As much as I love the kids... I actually do prefer listening to Colette and the things she has to say. The adorable children are just extra cuteness. Even with the vlogs I often found myself more drawn to the clips where Colette or Shay talked almost one on one and gave advice
I always...wanted to see Colette..in the Shaytards anyway..I was always waiting for Colette's part of the puzzle..so the rest of the vlog was fine...but really Colette has a great message..I TEARED up seeing you share your journey with us..I HAVE the SAME "inner bully"...(of course we all do)...and I love how Colette teaches in such a vulnerable way. LOVE YOU COLETTE! please keep the videos coming don't let your inner bully shut it down..your "free writing" idea...is really helpful actually for me...I want to try that..I also had a horrific family destruction event in 2016...and the anxiety was THROUGH THE ROOF!..and although I am feeling more normalish now..I don't think it is too late for some free writing... I feel like you are an earth angel...and earth angels don't always walk smooth paths...
Thank you for being such a strong example of standing in your truth. I know it may not always feel like that sometimes. Despite that our lives are completely different and we hold completely different beliefs, I really admire you bravery and vulnerability and your courage to hold space for it.
i feel bad for collette. i mean she tried so hard to get her life back together and people are still hating on her. yes she is still with shay but only because she believes that they can fix their relationship and their trust. she is a smart person that knows how to make her own decisions. she must have taken a lot of time to think about what she wanted to happen. i personally think that she made a good decision because they were once happy and i definitely think that they can be happy again if they both put in the work. love you so much collette! you are a huge inspiration for me because i have had a lot of fear and anxiety in my life but this will definitely help me make better decisions.
ItsJessica H yes, colette has gotten back with shay because she really believes that he is the one, she knows he has made a huge mistake but colette believes and knows that he will make it throught his problems and make the right decission. Colette knows that Shay is sincerely sorry so she has given him a second chance after the huge mistake he has made. That shows that colette really loves Shay and really believes in him and in their relationship
I’m 16 years old and I’ve recently been diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder. I just want to say how grateful I am for these videos and how much they’ve helped me deal with my diagnosis. I’m at the age where I don’t know who I want to be yet but with these videos and seeing you with your beautiful family and beautiful spirit and I can only hope to be half the woman you are and I will be set for life. Thank you Colette
Collette, when you guys stopped the Shaytards and things had happened, I was worried for you. I had watched your family forever and I didn't wanna see you hurt. When you had stopped uploading I was sad but wondered if I would ever hear from you again. A few months ago I was cleaning out my UA-cam subscriptions and I almost un followed your channel but just couldn't... And then you came back. I'm so happy you did. These videos are amazing and I feel like you really found your calling. I'm saving this video to my favorites and I'll be re watching and re watching over and over. I'd love to see a video of your favorite self help books. I'm struggling right now, I'm struggling with my weight and my life. I have PTSD and depression from that. I developed an eating disorder I've had it for many years now. I work to much to go to counseling. My work schedule doesn't work with my drs schedule so back in February I had to stop all medication for my PTSD and depression because I couldn't go to appts. From then on I've just struggled so much. I honestly would rather end my life than keep going. Ur videos really help and I want you to know ur amazing. Hope you guys had a wonderful Halloween and have a great Thanksgiving and Christmas ❤️❤️❤️
You're a beautiful person, Collette. Your soul shines so brightly through everything you've been through. You're an inspiration to me, and everyone person following you. We look up to you, and admire the strength your have through your weakness (if you even call it that, because this "weakness" makes us human) You truly, truly are a genuine soul. All the love you have, the passion, you're amazing. Never forget Collette.
Seeing pictures of your mom in your office made my heart happy. I know you were so young when you lost her, and you I imagine you carry her memories close to you. She must have been such a loving mother because she raised such a loving human being in you. Thank you for all that you share with us. Much love to you, Collette.
Thank you so much Colette. I really needed this video. I've been living with fear and horrible anxiety for the past 3 years. I'm 15 years old right now. You give me so much hope and inspiration. Thank you for everything.
Thank you for these “self help” videos they help a lot also tip if you ever feel down sing because singing has a lot of power and is just magical try it and you’ll see
I wish you would find a better person. But I also wish you to be happy, regardless. So, sending you my best. Just know, there are many other paths in life. If you're not happy with the one you're on now, don't be afraid to leave.
You're such a blessing to this world Collette. I really mean that. You're such a perfect example to me and I've been watching you for years since baby tard was just a baby. You were always my role model and that's what kept me watching the Shaytards not only for the love and joy your family brings, but how strong and beautiful inside and out you are. Cheers to life!
I genuinely hope you and your children are happy. I hope you aren’t just staying and working through things because you feel like you have to. Do what makes you happy. Not an idea of what makes you happy, not what once made you happy, but what makes you happy now and what will make you happy. You and your children’s health is what’s most important. Don’t force this happiness is a choice, self help book and podcast idea of being happy go-lucky crap, but be sincerely happy.
Camille Cosmo Something tells me you wouldn't want to say this exact same comment to Shay? They both deserve happiness. Regardless, your thoughts on her and the children do not line up with their beliefs. Their priorities are in this order: 1. God 2. Spouse 3. Children. People hated this, when she said it, but I am sure she still believes this.
What is so funny is that I NEVER knew that you were fearful! I’ve always looked at you as a model of a strong, confident, beautiful mama! You are a wonderful person Colette, I am so glad you are doing good things for you, you deserve it!
I haven't commented on a video before, but I've been thinking about it for at least a month. I wanted to say thank you, Colette, for being a genuinely good person and for being yourself. I really admire you. When I was a teen and young adult, I searched for a long time to find a good adult role model (and a good family role model), and then I randomly came across the Shaytards channel years ago and it was exactly what I needed... and I passed it on to others who I thought were looking for the same thing. Watching your family helped me see that stability and happiness are possible in a family. I've loved seeing you post these last two videos on your channel after a hard time. It's real, and I appreciate it. I miss hearing from you, as you were the person I most looked forward to watching on the Shaytards (since I most relate to you). Years later, I now have my own youtube channel about my family, and I'm trying to be the person that my younger self would have wanted to find (like I found the Shaytards). I just wanted to say thank you, and I'm sorry people write crappy comments and I hope this one helps. You really helped me, for years, to have something to aspire to in adulthood. I stand by you and I trust you to make the best decisions for you, as you've taught me to do for me. I don't know you, but I'm grateful that you shared yourself openly on this platform. Thank you for showing me you. 💖
Oh my gosh "Ka tilla tay" just brought back so many memories of your videos from back in the day! And you're right. Fear can hold you back from fulfilling your purpose here on earth. And we can let it. :)
I know that this is just one comment from an unknown face, but if by some chance you ever see this Colette I want to thank you. Thank you for being real. Thank you for being an example of someone that I strive to emulate. I didn't follow your channel to watch your kids (as much as I have enjoyed watching them grow up), I followed this channel to watch YOU; To listen to the things that you have to say and the wisdom you have to impart. You are such a kind and positive soul - something that this world needs so much more of. You are a beacon of hope to me. I have watched you on some of my darkest days and you've given me the hope, fight, and strength to keep going. And so much more. So thank you from the very bottom of my heart. ❤
I can tell you have changed Colette. I can see a little of the young Colette that we saw at the beginning of the Shaytards. I don't know you see more relaxes and free? And can I say you have gotten more beautiful?
As a long time Shaytards fan, I do REALLY want to see more vlogs, but again, I know it's been hard on you guys and what you've had to overcome. I just wish you guys the best, and even if we never get another vlog, just know your fans are like a second family and we've got your back. Much love to you and your family Colette.
I've always looked up to you as a huge role model for several years, since babytard was actually a baby and sucking her thumb and sontard was not afraid to bust a move wherever whenever and princesstard was this little sassy adorable girl. Thank you so much for this incredible advice!!
LOVE THESE VIDEOS COLETTE 😍💖 you’ve always had some insightful things to say and I LOVE listening to you speak. It’s like having a mother’s voice with you when you need it most. Thank you!!
You have always been my role model since 6 years ago, Colette. And I don't think it has changed ever since. I love how inspiring and amazing you are. Just listening to you talk always gives me motivation whenever I need it. I know alot of others, including me, will always be supporting you and your family. Thank you for being such an amazing role model to thousands of us, Colette. Sending love from Singapore.
You are such a strong woman! You have been through such a hard time and you are still making videos. You are amazing! I love you're whole family. I'm praying for peace for you and your family!
Keep being strong. I’m sorry you and your family have had to experience these things lately. I know it has been hard. Please keep growing and realizing how much you are worth. I’ve been a fan a long time. I think since I was only 13. No matter what the outcome is, I wish nothing but love and happiness for you and your family. Maybe that’s a bit of a grandma thing to write, but I genuinely mean it. There is love and support for you, too. Your fame and love is not solely derived from your husband. That being said, I also wish him the best of luck. I have seen my loved ones experience addiction first hand. It is a nasty beast and I hope he can find solace with himself. The fact that he is trying to change is a start. I hope he can and can continue to be strong.
I left UA-cam for a long time,but the first thing I came back is looking for your family channel,and surprised me you stopped.no matter what happened,I'm glad to see you.missing you and your children,stay with us and everything will be ok!
Hi Colette! I just wanted to say how inspiring you have been for me all of these years that I've been watching your videos. Years ago when you were shooting your Katilette videos in LA, those videos helped me SO much during that time, i even uploaded them on my iPod to listen to when i went on walks. I was going through such a rough time with my family, i even commented on one of your videos expressing some of the hard times i went through and you replied with such love that i truly call you my second mom. I actually just went through those videos now, and seeing how much you changed is incredible, what's more incredible is how much I changed too! I feel more connected to the Colette now, you feel more raw and real to me, all of the self love and meditating, that is something I'm striving for at this moment, I'm definitely a little hippie now. Anyways i just wanted to say i love you, and thank you for coming back, because I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels this way about you! ❤️
This video is amazing. I went through a really bad few months with anxiety and depression and this is the exact kind of thing i have been working on with my counselor. So happy to see this working in your life and i am so grateful you choose to share this journey, experience and your advice on this so that it could help others overcome their fears too. Much, much love❤
I have so much love for you Collette. I don’t want Shaytards back. It won’t be the same. I pray your family continues to heal and that you continue to find inspiration and desire to keep encouraging those that watch your videos. Thank you for coming back. ❤️
Thank you so much, I really needed to hear this. I've been alone with my thoughts too long today and they've been really bringing me down. It's so easy to over think situations and get dragged down into fear. Thanks for helping me see into a new perspective.
Good to see you back and so strong! Sure we want to see the kids when they are ready, but mostly, we just want to know you guys are hanging in there. Thanks for sharing what you're learning. Hugs from Kaysville, UT!
This is you Kailette. You are a funny, serious Mom. Being a mom is 2nd to none. Your second most important thing in your life. God being first. I love you and so does God!!!!
I love you Colette!! You're the sweetest and your advice has gotten me through so much over the years, seriously. Please don't let any negative comments bring you down, you've been so impactful and helped so many people with this platform.
Ah you're such a wonderful strong woman. The last two videos were so inspiring, it really helps me going through difficult times. Thank you for putting out your journey, experience, feelings, thoughts and especially love 💓
I LOVE your energy Collette! You are beaming with confidence, wisdom and beauty! Such an amazing and brave role model. Thank you for sharing yourself with us! ❤️💪🏻
I cherish you and your videos, Colette. You are the epitome of an intelligent, altruistic, witty person. You possess many admirable qualities that I wish everyone could have. The world is a much better place with you in it, and I wish it were filled with people just like you! You are simply amazing.
I've watched the shaytards since back in 2008 and i've missed each of you terribly since the videos stopped. This video and the last one you uploaded have helped me more than I thought I could be helped. Thank you for taking the time to make these videos and for trying to help people when I know it must be hard to sort through rude and insensitive comments.
There is a lot of hate in a lot of the comments that I've seen. But Colette just know there are still lots of us who love and support you. Obviously you have been going through a really rough time but you are so strong, you are incredible, and inspirational, and an amazing person no matter what some people think. Just know that I love you and support you in everything you do, and so do a lot of others.❤️
It's not so much hate as it is people being upset that she's so blind. Of COURSE she can make her own decisions. It's HER life, but it's very disheartening watching a woman you watched for years on YT stay with someone because 1) Her religion. I get she's religious, but there's no way God would ever judge her for divorcing a man who hurt his family with no regard for them. Look at Shay's sister. She did it. She's completely fine. 2) She thinks she HAS to stay as a "good wife" because that's what this is all really coming down to the more she talks. As a "good wife" she should "forgive" him. As a good wife she should let go of HER dreams. What SHE wanted. EVERYTHING that she ever strived for. She has to give up EVERYTHING & make herself believe that THIS is how she'll be together with Shay again. There's no reason for HER to change herself or her dreams because of Shay's actions. 3) Dependency. She's dependent. That's just a fact. She's not AS strong as you or she believes she it. Shay's the one who brought the family to YT. The one who made the clothing line. The one who brought in the bread ($$$). He's the one that she's been with for 10 yrs + & he is ALL that she knows. She's doing what everyone else would do in a long-term relationship. Make every single excuse she can in order to stay in that normalcy. (ie. change herself to allow herself to accept HIS HUGE mistakes against her family) It's just sad dude. It's not hate. More comments are telling her that they're concerned about her staying with Shay than there are "oh you're so dumb".
You have help me understand I am not alone.I also learned more about myself, I have grown up with not a mother and every time you talk about subjects like this I feel like I have a mother that willing to talk to me. Love you💗
I am so glad to see that you are back. I loved this video. I am a single mom and fear is a daily struggle. I fear that I won't have enough time to be with my daughter since i have to work. That I won't give her the right advice and I am just doing things wrong. This video really spoke to me. Thank you so much for this video. I can't wait to see what is next. Praying always.
I needed this so much! I have always been fearful and especially have anxiety about something bad happening to my husband and him not being here anymore. I used to have horrible anxiety about it! It has gotten better, but it's been an issue again recently.
Amanda Cypert gosh I'm the same with my boyfriend. I've been with him now for 9 years and can't even imagine life without him and I get severe anxiety EVERYDAY about him dying or something bad happening. my anxiety gets worse daily cos I feel like everyday there's more chance of something going wrong cos it didn't yesterday (if that makes sense). Also with my mum and brother.
Absolutely love hearing you speak out!! About everything!! As much as I loved/love the SHAYTARDS vlogs...YOU are a phenomenal person and you are so strong and loving and you have a lot to say and we want to hear it. We love you Collette!!
Thank you for posting this. You are beautiful Colette! You are a strong woman. What you said in this vid and the last vid helped me so much. I have anxiety and i'm always thinking negative and fear. I have along with anxiety I suffer from PTSD and OCD (ptsd from emotional and verbal abuse). I just started seeing a new therapist and she told me to write or type my thoughts and write about my past. It hurts but I feel such great relief.
I want to hear what you have to say. You are in such a motivational place and I need to hear your positive thinking and incorporate it into my life. Thank you, Colette.
Hi!! When I was a young teenager I used to watch shayrards every day, and just smile with y'all, and dream of a perfect family. Sadly I didn't get my perfect family back then. But I always watched and dreamed for the future anyway. The crisis between you and Shay brought me back to your channels as an adult because it felt more relatable to me, and I've gotta say, you are so inspiring. I wouldn't mind just listening to your thoughts and advise and feelings every day before work because here I am today feeling pepped up and positive. That kind of energy radiates from you through hardship
Thank you so much, what you said means a lot to me. No ones family is perfect for sure and maybe that’s not bad because maybe if it was we wouldn’t grow and I love who I am today more than ever.
Gosh, Colette, you really are so wonderful. Everything you've been putting out lately here and on the Mom's View have been so lovely and inspirational. Everything you've been saying has given me thoughts on how to change my negative thoughts and hope that I can come to a better place than I'm in now. You're so right, fear leads to so many hurtful things and I want to join you on this path and change that response. This was awesome, you are awesome, and I love that you've been able to touch on my thoughts and insecurities and issues that I've been dealing with lately in every video you've made or been apart of since you came back. Really looking forward to the next one!
my goodness gracious! I just love watching the bloopers at the end of your video! But most of all I love the fact that you gave positive motivations and encouragements. Thank you! I needed that after a very slow week of negative things going my way and I needed to hear that tonight. Thank you!
Thank you, Collette. I've recently had these thoughts and feelings with my crazy life going one. You are absolutely saturated in love, faith, and forgiveness. I am trying to do the same. Thank you for the words and the positivity that I CAN do this! Lots of love!
you are such an inspiration to so many. thank you endlessly for putting out this content and sharing the wisdom you have gained through such hard times. I appreciate it so much and admire you for it! You bring me to tears every time I watch because you end up speaking directly to my soul!!!!! LOVE YOU SO MUCH
I love shaytards don’t get me wrong . I miss the vlogs and stuff but I feel like we as fans shouldn’t always be asking them to come back! They will when they want to and if they don’t come back then that’s ok!Too many haters man! It wouldn’t be the same with all the negative comments. It’s kind of like when your favorite show ends. I cried so much when Friends was over but there’s that’s what reruns are for lol ♥️
comments don't mean a thing (ironically in the comments right now). For me, the videos were enough to get a kick out of. but I agree I want them back how they were, and when they feel ready).
They can't come back, it will not work, they are done PERIOD, UA-cam has already changed so much since they left that they are not only not relevant in the least anymore, but people have moved on to new families, new and different content, etc. It's like a popular TV show that went off the air and tries to make some half ass attempt at re igniting a flame that doesn't exist.
They have 5mill subscribers, do it without the comment section, whatever. I bet they would still pull an easy 200k views. With people moving to different families etc, they subscribed for the content that Shaytards supplied and im sure many like myself will stick around.
As much as I love the kids... I actually do prefer listening to Colette and the things she has to say. The adorable children are just extra cuteness. Even with the vlogs I often found myself more drawn to the clips where Colette or Shay talked almost one on one and gave advice
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If you listened to Shay's advice, just know he was spouting stuff he'd read. What he says, and what he does, are two completely different things.
I AGREE!! I could listen to her talk all the time.
same!
I always...wanted to see Colette..in the Shaytards anyway..I was always waiting for Colette's part of the puzzle..so the rest of the vlog was fine...but really Colette has a great message..I TEARED up seeing you share your journey with us..I HAVE the SAME "inner bully"...(of course we all do)...and I love how Colette teaches in such a vulnerable way. LOVE YOU COLETTE! please keep the videos coming don't let your inner bully shut it down..your "free writing" idea...is really helpful actually for me...I want to try that..I also had a horrific family destruction event in 2016...and the anxiety was THROUGH THE ROOF!..and although I am feeling more normalish now..I don't think it is too late for some free writing...
I feel like you are an earth angel...and earth angels don't always walk smooth paths...
I forgot how genuinely funny Collette is. Nice to have you back.
dylansoldersister surprise! She hasn't posted in 4 months sense this video 😔
You are gorgeous and like twins with your mom!
Kandee Johnson Queen.
Kandee Johnson 100th like
Kandee Johnson her mom looks like Avia!
KANDEE JOHNSON OMG
Kandee Johnson why they not uploading on the shaytards. Are they quitting youtube?
“When you think with love you don’t have a need to attack others and you don’t have to internalize attacks from others.” Love this!
Thank you for being such a strong example of standing in your truth. I know it may not always feel like that sometimes. Despite that our lives are completely different and we hold completely different beliefs, I really admire you bravery and vulnerability and your courage to hold space for it.
You are a great speaker. Im glad your back doing videos now. Your one strong mama
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i feel bad for collette. i mean she tried so hard to get her life back together and people are still hating on her. yes she is still with shay but only because she believes that they can fix their relationship and their trust. she is a smart person that knows how to make her own decisions. she must have taken a lot of time to think about what she wanted to happen. i personally think that she made a good decision because they were once happy and i definitely think that they can be happy again if they both put in the work.
love you so much collette! you are a huge inspiration for me because i have had a lot of fear and anxiety in my life but this will definitely help me make better decisions.
ItsJessica H I was worried that Colette had given up on him but I’m glad she didnt she truly is very forgiving and I’m proud of both of them
Wait she is still with shay............
ItsJessica H actually collete kicked him out the house and shays mom disowned him
Really!? hope did u find this out?? :)
ItsJessica H yes, colette has gotten back with shay because she really believes that he is the one, she knows he has made a huge mistake but colette believes and knows that he will make it throught his problems and make the right decission. Colette knows that Shay is sincerely sorry so she has given him a second chance after the huge mistake he has made. That shows that colette really loves Shay and really believes in him and in their relationship
its so sad what shay has put her through, so sorry colette
I'm not waiting for a shaytards vlog. I'm waiting for a katilette video!!!♥️
Here here to that
Preach!
Makenzie Courtney I'm waiting for pretty much anything from any of their channels. Any one of them is worth gold to me
Amen!!!
Makenzie Courtney I am watching for both because I like all of them
You look just like your mom!!!💖💖you are a true inspiration Colette and i love you!!!
Those 2 and Babytard are triplets
Anna JD Please... We wanna se kids...... Plz.. Plz..... Collete
Ya we wanna see the kiday
Anna JD iii
that's very true and I agree what you have said towards the amazing Colette and what she has gone through to get here
Why does colette make such a good southern snob? Lol love her
I’m 16 years old and I’ve recently been diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder. I just want to say how grateful I am for these videos and how much they’ve helped me deal with my diagnosis. I’m at the age where I don’t know who I want to be yet but with these videos and seeing you with your beautiful family and beautiful spirit and I can only hope to be half the woman you are and I will be set for life. Thank you Colette
Even if there is never another Shaytards vlog, I'm grateful we have your beautiful face on here sharing your wisdom ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Mamma Chavez wait here isnt gonna be another shaytards vlog
Mamma Chavez when did she say that
I thought they were just taking a break
Elena Tran she never said there wasn't going to be another shaytards video. She said IF there is never another one.
U just read my mind
Collette, when you guys stopped the Shaytards and things had happened, I was worried for you. I had watched your family forever and I didn't wanna see you hurt. When you had stopped uploading I was sad but wondered if I would ever hear from you again. A few months ago I was cleaning out my UA-cam subscriptions and I almost un followed your channel but just couldn't... And then you came back. I'm so happy you did. These videos are amazing and I feel like you really found your calling. I'm saving this video to my favorites and I'll be re watching and re watching over and over. I'd love to see a video of your favorite self help books. I'm struggling right now, I'm struggling with my weight and my life. I have PTSD and depression from that. I developed an eating disorder I've had it for many years now. I work to much to go to counseling. My work schedule doesn't work with my drs schedule so back in February I had to stop all medication for my PTSD and depression because I couldn't go to appts. From then on I've just struggled so much. I honestly would rather end my life than keep going. Ur videos really help and I want you to know ur amazing. Hope you guys had a wonderful Halloween and have a great Thanksgiving and Christmas ❤️❤️❤️
You're a beautiful person, Collette. Your soul shines so brightly through everything you've been through. You're an inspiration to me, and everyone person following you. We look up to you, and admire the strength your have through your weakness (if you even call it that, because this "weakness" makes us human) You truly, truly are a genuine soul. All the love you have, the passion, you're amazing. Never forget Collette.
Seeing pictures of your mom in your office made my heart happy. I know you were so young when you lost her, and you I imagine you carry her memories close to you. She must have been such a loving mother because she raised such a loving human being in you. Thank you for all that you share with us. Much love to you, Collette.
You are such a strong woman, you've been through a lot and you inspire a lot of people. Never let anyone make you feel less than the goddess you are
Collette you are incredible. I have so much love for you and look up to you in so many ways!❤️
Thank you so much Colette. I really needed this video. I've been living with fear and horrible anxiety for the past 3 years. I'm 15 years old right now. You give me so much hope and inspiration. Thank you for everything.
Thank you for these “self help” videos they help a lot also tip if you ever feel down sing because singing has a lot of power and is just magical try it and you’ll see
"Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering."
-- Yoda
Sleepy Hollow Farm Vlogs and that's why Star Wars is awesome...
I love seeing Collette being goofy 💜
I wish you would find a better person. But I also wish you to be happy, regardless. So, sending you my best. Just know, there are many other paths in life. If you're not happy with the one you're on now, don't be afraid to leave.
I love how she kept a vibrant positive energy throughout the video despite what she's been through❤❤❤
You're such a blessing to this world Collette. I really mean that. You're such a perfect example to me and I've been watching you for years since baby tard was just a baby. You were always my role model and that's what kept me watching the Shaytards not only for the love and joy your family brings, but how strong and beautiful inside and out you are. Cheers to life!
I totally agree with you :)
I genuinely hope you and your children are happy. I hope you aren’t just staying and working through things because you feel like you have to. Do what makes you happy. Not an idea of what makes you happy, not what once made you happy, but what makes you happy now and what will make you happy. You and your children’s health is what’s most important. Don’t force this happiness is a choice, self help book and podcast idea of being happy go-lucky crap, but be sincerely happy.
good comment I agree with you
Camille Cosmo Something tells me you wouldn't want to say this exact same comment to Shay? They both deserve happiness. Regardless, your thoughts on her and the children do not line up with their beliefs. Their priorities are in this order: 1. God 2. Spouse 3. Children. People hated this, when she said it, but I am sure she still believes this.
What is so funny is that I NEVER knew that you were fearful! I’ve always looked at you as a model of a strong, confident, beautiful mama! You are a wonderful person Colette, I am so glad you are doing good things for you, you deserve it!
Oh my Colette thank you so much for taking the time to film your videos and edit them. Im so glad to see your smiling face again!
This was beautiful Colette! Thanks!😘
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Seriously Collette you are my role model. Hope one day my heart is as big as yours.
I haven't commented on a video before, but I've been thinking about it for at least a month. I wanted to say thank you, Colette, for being a genuinely good person and for being yourself. I really admire you. When I was a teen and young adult, I searched for a long time to find a good adult role model (and a good family role model), and then I randomly came across the Shaytards channel years ago and it was exactly what I needed... and I passed it on to others who I thought were looking for the same thing. Watching your family helped me see that stability and happiness are possible in a family. I've loved seeing you post these last two videos on your channel after a hard time. It's real, and I appreciate it. I miss hearing from you, as you were the person I most looked forward to watching on the Shaytards (since I most relate to you). Years later, I now have my own youtube channel about my family, and I'm trying to be the person that my younger self would have wanted to find (like I found the Shaytards). I just wanted to say thank you, and I'm sorry people write crappy comments and I hope this one helps. You really helped me, for years, to have something to aspire to in adulthood. I stand by you and I trust you to make the best decisions for you, as you've taught me to do for me. I don't know you, but I'm grateful that you shared yourself openly on this platform.
Thank you for showing me you. 💖
I'm so happy about the attitude and I never forgot that laugh
you have such a beautiful soul Colette, love you!
Oh my gosh "Ka tilla tay" just brought back so many memories of your videos from back in the day! And you're right. Fear can hold you back from fulfilling your purpose here on earth. And we can let it. :)
loved the ending where you're just being yourself, and laughing at yourself that truly shows us your happiness, keep giving us these amazing videos :)
I know that this is just one comment from an unknown face, but if by some chance you ever see this Colette I want to thank you. Thank you for being real. Thank you for being an example of someone that I strive to emulate. I didn't follow your channel to watch your kids (as much as I have enjoyed watching them grow up), I followed this channel to watch YOU; To listen to the things that you have to say and the wisdom you have to impart. You are such a kind and positive soul - something that this world needs so much more of. You are a beacon of hope to me. I have watched you on some of my darkest days and you've given me the hope, fight, and strength to keep going. And so much more. So thank you from the very bottom of my heart. ❤
love you colette!
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I can tell you have changed Colette. I can see a little of the young Colette that we saw at the beginning of the Shaytards. I don't know you see more relaxes and free? And can I say you have gotten more beautiful?
I was totally thinking the same thing!
As a long time Shaytards fan, I do REALLY want to see more vlogs, but again, I know it's been hard on you guys and what you've had to overcome. I just wish you guys the best, and even if we never get another vlog, just know your fans are like a second family and we've got your back. Much love to you and your family Colette.
my internet mom
thank you so much. I'm a 40 year old guy that learned so much today. thank you for being so real with us. we appreciate your truth.
I've always looked up to you as a huge role model for several years, since babytard was actually a baby and sucking her thumb and sontard was not afraid to bust a move wherever whenever and princesstard was this little sassy adorable girl. Thank you so much for this incredible advice!!
So when your man cheats, suck it up and blame yourself. Yay sisterhood!
Louise Dot careful ,your bitter is bursting at the seams.
LOVE THESE VIDEOS COLETTE 😍💖 you’ve always had some insightful things to say and I LOVE listening to you speak. It’s like having a mother’s voice with you when you need it most. Thank you!!
You have always been my role model since 6 years ago, Colette. And I don't think it has changed ever since. I love how inspiring and amazing you are. Just listening to you talk always gives me motivation whenever I need it. I know alot of others, including me, will always be supporting you and your family. Thank you for being such an amazing role model to thousands of us, Colette. Sending love from Singapore.
That second picture of your mom looks just like Callie!
I thought the same thing :)
Her mom when she was younger look just like Emmi
You are such a strong woman! You have been through such a hard time and you are still making videos. You are amazing! I love you're whole family. I'm praying for peace for you and your family!
Keep being strong. I’m sorry you and your family have had to experience these things lately. I know it has been hard. Please keep growing and realizing how much you are worth.
I’ve been a fan a long time. I think since I was only 13. No matter what the outcome is, I wish nothing but love and happiness for you and your family. Maybe that’s a bit of a grandma thing to write, but I genuinely mean it. There is love and support for you, too. Your fame and love is not solely derived from your husband. That being said, I also wish him the best of luck. I have seen my loved ones experience addiction first hand. It is a nasty beast and I hope he can find solace with himself. The fact that he is trying to change is a start. I hope he can and can continue to be strong.
I love this kind of hairstyle on you, looking good babe! ❤️
itsHannahAJ really? You can land a goddamn plane on that forehead!
Oh my gosh! I wish I could just talk to you for a week! You are amazing! You have truly inspired me!
Love these kind of talks. Glad your not letting fear control you. Hope you continue growing and empowering yourself.
I left UA-cam for a long time,but the first thing I came back is looking for your family channel,and surprised me you stopped.no matter what happened,I'm glad to see you.missing you and your children,stay with us and everything will be ok!
Colette, you just keep glowing and growing. Keep up the good vibes :)
You’re so brave and beautiful! Thank you for coming back on Collette 💖🤗
Hi Colette! I just wanted to say how inspiring you have been for me all of these years that I've been watching your videos. Years ago when you were shooting your Katilette videos in LA, those videos helped me SO much during that time, i even uploaded them on my iPod to listen to when i went on walks. I was going through such a rough time with my family, i even commented on one of your videos expressing some of the hard times i went through and you replied with such love that i truly call you my second mom. I actually just went through those videos now, and seeing how much you changed is incredible, what's more incredible is how much I changed too! I feel more connected to the Colette now, you feel more raw and real to me, all of the self love and meditating, that is something I'm striving for at this moment, I'm definitely a little hippie now. Anyways i just wanted to say i love you, and thank you for coming back, because I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels this way about you! ❤️
This video is amazing. I went through a really bad few months with anxiety and depression and this is the exact kind of thing i have been working on with my counselor. So happy to see this working in your life and i am so grateful you choose to share this journey, experience and your advice on this so that it could help others overcome their fears too. Much, much love❤
I have so much love for you Collette. I don’t want Shaytards back. It won’t be the same. I pray your family continues to heal and that you continue to find inspiration and desire to keep encouraging those that watch your videos. Thank you for coming back. ❤️
Thank you so much, I really needed to hear this. I've been alone with my thoughts too long today and they've been really bringing me down. It's so easy to over think situations and get dragged down into fear. Thanks for helping me see into a new perspective.
I loved this so much Collette! This was so inspirational and so true, and silly and relatable all at the same time. You're wonderful xoxoxo
this video made me feel so much better about myself and everyone around me. bless you! you are truly an angel!
I love Zen Colette. I love these videos and the advice and look forward to them whenever you are able to share!
you are a spitting image of your mom, two beautiful ladies
Good to see you back and so strong! Sure we want to see the kids when they are ready, but mostly, we just want to know you guys are hanging in there. Thanks for sharing what you're learning. Hugs from Kaysville, UT!
This is you Kailette. You are a funny, serious Mom. Being a mom is 2nd to none. Your second most important thing in your life. God being first. I love you and so does God!!!!
I love you Colette!! You're the sweetest and your advice has gotten me through so much over the years, seriously. Please don't let any negative comments bring you down, you've been so impactful and helped so many people with this platform.
Oh Girl I just love you. You are on FIRE with passion and power. Loving it :)🔥🔥🔥✨✨
Collette, you have always been the most pure-hearted person and I'm so happy that no matter what, you have not lost that. Stay strong, gorgeous
They’ve been gone for officially a year but I’m happy we still get to see collette
Omg I've been waiting for another video from any of the channels. So exited for this video!
*"When you get rid of all FEAR & DOUBT, you will be FREE."*
You are so interesting, and funny, and clever, and pretty in this video. I love it.
Ah you're such a wonderful strong woman. The last two videos were so inspiring, it really helps me going through difficult times. Thank you for putting out your journey, experience, feelings, thoughts and especially love 💓
Collette, thank you for sharing your lessons & experiences you've had to endure. I'm also a self-help junkie, and I love these kind of videos
Great message! Love hearing your input on letting yourself be FREE
Thank you for this gentle reminder. We all need this from time to time. Love you!
I LOVE your energy Collette! You are beaming with confidence, wisdom and beauty! Such an amazing and brave role model. Thank you for sharing yourself with us! ❤️💪🏻
I cherish you and your videos, Colette. You are the epitome of an intelligent, altruistic, witty person. You possess many admirable qualities that I wish everyone could have. The world is a much better place with you in it, and I wish it were filled with people just like you! You are simply amazing.
I've watched the shaytards since back in 2008 and i've missed each of you terribly since the videos stopped. This video and the last one you uploaded have helped me more than I thought I could be helped. Thank you for taking the time to make these videos and for trying to help people when I know it must be hard to sort through rude and insensitive comments.
There is a lot of hate in a lot of the comments that I've seen. But Colette just know there are still lots of us who love and support you. Obviously you have been going through a really rough time but you are so strong, you are incredible, and inspirational, and an amazing person no matter what some people think. Just know that I love you and support you in everything you do, and so do a lot of others.❤️
Hate? Or truth telling? You decide :)
It's not so much hate as it is people being upset that she's so blind.
Of COURSE she can make her own decisions.
It's HER life, but it's very disheartening watching a woman you watched for years on YT stay with someone because
1) Her religion. I get she's religious, but there's no way God would ever judge her for divorcing a man who hurt his family with no regard for them.
Look at Shay's sister. She did it. She's completely fine.
2) She thinks she HAS to stay as a "good wife" because that's what this is all really coming down to the more she talks. As a "good wife" she should "forgive" him. As a good wife she should let go of HER dreams. What SHE wanted. EVERYTHING that she ever strived for. She has to give up EVERYTHING & make herself believe that THIS is how she'll be together with Shay again. There's no reason for HER to change herself or her dreams because of Shay's actions.
3) Dependency. She's dependent. That's just a fact. She's not AS strong as you or she believes she it. Shay's the one who brought the family to YT. The one who made the clothing line. The one who brought in the bread ($$$). He's the one that she's been with for 10 yrs + & he is ALL that she knows.
She's doing what everyone else would do in a long-term relationship. Make every single excuse she can in order to stay in that normalcy. (ie. change herself to allow herself to accept HIS HUGE mistakes against her family)
It's just sad dude. It's not hate. More comments are telling her that they're concerned about her staying with Shay than there are "oh you're so dumb".
You have help me understand I am not alone.I also learned more about myself, I have grown up with not a mother and every time you talk about subjects like this I feel like I have a mother that willing to talk to me. Love you💗
I am so glad to see that you are back. I loved this video. I am a single mom and fear is a daily struggle. I fear that I won't have enough time to be with my daughter since i have to work. That I won't give her the right advice and I am just doing things wrong. This video really spoke to me. Thank you so much for this video. I can't wait to see what is next. Praying always.
this video was so positive and powerful, I needed this recently thank you 💓
I needed this so much! I have always been fearful and especially have anxiety about something bad happening to my husband and him not being here anymore. I used to have horrible anxiety about it! It has gotten better, but it's been an issue again recently.
Amanda Cypert gosh I'm the same with my boyfriend. I've been with him now for 9 years and can't even imagine life without him and I get severe anxiety EVERYDAY about him dying or something bad happening. my anxiety gets worse daily cos I feel like everyday there's more chance of something going wrong cos it didn't yesterday (if that makes sense). Also with my mum and brother.
I miss her energy so much
Absolutely love hearing you speak out!! About everything!!
As much as I loved/love the SHAYTARDS vlogs...YOU are a phenomenal person and you are so strong and loving and you have a lot to say and we want to hear it.
We love you Collette!!
Thank you for posting this. You are beautiful Colette! You are a strong woman. What you said in this vid and the last vid helped me so much. I have anxiety and i'm always thinking negative and fear. I have along with anxiety I suffer from PTSD and OCD (ptsd from emotional and verbal abuse). I just started seeing a new therapist and she told me to write or type my thoughts and write about my past. It hurts but I feel such great relief.
I want to hear what you have to say. You are in such a motivational place and I need to hear your positive thinking and incorporate it into my life. Thank you, Colette.
The lessons you have learned are so helpful for others as well. So please keep these up! I thoroughly enjoy your genuine, palpatting positivity!
My eyes and soul have just opened wider than they have ever been. PLEASE keep making these videos.
Hi!! When I was a young teenager I used to watch shayrards every day, and just smile with y'all, and dream of a perfect family. Sadly I didn't get my perfect family back then. But I always watched and dreamed for the future anyway. The crisis between you and Shay brought me back to your channels as an adult because it felt more relatable to me, and I've gotta say, you are so inspiring. I wouldn't mind just listening to your thoughts and advise and feelings every day before work because here I am today feeling pepped up and positive. That kind of energy radiates from you through hardship
Thank you so much, what you said means a lot to me. No ones family is perfect for sure and maybe that’s not bad because maybe if it was we wouldn’t grow and I love who I am today more than ever.
You are a blessing on this earth beautiful! ❤️
I agree with you comment
Gosh, Colette, you really are so wonderful. Everything you've been putting out lately here and on the Mom's View have been so lovely and inspirational. Everything you've been saying has given me thoughts on how to change my negative thoughts and hope that I can come to a better place than I'm in now. You're so right, fear leads to so many hurtful things and I want to join you on this path and change that response. This was awesome, you are awesome, and I love that you've been able to touch on my thoughts and insecurities and issues that I've been dealing with lately in every video you've made or been apart of since you came back. Really looking forward to the next one!
my goodness gracious! I just love watching the bloopers at the end of your video! But most of all I love the fact that you gave positive motivations and encouragements. Thank you! I needed that after a very slow week of negative things going my way and I needed to hear that tonight. Thank you!
Thank you, Colette. I needed these words of encouragement. You just don’t know how badly I needed to hear them today. ❤️
Your GORGEOUS and your energy is AWESOME!!❤❤❤
Joann & The Man I've been saying that since a long time
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Thank you so much Collette! I needed this tonight!!
Thank you, Collette. I've recently had these thoughts and feelings with my crazy life going one. You are absolutely saturated in love, faith, and forgiveness. I am trying to do the same.
Thank you for the words and the positivity that I CAN do this!
Lots of love!
you are such an inspiration to so many. thank you endlessly for putting out this content and sharing the wisdom you have gained through such hard times. I appreciate it so much and admire you for it! You bring me to tears every time I watch because you end up speaking directly to my soul!!!!! LOVE YOU SO MUCH
I love shaytards don’t get me wrong . I miss the vlogs and stuff but I feel like we as fans shouldn’t always be asking them to come back! They will when they want to and if they don’t come back then that’s ok!Too many haters man! It wouldn’t be the same with all the negative comments. It’s kind of like when your favorite show ends. I cried so much when Friends was over but there’s that’s what reruns are for lol ♥️
comments don't mean a thing (ironically in the comments right now). For me, the videos were enough to get a kick out of. but I agree I want them back how they were, and when they feel ready).
They can't come back, it will not work, they are done PERIOD, UA-cam has already changed so much since they left that they are not only not relevant in the least anymore, but people have moved on to new families, new and different content, etc. It's like a popular TV show that went off the air and tries to make some half ass attempt at re igniting a flame that doesn't exist.
They have 5mill subscribers, do it without the comment section, whatever. I bet they would still pull an easy 200k views. With people moving to different families etc, they subscribed for the content that Shaytards supplied and im sure many like myself will stick around.
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It will never be the same when/if they do come back
Honestly I love these type of videos....they help me a lot with depression and when I want to cut or think about suicide......
Honestly, this realtalk is better to me than a vlog. I love your spirit and energy. It feels so genuine and inspirational
You’re a beautiful person, inside and out! Thanks for the dose of positivity.