I spent a week in the woods without words or electronics after my last divorce. Lost 99% of my belongings.. my frame... None of my self worth. Grounded and recharged with vigor for life with clearer vision. Dusting myself off and ME3.0 is amazing. Thank you John as always for your insight. I love Ryan Holidays information about the stoics!
Great video, as usual. I’ve spent most of my life single, pursuing goals to be a better man. I was engaged Twice, married once. After all that, I’ve learned it’s better to be alone. Peace. Quiet + freedom are a at a premium for me. I have many female friends, get along with them, it would never be in relationship with them. A friend told me many years ago,” all women are few crazy, you must decide how much you want to put up with”. Naaa, not worth for me today. Coming from a 60 year guy. Young guys , learn as mush as you can, be happy -+ be the best you can be!!!
Stoicism is a great philosophy. Self reflection is absolutely necessary in life. 100% agree that mentoring the next generation is vital. I share with my son and his friends the lessons I've learned. Frankly, I share knowledge with all males I encounter, many of whom are moving from blue billed to red.
One of your best videos for sure! ... It made me think and realize that I need to stop letting the past decide my future/present. I've had 2 loves in my life and both cheated; in some way, shape or form. I realized that I'm thinking all girls do that, but they don't. I need to believe that there are some girls out there that don't cheat. Now, this is not a new thought. You just reminded me that I need to remember this and not let it hold me back from "leaving the door open" to "maybe" having a girlfriend again. I'm still going to be cautious. Always. P.S. I don't like using the word "Woman" it always seems like a masculine way to describe a female, "Girl" sounds, much more attractive to me and what I want; feminine, youthful, and nice. That's just me.
Women are part of the battlefield of life. God made them for a reason. Just one more challenge. Nothing is easy, makes us stronger. But we can't let a society gone insane destroy us. Still, we are in the final stages of decline.
I love the stoics. I think the legal system is slanted against men. I think women's overspending drives the economy. Don't let anyone walk on you though. If I were a man I would avoid women. I think you are very smart to put your love and loyalty in dogs. ❤👍🏼🙏🏼
It only takes ONE and the right ONE to make you have a nice life. I lost that person after 26 years as she died way too young but after hearing so many stories of men that have had bad relationships, it makes me so happy that I had found a good one. I believe it can happen again although the dating landscape has changed dramatically since 1990s. Social media and dating apps have really made it so hard for men. You are so right on how so many men have morphed into relinquishing who they really are. Great talk as always.
Pain: the gift nobody wants. Except when we go to the gym. Relationships give the same gift but are of more benefit to your most significant weaknesses. At the gym you can self-dose an optimal amount for a desired result. A relationship affords only indirect control, being whatever you learn to do with whatever pain is on offer at the time. Growing that kind of strength sets you up for everything else in life.
Hi John, Thanks for this message! Many men when they get married become their wife’s pet. In my experience, women respond well to being led and given correct and positive direction, especially when they can see it’s for their own safety. So many women have had to deal with beta males and have been forced to take the lead so when they come across a guy who is strong minded and is showing them the sensible way to go forward in life, they are happy to follow. Thanks Alan 😊
I think I am still processing how I lost the battle, but love I won the war. Found peace and happiness. I learnt that I am a pretty coll guy and don't need validation, other then myself. I see so many women want to attack to engage me in a battle for them to take. I chose to retain my ground and live in peace.
A man at any age needs to know themselves first. Knowing in my eyes is to respect yourself and second to that is honoring your choices inside your decisions in finding self respect. A man will make good and bad decisions in their life but you will not learn from choices without them. Example: I saw red flags before getting married while dating. I chose at one time to break up the relationship but I was told there was a misunderstanding and decided to get past it. Her not showing up and calling was the issue and there other small things too. When looking back now and adding those issues up the math became confusing, there wasn't a formula in my eyes I could use. That is until I could see the lies, deceit and infidelity. I respected myself enough to bring up issues in the 15 yr marriage but did not honor my self respect enough to stop from marrying her. In the end honor yourself, nobody is perfect. Make sure to honor yourself first before considering marriage. Best of luck.
@18:00 This is what I'm trying to do with my little brother. I don't want him to go full MG.tow because I think it's good for him to learn the goods and the bads from life. In any case, I'm here to guide him in certain things.
“Men express empathy through problem solving“ - hit me. I have been accused of not acting responsive to women’s issues in talkative way. Instead I always offer solution, help, certain action to remedy a situation. But it’s never good enough. Women want to talk for hours about it first, and then they look for specific offers and help from you. It’s just exhausting.
I am younger than you, but old enough to have experienced relationships with women and while it made me better, it was the best lesson for not having relationships, so, i cant recommend it to young men, but i understand the urge to try it at least once. Its a bit like a near death experience, its one of the most elated sensations, but not recommended and not worth the risk. Also, today's women are mostly evil, unattractive and dangerous, so, i dont even see the likely benefits from a successful relationship. In past generations there was a 50/50 chance, now it seems like a lose lose. Its all in one's mind is one of the best realizations one can have and women's image is a mans objective projection of it, ask yourselves what part of that image is your own wishful thinking. I say most is.
Healthy masculinity ( and femininity ) begins and ends with self respect. Being aggressive vs passive, selfish vs selfless, are not aligned with self respect; just the opposite. Self respect is assessed internally based on self awareness and self reflection towards all decisions one is about to make. Do each of those decisions make you feel better about yourself or do they make you feel diminished in yourself? This implies that within each of us there is already an internal emotional guidance system that keeps score and that feeds the results to us, if only we are willing to listen to it, as what many refer to as feelings of self esteem and/or self worth. Heed it and you’ll be happy and have peace of mind. Ignore it and you’ll feel miserable, hateful, self hating, etc…. It’s really that simple. Thanks John!
This was a great lesson you shared with us, my friend. I really enjoyed your insight as we attempt to regain our position as strong and intelligent men in today's society. Thank you brother..
The initial quote from Aurelius during this video is the formula to endure on the current battlefield. Talk to yourself with respect, value your own opinions of yourself over all other opinions.
Thanks for sharing . Remember to watch Doug Casey's take Nov 12 with Michael Yon talking about why American men are NOT marrying American women, because of their drug, alcohol uses, & giving the children pharmaceutical drugs, and benefits of marrying foreign women. Like these men or not they are spot on. Good morning 🌄......... Stay healthy and free guys 😂🎉🎉
MGTOW is not the answer, especially when you are young. We need relationships to grow as men. If you’re older and you’ve been through it already, that is different. If you’re young, be open to the idea. That doesn’t mean you have to be actively seeking. Just never say never.
I agree. I had girlfriends from age 18 to 28 I wouldn't go back and change. But from age 30 onward, men should focus on career, purpose and retirement. Not romantic relationships.
Western "marriage" is a humiliation ritual for men. Enter a contract on your knees that removes your legal, parental and financial rights and makes you a de facto slav3? Untenable and absurd concept for men today. Mhig tow does not mean zero contact or relationships, it means maintaining your sovereignty, something knee-takers have forfeited.
Comment deleted because soy tube cannot allow any message counter to the narrative of being a knee-taker. M h i g t o w simply means maintaining your sovereignty, without adhering to the betaization of western "marriage" that NPCs push.
I fight enough battles out in the world to turn around and fight a battle at home. Our grandfathers never did this. The women back then were worthy of a mans commitment because to the peace and family she brought. Now women don't bring peace and they break up family's and the influence a man can have on his progeny. Its just not worth it.
I'd say stay single. Most men treat women as a belief, they'd tell anyone to believe no matter what, belief is irrational and when its someone else's its also very confusing and that's humans, listen to what they say, learn, but always filter and trust your guts first.
After a divorce, my friend Dan had just enough money to buy a pie and a cup of coffee at Dennys. He then realized he didn't have a fork, so he stole a fork from dennys. He is still concerned about owing Dennys, but that woman is barely remembered. His kids all come to see him, but she is in some old folks home miserable and alone
For the fixing of some problem it is neccesary to bring it back into the conscious mind, because it is ussually trashed into subconsciousness. Still, you are right, if that proces is not used to solv the problem but just to rethink and overthink it, than the therapy is of no real use.
We aren’t even allowed to have men’s clubs any longer. We need to bring the right of free association back, and have exclusively men’s spaces again, where we can support each other and learn from each other. We also have a right and duty to advocate for men and boy’s welfare, and policies.
The only way you can practice masculinity in 2024 is having the wallet otherwise sharing of bills even if you listen to her she can't respect you difficult.
I will say, this one got close to being some bad advise, it's your channel, but I see some discrepancies with choice of words. One was a woman can make a better man, let's use a good woman can compliment a man to be better. I don't believe marriage is a good option, not in today culture. So many others in this one that I would question for young guys. Men, find yourself before allowing others in. That includes other men. People will come and go today with how we have travel and media that has never been seen in humanity. 😊
"Men want approval from women" that was deep and life changing for me
I spent a week in the woods without words or electronics after my last divorce. Lost 99% of my belongings.. my frame... None of my self worth. Grounded and recharged with vigor for life with clearer vision. Dusting myself off and ME3.0 is amazing.
Thank you John as always for your insight. I love Ryan Holidays information about the stoics!
I watched some of his stuff too. He’s a good representative of stoicism.
"Last divorce ' sounds like there was more than one ?
You simply cannot beat Nature for healing, along with some solitude to get your bearings.
@@andre1987eph your point?
@@andre1987eph just finished my 3rd .. clarity was a year ago and pursued a quality life over convenient wife.
My favorite Marcus Aurelius quote is, "Death smiles upon us all, and all a man can do is smile back. "
Stoicism is a great world view!
Great video, as usual. I’ve spent most of my life single, pursuing goals to be a better man. I was engaged
Twice, married once. After all that, I’ve learned it’s better to be alone. Peace. Quiet + freedom are a at a premium for me. I have many female friends, get along with them, it would never be in relationship with them. A friend told me many years ago,” all women are few crazy, you must decide how much you want to put up with”. Naaa, not worth for me today. Coming from a 60 year guy. Young guys , learn as mush as you can, be happy -+ be the best you can be!!!
Well said my friend
Stoicism is a great philosophy. Self reflection is absolutely necessary in life. 100% agree that mentoring the next generation is vital. I share with my son and his friends the lessons I've learned. Frankly, I share knowledge with all males I encounter, many of whom are moving from blue billed to red.
That's it. Share all your knowledge with all the men you encounter.
Young guys don't understand female nature
One of your best videos for sure! ... It made me think and realize that I need to stop letting the past decide my future/present. I've had 2 loves in my life and both cheated; in some way, shape or form. I realized that I'm thinking all girls do that, but they don't. I need to believe that there are some girls out there that don't cheat. Now, this is not a new thought. You just reminded me that I need to remember this and not let it hold me back from "leaving the door open" to "maybe" having a girlfriend again. I'm still going to be cautious. Always. P.S. I don't like using the word "Woman" it always seems like a masculine way to describe a female, "Girl" sounds, much more attractive to me and what I want; feminine, youthful, and nice. That's just me.
Asphalt? Through the woods? Eliminates mudd, but takes away the joy of feeling softness of the earth
Women are part of the battlefield of life. God made them for a reason. Just one more challenge. Nothing is easy, makes us stronger. But we can't let a society gone insane destroy us. Still, we are in the final stages of decline.
I love the stoics.
I think the legal system is slanted against men.
I think women's overspending drives the economy.
Don't let anyone walk on you though.
If I were a man I would avoid women.
I think you are very smart to put your love and loyalty in dogs. ❤👍🏼🙏🏼
Great insights
It only takes ONE and the right ONE to make you have a nice life. I lost that person after 26 years as she died way too young but after hearing so many stories of men that have had bad relationships, it makes me so happy that I had found a good one. I believe it can happen again although the dating landscape has changed dramatically since 1990s. Social media and dating apps have really made it so hard for men. You are so right on how so many men have morphed into relinquishing who they really are. Great talk as always.
Pain: the gift nobody wants. Except when we go to the gym. Relationships give the same gift but are of more benefit to your most significant weaknesses. At the gym you can self-dose an optimal amount for a desired result. A relationship affords only indirect control, being whatever you learn to do with whatever pain is on offer at the time. Growing that kind of strength sets you up for everything else in life.
Hi John, Thanks for this message! Many men when they get married become their wife’s pet. In my experience, women respond well to being led and given correct and positive direction, especially when they can see it’s for their own safety. So many women have had to deal with beta males and have been forced to take the lead so when they come across a guy who is strong minded and is showing them the sensible way to go forward in life, they are happy to follow. Thanks Alan 😊
In my experience, they resist, they don't happily follow. Even the Bible bears this out.
Seneca, Epictetus,Marcus Aurelius: my all time fave stoic philosophers. 👊💪
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Thanks for coming to the channel! I hope you enjoy the video
I think I am still processing how I lost the battle, but love I won the war. Found peace and happiness. I learnt that I am a pretty coll guy and don't need validation, other then myself. I see so many women want to attack to engage me in a battle for them to take. I chose to retain my ground and live in peace.
That’s a really great insight. Lose the battle, but win the war.
Great content. I appreciate your thoughtful nature. The world needs this.
Good morning. Thanks for sharing today......... headed to my 🤺 fencing class
Good morning!
Great talk John!! Your videos are needed and provide direction and advice to those looking for guidance. Keep up the good work!!
“The fault lies not in the stars… but in ourselves” Shakespeare
Also Felix from the Odd Couple
A man at any age needs to know themselves first. Knowing in my eyes is to respect yourself and second to that is honoring your choices inside your decisions in finding self respect. A man will make good and bad decisions in their life but you will not learn from choices without them. Example: I saw red flags before getting married while dating. I chose at one time to break up the relationship but I was told there was a misunderstanding and decided to get past it. Her not showing up and calling was the issue and there other small things too. When looking back now and adding those issues up the math became confusing, there wasn't a formula in my eyes I could use. That is until I could see the lies, deceit and infidelity. I respected myself enough to bring up issues in the 15 yr marriage but did not honor my self respect enough to stop from marrying her. In the end honor yourself, nobody is perfect. Make sure to honor yourself first before considering marriage. Best of luck.
@18:00
This is what I'm trying to do with my little brother. I don't want him to go full MG.tow because I think it's good for him to learn the goods and the bads from life. In any case, I'm here to guide him in certain things.
Love this message, great uplifting puts in perspective
Glad you enjoyed it!
“Men express empathy through problem solving“ - hit me. I have been accused of not acting responsive to women’s issues in talkative way. Instead I always offer solution, help, certain action to remedy a situation. But it’s never good enough. Women want to talk for hours about it first, and then they look for specific offers and help from you. It’s just exhausting.
I am younger than you, but old enough to have experienced relationships with women and while it made me better, it was the best lesson for not having relationships, so, i cant recommend it to young men, but i understand the urge to try it at least once.
Its a bit like a near death experience, its one of the most elated sensations, but not recommended and not worth the risk.
Also, today's women are mostly evil, unattractive and dangerous, so, i dont even see the likely benefits from a successful relationship. In past generations there was a 50/50 chance, now it seems like a lose lose.
Its all in one's mind is one of the best realizations one can have and women's image is a mans objective projection of it, ask yourselves what part of that image is your own wishful thinking. I say most is.
Healthy masculinity ( and femininity ) begins and ends with self respect. Being aggressive vs passive, selfish vs selfless, are not aligned with self respect; just the opposite. Self respect is assessed internally based on self awareness and self reflection towards all decisions one is about to make. Do each of those decisions make you feel better about yourself or do they make you feel diminished in yourself? This implies that within each of us there is already an internal emotional guidance system that keeps score and that feeds the results to us, if only we are willing to listen to it, as what many refer to as feelings of self esteem and/or self worth. Heed it and you’ll be happy and have peace of mind. Ignore it and you’ll feel miserable, hateful, self hating, etc…. It’s really that simple. Thanks John!
This was a great lesson you shared with us, my friend. I really enjoyed your insight as we attempt to regain our position as strong and intelligent men in today's society. Thank you brother..
Excellent! Thank you, John!
The initial quote from Aurelius during this video is the formula to endure on the current battlefield. Talk to yourself with respect, value your own opinions of yourself over all other opinions.
Thanks for sharing . Remember to watch Doug Casey's take Nov 12 with Michael Yon talking about why American men are NOT marrying American women, because of their drug, alcohol uses, & giving the children pharmaceutical drugs, and benefits of marrying foreign women. Like these men or not they are spot on. Good morning 🌄......... Stay healthy and free guys 😂🎉🎉
Stay single guys! No marriage for us! The Juice not worth the squeeze!
Bill, 26 years old.
MGTOW is not the answer, especially when you are young. We need relationships to grow as men.
If you’re older and you’ve been through it already, that is different.
If you’re young, be open to the idea. That doesn’t mean you have to be actively seeking. Just never say never.
Why make your own mistakes when you can learn from others
@ Definitely learn from others all you can. But you need to experience some things to understand fully.
I agree. I had girlfriends from age 18 to 28 I wouldn't go back and change. But from age 30 onward, men should focus on career, purpose and retirement. Not romantic relationships.
Western "marriage" is a humiliation ritual for men. Enter a contract on your knees that removes your legal, parental and financial rights and makes you a de facto slav3?
Untenable and absurd concept for men today.
Mhig tow does not mean zero contact or relationships, it means maintaining your sovereignty, something knee-takers have forfeited.
Comment deleted because soy tube cannot allow any message counter to the narrative of being a knee-taker. M h i g t o w simply means maintaining your sovereignty, without adhering to the betaization of western "marriage" that NPCs push.
I fight enough battles out in the world to turn around and fight a battle at home. Our grandfathers never did this. The women back then were worthy of a mans commitment because to the peace and family she brought. Now women don't bring peace and they break up family's and the influence a man can have on his progeny. Its just not worth it.
John, I'm confused as in most videos you say being single is better for men but here you say men are better with women! 🤔👍
I think he's saying very young men
I'd say stay single. Most men treat women as a belief, they'd tell anyone to believe no matter what, belief is irrational and when its someone else's its also very confusing and that's humans, listen to what they say, learn, but always filter and trust your guts first.
After a divorce, my friend Dan had just enough money to buy a pie and a cup of coffee at Dennys. He then realized he didn't have a fork, so he stole a fork from dennys. He is still concerned about owing Dennys, but that woman is barely remembered. His kids all come to see him, but she is in some old folks home miserable and alone
For the fixing of some problem it is neccesary to bring it back into the conscious mind, because it is ussually trashed into subconsciousness. Still, you are right, if that proces is not used to solv the problem but just to rethink and overthink it, than the therapy is of no real use.
We aren’t even allowed to have men’s clubs any longer. We need to bring the right of free association back, and have exclusively men’s spaces again, where we can support each other and learn from each other. We also have a right and duty to advocate for men and boy’s welfare, and policies.
Nice dogs I keep security dogs.
Regardless of your political affiliations can someone get John co-opted into the new administration? It’s time.
Loathsome 2 teamers.
He can make his own choice, little man.
Awww, found a butthurt two teamer😂
As far as your doggies John, have you heard of V-dog?
Develop your own ideas. Don’t be an intellectual parrot.
Yes. Don't dismiss the lessons that other people have learned though either.
New ideas are rare, what we deem our own ideas are typically a combination of inputs from others and our own biases created by experience
The only way you can practice masculinity in 2024 is having the wallet otherwise sharing of bills even if you listen to her she can't respect you difficult.
💯 agree with everything you said except Andrew Tate is not a sex trafficker unless it's proven and he is found guilty in court.
I will say, this one got close to being some bad advise, it's your channel, but I see some discrepancies with choice of words. One was a woman can make a better man, let's use a good woman can compliment a man to be better. I don't believe marriage is a good option, not in today culture. So many others in this one that I would question for young guys. Men, find yourself before allowing others in. That includes other men. People will come and go today with how we have travel and media that has never been seen in humanity. 😊
The woman/dog comparison... oof, not good dude.
I know, I was on a roll
Get off your high horse. Men get called dogs all the time.