Sex at 79
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- Опубліковано 5 лип 2016
- In the next few days my grandmother will be turning 80. Before she does though I managed to get an interview with her about sexuality. She speaks about sex education as a child, dating as a college student, the decision to be a wife, birth control and then unexpected parenthood that gave her the opportunity to have sex talks with her own children. Hopefully this conversation encourages you to have conversations of your own with grandparents and elders. They’re important voices in learning about sex!
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My grandma gasps at the _word_ sex. I can't even imagine trying to have this kind of conversation with her. She'd crack out the bible in .4 seconds.
Song of Solomon?
I know! Mine would beat me WITH the bible.
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Same
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this was so sweet!! the media never portrays older people as sexual beings but it's interesting to know that sex doesn't necessarily stop with age!!
One of the many reasons I love "The Golden Girls"
The film "Marigold Hotel" is all about old people going to India and there is a whole thing around sexuality.
According to my wife it does and she’s 25 yrs younger, think it’s time to trade her in for an older model ?
@@audimanuk. Life without intimacy is sad. Talk with her and decide.
@@Mermete8 I’ve been talking for the last 10 years, she’s convinced that it’s perfectly normal for some women to lose their libido, she’s also constantly dismissed any suggestion of HRT or natural oestrogen products/therapies. Thanks for your interest !
I'm 68 and I hope I can meet a woman like this before my story is up! Kudos to her grandma!
DITTO! (i'm 69)
This is just one of my favorite videos of all time so far... and that's really saying something because I've watched almost all of yours. As someone around your age (32), there's just something raw and amazing about crossing generational boundaries on topics like these that were treated SO completely differently just 50, 60, 70+ years ago.
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Oh my goodness, your grandma is fabulous
This is my favorite of your videos. I think you asked the questions very tactfully so that you didn't make her feel uncomfortable, and her answers were so sweet!
Hello dear.... how are you doing today.??
Aww she seems so sweet!!! It's really fantastic that you can have conversations like this with your grandmother. I think with my paternal grandma if I asked she'd answer my questions, but I think it would make her uncomfortable, and I wouldn't want to do that to her. Older generations have had such a hefty taboo placed on sex - especially about speaking openly about it.
I wrote a paper recently for my US history courses about the AIDS epidemic, and decided to interview a few people that I knew that had a big hand in LGBTQ+ history and their connections to the crisis. With this, especially with the few men I got to interview, came quite a bit of talk of sexuality and how their sex lives were impacted by the epidemic. It was very strange to have someone over 60 being so open about that at first, because I realized that I do absolutely have a stigma ingrained in me when it comes to the elderly and sex. It was hugely informative, and a really wonderful experience. I don't know if I have much of a point here, but this video reminded me a lot of the work I had done recently, and yeah!
Wonderful video
That sounds like a really interesting paper!
Caitlin Shelbourne It was! It was by far my favorite paper I'd ever written.
Remember few girls used to make it through high school without getting PG, so of course we were banging like dogs, back then
Who could dislike this video? Who did they possibly offend? Your granma is so open and so witty, you take after her alot :) congratulations to granma! All the best to her
As an adult, I realize that the dialogue concerning sexuality I had with my parents was outside of the norm here in the US. In my culture (Thai), sexuality - including homosexuality and alternative genders, is not seen as being shameful. Thus, parents were and are open to conversations about sexuality with their children. In fact, a lot of sexual humor and teasing is found in books, television shows and other media aimed at adolescents.
Hello Justice 👋... Are is the weather over there now, And how are you doing today, I guess all is well with you and your family?
Do older women like to have younger men as partners, use lubricants, and masturbate frequently?
Could explain why most of Asia is grossly over populated and poverty stricken.
"We called the children 'unexpected,' 'more unexpected,' & 'most unexpected.'" Dr. Doe, your grandmother is the cutest! So intelligent, too. To go to college back then, wow! I had the same sort of menstrual experience and major pain through high school until being given the pill in college now, so I relate, too. It is cool to relate to other women of all ages. c:
Hello Evalynn 👋... Are is the weather over there now, And how are you doing today, I guess all is well with you and your family?
You're grandmother is awesome to the max. Curiosity seems to run in the family!
You and our grandma Billy get all my love. The candid conversation about sexuality throughout a lifetime makes this my favorite vid on your channel so far.
Hello Mantra 👋... Are is the weather over there now, And how are you doing today, I guess all is well with you and your family?
she's the white grandma i always wanted
Why does her race matter?
cause i'm not white and poc grandmas are definitely different from white grandmas trust me
+vitamindubya
Stereotypical white grandma. Really better comparison is native multi-gen American v. immigrant elders.
+vitamindubya race always matters even if u don't want it to. Different cultures do things differently.
Different race doesn't mean different culture.... Race is just color of skin. Say there's 2 siblings, one is adopted and a different race then everyone else in the family, both children will grow up in the same culture.
My great grandmother didn't even know why she kept having kids until someone told her how it happened. Props to your grandma's parents for at least trying to teach her about sex!
Woah... that's messed up.
WOAh.
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Omg how is that possible lol where did she grow up if you don't mind me asking?
North Florida in the early 20th century!
How star is the generational change in addressing the topic ! Even in her studies they didn't address the pleasure aspect, only development and changes.
My favorite aspect of this interview with your Grandma was seeing the personal you relating with her. Your reaction to her saying your mother "knew it all" was priceless. So human, so cute.
Whatching you as an educator is ofcause very informative and downright refreshing in how amazingly open and "matter of fact" you just lay the information out there as it is. Always entertaining in the way you present your material.
However, it was so nice to see YOU come through as simply a Daughter and Grand Daughter. A person.
Thank you for sharing that.
This interview was priceless. I found what she had to say to be extremely interesting. Thank you for sharing!
this made me so happy! I loved hearing her perspective and experiences. Thanks Grandma Doe!
I love the way you look at your grandma! Especially when she said she took a human sexuality course in college. I think it's beautiful to kinda have that in common. Also there's no shame in this!!! Such a natural conversation
I took up love, making after I broke my knee playing football, it keeps you fit 😂
Your family is so awesome and open about their sexuality. Wish mine was, I barely got "the talk" and wouldn't dream of having such an open and honest discussion with any member of my family about sex.
This was such a great video. Your grandmother is a wonderful lady. Please extend extra thank you to her for doing this.
Hello Katherine
The grandmother is so nice and open minded and her granddaughter is stunningly attractive. God bless you both.
What would you ask your grandma about sex if you could?
I want to know about her sex education and also I want to know weather her and my grandpa still have a healthy sexual relationship and if they stopped when and why.
I don't think I quite have the courage to bring this stuff up with her... especially the second part...
What does she think about how our culture's views of sex have changed over the years? Any times she's been surprised by this change?
Also: Any thoughts on how to keep a partner interested for a few decades or over the span of a marriage?
i mostly wanna ask my maternal grandmother about her dealing with losing her first baby. when we were mourning my aunt, my late mother only sister (she passed away about seven years after my mom passed away) it was the first time i heard her speak about her first girl. the baby passed away when she was 1 day old. it seems unthinkable.
What did you wish you knew earlier?
What do you wish you had told your children, or what did you tell them that you wished they listened to?
How has our societies views on sex changed, and what's good and bad about that?
What is your view on being able to talk about sex, birth control, and sexual health openly without vulgarity or judgment?
Are you worried about the future of how sex is seen and treated?
You've seen a lot change - what do you think sex education and beliefs will be like in another 30 years?
What are the pros and cons of each era?
...and finally, thank you. thank you for my parents, thank you for working to improve gender equality, thank you for improving the world.
Oh... and your grandmother is amazing. you're so much alike, for which you should both be proud.
I appreciate her willingness to share her stories and experience, and publishing like this. 79 and always willing to help her family, try new things and be involved with this ever changing world.
I found this episode really valuable.
That was sooooo sweet! I'm glad you made her part of your series!
I love your grandmother. My mother - at about 80 - really opened up to me about her early sex life. Totally unexpected, but it certainly brought us closer. Sadly, I lost her at 99. I used to believe my sex life would gradually taper off - but believe me, it hasn't.
So Sweet!!! XOXO You and your grandmother are awesome!!! "Stay Curious!"
My grandmother is turning 92 this year. We were talking about doctor visits and why they always ask (now) if you're feeling depressed/ been abused/ are sexually active... Grandma was flabbergasted at the last one (she's been widowed for 20+ years) ... I told her to consider that question a COMPLIMENT!! We had a great laugh!
Your grandma is cool and cute as she can be! I love the fact she is so open and easy to talk with on this subject. This is the way ALL parents and grandparents should be with their kids, approachable, open minded and understanding. Too many kids get their sex education from porn because they feel way too awkward to discuss it with a parent. Open communication with your kids from day one is the key to being a good parent!
this was so interesting and lovely! i love that your grandmother is open to having such a conversation with you!
This is so cool, I'm glad this interview happened. Was it difficult or scary bringing up this conversation? Did your grandmother seem reluctant? Sex conversations, even very general ones, are still so taboo, so it would be understandable to bring up some anxiety.
I can tell you that there was no test run. I asked if her she'd be willing to do a video with me. She said yes. We sat down and everything else is what you see.
What a great opportunity. Thanks again for always creating such important content. You've helped me through a lot, and continue to inspire me to stay curious. :)
It is interesting to see your reactions, they are, mostly, similiar to what I can imagine would be reactions of any other modern-person. On the other hand, Are you sure that your grandma would tell you something more spicy than "showering together" on camera? I think not :P
@@sexplanations after watching the video it's not clear to me if she is still having sex... it wasn't declared in clear language...
@@chel1qa Nor with WHOM!!!
Omg that was so sweet "showering together" I got a little teary eyed
Me too. As they say, "comparisons are odious", so ranking sexual experiences seems gauche, but showering with a partner is right up there on the list.
+Pete Schult i found it to be messy and impractical :p
the trick is to start it in the shower and then finish in the bedroom.
Water is a horrible lubricant.
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Your grandmother is awesome. I love that she was happy to talk to you about this stuff. Give her our thanks.
I love your grandmother! You are so lucky to be able to speak to her from such an open standpoint
You know, great courage can come in many forms but tends to have similar results: it encourages the use of courage in others, it often results in improvements that otherwise could not have been possible and is arguably the best attribute of our species. This video demonstrates such courage by two remarkable ladies. A real endorsement of the UA-cam medium, and much more. Thank you!
This lovely 79 year old grandmother offers a wonderful testimony that reassures young and old alike that sex & sexuality is and can continue to exist and thrive well into the waning years of life. Lots of praise and respect to this lovely woman for sharing her personal perspective about such a private yet important topic for everyone to know about. Thank you!🙏
that was so cool and special! I like your grandma! Props to her for opening up about topics :-)
this is amazing! I'm actually shocked your grandma learnt so much about sex. even my mum got no sex education. when she first got her period she thought she was dying, poor thing. unfortunately I can't ever imagine having this convo with my grandparents
Hello Olivia👋... Are is the weather over there now, And how are you doing today, I guess all is well with you and your family?
My grandmother is 85 now and I cannot imagine having a conversation like this with her! Her husband (my grandfather) passed away about 6 years ago, and hearing your grandmother talking about her sex life at 80 being support and warmth.. Oh my gosh! So many tears!
It's so refreshing to see old people talk about their sexual experiences. We don't really see them as sexual beings, but they are!
Ah! This year my wife said enough, I said but we are only 84 years old, true!
Yes . It's so beautiful I love it
Hello Tallasianchick 👋... Are is the weather over there now, And how are you doing today, I guess all is well with you and your family?
Grandma is open about her experiences.
This was a truly delightful interview, laced with openness, balance, and the suggestion of fun. At 69 myself, perhaps there is still intimacy in the future. Thanks Dr. Doe and Grama!
I'm glad you can have such an honest conversation :)
My mother had nine siblings. Her mother said it was because of her bad hearing. Grandpa would ask, "Do you want to sleep or what?"
She'd respond, "What?"
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My grandma is only a few years older than yours, and my great-grandmother the same age, I think. I have never asked them about sex and sexuality. But I know my grandma wouldn't like at all to talk about it, for her it's a topic that must not be talked about at all. She was very happy my grandpa, but I think she never really learned that it was something you can do for pleasure, not only to make kids. While on the other hand, my great-grandmother sometimes will just say something hinting that she used to have lots of sex and really enjoy it. I always find it curious how different her experiences where, considering they grew up in the same area. And my parents.. they always tried to answer the best they could the few questions I asked as a child, but it was always so awkward for them that I just stopped asking.
Your grandma is awesome. It was really nice of her to make a video with you talking about this stuff!
your great grandma is the same age as your grandma?
Different sides of the family.
By "same age" I meant same age as her grandma. Sorry if I don't explain myself very well, english is not my first language.
Such a great video! The whole time I kept thinking you looked familiar and then I realized you look like the mom on The Incredibles.
I am grateful for this open conversation 🙏! I'm 50 and in engaged encounter with someone. Praying to have children again. CHI health clinic/heart hospital told me about a clinic that could help us with invitro fertilization. I'm a woman with natural conception problems because I had cancer once, but love is still a beautiful thing! This lady and her husband must be a really nice couple! Thanks for this family! God bless you!
Hello Dawn😊😊
Wow, what a great interview. I loved the openness and honesty.
You grandma is a renaissance women. Unafraid, thoughtful, and smart. Thanks for this wonderful interview.
Awwwwwww that is so nice of her to do this video! She seems like a really cool grandma.
I believe everyone humans love sex... Do you ?
Hello Anastasiya..
I appreciate you so much. You put yourself out there in so many ways, just to get us informative information so we can make our own decisions about our sexuality. I see you as a guide.
This was great! Your grandma is awesome. Love how real this is. I often have wondered what sex will be like in the golden years.
My Nana got drunk at Chris as when she was maybe 70 and declared that sex doesn't stop when you're old. :p so I guess her and Granddad were still having fun. At the time I was like "sure, Nana, why do I need to know this?!" but I'm happy they had a close marriage even to the end!
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Nancy Gnome no there not:-)
I'm 78 and haven't had sex for over a week, that is the bad part about getting old, don't get it as often as you want it
Great video! I found this to be super encouraging. I know I wouldn't be able to have such conversations with my Grandmother. But hope I can talk so openly when I'm 80! :D
Hello Wanda
Thank you so much for sharing this, and everything you do.
This warmed my heart! She felt really easy to connect with!
Wow! You two look so much alike!
One Christmas I was home alone with my nan for a couple of hours reading New Moon while she knitted and she randomly blurted out "I was still a virgin when I married your grandfather" lol.
BeingErin You should have said “same” just to make it weird
James Diamond Same if you know what I mean
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Really great to watch and listen to. Your nana is a gen. Best interview I have seen in a long time.
This is such a mature, caring and honest conversation but you are both able to laugh in the correct and intentional context , so its not forced - Thank you
You two have the same face shape and it’s adorable.
THEY REALLY DO! I kept looking at the bridges of their noses and thinking that. Genealogy is fascinating and strong. 💪🏽
My paternal nan absolutely hated sex apparently and only did it a couple of times to have my dad. And my maternal nan was very devout JW so she wouldn't have ever spoken about it if she were still alive through my teenage years, so it's nice to watch this video. That's not to say it's a conversation I'd have, but it's interesting to know about the changes in education and taboos
The way that you look at your Grandma is so cute and endearing. I love your content. Thank you 🌹
Dr. L, I was going to forward past this, so glad I did not. I loved the history shared and the lesson shared is as always, stay curious and more important listen. Bonus shower together, often.
Thank you and thanks to your Grandma for giving us valuable information about life, love, and ourselves.
Best regards,
Rick Mansberger
When she said that sex at 80 would require support I thought she was talking about pillows & joint braces. I guess she actually meant emotional support haha
Maby both lol
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@@MuhammadImran-ln4fz meet this lady she was around 70 I was about 50 she was one crazy lady she use to dig her nails in my back so i wouldn't pull bak or out till she was relieved but she was sweet in her own way we had fun in the sack she's gone rip🕊
Asked my grandma why she had so many kids and she said her husband was such a good and honest man that when he wanted her she couldn’t turn him down. They were simple people who seemed happy.
This was such a sweet video and glad that someone from an older generation seem so open to talking about such a "taboo" topic.
never comment but this was completely worthy!! LOVE LOVE LOVE
"it wasn't just three times" probably my favourite in this video! :D
Why is women's health research so behind. Your grams talks about having horrible cramps. I have those horrible cramps. And no one can tell me why or how to fix it. 🙄
Me too! But they come and go. I use to get them BAD in my teenage years. I am 22 with 2 toddlers. They aren't as bad but they come once in a while. It's very weird.
Two really common disorders that can cause cramps/pain are endometriosis and PCOS. Dr. Doe has a PCOS video with more info. Hormonal birth control can also make periods shorter and reduce pain. Hope you find something that helps!
For years I was the same way. Then I finally found a gyn who listened to me. Back in May I had a laparoscopy to see if I had endometriosis and correct it. Now I take a birth control that only gives me a period once every three months and my cramps are much more controlled.
My mum says that after you have a child you don't get bad cramps because your uterus stretches out. Which fits in with what Marisol said. I still have those cramps (no children yet), but I take painkillers every month and it really helps.
+Scattered Moon Shards I had a child and have had no change in my cramps. When I stopped using tampons they got a little better. When I started using this birth control they got even better. Almost no period but moderate cramps. Heat pads help on the occasion that I do get them.
I bet grandma was alot like you when she was younger.. I've been watching your videos for the last 3 days.. I think I've seen them all.. your great. Informative, positive, entertaining,.. and you being "easy on the eyes" helps a lot.. learning more than I figured I would, my being a 50 year old man and had 34+ separate lovers over the years.. good to know quality, positive information on sex is available to the young men and women just starting their sexual experiences.. keep up the great work.. I hope to be seeing more of your videos soon..
This was actually pretty interesting! Glad you did this.
I love how you just light up next to your Grandma - can see the bouncy girl you probably were shining through the inspired woman you are. Adorable!
Your Grandma is amazing. I waited till the night I got married in 1994 and I was 20. It was the worst mistake I ever made. LOL I am divorced now but I can promise you if I ever get married again I will live with that person first. Sexual compatibility is a must in a successful marriage
You grandmother is a sweetheart! Thanks for posting!
this is amazing! your family has been blessed with openness and curiosity for a long time.
unrelated: where's that hoodie from?! i love it!
My grandmother was a Jewish woman in Britain during the Second World War. My grandfather was a Jewish GI. He asked her out on the base, she said no and then tripped him before saying yes (he had to walk past her desk to get to the CO's office). When he asked her to marry him she had to cancel other dates. She was OG and boom I'm here today. You rock grandma! You making you're own choices enabled me to live the life I've had! I love you.
Thank you!!! this was wonderful.
This is absolutely wonderful....How do you feel about this video ?
This made me smile a lot. You two are adorable!!
i thought this was Dr. Ruth from the thumbnail lol! your grandmother is the sweetest! i wish both of you all the best
First rule: use it or lose it! I’m 74, she’s 83 and all’s good. Two healthy libidos and we haven’t lost anything.
I love it my grandma is still alive and she's almost 90 and she has a damn mirror on her ceiling she's great she never made it a secret that she has sex LOL
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U r so lucky to have your grandma. I used to love my grandma to death. She has been gone for 31 years now
I've been following this channel for about 4 years and I believe this is the first time I've noticed Dr Doe showing any sign of unease while addressing this kind of topics. I guess grandmas will do that. I think it's great.
I just love your reactions in this video. Your channel is awesome.
(5:26) I love the look Dr. Doe gives to the camera when Grandma gives the name of her human sexuality course in college. I think it's the same name of the course that Dr Doe used to teach at the University of Montana.
I believe everyone humans love sex...Do you love it ?
Hello Erin..
Your grandma is so sweet l love
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Very interesting insight into those times. Its was very kind of her to share those experiences on the very public you tube.
OMG, I like the dynamics between you two and love the comfort and ease in this intelligent conversation.
That's awesome that your grandma is so open about her sexuality. My grandma (who is the same age as yours) gets offended by the word vagina. It's not bad it's just how she was raised, so it was awesome seeing and comparing the two.
I believe everyone humans love sex...Do you love it ?
My mamaw had a very different experience growing up in very rural southern Indiana in the 30s and 40s. She did not go to college, I don't think she even went to high school. She got married at 15 to a man who I was (I think about) 30. She married mainly out of financially necessity, her mother was a single mom with 7 kids in the depression. If she were still alive, I think she would be about the same age as your grandma, I think less than 10 years older. Very interesting seeing how different their experiences were, even in the same era! To my mamaw (great-grandmother), the most important thing she learned and wanted to teach my grandma, mom, and I was to never have to depend on a man for anything. She died when I was 8. I wish she was still around now that I'm an adult, I would learn so much from her.
I'm so glad that you contributed this. This is very insightful of you. During the editing process Matt and I talked about my grandmother's privilege and how her experience certainly does not speak to everyone at 79.
+sexplanations I think it would be very interesting to see another video like this with your mom! All different generations and stages of life :)
+Kennedy Franklin or dad!
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This was amazing! Thank you for sharing!
part two please!! this was so interesting!!!!!
I just think having your nearly 80 year old grandmother talk with so effortlessly and openly about sex is outstanding!
I cant imagine talking that openly to either of my grands about this but that was adorable
Your grandma is adorable as she talks about her life experiences! Thanks for sharing!
I hope I have the same optimistic view point on sex as she does when I turn 80!
I enjoyed watching this video. Thanks for sharing! :)
I'm soon to be 60 and...
still waiting for "the talk."
lol !!!!
"How did you decide to get married?" - "well, I wasn't very smart ..." 😂🤣😅
Your honesty is so refreshing.
I love this one! Your grandma is so cool :D
Amazing vlog! I'm so happy she shared such a full and adventurous life, 3 husbands WTG !
Hello N 👋... Are is the weather over there now, And how are you doing today, I guess all is well with you and your family?
That's a striking family resemblance. You're both quite beautiful ladies. :)
Hello phoenix
fantastic Vid once again. would be great to have longer videos on subjects like this as its not only informative and interesting from a learning level but in this case especially it's a brilliant slice of history and let's face it, there aren't too many video documentaries like thisbonr this subject.
please keep up the good work and please stick the thought of a documentary or doc series about real life history of sex with propper interviews and real people like your grandma. I think it really hasuts place.
BTW, your grandma is very very cool talking about it all. cheers.
Good interview. So candid! Oh and you look like your Grandma!