I went through this when I had to admit that I wasn't the person I had been and I applied for Disability. I used to be a highly functioning person but my disabilities finally caught up with me. Mental health professionals don't recognize either sadness or grief. They just call it "depression" (probably because they have a pill for that).
I’ve noticed recently I’m grieving the life I once had and finding it difficult to come to terms with my life now I’m dealing with a lot of disabilities. It’s very hard daily to carry on knowing u hate how u now are and knowing it’s forever too. But I’m getting there slowly with it.
I never gave up and still knock myself out. Interestingly, people never give me credit for trying so hard, but they take it for granted and expect more from me.
I’m 61. I’ve had both knees replaced 20 years ago. They have titanium to titanium for about 7 years. Very painful. My hips have been getting worn by the titanium knees. Don’t care what people say, I don’t want to walk anymore with my walker. Remember that those titanium knees are glued and screwed to my bones. Every time they grind on each other, it’s pure pain going through my knees my hips my bones. Can’t get pain killers because there’s to many assholes out there abusing the drugs. I was on hydrocodone when I had my surgeries. I would take surgery to fix my knees than get ssd. Less pain.
I have been diagnosed with major depression and general anxiety; however, I do make an effort to live a productive life despite this. I have spinal and neurological issues that are worsening in pain (almost a year at this writing). I make efforts to exercise and pet sit, which I love. I can no longer drive; I am utilizing programs that provide transportation. Some days are better than others. All I can do is present my truth at my CE and psych exams for SSDI next week.
Im going through the process. It is tuff to say the least. I have stress, anxiety but i just keep pushing through. Its hard to come to the realization that i will never be the same strong, super active person i used to be. I go to the gym and do everything i possiblely can and do my therapy stretching. Its very hard and difficult. But i must keep going, like you said you just cant give up. Thanks for the video.
Hi Dr. Foster, I just had my SSDI CE this week and going back for additional X-rays. Upon my initial arrival, the doctor seemed very skeptical. Once I told him specifically where my pain was with clear description, he became more concerned and ordered x-rays. Thank you so much for your videos! They have definitely helped me prepare.
If you don’t mind me asking. Ssa send you to have a CE? I did last year and was denied but after that I started To see a psychiatrist and also counseling from my childhood trauma, anxiety depression and ptsd. Did they approve you because you have specialist for mental health? To which i di not and my regular practitioner was not specialist in behavioral health so i have since corrected this and I’m now under reconsideration. But i also have an autoimmune disorder that has been and continue to be treated by the rheumatologists. I only pray that i get approved this time around. I’m be going broke and loose my home if i have no funds coming in.
I never had a CE…I had plenty of visits and tests and MRI’S, CT scans and X Rays. My depression is long-standing with anxiety. I did not apply for that illness. I have psoriatic arthritis, degenerative issues from neck to tailbone with bulging and herniated discs. My biggest issue are my feet. Tendons flare and swell and arthritis all through. This continued to worsen from age 45 on. A ruptured appendix seemed to make my body go haywire. I have other autoimmune diseases as well. I worked as a pharmacy tech and had to give that up. I then tried 4 other jobs and failed at all. My doctor telling me I was unemployable and disabled put me in a daze of depression and anxiety. I am relieved to have been approved, but I’m only going to worsen not ever get better. You definitely need to see as many specialists as possible and have good records. Keep the faith!!
Truth is prepare for the worst hope and try for the best. Reinvent yourself whether ur be volunteer wirk,art as hobby,just going outdoors relieves,which is normal w pain,mental depression
This was a very helpful video. I have noticed this in myself but when I can get up and do things even while sitting it makes me feel better. One of my issues is my back and I can't stand for 5 minutes without severe pain. I also have other issues and it is good to know others have felt or do feel this way. It is validating to know I am not alone in this feeling. Now to give it my best shot to change this thinking.
@@DisabilityExams maybe that's what I have then. Horrible divorce ripped my children away, and my home. A therapist I met with said I could have PTSD. From the abuser.
I feel that I have something like that too. I’m just not interested in things anymore I don’t even go to the grocery store unless there’s no one else to go. I really don’t like even riding in a car. But I have to try so I can make it to the neurologist appointment. But I always end up getting very upset when I’m in a car riding I don’t have any drivers license anymore either. It’s hard to just get up every day. Not to mention being in a wheelchair. Thanks for your videos ❤
After my stroke my, life was over could no longer do the stuff i did, but i learned to do things different , don't give up! My exam is this Friday 9/13/2024 , wish me luck!
It’s grief, not sadness or depression . brainstem stroke and it’s only a miracle that I am alive and not in a nursing home I did not receive any medical care for eight hours. I was a very outdoorsy person before; that is where I got my enjoyment my exercise my peace. All gone in an instant What did they tell you in the hospital after you have a stroke - that you have six months to work like how to regain some thing after that the window closes and look out because at around one year spasticity sets in and will start to take away any gains you had made. I didn’t just have “bad“ nurses and doctors telling me that I was given printed material in two different hospitals telling me that. There are things I can do to be part of “life“ but I need the people around me to understand that if I’m going to be at a six hour affair such as a family wedding I can’t do anything for the two days before and 2 to 3 days after because I will need to be resting to be on for the whole day. I can’t go to my grandson’s baseball games if it’s over 72° out because I lacked the capacity to control my temperature very well anymore. I could name 100 things that are different and completely out of my control. If you want to understand this issue better I suggest you directly talk with the people that are affected.
And winter is not a relief because winter is one long fall hazard yes I’m grieving my old life, Not every day not all the time but doing ordinary things is a physical struggle and why shouldn’t I be tired at the end of the day from that physical struggle like anybody else who want to work on a given day I think people don’t understand that
@@DisabilityExams if I could give an example because sometimes nowadays words are hard, my grandpa who is like a father to me died in 1982. There’s a hole in my heart that nothing could ever fill where he used to be. Whenever there is news footage of World War II I look for him. Grief is inconsolable. Sadness will not necessarily trivial is momentary considering a lifetime. Depression can be the natural normal result of life events and might accompany grief for a time but unless unless it’s part of another disease process is generally treatable and therefore limited grief is forever. I fully understand the woods and waterfalls and anywhere I used to hike are with some people might consider inanimate things but to me the loss of them grieves me because they cannot be replaced, because losing that ability has taken away family time there’s nothing to substitute with children who want to play outside and you can’t because it’s too hot out, there’s nothing to substitute taking children sledding and you can’t because it’s the fall hazards. And the kids/grandkids don’t understand when you tell them no let’s do this instead they want what they want which is a normal their kids. This doesn’t feel like a full explanation of the grief I feel but it’s the best I can do right now perhaps grief also has much to do with class. Depending what sort of funds you have you could hire help , you could buy fancy gadgets to help me move around safely, you could afford high-speed communications to communicate by visual phone calls the way that children are doing these days and even up to young adults I know that’s not what they’re called but I forget the FaceTime that’s it. Maybe even you could afford bio identical‘s instead of standard psychiatric medicine which causes weekend which causes higher blood pressure which causes more medicine which causes just a vicious circle. I lost my marriage because according to my husband he did not want to deal with sickness the rest of his life his first wife had died and he did not want to sit around and wait for me to die. OK fine his choice but he took his entire family with him. It’s so terribly hard to grieve the living. I don’t sit in my rocking chair in front of my window in my sack cloth and ashes day after day. But my grief is never far from me. Thank you so much for asking I’m sorry my answer was so long I’m not a very short winded person :)
When I was 48 I got 'frozen shoulder syndrome' I woke up one morning and my arms only moved to a certain point, no real pain unless I tried to reach in the backseat of the car; just like the hinge was broken. I had no health insurance cuz I couldn't afford it. And I could no longer do my minimum wage job. Having been healthy up until that point. It really really messed with my head, and I thought what am I going to do!
If going based on the Biopsychosocial model, then it's important to take everything into account. This includes their specific type of personality and temporment, the environment which they're in and what environments they've been in, plus their specific way of thinking. Example: In general, neurotic individuals have a reduced life span compared to consciences people. How each personality, also based on genes, handles the same kind of aliment, maybe completely different since all variables need to be accounted for. As you are aware, I'm sure, one case study may not fit the majority. The more people in a study reducing extraneous variables the stronger the power. I've developed a severe chronic head tremor. How my body handles it and my personality may be different than another person with the same kind of movement disorder.
I’m sure you would have considered the many factors that don’t fit neatly into one size fits all approach JD and I would say that’s where some of the gold nuggets you are looking for are there. If this helps I would say people might want to share but not leave such private information for others to view. Perhaps an email address could be better so you can understand more. Have seen cancer patient heal and move back into life but had a built support system around them also deeply involved with outdoors etc. say someone with CRPS who’s had treatment, unexpected cycles of pain 24/7, no present cures, no support systems then person could feel that life is very limited without respite. Person would understandably struggle with hope and purpose. People who have solid community structures/financial stability have a higher success rate than not. The workcover/disability/ss systems are also contributing factors for patients. Until the whole person is addressed personally and holistically the rates will be low and the patient will slip through the cracks. Hope this helps!
This song is dedicated to you Dr Sherlock 👈🤡 This ain't a song for the broken-hearted No silent prayer for the faith-departed I ain't gonna be just a face in the crowd You're gonna hear my voice When I shout it out loud It's my life It's now or never I ain't gonna live forever I just want to live while I'm alive It's my life My heart is like the open highway Like Frankie said, "I did it my way" I just want to live while I'm alive It's my life This is for the ones who stood their ground It's for Tommy and Gina who never backed down Tomorrow's getting harder, make no mistake Luck ain't enough, you've got to make your own breaks It's my life It's now or never I ain't gonna live forever I just want to live while I'm alive It's my life My heart is like the open highway Like Frankie said, "I did it my way" I just want to live while I'm alive It's my life You better stand tall when they're calling you out Don't bend, don't break, baby, don't back down It's my life It's now or never I ain't gonna live forever I just want to live while I'm alive It's my life My heart is like the open highway Like Frankie said, "I did it my way" I just want to live while I'm alive It's my life !!! 👈🤡
Mmmm....it's one thing to make an observation. Another thing to create a "syndrome" out of something you don't truly understand because you don't live it and it's not your reality.
I went through this when I had to admit that I wasn't the person I had been and I applied for Disability. I used to be a highly functioning person but my disabilities finally caught up with me.
Mental health professionals don't recognize either sadness or grief. They just call it "depression" (probably because they have a pill for that).
Same here …it’s hard to be shell of what you were. We should be sad and depressed.
I am disabled and my life has just begun
I am so tired of dealing with anxiety and depression
I’ve noticed recently I’m grieving the life I once had and finding it difficult to come to terms with my life now I’m dealing with a lot of disabilities. It’s very hard daily to carry on knowing u hate how u now are and knowing it’s forever too. But I’m getting there slowly with it.
We’re all just temporarily able bodied.
I never gave up and still knock myself out. Interestingly, people never give me credit for trying so hard, but they take it for granted and expect more from me.
I’m 61. I’ve had both knees replaced 20 years ago. They have titanium to titanium for about 7 years. Very painful. My hips have been getting worn by the titanium knees. Don’t care what people say, I don’t want to walk anymore with my walker. Remember that those titanium knees are glued and screwed to my bones. Every time they grind on each other, it’s pure pain going through my knees my hips my bones. Can’t get pain killers because there’s to many assholes out there abusing the drugs. I was on hydrocodone when I had my surgeries. I would take surgery to fix my knees than get ssd. Less pain.
I have been diagnosed with major depression and general anxiety; however, I do make an effort to live a productive life despite this. I have spinal and neurological issues that are worsening in pain (almost a year at this writing). I make efforts to exercise and pet sit, which I love. I can no longer drive; I am utilizing programs that provide transportation. Some days are better than others. All I can do is present my truth at my CE and psych exams for SSDI next week.
Im going through the process. It is tuff to say the least. I have stress, anxiety but i just keep pushing through. Its hard to come to the realization that i will never be the same strong, super active person i used to be. I go to the gym and do everything i possiblely can and do my therapy stretching. Its very hard and difficult. But i must keep going, like you said you just cant give up. Thanks for the video.
Hi Dr. Foster, I just had my SSDI CE this week and going back for additional X-rays. Upon my initial arrival, the doctor seemed very skeptical. Once I told him specifically where my pain was with clear description, he became more concerned and ordered x-rays.
Thank you so much for your videos! They have definitely helped me prepare.
Thanks for the confirmation. I also do disability exams, and your videos are often very helpful.
I’ve been approved, I felt a little relief at first. I felt deep depression once I applied. I am back to feeling depressed at my situation.
If you don’t mind me asking. Ssa send you to have a CE? I did last year and was denied but after that I started To see a psychiatrist and also counseling from my childhood trauma, anxiety depression and ptsd. Did they approve you because you have specialist for mental health? To which i di not and my regular practitioner was not specialist in behavioral health so i have since corrected this and I’m now under reconsideration. But i also have an autoimmune disorder that has been and continue to be treated by the rheumatologists. I only pray that i get approved this time around. I’m be going broke and loose my home if i have no funds coming in.
I never had a CE…I had plenty of visits and tests and MRI’S, CT scans and X Rays. My depression is long-standing with anxiety. I did not apply for that illness. I have psoriatic arthritis, degenerative issues from neck to tailbone with bulging and herniated discs. My biggest issue are my feet. Tendons flare and swell and arthritis all through. This continued to worsen from age 45 on. A ruptured appendix seemed to make my body go haywire. I have other autoimmune diseases as well. I worked as a pharmacy tech and had to give that up. I then tried 4 other jobs and failed at all. My doctor telling me I was unemployable and disabled put me in a daze of depression and anxiety. I am relieved to have been approved, but I’m only going to worsen not ever get better.
You definitely need to see as many specialists as possible and have good records. Keep the faith!!
Truth is prepare for the worst hope and try for the best.
Reinvent yourself whether ur be volunteer wirk,art as hobby,just going outdoors relieves,which is normal w pain,mental depression
This was a very helpful video. I have noticed this in myself but when I can get up and do things even while sitting it makes me feel better. One of my issues is my back and I can't stand for 5 minutes without severe pain. I also have other issues and it is good to know others have felt or do feel this way. It is validating to know I am not alone in this feeling. Now to give it my best shot to change this thinking.
There is no timeline on grieving. Ive heard comments from people still grieving the death of a dog, a DOG!!!, some ten or twenty years later
So people encounter difficulties and get "stuck" - they can't process it and move on. Severe post traumatic stress disorder is an example of that.
@@DisabilityExams maybe that's what I have then. Horrible divorce ripped my children away, and my home. A therapist I met with said I could have PTSD. From the abuser.
I feel that I have something like that too. I’m just not interested in things anymore I don’t even go to the grocery store unless there’s no one else to go. I really don’t like even riding in a car. But I have to try so I can make it to the neurologist appointment. But I always end up getting very upset when I’m in a car riding I don’t have any drivers license anymore either. It’s hard to just get up every day. Not to mention being in a wheelchair. Thanks for your videos ❤
love yourself and know there are others who understand you. i wish you peace and happiness.
After my stroke my, life was over could no longer do the stuff i did, but i learned to do things different , don't give up! My exam is this Friday 9/13/2024 , wish me luck!
Your life is not over, your life has changed.
It’s grief, not sadness or depression . brainstem stroke and it’s only a miracle that I am alive and not in a nursing home I did not receive any medical care for eight hours. I was a very outdoorsy person before; that is where I got my enjoyment my exercise my peace. All gone in an instant
What did they tell you in the hospital after you have a stroke - that you have six months to work like how to regain some thing after that the window closes and look out because at around one year spasticity sets in and will start to take away any gains you had made. I didn’t just have “bad“ nurses and doctors telling me that I was given printed material in two different hospitals telling me that. There are things I can do to be part of “life“ but I need the people around me to understand that if I’m going to be at a six hour affair such as a family wedding I can’t do anything for the two days before and 2 to 3 days after because I will need to be resting to be on for the whole day. I can’t go to my grandson’s baseball games if it’s over 72° out because I lacked the capacity to control my temperature very well anymore. I could name 100 things that are different and completely out of my control. If you want to understand this issue better I suggest you directly talk with the people that are affected.
And winter is not a relief because winter is one long fall hazard yes I’m grieving my old life, Not every day not all the time but doing ordinary things is a physical struggle and why shouldn’t I be tired at the end of the day from that physical struggle like anybody else who want to work on a given day I think people don’t understand that
I'd be interested to know how you differentiate grief, sadness, and depression.
@@DisabilityExams if I could give an example because sometimes nowadays words are hard, my grandpa who is like a father to me died in 1982. There’s a hole in my heart that nothing could ever fill where he used to be. Whenever there is news footage of World War II I look for him. Grief is inconsolable. Sadness will not necessarily trivial is momentary considering a lifetime. Depression can be the natural normal result of life events and might accompany grief for a time but unless unless it’s part of another disease process is generally treatable and therefore limited grief is forever.
I fully understand the woods and waterfalls and anywhere I used to hike are with some people might consider inanimate things but to me the loss of them grieves me because they cannot be replaced, because losing that ability has taken away family time there’s nothing to substitute with children who want to play outside and you can’t because it’s too hot out, there’s nothing to substitute taking children sledding and you can’t because it’s the fall hazards. And the kids/grandkids don’t understand when you tell them no let’s do this instead they want what they want which is a normal their kids. This doesn’t feel like a full explanation of the grief I feel but it’s the best I can do right now perhaps grief also has much to do with class. Depending what sort of funds you have you could hire help , you could buy fancy gadgets to help me move around safely, you could afford high-speed communications to communicate by visual phone calls the way that children are doing these days and even up to young adults I know that’s not what they’re called but I forget the FaceTime that’s it. Maybe even you could afford bio identical‘s instead of standard psychiatric medicine which causes weekend which causes higher blood pressure which causes more medicine which causes just a vicious circle.
I lost my marriage because according to my husband he did not want to deal with sickness the rest of his life his first wife had died and he did not want to sit around and wait for me to die. OK fine his choice but he took his entire family with him. It’s so terribly hard to grieve the living.
I don’t sit in my rocking chair in front of my window in my sack cloth and ashes day after day. But my grief is never far from me.
Thank you so much for asking I’m sorry my answer was so long I’m not a very short winded person :)
When I was 48 I got 'frozen shoulder syndrome' I woke up one morning and my arms only moved to a certain point, no real pain unless I tried to reach in the backseat of the car; just like the hinge was broken. I had no health insurance cuz I couldn't afford it. And I could no longer do my minimum wage job. Having been healthy up until that point. It really really messed with my head, and I thought what am I going to do!
If going based on the Biopsychosocial model, then it's important to take everything into account. This includes their specific type of personality and temporment, the environment which they're in and what environments they've been in, plus their specific way of thinking. Example: In general, neurotic individuals have a reduced life span compared to consciences people. How each personality, also based on genes, handles the same kind of aliment, maybe completely different since all variables need to be accounted for.
As you are aware, I'm sure, one case study may not fit the majority. The more people in a study reducing extraneous variables the stronger the power.
I've developed a severe chronic head tremor. How my body handles it and my personality may be different than another person with the same kind of movement disorder.
I’m sure you would have considered the many factors that don’t fit neatly into one size fits all approach JD and I would say that’s where some of the gold nuggets you are looking for are there.
If this helps I would say people might want to share but not leave such private information for others to view.
Perhaps an email address could be better so you can understand more.
Have seen cancer patient heal and move back into life but had a built support system around them also deeply involved with outdoors etc.
say someone with CRPS who’s had treatment, unexpected cycles of pain 24/7, no present cures, no support systems then person could feel that life is very limited without respite.
Person would understandably struggle with hope and purpose.
People who have solid community structures/financial stability have a higher success rate than not.
The workcover/disability/ss systems are also contributing factors for patients.
Until the whole person is addressed personally and holistically the rates will be low and the patient will slip through the cracks.
Hope this helps!
Catastrophication?
God Bless in Jesus Christ Name.
There fucking meds created my problem 10 fold
Same
Viagra?
@@DisabilityExams LOL not in my case
@@DisabilityExams benzo killed me
This song is dedicated to you Dr Sherlock 👈🤡
This ain't a song for the broken-hearted
No silent prayer for the faith-departed
I ain't gonna be just a face in the crowd
You're gonna hear my voice
When I shout it out loud
It's my life
It's now or never
I ain't gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive
It's my life
My heart is like the open highway
Like Frankie said, "I did it my way"
I just want to live while I'm alive
It's my life
This is for the ones who stood their ground
It's for Tommy and Gina who never backed down
Tomorrow's getting harder, make no mistake
Luck ain't enough, you've got to make your own breaks
It's my life
It's now or never
I ain't gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive
It's my life
My heart is like the open highway
Like Frankie said, "I did it my way"
I just want to live while I'm alive
It's my life
You better stand tall when they're calling you out
Don't bend, don't break, baby, don't back down
It's my life
It's now or never
I ain't gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive
It's my life
My heart is like the open highway
Like Frankie said, "I did it my way"
I just want to live while I'm alive
It's my life !!! 👈🤡
Mmmm....it's one thing to make an observation. Another thing to create a "syndrome" out of something you don't truly understand because you don't live it and it's not your reality.