Small Conflict with My Singapore Wife
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- Опубліковано 11 лип 2024
- A glimpse of our marriage life - Singaporean wife and Japanese husband. I have been married for around 5 years and I wanted to share some of the difficulties. What are the marriage culture shocks? What is our international marriage like?
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My mother-in-law uses the Philips 7000 Series
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00:00 Conflict with SG wife
02:18 MIL Came Over!
08:54 SG Wife Roasts Me Even More..
12:56 SG Wife Did This For Me!
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Rule # 1 : Wife is always right
Rule # 2 : Even if wife is wrong, refer to Rule # 1
Love the transparent content sharing!! of challenges in life. and how it’s jovial and close to heart too. Keep doing these videos 😊
If she mumbling/comment/complain you means she still love you, if one day she keep quiet and no emotion on her face you better be careful. Improve a little bit each day will make your wife happier. Happy wife happy life.
If she kept quiet. Just don’t care.
Hey Ghib, now that the blissful honeymoon period is finally over, remember this:
Before you're married, you should have opened your eyes as big as possible. Now that you're already married, you'll need to close your eyes as small as possible. More often than not, the opposite happens in many marriages. That's where marital tensions set in. If not addressed lovingly, sayonara buddy.
ghib you are lucky to have a good MIL who treats you courteously and in a friendly manner! most MILs are not like that!
As a happily married senior citizen, I have a tip for you - best answer to your wife “Yes dear.”
“Who wins?” Bro after 4 years surely you’d know by now. Wifey is always right 😂
That applies to my brother and his wife
+1 ( agree)
PHILIPS AquaTrio Cordless Wet Dry Vacuum 9000 Series wins hands down!
As a married man, this is stupid statement. Either that all your wives are narcissists
Ghib is very lucky to have a gentle, supportive mother-in-law. Mine was racist, self-serving, and rude, and our international marriage broke down.
Mother in law any country any race ...pure evil ...you will never be good enough for her girl .
@@santacloud91 Ah, that's bad. I'm glad that mine is good.
@@santacloud91 Mine didn't even give me food!
MIL generally get along with son-in-law unless he is a bum and leech. But absolutely a son must not bring his mother to live under same roof with wife. Women do not get along with other women, it is a fact. Married men MUST move out and live with their wife independently.
Very cute MIL!
Disclaimer: I’m not speaking for all men but from my 35-year marriage experience.😂
Understanding the Psychology of Reasoning Between Men and Women.
1. Men tend to be less meticulous about small details, such as squeezing toothpaste in the center, leaving their dirty clothing outside the bathroom, or tossing a wet shower towel on the bed. These habits can upset our wives.
2. Men often rush to complete household chores, viewing them as tasks, while happily spending hours on their hobbies. It’s important to listen to our wives because peace will follow when we indulge in our hobbies/toys later.
3. Personally, I try to stay out of the kitchen unless I want to cook something or my help is needed. My wife and I adhere to old-school values (similar to your in-laws), and my absence in the kitchen minimizes conflicts because I see it as my wife’s territory. (However, if you have a domestic helper, it can change the dynamics.)
4. At home, the wife is always right, as she is the queen of the household. This perspective helps maintain harmony and prioritize the relationship over egos.
Don’t get married..😊😊
Is it not detrimental and mentally tiring to be living with one who argues over all these minor details
Luckily u have a good mother in law, she really loves you so much❤
For those complaining about this being an ad, please open your eyes and look at the video, it’s clearly stated at the top left hand of the screen. 🙄 It’s getting really embarrassing that grown up adults can’t differentiate simple things and claim to be ‘misled’..
Cant believe I have to explain the ABCs of UA-cam to an adult. ‘Includes Paid Promotion’ is ALWAYS displayed at the top left of the video every first 5 seconds of a sponsored video. 🙄 Get yourself educated.
Where to get that foody t-shirt?
Good recommendation the 9000 series vacumn cleaner. Your wife is too fortunate to have a husband like you, especially, a Japanese man doing housework. You did not escape problems, bring them up to resolve.
Ghibさんyou’re a good husband 👍🏻you deserve applause and appreciation 💐
😊 thank you
Ojisen San,Your Mother-In-Law Is A Super Star n Golden Treasure.U are lucky too u got a lovely n sweet wife too.❤🙏💪
I seriously hope you will eventually resolve the issues with your wife. I wish for the both of you to live in happiness together for life!
You are so fortunate to have a very funny mother-in-law.
😂😂😂 love this video between you and your wify.. your mother in law also cute..
simple... choose your battles wisely > don't fight a battle you cannot win > the wife always win.
Last time, my wife and I always quarrel over little things like you and your wife. But as time goes by, we have come to accept our fate and live with our imperfections,. As the says goes, if you can't change a person, then either you break up with him/her or live with it. 😄
😂😂 Mom: family argument don't invite me next time
Give n Take, never easy to bring 2 person together, like my mentor said, Happy Wife Happy Lives😊
I do no house work it’s not my job and to avoid conflicts I’ll never volunteer, my only job in my family is to made money and provide the best quality in life for them .. however to ease my wife’s burden, I bought styler , top notch washer dryer , dishwasher and hire once a week cleaning services to clean my house , apart from my wife daily routines of house cleaning… my house are always maintaining peace and harmony.
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"Singapore Lang Lai Liao!" should be a t-shirt. I'd buy one :)
Will work on it!
I keep my kitchen sink dry after every wash. I hang 2 towels at the sink, one for drying the dishes, the other to wipe dry the sink. Kitchen sink is the place where mold can grow rapidly. Use artificial vinegar to wipe the wall and edge around the sink, the acidity will keep the mold away without using harsh chemicals. Never use bleach on sink, they corrode the metal coating especially the tap.
Hilarious mate, keep it up!😊 MIL is the star
😂😂😂 love the mum in law's intial words of wisdoms. So funny sia! 😂
In a marriage, both parties must give & take. makes harmonious relationship
It's not who wins ... It's your love for her & her for you!!
No one is perfect.. man nor women!!
70 % of all where you are end in divorce!!
Don't do that.. please
All those divorce.. end up regrets!!
Thank you both for bringing this topic up!
In reality it's messy.. both losses
Divorce better..
1 time watching your channel,I just come across it and omg so funny, your mom is a fun person I just subscribed I'm having such a laugh keep going...Arigato 🐈😂
Thanks for subbing!
In SG, must always let wifey win. Otherwise, you get cold shoulders. She is queen. Then, you can become king. For the kitchen latch in front oft he sink, good to have a piece of drying cloth to soak all the water that was spilled over. Why get a manual vacuum cleaner when you can get a robot vacuum cleaner to do the job? You can programme it daily to clean your house when you are out. Anyway, creative marketing story line. By the way, you have yet to buy durian for your wife ......
In a relationship, there is no win lose, both are on the same side fighting for the same / future goals 😁 Like Ghib Ojisan -In Law said, 芝麻绿豆小事 all can resolve
Haha.. I just Got my Philips 9000 series too last week. Its awesome and the weight is well distributed... so easy to manouvere around in small turns and you dont feel too heavy too heavy handling it. The design and functionality of this model is the ideal that we been comparing with other models for the past 2 months. Go to any mall and check the physical item to see and feel. My wife is happier for me using this than the normal mop. More happy and helps with my lower back problem too... less stress. Kitchen is always clean fast after usage.
I think I'm even more convinced to buy this model after watchg the vid and reading your review on it.
You made my day, totally relatable. Bro, don't bother to fight your wife, sure lose!! Happy Wife, Happy Life.
お義母さん相変わらず明るくて好き♥️
I love your mother-in-law!!!!!
Your MIL so cute and funny 😂😂
As someone who is about to get married, the advice is gold.
Going into this eyes open... 😅
This video is well made.
You have a good mother in law and a sweet wife. 😊
I really really really really love the interaction between you and your mil!!!!!!!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I guess Singapore culture we don't like to repeat the same mistakes or keep doing the same things after had been told. We can get tired of it and just don't bother anymore
Ever wonder why some people prefer to be single rather than be married? I guess this is why. Not easy living together. Honeymoon period over. Lol....I know of unmarried couples who live few blocks from each other instead of together so each can retreat to their own comfort zone.
What you have shared are very common types of domestic issues found in the family. You are not alone... And thanks for sharing about the electronic vaccum cleaner, seems effective for home use.
Mum in law wins....the way she speaks makes me laugh.
It`s all about compromising it takes two hands to clap just try slowly surely can work, Happy couple, Happy life =Home sweet home.😊😊😊😊😊🏠
Marriage life takes a lot of give & take. Both have strength & weaknesses, good habits / bad habits, both are from different family backgrounds & bringing up, etc. As no human is perfect, it’s best to accept each other’s imperfection and try to do your part to understand each other & try improve where habits are bad or where certain ways of doing things can be better. It’s a life long learning process, and there needs to be live & let live. May God bless & strengthen your married life.
Ojisen san, your mother in law is a treasure....
For a moment, I wonder if my wife is the one doing the voice over.... its the exact same complain. I bet you, every husband thought they heard their wife in the video.... lol but your wife's voice sweeter la.
Where did you buy the 7000 series and 9000 series vacuum cleaners ?
😅 Welcome into Married Life brother Ghib! Marriage is like tending a Living Garden ... Must practice Understanding , Respect , Patience in knowing the maintenance of the different Soils , Plants , Water , Fertilizer , Sunning , Insect Repellent & Pruning requirement! You're learning fast Good Brother Ghib! Always think it is Better than ended-up in a Police Lock-Up , facing the Judge in a Courthouse or send to a Real Prison! So a Married Life is still managaeble! Life is Short , Be a Good Person & to Do Good Deeds to accumulate Good Merits & Wisdom for a Better Future Life , be Grateful & practice to Forgive & to Let Go of ill feelings ... Arigato Gozaimasu! 😊🙏🕯🌷🌿🌎💜🕊🇸🇬🇯🇵
I saw that the Philips AquaTrio Cordless 9000 cost $1,110 GST inclusive. That's a lot for a vacuum cleaner but if my wife will scold me less, it might be worth it. :p
I bought the Airbot equivalent on Lazada and it’s cheaper so I’m thankful for something that isn’t pocket busting, but works well esp when kids vomit. Omg that’s when I am most thankful for it. Less control and possible suction isn’t as strong but still… thankful. Very thankful.
People spend that much on a Dyson vac anyway. This one is more appealing with the mop function. Want.
Konichiwa friend, I always enjoy watching your videos, it’s normal to have conflicts in a marriage. 👌
problem is the help = more work for us…. 😂 but…. ok lah… i think this is normal 😉 I see the same thing happen between my mom and dad too. my dad never washes dishes clean enough , never mops /vacuums properly enough 😂 even me as a daughter sometimes nag my dad to please wipe the table properly coz he missed a spot 😆
Ghib is actually low key showing off his house
Which is basic hdb/bto?
Aww cheer for you. Nice video.
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Can relate. After i wash the dishes, she will rewash it as she say not clean enough.
And later on ban me from washing dishes as i take longer time, waste more water
husbands no matter how they clean up it can never be the same as us
OMG! HAHAHAHAHAHA! I can relate to this >_< Every time my husband does the dishes, it is not clean and I will double-wash them and he will always make the floor oily but he does not clean it properly T^T I thought I was the only one but after watching this, I don't feel lonely anymore xD I know how your wife feels >_< But I'm so sorry because we always get angry or tends to show our emotions out. It's not because we don't love you but it's because we are too comfortable with our significant other, that is why we are not afraid to show our emotions hahahahahahaahahahah. Maybe the solution is to try not to make wifey angry and maybe make it cleaner and do not leave the sink area wettttttt haha! Good luck, Ghib buddy!
Geez! Totally agree that men seem to be totally fine with leaving an area wet after use eg: leaving the sink surrounding area wet after dishes, washing hands, washing legs 🙄😒😑
@homeycow1628 don't forget the toilet seats tooooo! Sometimes after they pee then the seat kena the pee already uh then they never at least spray and wipe it :') Haiyaaaa how to not angry T^T
Same , my husband wet every basin area 😅
I share the pain as well. Just keep quiet, tolerate, accept it, and move on. Else a marriage will not last even a week.
You should get the dreame ultra l10s.. link up water n drain. At least can automate some part of vacuum n mop.
For me:
1. Robot cleans daily
2. I clean with handheld vacuum mop like your Phillips 9000
3. Get a cleaning lady in once a week with chores
4. Wife cleans whenever she likes. Not when she needs too.. 😂
I cant help but keep laughing. Your mother is "ichiban"...witty and nice woman. As always wife is no 1 no matter what. In her heart she loves you dearly. You are a good husband doing house chores! 👍👍 Luv from KL....
Very interesting video! I think there are much similarities between yours and my family. Same complains. I used to argue, but after more than 15 years, I have learned to not argue back but to just do what I can. The second you argue, you lose. Let the wife win :)
Second, the wet sink. I have to totally agree that you must keep it dry. I too have the same forgetfulness at times, not drying the area around the sink. Very important to keep it dry because if you don't, black mold will start to grow there. Another way is to improve ventilation by positioning a small fan to blow at the sink area for a while to ensure its generally dry. I have also DIY-installed a small KDK exhaust fan to blow out the smell and air whenever I am boiling things or air frying something. I use a Leifheit clean twist disc mop to clean the kitchen floor if it's too sticky (usually after air frying); vacuuming is good but I prefer to save that little bit more of electricity if I can.
I think you are doing great so far, managing video editing and doing housework and cooking! Keep it up!
Is good to come home to a clean and comfortable home.For Philip 9000 do we have to put in floor detergent to clean and mop as I think water alone can’t really do the cleaning.Tks
The box comes with cleaning solution😁
Ghib you guys are so hilarious 😂
Support from Malaysia!
🤣🤣🤣Real honest funny talk!!! @Ghib - I truly believe that your wifey appreciates you helping with the household chores. Just that her standard of completion is higher ... normal as ladies are generally more particular and detailed. But you are helping out a lot and willing to help👍@Ghib - Nice unique T-shirt!
And yes, i think clothes should be pre-soaked and let to stand for a while with detergent. imho, it will really make the clothes clean better and remove stubborn smell.
So Gd n understanding Mother in law……. Very nice bonding to see son in law click so well wif yr mother in law…. 👍👍🌈🌈🌈
Bro, your mother in law is really really good......ah..😅
Hahahha. When my hubby cooks, he uses dishes and utensils worthy of 2 meals - am Im busy doing the endless washing both before and after meals. Tabao or eat out is best. 😄 Thankfully for me, he is very clean and cleans the house better than me 😀
Use constructive feedback versus nagging or scolding, works better with them.
Lol, turns out its a sponsored video for the vacuum cleaner 😄🙂🙃
The trick lies in understanding two key points:
1. Everyone is right in their own context.
2. Disagreement is not about right or wrong.
You might wonder how this is possible. Let me explain.
Everyone has their own “internal maps,” which are simplified navigation systems for interacting with the real world. What we consider “right” aligns with our internal map. We agree with what matches this map, so when we disagree with an opinion, or someone disagrees with ours, it doesn’t necessarily mean one of us is right or wrong. It simply indicates a mismatch in our internal maps.
Once we grasp this concept, we can reduce animosity when someone disagrees with us. It doesn’t mean they’re wrong or we’re wrong; it just means our internal maps aren’t aligned in that particular instance.
Furious disagreements can be an opportunity to refine and update our internal maps if we choose to do so.
All 3 of you are correct : patience, tolerance, care, concern and love
Have a good one
To prevent arguments, just agree or smile😅😅😅
Deepak Chopra: Do I want to be happy or do I want to be right? Give up being right and your relationship will thrive forever.
I believe you are a good husband.
Your wife happy, you will hv better life too.
Learn it along the way based on both of your understanding!
Use a splash proof guard for the sink
The banter is so funny! I was so tickled 😂😂
Happy wife, happy life…. I go by that mantra…. Let her win the many battles so that you win the war….
Its very normal.... all wives think (and they are right) they are better and cleaner at their housework... so just give up and let them do it :) Play an assistant and supportive role sometimes. LOL.
Haha, just saw this video recently and sorry Ghib san I'm on your wifey's side. Of course lah cannot deny you are doing more than the regular hubby but it's nice to understand your wifey's standard of cleanliness. I think for such cases it's a matter of communication. Can approach any issues as neutral as possible and with understanding, both parties will be less frustrated. We all have our own expectations and it's not fair for us to think that people should meet our expectations all the time so compromise is the key!
Sometimes it is good to have small argument. It will bring harmony to the family.
Love your video , is funny with Your wife and in law 👍👍👍👍
Watching from Fukuoka...
Your video makes me less lonely over here 😊
Wah enjoy your time there!
MIL scored a sponsorship too!! Woohoo!!😂
Hahaha totally relate! My hubby does the dishes and laundry. I used to get so exasperated that he didn't wash the dishes clean enough or that he left the sink area wet, doesn't clean up the stove, etc. Thankfully, after a few years, he improved. On occasions where he was short, I'll just finish up the job for him. Better still, we eat out most of the time now, so no more conflict over hubby's sloppy dishwashing!! :-)
this made me laugh out loud. nice!
Ghib san, u r a natural actor!👏👏👏
Hahahahaha your wife and your MIL speaks the same, so cute and funny
Hi Ghib san. Very interesting video. But I can totally relate to it. So it is quite simple. First the husband is the head of the household. So you have to make the decisions. Secondly, help one another. For me, I help my wife iron the clothes (occasionally), I also cook, keep the house clean. She does her part as a housewife. I try my very best to keep the kitchen dry because a messy kitchen is a reflection of a messy mind. Keep the toilets dry too. And finally, live and let live. Do not forget the first love.
wa...so good vacuum cleaner, How much you buy? and where you buy this? please share thank you.😃
Check the video description😁
Thank you for the video and sharing an aspect of your personal life!
For the kitchen sink issue, just place a towel at the edge of the sink.
To avoid getting chastised about the floor not being clean enough, get a robo-vacuum/mop...then blame the robot for being lazy!
Joking aside, keep up the good work, Ghib Oji-san ... and Moms was the MVP in this "battle"!
this is a whole essay, do forgive!
My spouse is actually incredible at housework. He used to do most of the housework on top of having a full-time job (now, I take at least half the load because I'm far more motivated to clean my own house than a rental). He is super clean and his standards for cleanliness are possibly higher than mine. A lot of my friends think that Singaporean men are amazing because of him. XD I tell them that I think it's really just him as a human, lol, not as a man or a Singaporean. He also teaches me how to do housework. He rarely helped his parents do housework in his youth; he sort of figured it out along the way.
Also about the arguing: if we find ourselves arguing over something, we have conversations about whether those things are worth arguing about. (for example, my spouse and i have arguments over differing views on politics, discourse theory, that kind of thing--not to say they're more important, but they're things you can actually have a debate about.) i think we tend to have those conversations when we're in our 'fun time', like when we're on dates or when we're just at home chilling. "the other day you didn't close the cupboard door and I closed it for you lei" is very different from seeing the open cupboard door and screeching "eh hello why you never close the cupboard again?!", lol.
both my spouse and i don't feel we must be thankful to each other for taking care of our house--it is our space and we both are responsible for it, so there's no reason for us to go out of our way to thank the other because it's literally good personal stewardship that is essential to functioning as a grownup. but do we still say thank you when we do household chores? we do. our appreciation is not a reward, it's... a privilege, I guess? A benefit? The cherry on top? Not necessary, but just something kind.
my greatest problem is that my spouse sometimes throws away my stuff. he doesn't mean for it to happen, he's just very テキパキ when it comes to chores and sometimes something slides in between another thing and he thinks it's rubbish so he throws it away. it has caused me great grief and anger, so i write a big note and stick it on the fridge. i don't like the aesthetic of a house plastered in notes, so i keep it to the fridge.
oh and another thing that happened very early on when we started living together: he would ask me how clean or neat i wanted something, and i would either show him how to do it or describe to him if i didn't know (i had standards but i didn't know how to achieve them because i grew up with a clean-freak mum). he would then either copy me or search the internet on how to do it properly. subsequently, he took over all the laundry-related chores and would get frustrated at me when i tried to help fold the clothes because i have zero standards when it comes to folding clothes (i'm a "just hang it up lah" kind of person) and i hate monotony so all the T-shirts will be folded in different ways, etc. so i started asking him how he wanted it done, and he would then teach me. we do a lot of the chores together and share a lot of ideas. sometimes when we find nice ideas on youtube we'll share it in our chat as well. it gives us one more thing to talk about. :)
Try using robotic mop. You don't have to vacuum and mop anymore. The machine does it for you (although I know ad is sponsored). One less quarrel.
Perfect ad for Philips
What vacuum cleaner you use? Thank you
Got my answer :)
うちも同じですが掃除機かけてもらっても四角い部屋を丸く掃除機かけるし物をどかして掃除機かけない。
皿洗いしてくれてもきちんと汚れ落ちてなかったり、お風呂掃除してくれても浴槽の中しか洗わない全部中途半端で2度手間になるんですよ😅
洗濯物を畳んでくれてもしまわない、だから何も望まない事にしてます。
きちんとやってくれたらラッキーぐらいにしか思わないようにしてます。
I just realised I also don't really rinse first and that is why my sponge got dirty so fast too 😂😂
HAVEN’T YOU HEARD THE SAYING “ HAPPY WIFE, THEN HAVE HAPPY FAMILY LIFE!!” 😅😂
仲良しカップルでも、時に口論するのは正常。常に譲歩だけでは事態は悪化。時には互いの主張をぶつけ合うことも必要。雨降って地固まる😃 あとから言った言わないの不毛な論争を避けるために、口論中は録音しておく事をオススメします😃
My hubby cannot meets my high standard so to avoid conflicts, I rather do all by myself. More time consuming but at least i get the satisfaction.
Wow! I like your tee shirt!
Me too!
like your MIL says, minor things, the side of the sink is wet after my hubby wash dish or hands, the side of the sink sure wet, he also didnt wipe, however, i will just wipe it...didn't highlight it to him....minor things like that i will follow up after he uses any place....it's okay
Me too...I am sure I too have many shortcomings that he has closed his eyes to