Story 1: sounds EXACTLY like my ex. If i was working kate, I was cheating. If i wasnt working late and came home on time, I wasnt providing enough. Every text meant i was cheating. Every phonecall was a sign i was betraying them. If i stayed home, i was a bum. If i was out with family i was abandoning them. If i was out working i was cheating. If i was out with friends i was cheating. If i was calling my sister I was too distracted and wasnt tending their needs.
Almost the same thing happened to me. Without the ex, my business thrived and became businesses. Never got to another serious relationship. Suddenly the ex want to be friends. Told her I already have dogs.
Story 1 OP is absolute 100% YTA but I also feel for her and I hope she's able to get therapy and work on herself to get to a point where she's stable and happy
I think I met someone who had a girlfriend like OP #1. One day, I texted him on a Sunday about something we had been discussing at the office, and then, he told me his girlfriend didn't want us to talk anymore 🤷🏽♀️
Story 1: “I’m not here to bash him” - proceeds to bash him and complain about how hes winning in life and not suffering and remorseful like she is. SMH 🤦🏽
Story 1: "Oh no!" "Anyway". The ex-husband sounds a lot like me. I have a mild form of Asperger's syndrome and even after 14 years of marriage, 15 total, my wife understands that sometimes it takes longer to decompress for me. It sucks and I wish I wasn't like this but I am but I work on it even now.
1st. Hearing them admit their faults and not just instinctively become defensive makes me feel for the good social media can accomplish (what an oxymoron of a statement)
3:39 in and I'm already exhausted by OP...how did her husband live with it for so long?? I'm glad she figured it out though, and hopefully she will do better in the future. S2- I'm glad OP stood up to her parents and is keeping her daughter safe from those people.
It's actually hard for me to have sympathy for people who know they're still carrying her from their emotional baggage from their last relationship and still trying to hop a new ones still carrying that emotional baggage like is it really that hard to go to therapy for people just to move on with life
Story 1: EVERYTHING bothered her. She got so many excuses. When she said hit the jackpot, all was clear. She saw an easy life and was scared she wasn’t going to keep it.
You are supposed to work on your personal trauma before you get into any relationship otherwise you will spend the whole relationship dealing with those issues instead of how you both can be happy Your biggest issue should be where to go for a future date, how to buy a future house and how expensive the economy is not something that happened 5 or 10 years before you even met
"Why won't he confide in me?" Well, did you ask him to confide it you, then collapse under the weight of what he unloaded and needed to be comforted? Why would he ever open up to you again knowing that it only results in more work? This is also the same reason that your husband might get cold and calculated during a crisis: he's busy trying to keep you alive, he doesn't have time to coddle you at the moment.
The title is wrong, OP didn't divorce their husband, thinking she was too good for him. She was actually (deservedly) divorced and abandoned by her husband.
OP in story #1 sounds like they have unresolved abandonment issues and trust issues. That's something she needs to work on before getting into a relationship. She sounds exhausting to be in a relationship with.
You are not abandoned if you thought you could do better and your ex moved on. Way to dodge accountability and avoid acknowledging that your position is solely due to your own actions and excessive ego.
S1: Just because you are married doesn't mean you have to be joined at the hip. You are still individuals with your own mind and tastes. Why people think marriage is like that is beyond me. And yes you were controlling. I ask my husband to check in if he will being hang out at work afterwards just so I know he isn't d*ad..why? We live and work in a dangerous area where g*nsh*ts go off. He calls ME during his work day just tk check in. I never told him to do this. I do the same when I go to a friend's house." Hey. I am here. Hey I'm leaving." And the gall of her acting like she is the only one going through a rough time..geez. I'm hotheaded too but I don't do all this crap.
Story 1 YTA yiur ex is thriving because he’s probably regressed his age of the 20 years you added of the constant stress, from the way you want on I get the image of Ed O’Neill who plays Al Bundy (Married With Children) he stated he played Al with a degree of resignation to his life, he’d breathe out and be resigned that the house would be miserable for him. I think that’s how your ex felt, “what am, I going to come in to” “what will I be accused of” is she setting up the interrogation room. I actually find it odd you’ve listened to the comments and realised your at fault, but not with all you wrote about; harassing, accusing etc
S2: there is no such thing as grandparent rights in the U.S.A. the only rights are parent/gaurdian. Grandparents can become gaurdians if the parent is proven unfit. Boomers would try though.
1)NTA being cheated on isnt a excuse for being a contrlling, narassist, you have been controlling, basically, making him suffer alwasy walking on eggshells 2)NTA they arent even sorry they think that theyre doing is right, wasting resources, and trying to ruin your life after kicking you out, after getting pregngnat so instead of letting you stay to care for the child they wanted to take the kid away from you 3)NTA: a breakup is not am excuse to spent hundreds of thousands on a car, which she wont probably care for, while you earn every cent of it, working your butt of for your future, instead she should have focus on the underlining issue such as slef improvement or just focus on studies
Story 1: "Not just doing good but thriving." Hmmm this sounds like a guy wrote this. I've only ever heard the red pill community use the word thriving like this.
Story 1: sounds EXACTLY like my ex. If i was working kate, I was cheating. If i wasnt working late and came home on time, I wasnt providing enough. Every text meant i was cheating. Every phonecall was a sign i was betraying them. If i stayed home, i was a bum. If i was out with family i was abandoning them. If i was out working i was cheating. If i was out with friends i was cheating. If i was calling my sister I was too distracted and wasnt tending their needs.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. That had to have been one of the worst times of your entire life.
I would also think you were a cheater if you were working Kate, do you know what they say about her?
@@SpaghettiCommunistI laughed at that. Not gonna lie
Your ex was most likely Satan in disguise
@@AmaryInkawult More like a tumor that needed to be removed ASAP
Story 1: Looks like OP has realized that she is not the prize she thought she was. 😂😂😂
She thought she was the diamond and the husband was a stone but she was the stone all along ✍️🔥🗿
Right 😂😂
Nah, she realized she wasn't as SANE as she thought she was.😅
😅@@samoea19
@@samoea19facts 😂
Story 1: "I'm not here to bash him" proceed to bash him.
So glad the ex got away. OP sounds like a nightmare
Story 1 of course op is mad that her ex is thriving without her because it shows that the problem in that relationship was her.
If youre so messed up that you make your partner responsible for past traumas they didnt cause. Then you need to be single and work on that.
Story 1: wow, just wow. This woman was so worried about her piggy bank, that she suffocated him right out of her life
Wtf does the first story have anything to do with money?
What does money have anything to do with the first story?
what does money have anything to do with this?
WHY ARE MY COMMENTS GETTING DELETED?
@@DurvishZadoo they arent. you have 4 comments saying the same thing
Almost the same thing happened to me. Without the ex, my business thrived and became businesses. Never got to another serious relationship. Suddenly the ex want to be friends. Told her I already have dogs.
2:52 I'm already exhausted and I'm not even in the relationship 😮💨
OP divorced him and she claims to be abandoned. 🙄
Was about to comment that. Just by reading the title, you know where is the problem.
Story 1 OP is absolute 100% YTA but I also feel for her and I hope she's able to get therapy and work on herself to get to a point where she's stable and happy
also the title is literally not what happened
Do you know the correct Reddit post title?
OP is damaged beyond repair. She's too filled with pride and self-absorbed to the point she's too good for therapy.
You thought you hit the jackpot??? The code words they have to describe people is crazy
There is an old saying," The best revenge is to live well."
Guys need bro-time. Ask the guy with five daughters.
Story 1: The grass is always greener. But that could be because you didn't tend your first garden better.
Like how S1 OP finally owned up and realised her mistake, nice ending for once
I think I met someone who had a girlfriend like OP #1. One day, I texted him on a Sunday about something we had been discussing at the office, and then, he told me his girlfriend didn't want us to talk anymore 🤷🏽♀️
Story 1: “I’m not here to bash him” - proceeds to bash him and complain about how hes winning in life and not suffering and remorseful like she is. SMH 🤦🏽
You mean to tell me that being an overbearing witch didn’t work out? Color me shocked!
Your attention to detail is impressive; every description, every moment feels so carefully crafted to draw the reader in. 👀💡
Story 1: "Oh no!" "Anyway". The ex-husband sounds a lot like me. I have a mild form of Asperger's syndrome and even after 14 years of marriage, 15 total, my wife understands that sometimes it takes longer to decompress for me. It sucks and I wish I wasn't like this but I am but I work on it even now.
#1 i wish more men stood up for themselves like this. most men are too whipped to stand up to their wives.
1st. Hearing them admit their faults and not just instinctively become defensive makes me feel for the good social media can accomplish (what an oxymoron of a statement)
3:39 in and I'm already exhausted by OP...how did her husband live with it for so long?? I'm glad she figured it out though, and hopefully she will do better in the future.
S2- I'm glad OP stood up to her parents and is keeping her daughter safe from those people.
Oh, look, it is the consequences of your actions.🙄
It's actually hard for me to have sympathy for people who know they're still carrying her from their emotional baggage from their last relationship and still trying to hop a new ones still carrying that emotional baggage like is it really that hard to go to therapy for people just to move on with life
S1 - She still has Tic Tok for validation so, umm, fair trade.
Story 1: EVERYTHING bothered her. She got so many excuses. When she said hit the jackpot, all was clear. She saw an easy life and was scared she wasn’t going to keep it.
story 3: can't wait for the "your sister bled us dry and we need your help" update in a few years 😂
Story 1: She says she divorced him because he wasn’t good enough for her and then later claims he abandoned her and walked out on her… so which is it?
S2: Move your money OP. You were right not to give it to them,but trying to just take it comes next.
You are supposed to work on your personal trauma before you get into any relationship otherwise you will spend the whole relationship dealing with those issues instead of how you both can be happy
Your biggest issue should be where to go for a future date, how to buy a future house and how expensive the economy is not something that happened 5 or 10 years before you even met
"Why won't he confide in me?"
Well, did you ask him to confide it you, then collapse under the weight of what he unloaded and needed to be comforted? Why would he ever open up to you again knowing that it only results in more work?
This is also the same reason that your husband might get cold and calculated during a crisis: he's busy trying to keep you alive, he doesn't have time to coddle you at the moment.
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The title is wrong, OP didn't divorce their husband, thinking she was too good for him. She was actually (deservedly) divorced and abandoned by her husband.
Divorce ≠ abandonment. She did that to herself.
OP in story #1 sounds like they have unresolved abandonment issues and trust issues. That's something she needs to work on before getting into a relationship. She sounds exhausting to be in a relationship with.
Good OP is barely into her sob story and I already feel like the "more weight" witch victim
You are not abandoned if you thought you could do better and your ex moved on. Way to dodge accountability and avoid acknowledging that your position is solely due to your own actions and excessive ego.
Oh no, consequences!
S1 : As the old saying goes. You made your bed, now lie in it.
OP definitely needs therapy.
S1: Just because you are married doesn't mean you have to be joined at the hip. You are still individuals with your own mind and tastes. Why people think marriage is like that is beyond me. And yes you were controlling. I ask my husband to check in if he will being hang out at work afterwards just so I know he isn't d*ad..why? We live and work in a dangerous area where g*nsh*ts go off. He calls ME during his work day just tk check in. I never told him to do this. I do the same when I go to a friend's house." Hey. I am here. Hey I'm leaving."
And the gall of her acting like she is the only one going through a rough time..geez. I'm hotheaded too but I don't do all this crap.
Story 3: Maybe OP's sister needs to learn what their parents told OP, learn to earn your own money.
Story 1 YTA yiur ex is thriving because he’s probably regressed his age of the 20 years you added of the constant stress, from the way you want on I get the image of Ed O’Neill who plays Al Bundy (Married With Children) he stated he played Al with a degree of resignation to his life, he’d breathe out and be resigned that the house would be miserable for him.
I think that’s how your ex felt, “what am, I going to come in to” “what will I be accused of” is she setting up the interrogation room. I actually find it odd you’ve listened to the comments and realised your at fault, but not with all you wrote about; harassing, accusing etc
Ex in story 1 could also be autistic this would make him burn out with the pressure OP placed on him so much quicker
Story 2: for ops parents to not have wanting her to keep the grandchild, and put their daughter out, they are too involved calling CPS.
S2: there is no such thing as grandparent rights in the U.S.A. the only rights are parent/gaurdian. Grandparents can become gaurdians if the parent is proven unfit. Boomers would try though.
S1: the diamant get free from the coal
So OP went to Jared's lol sorry I had to
Op should get therapy
Story 1: I, I, I, I , Me....🙄
Thriving because he dropped the dead weight
1)NTA being cheated on isnt a excuse for being a contrlling, narassist, you have been controlling, basically, making him suffer alwasy walking on eggshells
2)NTA they arent even sorry they think that theyre doing is right, wasting resources, and trying to ruin your life after kicking you out, after getting pregngnat so instead of letting you stay to care for the child they wanted to take the kid away from you
3)NTA: a breakup is not am excuse to spent hundreds of thousands on a car, which she wont probably care for, while you earn every cent of it, working your butt of for your future, instead she should have focus on the underlining issue such as slef improvement or just focus on studies
secretvoices has fallen to the AI side, rip
Here is an interesting mental experiment for you to try: Try to imagine all the people in these stories as black people.
Op the reason your husband is better now because he left you.
This sounds like the most juvenile Redpill/incel fanfiction. 😂
Story one nta not everyone is compatable, she's clingy and her ex is a loner standoffish individual just wasn't a right pairing
Story 1: "Not just doing good but thriving." Hmmm this sounds like a guy wrote this. I've only ever heard the red pill community use the word thriving like this.
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