are doing business when they have son to get married. Allah guide the ummah.
I have had a very bad married life..worst abusive husband and in laws..but it cost to divorce ultimately..thanks to allah to have removed them from my life altogether..
Thank u brother for making my husband listen to your amazing speech after a long time I was waiting for someone to speak and make my husband understand that what he doing is wrong with my life may Allah bless and I'm so happy to have a brother like u I'm from indan a musmil woman living in gaza Palestine and suffering for a long time from my in-laws I came far from my place in 1994
SMALL DHIKR GREAT REWARD 1) سُبْحَا نَ اللهِ وَ بِحَمْدِهِ عَدَدَخَلْقِهِ، وَرِضَا نَفْسِهِ، وَزِنَةَ عَرْشِهِ وَمِدَادَ كَلِمَاتِهِ. Subhanallahi wa bihamdihi, ai’dada khalqihi, wa ridhaa nafsihi, wa zinata ‘ar shihi, wa midaada kalimaatihi. Reward: Recite 3 times = 6 hours of Dhikr 2) رَضِيتُ باللَّهِ رَبًّا، وَبِالْإِسْلَامِ دِيناً، وَبِمُحَمَّدٍ صَلَى اللَّهُ عَلِيهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَبِيَّاً Radheetu billaahi Rabban, wa bil-'Islaami deenan, wa bi-Muhammadin (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallama) Nabiyyan. ((Three times)) Reward: Allah has promised that anyone who says every morning or evening will be pleased on the Day of Resurrection. 3) SubhanAllah سُبْحَانَ الله Reward: say 100 times a day and 1,000 Hasanah will be written for you or 1,000 sins will be wiped away. 4) سُبْحَانَ اللهِ الْعَظِيمِ وَ بِحَمْدِ هِ Subhaanal-laahil ‘aathiimi wa bihamdihi Reward: say this and a date palm will be planted for you in Paradise. (In Shaa Allah) 5) لَا إِلٰهَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ، لَهُ الْمُلْكُ وَلَهُ الحَمْدُ وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ Laa ilaaha illallaahu wahdahu laa shareeka lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay'in Qadeer. Reward: say 10 times and you will have the reward for freeing 4 slaves from the Children of Isma’il 6) اللَّهُمَّ إنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْجَنَّةَ Allahuma inni as alukal jannah Meaning: Oh Allah, grant me Jannah Reward: say 3 times and Jannah itself will ask Allah to grant you Jannah 7) اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ وَسَلَّمْ عَلَى نَبِيِّنَا مُحَمَّدٍ Allahumma salli wa sallim 'alaa nabiyyinaa Muhammadin Reward: The Prophet saw said: "Who recites blessings upon me 10 times in the morning and 10 times in the evening will obtain my intercession on the Day of Resurrection.” 8) أَعُوذُ بِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ التَّامَّاتِ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا خَلَقَ 'A'oothu bikalimaatil-laahit-taammaati min sharri maa khalaqa Reward: Whoever recites this 3 times in the evening will be protected from insect stings. 9) سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَبِحَمْدِهِ Subhaanallaahi wa bihamdihi Reward: Whoever recites this 100 times in the morning and in the evening will not be surpassed on the Day of Resurrection by anyone having done better than this except for someone who had recited it more. 10) بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الَّذِي لَا يَضُرُّ مَعَ اسْمِهِ شَيْءٌ فِي الَْأرْضِ وَلَا فِي السَّمَاءِ وَهُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ Bismillaahil-lathee laa yadhurru ma'as-mihi shay'un fil-'ardhi wa laa fis-samaa'i wa Huwas-Samee 'ul- 'Aleem Reward: Recite 3 times. Whoever recites it in the morning will not be afflicted by any calamity before evening, and whoever recites it in the evening will not be overtaken by any calamity before morning. 11) حَسْبِيَ اللَّهُ لَآ إِلَهَ إِلَّا هُوَ عَلَيْهِ تَوَكَّلْتُ وَهُوَ رَبُّ الْعَرْشِ الْعَظِيمِ Hasbiyallaahu laa 'ilaaha 'illaa Huwa 'alayhi tawakkaltu wa Huwa Rabbul-'Arshil-'Adheem Reward: Allah will grant whoever recites this 7 times in the morning or evening whatever he desires from this world or the next. 12) اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ رَبِّي لَّا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ، خَلَقْتَنِي وَأَنَا عَبْدُكَ، وَأَنَا عَلَى عَهْدِكَ وَوَعْدِكَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُ، أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا صَنَعْتُ، أَبُوءُ لَكَ بِنِعْمَتِكَ عَلَيَّ، وَأَبُوءُ بِذَنْبِي فَاغْفِر لِي فَإِنَّهُ لَا يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ Allaahumma Anta Rabbee laa ilaaha illaa Anta, khalaqtanee wa anaa 'abduka, wa anaa 'alaa 'ahdika wa wa'dika mas-tata'tu, a'oothu bika min sharri maa sana'tu, aboo'u laka bini'matika 'alayya, wa aboo'u bithanbee faghfir lee fa'innahu laa yaghfiruth-thunooba 'illaa Anta. Reward: Whoever recites this with conviction in the evening and dies during that night shall enter Paradise, and whoever recites it with conviction in the morning and dies during that day shall enter Paradise.
Assalamu alaikum warahmathullahi wabarakathuhu, Jazakallahu Khair for this video. I'm a young, unmarried, well aged boy. In this video, that line "You are in the middle of two worlds". Subhanallah, it is a big responsibility offered to the husband. Young people like me and many other males will struggle and suffer in this part. So, the real thing I want to say is, it doesn't matter you are age 30 or 60, you have to accept those both responsibilities and live your life. If you can't, then you are not ready for marriage. Staying single and serving your parents seems better, I think so. Please include me and my family in your valuable duas. May Allah make us a perfect and pious person before getting married to our spouses, Aameen ya Allah, Aameen summa aameen
You seem very humble. May Allah make whatever struggles you have in life easy and bring you a nice, loving spouse whenever you feel you are ready ameen❤
I had the most compassionate and caring husband. I would complain about being overweight. He would pick me up, I could see he was having a hard time, but he would say you're not heavy at all. Just to cheer me up. He didn't see anyone else standing but me.
May Allah reward him for covering this topic.So so important.Men are so important in the ummah,they are oblivious to the impact they have.And Men being upright,just and uplifting of women can have a profound impact.Woman have faults too for sure but to be qawam lead by example. In terms of families,communities and societies.I come from a community where women have the job of the men and women and the daughters end up resentful and embittered to having witnessed that their parents treated the siblings so differently based on gender.Alhamdulilah we don't have the living with in laws culture but they raise and judge genders different.Boys having less responsibilities and more freedom.As a result the boys are unprepared for manhood and or the reality of being a responsible,just yet gentle leader.it has created a lot of issues because the men get defensive when criticised.Women sort of created this expectation and passed it down so there is blame with them too. Its a disservice to the ummah to raise inadequate boys who do not rise to the responsibility which awaits them. Also brothers need to realise the stress of an unhappy marriage or mistreatment on a pregnant woman biologically impacts the developing foetus and child , increases her chances of depression and consequentially the ability to be the attentive and emotionally present mother she would be otherwise.We always say that the women are the backbones of the family but if they aren’t fulfilled,supported and nurtured emotionally that can make that a difficult task or detriment the quality of that strength and the quality of that home.
Subahanallah. This is so much inspiring. I wish my mom watched this. She's no more alive at the moment. But I personally know how much she suffered from living with her in laws.
"even if you have messed up families, you still have to do your best." Remember that well guys. Don't give in to this world's cruelness and unfairness to filth your heart and soul. Dont despair Allah's mercy and May Allah always guide us and keep our hearts enriched with love and hope💕💕💕💕
That's why sometimes I wish imam mahdi and Prophet Jesus/Isa would come already because the world is just getting worser and worser until they come. Then after Prophet Jesus passes away of old age, the world will start crumbling again until the trumpet blows.
@@misstoxicfucker__journeyto1017 The beard is a natural hijab for men since it covers the face and convering the head with the cap is also advised for. And if you have a complaint with covering the whole body for women than you would be surprised but its also obligaory for men to be covered properly in the presence of women.
Most of the times as i have seen now,it will be a woman who be the enemy of her own kind. From the in-laws, either the husband's mother or his sister is the one putting thorns into the path.
I've been there. My mother-in-law, my father-in-law & their 2 son's. Tried brainwashing my husband. Alhumdulillah my husband realised & grateful to Allah we live a better life & in a better (not toxic) environment.
Thank you for this video! Honestly it’s sad how men (mainly from our dad’s generations) felt this false sense of entitlement towards women... People often mix culture and Islam together. When in reality is it’s culture that views women as “weak”, or rather the “inferior” sex. Whereas in islam, and esp in the eyes of our creator allah swt we’re all equal regardless of gender. And unfortunately due to all this muslimahs are now also revolting and choosing the feminism route over islam... May Allah save this entire ummah, ameen❤️.
@@jaso9201 tolerance for what? Pain? Actually men have better pain tolerance than women according to studies. Most top professions around the world are dominated by men, because men are competitive in mature and men get shit done. In Quran Allah says himself that men have superiority over women and men are responsible for women.
xBullet isgod Yeah even it says that doesn’t mean that you control women’s lives and when i said that women have more tolerance it’s a scientific fact you can’t deny that go do your research. We have to hold a baby in our stomach for 9 months and get periods till we are like 50 and then most men say getting kicked in the balls hurt more which goes to show we have more tolerance and if you don’t believe me search it up
I think men and women both experience difficulties but in a different way, for Allah (swt) is indeed fair for everyone, we are all tested differently for indeed everyone has a problem and we should all be patient. I think everyone should be good, kind, merciful, compassionate, righteous, soft talking, helpful and show love and concern to both Male and female not just 1 gender but both especially the elderly, children and disabled ones and may Allah (swt) forgive the believing men and believing women and those who deserve to be forgiven, for indeed Allah (swt) is truely most merciful
Assalaam alaikum. You 100% correct that there is no different. Because my wife was like this in every kind of way,no I don't see my children at all. Flirting with boy's and man and she is over the 40. I've never hurt her in any kind of way,how is this possible. Swearing even by Allah when telling lies,telling lies to the family, without even talking to me first if there was a problem,and it seems that all that she said where lies about me,only to be free and do haram thing's. So this is also about man's that are going true hardship.
@@gerolddo Yes, it's both sided. Not a specific gender... But when talk about inlaws, still Mijority of Women deal injustice, and it could be in any category....
Yousef Cui - nothing more to add to your comment; to find comprehensive inclusivity in this relation. We first of all fail to understand the importance and the responsibility that changes overnight for spouses once they say “I Do” the deficits that prolong in this relationship takes a toll and with time the simple deficits change masks and become abusive in nature due to new goal posts erected to outsmart one another under the same roof. If we look at the Jews particularly at this social aspect of a human they have evolved considerably due to the fact of their survival as the chosen ones or other worldly power (of course only if they had followed the path of the true religion). We have a great responsibility towards our Creator and our Prophet(saw) to be the best of people to mankind, since that goal is forsaken and hence this is one of the many degradation that have crept into us. It is not enough to make spouses to understand and cope with each other, the emphasis should be what our Creator is expecting from both of us; as a husband and as a wife. No one is doing favor on anyone here not at all in the slightest moment, it is for the sake of Allah and if that sincerity for Allah’s sake comes into our way of life then for such spouse or person Allah makes them to be loved and Respected. Allah knows best.
It's never ending topic to be discussed or talked over... And so as our duas,They Must be never ending too. May Allah SWT forgive the Believing men & women and those who deserve to be forgiven and Those who He SWT wants to forgive, As He is The Decision-Maker of all the matters. Ameen🤲 @yusuf: Ameen @ Beautiful Dua Mentioned in the last
For forgiveness and Allah's mercy - 1 أَنْتَ وَلِيُّنَا فَاغْفِرْ لَنَا وَارْحَمْنَا ۖ وَأَنْتَ خَيْرُ الْغَافِرِينَ وَاكْتُبْ لَنَا فِي هَٰذِهِ الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِي الْآخِرَةِ إِنَّا هُدْنَا إِلَيْكَ Anta waliyyuna faghfirlana warhamna waanta khayru alghafireen. Waktub lana fee hathihi ddunya hasanatan wafee al-akhiratiinna hudna ilayk (O my Lord) You are our Protector, so forgive us and have mercy upon us; and You are the best of forgivers. And ordain for us good in this world, and in the Hereafter. Certainly we have turned unto You. Surah Al-A'raf - 7:155-156
This is kinda depressing...I'm still sort of young, so I am not looking to get married, but I feel like by the time I do get married (if I get married, that is), all the good, kind men will be gone. :( I think it is getting harder to find a good spouse these days, so it will probably be worse in the future.
Tears r fallin from eyes reading and hearing this..exactly of what has happening in me right now,, i am confused what shall i do for i have one child and i am orphan,,jobless for this pandemic....Alhamdulillah for islam...
If you are good to your in-laws you will get the love and appreciation of your husband beiznillah. Try your best to develop a good relationship with them, it will inshaallah be in your own benefit.
@@DiamondsRexpensive I strongly believe that a man with a wonderful pious wife can biiznillah fulfill his responsibility to his mother, father, wife, and others with imaan, peace, calmness, fairness and love. Nobody is innately bad. Neither are you bad as a wife, or will you be bad in the future as a mother-in-law. May Allah give us noble intentions, to do everything for His sake so we will never feel unappreciated.
My mom’s friend’s daughter is getting engaged at 18. And now my mom is holding that thought for me and my sister. We’re not mentally ready for that commitment. Why doesn’t anyone understand this?
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Assalam walekum Brother Nouman. Thank you so much for this lovely video. I had a bad marriage, I tried a lot but ended up tooking Khula n got separated. I had been living in a great guilt bcoz I know that Allah hates divorce. Ur video brought a great relief to me. May Allah bless u!
It's not that divorce is "hated" (apparently some scholars even say that that is a weak Hadith), it's just that it's always sad when relationships don't work out. BUT it is Halal for a reason! And that is because sometimes divorce is required, or needed to have happen, for the safety and well-being of all involved. Sometimes there is no choice but to divorce. There's no reason to feel gulity, if you read about the Sahaba, they had VERY high divorce rates, and that is because they didn't tolerate any mistreatment from their spouses. There's nothing wrong with it, in fact, in the majority of cases, it's actually a very good thing! And people's lives become better after divorce. So don't feel bad or guilty. You did the right thing by first trying to work things out, then seeking divorce when those attempts were not working nor reciprocated. You did everything the Halal way so don't worry. Allah is just, He would never wrong anyone, nor want anyone to suffer unjustly. All the best to you
May Allah forgive all our sins me and my deceased dad and my adopted mom and my daughter and give us jannah tul firdus and remove all my scars ameen Allahuma ameen Ya Rabbulalamin
Since 7 years of my marriage i am facing all these things..my husband is having extra marital affair with 3 girls.he i also in living reationship..inlaws just treat me worst.he has never took me out anywhere. brother pls give me advice what to do..As my husband is in jail from past 7 months.pls guide me in the light of quran and sunnah.
I would advise you to take khula from your husband. If a husband is committing zina then that is valid reason for divorce in Islam. Also ,as you said that he has multiple relationships , you don't know what disease he may pass on to you. You deserve a better life than this , please don't waste your life on someone who has no value or respect for you.
There's no universal problem in the World its only how we respond to that situation. Most of the Time people are much concerned about society & culture. If you choose to take a decision of parting just cut off with negative people from your life. However, practical approach in my opinion is you can do Istikhara. It's done to take divine help when a person is not able to decide what to do. It's done often before getting married, starting a business (investing), etc. 2 cycles nafil prayers are offered with a Dua. Then in the sleep the person get signs what decision he/she has to take. If you see some positive/good dream then it is a sign you should do it, if the dream is negative then it shouldn't be done. If the dream is neutral then i think within week the circumstances in a person's life would be automatically created which makes easy for him to recognize what's to be done. You should research i am not so sure about the neutral dream. Lastly, no matter what never ever think that Allah s.w.t. do injustice to anybody. He is the Most Just. Subhan Allah ! People will get accordingly if not here then surely in the Hereafter.
@@supernatural_forces yes inshaAllah will surely do istikhara..jazak Allah for your precious advice.may Allah show me right path. N make it easy all the rhing as i am having 1 son 2 years old and another son passed away when he was just six months old.
@@pearls2733 yes i m absolutely agree with u .. But i am having 2 year old son..if i will think of 2nd nikah ,so in india girl with kids is not accepted mostly..n my family members says my son will not get fathers love..other man will not love him like his father..they says now he is in prison so he may realise his sins n will come on right path.
Women must remember NEVER marry a man who can not provide separate accommodation for you! A husband must provide Islamically food clothing and separate homes away from all other non haram men Divorce wreck ahead living with in-laws
He has responsibilities of his parents and family on him as well, not just his wife. His parents have a right over him too. He belongs to his parents too. He has to worry about who will care for his parents when he is at work or not able to 24/7. These are all very important issues. This is an important thing that most young girls and wives nowadays don't respect and think about. The thing they think about is I am not responsible for them. The first thing they want is a separate home from his parents and don't care or think about his family or parents. They can also be quite harsh, impatient and disrespectful in the way they talk too. Also there is nothing wrong in living in a joint family if things are okay and the in-laws are not seriously threatening, abusive towards the wife or harming her. There is nothing wrong for wife to be co-operative and responsible in household duties. She is not obligated to by Islam but if she lives with family/parents, morally and respectfully she should be considerate and responsible.
It is your very attitude that causes the problem, you want to be in control, A man should be in control of his wife. Your need to be in control is the cause of the conflicts.
Bloodrayne he shouldn’t get married then if his responsibility for his parents comes first. You can’t expect a woman to take on the role of a caretaker of his parents and him, it’s an absurd and selfish expectation. Men should just wait until their parents pass away to get married if that’s the case.
@@SS-mu3tj Wow you're so emotional. I am a loser for being caring and considerate about man's parents and family?! What is this mentality. I know what the original commenter said and I replied accordingly. My point is that if the wife is living with the family then she is part of the family and as a member of the family she should play a part and be responsible instead of disregarding everyone and everything and not do anything because she isn't obligated for it. It's about basic courtesy, empathy and morality. I can't believe that you would call a wife being generous and kind as toxicity.
This is so beautiful thank you for educating us all men and woman we all make mistakes and we all learn everyday inshallah god will show us the right way and put us on the right path in life
0:24 "why are you so short why are you so fat why are you do dark" why are you associating dark skin color with fat short and other things said to he negative?
It's unfortunately a common association least in my experience with the Pakistani community, a beautiful sister cried to me and said "you're so pale I'm so dark and ugly" I was very shocked. They even use skin bleaching creams sometimes 😱 I Managed to make her laugh telling her how I burn in the sun and go blotchy in heat lol, but it still haunts me to this day how she thinks that, she is gorgeous 😭
Because in some communities such as in pakistan, having white skin is associated with “beauty”. He was just listing some things people say in a row with no particular correlation with one another
Him being from a Pakistani household is just quoting a very commonly used phrase quoted here. I absolutely don't agree with it and I'm pretty sure he doesn't too but it's just a sad reality.
I hate myself for getting married. May Allah bless me and my daughter with peace. Half of these things that he spoke about is actually happening with me
Sheikh Hamza Yusuf said that by Islamic rules, a woman has a right to her own home, her own house. If she is living with her husband's parents and she is serving them, that's a sawab for her. BUT THEY SHOULD be grateful for her service and respect her, not insult her because her cooking/house duties do not befit their standards.
Every word is so.. true and relatable..and these things are have in all the families..but sometimes everyone is helpless...some not understand these sensitive things that are most important for families..and these little things messup all from physically emotionally spritually and people get used to it and set there minds like that and then they behave to other just like that they have learnt from there experiences ..So sad reality of our society...they don't fear ALLAH.. they fear about people's judgement
@@supernatural_forces LoL you sound too young or too prude for youtube if a simple truth like that upsets you. Relax and get over it. Sex is a veryy big part of getting married, and for many many men, the sole motivator to even try. Denying reality isn't gonna get you far in life bud, chillax and grow up
I'm scared and tired of these issues that's why I'm not interested in marriage at all .i don't want to chain myself to a man who can't trust me and my words
I support you for this. Men are never worth the risk. Trusting any men will put our lives at risk, sooner or later they will end up hurting us. It's never worth it.
I like someone a lot but not married yet. He might ask me for marriage soon but I don't know. I just wanna tell you to never sacrifice your studies for your husband.. InshaAllah I'll become a surgeon and I will not stop this for my husband. I love my Lord,prophet and my parents more than him. That is not gonna change inshaAllah.
@@cutlet9227 well, I don't want to discourage you because I admire your ambition, but being a surgeon is a highly demanding job, so if u get married and have kids and do your surgeon work, you will overwork yourself. Just wanted to throw that out.
Diamind you’re literally discouraging her. What you don’t understand is that women can handle a lot more than the fragile man can. InShaAllah she will be a surgeon and InShaAllah her future husband will man up and take care of the kids too.
Asalamualaikum, can I get some advises? in the past days my father did injustice against my mother - it was nothing big but it was wrong and disrespectful, especially in this Ramadan time and my mother was hurt - I know that I shouldn’t raise my voice against my father but I did. And I feel incredible bad for that but I do not regret my action. The problem is that my father can’t communicate well with others without feeling to be the right one . It is very hard to tell him something in nice words because then he seems to not care. When we have a discussion he is so loud that we can’t even concentrate and it seems like he doesn’t give argumentations but irritates us completely so the discussion gets one sided. I asked Allah for forgiveness but I feel like if I don’t discuss with my father the way I do, there would never come a change. Thank you for reading
My father is very similar, so Im using this holy month to make duaa he changes for the better in sha Allah. May Allah reward your mother in abundance for her sabr.
Sister, Islam tells you to talk to your father in a polite manner. Otherwise he will never come to know about what wrong he is doing. When Islam tells us to be kind with our parents it doesn't mean to keep silent and mum and not speak yo them what's bothering you but infact tells you to communicate nicely with them in a polite and respectable manner. So if you shouted ,you should make tauba for that .That's a sin, but you should speak up the truth with kindness and firmness. For example. Ibrahim as father was a idol worshipper . So it's mentioned in the Qur'an that he spoke to him gently and refuted against what his father was doing. Hope you understand.
shahzeb khan thank you for your response and yes I think you are right - I know that this was wrong and I asked Allah for forgiveness - next time I should control my emotions even if he can’t take me serious. You know .. he is the typ of person that doesn’t realize that something went wrong unless everybody around him is shouting and expressing their anger. But you are right - I should have sabr and act how islam is teaching us - again thank you for your advise ☺️
Well Done this is not a video. ...its a lesson to Every men Before they Tie their knots must watch it...not only just watching..But also .Applying it ... Love this video Best of your channel videos 🙏👍👌God bless you Abundantly !
My husband lived abroad, i was living with his parents and siblings, i gave everything he asked, served his whole family. Gave him my gold jewellery when ever he and his mother asked,they sold.cash etc. Everything cloths my all stuff use to give his aunties sisters and mom. And he gave me divorce bcoz he had an affair with another woman.
May Allah give u highest rank of Jannah for your sabr dont forget the hardest battles are for the strongest woman Allah does not missing what happens here in earth
I am so sorry sister... He will have to pay for his actions on the day of judgment. Allah does not do injustice to anyone. Ukw? I think it's better he divorced u, you're out of an unworthy relationship where u gave and got nothing in return. I hope and pray that u get an amazing husband who loves, respects and cares for u. May allah grant u all the highest rank in jannah. Stay strong! ❤️
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Thank you Shaikh. This is the biggest challenge in our Asian Muslim society today
Brother I am in very difficult situation and I don’t know what to do.it has been 1 year I got married with a guy who didn’t had any documents of uk and now I am 6months pregnant .my husband doesn’t gives time to me at all when ever his home he makes phone call or watch’s dramas .when his at work for 8 -10 hours he doesn’t calls me at all ,I did told him how I feel about it.now his telling me when he gets documents then he will go back to Pakistan.i told him I am your wife and how can you leave me here alone and your unborn child ,he said Allah will look after you.i am extremely broken he doesn’t even cares about the child.
This type of lectures r causing hatered towards marriages. Women and men both r avoiding it and I see scores of intentionally unmarried young men and women around me. Mothers r scared to bring in a daughter-in-laws who will steal their most precious treasure while women r looking for a man that they can boss around and men r finding other illegitimate means. Every house I see has old parents taken care of by an unmarried or divorced daughter while sons r living with their wives serving their in-laws. What we need is to teach both boys and girls 1st how to choose an appropriate partner 2nd how to be fair with every family member from both sides 3rd how to be paitient while influencing each others bad habits. Does the lecturer think that this world is filled with perfect men and women? U don't get jannah for having perfect ppl around u, u get jannah by struggling with imperfect ppl around u. That is y in older times the advice of ullema to be paitient made homes while current young ulema's stand up for ur rights advice is destroying marriages and family systems.
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi vabarkatuhu brother can you kindly make a video on how a parent should be caring and how to not make them insecure please .Allahafiz
To have a man who values his wife and follow the Islamic teachings of how to take care of her is like blessing and like winning a lottery..
There shouldn't be an "and" if he follow the Islamic teachings he should value his wife
Sister Samira every true but now days mmmhh all is big test
kuokkam damha yes I agree with you
Kaha hai aisey husband .... I suffered and compromised a lot more more inmy in laws.still my mother in law abuses me ..... Feel insulting everytime....in our whole joint family....
Yaa...A scarce lottery, sadly.
By the way, there's nothing wrong about being dark-skinned. Unfortunately, almost all cultures in Asia and the Middle East are negative towards dark-skin. I'm surprised and disappointed that even many Muslims are this way. Allah made your skin so you shouldn't call yourself ugly. Racism is unacceptable in Islam.
Yes true!
I know right. In fact Dark people will have the greatest light in Jannah
If they don't know their religion then how would they value their own skin.
Dark skin?i dont have dark skin but it is actually better than light, the skin pigment that makes darker skin is beneficial to us protects us from the sun more...Alhamdullilah👌🏼
I was about to write exactly the same comment : there's nothing wrong about being dark skinned. God is the one that has chosen some people to be dark skinned some other to be light skinned but at the end no one is better than anybody unless they're pious.
I have been in an abusive relationship. I have tears in my eyes as I watch this. It is so relatable. I am so glad I'm out of it. Islam is such a beautiful religion.
May Allah SWT bless you with the best of both worlds.
Ameen
I started crying too because this us exactly what they did to me and left me incredibly scarred. I'm still living the after effects years later...
Asalaamualakum my dear sisters .. Be strong , when those tears flow down your face they will be accountable for ..forgive my dear sisters and be strong..Allah is with you..my dear sisters ..be strong ..wasalaam my beloved x
Allah is with the opressed. stay strong 💕
@@LR-kj8ec
Stay Strong 💪
May Allah SWT Heal your pain and reward you immensely in return of dealing All the sufferings.
Ameen🤲
Just Believe in that The best is yet to come!
(Either in This Duniya or The Hereafter.)
May Allah grant us a good, righteous, caring, and a supportive husband.
Ameen Ya Rabbi
Ameen
Ameen
ALLAH O AKBAR
Ameen
A man should not be angry in expressing his love for his wife
Never forget how much she has done for you and all the things she has left for you and your family
A little appreciation and a kind smile will make her day
Right brother
my husband has not engaged in conversation with me since 2009. His response and answer to all my question is yes, no and hmmmm. It is very sad. He treated me poorly. But he talks nicely to his siblings (all his sisters) and female friends. What should i do? i am tired of his attitude. He did not change and hidayah belongs to Allah.
@@emmykebanski7665 divorce
@@emmykebanski7665 read this abuaminaelias.com/muslim-womens-right-to-divorce/ and go your own way
@@emmykebanski7665 Divorce sister. I can't believe you've 10+ LONG YEARS like this. It is not right. It's haram the way he's treating you. Almost like he's waiting for you to leave. Sis, he don't want you. At all. Please leave. He'll never change towards you. NOT because there's something inherently wrong with you, but the fact is there's something inherently wrong with him. NOT YOU. You deserve better, it is your right to deserve better, and Insha-Allah, you'll get it as soon as you free yourself from the shackles of this sham marriage. You can do it. Don't falter, get weak, or give up. You making it this far only proves how strong you really are, even if you yourself can't see it; the rest of us can. We love you, pray the best for you, and sooner rather than later, you'll finally see that for yourself once you divorce. Good Luck sister. May Allah protect you, guide you, and grant you success, Ameen.
*SO many males have completely missed the point of this lecture. They refuse to be educated and instantly use this as an opportunity to complain and insult women in the comments. Astagfirullah.*
*A muslim should not be ignorant or arrogant. You are perfectly capable of having misogynistic faults. Take a moment to work on your flaws and make yourself a good and desirable man before criticising others. Only then will you attract someone of equal value.*
*If you're only attracting low, silly women then look at yourself and ask why a high ranking good woman doesn't look to you. May Allah guide us.*
Well said
ForTheVirtue - someone commented finding good spouse is finding a needle in the haystack.
Woody Broody I saw that, it’s disappointing to think people feel that way when so many men and women face difficult trials in attempt to perfect themselves for Allah.
Overall, it boils down to misunderstanding. They learn about their rights, but not their duties. They love to demand, but not provide.
Some ladies will not consider a man without a certain wage in fear of being taken from her fathers house and having to live in less than what she’s accustomed to. But she should also have something of value to offer besides beauty.
A lot of men demand their wife be pure and chaste when they are not themselves. Or that she cook and clean for them when that is not an Islamic requirement for a wife, but a basic survival requirement for an adult. Yet, they they barely provide financially or she can provide equally if not more.
The point isn’t to put men and women against each other, but to consider that if we all were given our perfect equal at this moment a lot of people would be disappointed to realise their spouse won’t meet their high standards.
The answer is to better yourself and only ask what you can give. It’s not responsible to wait for a pious person to come along and make you more practising. Pious people also deserve spouses of high piety. They shouldn’t have to lower their standards or settle for someone who refuses to work on themselves, but wants the sun and the moon.
May Allah guide us and forgive us all.
U are right, Ameen
I cry everyday because of my husband who I loved so much it was Unconditional Love, a very strong love Allah swt put in my heart for my husband and he destroyed everything with his lies, tricking me and other women into polygamy marriages only for lust/sexual desires, my husband didnt provide for me. I loved him so much and I was loyal, never cheated on him and now I cry so much, i have mental health problems, emotional abuse and physical abuse because of his lying and tricking me into polygamy marriages and the other women don't know about me but Allah swt exposed him to me and then he moved his wife and children out of London Tooting to Blackpool I think so I cant tell her the truth, she dont know about me Terrible. I couldn't find the other women. His family knows everything SubhanAllaah Ya Allah. Even now his telling me theres no wives and children Ya Allah SubhanAllaah. This was a eye opener for me that how Muslim brothers lie and tricking women into polygamy marriages or they have secret wives and secret girlfriends and their still looking for other women for marriage when they have secret wives and secret girlfriends and secret children, even their own family, mothers and fathers dont know about. Allah is great. SubhanAllaah. No respect for other peoples mothers, sisters and daughters when you have your own mother, sisters and daughters SubhanAllaah... from this horrible experience, horrible, horrible experience that Muslim brothers can abuse us like this and noone cares, SubhanAllaah, I realised that us Muslim sisters dont get justice, Muslim sisters suffering so much in polygamy marriages and the Muslim brothers get away with it because polygamy is in the Quran. My husband didn't love, care, provide, may bill's, he didnt pay rent, he didn't help me, he never buy food for me, its was about lust/sexual desires and all I get from people is it's his right, polygamy is his right and look at what he did to me Ya Allah, Allah is so good. Allhumduillah for Allah. Allah will give me justice soon. Muslims dont understand how this horrible experience made many sisters leave islam, if your mental health is destroyed then your deen Islam will be affaced SubhanAllaah. Now I understand why so many Muslim sisters left Islam, other Muslim sisters took their hijab off and stop going Masjid, sister were being mentally abused, emotionally abused and physically abused, no help or support for converts to Islam, now I understand why sister started new relationshipwith non Muslim men. What I've learned from this horrible experience Muslim brothers can oppress their wives and get away with it and the ummah support him in his oppresstion SubhanAllaah. (((Please don't trust noone, dont trust people on online, even Muslim can be fake, dont trust noone when it comes to marriage, my husband was lying and tricking women into marriage when he was already married with children, girls/women your talking to a man for marriage but you don't know his already married with children and this is happening alot))) ua-cam.com/video/LC3EoR3gOF0/v-deo.html
scream this whole video louder for the desi men at the back, not saying all desi men are like this but most are
Omg mlb fan.
Noir claws. Unfortunately it's even those men who not Desi can be same
Very true... I'm not offensive to the parents of them but in every Desi family, parents teach their sons that they can do anything and they're the king.... And daughters like, "well, there's some restrictions, you can't do whatever you want and just marry soon and obey your husband.. doesn't matter whatever he does, he's your husband so shut up"
@@moniraaktershurovee5645 Don't know what you're talking about. I and many of my friends don't get that special treatment. May be get out in the world more and stop getting your ideas from the TV.
@@ehtishamamin5601 Kasam se some of them talk out of their ass like they know every desi household and grew up in it.
Remember that she's a person in her own right. She has dreams, aspirations, and feelings.
👆👍
@@faebalina7786 yea man. a surprising number of people forget that women have dreams too
@@mo_7199 I fully agree
Sadly sometimes women forget too because culture convinces them otherwise
,so much lost potential that is lost as a result
@@faebalina7786 yea man. that's why im an athiest buddhist because in so many religions and cultures women are looked down upon even if the religion doesnt explicitly promote it
True
This is Islam💙👍🏼, don't see another completed religion other than Islam
Yesss!
Aok Me
That is because Islam is the foundation of the religions before it, Christianity and Juadism as well as Islamic teachings on its own views.
Aslkum the most beautiful thing of this video is the statement that "All femals are the property of Allah " SubhanAllah ....this just made me cried.....Allhumdullillah
If the in laws have so much problem with the wife taking away their son , then why let your son get married?
Some ppl are sick, and think they own their kids.
@@DiamondsRexpensive Technically thats true since the parents pay for everything and are dependent on them for a very long time.
But you are right this behaviour needs to stop.
Agreed
Because now they lose their maid, that’s the main issue. They want the ‘bahu’ moving in with them because they think she will look after them 😂
They have kids so that the kids could sacrifice their adulthood looking after elderly parents. My grandparents took me in when my mom was ill, but I'm expected to look after them, but nothing I do is ever enough. Anyways, I'm going to move out and I'm expected to live with my in laws and be a _model_ DIL. My uncle has to stay with my grandparents. That's just the standard in our culture. My grandparents do plenty for us, for me and I love them, but my grandad is a narcissist and I pity my nan and uncle
Please pray for me that I find a man who treats me right and doesn't hurt me in any way. I feel very discouraged but only trust Allah. It hurts to see how women are treated and I am so scared to be treated badly. Please pray for me and my family who are having a hard time getting married.
Wow two samias, God bless you both 🙏🔶✨
Pray tahajjud, do istigfar and make during tahajjud... Tahajjud and istigfar is solution to each & every problem. May Allah bless u with a pious, loving and handsome husband ☺
Easy to find. Can’t say the same for men tho
If he hurts you hurt him back. Who said a woman can’t play a man at his own game? That’s usually the only way they ever learn
i dont understand how ppl thinks that its alllll the damn time women are innocent. ..even being a girl...i think i am hating women because i was bullied by jealous , envious, toxic bitches at university. i know not all were bad... but majority were so damn jealous of me... whenever i see a women suffer anything. ..i dont have sympathy for her because what happened to me by girls makes me hate women so much. stop trying to defend women everywhere. . some are really as cruel as men or mothrr in law or whatever. i am very much done with girls... now i am ignoring them avoiding them..now those bitches themselves come towards me because they are affected by my ignoring them. but ill continue to ignore them to make them.. its quite sad but because of my experience i dont feel empathy for girls. please all of u stop acting like its women who are best everytime, everywhere. . some are very professional jealous bitches also
I don’t understand why the mother in law will bring the girl of her choice and after marriage is the first person to not like her, like you did like her and now what if you didn’t like her why bring in your family?! 😅
Sad and true.
Exactly!
She choosed what she thought was the best cleaning/cooking service and after marriage she suddenly realizes that a daughter in law is not a free new servant, so she gets upset with her for not being what she expected, it what happens in a lot of cases...
Exactly 🤣
No, they still hate every other girl that can potentially be his wife. Once someone steps in that role she is on the target. Thats why they purposely try to choose someone who will be easily tackled, someone soft spoken or not a threat at all. Then they use all their mind games to confine her only to the duties at home while she continues to be the number 1 priority of her son by ruling over his mind and heart. The Husband and wife will meanwhile never be able to build a healthy relationship built upon love and trust.
Imagine being married to a narcissist. A nightmare
easy : move away
Easier said than done. You only get to know people's true colours after marriage
@@InshasChoice you can move away after marriage or it is not compulsory to marry
Insha
That's true, people are only comfortable mostly with their direct family once you become part of that everything you don't know about your spouse shows up.
I know how it feels already, grew up with a narcissist dad and a mother who still just puts up with it. Unsurprisingly I’ve been to therapy...
I'm just so scared of marriage..my parents are so nice .. they treat me like a princess but the idea of going to a man with a new family is very scary ...
Same
the solution is to not marry and be independent and make money
live however you want..it's yours anyway
-BTS
me too
Insha'allah your in laws will be amazing 👏
summi mz
If you end up having a problem with your in laws ask your spouse to move out, other then that try not to make this video overwhelm you, get to know your in-laws and see what their like.
Moral of the story dont marry until u are truly mature
100% agree
Yet children are allowed to get married in islam at a very young and immature age. Im muslim and i love my religion, but just don't understand how a teenager would be allowed to get married after she reaches puberty.
Ruby Reef
It was the culture, there was a time where being a teenager was looked upon as being an adult. You notice how most teens hit puberty very young? Thats when most cultures state that they're now adults and prepared for marriage and children. Biologically speaking that is correct but otherwise I agree, just wait a while. Thats why most people marry in their twenties or some even in their forties or thirties.
@@cinna_sultan that's exactly what i mean. People get mature at different paces; some are ready to have a family in their twenties, and some in their forties. Yet some cultures make it obligatory to get married before a certain age, like an "expiration date" is set. My culture does that too. What If some teenager or immature person wants to marry, without thinking it through, and ends up getting divorced?
Not saying it woyld always happen, but it *has* happened before me.
And i don't think there is anything in the religion that really opposes it.
Do u think mature ones won't have problem?
Being called dark is not an insult, it’s a skin tone. A beautiful one at that. But I’m sure ustadh didn’t mean it like that. He was only pointing out what people perceive as insulting.
If only you knew how hard being a dark skin woman is .When in your own family they give out your fair skinned cousins to get married before you because you are dark skinned
@@lemonvate9860 Salaam sis, remember that Allah made you (us) this way, and he finds us beautiful. I'm sorry your family made you feel that way. InshaAllah you'll marry someone who'll see your values and love you for you.
I don't think he meant anything wrong, it's just because in some cultures, being dark skinned is viewed as a flaw when Allah made us all beautiful and all different, this is a cultural problem that needs to change
he probably meant by dark that she has a dark personality or a dark heart.
When you see righteous people, you also say that they have a radiant face.
Alia Nuh you reckon his a racist ha
It is because of these issues that the children of married couples having such problems avoid marriage like the plague when they grow up. Some daughters even become misandrists after being exposed to such environment. These in-laws think they are entitled to treat the woman like a servant. So according to them, a wife is a servant who doesn't need a salary and is a baby-making machine. I know there are horrible women out there as well, who emotionally abuse their husbands and blackmail them. Both genders contribute to this issue.
Noire Lavandula yes it is sad to see the women who become misandrists because their parents couldnt have a healthy relationships :((
Very well said.
Not following the religion is the major cause.
@@frogs4733 same here😖
Frogs 47 Then why not find a relationship that isn’t similar to your parents?
May Allah bless righteous women a husbands who give them their RIGHTS
1. Respect.
2. Respect.
3. Respect.
I dont understand why people dont get it?. This is soo heartbreaking.💔..
Assallam, i observed that most /men always complaints their women talking too much and the husband cannot tolerate. I think husband/men dont want to listen the woman voice in day but they need the woman voice ONLY at night in bed. Sorry to say this is the men behaviour in the marriage life. Its very pain thou.
It’s same on either side. It’s bed for men and shopping for women.
Sabrina Uddin - please try to comprehend the point I had intended.
That’s not right!
S S - men are already tired of feminist narcissism, and it is not a secret anymore like crying babies act under the garb of misplaced men’s behavior impacts every little heart burn or acid reflux a feminist experiences. Feminist too have butts but men’s are more magnanimous not to see those butts are hurt. 🥱
@@SS-mu3tj Woah you gotta calm down. Calling others "butt hurt" when you are basically acting the same way. We can all be keyboard warriors. But that won't solve anything. All of us (men & women) are tested in different ways by Allaah. Blaming others all the time will only increase the severity of the test.
That's why you don't move in with a mama's boy.
Yess true
Thank you. God bless you.
😂 👏
Yes. That's why you need to hav eyour own house. And women should work
Fun fact, women can choose to do a job or take care of children or even both while men are required to go to work and be a bread earner, Islam really out there addressing women's rights.
Actually , the irony is that, my own mother does this same thing to me, and I am so scared I will have to face this again after I get married.
your mother has the rights though😅
@@travellerashik1471 ua-cam.com/video/czs_SuPmBco/v-deo.html
@@travellerashik1471 no one has the right to abuse or take your rights away no matter if theyr your parents or his or anyone else as everyone is answerable for their own actions on the day of judgement and no abuse will be over rided the rights were given to all women, Islam is fair to everyone, no one is allowed to treat or be treated like this. Plus I'm talking from experience my parents and now my in laws. There is a severe punishment for anyone who does not fear Allah and treats anyone like this.
I pray u won’t have to face it ever again.. I understand how painful it is for you ❤️
May Allah gives you happiness and love 💓
@@iramakhtar4070 thank you for saying this, you are absolutely correct.
If you want a wife like Fathimah ra, you first have to become like ‘Ali ra
You can’t be Abu Jahal and expect a wife like Khadija ra, or Fathimah ra
Emina Hamidovic
Do the basics, see if you like him and if you don't complain to your father but give him a chance. We know women want all the demands in a man, hes not a superhero and he's not a millionare but if he's dignified and good then he could be the spouse for you.
Finding good women like them are 1 in a 500 million chance
Sieg
True but still, theres the few odd balls
@will d May Allah guide you Astaghfirullah
Why do you have to use our beautiful religion to justify your arrogant and mysogynistic views on women? Yes, women have been commanded to obey their husbands but the way you put it would make anybody question their beliefs about the treatment of women from their husbands in Islam.. You could instead be polite and humble to share your knowledge and views, not only would that invite a discussion and you'd get a chance to learn something you didn't know about, it wouldn't scare or discourage anybody to share their opinions on the matter
May Allah forgive us and protect us from all kinds of evils Ameen
@will d why do you think Allah revealed that so men can 'control' their wives? Clearly you've misunderstood the verse and interpretating based on your views on women
I may be wrong so I pray that may Allah have mercy on me and guide me to the right understanding as well ameen
This is so relatable. My husband has been so abusive for last 36 years. I will never forgive him. May Allah give him ajar for it.
farah ahmad 36 years? MashaAllah, thats a lot. I hope you dont mind me asking but how did you manage to stay together for that long?
Zu Nor it’s because for the sake of Allah she is stilled married and inshallah Allah will reward her in this life and the hear inshallah
This is Terrible! SubhanAllaah
@@zua240 because of shame, people will talk. Women stay because his my husband. This is Terrible.
@@muhammedmateen4728 Even if it is for the sake of Allah(swt), I dont think Allah says to stay with the one who is abusive to you. If he does not treat you right & disrespects you, we have the option to divorce and divorce is not a bad thing in Islam. Only difficult once you have had kids. May Allah (swt) protect all of us.
Unfortunately, compassion, respect and empathy are very rarely taught and children learn by what they see. The Mother is the most honoured person is Islam yet very few are taught how to respect and cherish her. This is prevalent throughout generations and has resulted in women becoming abusers and seeking to avenge the pain they are feeling and male privilege. Respect, honour, compassion and empathy should be taught alongside everything else we learn. Many people follow the rituals of religion and are praised for their ‘practice’ of Namaz etc but it’s all wasted when behind closed doors they are abusive and disrespectful. Your spouse should compliment you and your relationship with your parents not supplement it. Mothers in law can be possessive and viscous they take it out on the daughter in law because they feel inadequate and don’t know how to love.
Agreed sister 🖤
Once I went to a mobile shop and the man working over there knows my father and uk as usual they will ask each other how the family is doing and all. Idk whether it was his daughter or niece that she wanted to study more but the husband's parents did not allow her to go. And the worst thing is when the husband is an easy going person and the parents take advantage of that son and the parent say " oh dont let her go. She should be living with u and serve u" I'm like huh? Like they care about the son tooo much that they dont want the girl to be happy
After divorce im living with my mother since 6 years and im unable to find any good Muslim man who can do justice .. everyone wnt to make gf but no one came to marry.
@saeed mohamed you can count them on your fingers and they are already married or engaged or busy with studying and making a man out of themselves. Many men want a gf these days, because a gf is cheap and he can have so many gfs... 🙄🙄🙄
Don't lose hope. Keep making dua. There are lots of good muslim men out there. This your test.
May Allaah grant you a righteous pious spouse.
be independent..
I think when you're not looking, that's when someone might come knocking on your door
saeed mohamed they’re becoming a very small minority sadly. I’ve also noticed that many - even the ones who call themselves religious - are looking for girlfriends first
i felt sorry for the women whose husbands treat them like there slaves
there are men who think that their parents comes first than their wives because they only heard the line that you cannot say { off } to you parents .
Its a balance between wife and parents, both are important, there are far too many old people abandoned in old age homes, assisted living facilities or in flats all alone, so lets not go to extremes in our stance on this topic.
@Beautiful-Me
You shouldn't say such things about an entire country of people, if you had a bad relationship, that was a test for you from Allah, and Alhamdulilah Allah helped you. Pointing fingers at other people is a mark of poor character, may Allah grant us good character.
If we have true taqwa in Allah we will always see good in things and we will not malign anyone let alone an entire population. May Allah grant us true taqwa.
Lets not create disunity in the ummah inshaallah.
May Allah guide us.
Every female deserves respect' there should be no ego, or either anything should be pointed out because: a girl, lady is like a worker who works since her birth to until when she didn't die; faults are in all of us, but a man should respect and stay kind' Whether it's his: daughter, sister, mother or wife or even a girl who is nothing. This ongoing society and system already messed a lot" please make your future by your own hands. Ali Muzaffar.
Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, brother
I wish more men understood this as you do, In Sha Allah we will teach our sons to be grateful for the roll women play (and vis versa). Because now that I've a 1 month old daughter I feel very protective that she don't get under valued as you just explained.
May I ask what uncouraged this thinking in you?
@@sabrinauddin1495 I'm a 21, year old author. I had a disabling problem since birth. So I have wrote down a book which published last year. As I mentioned the problem, since 2013, I connect a great bound with sisters. And believe it or not I had a beautiful and adorable desire of having 3 daughters in the future. Ali Muzaffar.
@will d But I don't say either that every female is right and same as every men. Isn't right too.
Quit simping . Respect is earned. Not every female deserve respect.
Dearest brother
Please make dua for women around the world we don't have brave men for us not good for world and hereafter.
We r left unattended and insulted.
May Allah help us on right way with brave and strong faith partner .
Ameen
God bless you and protect you.
It's very painful when women don't get help from their inlaws, I thank Allah that he gave me strength to get rid of abusive relationship and in laws after 16 years Alhumdulillah parents of ummah should give daughters the strength to support what is right not to tolerate everything beyond our imagination.
durdana nazneen did you leave your husband after 16 years
@@sisterindeen8333
Yes my sister i would have done it very long time ago it has been 4 years now.
Pray for me and my kids.
durdana nazneen are you feeling better now?
@@sisterindeen8333
Alhumdulillah by the grace of Almighty Allah I am feeling good and living good please pray for ummah and the people in india pakistan and Bangladesh that have changed islamic culture by taking Dowry and expecting more from the daughter in law and her family, please forgive me but this is bitter truth that people are doing business when they have son to get married. Allah guide the ummah.
durdana nazneen durdana nazneen what is your name? I will pray for you specially today
I have had a very bad married life..worst abusive husband and in laws..but it cost to divorce ultimately..thanks to allah to have removed them from my life altogether..
I am so sorry that happen.
Are you happier now
@@sisterindeen8333 i don't regret for my decision as allah says there is good in whatever pains you go through in life sister.
May Allah give you a lot of happiness ameen
@@sisterindeen8333 may Allah give us all happiness. Jazakallah. 🙂
Thank u brother for making my husband listen to your amazing speech after a long time I was waiting for someone to speak and make my husband understand that what he doing is wrong with my life may Allah bless and I'm so happy to have a brother like u I'm from indan a musmil woman living in gaza Palestine and suffering for a long time from my in-laws I came far from my place in 1994
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Reward: Recite 3 times = 6 hours of Dhikr
2)
رَضِيتُ باللَّهِ رَبًّا، وَبِالْإِسْلَامِ دِيناً، وَبِمُحَمَّدٍ صَلَى اللَّهُ عَلِيهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَبِيَّاً
Radheetu billaahi Rabban, wa bil-'Islaami deenan, wa bi-Muhammadin (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallama) Nabiyyan. ((Three times))
Reward: Allah has promised that anyone who says every morning or evening will be pleased on the Day of Resurrection.
3)
SubhanAllah
سُبْحَانَ الله
Reward: say 100 times a day and 1,000 Hasanah will be written for you or 1,000 sins will be wiped away.
4)
سُبْحَانَ اللهِ الْعَظِيمِ وَ بِحَمْدِ هِ
Subhaanal-laahil ‘aathiimi wa bihamdihi
Reward: say this and a date palm will be planted for you in Paradise. (In Shaa Allah)
5)
لَا إِلٰهَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ، لَهُ الْمُلْكُ وَلَهُ الحَمْدُ وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ
Laa ilaaha illallaahu wahdahu laa shareeka lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu wa Huwa 'alaa kulli shay'in Qadeer.
Reward: say 10 times and you will have the reward for freeing 4 slaves from the Children of Isma’il
6)
اللَّهُمَّ إنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْجَنَّةَ
Allahuma inni as alukal jannah
Meaning: Oh Allah, grant me Jannah
Reward: say 3 times and Jannah itself will ask Allah to grant you Jannah
7)
اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ وَسَلَّمْ عَلَى نَبِيِّنَا مُحَمَّدٍ
Allahumma salli wa sallim 'alaa nabiyyinaa Muhammadin
Reward: The Prophet saw said: "Who recites blessings upon me 10 times in the morning and 10 times in the evening will obtain my intercession on the Day of Resurrection.”
8)
أَعُوذُ بِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ التَّامَّاتِ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا خَلَقَ
'A'oothu bikalimaatil-laahit-taammaati min sharri maa khalaqa
Reward: Whoever recites this 3 times in the evening will be protected from insect stings.
9)
سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَبِحَمْدِهِ
Subhaanallaahi wa bihamdihi
Reward: Whoever recites this 100 times in the morning and in the evening will not be surpassed on the Day of Resurrection by anyone having done better than this except for someone who had recited it more.
10)
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الَّذِي لَا يَضُرُّ مَعَ اسْمِهِ شَيْءٌ فِي الَْأرْضِ وَلَا فِي السَّمَاءِ وَهُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ
Bismillaahil-lathee laa yadhurru ma'as-mihi shay'un fil-'ardhi wa laa fis-samaa'i wa Huwas-Samee 'ul- 'Aleem
Reward: Recite 3 times. Whoever recites it in the morning will not be afflicted by any calamity before evening, and whoever recites it in the evening will not be overtaken by any calamity before morning.
11)
حَسْبِيَ اللَّهُ لَآ إِلَهَ إِلَّا هُوَ عَلَيْهِ تَوَكَّلْتُ وَهُوَ رَبُّ الْعَرْشِ الْعَظِيمِ
Hasbiyallaahu laa 'ilaaha 'illaa Huwa 'alayhi tawakkaltu wa Huwa Rabbul-'Arshil-'Adheem
Reward: Allah will grant whoever recites this 7 times in the morning or evening whatever he desires from this world or the next.
12)
اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ رَبِّي لَّا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ، خَلَقْتَنِي وَأَنَا عَبْدُكَ، وَأَنَا عَلَى عَهْدِكَ وَوَعْدِكَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُ، أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا صَنَعْتُ، أَبُوءُ لَكَ بِنِعْمَتِكَ عَلَيَّ، وَأَبُوءُ بِذَنْبِي فَاغْفِر لِي فَإِنَّهُ لَا يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ
Allaahumma Anta Rabbee laa ilaaha illaa Anta, khalaqtanee wa anaa 'abduka, wa anaa 'alaa 'ahdika wa wa'dika mas-tata'tu, a'oothu bika min sharri maa sana'tu, aboo'u laka bini'matika 'alayya, wa aboo'u bithanbee faghfir lee fa'innahu laa yaghfiruth-thunooba 'illaa Anta.
Reward: Whoever recites this with conviction in the evening and dies during that night shall enter Paradise, and whoever recites it with conviction in the morning and dies during that day shall enter Paradise.
Salam could you please email me these? I can’t copy from here.
sehrishahmad18@gmail.com
Thank you
JazakAllahu khair
Shukran akhii
Jazak Allah Khair
Assalamu alaikum warahmathullahi wabarakathuhu, Jazakallahu Khair for this video.
I'm a young, unmarried, well aged boy. In this video, that line "You are in the middle of two worlds". Subhanallah, it is a big responsibility offered to the husband. Young people like me and many other males will struggle and suffer in this part. So, the real thing I want to say is, it doesn't matter you are age 30 or 60, you have to accept those both responsibilities and live your life. If you can't, then you are not ready for marriage.
Staying single and serving your parents seems better, I think so.
Please include me and my family in your valuable duas.
May Allah make us a perfect and pious person before getting married to our spouses,
Aameen ya Allah, Aameen summa aameen
You seem very humble. May Allah make whatever struggles you have in life easy and bring you a nice, loving spouse whenever you feel you are ready ameen❤
@@kayc.8283 Aameen summa aameen 💖
Trusting any men is life's risk for women. Sooner or later they will end up hurting us. And it's not worth it
@@mariyamatia8726 So your solution is to stay single till you die? That doesn't sound like such a good idea.
@@syedsaad1594 better be single than be a slave to men
I had the most compassionate and caring husband. I would complain about being overweight. He would pick me up, I could see he was having a hard time, but he would say you're not heavy at all. Just to cheer me up. He didn't see anyone else standing but me.
May Allah bless your marriage sis
Subhanallah...May allah azawajal bless you both
❤️
That is so sweet 🥺🥺🥺🥺 sweeter than desserts. God bless you both.
How adorable🥺. May allah bless your marriage abundantly ❤️
May Allah reward him for covering this topic.So so important.Men are so important in the ummah,they are oblivious to the impact they have.And Men being upright,just and uplifting of women can have a profound impact.Woman have faults too for sure but to be qawam lead by example.
In terms of families,communities and societies.I come from a community where women have the job of the men and women and the daughters end up resentful and embittered to having witnessed that their parents treated the siblings so differently based on gender.Alhamdulilah we don't have the living with in laws culture but they raise and judge genders different.Boys having less responsibilities and more freedom.As a result the boys are unprepared for manhood and or the reality of being a responsible,just yet gentle leader.it has created a lot of issues because the men get defensive when criticised.Women sort of created this expectation and passed it down so there is blame with them too.
Its a disservice to the ummah to raise inadequate boys who do not rise to the responsibility which awaits them.
Also brothers need to realise the stress of an unhappy marriage or mistreatment on a pregnant woman biologically impacts the developing foetus and child , increases her chances of depression and consequentially the ability to be the attentive and emotionally present mother she would be otherwise.We always say that the women are the backbones of the family but if they aren’t fulfilled,supported and nurtured emotionally that can make that a difficult task or detriment the quality of that strength and the quality of that home.
Subahanallah. This is so much inspiring. I wish my mom watched this. She's no more alive at the moment. But I personally know how much she suffered from living with her in laws.
"even if you have messed up families, you still have to do your best."
Remember that well guys. Don't give in to this world's cruelness and unfairness to filth your heart and soul.
Dont despair Allah's mercy and May Allah always guide us and keep our hearts enriched with love and hope💕💕💕💕
the world of relationships is a whole mess right now. people need to go back to islam.
That's why sometimes I wish imam mahdi and Prophet Jesus/Isa would come already because the world is just getting worser and worser until they come. Then after Prophet Jesus passes away of old age, the world will start crumbling again until the trumpet blows.
@@naylisyazwina6836 It will come, have patience.
Don't forget to said (Peace be upon them)
only women have to wear hijab in islam ..it is mysogynistic
@@misstoxicfucker__journeyto1017 The beard is a natural hijab for men since it covers the face and convering the head with the cap is also advised for. And if you have a complaint with covering the whole body for women than you would be surprised but its also obligaory for men to be covered properly in the presence of women.
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Most of the times as i have seen now,it will be a woman who be the enemy of her own kind. From the in-laws, either the husband's mother or his sister is the one putting thorns into the path.
I've been there. My mother-in-law, my father-in-law & their 2 son's. Tried brainwashing my husband. Alhumdulillah my husband realised & grateful to Allah we live a better life & in a better (not toxic) environment.
Thank you for this video! Honestly it’s sad how men (mainly from our dad’s generations) felt this false sense of entitlement towards women... People often mix culture and Islam together. When in reality is it’s culture that views women as “weak”, or rather the “inferior” sex. Whereas in islam, and esp in the eyes of our creator allah swt we’re all equal regardless of gender. And unfortunately due to all this muslimahs are now also revolting and choosing the feminism route over islam... May Allah save this entire ummah, ameen❤️.
Best comment on this vid ❤️
We are literally not equal, Allah literally says himself that men have superiority over women.
One man's word equals that of two of women.
xBullet isgod Yes biologically and men have more muscles and physical abilities but women are more nurtering and we have more tolerance
@@jaso9201 tolerance for what? Pain? Actually men have better pain tolerance than women according to studies. Most top professions around the world are dominated by men, because men are competitive in mature and men get shit done.
In Quran Allah says himself that men have superiority over women and men are responsible for women.
xBullet isgod Yeah even it says that doesn’t mean that you control women’s lives and when i said that women have more tolerance it’s a scientific fact you can’t deny that go do your research. We have to hold a baby in our stomach for 9 months and get periods till we are like 50 and then most men say getting kicked in the balls hurt more which goes to show we have more tolerance and if you don’t believe me search it up
When khutbas be making my standards higher....XD
It’s sad how people mix toxic culture with Islam and say nonsenses to hurt others...
Preach
@@SS-mu3tj SOMEONE TAKES PRIDE IN SEPERATING A MAN FROM HIS PARENTS DAMN!!!
This literally made me cry. And I really hope that the one who needs to listen, listens to this. Please Ya Allah please
Islam is beautiful for everyone 💞
I think men and women both experience difficulties but in a different way, for Allah (swt) is indeed fair for everyone, we are all tested differently for indeed everyone has a problem and we should all be patient. I think everyone should be good, kind, merciful, compassionate, righteous, soft talking, helpful and show love and concern to both Male and female not just 1 gender but both especially the elderly, children and disabled ones and may Allah (swt) forgive the believing men and believing women and those who deserve to be forgiven, for indeed Allah (swt) is truely most merciful
Assalaam alaikum.
You 100% correct that there is no different.
Because my wife was like this in every kind of way,no I don't see my children at all.
Flirting with boy's and man and she is over the 40.
I've never hurt her in any kind of way,how is this possible.
Swearing even by Allah when telling lies,telling lies to the family, without even talking to me first if there was a problem,and it seems that all that she said where lies about me,only to be free and do haram thing's.
So this is also about man's that are going true hardship.
@@gerolddo
Yes, it's both sided.
Not a specific gender...
But when talk about inlaws, still Mijority of Women deal injustice, and it could be in any category....
Men face difficulties from ill-mannered younger brothers of wife who are unemployed and only hooliganism as their career!
Yousef Cui - nothing more to add to your comment; to find comprehensive inclusivity in this relation. We first of all fail to understand the importance and the responsibility that changes overnight for spouses once they say “I Do” the deficits that prolong in this relationship takes a toll and with time the simple deficits change masks and become abusive in nature due to new goal posts erected to outsmart one another under the same roof. If we look at the Jews particularly at this social aspect of a human they have evolved considerably due to the fact of their survival as the chosen ones or other worldly power (of course only if they had followed the path of the true religion). We have a great responsibility towards our Creator and our Prophet(saw) to be the best of people to mankind, since that goal is forsaken and hence this is one of the many degradation that have crept into us. It is not enough to make spouses to understand and cope with each other, the emphasis should be what our Creator is expecting from both of us; as a husband and as a wife. No one is doing favor on anyone here not at all in the slightest moment, it is for the sake of Allah and if that sincerity for Allah’s sake comes into our way of life then for such spouse or person Allah makes them to be loved and Respected. Allah knows best.
It's never ending topic to be discussed or talked over...
And so as our duas,They Must be never ending too.
May Allah SWT forgive the Believing men & women and those who deserve to be forgiven and Those who He SWT wants to forgive, As He is The Decision-Maker of all the matters.
Ameen🤲
@yusuf:
Ameen @
Beautiful Dua Mentioned in the last
This is the reason why I divorcing my husband. His family are too abusive and I want to have my piece in life.
Tia c hi Tia how are things now?
His family aside, are you content with your husband though? Idk, take time apart or something? Once you get out, there's no going back
For forgiveness and Allah's mercy - 1
أَنْتَ وَلِيُّنَا فَاغْفِرْ لَنَا وَارْحَمْنَا ۖ وَأَنْتَ خَيْرُ الْغَافِرِينَ وَاكْتُبْ لَنَا فِي هَٰذِهِ الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِي الْآخِرَةِ إِنَّا هُدْنَا إِلَيْكَ
Anta waliyyuna faghfirlana warhamna waanta khayru alghafireen. Waktub lana fee hathihi ddunya hasanatan wafee al-akhiratiinna hudna ilayk
(O my Lord) You are our Protector, so forgive us and have mercy upon us; and You are the best of forgivers. And ordain for us good in this world, and in the Hereafter. Certainly we have turned unto You.
Surah Al-A'raf - 7:155-156
Aameen ya rabb 🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲
This is kinda depressing...I'm still sort of young, so I am not looking to get married, but I feel like by the time I do get married (if I get married, that is), all the good, kind men will be gone. :( I think it is getting harder to find a good spouse these days, so it will probably be worse in the future.
Tears r fallin from eyes reading and hearing this..exactly of what has happening in me right now,, i am confused what shall i do for i have one child and i am orphan,,jobless for this pandemic....Alhamdulillah for islam...
I'm speechless.....
Cried listening to this. May Allah help and protect all our daughters and mothers.
I’m sorry but I wouldn’t want to be living with in-laws...at all.
If you are good to your in-laws you will get the love and appreciation of your husband beiznillah.
Try your best to develop a good relationship with them, it will inshaallah be in your own benefit.
@@Useruser-pe4my depends on what is considered as "good" in those families.
Don't leave with them
@@Useruser-pe4my wow, even good people get stepped on by bad people. How gullible can you be?
@@DiamondsRexpensive
I strongly believe that a man with a wonderful pious wife can biiznillah fulfill his responsibility to his mother, father, wife, and others with imaan, peace, calmness, fairness and love.
Nobody is innately bad.
Neither are you bad as a wife, or will you be bad in the future as a mother-in-law.
May Allah give us noble intentions, to do everything for His sake so we will never feel unappreciated.
“The best man ( Muslim) is he who is the kindest to his women / folk “💫
SubhanAllah
Allahu A’lam
Injustice is wrong...!!!
With beneficial reminders and Friday lectures. Remember we are all in the month of Ramadan let it mean something 🌹
Assalamualaikum, Sir.
Hats off to you!
What great knowledge!
What a depth- reaching!
Plz remember in your prayers.
I am in tears at this moment. Want to cry. May allah help us to find a righteous person in our lives.
It is right of wife to give her a separate home.And it's compulsory and necessary if you want to do justice.
My mom’s friend’s daughter is getting engaged at 18. And now my mom is holding that thought for me and my sister. We’re not mentally ready for that commitment. Why doesn’t anyone understand this?
Ya Allah this is so sweet🥺💖
alsalam ealaykum
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Amazing I love Islam may Allah soon make give my husband a heart to know about Islam
Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
I'm making dua for you, sister
In shaa Allah Aameen 🤲🤲🤲
"I'm sorry in that I feel sorry for you that you've been believing that for so long." LOL
I love watching your videos it’s always uplifting.🙏🏿
Alhamdulilallah muallim this is a powerful uplifting. This happens in every marriage, they see the as a slave.
They see the woman as slave and she been taken for granted.
Even if you show this to an indian man. It goes in one ear and out.
Or some Pakistani men. Or some men from all of earth. I promise you, they exist everywhere.
Dont give a exception to the bengali men. They too are mostly the same
@@DiamondsRexpensive Black men too
will d other way around
How beautiful is Islam.Subhanallah.may Allah guide us all
Assalam walekum Brother Nouman.
Thank you so much for this lovely video. I had a bad marriage, I tried a lot but ended up tooking Khula n got separated. I had been living in a great guilt bcoz I know that Allah hates divorce. Ur video brought a great relief to me. May Allah bless u!
U r slave of Allah. U belong to Allah. Not to a abusive household. U did the right thing. May Allah SWT protect u
It's not that divorce is "hated" (apparently some scholars even say that that is a weak Hadith), it's just that it's always sad when relationships don't work out. BUT it is Halal for a reason! And that is because sometimes divorce is required, or needed to have happen, for the safety and well-being of all involved. Sometimes there is no choice but to divorce. There's no reason to feel gulity, if you read about the Sahaba, they had VERY high divorce rates, and that is because they didn't tolerate any mistreatment from their spouses. There's nothing wrong with it, in fact, in the majority of cases, it's actually a very good thing! And people's lives become better after divorce. So don't feel bad or guilty. You did the right thing by first trying to work things out, then seeking divorce when those attempts were not working nor reciprocated. You did everything the Halal way so don't worry. Allah is just, He would never wrong anyone, nor want anyone to suffer unjustly. All the best to you
May Allah forgive all our sins me and my deceased dad and my adopted mom and my daughter and give us jannah tul firdus and remove all my scars ameen Allahuma ameen Ya Rabbulalamin
Since 7 years of my marriage i am facing all these things..my husband is having extra marital affair with 3 girls.he i also in living reationship..inlaws just treat me worst.he has never took me out anywhere. brother pls give me advice what to do..As my husband is in jail from past 7 months.pls guide me in the light of quran and sunnah.
I would advise you to take khula from your husband. If a husband is committing zina then that is valid reason for divorce in Islam. Also ,as you said that he has multiple relationships , you don't know what disease he may pass on to you. You deserve a better life than this , please don't waste your life on someone who has no value or respect for you.
There's no universal problem in the World its only how we respond to that situation.
Most of the Time people are much concerned about society & culture.
If you choose to take a decision of parting just cut off with negative people from your life.
However, practical approach in my opinion is you can do Istikhara. It's done to take divine help when a person is not able to decide what to do. It's done often before getting married, starting a business (investing), etc.
2 cycles nafil prayers are offered with a Dua. Then in the sleep the person get signs what decision he/she has to take. If you see some positive/good dream then it is a sign you should do it, if the dream is negative then it shouldn't be done. If the dream is neutral then i think within week the circumstances in a person's life would be automatically created which makes easy for him to recognize what's to be done.
You should research i am not so sure about the neutral dream.
Lastly, no matter what never ever think that Allah s.w.t. do injustice to anybody. He is the Most Just. Subhan Allah ! People will get accordingly if not here then surely in the Hereafter.
@@Tastytraveltv I'm from Mumbai, india
@@supernatural_forces yes inshaAllah will surely do istikhara..jazak Allah for your precious advice.may Allah show me right path. N make it easy all the rhing as i am having 1 son 2 years old and another son passed away when he was just six months old.
@@pearls2733 yes i m absolutely agree with u .. But i am having 2 year old son..if i will think of 2nd nikah ,so in india girl with kids is not accepted mostly..n my family members says my son will not get fathers love..other man will not love him like his father..they says now he is in prison so he may realise his sins n will come on right path.
Wonderful lecture. Real scenario is like that only. Masha Allah
Women must remember NEVER marry a man who can not provide separate accommodation for you!
A husband must provide Islamically food clothing and separate homes away from all other non haram men
Divorce wreck ahead living with in-laws
MashaAllah.. beautiful... justice is the priority in Islam
This is mind opening...
Thank you so much for this video akhi it means alot...Allahi barik☆
This is why a woman should always get her own place and she’s in charge and the husband moves in with her
He has responsibilities of his parents and family on him as well, not just his wife. His parents have a right over him too. He belongs to his parents too. He has to worry about who will care for his parents when he is at work or not able to 24/7. These are all very important issues. This is an important thing that most young girls and wives nowadays don't respect and think about. The thing they think about is I am not responsible for them. The first thing they want is a separate home from his parents and don't care or think about his family or parents. They can also be quite harsh, impatient and disrespectful in the way they talk too. Also there is nothing wrong in living in a joint family if things are okay and the in-laws are not seriously threatening, abusive towards the wife or harming her. There is nothing wrong for wife to be co-operative and responsible in household duties. She is not obligated to by Islam but if she lives with family/parents, morally and respectfully she should be considerate and responsible.
It is your very attitude that causes the problem, you want to be in control,
A man should be in control of his wife.
Your need to be in control is the cause of the conflicts.
Bloodrayne he shouldn’t get married then if his responsibility for his parents comes first. You can’t expect a woman to take on the role of a caretaker of his parents and him, it’s an absurd and selfish expectation. Men should just wait until their parents pass away to get married if that’s the case.
User user no one should be in control of anyone, who do you think you are to be in control of a woman or anyone?? You need to seek help.
@@SS-mu3tj Wow you're so emotional. I am a loser for being caring and considerate about man's parents and family?! What is this mentality. I know what the original commenter said and I replied accordingly. My point is that if the wife is living with the family then she is part of the family and as a member of the family she should play a part and be responsible instead of disregarding everyone and everything and not do anything because she isn't obligated for it. It's about basic courtesy, empathy and morality. I can't believe that you would call a wife being generous and kind as toxicity.
This is so beautiful thank you for educating us all men and woman we all make mistakes and we all learn everyday inshallah god will show us the right way and put us on the right path in life
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"why are you so short why are you so fat why are you do dark"
why are you associating dark skin color with fat short and other things said to he negative?
It's unfortunately a common association least in my experience with the Pakistani community, a beautiful sister cried to me and said "you're so pale I'm so dark and ugly" I was very shocked. They even use skin bleaching creams sometimes 😱 I Managed to make her laugh telling her how I burn in the sun and go blotchy in heat lol, but it still haunts me to this day how she thinks that, she is gorgeous 😭
Because in some communities such as in pakistan, having white skin is associated with “beauty”. He was just listing some things people say in a row with no particular correlation with one another
Him being from a Pakistani household is just quoting a very commonly used phrase quoted here. I absolutely don't agree with it and I'm pretty sure he doesn't too but it's just a sad reality.
I love my dark beautiful skin!! 💕 And I teach my children to do the same!! 😊❤️💯
This is not just Pakistani but in every country an abusive language of bullies.
Waiting for this😢😢😢😢
I hate myself for getting married. May Allah bless me and my daughter with peace. Half of these things that he spoke about is actually happening with me
May Allah help you and your daughter.
Alhamdulilaah its only half.
Have sabr for Allahs sake may he grants every single woman in jannah for her sabr
i hope he either changes his ways or get out of your life because he dosent desrve a wondeful person like you
User user half of a lot! These things shouldn’t be happening at all! I hope she gets the help she needs
Sheikh Hamza Yusuf said that by Islamic rules, a woman has a right to her own home, her own house. If she is living with her husband's parents and she is serving them, that's a sawab for her. BUT THEY SHOULD be grateful for her service and respect her, not insult her because her cooking/house duties do not befit their standards.
Staying single forever is the best.
In western world it is easier because you don’t have the baggage of the in laws
That will open hell gates to other problems....
@@Feisabeilillah such as?
@@Surfing566 probably zina
@@skrill3770 not everyone is sexually driven
Every word is so.. true and relatable..and these things are have in all the families..but sometimes everyone is helpless...some not understand these sensitive things that are most important for families..and these little things messup all from physically emotionally spritually and people get used to it and set there minds like that and then they behave to other just like that they have learnt from there experiences ..So sad reality of our society...they don't fear ALLAH.. they fear about people's judgement
I wish men would be good husbands. Cause before marriage they are like dying for you and as soon as your married they change. Why is that. Sad😌
Correction: they are dying for the availability of sex, not for you.
@@Sophiedabombbaby Shut up !
@@supernatural_forces LoL you sound too young or too prude for youtube if a simple truth like that upsets you. Relax and get over it. Sex is a veryy big part of getting married, and for many many men, the sole motivator to even try. Denying reality isn't gonna get you far in life bud, chillax and grow up
@@Sophiedabombbaby
I wasn't even that angry, just playing. 😛
@@Sophiedabombbaby sooooo true.
شكرا لك لإنتاجك هذا الفيديو. بارك الله فيك مع جنة طول الفردوس
The men are gonna ignore this
Another sexist comment?
Of course. Well the women should learn from this. Learn their rights and learn when to walk away
Lovely.... Truly enlightened
I'm scared and tired of these issues that's why I'm not interested in marriage at all .i don't want to chain myself to a man who can't trust me and my words
Good decision
I support you for this. Men are never worth the risk. Trusting any men will put our lives at risk, sooner or later they will end up hurting us. It's never worth it.
I like someone a lot but not married yet. He might ask me for marriage soon but I don't know. I just wanna tell you to never sacrifice your studies for your husband.. InshaAllah I'll become a surgeon and I will not stop this for my husband. I love my Lord,prophet and my parents more than him. That is not gonna change inshaAllah.
@@cutlet9227 well, I don't want to discourage you because I admire your ambition, but being a surgeon is a highly demanding job, so if u get married and have kids and do your surgeon work, you will overwork yourself.
Just wanted to throw that out.
Diamind you’re literally discouraging her. What you don’t understand is that women can handle a lot more than the fragile man can. InShaAllah she will be a surgeon and InShaAllah her future husband will man up and take care of the kids too.
Asalamualaikum, can I get some advises? in the past days my father did injustice against my mother - it was nothing big but it was wrong and disrespectful, especially in this Ramadan time and my mother was hurt - I know that I shouldn’t raise my voice against my father but I did. And I feel incredible bad for that but I do not regret my action. The problem is that my father can’t communicate well with others without feeling to be the right one . It is very hard to tell him something in nice words because then he seems to not care. When we have a discussion he is so loud that we can’t even concentrate and it seems like he doesn’t give argumentations but irritates us completely so the discussion gets one sided. I asked Allah for forgiveness but I feel like if I don’t discuss with my father the way I do, there would never come a change. Thank you for reading
Narcissistic abuse
My father is very similar, so Im using this holy month to make duaa he changes for the better in sha Allah. May Allah reward your mother in abundance for her sabr.
Sister, Islam tells you to talk to your father in a polite manner. Otherwise he will never come to know about what wrong he is doing.
When Islam tells us to be kind with our parents it doesn't mean to keep silent and mum and not speak yo them what's bothering you but infact tells you to communicate nicely with them in a polite and respectable manner.
So if you shouted ,you should make tauba for that .That's a sin, but you should speak up the truth with kindness and firmness.
For example. Ibrahim as father was a idol worshipper . So it's mentioned in the Qur'an that he spoke to him gently and refuted against what his father was doing.
Hope you understand.
shahzeb khan thank you for your response and yes I think you are right - I know that this was wrong and I asked Allah for forgiveness - next time I should control my emotions even if he can’t take me serious. You know .. he is the typ of person that doesn’t realize that something went wrong unless everybody around him is shouting and expressing their anger. But you are right - I should have sabr and act how islam is teaching us - again thank you for your advise ☺️
Eethi I - means a lot to me and wishing you and your mother also the very best 💕 thank you for your respond
In our paleozoic culture will never be mutual respect between women and in-laws. Unfortunately.
May Allah give us strength to do justice
Woah this breaks so norms that i am brought up to believe in.
The boy’s think it’s their right to just sit and eat. The girls should bring them food and clean up after them
Well Done this is not a video. ...its a lesson to Every men Before they Tie their knots must watch it...not only just watching..But also .Applying it ... Love this video Best of your channel videos 🙏👍👌God bless you Abundantly !
I wish if this video could be in Hindi so that I can show this to my father.
This is what most families go through for real. May Allah grant us peace 🙏 in our families.Ameen
My husband lived abroad, i was living with his parents and siblings, i gave everything he asked, served his whole family. Gave him my gold jewellery when ever he and his mother asked,they sold.cash etc. Everything cloths my all stuff use to give his aunties sisters and mom. And he gave me divorce bcoz he had an affair with another woman.
I’m sorry Asha 😔
May Allah give u highest rank of Jannah for your sabr dont forget the hardest battles are for the strongest woman
Allah does not missing what happens here in earth
Never finance a man. You learned that lesson the hard way, but I hope it is a good lesson for the future. God bless you ✨🔶
Thanks you all . Keep praying for me dear sisters .
I am so sorry sister... He will have to pay for his actions on the day of judgment. Allah does not do injustice to anyone. Ukw? I think it's better he divorced u, you're out of an unworthy relationship where u gave and got nothing in return. I hope and pray that u get an amazing husband who loves, respects and cares for u. May allah grant u all the highest rank in jannah. Stay strong! ❤️
Also, Those abusive spouses need to understand how bad it (a broken marriage) can effect their kids mental health and sexualtiy.