Why are adult friendships so hard? ft. Lois You & Michelle Kwhak | ON THE FLOOR EP 3

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  • @LoisYou
    @LoisYou Рік тому +84

    Ahh so honored & thank you again for having us on OTF- was a little nervy but thanks for being the best hosts and making it easy for us to chat & open up ♥

    • @miandryy
      @miandryy Рік тому +2

      U did great 🤍

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому +4

      you and michelle are naturals 🥰

  • @memoriesxt
    @memoriesxt Рік тому +28

    Thank you Esther, June, Lois, and Michelle for this AMAZING talk! GREAT TOPIC! Please have another episode with everyone talking about boyfriends (in for the long haul, arugments, boundaries), and work, money, etc. MORE PLEASE.

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому +4

      ooh that's a good idea! loved lois and michelle on the episode too - need to invite them again 😘

  • @heyheyone
    @heyheyone Рік тому +8

    It felt like I was having a deep conversation with my friends the entire time I was listening. Thank you, everyone, for sharing your experiences and insights. Loved this episode! ❤️

  • @elliellieelliee
    @elliellieelliee Рік тому +15

    Esther is a great host! She is patient and makes everyone feel comfortable.

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому

      aww thank you 🥺🥺🥺

  • @theclaudiachan
    @theclaudiachan Рік тому +10

    Love getting your insights on these topics! Out of curiosity, will you ever resume uploading an audio version on Spotify?

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому

      it will live just on youtube for the time being! will update you all if that changes ♥️

  • @hchung155
    @hchung155 Рік тому +6

    Love the insightful, but cozy and chill energy of your podcast! We need more than one episode per month though 😥

  • @leeroyjenkins867
    @leeroyjenkins867 Рік тому +2

    I honestly thought i was alone in thinking it was so difficult in adult friendships. Thanks for sharing this, super keen for ep 4 with the same group. Subscribed

  • @siennas
    @siennas Рік тому +1

    it looks like making friends comes easily for you. watching your videos gives us a view of your large circle of friends and many many fun times you have together. you could make more videos giving insight on how to make new friends and keep existing ones. This is particularly a problem when you move, or your circle shrinks over time.

  • @coIdside
    @coIdside Рік тому +12

    Wow absolutely love this topic and everyone’s insights! 😍 it’s so hard making friends in your 20s and so many things that were said resonate with me. Can’t wait for more episodes! 🤍🤍

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому

      glad you enjoyed it! ♥️

  • @1e_s
    @1e_s Рік тому +2

    probably my favorite ep by far ~ can't wait for more genuine + relatable topics like this one!!

  • @atiqahismail8913
    @atiqahismail8913 7 місяців тому

    Oh my gosh, i love this session too much that i didnt even realised i finished it in one sitting! Love you guys🤍🫶🏻

  • @ElmoTinker
    @ElmoTinker Рік тому +1

    I can relate to Michelle a lot, especially when she spoke about her approach to friendships. I dont, personally, find it necessary to contact and meet up with friends on a frequent basis either. It's always a good time, regardless.

  • @143handbags4
    @143handbags4 Рік тому +6

    Hi, a lot resonated and made me think of my friendships. I need to try and be more intentional. Thank you for sharing a great topic.

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому +2

      trying to be more intentional in my own friendships too ♥️

  • @hyunjin.park.
    @hyunjin.park. Рік тому +6

    wow i felt sooo seen and understood in this episode!!

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому

      ahh that's the best 😭

  • @chocofun10
    @chocofun10 7 місяців тому

    More podcasts please! Love your guys conversations :)

  • @mjmjmj-ko2mq
    @mjmjmj-ko2mq Рік тому +3

    Such a wise & mature ladies 🥰
    Listening your podcast in this rainy day.. especially about friendship is perfect~🥹 Thank you all :)

  • @ByKristyLin
    @ByKristyLin Рік тому +2

    Haha I do a combo of June and Esther, like I'll mirror people's energy and especially if they hug loosely or tightly, but if someone is more shy than me maybe I'll fill in the gaps and talk more or if they are talking a lot, I'll settle into the listening role sometimes

  • @mariewee2671
    @mariewee2671 Рік тому +1

    Such an insightful episode. I learned a lot from all of you and resonated with many things said in the video, thank you.

  • @withloveames
    @withloveames Рік тому

    thank you for sharing this heart-to-heart talk! so glad your video was recommended to me, the topics really resonated with me personally. Looking forward to more videos like this💞

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому

      thanks for watching💖

  • @frhbbtx
    @frhbbtx Рік тому +2

    In the beginning, hearing you guys talk about how you make friends in a new city. I’ve moved to my current city but it’s so hard for me to make friends. I think it’s because I am afraid of meeting new people. I’ve attended some events but I am so socially awkward and shy that I just close myself off. And I do get peoples Instagram and we talk online but it’s hard to move that in person cuz I’m scared I can’t continue a conversation irl.

  • @andrea_hatfield
    @andrea_hatfield Рік тому +4

    wow i felt so seen! Can’t wait for more episodes! ♥

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому +1

      so glad you enjoyed♥️♥️

  • @nicolehyc
    @nicolehyc Рік тому +1

    This was a great episode. I really enjoyed listening to the part about communication styles and how you all handle difficult relationships! I'm sure a lot of viewers/listeners have picked up a thing or two from this 😁

  • @helena1205
    @helena1205 Рік тому

    love love LOVE on the floor releases

  • @رقيةمحمد-ه1ل
    @رقيةمحمد-ه1ل Рік тому +1

    Love the whole episode 🤍🫂

  • @maggiemeichyi
    @maggiemeichyi Рік тому

    loving all of your podcasts!

  • @dt9538
    @dt9538 Рік тому

    this was so good and insightful!!! we need another

  • @jellee886
    @jellee886 Рік тому

    Please more podcast !! I love these 😊😊

  • @anitacarolina4149
    @anitacarolina4149 Рік тому

    This is insane !! Please share more content like this 👍 about friendship and real raw people thought

  • @kristenkristen82
    @kristenkristen82 4 місяці тому

    can you guys make more about friendship?

  • @yoonmiseo6079
    @yoonmiseo6079 Рік тому

    Hi esther❤️ love your videos. I’m based in LA, was wondering if you had any food recommendations

  • @rcuevas2728
    @rcuevas2728 Рік тому +2

    not you holding the microphone during the sponsorship portion 🤣 too cute! This episode is great, deff confronted and encouraged me. Making friends as an adult is not easy but it sure is rewarding. There is so much success, advice and evolving times to share with others that as a younger person you could never experience.

  • @1125Joanna
    @1125Joanna Рік тому

    Can't wait for Episode 4 already!

  • @kiarashooks444
    @kiarashooks444 Рік тому

    great chat!! thank you for this!!!

  • @haesolhan5520
    @haesolhan5520 Рік тому

    More podcasts please 😭🤍 I loved y'all's dynamic

  • @thekristineway
    @thekristineway Рік тому +4

    I recently had a falling out friendship because it seemed pike my friend chose to be with a toxci, manipulative guy...we all warned her and saw the red flags but she chose to walk away from all of us....we were a friend group, still healing. I do miss her presence at times

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому

      thank you for sharing :/ that must have been so hard..

  • @Matchalemoncake12345
    @Matchalemoncake12345 Рік тому

    Can you and June please do an episode on your relationship?

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому

      i thought people would be tired of just us two! 😆 any specific questions for us?

  • @ratchl
    @ratchl Рік тому

    AH this was really helpful and relevant. Honestly .. adult friendships are so hard 😫 low key I want to just move away from everyone LOL
    Can you do a part 2 sometime??

  • @wendychan6195
    @wendychan6195 Рік тому

    Great insight!

  • @MonetteSola
    @MonetteSola Рік тому +2

    Is your podcast available on Apple podcast?

    • @laurelli5756
      @laurelli5756 Рік тому

      yea, same question here. And how about on Google podcast? I don't see it getting updated either.

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому

      nope, just on youtube for now!

  • @cheeky_monkey_No1
    @cheeky_monkey_No1 Рік тому +1

    how do you find out your values? I am not sure what my values are at all....

  • @alejandromarquez9368
    @alejandromarquez9368 Рік тому +1

    Sweet friends podcast

  • @jjohn1388
    @jjohn1388 Рік тому

    look forward to more floor chats

  • @hihaileebyee
    @hihaileebyee Рік тому +7

    Awww I love everything about friendships topic! But I’m still very curious why you and Michelle were no longer friends😢because when I finished this episode I don’t really think you guys are easily just broke up😮

  • @pg9467
    @pg9467 Рік тому +1

    Is this on Spotify too?

  • @Minim1719
    @Minim1719 Рік тому

    When will we have more otf episodes 😢

  • @gracecanlas
    @gracecanlas Рік тому

    Can’t get enough of this topic lately, especially in adulthood. Thanks for the great epi!

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому +1

      thanks for watching!!♥️

  • @Saraseoyeong
    @Saraseoyeong Рік тому

    Hi Esther! Thank you for this podcast- it seems like the last part was little cut off somehow. Is there any platform that has the entire episode? Thank you!!

  • @gaositwe4464
    @gaositwe4464 Рік тому +2

    I was just thinking about you... Thank you... 🎉❤😂

  • @athenazang1201
    @athenazang1201 Рік тому

    Esther is really on her gears

  • @mcmoy4105
    @mcmoy4105 Рік тому

    are you friends with Michelle Choi or Freesia anymore?

  • @ani9603
    @ani9603 Рік тому +3

    Hi everyone! Thanks for talking about this. Great topic.❤

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому

      thanks for watching! ♥️

  • @tyangzomm
    @tyangzomm 9 місяців тому

    Esther!! You and Michael Choi not frens anymore?

  • @doyouremembereverything
    @doyouremembereverything Рік тому

    i would love to be on this podcast even though i dont do youtube LOL

  • @Chloe-er2uj
    @Chloe-er2uj Рік тому

    예은님 한국어자막 필요해여ㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠ 로이스 말 넘 빠름………😮😢

  • @torandbuch3028
    @torandbuch3028 Рік тому

    And to be honest, the woman on the left with the black clothes is the kind of "friend" you need to avoid. When she talks about "gossip" is a good thing and laugh about it, you know that is the biggest red flag ever. Treat people with RESPECT and don't gossip in general, no matter if the person is a friend or not. Like, do not gossip about a person you do not even know closely. LIKE WTF IS THIS BEHAVIOR??

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому

      hi again! hahah ok i agree with you that people who love to gossip can be a big friendship red flag - but i don’t think that’s what michelle meant! her comment was more in the sense that people gossip and when they do, she thinks it can be helpful in learning about who they are as a friend by what they say. for example, if a friend is saying “i can’t believe they did that” about an action, then that says something about their values. i don’t think she was saying gossip = good or encouraging gossip (ofc in a perfect world we wouldn’t gossip at all) but more so, people will gossip, and when they do, she’s saying it can sometimes be helpful for her when gauging what the other person values in friendships

  • @torandbuch3028
    @torandbuch3028 Рік тому +1

    5:00 : Matching energy is really something that is really fake and you cannot keep ongterm friendships if you always act in a way people around you want to see you. Think about political views: So you are a democrat on mondays, but a Republican on tuesday? Not good

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому

      yeah i agree with you that your values and beliefs shouldn’t change! what we meant by matching energy was just in terms of introvertedness vs extrovertedness 🤓

    • @torandbuch3028
      @torandbuch3028 Рік тому

      @@estherys I know, but I think, that even matching " introvertedness vs extrovertedness" is not something that leads to long tearm friendships. Because introvertedness and extrovertedness are beasic beliefs, basic lifestyles and basic values . :)

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому +1

      hmm i see what you mean! like you think people should stay true to who they really are no matter who they’re with. i think i just get more in my head when i meet new people and try to make them feel comfortable depending on the energy im sensing. not saying one way is better than the other! but once i reach a level a comfort and trust with someone, im def more like you

  • @senjamir_
    @senjamir_ Рік тому +1

  • @felicialalremruati8478
    @felicialalremruati8478 Рік тому

    Otf☺️

  • @gmsk1
    @gmsk1 Рік тому +1

    Love June in your other videos but for this it felt like he was the 4th wheel.

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому

      i think his guy-to-guy friendships look a little different so he played the listening role more in this episode!

    • @shockcafe
      @shockcafe Рік тому +1

      @@estherys i think it'd be interesting to do a reverse take and get a podcast on male relationships as well!

  • @mu7336
    @mu7336 Рік тому +4

    love that the pod is back but plss get some new topics, its getting repetitive imo. no hate just an observation:/

    • @143handbags4
      @143handbags4 Рік тому +10

      Hi. I think she mentioned another time while answering a Q&A that she would touch more on the subject in a podcast. She’s only answering what they ask and they ask this often. Maybe because she seems to have great, genuine friendships; very refreshing to see in such a superficial world. 😊

    • @estherys
      @estherys  Рік тому +1

      thanks for your suggestion! still trying to find the balance between creating content that i want vs what people ask for. but i think since friendships is such a broad topic, it doesn't hurt to do multiple episodes on this! there was so much that we didn't get to because of time 😅