If you are afraid that you will lose him, that already shows that you know that he doesn't want a real relationship with you, so you have nothing to lose.
It might show that you know he does not want a relationship, or it might show you have some issues with being insecure, which in turn will chase him away.
I always say ... if he doesn’t want me to call him out on it, he shouldn’t do it. I don’t care ... I like me, I respect me... and I’ll remind him of this. If he continues to be disrespectful or bsing... bye bye. Don’t let the door hit your a$$ on the way out.
Making it fun is not a good strategy to use if you have been hurt by someones actions. Don't belittle yourself by using humor if you have been treated badly. As Alex said just say what you feel without coming from a place of need and don't worry about the outcome.
Yup. Agreed with everything he said besides the humor part, that bit needs revising. Adding humor is an insult to yourself and a hallpass for further bad behaviour.
The thing with me is that I'm not afraid to confront a man on his bs i actually like it because he thinks I'm dumb but really he is lol I just want to know how to come off without being aggressive yet making my point yet not showing or him thinking he has power over my emotions!!
I become aggressive sticking up for myself, because I am an independent woman that does not want to be controlled and play into being submissive. How do I get respected without losing my independent thinking?
I'm more of a pro at this now. Had to do this recently. It felt so good to have a coolness about myself, feel the emotions, love myself even more, and know that it is their loss.
this happens to me .. i am either too afraid and let bs slide by and dont react to it or pretty aggressive when i am finally fed up .. and they call me crazy for it ... and tables are turned
I like that.." Let go of the outcome." Also..."Don't say it in Defensiveness.. (it'll lead to a defensive reaction) so then ask yourself,"How can I make this fun... so then you can make it sound like you're playing around; at the same time you're calling him out on it. Love this tip. 😙
I knew he was bullshitting me by a couple texts he had sent so I texted him..." Tisk Tisk don't play those games with me lol." And his response..." I like playing games with you you're fun. Hope today goes well." Much appreciated, Alex. Thank you for all your advice❤
Ladies- Iove these videos- this guy is genius. To add to this though- the way to do this is to stay classy- no swearing- strong- and firm in tone without shouting. Give specific examples of what’s wrong and let him know you would never do the same- state that you won’t put up with this behaviour again and lastly explain to him- if he goes-you wish him well anyway. 90 percent you won’t lose him. Unless you specifically push him out- this- works!
I think I am more of a B because I never fear calling them on their bs I'm never afraid in fact I measure the confrontation to see what are they made of...lol
Yes please keep going back to Meditation it is the best way of becoming ' your own source of positive emotions' to quote you and where we can all flow from a better place. Love it when you keep reminding us about Mindfulness. Love it what you teaching us. And these outdoor videos are dope!
Ah. I DID actually tell him off quite sternly and said I’m done. He comes back all sheepishly like is it ok to even talk to her? But he did and I was nice enough. Now he’s trying again. Now I’m wondering if I’m going to have to discuss it again (the subject was why hot and cold-like pick one or the other-I suspect he’s scared or reluctant cuz of the circumstance we are in with work and positions etc but the attraction and so on is undeniable). So I said if you’re gonna flirt and carry on with me, then you need to take it somewhere besides going round in circles. So how tf do I know when I’m rounding the curve and the circle starts again? I think I’m just gonna have to flat out say look-wtf are you so afraid of? Like damn, just try the fkn shirt on already and see if it fits you or not already. 🙄 Srsly not sure what’s got his goat exactly cuz he’s otherwise a great guy and friend to me. But yeah. I got a problem with this for real. Didn’t sign up to waste my time or go around in circles with someone for so long (a couple of months of this kind of thing approx-tho we’ve been friends quite a bit longer). Just throwing it out there. Maybe it will help me to just write it out on here. I don’t NEED him. I just really freakin want him tho. Lol.
Omg... this video NEEDS to be BLASTED across EVERY news station lol... seriously!!! Urgent news!!!!!!!! Thank u soo much for ur videos.. ur one of a kind. Thank u 4 being DIFFERENT!!!!!! ☮☯️🦋
I asked him for money and we are in a long distance relationship and he pretended that he tried to look for the money and he just slipped away with it. I didn't even need it to buy expensive things or anything unnecessary i was hungry... But that showed me he's promises are bs
Hell no. Ignore him. Any man that gives you mixed signals in the first three weeks. Ignore him. Don't reply or answer his calls. After two weeks then you will see his true colours.
Please make a part 2 video on this. I’ve been searching for help on this topic and you are the only one with a video on this. Maybe give examples of dos and don’ts . Or when it’s okay to call him out etc.
Alex...I concur!!!👍 Ladies you should practice yoga and Pilates regularly then meditate and become your own source of optimistic kindness and energy....my new years resolution was IDGAF! Speak your mind without being rude or defensive...then just chill and listen...my man loves me because I always smell good...I'm very nice...but I really don't care 🤗.
U always hit everything on the nail! Wish I can literally carry you in my back pocket so I can remember how to apply these realtime. Speaking of meditation, can you plsss make another meditation talk through??? 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 thanks Alex as always...🐢🐢🐢
Perfect video thanks!! REQUEST:how does a woman admire the manly qualities in a man without becoming less of a challenge? (Men want to feel admired for their manly qualities right? But admiring him might lead him to think this woman is chasing him. So how does she do that?)
Nah real talk I'm a no sense kind of person if I have to confront a grown man i 'll just skate on him I don't play around I don't care call it a defense mechanism so be it
it kills me every time he does his "girl voice", like i honestly don't know if that his best impression of a womans voice, or if he's making fun of women and making us all sound like a knock of elmo
"Call the cops on them." 😂 P.S. I love your content. 😁 For real, you gave me so many new perspectives. I love people with whom you can have interesting conversations with. 🙂 And it's so few of them nowadays. 🙄😏 So thank you. 🙂
I asked a guy if he wanted to meet up with me (twice) , he said "yes" but then when it came to setting a time and place, he was just away...he read my messages and didn't say anything. Sick and tired of that bs with something so simple, I called him out and he said I was bipolar and narcissistic lol I know I'm not but it spoke volumes about himself so byeeee!
Good advice. I tried this tactic even before watching your video and I don’t think it works for me. He ignored me and I asked him if he was mad and he said no he didn’t care. I think he only wanted me for sex so I just let him go 🤷🏾♀️
You should turn around so we can see the lake!!! And the turtles!!! And the geese LOL 😂😂😂 the view is better looking at the lake then the trees and fence lol I love your videos!!! I'm thinking of making a channel for men!!
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But in this case if Rose would have waited she'd never gotten that d plus she could have died without Jack's help on the boat. In all tragedy, it turned out best for her
I get where you're coming from, yeah it's true. I was involved in a satiation with a guy I very much liked. But the thing is, there were times where I would call him out on his BS. I try to say it in a respectful manner kinda thing. The thing is, he was willing to change but what I ended up doing was backtrack so many times. I was not ready. And I knew if I let him in I would have ended up becoming needy. I was honest with him. But it fucked me over. Cos you know when emotions are involved it may make it difficult. Even though I needed to let go, which he was aware of I wouldn't accept it so it made it worse. Looking back at it now it's funny. At the time... hell no lool. Because I think going into a relationship with expectations is your no.1 sign of letting go and moving on. I don't think it's healthy for both the man and the woman. From my experience I rather let someone go if I cant give them that attraction in a relationship. Because in my opinion it's selfish. I realised I was being extremely selfish at one point, which is disrespectful and unfair. I think it's important for both partners to accept that sometimes going seperate ways is the best decision. Just to avoid this kind of needy behaviour. Easier said than done but makes a difference. Even if one person is ready within a relationship, if the other one isn't ready I think it's important to respect that. We shouldn't wait for anyone to be ready because emotions and feelings may be temporary. I don't think all relationships need to end on bad terms. It doesn't always have to be that someone cheated on someone. There's other ways of showing love.
yeah can u please give us some examples of what to actually say in these situations? I liked ur example but i think that only works for guys talking to girls, i don't think a girl should be putting any "lols" in a text to a guy who just stood her up or flaked on her. i think it needs to be more serious, but still detached from the outcome, otherwise he'll think that you think his shitty behaviour is funny/ok. and its fucking not. lol.
If you are afraid that you will lose him, that already shows that you know that he doesn't want a real relationship with you, so you have nothing to lose.
It might show that you know he does not want a relationship, or it might show you have some issues with being insecure, which in turn will chase him away.
Exactly
I did call out a man on his bs. And lost him. We haven't talked. Maybe it is a good thing
It was.
Yes
No worries Hunny you didn’t lose anything ! He lost out not you!
Same and it was
It is
He basically chased me to use me and ignore me after. Then gets mad at me for him using me. Messed up gaslighter what.
Not necessarily a gaslighter. Maybe only emotionally immature.
Say what you feel all the time, because holding on to it only hurts you.
I always say ... if he doesn’t want me to call him out on it, he shouldn’t do it. I don’t care ... I like me, I respect me... and I’ll remind him of this. If he continues to be disrespectful or bsing... bye bye. Don’t let the door hit your a$$ on the way out.
Making it fun is not a good strategy to use if you have been hurt by someones actions. Don't belittle yourself by using humor if you have been treated badly. As Alex said just say what you feel without coming from a place of need and don't worry about the outcome.
BEST answer so far!!
Yup. Agreed with everything he said besides the humor part, that bit needs revising. Adding humor is an insult to yourself and a hallpass for further bad behaviour.
The thing with me is that I'm not afraid to confront a man on his bs i actually like it because he thinks I'm dumb but really he is lol I just want to know how to come off without being aggressive yet making my point yet not showing or him thinking he has power over my emotions!!
I become aggressive sticking up for myself, because I am an independent woman that does not want to be controlled and play into being submissive. How do I get respected without losing my independent thinking?
Girl I lose my shit within 3 seconds. Once I feel my intelligence is being insulted, I go in.
Same
What's your zodiac?
Same I'm very independent too I don't wanna come off like he has power over my emotions that's why I always ignore but idk what is right or wrong
Conversation works every time and clears the air.. It's tough when there is no conversation..
Jelena Vojvodic amen
For me....not giving a damn either way works....when u have love for self....you won't care.
Well I called him out on his BS and lost him so hes not the 1 for me.
I'm more of a pro at this now. Had to do this recently. It felt so good to have a coolness about myself, feel the emotions, love myself even more, and know that it is their loss.
You have to get to the place of "what I have to say is just as important yours".
Men respect you more for calling them out on their BS. Otherwise you are a mug or a doormat 🤷🏽♀️
Yes! Period!
this happens to me .. i am either too afraid and let bs slide by and dont react to it or pretty aggressive when i am finally fed up .. and they call me crazy for it ... and tables are turned
I like that.." Let go of the outcome." Also..."Don't say it in Defensiveness.. (it'll lead to a defensive reaction) so then ask yourself,"How can I make this fun... so then you can make it sound like you're playing around; at the same time you're calling him out on it. Love this tip. 😙
You are the reason why I love UA-cam! Why I prefer it to TV anyday. Thank you for every word you utter! Even the goose hatred. Lol
wow i needed this. i think im dealing with a player and i need to confront him because it's driving me insane
I love nature too so soothing ....
I agree. That restaurant place is way to distracting. 🙄
I tune in to your videos like the morning news! 😂😂🙌🏾
You are so hilarious! I crack up every time I watch your videos.
You crack me the hell up talking about them birds lmaooo mad adhd I love it
Lol I gotta meet you when I go to NYC. Not only are you wise, but also HILARIOUS! Lol
I knew he was bullshitting me by a couple texts he had sent so I texted him..." Tisk Tisk don't play those games with me lol." And his response..." I like playing games with you you're fun. Hope today goes well."
Much appreciated, Alex. Thank you for all your advice❤
Ladies- Iove these videos- this guy is genius. To add to this though- the way to do this is to stay classy- no swearing- strong- and firm in tone without shouting. Give specific examples of what’s wrong and let him know you would never do the same- state that you won’t put up with this behaviour again and lastly explain to him- if he goes-you wish him well anyway. 90 percent you won’t lose him. Unless you specifically push him out- this- works!
I think I am more of a B because I never fear calling them on their bs I'm never afraid in fact I measure the confrontation to see what are they made of...lol
It is not only for man...it is for every relationship.
"Its a DUCK....not, its a...TURTLE!"
Yes please keep going back to Meditation it is the best way of becoming ' your own source of positive emotions' to quote you and where we can all flow from a better place. Love it when you keep reminding us about Mindfulness. Love it what you teaching us. And these outdoor videos are dope!
Linda Gallacher Yes! All that. 😬
The way you try to make your voice sound girly😂
Did you realize that everything you do in life and playing it would come back to you when you really fall in love and no boundaries would work?
Ah. I DID actually tell him off quite sternly and said I’m done. He comes back all sheepishly like is it ok to even talk to her? But he did and I was nice enough. Now he’s trying again. Now I’m wondering if I’m going to have to discuss it again (the subject was why hot and cold-like pick one or the other-I suspect he’s scared or reluctant cuz of the circumstance we are in with work and positions etc but the attraction and so on is undeniable). So I said if you’re gonna flirt and carry on with me, then you need to take it somewhere besides going round in circles. So how tf do I know when I’m rounding the curve and the circle starts again? I think I’m just gonna have to flat out say look-wtf are you so afraid of? Like damn, just try the fkn shirt on already and see if it fits you or not already. 🙄 Srsly not sure what’s got his goat exactly cuz he’s otherwise a great guy and friend to me. But yeah. I got a problem with this for real. Didn’t sign up to waste my time or go around in circles with someone for so long (a couple of months of this kind of thing approx-tho we’ve been friends quite a bit longer). Just throwing it out there. Maybe it will help me to just write it out on here. I don’t NEED him. I just really freakin want him tho. Lol.
So what happened? 👀
I love your impersonation of a woman's voice. Hilarious
Tip: always approach ppl with respect and kindness. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. Flow with grace and trust the process.
Omg... this video NEEDS to be BLASTED across EVERY news station lol... seriously!!! Urgent news!!!!!!!! Thank u soo much for ur videos.. ur one of a kind. Thank u 4 being DIFFERENT!!!!!! ☮☯️🦋
I love the outdoor chats.
I asked him for money and we are in a long distance relationship and he pretended that he tried to look for the money and he just slipped away with it. I didn't even need it to buy expensive things or anything unnecessary i was hungry... But that showed me he's promises are bs
Pay attention to actions not words or promises
You are the best love coach of the world wide web dude
Should I just straight up tell a guy that showing low interest (ie. mixed messages, being late, etc.) makes me lose interest in him?
Hell no. Ignore him. Any man that gives you mixed signals in the first three weeks. Ignore him. Don't reply or answer his calls. After two weeks then you will see his true colours.
Marsha Baker here--you're so cute hehehe. Wished I was young again. Great advice though!! Thanks!!!
I must say I’m falling for you with each video I watch ☺️🥰 can we get together and not play any games?
No cop calling here in The Bahamas... we get a good beating. Love your videos btw 😄
Please make a part 2 video on this. I’ve been searching for help on this topic and you are the only one with a video on this. Maybe give examples of dos and don’ts . Or when it’s okay to call him out etc.
“I hate gooses” 😂
2:23 made me bust up LOL ahhhh i love you man you made my day with that!
"All turtles are single mothers"
Alex...I concur!!!👍
Ladies you should practice yoga and Pilates regularly then meditate and become your own source of optimistic kindness and energy....my new years resolution was IDGAF! Speak your mind without being rude or defensive...then just chill and listen...my man loves me because I always smell good...I'm very nice...but I really don't care 🤗.
Is that a mic or a pistachio ice cream? 🤣🤣
Prospect Park? You're from Brooklyn? I might bump into you Alex?
U always hit everything on the nail! Wish I can literally carry you in my back pocket so I can remember how to apply these realtime. Speaking of meditation, can you plsss make another meditation talk through??? 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 thanks Alex as always...🐢🐢🐢
sure i think i will
I need to first cut down on my shopping habits before I can save up to put you in my pocket! :P
Perfect video thanks!! REQUEST:how does a woman admire the manly qualities in a man without becoming less of a challenge?
(Men want to feel admired for their manly qualities right? But admiring him might lead him to think this woman is chasing him. So how does she do that?)
This is the best of your videos! A M A Z I N G
Great info as always! I also love the change of scenery in your videos (the turtles, lol)
hahahaha I love the random comment about you hating gooses tho
Nah real talk I'm a no sense kind of person if I have to confront a grown man i 'll just skate on him I don't play around I don't care call it a defense mechanism so be it
great insights
You triggered my vertigo at the end 😠 😄
This was really useful advice. Thanks
Trying to absorb all this info. Facts. Thank you. 😊💯
I wish one day to have a boyfriend like you! Your perfect man!!
What type of camera are you using? It's really making you look like a star. You are killing it!
that place is so beautiful🖤 also alex is so random haha it balances his knowledge
The away you add quotient of spirituality and those observatory skill about the surroundings makes your videos learn while having fun...
Thanks Alex, always enjoying ur videos !! Very Helpful
That’s so nice. I’ve never seen a family of turtles before.
it kills me every time he does his "girl voice", like i honestly don't know if that his best impression of a womans voice, or if he's making fun of women and making us all sound like a knock of elmo
You're too sensitive, his a guy, how do you want him to sound in a woman's voice?
Great video👌🏻🙏
Wow this helped me so much! ❤️ Thanks Alex!
How Will I meditate when I AM a Christian?
Alex’s Girlie voice cracks me up!! 😂 sounds like Elmos GF 🤣
2:22 lol
The guy walking behind him like 🚶🏼🚶🏼🚶🏼
Beautiful area, why do you use the crag girly voice..so funny 😄😄
geese xD * lookin good- likin the shirt. liked the vid (:
this is exellent !!
No he did not curse at the bird for looking at him.... lol
Love you Alex ❤️
"The little ducking" 😂
Is the riding stable still there? I'm living abroad
The bird is giving you a look? 😂 😂 😂 Oh alex?!!!
You’re the best !
this helpd me with one of my questions about my co worker
U r a very good adviser thanku 🙂
LMAO! Alex you are so funny!
"Call the cops on them." 😂
P.S. I love your content. 😁 For real, you gave me so many new perspectives. I love people with whom you can have interesting conversations with. 🙂 And it's so few of them nowadays. 🙄😏 So thank you. 🙂
Great advice
i learned something today. Thanks
The trees and nature behind you is truly magic. Too bad all those humans moving around! 😉😋
Alex i think I'm just gonna have a relationship with mindful attraction lol
I asked a guy if he wanted to meet up with me (twice) , he said "yes" but then when it came to setting a time and place, he was just away...he read my messages and didn't say anything. Sick and tired of that bs with something so simple, I called him out and he said I was bipolar and narcissistic lol I know I'm not but it spoke volumes about himself so byeeee!
Hw can u ask a guy out twice? U lost ur power then and there. What are u doing girl?🤣
@@ms.dentist don't we all make mistakes? That was a long time ago. Have a nice day
@@MissHoneypuff we do..and we all have been there..nice day to u too :)
learning and laughing !
Good advice. I tried this tactic even before watching your video and I don’t think it works for me. He ignored me and I asked him if he was mad and he said no he didn’t care. I think he only wanted me for sex so I just let him go 🤷🏾♀️
So it did work!
Insightful
couldn't think of the word turtle? must be a hell of a lot going through that head.
You should turn around so we can see the lake!!! And the turtles!!! And the geese LOL 😂😂😂 the view is better looking at the lake then the trees and fence lol I love your videos!!! I'm thinking of making a channel for men!!
Gooses?? 😂😂😂
Lmbo 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 at you bucking at the ducks!!
Alex they're not boring creatures get one to bite your hand and then they become interesting creatures! Do it...lmao
🤣🤣😂....What he said to those birds! 😃
Open your heart Rose = Open your legs Rose
Dear Naive Women,
Please remember that !!!!
Thank You🙂
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But in this case if Rose would have waited she'd never gotten that d plus she could have died without Jack's help on the boat. In all tragedy, it turned out best for her
Or wallet
I get where you're coming from, yeah it's true.
I was involved in a satiation with a guy I very much liked. But the thing is, there were times where I would call him out on his BS. I try to say it in a respectful manner kinda thing. The thing is, he was willing to change but what I ended up doing was backtrack so many times. I was not ready. And I knew if I let him in I would have ended up becoming needy. I was honest with him. But it fucked me over. Cos you know when emotions are involved it may make it difficult. Even though I needed to let go, which he was aware of I wouldn't accept it so it made it worse. Looking back at it now it's funny. At the time... hell no lool. Because I think going into a relationship with expectations is your no.1 sign of letting go and moving on. I don't think it's healthy for both the man and the woman. From my experience I rather let someone go if I cant give them that attraction in a relationship. Because in my opinion it's selfish. I realised I was being extremely selfish at one point, which is disrespectful and unfair. I think it's important for both partners to accept that sometimes going seperate ways is the best decision. Just to avoid this kind of needy behaviour. Easier said than done but makes a difference. Even if one person is ready within a relationship, if the other one isn't ready I think it's important to respect that. We shouldn't wait for anyone to be ready because emotions and feelings may be temporary. I don't think all relationships need to end on bad terms. It doesn't always have to be that someone cheated on someone. There's other ways of showing love.
yeah can u please give us some examples of what to actually say in these situations? I liked ur example but i think that only works for guys talking to girls, i don't think a girl should be putting any "lols" in a text to a guy who just stood her up or flaked on her. i think it needs to be more serious, but still detached from the outcome, otherwise he'll think that you think his shitty behaviour is funny/ok. and its fucking not. lol.