I think much needs to be discussed how many men today weren’t raised with male role models, and that is why they exhibit so many feminine traits. That has, in turn, assisted women with feeling almost forced to embrace their male side.
@@joynkindness That sounds like an interesting book to read and is probably fraught with truth. The women's movement fighting for equality definitely changed our roles with men!! Some in positive ways, and some not so positive. And anyone who scoffs at this needs a history lesson.
That's a really great perspective! It’s the thought and effort that counts, even if it’s not perfect. Acknowledging and appreciating someone's attempts rather than focusing on mistakes helps build a positive, supportive atmosphere in a relationship. It’s about the little things that show care and effort, and they mean so much in the long run.
Would anyone be able to explain what the first three months of dating into relationship should look like? What is the man supposed to do, what is the woman supposed to do? What does a healthy start look like?
I am almost 72 and just dating again. I was married to a malignant narcissist for 46 years. I am very concerned about not trusting. I fear I will do what Dr. Gray says and only look for reasons to end things.
Fear attracts that which is feared. You need to resolve the trust issue before you date. How do you you resolve it... Do things to build your self-confidence then focus on traits that you admire in a masculine man. Embrace those masculine traits and your estrogen side will begin to bloom. When you bloom you will more likely attract someone trustworthy and your love for those attributes will conquer your fear and distrust. IMHO
When I''m feeling stressed anxious or agitated ect.. I tell my husband I'm having a moment but it has nothing to do with him. He sits quietly while I spout off. Afterwards I thank him for giving me time. He feels he's helped be get back to normal and that he helps keep me steady. 😉
"feelings are legitimate but they are nonsense" ...10/10 A+++ 👏👏👏 Edit: I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like an absolutely once in a lifetime love story 💗 how beautiful.
trying to focus on the video and it's so hard. I just can't. too many thoughts and feelings in me. I've fallen in a trap again. a terrible horrible painful awful trap. falling for yet again: another unavailable person. dear God, why do I do this to myself? I'm old now and I've never ever had love. never ever have I been in a real romantic relationship... the pain of this is so horrific: it truly rapes my soul.
Men always have so many excuses for not being supportive, they are incredible. Many women are exhausted with asking for support because however they ask, they are not getting what they need. It depends mostly of the man if he wants to be supportive, not about the woman who does not know how to ask. If he is not supportive he is not. That's it!
I agreed! I’m glad you can give a real perspective as well. Communication is important but sometimes if a man doesn’t want to be supportive there’s not much you can do, and that’s when women have to switch over to their masculinity.
I know right? If you have to ask for support and babysit a guy through it, it takes as much energy as having to deal with the issue without support. Supporting someone you're close to is not rocket science if you're a normal person.
This man's awesome l love his femininity and positivity. Soo knowledgeable and wise on relationships. Sounds like he's showing humanity the way out of dysfunctional dynamics and into unconditional love more. Acceptance, less manipulation. Expressing our emotions in a positive way. Really enjoyed your talk John thanku so much. Wonderfully wise.
Apparently, I'm a strange woman because the only time I tell a man about my problems is if I want help solving them. Otherwise, I stay silent and solve the problems on my own. I'm not in the habit of just whining about problems and wanting men to listen. It is true that men like to feel needed. The happiest women with the most successful relationship are the ones who are dependent on their boyfriend or husband and are not intelligent. Less intelligence= less arguing (you are not smart enough to notice whether your man is making a bad decision). The most dehumanizing thing a woman can do is make a man feel dumb and incapable. You don't need to directly insult a man to make him feel this way either. You can be the sweetest person and give nothing but praise, but if the man perceives the woman to be smarter or more capable, then this is a huge turnoff.
I agreed up to the point of “”the happiest women with the most successful relationships are the ones dependent on their boyfriend or husband AND ARE NOT INTELLIGENT”. Have you ever heard the saying “Dumb like a Fox”?? 😂
Its not being smart or capable that's a turnoff, those are actually turn on for many. Its the lack of humility and trust that comes with thinking you need to supervise a man lest he make a "bad" decision. Who needs that kind of micromanaging in their personal lives or wants it?
So good. We’ve been told to be good girls and to zip it. But the truth is love thrives in contrast when blame and shame has been healed or is being healed. Thanks for this video
I'd like to see the scientific data that supports these estrogen increases/decreases as well as with the testosterone levels due to the actions described. This seems like a stretch.
I used to read a couple of your books like 20-30 yrs ago. What information I retained & used, really was valuable. I love the ideas you have, they are so true & really hard to find. As far as I know, u are a pioneer & expert in this field
I LOVE John Gray. I laughed OUT LOUD when Bonnie said her fear was “she married the wrong man”. I’m so sad she died, what a great and beautiful couple.❤️
Wow...never seen it from this prospective yet the biology aspect of it, makes complete sense. I got to focus on tapping into my femininity and not feel so threatened by masculinity. I've been in masculinity energy while being defensive of opposing masculine energy while completely ignoring feminine energy altogether.
Wow, you are brilliant! Thank you. I am listening to this during my fear trigger week leading up to 9/11 and the loss of the woman who was my best friend during our formative years. I had let my fear of abandonment get the best of me and over reacted to my fiancé’s self absorption with a recent health issue. You likely saved our 11 year relationship or at least minimized the damage.
Lmao 🤣 this statement can’t get anymore real!👏 men now a days are super feminine! And I find myself having to tone down my masculinity waaaaaaayyy low to match theirs. It really is a struggle!
Sure I was ready to hear this today... You are Amazing Dr. Gray, thanks so much for sharing your wisdom with us, your contribution to our happiness is well appreciated, thanks so much
Oh my word, he’s just unreal being able to share gem after gem of incredible relational tools. I can’t believe I haven’t found him earlier but I suppose when the student is ready the teacher appears.😊. A lot of what he says is positive confirmation for me in how I usually relate & I love the biology and science behind it all too! What a wonderful vid this is. 🙏🏽😊💕💕
Oh wow this feeling of fakeness. I've never been able to use this and it's a feeling of using. My demands are high to get things done. Having that one to be on the same wavelength. Thank you I'm more intuned with myself.
Thanks Olivia, so glad you liked it and welcome to our community! Would love to hear some of your favorite ideas or tips from the video here if you'd like to share as well 😊💗
@@MagnetizeYourMan I definitely learned that 1. I must recognize that my feelings can be unrealistic resulted from faulty thinking. 2.when woman pushes down her emotions it can make a man feminine resulting him to be sleepy, grumpy, aggressive etc. 3. I must talk about my emotions without trying to change my man, using proper phrases. And lastly, I have learned to lean towards my feminine side.
BRILLIANT Insights from John Gray - always love listening to your stories and your wisdom and learning. thank you for your sharing, and books, and great info on the best nutrition to support creating the perfect hormonal balance to be successful. xo
I have been coming out of codependency so when you say to depend on a man( my husband of 32 years-it has not been a happy road traveled) so my estrogen rises as a female, it Totally confuses me! As I bring up my unhealthy dependencies, work through them, heal those wounded/empty parts of me and grow, I am a bit vulnerable and stumped by guidance that tells me to depend on a man! I have been depending on him for years and i have experienced disappointment through this dependency! Mostly as a homemaker ( some part time side jobs to supplement our income) with children leaving the home( approaching the empty nest), I have been out of balance in this regard! Help!
Wow I never knew about a man's mood irritated, and pouting is the the feminine sign. You've lighten my mistakes. Thank you so much. Some day I can get to use these Technics.
While I was writing exams, I was so scared and panicked all the time. My husband used to run off and leave me alone with the kids and go play golf. He would hope that when he came back home I would sort out myself out.
Thank you Ms. Antia and Dr. John Gray! I have been watching his videos and found them so helpful. It is true though it's so hard to reframe the mind and do Dr. Gray's pieces of advice, but I'm working on it. Thank you and God bless!
Dr. Gray, do you have any suggestions on how raise estrogen levels if you aren’t dating, or coupled? Especially for peri menopausal women, if even possible.
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Thank you so much for this...❤️ I'm learning a lot about myself and how to save my relationship... I just got your books Venus and Mars in the Bedroom and Beyond Mars and Venus...I'm looking forward to read, watch and learn even more...I'm so thankful that you still share what you found...this really is a life time of wisdom ❤️
What about if a man tells you he "likes strong women " (he refers it to women's emotions)... How do I practice what the speaker suggests and still show I am emotionally a strong person?
I'm afraid my boyfriend is turning into a workaholic. He is busy with clients all the time, like literally all the time: when we are out on a date, going for a drive or just spending time with each other...he is never really present, always on a call. I understand work is important and when I tell him to take a break he says: I'm doing this for us, so that we can have a secure life together. Now I don't know how to argue with that statement, it's really sweet of him to think that way for us but at the same time he is not giving much attention to the relationship.
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I cannot cope with a man's lack of empathy. He believes that a decent human being will endure without expression. The feminine mind is designed to seek out empathy because we are not action oriented but emotion oriented.
Good day to everyone. I have watched many videos of Dr. John Gray and I appalaud the professional information and advice about multiple categories related to men, women, and relationships. I wanted to ask Dr. John Gray and why comments are turned off within his tutorials-videos of educational information on relationships? I don't know what channel to seek to ask directly so I chose the first one I came across to ask this question in the comment section. If anyone knows why and where can I go to leave comments and or questions could you please let me know. I would greatly appreciate it and thankful for you, taking the time to respond back. Thank you for the upload and God Bless.
Well 60 years ago both my grandmothers did 90% of the work, took care of the kids, the money, brought in money, worked 18 hours every single day. Their husbands were simply lazy. When you see this in your family, it gets hard to respect men.
The beginning really where John Gray lays the foundation for how to bring out the best in a man and points out what we need most from a man today (i.e. the missing the vitamin). He points out how to communicate so that our estrogen levels go up and the man listens. He adds the caveat however that if we were to do that, it wouldn't feel natural and so it requires being intentional about rewiring our brains, our thinking. He explains that the reason this is hard is because we are addicted to our male side (! ), and to complaining about the male (think about how this is perpetuated on almost all media platforms today). He explains the biology behind this behavior, that complaining produces high levels of dopamine (who knew?!) hence it's addictiveness and therefore we as women are addicted to negative behavior and complaining (major cringe!).... Unfortunately complaining begets more complaining and we need to get out of this cycle. I know a lot of us women will instinctively argue with John here (I know I did) and probably listen but not internalize what he is saying and go back to business as usual. Since it's an addiction, It will take a lot of willpower to effect change. This is a very important nugget, in my opinion, buried right there in the beginning. It is an addiction. We are addicted to our male side. We need rehab 😃🤦♀️
Totally agree, women gets so comfortable after a while they always try to control and make the man look like puny, and when they realize the man is out they play the victim and still don't get what has happened there.
Yeah but what if the fear is because your husband is calling you horrible names, yelling at you and leaving, after being humble and quiet and trying to talk about it.
@@YogawithAliBeale Things have shifted for the better, thankfully. I believe that people's perceptions are sometimes very engrained in the way they view life and interact. Especially after never experiencing enlightenment or appreciation for the beauty of life itself.
I agree with you. I never understood men who put their wives down at lunch making bad comments about how she cooks.. since he has talked about women complaining and being so demanding. .what about that kind of men?? Also most of the time men are the one who want to convince women to agree with their view point.. why does it happen? Do they have too much testosterone or are they just narcissists?
Wow!! This is amazing!!! I sooo wish I would have heard this years ago. My hubby is the chick and I’m the guy. Now I know I might need to understand the feminine side more! 🤦♀️
Thanks Romi, so glad you liked it and welcome to our community! Would love to hear some of your favorite ideas or tips from the video here if you'd like to share as well 😊💗
If I have to play a mind game with a man then he isn't worth my time. I told my spouse when we were dating be direct with me. We have been married 30 years. MM arr
You know things have gotten bad when you want to watch a video with this title so you can learn how best TO keep men away, lol. I’m feeling quite done at the moment.
I want to say something about Dr. John Gray. Although there may be some truth in what he says, he makes me feel that: A. I'm not at all interested in being a woman. and B. I want nothing to do with men. Basically I would prefer to be a man, rather than to suppress everything about myself and tolerate all kinds of BS. Despite this, I am a normal heterosexual woman and have had successful long-term relationships. So I think there is something seriously skewed about this man's world view somehow. I guess he's not for everyone.
Seems like he has no regard for today's society and links everything back to caveman brain. This video of his is too regressive. If he is expecting so much of women. We are totally forgetting men aren't doing what they should be doing either.
I so want to embrace my feminine energy. It is to very difficult. I tell myself what I need to do but then I am triggered back into self preservation mode and walls go right back up. The act of self preservation keeps the masculine energy dominant. 😔
I'm confused about where you are finding all these women who are so lacking in insight about their own internal worlds. Most of the women I know are adept at this.
What happens when it's the other way around. A woman accepting a man for his imperfections and him trying to change the woman. A man who doesn't like a woman being vulnerable and being expressive about things that are good or bad?
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Hi Nic, and yes that can be tough. To get more clarity with that I'd highly recommend taking our FREE "Magnetize Your Man" Quiz for custom gifts to help you if you haven't already here! 👉 MYMQuiz.com
Should I forgive a guy who shouted at me for 5 hours on saturday night. Apologised on sunday afternoon. Hanged the phone on me after talking rude on thursday I am done but still have to work with him until the end of next january (He is all honeymoon mood)
Forgive him when you're ready, but I would recommend getting away from him asap. Forgiveness isn't about whether or not you allow someone to remain in your life. To me, it is about extending compassion for the struggles of others, and letting go of negative internal feelings. Allowing this man to remain part of your life sends him the message that he can behave that way and keep you in his life, so there is no incentive for him to change his behavior. Protect yourself (1st priority), and give him a chance to improve by not rewarding him with your presence. Someone told me that if you are asking the question, you already know the answer. It is just difficult to accept.
You don’t need other peoples opinions on your life decisions They don’t know you or your circumstances At the end of the day you have to live with the results of what you decide Have faith in yourself and Life All will be well
@@RK-su4hs You're right, but sometimes, especially where abuse is involved, one needs validation of ones feelings because their abuser has made them not trust themselves.
@@shaunasea6072 i respectfully disagree Every living thing on earth (including man)has a direct connection with the Creator of life itself Man calls this conscience or gut feeling We Always know what to do via intuition And what not to do via logic The most difficult part often times is Doing what we know intuitively to do And not doing what we logically know not to do
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I think much needs to be discussed how many men today weren’t raised with male role models, and that is why they exhibit so many feminine traits. That has, in turn, assisted women with feeling almost forced to embrace their male side.
Will chat more on that with John Gray next time. I totally agree with you.
a book was written years ago that addressed how feminism destroyed the real man. MM arr
@@joynkindness That sounds like an interesting book to read and is probably fraught with truth. The women's movement fighting for equality definitely changed our roles with men!! Some in positive ways, and some not so positive. And anyone who scoffs at this needs a history lesson.
Isn’t that the truth. Let’s talk about women having to raise men alone. Yes I have lots of testosterone and I don’t want it anymore. 🥲
Absolutely
Even if you have to rewash the dishes-at least he made the attempt. Don’t embarrass him by telling everyone. You will regret it.
So true. Look at the intention rather than the execution.
Absolutely 🙌
What? He's a grown man. If he can't even wash dishes properly then he's purposely being incompetent so you don't ask him again.
true and ask him again, don't do it yourself.
That's a really great perspective! It’s the thought and effort that counts, even if it’s not perfect. Acknowledging and appreciating someone's attempts rather than focusing on mistakes helps build a positive, supportive atmosphere in a relationship. It’s about the little things that show care and effort, and they mean so much in the long run.
I think chivalry is one of the most attractive characteristics of men ❤️
Your right. It’s still alive
True
Absolutely!! When a man is chivalrous my feminine side kicks into high gear.
YES!!!!😊
Exactly..... Wins me over every time
Would anyone be able to explain what the first three months of dating into relationship should look like? What is the man supposed to do, what is the woman supposed to do? What does a healthy start look like?
I just love John's lightheartedness and having fun while giving his expertise!!! Such a joy watching
This is a real challenge in a woman’s life if the men in her childhood were abusers or narcissists. Lack of trust is a mighty strong emotion.
I am almost 72 and just dating again. I was married to a malignant narcissist for 46 years. I am very concerned about not trusting. I fear I will do what Dr. Gray says and only look for reasons to end things.
Fear attracts that which is feared. You need to resolve the trust issue before you date. How do you you resolve it... Do things to build your self-confidence then focus on traits that you admire in a masculine man. Embrace those masculine traits and your estrogen side will begin to bloom. When you bloom you will more likely attract someone trustworthy and your love for those attributes will conquer your fear and distrust. IMHO
@@leedeavers8365 it sounds so simple. I am giving it my best go ❤️
Absolutely, trust is hard to rebuild after such experiences. Healing takes time and self-compassion.
The idea that men and women often misunderstand each other’s emotional needs resonates with me. It's something I’ve had to learn over time.
When I''m feeling stressed anxious or agitated ect.. I tell my husband I'm having a moment but it has nothing to do with him. He sits quietly while I spout off. Afterwards I thank him for giving me time. He feels he's helped be get back to normal and that he helps keep me steady. 😉
"feelings are legitimate but they are nonsense" ...10/10 A+++ 👏👏👏
Edit: I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like an absolutely once in a lifetime love story 💗 how beautiful.
“Mirror cells” as he describes them sounds like what an empath feels. Not empathy, but an empath who takes on the emotions of others.
No one is perfect. We do the best we know how. We do need each other
trying to focus on the video
and it's so hard.
I just can't. too many thoughts
and feelings in me.
I've fallen in a trap again. a terrible horrible painful awful trap.
falling for yet again: another
unavailable person.
dear God, why do I do this to myself?
I'm old now and I've never ever had love.
never ever have I been in a real romantic relationship...
the pain of this is so horrific:
it truly rapes my soul.
20:47 the most important thing for women to know. Don't try to convince a man to love you
So true 💗
Why would anyone try to convince a man to love u? Why would you want to? When you can be loved by a man.
Think of the law of attraction...complaining attracts complaining.....appreciation attracts appreciation 😁💝😁💝
Men always have so many excuses for not being supportive, they are incredible. Many women are exhausted with asking for support because however they ask, they are not getting what they need. It depends mostly of the man if he wants to be supportive, not about the woman who does not know how to ask. If he is not supportive he is not. That's it!
Yes.many man are in a way i become ok with being vurneblae while others misused a minimum totaly safe vornublity
The day you truly move to your feminine, and really practice what Dr Gray had said, you'll see a difference.
That might be true for you Rodney but unfortunately what Ursula is saying is quite valid.
I agreed! I’m glad you can give a real perspective as well. Communication is important but sometimes if a man doesn’t want to be supportive there’s not much you can do, and that’s when women have to switch over to their masculinity.
I know right? If you have to ask for support and babysit a guy through it, it takes as much energy as having to deal with the issue without support. Supporting someone you're close to is not rocket science if you're a normal person.
I've never felt so clueless about men in my life. 🙆
Thank you so much for the insight.
So happy we could help!
There was a study that shows high estrogen may be a cause of the red dots on our skin. Cherry Angiomas. Hormones are who we are.
Ugh, I always fall over at the amazing knowledge this man delivers.
What an amazing presentation by Dr. Gray! I need to watch this again. Thank you for letting him talk and being a good listener.❤
This man's awesome l love his femininity and positivity. Soo knowledgeable and wise on relationships. Sounds like he's showing humanity the way out of dysfunctional dynamics and into unconditional love more. Acceptance, less manipulation. Expressing our emotions in a positive way. Really enjoyed your talk John thanku so much. Wonderfully wise.
So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Apparently, I'm a strange woman because the only time I tell a man about my problems is if I want help solving them. Otherwise, I stay silent and solve the problems on my own. I'm not in the habit of just whining about problems and wanting men to listen.
It is true that men like to feel needed. The happiest women with the most successful relationship are the ones who are dependent on their boyfriend or husband and are not intelligent. Less intelligence= less arguing (you are not smart enough to notice whether your man is making a bad decision). The most dehumanizing thing a woman can do is make a man feel dumb and incapable. You don't need to directly insult a man to make him feel this way either. You can be the sweetest person and give nothing but praise, but if the man perceives the woman to be smarter or more capable, then this is a huge turnoff.
I’m in the same boat, I do though like to communicate it to my family or close friends.
I agreed up to the point of “”the happiest women with the most successful relationships are the ones dependent on their boyfriend or husband AND ARE NOT INTELLIGENT”. Have you ever heard the saying “Dumb like a Fox”?? 😂
You are not strange, he is apparently stereotyping!
Its not being smart or capable that's a turnoff, those are actually turn on for many. Its the lack of humility and trust that comes with thinking you need to supervise a man lest he make a "bad" decision. Who needs that kind of micromanaging in their personal lives or wants it?
Agreed but there are men that are smarter than you somewhere. Date globally! Don’t marry an idiot :)
So good. We’ve been told to be good girls and to zip it. But the truth is love thrives in contrast when blame and shame has been healed or is being healed. Thanks for this video
So glad you liked the video Carissa and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
John is speaking the Gods honest truth...I'm 50yrs old and finally "get it" thank you thank you🙏
So happy this came to you at the right time.
I'd like to see the scientific data that supports these estrogen increases/decreases as well as with the testosterone levels due to the actions described. This seems like a stretch.
"What we have here is a failure to communicate"
I used to read a couple of your books like 20-30 yrs ago. What information I retained & used, really was valuable. I love the ideas you have, they are so true & really hard to find. As far as I know, u are a pioneer & expert in this field
I LOVE John Gray. I laughed OUT LOUD when Bonnie said her fear was “she married the wrong man”. I’m so sad she died, what a great and beautiful couple.❤️
Wow...never seen it from this prospective yet the biology aspect of it, makes complete sense. I got to focus on tapping into my femininity and not feel so threatened by masculinity. I've been in masculinity energy while being defensive of opposing masculine energy while completely ignoring feminine energy altogether.
Wow, you are brilliant! Thank you. I am listening to this during my fear trigger week leading up to 9/11 and the loss of the woman who was my best friend during our formative years. I had let my fear of abandonment get the best of me and over reacted to my fiancé’s self absorption with a recent health issue. You likely saved our 11 year relationship or at least minimized the damage.
So glad you liked the video and am so glad that it could help! 😊
Wow that explains how he Always knows when something is wrong with me--ALWAYS. I try to hide it and it doesn't work.
Now that men are more feminine, it's now a competition between men and women as to who is more feminine. The battle between the sexes never ends. 😅
Lmao 🤣 this statement can’t get anymore real!👏 men now a days are super feminine! And I find myself having to tone down my masculinity waaaaaaayyy low to match theirs. It really is a struggle!
John looks also feminine 😂. I don't like feminine looking men
John gray one of the smartest man alive!
Sure I was ready to hear this today... You are Amazing Dr. Gray, thanks so much for sharing your wisdom with us, your contribution to our happiness is well appreciated, thanks so much
So glad it was helpful!
Dear Lord what absolute insight. Thank you I'm older here but just learning
So glad you liked the video Pamela and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Oh my word, he’s just unreal being able to share gem after gem of incredible relational tools. I can’t believe I haven’t found him earlier but I suppose when the student is ready the teacher appears.😊. A lot of what he says is positive confirmation for me in how I usually relate & I love the biology and science behind it all too! What a wonderful vid this is. 🙏🏽😊💕💕
So glad you liked the video Jules and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
I just learned so much!! I wish I would have had this information much sooner. Thank you for this wonderful video!
So glad you liked the video Mary and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Oh wow this feeling of fakeness. I've never been able to use this and it's a feeling of using.
My demands are high to get things done.
Having that one to be on the same wavelength.
Thank you I'm more intuned with myself.
Very informative books Thanks for your help U are a kind soul U understand and appreciate women ❤️
Wow wow wow had to keep rewinding 🙏🙏. A definite keep & more listing 🤓
So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Ever notice how there's never any podcasts, etc. of, "This keeps women away." Interesting...
Of course there is. Lots of them. There are countless men coaches out there. Brody coached men for 10 years for instance.
AGREE
Wooow ! Is so important for a relationship, for our own health ! Why is not everywhere this informations??
This is one of the most amazing videos and advices I have ever seen and heard… THANK YOU!
So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
I'm not appreciative enough I don't say thank you enough I don't tell him how much I appreciate his help enough
You both are life savers! Thank you so much Antia and Dr.John ♥️
Thanks Olivia, so glad you liked it and welcome to our community! Would love to hear some of your favorite ideas or tips from the video here if you'd like to share as well 😊💗
@@MagnetizeYourMan I definitely learned that
1. I must recognize that my feelings can be unrealistic resulted from faulty thinking.
2.when woman pushes down her emotions it can make a man feminine resulting him to be sleepy, grumpy, aggressive etc.
3. I must talk about my emotions without trying to change my man, using proper phrases.
And lastly, I have learned to lean towards my feminine side.
BRILLIANT Insights from John Gray - always love listening to your stories and your wisdom and learning. thank you for your sharing, and books, and great info on the best nutrition to support creating the perfect hormonal balance to be successful. xo
Yay! Xoxo
He is absolutely AMAZING
Agreed! 💗
Awesome information, thank-you so much Dr. Gray, blessings!
So glad you liked the video Lynda and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Thank you for your great insight. I have learned a lot from your sessions.
So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
I have been coming out of codependency so when you say to depend on a man( my husband of 32 years-it has not been a happy road traveled) so my estrogen rises as a female, it Totally confuses me! As I bring up my unhealthy dependencies, work through them, heal those wounded/empty parts of me and grow, I am a bit vulnerable and stumped by guidance that tells me to depend on a man! I have been depending on him for years and i have experienced disappointment through this dependency! Mostly as a homemaker ( some part time side jobs to supplement our income) with children leaving the home( approaching the empty nest), I have been out of balance in this regard! Help!
John's words are like pitchers of gold.
Fantastic explanations. Thank you both.
So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Wow I never knew about a man's mood irritated, and pouting is the the feminine sign.
You've lighten my mistakes. Thank you so much. Some day I can get to use these Technics.
So glad you liked the video Dee and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
So much good stuff that I never heard before. Thank you. Oh my, I did not know that Bonnie had passed away. I am so sorry, John. God bless you all.
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John Gray - you're such a legend!!
While I was writing exams, I was so scared and panicked all the time. My husband used to run off and leave me alone with the kids and go play golf. He would hope that when he came back home I would sort out myself out.
not nice of him!
Did you pour out your heart to him and tell him what would really help you?
Thank you Doc. This video has changed my whole entire life. I will give you feedback.
Glad it was helpful!
I’m going to keep trying until I get it right ❤
Thank you Ms. Antia and Dr. John Gray! I have been watching his videos and found them so helpful. It is true though it's so hard to reframe the mind and do Dr. Gray's pieces of advice, but I'm working on it.
Thank you and God bless!
So glad you liked the video Laarni and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
what about when men hide their emotions? women become tired, grumpy irritable, passive...
The man isn't responsible for your feelings
@@angewels well then following the premise of the video...women aren't responsible for the feelings of men.
Men always Hide their emotions. 😉
@@crystalanamericaninsicily so not true
@@Smokillo I'm not criticizing Men. It's how you were raised. Boys don't cry. It's wrong.
Wow thank you so much, I really enjoyed the interview.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Dr. Gray, do you have any suggestions on how raise estrogen levels if you aren’t dating, or coupled? Especially for peri menopausal women, if even possible.
Yes that can be tough. To get more clarity with that I'd highly recommend taking our FREE "Magnetize Your Man" Quiz for custom gifts to help you with that if you haven't already taken that here! 👉 MYMQuiz.com
Fantastic info John always great to hear your ways to bring men & woman together 👍
Thanks Claire, so glad you liked it 😊💗
I am single and really love this conversation!😊😍
Thank you so much for this...❤️ I'm learning a lot about myself and how to save my relationship... I just got your books Venus and Mars in the Bedroom and Beyond Mars and Venus...I'm looking forward to read, watch and learn even more...I'm so thankful that you still share what you found...this really is a life time of wisdom ❤️
I am glad his wisdom. He is the best.
Lovely video....very detailed ....
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What about if a man tells you he "likes strong women " (he refers it to women's emotions)... How do I practice what the speaker suggests and still show I am emotionally a strong person?
I'm afraid my boyfriend is turning into a workaholic. He is busy with clients all the time, like literally all the time: when we are out on a date, going for a drive or just spending time with each other...he is never really present, always on a call. I understand work is important and when I tell him to take a break he says: I'm doing this for us, so that we can have a secure life together. Now I don't know how to argue with that statement, it's really sweet of him to think that way for us but at the same time he is not giving much attention to the relationship.
Yes that can be tough. To get more clarity with that I'd highly recommend taking our FREE "Magnetize Your Man" Quiz for custom gifts to help you with that if you haven't already taken that here! 👉 MYMQuiz.com
I cannot cope with a man's lack of empathy. He believes that a decent human being will endure without expression. The feminine mind is designed to seek out empathy because we are not action oriented but emotion oriented.
Good day to everyone. I have watched many videos of Dr. John Gray and I appalaud the professional information and advice about multiple categories related to men, women, and relationships. I wanted to ask Dr. John Gray and why comments are turned off within his tutorials-videos of educational information on relationships? I don't know what channel to seek to ask directly so I chose the first one I came across to ask this question in the comment section. If anyone knows why and where can I go to leave comments and or questions could you please let me know. I would greatly appreciate it and thankful for you, taking the time to respond back. Thank you for the upload and God Bless.
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Well 60 years ago both my grandmothers did 90% of the work, took care of the kids, the money, brought in money, worked 18 hours every single day. Their husbands were simply lazy.
When you see this in your family, it gets hard to respect men.
They might have been good in bed, though .... :-0)))
So if my boyfriend is a bad texter, and that bothers me how do I get him to change that on his own?
What is your favorite point or top question from the video on the big misunderstandings that keep men away? 🤔
Understanding how to talk with a man about my feeling in a way that's not changing him
The beginning really where John Gray lays the foundation for how to bring out the best in a man and points out what we need most from a man today (i.e. the missing the vitamin). He points out how to communicate so that our estrogen levels go up and the man listens. He adds the caveat however that if we were to do that, it wouldn't feel natural and so it requires being intentional about rewiring our brains, our thinking. He explains that the reason this is hard is because we are addicted to our male side (! ), and to complaining about the male (think about how this is perpetuated on almost all media platforms today). He explains the biology behind this behavior, that complaining produces high levels of dopamine (who knew?!) hence it's addictiveness and therefore we as women are addicted to negative behavior and complaining (major cringe!).... Unfortunately complaining begets more complaining and we need to get out of this cycle. I know a lot of us women will instinctively argue with John here (I know I did) and probably listen but not internalize what he is saying and go back to business as usual. Since it's an addiction, It will take a lot of willpower to effect change. This is a very important nugget, in my opinion, buried right there in the beginning. It is an addiction. We are addicted to our male side. We need rehab 😃🤦♀️
Great interview. Thank you for posting 😊
So glad you liked the video Ilhan and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Totally agree, women gets so comfortable after a while they always try to control and make the man look like puny, and when they realize the man is out they play the victim and still don't get what has happened there.
Yeah but what if the fear is because your husband is calling you horrible names, yelling at you and leaving, after being humble and quiet and trying to talk about it.
This doesn't sound healthy at all. I hope you don't have to live in fear like this all the time. 😥
@@YogawithAliBeale Things have shifted for the better, thankfully. I believe that people's perceptions are sometimes very engrained in the way they view life and interact. Especially after never experiencing enlightenment or appreciation for the beauty of life itself.
@@HDGeoSacred good it sounds like there is a lot of growth there. We all have stuff the go through it likes different for all of us.
wow 😳. Amazing love this ❤️ and you.
Thank you so much!! So glad you loved it!
So, now I realize what I did wrong. Will he still call? I hope so. I miss him. 😞😘
So don't try be with a man that you really like? Accept one that you aren't interested in.. that's pretty disappointing
I agree with you. I never understood men who put their wives down at lunch making bad comments about how she cooks.. since he has talked about women complaining and being so demanding. .what about that kind of men?? Also most of the time men are the one who want to convince women to agree with their view point.. why does it happen? Do they have too much testosterone or are they just narcissists?
I totally agree
So true
Wow!! This is amazing!!! I sooo wish I would have heard this years ago. My hubby is the chick and I’m the guy. Now I know I might need to understand the feminine side more! 🤦♀️
So glad you liked the video Kristie and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Wow !!! This is GOLD!!! Thank you both!!!😍🙏🏻
Thanks Romi, so glad you liked it and welcome to our community! Would love to hear some of your favorite ideas or tips from the video here if you'd like to share as well 😊💗
Fantastic Interview. Thankyou
Your so welcome! Glad you enjoyed it 💗
Thats not picky if I miss food on a plate my teen will say ew and rewash it. Properly washed is clean
If I have to play a mind game with a man then he isn't worth my time. I told my spouse when we were dating be direct with me. We have been married 30 years. MM arr
Great content! Thank you!
Glad it helped!
This information is so good, thank you for sharing all this info♥️
So glad you liked the video Laura and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
In my experience, some men have the awareness to communicate well, and some don't.
You know things have gotten bad when you want to watch a video with this title so you can learn how best TO keep men away, lol. I’m feeling quite done at the moment.
Where is the link for his daughter Lauren’s offering? ❤️
Hi Carissa! Try this link: marsvenus.com/lauren-gray/
My eyes are opened and my thinking
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@@MagnetizeYourMan oh for sure thanks and anytime
Beautiful backdrop 🌹🙏🏼🏴🇬🇧
I want to say something about Dr. John Gray. Although there may be some truth in what he says, he makes me feel that: A. I'm not at all interested in being a woman. and B. I want nothing to do with men. Basically I would prefer to be a man, rather than to suppress everything about myself and tolerate all kinds of BS. Despite this, I am a normal heterosexual woman and have had successful long-term relationships. So I think there is something seriously skewed about this man's world view somehow. I guess he's not for everyone.
Seems like he has no regard for today's society and links everything back to caveman brain. This video of his is too regressive. If he is expecting so much of women. We are totally forgetting men aren't doing what they should be doing either.
I so want to embrace my feminine energy. It is to very difficult. I tell myself what I need to do but then I am triggered back into self preservation mode and walls go right back up. The act of self preservation keeps the masculine energy dominant. 😔
I'm confused about where you are finding all these women who are so lacking in insight about their own internal worlds. Most of the women I know are adept at this.
What happens when it's the other way around. A woman accepting a man for his imperfections and him trying to change the woman. A man who doesn't like a woman being vulnerable and being expressive about things that are good or bad?
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How do single moms who have to take care of everything (masculine) switch to feminine energy to attract a man?
Hi Nic, and yes that can be tough. To get more clarity with that I'd highly recommend taking our FREE "Magnetize Your Man" Quiz for custom gifts to help you if you haven't already here! 👉 MYMQuiz.com
Should I forgive a guy who shouted at me for 5 hours on saturday night. Apologised on sunday afternoon. Hanged the phone on me after talking rude on thursday
I am done but still have to work with him until the end of next january
(He is all honeymoon mood)
Forgive him when you're ready, but I would recommend getting away from him asap. Forgiveness isn't about whether or not you allow someone to remain in your life. To me, it is about extending compassion for the struggles of others, and letting go of negative internal feelings. Allowing this man to remain part of your life sends him the message that he can behave that way and keep you in his life, so there is no incentive for him to change his behavior. Protect yourself (1st priority), and give him a chance to improve by not rewarding him with your presence. Someone told me that if you are asking the question, you already know the answer. It is just difficult to accept.
Ask yourself. Would I take this crap from my Friend?? Stop making excuses for Men. He's a JERK and has no respect for you.
You don’t need other peoples opinions on your life decisions
They don’t know you or your circumstances
At the end of the day you have to live with the results of what you decide
Have faith in yourself and Life
All will be well
@@RK-su4hs You're right, but sometimes, especially where abuse is involved, one needs validation of ones feelings because their abuser has made them not trust themselves.
@@shaunasea6072 i respectfully disagree
Every living thing on earth (including man)has a direct connection with the Creator of life itself
Man calls this conscience or gut feeling
We Always know what to do via intuition
And what not to do via logic
The most difficult part often times is Doing what we know intuitively to do
And not doing what we logically know not to do
Fabulous video awesome so right on
So glad you liked the video Cathy and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Wow, I love him...this is so helpful
So glad you liked the video Karen and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Can a woman write a complaint journal to dump the emotions safely?