I stopped wearing my turban & lost myself for 19 years - BBC Stories
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- Опубліковано 26 лис 2019
- Jaskanwal Singh lives in Toronto, and got badly bullied at school for his turban. To stop the bullying and become more popular he decided to stop wearing a turban. He also felt girls would find him more attractive if he cut his hair. For nineteen years he didn't wear a turban and while he became more popular he also started binge drinking and felt unfulfilled.
Last year he stopped drinking and decided to wear a turban again. He now helps young Sikhs who get bullied at school for their turbans.
Producer: Ammar Ebrahim
Camera: Orla McNelis
Series Producer: Anisa Subedar
Commissioning Editor: Kimberley Rowell
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I'm not a sikh but as a man I think the practise of men growing long hair and beard for their religion is actually pretty cool
It is basically the only biological reason to protect your head and third eye dasam duar. The dasam duar in sikhism is how we connect to the creator and anyonw can do it by calling gods name whatever u call him like lord, waheguru, allah, ram etc they are all the names of the one.
We don't grow it, nature does we keep cutting it
The turban is a symbol of love unity respect and shows yourself as a beacon of compassion:,, I’ve been told
This is exactly what the Western culture will do to you. You completely lose yourself for their validation. Thank God for growth and wisdom 🙏🏾
there's no need to villainise the western culture, there's really no need
@@lilacspring2556 villainise???? Lol please! Can't handle the truth?
@Reee Flex you are so triggered and I absolutely adore it. Just the fact that you decided to use so many pointless and non convincing words to convince yourself that the white man is the OriGiNal makes me LOL. Good luck in your fantasy World 😉👍🏾
Reee Flex your probably the reason rasicm exists
@Reee Flex Your the reason racism exists! There was not a quote about a white man but you put it in. YOu just wrote this for your self satisfaction
This was how I felt back then, now I am trying to get my turban back
So did now you have a turban!?or you still hypocrite so what is you rationalisation now.?
@@supreme7770
Turban looks weird 😂
@@Idk-nc1gf shut up no one asked you
I saw this dude at the Gurdwara so many times
Lies
Jaskanwal is a true Canadian patriot!!! Sikhs are Canadian heroes!! Freedom 🇨🇦
after a long journey, it must be really at peace to find the real you are. being connected again to what you belief. Not many people dare to go back to the track, this is a big decision and happier life. your story is amazing.
Wow amazing story! Thank you for sharing that - you are helping loads of souls around you reconnect to their innerselves too!
What a beautiful story
Just check Sikh history you gonna be in shock
Very Inspiring! Thank you for having the courage to share your story as the message is much deeper across all humanity and globe despite your religion, color and gender. You are enough. Be and do you. If your black, white, chinese, brown, Christian, Sikh, Muslim, Hindu, Jewish, etc. Be You. Love Sikhi and the principles it stands by - love to all humanity. God bless you. Waheguru Satnam! 🙏❤
Are you from Texas?
I met Thos Guy Several times and what i have noticed that this guy is turning into Gurmukh 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Waheguru. Absolutely beautiful story Singh ❤🙏🏻
Wahe Guru!
Waheguru :-)
@@princesingh626 waheguru
🙏🙏🙏👍
Wahe guru!
Their heritage and culture are more important to them now than the approval of others that's what gives them peace respect to all Sikh
Happy to see they feel themselves. I think my brothers look handsome wearing Turbans!
Bullying would be traumatizing enough to never want to wear a turban again. Good on you for rediscovering your roots.
Love who you are, I think you re beautiful... bless you both!
Waheguru
Love and so much so much respect to you from your Muslim brother
great!
Waheguru ji ka Khalsa and Waheguru Ji ki Fateh
Vaheguru Ji 🙏🏽
Great video, waheguru finds its own ways to bring one closer to his path
Madara Uchiwa The Sikh way of saying 'God', similar to 'Allah' for Muslims etc.
Amazing 🙏🙏💯💯
The inner peace in you shines through your face bhaji. Brilliant transformation Guru Sahib di Rehmat aa tuhade te.
We are born with Sikh D.n.a after some time we feel something is missing in our life's and are guided back to our roots and religion. Waheguru3
Watch videos of nanak naam and basics of Sikhi
I don't think so
Shout out to mitesh for being a life long friend.
im happy for u , really im a born catholic agnostic and just traveled 3 times to india , all over but punjab , all over other faiths but sikhi philosophy , at my age i received recently my answers from god , which i was not sure , is it cause im white , is it cause im this and that no , but now i got it , and my hair is long , beard too .... ouchhh , lol ..... now is the time , jup reading just made me cry i had to stop ..... amazing , thats all no ..... now is the time , saat sri akal .... love from montreal quebec
Theres a sikh temple in montreal , do visit it someday
Khalsa mero Roop ha khaas ~ Guru Gobind Singh ji
You are great
WaheGuru Ji ka Khalsa WaheGuru Ji ki Fateh. You are a Khalsa paaji. Khalsa is a blessing on Sikh. Be blessed
I honestly don’t know what to do with myself guys I’m at the stage were I feel like cutting my hair and I’m honestly just stuck and I feel like I’m just idk how to describe it
Dude, it's ultimately your choice but I highly encourage you to keep your hair. my parents actually had me go to school with cut hair because they didn't want the shame of their son cutting his hair when he got older. But now I decided to grow out my hair personally from my choice. It was hella awkward because everyone was so confused but I just had to explain it to them. luckily I had enough confidence in myself to be strong and not be affected by their comments. now I am the happiest I've ever been. It's ultimately your decision but pls remember the pride and power your hair shows. Guru ji wanted us to have long hair and to cover our heads to stick out of the crowd. he wanted us to be different so in case someone needed help they knew who to go to. Our turban is our crown.
Humans are so weird. Put so much importance in trivial things. Things that don’t matter at the end of the day.
*Balle balle* Mr Singh
Hats off too u bro .... (or turbans off)
It's a joke calm down
I just I happy people gong back to turbans most youths feel ashamed to were 1...
P"s I'm not Sikh
But my girlfriend is
I'm a valmiki aka" untouchable"
No one is untouchable dear bro.. We are one as human.. As offsprings of Almighty
Paperkut ĺive nice joke lmao
You were never an untouchable bro. I too am from your caste and remove this mindset of calling yourself an untouchable, Valmiki, chandal, bhangi, sc, st. These names were created by the upper castes to make us feel low of ourselves. Believe me we are like tigers living among sheeps, one day we will see our reflection in the water, and will come to know our true identities. Untill then stay strong brother you have my blessings with you and your whole family. Thanks for sharing your story.
And remember brother Valmiki was an docoit, who used to rob and kill strangers passing from jungles. He was an low caste till he became a maharishi by gaining knowledge from Vedas. His caste was also promoted to brahmin. The caste system in India was based on our merits not from our birth. If you read rigveda the first Vedic scripture, in it the indra is regarded as the lord of earth and rudra and narayan are regarded as warmongers or destroyers. And Brahman (the one who has transcended to the ultimate) is considered the one above all. And believe me this was written between 5000-4700bc approximately 7000 years old. Some historians claim it to be 14000 years old. And it is believed to be written by lord Brahma himself. This Idea of Brahman was manipulated by self proclaimed Brahmins who extended the vedas during the Vedic period (1500-150bce) during this period the caste system prevailed and lakhs of people lost their dignity and respect for being born in lower caste. This Vedic civilization was started from now Afghanistan and spread till now haryana, punjab, Rajasthan and Gujarat. I know I have given you a very long explanation of our roots but believe me we are the true owners of this vast land of india. We were separated by caste to hide our own heritage and ownership from ourselves. I hope I might have been able to give you some picture on this issue.
@@dineshsake3458 👌👌🙏
Would it be considered cultural appropriation if I wore a Turban as a non-Sikh person? Typically, as African men, we don't wear any headgear but I find it beautiful and what it stands for is absolutely wonderful.
Ofcourse. Sikhism is a religion. If you feel like following it, you can wear the turban because you are a free human.
Of course you can. Sikhism allows people of other religions to use the Sikh scripture as a guide and to wear a Turban if they do it in a respectful manner
No since turban is not exclusive to religion since its also ethnic Rajasthani marathi pashtoon sindhi gujrati wear varied styles of turbans but if you tie a dumalla (style of turban) then its religious identity
Absolutely. Turban is not intended to be a religious symbol. Please wear it. African men look good in turban.
Sure u can, Nick Cannon does
I’m tryna go Toronto
Waheguru ji ka khasa waheguru ji di fateh 🙏❤️
You lost yourself for 19 years? How and in which way?
That regular drinking , enjoyment etc which doesn't give u inner peace...u live to show urself cool and keep on impressing others ..
You have to beat these bullies or they dont stop. I took revenge for assholes in high school that made racist commets to me in middle school . They were terrified never said shit like that
If you are sikh maintain that beard too not like bullshit singers who call them sikh and put just turned with clean shaved
I never seen him in our area
gurjas birk he does Gurmat lessons at Dixie Gurdwara
@@dietoxickidthe2nd889 thank you
Bro i have met him many times ... You Can See Him Malton Or Dixie Guru ghar 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I used to wore a sikh turban.
Now what then? Became Mona
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shoot I thought this was only a US problem and people in canada don't really face this...
EXCELLLENT STORY..people make jokes but in retrospect..Low forms of energy humans with lack of knowledge to grasp higher realms will always find a way because of there insecurities to make there character look superior..but in the universe they dont even leave a mark * times infinite...flow on with love or as you were!
Handsome with and without it! Do what makes you happy.
I really like "only sardars"
Bap re.. who says they aren't attractive...
They are the most handsome men they are more attractive with their "pugg" the turban ... Waheguru ji Mehar kare 🙏❤️
:)
because ur speacial and ur orgins are the oldedt the cradle of civilization
Waheguru ji
Wearing a TURBAN to stop the Perpetual Headache when you STOP wearing it???
I was forced by my parents to wear pagri all times.
I was beaten when I cut my hair. I felt as if I murdered someone. I never did anything wrong. I was insulted by relatives. I felt the same like Muslim girls who are forced to wear hijab. I follow Sikhism but people who want to dress in a particular way and wearing kirpan , want to prove that they are more closer to God is wrong.
They think after having Amrit they become the supreme guards or loved ones. Most of them cramp path like parotts they don't even know meaning. All they of is gossip. Guru Nanak said all humans are equal there was dress code. Later when body of guru teg Bahadur was not identified then khalsa was established to distinguish Sikhs. I see a a contradiction here. There is so much hyprocracy. People still follow caste system in Sikhism as well. Girls are killed in womb. Recent cencus in Punjab. Punjab is into drugs. You are being discriminated by religious guards in Sikh temples.
Just a general question why did you have to bring Muslims in your topic? Whenever I see Sikh videos they can never talk without mentioning Muslims
@@goliathmker3335
Religion just create discrimination, like you came up and asked why I mentioned Muslims .. It was a very vital comparison. There is no rule however that I can't mention them. I will tell you the reason why in most references its mentioned however...
I have no hate for anyone, I m not religious , I just believe God is one. I have Muslim friends infact there are texts from Muslim peers in Guru Granth Sahib.
On the contrary there have been Muslim king's from 1500 to 1699 stating Babar to Aurangzeb, who were forcing Hindus to become Muslim. They destroyed many temples in India and made mosques.
Infact whole Sikh history is filled the torture and sacrifice by gurus to save faith. Read the history .. so it becomes inevitable not to mention them.
@@AmanSingh-qc1or Punjab is into drugs and caste system because they stopped following sikhi like you.
@@Hellobuffal
Or maybe leave Sikhism
The one who feels insecure welcome to gym
I don't know.. why people like you not like to live in Punjab??
Why don't they live in Gujrat? Or Maharashtra? What's your point?
@@infoMania07 I think because of different culture and language.
Sorry to say but as a Punjabi I don't like living in Punjab, nor do millions of others who settle in countries like Canada.
I think sikh works for humanity so God wants to spread them .they make others peoples positive and inspiring
He’s Canadian - that’s why he lives in Canada! We have a rich tapestry of many ethnicities, cultures and religions here that helps make our country as diverse and accepting as it is. Sikhs are integral to Canadian society and their communities have a great rich history in public service and community focused roles.
Bruh Shia lebouf whatchu doin here
Don't play the Victim. Know one gives a Shit.
Why would you tie to your identity to your hair?
grow up
😆
And still lost
Why bcz of what Pakistan did to other nation and living being
😂😂😂😂😂
Kids need to learn martial arts. Sorry but words only do so much when the person doesn't stop and you took all means to forgo physical confrontation but at times it's necessary.
Our parents need to put our kids in the military or learn from nihangs. What is bullying why should I restrain myself from disipline the person that is provoking me and making my life miserable.
Fk that take action a nice slap makes a world of difference dont be a sheep your guru made you into a lion.
I was a security guard and this kid was trying instill fear into me by saying he knows mma he will beat me up. I punched him once on thr nose he learned his lesson quickly he never came back.
Sava Lakh Se Ek Ladaun Tabhi Gobind Singh Naam Kahaun’.
Only fear god and guru sahib no one else.
I said this number of times but sikh parents don't understand this and start crying when their son finally gets a haircut... Even jathedars, sikh elders don't understand the importance of making their child well trained from teenage years..
Did you even earn your dots ...hyna
Drinking to twada moto hai
and u probsbly dtil face hate
Why is this on BBC? Isn't this the BRITISH Broadcasting Corp?
And now this man stands alongside Nazis!! Incredible transformation, he clearly hasn't begun to heal from his childhood issues and sadly ended up flying the Sikh flag alongside Nazi flags.
He was brutally beaten by the Ottawa police while peacefully protesting. They are the Nazis, not him.
Jaskanwal Singh -And your parents FORCED you to go to the public school (Citadel of Slavery!) when the law (in a British Dominion) allowed them to home school you?
BAFS
How can immigrants escaping genocide and trauma.. who need to make a living and support families on wages that do not reflect their education level because their credentials are not recognized here.. possibly have time to home school children.. while learning English and teaching that too..
@@jaskanwalsingh7596 They can keep removing my reply! I do not give a damn! THE TRUTH WILL REMAIN THE TRUTH!
Encyclopedia Britannica: "SIKHISM IS AN OFFSHOOT OF ISLAM"!
But, this information is being systematically removed from the Internet, including by SIKHS themselves!
The Sikh scripture Guru Granth Sahib includes teachings from Muslims, namely saints (Baba Farid), a Muslim of the Chishti Sufi order and Kabir.
Amritsar was founded in 1577 by Ram Das, fourth Guru of the Sikhs, on a site granted by the Mughal emperor Akbar.
A Muslim laid the founding stone!
BAFS
@@BAFREMAUXSOORMALLY let me explain you briefly sikhi is the branch from where all others are created,for instance when a baby is born if you leave him or her untouched what will he become? a sikh.The scissor or blade is used to circumcise the baby and the same blade is used to shave the head off.Sikhi is nature and nature is sikhi itself basically so i tell you to stop trying to impose your own views which are not even logically spiritually mentally physically closer to the truth.
FRÉMAUX SOORMALLY since when can an online source explain that a religion is an offshoot of another meaning I can make a website calling Christianity a offshoot of Judaism and Hinduism an offshoot of paganism so shut your pastor Steven Anderson mouth and go bully satanists or something
Why did his brother have a knife when he was using the punching bag??
Also he sounded more interesting when he was drinking
Chloe Bitterlin - Sikhs carry a kirpan (curved knife or sword) as one their five ceremonial articles of faith. It can be from 3 inches to 9 inches long with one cutting edge which may be blunt or sharp. He was also wearing one in a later scene. Of course, it will depend on local laws whether it may be worn legally or not.
He may have seemed more interesting to you when he was drinking but he obviously wasn’t feeling as contented and fulfilled as he does now.
I have a few Sikh friends and some wear turbans, some don’t. To each his own. 😊
@@aliciarobertson4979 Beautifully said. There is more to life than drinking and partying, and I advise anyone who finds such a lifestyle to be that interesting.. to abstain for 2-3 months and see how their perception of the world can change. When life becomes about inner discovery and inner fulfillment, I can assure you that life becomes more meaningful. As you said though, to each their own :)
Jaskanwal Singh - Thank you.
I am a great grandmother in the winter of my life. I have a deep abiding faith which gives me inner peace, contentment, and fulfilment. I am not sheltered and removed by this faith from knowing lives ruined, and lessened by alcohol, drugs, and mental illness which was sometimes precipitated by their “interesting” lifestyle. Before I retired I was a health professional and worked helping patients struggling with life due to these problems.
I agree with you about inner fulfilment, and I also agree with you on abstaining and comparing the party lifestyle with the newly acquired perception. I think the young man’s former lifestyle as a party animal became a vacuous existence and he gained more by leaving it behind. I was saddened to read that Chloe Bitterlin thought his life when he was drinking (to excess by his own admission) sounded “more interesting” from the outside. As I said originally, from the inside he must not have thought that as he re-evaluated his life. Now he has inner balance, he is a a joy to his peers, and a mentor to young people. What is not to love about inner contentment and peace of mind?!
H’Alicia That young man agrees because that young man is me! Inner contentment and joy has brought me much more happiness and satisfaction than any of the days I spent spiralling into a pointless “partying” lifestyle that had no direction or meaning to it other than emotional escapism. Totally agree with all that you said - we must nurture and take care of our minds first and foremost!
Jaskanwal Singh - Again, thank you.
Wonderful to read who it was replying.
I wish you every happiness, and continuing contentment in the years ahead.
Xutia jungali
Everyone gets bullied man when your younger, why do people get so sensitive about that, even bullys get bullied
Maybe if more people opened up about the ways they were bullied, mocked, teased, neglected and ridiculed.. then they would heal through it and share their messages which lets them overcome insecurities and become more understanding and loving towards others.
Depends. From person to person...some recover or forget...some don't..
Sikh kids bullying is different because they have a unique identity they may not be confident about. they already don't fit in and don't always feel confident about how they look, so when they are made fun of for their religion and heritage it can damage their personality. there are some things that you just don't make fun of and one of them is someone's religion . it can hurt them because they already feel like they don't fit in well and bullying can cause more hurt
Even though I am legally allowed
I don't drink, I am sorry, I can't relate.
K
That’s good mate. Just be kind to all living beings, lay your head down, and god will do certain good, and you won’t even know it and feel so blessed
Sorry, had to down-vote, just because of the crappy video format, with those awful out-of-focus clips. Unwatchable.
So does that matter? Listen to the damn story. Freakin hater
Actually even sikh girls hate beard..... She likes clean shave man.... Nor jungali type unhygienic
Girl from any religion hates orthodox man from their religion. Hahahaha beard was never unhygienic..stop this propaganda just Becos u r habitual to clean shaven men around you. How many beared people have u seen falling sick or allergic ??
@Orange 🤣🤣🤣🤣nope.... I'm sikh
Sikhi is earned . Don't care what opposite sex says.
Yeah it’s true our own community girls not like our beards . Then what to expect from other community ... well I don’t care … anyway the best life is to live as a single ✌️✌️
@@Sudopia8372 girls from other community like sikh.. Atleast some of them and that's enough for us... Ghar ki murgi daal barabar..
😎🕶️🤣😂🤣😂🤣🙄loser!!!
Get back to working in my opiod farm you dirty mexi
It doesn't matter how big your turban is or how long your hair is for it is insignificant to how God sees us. Jesus is the way the truth and the life and no man comes to the father in Heaven but by him. It is through the faith of Jesus and keeping the Commandments of God that we are saved.
Keep your preaching to yourself.
@@turbojay70 I do. As well as others that God has prepared for the truth.
Can you keep your converting somewhere in Europe and respect other religions
@@gavinsandhu4407 why would I respect other religions? Are you aware that Satanism is a religion? I respect the truth and nothing else.
@@mr.e1220 STFU
Nothing against sikhs. But i too would not go outside to buy beer if i was wearing such a ridiculous garment. At least with the burqa no one knows who you are and that you are actually a man.
I stopped drinking much before I started to wear a turban again. Sobriety was one of the things that led me back to finding myself. And what you call "a ridiculous garment" is an observation you have made based on your conditioning of what is "appropriate" garment. Is it not so?
@Rich 91 There was much more to this story than the 5 minute video clip portrayed.. I grew up in a rough hood (considered the roughest) in Toronto, and I was involved in many fights from a young age because of my turban, sometimes fighting against 6-7 people. Though I physically fought back and stood up for myself, I just started to suppress the experiences in an area and community where it was about "toughening up" to "man up". In addition to gang culture, alcoholism, police encounters, drugs, racism etc. there was also other issues within the community that made things very problematic. Essentially, I became lost at a young age and sought to create a new personality, so to speak. If you would like to know more, my Instagram is @jaskanwal.singh - I share more of my story there!
Its not a burqa u can clearly see all of his face spermboy and its not ridiculous its just how your parents raised u to think that
Aspartame69 rasict and disrespectful also it is a symbol of Sikhism so if you call the “garment” ridiculous then I’ll call a crucifix a dumb t do you feel insulted? Yeah that’s how Sikhs fell when you call us ridiculous
WTF from our own community girls don’t like us wtf to expect from others
Outdated and time to get rid of it! Catholics did so can you!
He is not catholic.
Nah we choose not too
Tinkabele willy
Tineke Williams cringe