How to STOP OBSESSING Over Any Guy in 8 Minutes

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  • @SaveTheMessenger
    @SaveTheMessenger  10 днів тому +20

    Thanks to all of you that have subscribed to my channel.
    It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.

    • @Lotta_222
      @Lotta_222 8 днів тому

      Ismael, can you please make a video on how men realy feel with their girlfriend having guy friends? I would really appreciate it as I am in a relationship where my boyfriend does not feel comfortable with me haning out with friends that are guys. We agreed that I will not meet with a guy friend one-on-one, but he is still uncomfortable with it being in a group (with girls there as well). He is a wonderful guy, everything besides this topic is great. We have a very healthy relationship otherwise, it’s just this only thing

  • @Extraordinary15
    @Extraordinary15 10 днів тому +130

    the real one will never ignore you, and if they ignore they are not real to you...if they left you in the pain for suffering alone....believe me they don't deserve to be in your life....if they have gone, they were never 😴

    • @THECHEESYGRIN04
      @THECHEESYGRIN04 9 днів тому +5

      Yup those who feel for you will never let you be alone

    • @reemsaif3105
      @reemsaif3105 6 днів тому

      True but we are the manifestors that's what he's saying. All in your hands. Love yourself and the mirror will be clearer 🩷😊💫

  • @ShopgirlNY182
    @ShopgirlNY182 10 днів тому +35

    That reminds me of what Matthew Hussey says “attention is not intention”. They could give you all the attention in texting and still not have the intention to take you out on a date.

  • @DS40764
    @DS40764 10 днів тому +11

    This was so helpful. Thank you. Sometimes we are just lonely. I obsess in my mind, never in my actions, but that can be bad too.

  • @foreignlovedreams
    @foreignlovedreams 8 днів тому +16

    I totally agree with everything said. I also think that both men and women should learn to love themselves on the first place, and look for the partner only after that. That’s how healthy relations work, in my opinion.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  7 днів тому +3

      Absolutely. Self-love sets the foundation for a strong, healthy relationship.

  • @paulaz9680
    @paulaz9680 10 днів тому +5

    This is the exact pep talk I needed to hear and I have to save the link to hear it once again in a moment of emotional crisis... probably tomorrow

  • @sherryelmore5546
    @sherryelmore5546 10 днів тому +7

    Thank you Ismail. I think online dating brings out the worst in us, in my opinion. Guys can leave you over one small problem because there are so many others to choose from.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  9 днів тому +3

      I hear you. Online dating can definitely feel frustrating at times, especially with how easily people move on. It takes patience to find someone who truly values connection over convenience.

    • @sherryelmore5546
      @sherryelmore5546 9 днів тому

      @ thank you!

    • @gemmahart3985
      @gemmahart3985 2 дні тому

      I was like that until I got detached from results. I just enjoy the process. Men just come and stick to me. Also be respectful and curious and never flirt seriously and give your true self too soon. In this way, your heart would be protected. You will be surprised how well men will treat you. Even guys who don’t want to continue will write nice a message from which I get a clue that he wants me to be the first to break the connection so that both of us don’t feel bad. I find it quite cute ☺️ I respect them and give them a space. And I respect my own boundaries. Set the rules. Men like games and games always have rules!

  • @lemonchan2013
    @lemonchan2013 10 днів тому +3

    This one was so helpful omg! I love how you always try to bring new points to the table and not just repeat points constantly, so thank you for your efforts

  • @lalalajuice
    @lalalajuice 9 днів тому +12

    I have been so hurt by men but always given them all of me. But after getting so oftdn hurt I dont do that anymore. My now bf is the only guy who is this inlove with me and kind of obsessed with me. He is a lot more inlove than i am with him and he knows it. But its great to feel so loved for once. But I dont do too much for him unless he does more for me.

    • @janjasreckar3963
      @janjasreckar3963 4 дні тому

      Yes, giving 100% of you soul and not getting anything back hurts like hell.

  • @TaunaWestCoast
    @TaunaWestCoast 10 днів тому +2

    Thanks!

  • @gemmahart3985
    @gemmahart3985 2 дні тому +1

    Wow, thank you for the Attention part. Yesterday I learned from someone - Be Intentional not emotional! I am growing each day!
    Feel the right emotions, set right intensions and be attentive !

  • @rebeccajones8628
    @rebeccajones8628 8 днів тому

    You are so right. Treat them mean, keep them keen. I need to keep this in mind.

  • @adele9925
    @adele9925 10 днів тому +8

    Thank you so much for all your advice Ismael. 🙏I finally understand what I was doing, and why, at 69 years of age! 😉
    These days I feel complete on my own, and am focused on my transition to veganism and my fitness. it is such a freeing feeling to be able to separate the desire for a relationship, to the desire for a fulfilling and equal relationship. I didn't know half the things you have taught me, which seems incredible at my age. Yet, you have shown me that for my life to change, I have to change. Such elegant and simple wisdom! 🙏
    Wishing you continued success Ismael. Stay safe and happy. 🙂 And to those who are still struggling to incorporate Ismael's wisdom into their lives, please stay positive and don't give up on yourself. Life is good! 💕

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  9 днів тому +3

      Really appreciate you sharing that. It’s great to hear you’re feeling complete and embracing this new chapter.

    • @adele9925
      @adele9925 9 днів тому

      ​Your advice has been instrumental in my new direction, so thank you again. 💞@SaveTheMessenger

  • @Simily-b4f
    @Simily-b4f День тому

    This is such a life shaving video.
    Now i think i know the reason behind my obsession over him.I will work on to fulfil that need within myself.
    Thank you so much sir
    This is the vary first time i came across your channel, your content are truely helpful. ❤

  • @helenj-b4s
    @helenj-b4s 10 днів тому +31

    ATTENTION IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN INTENTION..
    You’re so damn right

    • @orchidchambers6865
      @orchidchambers6865 10 днів тому +7

      Isn’t this the other way around?

    • @helenj-b4s
      @helenj-b4s 10 днів тому

      @ what you mean?

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  10 днів тому +3

      New insight unlocked ✅

    • @ivonneflores4245
      @ivonneflores4245 4 дні тому

      ​@@orchidchambers6865If I recall well he referred to when a guy gives you attention but he's not acting with the intention of dating you, which in that case you have to think on what his intentions are. Also the guy could give you attention, have the intention but not being investing in a relationship. Whereas what Ismael explains is about oneself, you can have the intention of attracting love but our focus is on putting the attention on the wrong things like overthinking their moves, words and obsessing about the person, so our attention should not be on those things, but on becoming our best selves, in another video Ismael touches on this, I think it's one about "Why men love women who detach", he said something really interesting about "Needing vs becoming" or one that speaks about respecting your own emotional boundaries, time and energy, etc.

    • @ivonneflores4245
      @ivonneflores4245 4 дні тому

      ​@@SaveTheMessengerThank you for this video. I've been working a lot on the points of many of your videos. They have helped me big time. However I bumped again with the guy in question, and I fall again on the same mistakes and anxiety 😢, but I'm recovering way better than before and shifting my focus on important things for me, so I find this video quite helpful for me right now. Just how can I avoid or manage feeling heartbroken and disappointed 😞 and still see him as my friend? Do you have a video related or could you make one about it someday? Thank you for everything ❤😊, you're really comforting and supporting! 🙏🏻💯

  • @nishatchougule4660
    @nishatchougule4660 3 дні тому

    It was really helpful 💯💯
    I saw this at the right time ❤️

  • @agneswroblewski8834
    @agneswroblewski8834 9 днів тому +1

    Thank You Ismael. Funny thing about life. You never stop learning

  • @sisterandborther9812
    @sisterandborther9812 10 днів тому

    i couldn’t ignore how often i saw people talking about the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki in the comments of so many videos. at first, i thought, “how good can it really be?” but after seeing it everywhere, i finally gave in and read it. honestly, it lives up to the hype. it’s all about how to strengthen your aura and naturally attract the right people and opportunities into your life. the changes aren’t huge overnight, but you can feel the difference in how people respond to you-it’s wild.

  • @nirmaladevivelayutham3562
    @nirmaladevivelayutham3562 10 днів тому +2

    thanks so much Ismael! Real eye opener. from Malaysia

  • @radkakozlova5814
    @radkakozlova5814 3 дні тому

    Thank you for your videos. I always remember a lot of them. You comunicate it very well and directly. And that milion dollar example - woke me up...

  • @mariyamfathima5177
    @mariyamfathima5177 3 дні тому

    Love u man...❤for eye-opening every time u speak ! God bless you !

  • @ZionISIBOR
    @ZionISIBOR 8 днів тому +2

    Thanks Ismael😊

  • @TaunaWestCoast
    @TaunaWestCoast 10 днів тому +2

    So valuable! Thank you Ismael! ❤

  • @movingforward101
    @movingforward101 5 днів тому

    you're my favorite dating coach. your tips are practical and very helpful. I learned a lot. You've help me through the process of healing and preparing for my next. Thanks Ismael! more subs to come and views for your channel!

  • @ChristianeDamayo
    @ChristianeDamayo День тому

    That help, thank you so much

  • @agnieszkalewandowska9896
    @agnieszkalewandowska9896 10 днів тому

    Ismail, you have so many valuable videos on your channel, but for me this is one of the most valuable. I can relate to it so much, as I've been obsessed with guys for years. Thank your for sharing all of these thoughts and lessons to other people!

  • @theneerunarang
    @theneerunarang 9 днів тому

    Awesome, crisp and clear!!! Request you to put all the points in the end for a screenshot Ismael ❤

  • @ChristineNonn
    @ChristineNonn 9 днів тому

    Another amazing video. Thank you so much for sharing! Super helpful.

  • @hansrajraj654
    @hansrajraj654 10 днів тому

    i used to struggle with feeling invisible, like people didn’t really notice me, and i didn’t know how to change it. a friend recommended the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, saying it helped them feel more confident and magnetic. i wasn’t sure at first, but after reading it, i started to see what they meant. it’s not about faking confidence-it’s about understanding how to naturally align your energy so people are drawn to you. it’s subtle, but it works in ways you don’t expect.

  • @TotalCountryGirlHere
    @TotalCountryGirlHere 10 днів тому +6

    Every single point, sounds like me. Makes me depressed, as this is one man I would like to have been with the rest of my life. Almost 74, but look and act 20 yrs younger. I'm at the point now with a him, that I'm probably going to end it, because I know it's all about the sex... Makes me want to cry, because I know I blew it with him. Wish I knew then, what I know now!

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  10 днів тому +6

      Letting go of someone you care about always comes with pain, but it also creates space for beautiful, new opportunities to enter your life. Stay strong-you’re making room for something better.

    • @TotalCountryGirlHere
      @TotalCountryGirlHere 10 днів тому

      @SaveTheMessenger there's nothing I can do to fix this? I've tried stayong in my feminine energy. I don't chase him. Just wish I knew what I wrong or what mistake I made. I let me call me...Once a week + . Sometimes every 2 or 3 weeks.

    • @eileenstasczak6606
      @eileenstasczak6606 10 днів тому +1

      @TotalCountryGirlHere Please don't think about how much time you've invested in him and the relationship, or time wasted. That's not productive. We ALL make mistakes. Break up with him immediately. Now you have time to meet the right man and be emotionally available for him. Please, though, make and take the time to fly solo while you heal, and work on yourself. This will give you clarity and peace. I'm praying and rooting for you!❤🙏

  • @theneerunarang
    @theneerunarang 9 днів тому +2

    Attention is more important than Intention!! That means attention = Focus and Energy flows where your Focus is!!

  • @coletteHawk
    @coletteHawk 7 днів тому

    This was really good, very wise. Thank you!

  • @lovinglife58
    @lovinglife58 10 днів тому +6

    You are the BEST Ismael!!! I really needed this. It was like you made this video just for me. This helped me more than you know. Thank you and keep the videos coming!!!

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  7 днів тому

      How so? Are you struggling to let go of someone? Thanks for your lovely comment.

    • @lovinglife58
      @lovinglife58 6 днів тому

      @@SaveTheMessenger No, I have been just obsessing over him proposing. When I let that go, things are now moving forward. I stopped bringing it up because all it did was stress both of us out.

  • @christinebarletta6489
    @christinebarletta6489 8 днів тому

    So very true!! Its hard to accept the truth ❤❤

  • @jackelynpobe
    @jackelynpobe 5 днів тому

    Thank you this was helpful 🤗

  • @monicabaral8929
    @monicabaral8929 10 днів тому

    Yes!!! by offering our feeling we are offering million dollar or priceless value. What an empowering concept. Life changing view. Thank you very much esmail !!!!

  • @deepiikaa47
    @deepiikaa47 10 днів тому

    Amazing video ismael I had the same tendencies in the past &now im relating to it completely

  • @SharonOoko-n8j
    @SharonOoko-n8j 8 днів тому

    This has been worth listening to ❤

  • @marilyndivinagracia7362
    @marilyndivinagracia7362 10 днів тому

    Thank you coach.. God bless you 🙏🙏🙏

  • @Keiju333
    @Keiju333 10 днів тому +1

    Wise words as always! Oh, you're a Virgo! That's why I like you!😂
    Porque nunca he encontrado un chico como Ismael?🤔😅

  • @julieponce3345
    @julieponce3345 8 днів тому

    Wonderful content. Subscribed thank you

  • @CeciledeLuire
    @CeciledeLuire 10 днів тому

    this is an excellent video.
    i can confirm every single point.

  • @amisha8238
    @amisha8238 8 днів тому

    Yes thank you

  • @CaliforniaAndBeyond
    @CaliforniaAndBeyond 9 днів тому

    Great advice. Thank you.

  • @amirarivera6828
    @amirarivera6828 10 днів тому

    Great video, thank you

  • @kareematbello6535
    @kareematbello6535 10 днів тому +1

    I need to hear this,so badly

  • @janjasreckar3963
    @janjasreckar3963 4 дні тому

    Ismael, I have a question.
    First of all, thank you again, for an amazing video!
    I've watched a lot of stuff on You Tube about getting over someone, because for me, time somehow stops on the point where I last met a person. I am very emotional. And no. 2 in your video was REALLY REFRESHING: I didn't find it anywhere else. We crave the feeling INSIDE OF US. Thank you for that.
    Thank you also for sharing your personal story. It helps us to connect the dots even better.
    Now, about the question, regarding the video. You said you don't look to be needed in the romantic relationships anymore. In your opinion, what needs should be met in the relationships? I am looking for some sort of a line, a border but I don't seem to find it. Is it even OK to have needs in a relationship or should a woman just be independent overall..? We discuss a lot about it with my husband and I am really interested what is your opinion on this subject.
    Thank you again for your amazing work. 😊

  • @NimeshdarjiNimeshdarji-xu1bd
    @NimeshdarjiNimeshdarji-xu1bd 10 днів тому

    a friend of mine went through this massive transformation-they seemed more confident, people were naturally drawn to them, and everything just seemed to flow better for them. when i asked what changed, they told me about the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki. i gave it a shot, and it was a game-changer. it’s not some magic trick, but it helps you understand how to strengthen your presence and energy. the best part is that it feels natural, not forced.

  • @carmenmacias6551
    @carmenmacias6551 10 днів тому

    Graciasssss por tus palabras

  • @ShoebPatel377
    @ShoebPatel377 10 днів тому

    i used to think being magnetic or attractive was something you either had or didn’t. then, a friend told me about Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki. they swore it changed how they connected with people, so i decided to try it. it’s more about understanding how your energy affects everything around you and learning how to shift it. it’s not flashy, but the results are real-I’ve felt a shift in how people respond to me, and it’s been a huge confidence boost.

  • @James_charles124
    @James_charles124 6 днів тому

    Thanks

  • @ShaileshKumar-vl8pm
    @ShaileshKumar-vl8pm 10 днів тому

    i kept seeing Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki mentioned in video comments, and it felt like everyone was saying how it completely changed their energy and how people saw them. eventually, curiosity got the better of me, and i decided to check it out. turns out, everyone was right. the book is practical, not over-the-top, and it shows you how to tap into your natural energy in ways that actually work. it’s one of those things where the results sneak up on you, but they’re real.

  • @IamNana2022
    @IamNana2022 10 днів тому

    1million cash! Good insights!!!🎉🎉🎉

  • @nicolebaab
    @nicolebaab 10 днів тому +7

    Why is it always raining in the background 👀

  • @anushkamukherjee6382
    @anushkamukherjee6382 9 днів тому

    Can u please make a video on "what can i gift him" To make him feel special and will make him realise that I really love him alot.

  • @sandrasaunt6441
    @sandrasaunt6441 9 днів тому

    Thought provoking 🤔

  • @paulinaprieto19
    @paulinaprieto19 9 днів тому

    Este vídeo llegó en el momento justo 😅

  • @elitework9675
    @elitework9675 10 днів тому +4

    Ia there any thing called Soulmate? Is that real .. please make a video

  • @XYZ-qu4yq
    @XYZ-qu4yq 10 днів тому +2

    Yes, it makes sense. The thing is women want men because they want to be in a couple, instead of being single.

    • @vivhiggins5656
      @vivhiggins5656 10 днів тому +1

      Know not rearly some off us are own woman in this life you have too depend on ur self,yes men need woman more than we need them,yes love your self be fore eny one else,

  • @tenor9471
    @tenor9471 7 днів тому

    Ismael How do u get such beautoful background?

  • @Ch_Ibv
    @Ch_Ibv 4 дні тому

    Virgo 🔥🔥🔥

  • @heenamanzar9483
    @heenamanzar9483 9 днів тому

    Exactly 🎉

  • @GracefullyMe82
    @GracefullyMe82 10 днів тому

    Interesting

  • @liliankemunto2433
    @liliankemunto2433 10 днів тому

    Am from 3 broken relationship,. tried this , little did i know am on my own,and desperate

  • @almendravaldez6926
    @almendravaldez6926 10 днів тому +1

    Ismael is a virgo ?

  • @cay4029
    @cay4029 11 годин тому

    when is ur next live👺

  • @katrineuche9183
    @katrineuche9183 3 дні тому

    i always liked men but never attached my self to anyone so i will not get hurt...i prefer and like the man that trully likes me and he is chasing me...i always thought that this is the game of love...a man is chasing a woman and he wins over her according to his abilities...i marry one like this and he is still chasing me after having kids 😂😂😂

  • @SpeedSpirit-ej1ii
    @SpeedSpirit-ej1ii 6 днів тому

    How to stop obsessing over them?

  • @alanoudalsaleh
    @alanoudalsaleh 10 днів тому

    إسماعيل

  • @astridhanl4861
    @astridhanl4861 9 днів тому

    Thinking about myself as a million dollar.. A billion dollar.. I cash is smart as hell

  • @lemarginalmagnifique8547
    @lemarginalmagnifique8547 10 днів тому

    👍 Super vidéo ! C'est souvent compliqué l'amour, mais ça vaut toujours le coup, ça peut être beau, il ne faut pas se décourager... 💖🙂 Bah, les filles, en complément, personnellement, si vous voulez trouver un homme sincère qui vous ira comme un gant, je vous conseille le livre "SÉDUIRE L'HOMME DE VOS RÊVES", de Nathan Stone. Le gars est psychologue et tout apparemment. Une copine m'a dit qu'il y a tout ce qu'il faut savoir, clair, pas de discours superflu, le top. Elle dit que ça a changé sa vie et ses relations carrément ! 👌

  • @prarthana2804
    @prarthana2804 9 днів тому

    3:50

  • @elitework9675
    @elitework9675 10 днів тому

    All says ignore these men/women but just think there are crores of ppl and in our life time we see somany men but we don't get attracted to everyone right even if they r quintessential man ,there is also a feeling of heart involved and how can we easily let go.Love is not sex to get from the right person from mans pov,and how can we convince our heart to tell someone we r not interested in is the right person just because he is making us feel that way thats his interest so he is getting what he wants but what about us..

  • @khushboogupta2051
    @khushboogupta2051 10 днів тому

  • @kngsslgirv7004
    @kngsslgirv7004 10 днів тому

    C'mon im a pisces who's obsessing over a virgo😂

    • @puresoul23tv38
      @puresoul23tv38 10 днів тому

      Me😂😂

    • @Carrie6219
      @Carrie6219 8 днів тому

      Me, at work 😅😅😅😅 but after watching this video I'll move to something else

  • @mariamosher13
    @mariamosher13 7 днів тому

    You are a healer Ismael ❤️‍🩹

  • @surjeetsingh-gg8ql
    @surjeetsingh-gg8ql 10 днів тому +2

    1:35 💗🤌🏻 great

  • @سارهحسن-ن6ص
    @سارهحسن-ن6ص 9 днів тому

    ua-cam.com/video/4GkkHOIZEPc/v-deo.htmlfeature=shared
    Is this true 😮 could anyone please explain to me how
    Thanks
    Could you mr Ismael

  • @mousam-nilimbacriminas2539
    @mousam-nilimbacriminas2539 10 днів тому

    i couldn’t ignore how often i saw people talking about the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki in the comments of so many videos. at first, i thought, “how good can it really be?” but after seeing it everywhere, i finally gave in and read it. honestly, it lives up to the hype. it’s all about how to strengthen your aura and naturally attract the right people and opportunities into your life. the changes aren’t huge overnight, but you can feel the difference in how people respond to you-it’s wild.

  • @mokarimsk2128
    @mokarimsk2128 10 днів тому

    i used to struggle with feeling invisible, like people didn’t really notice me, and i didn’t know how to change it. a friend recommended the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, saying it helped them feel more confident and magnetic. i wasn’t sure at first, but after reading it, i started to see what they meant. it’s not about faking confidence-it’s about understanding how to naturally align your energy so people are drawn to you. it’s subtle, but it works in ways you don’t expect.

  • @pravatmondal-nn7yl
    @pravatmondal-nn7yl 10 днів тому

    i used to think being magnetic or attractive was something you either had or didn’t. then, a friend told me about Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki. they swore it changed how they connected with people, so i decided to try it. it’s more about understanding how your energy affects everything around you and learning how to shift it. it’s not flashy, but the results are real-I’ve felt a shift in how people respond to me, and it’s been a huge confidence boost.

  • @RobinSingh-gn1vt
    @RobinSingh-gn1vt 10 днів тому

    i kept seeing Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki mentioned in video comments, and it felt like everyone was saying how it completely changed their energy and how people saw them. eventually, curiosity got the better of me, and i decided to check it out. turns out, everyone was right. the book is practical, not over-the-top, and it shows you how to tap into your natural energy in ways that actually work. it’s one of those things where the results sneak up on you, but they’re real.