Training for Dates and Status (Is Destroying Your Gains)
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There is no "wrong reason" to train. Any training should be applauded and it's entirely up to you why you work out.
With that said, I do think that if you are training to impress other people and especially if you're training to try and attract women/men... you're probably damaging your gains!
Not only that but I also think it's 99% pointless. Other people are rarely impressed by how much you can lift. Being strong doesn't make you an alpha - working out won't even make you *tougher*.
And great abs won't help you pull at the bar if you're too afraid to approach anybody.
Training for you meanwhile, means that you will be able to express yourself honestly. And it means you can take your time and avoid rushing the process. It means you learn to love the journey.
I wanted to make this video because a) I think we can all use this reminder from time to time and b) there is an awful lot of content on the web telling young guys they need to get ripped and aggressive to be successful in life. Not true, IMO!
That's not my jurisdiction, but let's leave fitness out of that equation!
Why do you guys train?
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Reality set in when I realised having nice hair did more for my dating prospects than my muscles ever could
We need a video on a combination 6-day training plan I have been trying to create.
Combination being.
Functional Yoked training.
And
Athletic Calisthenics training.
I train for girls everyday hohoho~ 😘
alpha.m, is that you?
Can you do a video on training to failure?
not only are you freakishly impressive in a wide range of exercise disciplines, you are articulate and wise.
Thanks Milan
Kind of the whole appeal of this channel
@@shaebrown2872 I am new here
Fitness philosophy
Agreed.
24 year old here. Recently (1-2 weeks ago) got rejected by a girl I was completely crazy about after 2 dates. She said she wanted to be 'just friends' which is the last thing my ego wanted to hear. Embarrassingly, my first thought was that if I had been a bit more muscular and 'dominant', I would not have been friend zoned, so I made the rash decision to start bodybuilding again (a style of training I find dull). Of course, I quickly realised this was super lame and returned to my preferred training method. I realised I was just trying to suppress the pain and shame I felt about my genuine social/professional/mental inadequacies (which probably played more of a role in her losing attraction for me) and that i should focus on those. Anyways, yesterday I went to a techno party to clear my head (something I actually enjoy doing) and ended up meeting another nice girl instead. I think being happy, in my element, and having no expectations helped. If nothing else, it reminded me why I enjoy life and went some way to flush the other girl (and the associated pain of rejection) out of my brain. Your videos often come out at weirdly timely moments in my life 😂
I doubt you have any inadequacies! You guys just probably weren’t suited for each other. You sound extremely self aware but moreover, one persons inadequacy is another person’s charming quirk. Really sorry to hear it didn’t work out but it’s no reflection on you and sounds like you bounced back nicely!
@@TheBioneer Thanks for the words of encouragement. Really appreciate it
Look at the giga chad over here, I went through a same concept character development, but with lame reasons, at least you got 2 dates, I was rejected slightly after hello basically...
Then took boxing and bodybuilding, and got injured, healed and got back to just boxing, still single, this time by choice, I need to become the man I admire and dream of becoming before actually dating seriously for a serious relationship.
Awwww, yes, you be you.
Love the comment, I feel you mate maybe in a different sense but our situations are somehow similar. Gonna go on a party this weekend but having no expectations is rather hard for my little horny monkey brain. Wish me the best of lucks. 😁
"You need to make sure you're doing it for the right reasons. You need to make sure you're doing it for you. Because if you're trying to impress other people, you should know, other people are never impressed." Needed to hear this. Great reminder. Thank you!
My old PE teacher often told that looks are not the only thing that will build confidence as feeling better and being healthier overall will also help with your confidence and self-improvement.
Pleased to get on to one of Adam's videos so early after he's posted it. I'm hoping he might see this comment so that he knows how grateful I am for how much he inspires me. Cheers, Adam👍
Thank you! 🙏🏻 😁
Your advice corner is seriously needed right now. The male spaces on the internet are filled with people looking to take advantage of confused and frustrated men with very extreme messages and a pretty dangerous eco chamber IMO. They want to keep men angry with women and profit off of that rage.
I believe in masculinity, just the proper kind. I'm glad you're sharing advice as a successfull man that's built a successfull business and has a family. More men need this kind of a balanced view to life.
The Bioneer’s Love Corner needs to be a regular thing. ❤️
😂😅 Maybe a new channel!
A counterpoint: Yes, getting swole for the girls directly is kinda sad and most likely wont work.
However
If you are a shy guy, working out and gaining a bit of muscle mass will probably help you to feel better about yourself and be good for your confidence,
which will in turn help with the ladies.
The confidence gain is the real win in that equation.
Great in theory! In practice though, it’s unusual to gain that much *social confidence from something like muscle - at least in my experience
@@TheBioneer
True, I never really got all that much confidence from working out.
@@TheBioneer I think having hobbies that you are passionate about in general is great for boosting confidence because it keeps your mind busy on achieving things which can help improve confidence. Bodybuilding is just one of those hobbies where gaining muscle is the outcome (perhaps people associate confidence gains in outcomes rather than processes). As somebody who is still young, I wish I had explored other hobbies sooner instead of gaming too much and staying inside of my comfort zone. I don't think I could be confident now if I hadn't progressed from the person I once was a couple of years ago.
@@TheBioneer I disagree. At least in my experience (in my own journey and what I've seen in my friends) Working out simply to look good inevitably causes a chain reaction of positive effects. You want to look good -> in order to look good you need to work out, so you learn how to train properly. You learn that recovery is important so you start to sleep more, you learn that nutrition is important so you start to eat healthier. You'll start to build size as well as just feeling better cause you're sleeping more and eating healthy. You'll start to have more energy and you'll start to be proud of your progress. You'll develop the realisation that through effort you can achieve your goals. This realisation then starts to apply to other aspects of your life.
All of these positive changes inevitably have a positive impact on your mental health and on your confidence which then helps not only with how you approach girls, but life in general.
And eventually somewhere along this process your goals start to shift naturally. You'll start to realise that looks aren't everything and you also want to have great cardio, or be flexible, or be able to do handstands/backflips, whatever it may be. All these things naturally develope despite starting simply to "impress the girls".
Vanity has kept me strong, fit and healthy for 64 years. I can’t pass a mirror without throwing a double bicep’s pose. I didn’t start training to impress the ladies, I did it to impress myself. Not sure if this good advice for others though.
Training never really made sense to me or motivated me on its own until I got into rock climbing. I really appreciate side benefits such as looking better, but it's so good to have an intrinsic reason to want to get stronger. Awesome video like always!!
💯 PURPOSE first & always! 🎯
Why I love martial arts. Everyone can join in, it gives you a direction to train in the gym, you feel like an anime character when you start getting good
@@dallasdominguez2224 martial arts are amazing. Can be so humbling to those who have only ever trained aesthetics. Plus I never realised how strong and fit I used to be when I had karate and mma classes 2/3x a week.
Such an incredible video! I have younger siblings/cousins growing up with the Andrew T@te- Sigma mindset and it's scary how it's spreading
God I hate that stuff! I can’t believe people buy into it but there you go 😶
Thank you for this. I was bodyshamed by people around me and I used to think that training would make me more acceptable to society. I have lost over 25 kilos and built some muscle and "look" fairly better. But, now I don't really believe in training to impress people. Anyone who would be impressed by muscles and money is not worth being with in the first place. The only reason worth training is to help your mum with the groceries ❤
💯 💯
Lol, the grocery comment made my day. I think I have to rethink my training goals.
Actually, dude, there are a LOT of women who consider looks to be what gets your foot in the door, whether they admit it or not. It IS a key component in keeping a woman, too. Look at the divorce rate. Look at how so many women have to go "chase Chad", or chase excitement. If you're buff, you can help overcome that animal desire. There can't POSSIBLY be that many "horrible" women who aren't worth it in America. Yet you see it. So if the only good women don't care about looks, that leaves extremely few. I see women for what they are. They are what they are. The notion that good women don't care about looks is a cope. I used to think otherwise, but now I see it. I am 40 years old.
Looks are important when it comes to women. There are too few who don't care as much about looks, and oddly enough, a lot of them don't want children. So don't limit your mating pool to the point of only going for women who don't care about looks AND physicality. Dsting and mating IS a competition. It may end up leaving you without a family. I can see a lot of truth in what you say, and to a degree, it makes sense to not make women your only primary goal with training. But it is important. Helping your mom with groceries is certainly NOT the only reason to train. That is a bit of an overstatement.
Have you tried moving to a new place those deadlifts and core stability really is the only reason my lower back still exists
25 kilos is impressive! I hope it serves you (in terms of health AND self-esteem) and that you can be an example for others.
I've often asked myself, during the last 34yrs; why I still weight train. In the beginning, it was to improve my self-steem, then it was to supplement to my sport(s), then it was for aesthetics, then it was to prove to myself that I was still capable and in all that time I realised it was all and none of those things, all at the same time. I train because I fell in love with the fight against what I thought I could do...
The last one was a powerful quote dude, I'm stealing it from you now hahah hope that doesn't bother you but it was great
@@themartinsrods Sounds like Will Ferrel guffawing through a movie trailer script hahaha 🎉😂🎉
Your body doesn't check your motivations, it adapts to the input of efford. Reasons are just mental. My motivations and goals have changed over time as well and I've learned to just accept and use whatever keeps me going..
If I hadn't been insecure, vain and obsessed with trying to attract women, I would have never gotten into any kind of sports, so at the end of the day these "negative" feelings had a very positive impact on my life.
I was literally just thinking to myself the other day about how other fitness influencers are doing people a disservice by not addressing these issues -- crazy coincidence. Thanks so much for being so outspoken on this. Male fitness youtubers, whether or not they are aware, are becoming huge role models for young men and boys around the world. While it's tempting to focus on one's one domain (e.g. physical fitness), the reality is that the people looking up to you do so holistically, and it's important to recognize the influence one has on them, and remind them that life isn't about any one thing in particular, but rather about rounding out one's sources of fulfillment.
Great job for doing that. That's what real leadership is :)
I train to be strong for my family - I want to be healthy and fit enough to play with my children as I am nearly 38!! There needs to be more people like you Adam - we also need more parental style trainers on social media!
At the age of 36, I have so many friends, who are younger than me, complain about how they're "getting old" or how they're "trying" to lose weight and how tired they are all thime etc but never actually put in the work to do anything about it. Rather than telling them what they should do through my personal experience and how I turned my life around, I just show them through example and if they truely want to do so then they can come to me.
That's the reason why I train: to show to myself and my friends that age means nothing. That you can be old and still get shit done. And when I do have kids in the future, I can have the energy to manage them and stay in shape and not fall into the "dad bod" stereotype.
I love this. The world is in need of a physical Renaissance. We all need to bring it back to the forefront of our daily lives. Much suffering is occurring from the complete abandonment of Physical education and practice as part of one's daily life.
Well put. Feel the same way. I'm about your age. The feeling of taking responsibility for your own body and health is just really nice. Started my own journey into fitness about six months ago and my biggest motivation is simply being curious about what I am able to do and hopefully age with a bit of grace instead of just letting go and repeat the same tired-out phrases about getting older.
I've chased a lot of hobbies because I wanted to seem accomplished in the eyes of others, and better than "normal people". None of this stuff worked out in the long run and it never made me happy. I've grown to regret the time I wasted on this stuff.
I've learned to pursue what I care about, not what others care about and not for any reason other than enjoyment or a self-interested goal. I'm not nearly as productive as I used to be, but I'm much happier. It's a trap measuring yourself up to others achievements and goals, it leads to a never ending chase of trying to be "good enough".There's always gonna be people better than you and that's fine, self worth isn't measured by how well you stack up crowd.
It’s like when I bought War and Peace so it would look smart on my shelf. Remains unread to this day 😂
It reminds me that you should challenges yourself. Do better from yourself and learn to improve yourself not for others. This mindset it what I’m going to keep so I can look back and be grateful for the things I did for myself.
@@TheBioneer As a russian who read the goddamn thing in school I can't really say that you missed out on anything:) Pretty boring pretentious stuff.
@@ithinkthereforeitalk935 what is pretentious about it?
Training and exercise shows others you have passion, disciple and self respect. You are showing you can be dedicated to something. Your health is important to you. And with that..... Stuff like confidence can shine through
Started training many years ago for self esteem and metal health. Then to gain strength and conditioning for bjj. Now I train for longevity, I want to be around to see my kids grow up and I want to be fit enough to do a wide range of activities with them. Honestly I've never been happier with and more dedicated to training than I am now.
I workout because I honestly love the way it makes me feel feel healthy and strong. Even though I could lose a few pounds in the midsection I’m a pretty strong guy for only working out twice a week
For midsection, you wanna ease up on carbs, especially sugar and fructose that likes to fatten the liver. Midsection fat is often fatty organs
Personally, I train to no longer be weak.
7 years ago in school we had a 100m sprint during sports day and I almost came in last. The commentator even made fun of my pathetic attempt. It didn't traumatise me or anything but it was a wakeup call about how bad my physical condition was.
And 5 years ago, a lot of my classmates were having an arm wrestling competition and I came in dead last. Even the scrawniest guy in class was stronger than me. This coupled with not being able to do any pushups or pullups while others could do some made me finally take initiative to change.
After I started working out I started noticing my stamina, ability to carry groceries etc was going up. I was getting a wider shoulder and my face slimmed down causing me to have a slight "Glow up". This eventually lead me to having higher confidence and ability to put myself out there more.
Still got a long way to go, but I'm continuously trying to make progress.
This is how I feel and think towards physical activity and training. I do it for longevity and fun. And I make sure the exercises I do has a positive impact on my physical and mental health.
Very well thought out and well stated. However, I would say that fit and attractive people, generally want fit and attractive partners. Having been overweight in the past, I can say that the kinds of girls I found attractive did not find me attractive when I was at that weight. Maintaining a high level of fitness will certainly widen your options in the dating pool. It’s not the only reason to strive for fitness but it’s an important one imo. Not to mention looking better will give you a confidence that carries over to many other aspects of life.
While I agree for the most part, it's important to consider the type of training you do in order to attract a partner. I don't know many women who find big bodybuilders attractive, for instance. A lot of fitness dating advice tends to lead young men down this path.
I agree with this comment. I think people are typically attracted to people that fit within their "circle". Fitness people like to stick with fitness people. Geeks like to stick with geeks. However, I have a suspicion (unfounded) that if you were to put overweight people against fit people then the modern, Western population would generally deviate towards fit people. However, people tend to isolate these characteristics and forget the numerous other characteristics in play that make somebody "attractive". Even if "people" did deviate towards fit people, there are cultures present and in the past that have found people that would be considered overweight attractive.
While I must admit that it's nice hearing that I've got big muscles, I often try to remind myself that this must be for me, and me alone.
I think one of the motivations I like the most is that lifting weights is a very humbling struggle. You've kind of got to develop a lot of patience, persistence and internal drive to get good results out of it. I'd even go so far as to say that participating in a physical, progressive sport/hobby can make you a better person.
Weight training to build and maintain a strong, aesthetic and balanced physique should be just the starting line. Like showering every day and brushing your teeth. It's a basic component of life. Everyone should lift. You don't wash your clothes or maintain your hygiene "to impress others" its just what is and should be expected of a functional adult. Lifting and cardio are the exact same. These things should be intrinsically motivated rather than extrinsically, that is, for the approval of others. Even if no one else was around to smell your bad breath, you should still take care not to get halitosis because of the negative health consequences.
Additionally, being physically capable and mobile is a social responsibility, it prevents you from being a burden to others and allows you to help others more. This may be an extrinsic motivation, but it is a selfless one. My point is that there are sound philosophical underpinnings to training that, when discovered, can obliterate the need for such superficial motivations as you described in the video.
We are in deep need of brining physical culture back into daily life as an expectation instead of something only 1 percent of the population is doing.
I train primarily for health, but certainly have aesthetic and strength goals. I also enjoy using my strength, so grinding out reps, or pushing for another five pounds, is thrilling. And, it's helped my mental health more than anything else has.
One of the best videos you've done that every young man needs to hear.
One of your best videos up to date. This contains a lot of invaluable lessons especially to young ones. Thank you Adam!
I’ve always been somewhat motivated to work out just to stay in basic shape but mainly did cardio/HIIT type stuff. Lately I’ve become more interested in resistance training because I noticed I was injuring myself too easily from lack of strength, and also because I know I need to maintain my ability to work in the yard or just do random things like move appliances on occasion. It has had the added benefit of my wife being impressed and liking my body a bit more but that was purely a perk 😅.
Brilliant as always. Thank you for all you do to help others be healthy. 😊
You truly are a blessing for this consumerist ego culture that is unfortunately booming. Keep up the good work.
Love the overall health message that you put forward in your videos.
At the core, I train for health. Interestingly, I realised that simply training to be healthy was killing MY gains. I was moving, so of course that did count towards health, but I didn't feel that I progressed, and training was a bit of a chore.
But then I started thinking of myself as being useful/versatile/capable. My overall goal is still health, but adding the goal of general physical preparedness (not that I'm that fit at all yet), has given me something to strive for. I'm not training to be stronger than others or to win competitions; I'm training to be able to do something when needed. So the stronger I get, the more I can lift, carry, push, the higher I can jump and the faster and longer I can run, etc. For instance, when I reached the strength to deadlift my own body weight, my initial though was "I can lift myself - I can lift a human" (though that may not actually be the case, it's motivating for me).
I'm in the same boat, and my current focus is to do a pull-up and know I can climb my own weight 😊.
You can do it, mate! Enjoy the journey. Pullups are a tremendously rewarding exercise
@@moctezumita Pull-ups are one of my big dreams/goals, too. I'm still on the hanging part, building grip strength. Good luck with the journey!
I'm a girl so I thought the title training for girls doesn't work means my training would fail. Took me gor a while to realize it's not that way lol.
I don't really look for relationships and here in general guys don't care about chicks that's not pretty in (stereo)typical ways, so training to get dates is already off the window. I'm training just to just get my socially awkward and generally anxious self sorted out by loving myself more and living the fantasy of being a lithe but strong action anime waifu a little lol
I know well external validation feels great, but remember my friends your longevity and health is more important and precious!
We’ll said!
One of the reasons I started lifting was to impress the ladies. (It's been nearly 10yrs since then and I can tell you that it never worked. 😂) Fortunately, my attitude to training changed fairly quickly.
A question man So you got no extra attention at all from women. after you started lifting?
But did you impress the gym bros tho ?
@@tallking7777 u definitely get more attention from women when ur fit but that being the overall reason for training isn’t the right reason
I met my future wife at the gym, trying to impress her with my moves 😂😂😂😂I made a fool out of myself. But I must have done something right. We have been together 20 years so far.
@@greenarrow219
Lucky for you!
I hope many more years of happy marriage!
Even if I wanted to train for aesthetics and ego, I'd get lost in the calisthenics, athleticism, and mobility rabbit hole inside a week. Training for power and movement is just fun. Now, if you'll excuse me, my pull-up bar is calling.
Truly one of the best recent Bioneer videos
You Sir are a top bloke. More men need to hear this, and I salute you.
Training boosts confidence, I train a lot. But I also try to socialize more which has helped as well
The title and parenthesis are a great one two punch
I train so I can save my loved ones and myself in case of emergency, first. Second, so I can enjoy doing what I want and traveling while doing it. I don't want to turn down fun opportunities just because I am so unhealthy and unfit, I can't even begin to try.
Off topic, the beginning with the flirting faces reminded me of Chevy Chase in Caddyshack. Later, during that mirror shot near the end, I suddenly heard "Goodbye, Horses" and thought of the Silence of the Lambs scene. Thanks for the laughs!
This was one of the best videos on youtube fitness ive ever seen
I just want to say thanks Adam for years worth of great content. You are unmatched
Important to consider.
Love the overall health message that you put forward in your videos.. nice
Love the overall health message. Good for health. 👍👍👍👍👍
Health and fitness are two blessings in whole life❤❤❤
Training to make yourself feel relaxed and not overthink too mutch when socialising/dating
I started training for health and looks at first. But honestly, that's not what hooked me in. The positive effect it had on my mental health was what made me fall in love with training. My depression stopped having any effect on me, and even when it returns I'm able to power through it in a relatively short period of time. It seems to give fuel to my willpower
@Bioneer We need a video on a combination 6-day training plan I have been trying to create.
Combination being.
Functional Yoked training.
And
Athletic Calisthenics training.
We are really on the same wavelength. I train because I enjoy it( it’s embedded in me since young doing martial arts. I love the feeling of my body and mind changing and evolving
Haha I was thinking this sounds like such a Jeff Cavalier title, and was glad he acknowledged and leaned into it.
Great episode, light hearted with a bit of humor and also some valid points. When I put the vanity aside and started training for my own sake I started making more progress than I ever did. I got a kick out of the "Love Corner". 😀
By the way, I'm also a Tiege Hanley customer; good stuff, and I like those well fitting "Uncomplicated" T-shirts they give out occasionally.
Any reason to train is good for me but its always important to train correctly. Mental health though, of course, is just as important.
I started training myself for better mental health. And so far it is the main reason. The gains are secondary for me, although I do have them. Exercise is probably the best antidepressant one could ask for.
The message here to younger men is so important. You’re really doing good work here.
it's very nice to hear a reasonable voice amongst this chaos in the internet, I agree, thanks for expressing it!
I'm so happy to see a more comedic bent to this video.
I feel that at times there's much more of a serious tone overall and that's ok to point, but levity goes a long way.
For me i train because i genuinely enjoy all forms of self betterment and self expression, not for any extrinsic reason but because the training is part of being alive and making the most of life, to explore my potential and push the envelope not because i want other peoples approval but because it makes me more human. I find that my mindset is very similar to Goku's mentality for training.
well to put it simply its the only thing that works against my alternative which is losing all my energy staying in the house spiraling downwards cause i only go to work and home and ends with me living off of the nearest fast food place , sleeping 14 hours or just drinking until i have to go to work again .
This is the best fitness channel on UA-cam. Every video is both entertaining and informative.
Thanks so much for the good sense. You're a great role model for young men. Not enough of this good sense out there xx
Read "training for girls" and got excited to send this to my female friend, I bet she'd have some questions if I sent it now that I read it all.
Thanks for addressing this phenomenon happening in our culture right now
I could’ve done with watching this when I was a teenager doing only bicep curls, which not only didn’t attract girls but didn’t even give me biceps worth having. Although, being a teenager, I probably wouldn’t have paid any attention. Now at the grand old age of nearly 57, my much more varied training is enjoyable (and therefore sustainable) and I honestly don’t care what anyone thinks about my arms ( which are, happily , much better than they were 40 years ago 😊)
Great advice! Most physique-related attention comes from other men. Learn to dance. 😊
This was a really cool topic for you to dive into; there are so many different ways to train, but finding the way that best reflects who you want to be is so fulfilling.
Your best video Adam. I used to train to impress others. Now i train for myself, much happier !!!
I'm focusing on Back and Shoulders cause FL and Planche is the goal :D
I always trained for my health, a long-term plan. Getting trim, flexible, and muscular are all benefits of working out, I always thought that if your only goal is to look good, it wasn't enough motivation to train consistently.
I enjoy the process. I enjoy my walks on Friday night to the park with my kettlebell and my workouts.
I love the Bioneer
Good reason to train
All the languages he could've spoken, and yet he chose to speak straight facts
Perhaps training to impress others is just a lesson/phase for people to learn from and go through. Of course, not everyone will learn the lesson but I’d say eventually at least some will. And hopefully they’ve developed a healthy habit and have learned to enjoy it as well. Doing things for the “wrong” reasons could still be beneficial especially if the reasons transitions to a “good” reason.
I have a raging fire in my soul that won't burn out. I just love those challenges that I get from different types of training aspects. 🔥🔥🔥
I Im Press my Self
How Im Pressive I am
Even I like my Self...
I’m 54 and just partied and played in bands for 30 years and now I want to get strong and be in peak health so I train for strength and mobility and for surfing and skiing.
TIL the Bioneer has been a beast most of his life.
Eternally Important
Very cool channel. It's thought-provoking following a personal trainer guy who isn't just a muscle-head person, focused only on how to execute things well, but instead talking more philosophically about the whys of this stuff. It's a more human, adult approach to fitness and physicality.
Well said!
Personally, I train for myself, I train martial arts and calisthenics. Fighting is very fun for me, and calisthenics, well, for me, it's a way more fun way to get stronger than lifting for me.
I am also thinking about trying out climbing, it seems fun and will certainly be a challenge!
I measure my body not by how it looks, but what I can do. As a martial artist, I want to be able to perform more moves, and win some amateur fights. As a future father, I want to be able to protect my kids and maybe carry them around for as long as I possibly can. As a human being, I just want to be as healthy as I can for as long as possible.
I think that's why I like philosophies like transhumanism, where the ultimate purpose is to attain the greatest abilities we possibly can, to achieve ever more.
My reason for training is apparently quite strange to a lot of people or deemed "unhealthy" by some. I always say it's because I want to be perfect and people tend to find that to be an unreasonable goal. But the thing is, I like that. I like having a goal I'll never reach because it means I can always be trying to reach it. I know I'll never achieve perfection but the best chance I have of trying to be the perfect version of myself is to be going after it. I want to be faster, I want to be stronger, I want to be smarter, I want to be better. It's what attracted me to your videos so much (and why I bought superfunctional training 2.0)
Who know’s if it’s healthy, but I totally can relate 😅 Can’t accept mediocrity in any area. Not in others - just in myself. Think I have issues but hey, it leads to biceps 😂
@@TheBioneer That's a great point. My partner often mentions that I expect a lot more from myself than I do others but that just makes sense to me. I know what I am, what I want and what I'm capable of so I push myself to prove myself right 😄 I'm a recent convert though so still working on the biceps 😂
So many truths in this video! Especially the one in the „love corner“ cannot be stressed enough. Thank you!
"Just be confident bro!"
-Chad
One of the best workout videos I've seen 👌
I started to workday at age 17, 2007, and I got into training, like a typical teen, to improve my looks. I'll be, however, doing just mainly pushups, setups ( didn't know better and training info was usually limited to magazines). Nonetheless, while I fell In love with working out, and later incorporated weights, I years down the line trained like an animal but I never got the ripped look, or the visible abs I desperately wanted.
Eventually I developed an eating disorde that lasted for years. Now, I'm five foot 8, and I've never weighted more than 180 pounds, but I never got visible abs, even while counting macros. I even worked with personal trainers at a Gold's Gym,and while them I was forcing on size, I never got abs.
Over the years I stopped training over lack of interest, got into other hobbies. In 2019 I began with calisthenics, but mainly to learn the exercises ( they seemed fun), and for health.
I didn't get major results for when it comes to aesthetics, for I was inconsistent.
But in 2020, the lockdown happened, and I picked up trrail running, every evening, in order to deal with my then stress and anxiety. And I saw ab definition for the first time. I even lost size, for I neglected strength training. But I wasn't totally focused on aesthetics..
I was running cause I enjoyed it. Now I workout with high volume calisthenics, cause I like the energy exertion, hard work. And I'm seeing results at age 33.
I don't think having big muscles don't directly translate to more mates, but the lessons you learn and confidence you gain from the self-discipline you develop through training starts to reflect on you.
1:07 This had me laughing like Goofy. Thank you Adam
Thanks for this video man. I think you have an outside looking in perspective on this whole dating thing that is really needed, and because you aren't in the world of online dating you probably give much more healthy and sound advice. When you do things to impress people and you don't get their affirmation you can begin to resent them. Sometimes you have to save yourself and them the trouble but ultimately remembering that it is the experience of training that we must enjoy, because achievement and PRs are only moments of happiness not an everyday thing.
You and AthleanX are my favorite wellness/fitness UA-camrs, so I really appreciate the title lol!
I love your ethos man! I live in Scotland 🏴 and i love climbing Munros as much as possible. I like to train for function, endurance, strength and longevity. Keeps my body in good shape for tough climbing days. Thanks for the video, loved the mental health aspect to me that’s what it’s all about.
Honest straight talk from start to finish. Well done!
I hope people can set aside their ego and see how useful your insight is, especially in this video.
It's cool that you tackled this topic and as well as you did. Hopefully some young dudes prefer this to some of the other content out there
I appreciate you talking about this!
definitely not the video I wanted, but the video I needed. thanks Bioneer !
Brilliant as always.thank you for all you do to help others be healthy.❤
Yeah, nobody says that you have to be aggressive and be rude to women, but you do need boundaries.
Also, most nice guys aren't actually nice. They're just too weak to set boundaries.
But that being said, you're right about the effects of trying to focus purely on mirror muscles. My mobility was dog shit for years because of it 😂