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  • John Gray: Shares Secrets About Men Every Woman Needs To Know (For Women Dating Over 40, Dating Over 50, Dating Over 60). John Gray shares how a woman can ask for what she wants and needs from a man. John Gray of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus fame helps single women understand men and have intimacy with a man.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 137

  • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
    @MichelleMarchantJohnson  2 роки тому +1

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  • @charlotte5671
    @charlotte5671 3 роки тому +38

    Does anyone else feel like it's always the women doing the work? I feel like it's me learning how to adjust to him not vice versa. It's my girlfriend's and I figuring out trying to understand. And then just doing what they want. Not being aware not being open not watching videos like this. Does anyone else feel this way?

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 роки тому +10

      Hi Charlotte! This channel is for women so the advice caters to women. However, John has lots of advice and books as well giving advice to men. Take care and thanks for watching!

    • @Jawsandabs
      @Jawsandabs Рік тому

      I do

    • @PassportBrosAndBlondeManWeaves
      @PassportBrosAndBlondeManWeaves 9 місяців тому

      Yeah, honestly, the majority of men do not care what women want nor need. This is why red pill and manosphere is so popular…. It’s actually a deeper issue when it comes to understanding men that very few people really touch on. Unfortunately it has everything to do with feminism and masculinity. This is why men call other men symptoms when they see them treating a woman the way she supposed to be treated. They have a real issue with seeing a woman being treated right by a man that loves her. Men often times thinks having feminine ways is bad which is why they call good men simps. Women are always doing the majority of the work and feel like they have to walk on eggshells with men because of their fragile, ego.

  • @beautyroses8771
    @beautyroses8771 3 роки тому +41

    Michelle, you do a great job at conducting interviews. You don't overtalk, interject, and you always stay on topic.

  • @ambermiller3433
    @ambermiller3433 9 місяців тому +2

    You need him and he’s successful at providing what you need.

  • @CoolKidOx
    @CoolKidOx Рік тому +4

    - Tell him 3 things you want to do and let him pick.
    - Any time a man has to take responsibility for you he feels more connected
    - Men want to feel needed
    - Depend on others, with a teacher that can lead you. Yoga, dance, classes

  • @oziomaannieiwuoha4612
    @oziomaannieiwuoha4612 3 роки тому +26

    Oh my, I absolutely love him. John Gray. He's so adorable. I like the part where he says it's in you, you just haven't found it. What a man!!! Blessings

  • @marigoldcarter2879
    @marigoldcarter2879 2 роки тому +8

    Michelle you are a friend to women every where! I’m a single mom. for 30 years I was on my male side. 😪 I provided everything for my kids. I rarely asked for help. Thank God for the men at work who looked out for me! Now because of you and Dr Gray I’m back on my feminine side. It’s like breathing again! God bless Dr. Gray for his caring and superb knowledge. My heart overflows… 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

  • @mariavelasquez5857
    @mariavelasquez5857 3 роки тому +40

    Wow! I’ve learned so much! I was doing everything wrong before, trying to act independent. I always remember, my boyfriend said one time, when we fought, & decided to break up,
    “you never needed me anyway!” That always stuck in my head, now I understand why. We are now trying to slowly work things out, & these videos are helping me! Thank you!

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 роки тому +2

      Thanks so much for watching and for your comments too Maria! I'm glad you found it helpful!

  • @peopleplacesthings6029
    @peopleplacesthings6029 3 роки тому +21

    Have three things in mind jic he ask what do you want to do... say there are lots of things that make me happy... he picks...
    Set him up to win.

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 роки тому

      Thanks for watching!

    • @TheSharronW
      @TheSharronW 3 роки тому

      Yep it's all psychological! I don't know why it's got to be that way if both of you are supposed to be giving more than 50% into the relationship. All I can say sisters.. it works! My mother said my husband was lazy in his hearing. I said he's not lazy but just a slow starter.. once he's made his mind up you can't stop him! Well I could see after a little while he started to do quite a bit of stuff of his own volition. Psychology again! Good luck ladies!! :)

  • @lynnita321
    @lynnita321 3 роки тому +25

    Men's basic need is to feel needed by us. Brilliant. I love how John always breaks it down, and then keeps repeating. Thank you!

  • @hotstitch1
    @hotstitch1 3 роки тому +22

    "Coming back to my feminine side" after years in a testosterone environment REALLY FELT like turning around a BIG ship around John. You are SO right. But being admired by a very male wealthy sportsman really helped to propel me there -right again!

  • @HepburnSmith
    @HepburnSmith 3 роки тому +43

    John Gray is such a blessing a brilliant teacher 💓

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 роки тому +2

      Thanks for watching and for your comment too Tonya! You're right about John! He is amazing!

    • @georgettemcclymonds2048
      @georgettemcclymonds2048 3 роки тому

      This is incredable.
      Thank you, thank you, thank you, for putting this together.
      Michelle & John.

  • @thisgirlkarenn
    @thisgirlkarenn 3 роки тому +11

    "Setting him up to win" YUP ✨🌹

  • @happiness6488
    @happiness6488 2 роки тому +3

    I like so much his work. In the past I told my ex "I need you" and he interpreted that as needingness, he said "you should be independent" 🙄

  • @TheCelestialhealer
    @TheCelestialhealer 3 роки тому +4

    I had no idea that I control… thank you John Gray🌟🌟
    Profound, definitely profound.
    And love the Mother Mary behind John.🙏

  • @mihaela9339
    @mihaela9339 3 роки тому +6

    A man needs to feel that a woman needs him... Woow🤯🤯

  • @annmalone8208
    @annmalone8208 2 роки тому +3

    Ohhh I get the controlling part. I really desire to get true relating with a man. I come from a family of women who are more manly and men aren't good enough. Men are not my enemy and I am not theirs. I would really love to get this. I have two sons and I am learning to be a better role model. I have been using the information I am getting from these videos with my sons and they are responding to me and my home is more harmonious.

  • @blaireh9381
    @blaireh9381 2 роки тому +1

    Been watching many of these, this has the best explanation of the needs of both sides. Feeling responsible for us is something they enjoy, and we do not. This is 100% dead on. I don't have any interest in helping a man with the basic skills they didn't finish developing with their moms. I already have children.

  • @ciggytwiggy
    @ciggytwiggy Рік тому +1

    Wow so interesting. A believe a lot of ladies think the man must NEED me so he will stay. Didnt realise it is the OTHER WAY round. No wonder my partner LOVES doing things for me. He doesnt complain at all. And of course his reward is appreciation and kisses 🥰

  • @ponyhaly6131
    @ponyhaly6131 3 роки тому +11

    It sucks when I still have a tendency to please others. I’m aware of that and I hate it! I want to be pampered and feel cared for. It’s still difficult to deal with my insecurity even though I know everything that John mentions. :(

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 роки тому

      Thanks for watching and for your comments too Pony!

    • @TheSharronW
      @TheSharronW 3 роки тому +3

      That is the thing... ask for his help. Need him. Become pampered emotionally and physically and more than likely the pampering actions will follow. OK all men need to be pleased physically but psychologically placing him in a position where he can be emotionally fulfilled will bring more results. My opinion anyway, for what it's worth (and I was married for 38 years before he passed away) xxx

    • @fatima-zahrakajji4821
      @fatima-zahrakajji4821 3 роки тому +4

      Watch Richard Grannon on UA-cam, he's a lifesaver, his breakdown of how to empower yourself in spite of your childhood trauma will change your world view of yourself. Sheraseven1 will help you learn how to become pampered & Cassandra Mack will help you deal with haters! Good luck beautiful

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 2 роки тому +1

    TY for breaking it down ..I've been asking but he doesn't hear me
    Effective communication should be taught in schools
    No pressure......ask without pressure w/o control
    No criticism
    No controlling behaviour......BIG ONE 💥💣💥
    Can't be disappionted, not allowed to be as a women
    Men resent having to adjust themselves to please you...
    If women need him he won't leave you ? Men need to feel successful in pleasing you....he needs to feel needed 💥
    Not to feel mothered, smothered, contrilled, demanding

  • @elainelove4225
    @elainelove4225 3 місяці тому

    I love Dr Gray his guidance and explanation they are precious gems❤

  • @InnerIntegration
    @InnerIntegration 4 роки тому +11

    Great clip, Michelle!

  • @positiveandhealthy2728
    @positiveandhealthy2728 4 роки тому +5

    Having peace and love, and be truly loved 💕

  • @pjb9617
    @pjb9617 3 роки тому +7

    I have been doing it all wrong. Ugh! I need to have at least 3 things I want to do.

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 роки тому

      Thanks for watching! We hope it was helpful!

    • @dtejada4209
      @dtejada4209 Рік тому

      Me too!!! I could’ve been having a lot more fun instead of waiting for him to “plan”. 😁

  • @unwrittenbylj
    @unwrittenbylj 3 роки тому +6

    This is good stuff, thank you!!

  • @vtbhoward
    @vtbhoward 2 місяці тому

    The responsibility part needs to be tempered with good reasoning. Of course, nobody can be 100% responsible for themselves. Therefore, when a man gets sick, when he loses his job, when he gets injured at work, when he's needing financial contributions from his spouse, or for whatever reason, he will need her to take on responsibility for him at some point, to some degree. Thus, it seems appropriate for men to rewire and recondition themselves to accept that it's okay to need their spouses along the way, and feel it too. However, no one has to allow themselves to become stuck in that space, and become disempowered or helpless.

  • @cynthiacrawford1573
    @cynthiacrawford1573 3 роки тому +1

    I do agree with having things you want to do.And have discovered that if the person hates every idea then this would be trips to take separate.Its ok to do things separate on occasion.As long as it's not most times.Thats why there are a night with the girls and a night with boys.Finding common places to enjoy going is good.

  • @kellyem28
    @kellyem28 3 роки тому +2

    John Gray telling the truth! Yes!

  • @suzannemacdermid5320
    @suzannemacdermid5320 3 роки тому +3

    Michelle,you are so elegant and beautiful,your husband better think your fantastic.John you are very informative in your talks.You and Michelle make an excellent program together.The both of your styles compliment each other’s questions and answers. Thank you to the both of you.

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 роки тому

      Thank you so much Suzanne for your kind words and for watching too! Much appreciated!

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 2 роки тому +1

    Appreciate & Trust he's doing his best
    Positive behaviour ....reward your man with hero cookies
    With Appreciation & Gratitude
    Men need to feel Appreciated 💥
    Balance your estrogen levels with progesterone ...who knew?

  • @alialt-queen3351
    @alialt-queen3351 3 роки тому +5

    Idk what if he’s wrong? I feel good when I know my date is feeling just as good otherwise I don’t have fun if he’s doing stuff that I like but he doesn’t....

    • @stormchylde3999
      @stormchylde3999 3 роки тому +5

      I think he's saying that a lot of us women have been sort of brought up to be people pleasers and motherly and to feel the way you're saying your feel; but to make your man feel good on a fundamental level you need to make him feel needed, and one way to to do that is to allow him to feel like he's giving you what you want and need. So to do that, you must be able to let him know what you want. Have you ever noticed how some men gravitate to demanding women or the women who seem like &itches? I think what he's saying has a lot to do with that....because those women are constantly giving men something to do to make them happy and it makes those men feel good about themselves. Men love to have a goal.

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 2 роки тому +2

    Puttng the feather in his hat builds his testerone, builds his masculine side pumps up your peacock, admire his ploom

  • @gerru3264
    @gerru3264 3 роки тому +4

    Wow, this is amazing information. Thanks

  • @hoiliswu6070
    @hoiliswu6070 3 роки тому +1

    Men and women powerful and truthful massage God bless awesome

  • @kslash_lady
    @kslash_lady 3 роки тому +2

    Yes!! Same team!!!

  • @bettycarmella1127
    @bettycarmella1127 2 роки тому

    This was so helpful! Especially loved the part about momentum!🙏🏽💜💜

  • @Lauratran1203
    @Lauratran1203 Рік тому

    Yes. It true

  • @peterhoatson
    @peterhoatson 3 роки тому +5

    Set him up to succeed.
    You've summed that up completely while addressing a woman's needs and what a man needs, in a relationship. That's just brilliant!
    But no, the woman can do everything these days, they don't need men (unless the garbage needs taking out!)

  • @sharonnjeri2999
    @sharonnjeri2999 3 роки тому +3

    Awesome advice

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 2 роки тому +2

    As a women I sonetines get resentful at having to feed a mans ego, why is that I wonder?

  • @preityb200
    @preityb200 3 роки тому +1

    Man and woman ...... Such a fun game.....

  • @LoveMoneySecretsTV
    @LoveMoneySecretsTV 3 роки тому +3

    This is so powerful and I love what you said Michelle that you set your husband to win, light an assist in hockey or your basket ball analogy so wonderful. I'd rather just tell him, would you please help get the xyzzy done and he can figure out the how.

  • @7ackass
    @7ackass 2 роки тому +3

    I can actually listen to this and I'm a man.

  • @thatgirlsahar
    @thatgirlsahar 2 роки тому +1

    Plot twist : after few years he will say that you always gave me options to choose from but never asked me what I wanted to do.

  • @ChiNguyen-jm1ch
    @ChiNguyen-jm1ch 3 роки тому +2

    I wish I could have watched this video ealier. My ex bf used to beg me for using him. We broke up because he felt useless to me. But it’s ok. It’s not too late

  • @Latoree33
    @Latoree33 3 роки тому

    I've met a guy several yrs ago I told him I didn't want to date at that time. Now I need his direction in a situation or advice. I would like to date him but he may think I only want him to help me.

  • @rahmasamir909
    @rahmasamir909 9 місяців тому

    I diserve a provider 😊

  • @Shasha8674
    @Shasha8674 4 роки тому +8

    Progesterone affects women. Estrogen is one hydrogen atom different than testosterone. Most are estrogen dominant due to meat/dairy/soy/BPA/own fat/The Pill/chemicals/flax/baby formula etc.. This may make guys gender confused. Zn raises testosterone which increases sex drive. Grounding may help heal people and help sex drive. Relationships may not be working due to stress etc. Stress may use up B vitamins/Zn/Progesterone.

  • @debbiewalker8179
    @debbiewalker8179 2 роки тому

    He usually asks what I want to do then decides what he wants to do and then caters to himself. Is there any hope for a situation like that or that just how he is?

  • @lucybraun8969
    @lucybraun8969 3 роки тому +4

    I don't want the fact that I made the suggestion to be interpreted as though I am then expected to pay. How do you prevent that?

    • @jesswolfe4554
      @jesswolfe4554 3 роки тому +3

      Haha find a guy who finds fulfilment and satisfaction when he pays for the woman of his life

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 роки тому +3

      Hi there Lucy! Thanks for watching and for your comment. You could say, you know what I would enjoy would be if you would take me to this movie, concert or another event. Set him up to win and to be your hero. :-) A masculine man enjoys that!

    • @laurensanchez8063
      @laurensanchez8063 2 роки тому +1

      Stop suggesting to pay... why would you do that if you don’t really want to?

    • @lucybraun8969
      @lucybraun8969 2 роки тому

      @@laurensanchez8063 I don't suggest to pay. I am stating why I don't do so.

  • @terrybridges3735
    @terrybridges3735 3 роки тому +1

    My question is? How about if you fall in love to a married man? How do you know if his serious & how you can trust him?

  • @marciahodali921
    @marciahodali921 3 роки тому +1

    Wow, wow, wow!!!!👌👌👋🙏🙏🙏

  • @dlight2669
    @dlight2669 3 роки тому +6

    "There are lots of things that make me happy!!!", Assuming the man is not narrcissts !!!
    good luck if you grew up molded by narcissists bc most of these suggestion I find irrelevant in my saga.

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 роки тому +1

      Hi there and thanks for watching. Yes, narcissists do not function in a healthy way in relationships.

    • @alialt-queen3351
      @alialt-queen3351 3 роки тому

      Michelle Marchant Johnson isn’t this teaching narcissistic tho? He’s telling us not to ask the man what he wants to do...... only what we want..... how is that any different from narcissism?

    • @nadejdakopanova415
      @nadejdakopanova415 3 роки тому +1

      @@alialt-queen3351 that is the beauty of female-male relationships he wants to explain. Deep down women need to be provided for and men need to be needed to provide. Win-win.

  • @vitabuonavita2565
    @vitabuonavita2565 3 роки тому +3

    I told him what i wanted. we are a NEW couple. he said he goes out dancing every Friday night, he has a steady Dance partner some women for Years, I said well, you call me your girlfriend, and you want to marry me so where does that leave me on a FRIDAY NIGHT..?He wasn't changing his ROUTINE. So I walked away. i said GOOD LUCK with your Dances
    he made me feel like i had no right to object to him going out EVERY FRIDAY NIGHT with this woman ? HUH? I didn't feel like he wanted me, like i didn't matter.

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 2 роки тому +2

    Women need to take off their masculine hardhat and put on their tiara ....women need to stay in their Feminine energy if they want a man to step up in his masculine energy
    Give him credit 💥 set him up to win

  • @Shasha8674
    @Shasha8674 4 роки тому +2

    In menopause...progesterone stops. Fat makes estrogen. Testosterone may get higher with age.

  • @ConnieDuval
    @ConnieDuval 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much! Where do I find John Gray's Facebook page?

  • @chrisharris2367
    @chrisharris2367 2 роки тому

    I dont like making more money than a man
    Also why are some women more masculine
    I'm into my leadership take charge role and very achievement focused

  • @amongstthepigeons1020
    @amongstthepigeons1020 3 роки тому +2

    It is important in a dance class for leaders and followers to change roles so that the communication is clear. Not everything is cut and dried

  • @princessmommy8
    @princessmommy8 3 роки тому +3

    Is that the virgin Mary behind john?

  • @idahughey3304
    @idahughey3304 3 роки тому

    Do we as women let a man send money to us . If we are just talking online. Because I have had a man tell me that he wants to send money to help me out financially .but I said no

    • @jocelynbelle2946
      @jocelynbelle2946 3 роки тому

      Yes, why not. It's sweet of him 💖

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 роки тому +2

      As a rule of safety my advice is to not exchange money with people online. Take care Ida and thanks for watching too!

    • @idahughey3304
      @idahughey3304 3 роки тому

      I don’t Exchange money with men I was just wondering what your opinion was I tell them no all the time

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 роки тому +3

      @@idahughey3304 My strong opinion is not to exchange money with people online for safety and security reasons.

  • @nana73carol46
    @nana73carol46 2 роки тому +1

    Seems to me that a lot of men and maybe most are pretty pathetic when it comes to relationships. It sounds like so much effort and gameplay. I was married for 51 years and didn't need to play this game. Where are the real men?