How to be alone and enjoy it
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- Опубліковано 24 гру 2018
- How to be alone and enjoy it. It's been referred to as solitude by choice or being intermittently social. This is one of the ways I unplug and have learned the art of solitude. I tend to choose to be alone on holidays. After divorce, I had no choice and got sympathy invites from friends. Then I learned to be alone and enjoy it and now choose it often. It helped me be "The Stable Stoic" on what would normally have been a lonely holiday. This is what works for me.
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Being alone is very dangerous Mr. Bruno. I have realised how peaceful it is, and now I prefer being alone than being around energy drainers
Being alone too long will send you bonkers. I know this from personal experience
@@cassidynajim8937 Bc some ppl are alone so long they fall into bad habits. Hygiene, stubbornness..many things n tics. Living with another, u must bring and accept compromise. Where b4 u didnt have to compromise anything. Just did whatever u wanted 😉 Being alone is fine..if it's about growth, self love n self care ❤💖🧡💚
BALANCE is the magic word, as always. Too much "not alone" is just as bad as too much aloneness is. That's a trap many people fall into: They think "if A is bad for me, then the opposite of A must be good for me." Nope. It's always about how you balance things out, and there also is not "one right balance" (like 70% this, 30% that) to be found, but you ALWAYS, for your whole life, have to balance things out again according to what fits NOW.
I have lived alone for years, and I find it necessary to have a few disciplines. It orients your days, and prevents you from slipping into lassitude. Of course, I do see friends and have a large family, so there is always someone to call. I could never be a hermit, though.
Very dangerous to what? I am from Macedonia and I have been traveling to many mountains in my country without seeing wild animals.
"There is no such thing as bad weather, there's only being inappropriately dressed." I need to get some better jackets.
Thermals that moisture wick and anything like grundens that are wind and water proof muck boots you'll be happy, I work on the water year round some days a high of 11 degrees Fahrenheit and I'm usually coming home warm and happy.
Hot weather is bad weather in my opinion. It's much harder to cool down on a hot summers day then to warm in a cold winter. At least that's how it is in England. I know are architecture is specifically designed to keep heat in whereas in places like Australia the architecture is designed to let it out.
That's the most perfect beard i've ever seen in my life
i think it's bleached
♆ Satan ♆ Behemoth!
@V8 Jesus hasnt washed his beard since he died, we really don't.... believe me. We need the Santa looking nature man.
@Light Thanks Yagami.
@@johnnydurham3227 ;)
I unfortunately have very toxic family members. I decided to spend x-mas alone. It was the most peaceful x-mas I have ever had. Good message! :)
Can definitely relate
Can relate, cut my toxic cancerous family out 6 years ago. Best decision and also looking back has been the first step in becoming unstuck.
My family is also toxic. My only regrets? All those holidays I wasted trying to warm up to parents and siblings who are incapable of love. I should've written them off at 17 when I moved out of the house. I didn't start cutting them off until I was in my 30s.
Now that I avoid them altogether, I've noticed they get even nastier to each other as they get older. The backbiting, shit talking, passive agressive behavior...I don't miss it one bit. It's like watching vultures who run out of prey and start cannabalizing each other.
But, in the name of "tradition" and "family", they still get together every holiday, like some kind of phony Norman Rockwell painting, so they can continue the facade of a "happy family." Ugghh...so glad I got away from them, never procreated and now, short of leaving the country, put as much distance between me and them as possible. Best thing I ever did.
Just got home from family holidays. They aren't that bad but it's still pretty boring and miserable. Glad to be home. Told the wife we are going to mexico next year instead.
Feels good I am not alone with this situation/mindset. Wish you guys happy holidays. Hope to see more content on how to be alone without feeling lonely
I like being alone. If I get bored I can always find something to do.
I love your videos, I’m 15 years old and really enjoying this peaceful vibe. Thanks
@@kenwilliamsvoice it doesn't at all 😂
Copasetic Arts I take it Santa didn’t bring you what you wanted little buddy?
@tyson no fury that's where I'm at , just turned 25 .. Holy fucking shit 😂😎
@@cassidynajim8937 nah more like realizing everything they told you was a lie & not only is it a lie but 9 out of 10 people are fucking stupid lmao
@Bob Ross i think you already figured life out on a saturday morning mr. not bob ross lmao
Took me a year to master this skill and boy oh boy, it was the best skill I taught to myself, the ability to enjoy being alone, I sure need some interaction from time to time as we are social beings, but whatever happens I know that being able to be happy in solitude will save me from any kind of failure. Its one of the most important skills every man must learn.
Do not be afraid to be alone. You dont need a woman to validate you. It should be supplemental to your life, not mandatory.
💪🏾
I've been MGTOWing it for a while. At first, when my last relationship ended, I was so bored I was climbing the walls, then after about a few months I really started to enjoy it. I never realized how much a woman in my life was like having static in my head. Now my thinking is much more clear and focused.
Cities are a scorned place, a swirling ball of negative energy
my dad is 70 he rides 100 to 500 miles a week on a mountain bike he still sleeps in woods ditches and old buildings and stays out for 2 nights to 14 nights HIS 70
@Van Hellsing i think the less you own the more better off you are im about ready to be hitching across America in winter
@Van Hellsing Not cool
@Van Hellsing lol you dont know the rules of the road trust me I can hold my own
@Van Hellsing you have some problems... i suggest u get some peace, instead of trying to rid it off of others
Your dad is a hobo, shouldnt be proud that he is 70 and a hobo
Being an introvert with on-demand extrovert abilities, I thoroughly enjoy solitude. Being alone with my thoughts (and a good cigar, and/or spirit) keeps my spirit alive and thriving. Great video George.
NAILED IT you can come prey at my feet worthy one and one day reach true enlightenment...90% of time is alone time unless forced to put up with others working always train work out alone walk alone go sight seeing alone do not spend to entertain learn and be at peace to entertain ones self LIVE MGTOW PUMP N DUMP OR MONK keep females at arms length,,i spend all my time alone be it pc console shopping walking power walking jogging long bath soaks heat and cold therapy creaming up my face a face mask going to coming from work I WORK WHEN I CHOOSE TO..and i mix with a few freinds SOCIALISING LOL BEING OUT ALL THE TIME LOL NEEDING FAKE FRIENDS LOL THINKING A ROOM FULL OF STnger drunk spending money = a life
wrong its all in are heads everything outside of us CAN FUKING STAY THERE iam a centanal being a energy being trapped inside a prison body i live to fed that spirit inside not the evil on the outside in this world THATS WERE THERE ALL GOING WRONG...
This sums me uo to a tee. 👍
Lonestar i love “introvert with on-demand extrovert abilities” i’ve never heard anyone say that and I couldn’t relate more
People can be one big fucking energy drain.
sorry but no, there is no such thing as fully being an intro/extrovert. We all posses both qualities and can act out those abilities or said behaviour since it's required for survival. The correct statement is '' you live life mostly with extro/introverted tendenies and act out otherwise at will''
This does not make you one or the other since there is no such thing as being one thing.
It's a misconception created by speech and the illusion of being something rigid.
Which in actuality is a flawed premis since we are always and never not in the state of becoming, moving and growing to cells of energy.
You like alot of others characterize with such label making it something to be proud of/show of disversation through or even to connect. Which is all fine and dandy but in actuality it's just a natural stating of patern like needing sleep so you can wake up. Some sleep more because they like to sleep more. so basically it's preferance sure some are less confident causing them to be more introverted when socializing. but that still winds down tothe choices made to break that cycle or not. So in litteral sense you said '' i choose to be more introverted but can choose to not be whenever i want'' And if you really need to charge up and get depleted of energy after a period of time socializing. it's not because you are introverted its because you live like one and therefore are not used to it. Just like if you would go rock climbing stopped for 5 years and then said well now whenever i climb i choose to quit rather soon because i get tired real easily cause i try to keep up with george over there who has climbed everyday the 5 years i barely did. Ughh stupid other people causing me to get tired so easily. George isnt trying to make you tired he is just doing his best at what hese there to do at that moment not cause he needs to because he wants to. And if you dont want to climb then dont it isnt a must but then dont get upset when others judge you when they ask why you arent joining the climb sesh.
Not claiming u have this problem but i see alot of people have. But because of the name lonestar plus comment i felt rather inclined to write this comment.
remember a time in your childhood when you believed the smart kids in school were less fit and the jocks were less smart, or something like that. If you didn't feel that way you recognize some kids did.
but we all now know as adults there is anti-correlation between athletes and high grades in school, and between people with high grades and athletic ability.
But you wouldn't say biology caused the correlation. You'd say social pressures did and point out many counterexamples--fit people with high grades. or simply by seeing one thing not necesairy or usefull for the way you plan your life going.
as so with intro/extroversion
You are always alone, even at work, with family, and friends, marriage. Enjoy yourself people.
Pathetic 😂
@@fressejetzt840 Denial...
@B B no shit Sherlock
@B B And that is what makes humanity so beautiful.
Mauro Villarreal You’re always alone yes, but being away from people is what he means by alone as more people who aren’t awoken to anything will understand that definition of alone.
I remember when my ex wife said to me "you don't get lonely", I replied no. Men by nature are better at being alone than women, but in today's world it's getting less and less. Men are adventurous by nature and need that stimulus for well being.
Cool as video cat!
Male loneliness is a much larger issue in Western society than for women though.
@@MyUniqueHandle. These are really weird generalizations your making.
@@pandaprince7677 What im saying more and more men arent buying into marriage or a family because of family court laws, so men arent looking for partners. It is well known that men have better friend groups than women, they dont have a brotherhood like men do. Why wifes doesnt like her husband hanging out with his mates because shes envious. Not really a generalisation when women even admit it. So i predict women will be very lonely in the coming decade, since they usually derive happiness through family. Men can find happiness through different means.
@@MyUniqueHandle. "What im saying more and more men arent buying into marriage or a family because of family court laws, so men arent looking for partners"
Neither are women:
www.pbs.org/wgbh/third-rail/episodes/episode-7-is-marriage-dead/why-are-fewer-people-getting-married/
time.com/money/4268954/women-wages-marriage-rates/
"it is well known that men have better friend groups than women, they dont have a brotherhood like men do."
Sorry that's not what the science says:
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-art-closeness/201601/3-surprising-truths-about-gender-and-loneliness
'a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology showed, men generally reported feeling less lonely when their friend groups were more “dense,” whereas women showed little correlation between feelings of loneliness and friend group density. In other words, for men, it seems to be more about quantity. For women, it’s more about quality.'
www.independent.co.uk/life-style/single-men-women-relationship-pressures-bachelors-loneliness-social-pressure-survey-research-a8103111.html
home.bt.com/lifestyle/wellbeing/why-are-men-lonelier-than-women-a-new-initiative-hopes-to-combat-male-loneliness-11364016917631
Your experiences, while valid, are only anecdotal.
I love being alone, most people I met in my life are haters who just hate you for no reason and if they can they will try to ruin something in your life, others are jealous if you are better at anything than them, some just want to use you for something etc...
But wherever i went the first ones were always there, i was always hated and disliked by someone for no reason, so being around people is overrated... I wish i could be alone forever.
I feel like I've known this dude my whole life. I know that's not reality, but sages are always welcome.
I ONCE took LSD and layed on a forest floor and fully embraced the feeling of connection you described as being in contact with the earth. An experience I can never forget, and have a new appreciation for. Trees used to be just trees, and water was just water. There is more to it, and words are not ment to describe it.
@@Love4life527 Haha. Yes you are right, drugs are bad. However, I did not advertise the use of drugs in my comment my friend, so your comment is pointless. Everybody has their own experiences, and you arent in a position to manipulate the course of life which varies from person to person. We are all here together buddy, nobody is better than anyone else. Take care and happy new year 😊
@@Love4life527 My comment was based off of a personal experience that I related to what George had mentioned in the video. Where In my comment did I say that you had ought to try LSD to achieve these feelings for nature? Did I not agree with you that drugs are indeed bad? Have you fed yourself up with worry from a comment on a youtube channel that has nothing to do with you? And how do you know that I dont work with kids who struggle with addiction? I think you are greatly confused my friend, you dont know a thing about me. As for advertisements, since its apparent you dont know what advertisements are, I will give you an example. Lets say you have an acne problem, a typical advertisement of a product or substance would go as shown,
"Do you hate the pimples and black heads on your face, and cant seem to take care of them, then you need to buy and try "product/substance!"
Now, in relation to my example, where did I say something that correlates to someone having problems connecting with their natural surroundings, and advertising that they try LSD to aid in the connection?
I didn't. I think youre giving yourself the wrong idea.
@@Love4life527 Drugs are baaaaaaaad, you sound like a sheep, open your mind.
@@Love4life527 Lol so do I, I used to be vegan and do plenty of exercise. I don't abuse drugs, I only use them to explore my mind and sometimes have fun bc why not.
@Van Hellsing would be better if drugs were legal so we could know what they contained and didn't have rely on shady dealers.
I'm a divorced 62 yr old male who has spent the last 10 yrs alone. I self reliant and love my independance and solitide. .Perhaps someday I will be blessed with a wife.
Select wisely and be in no hurry. Marrying the wrong person will be way worse than loneliness.
Carlos Gonzalez man that’s depressing. Keep going out man.
old fart
no, dont get married. Enjoy life!
Carlos Gonzalez you sound like you're doing great. The main thing is 2 not be super needy. You're cool Kickin It by yourself. That's the first step. If nothing changes, you're still good. Take your time, be picky. I'm not saying play games, but don't just let some bitch in too soon. Run at the first sign of pushing us. It's amazing how many wonderful men out there are in the claws of crazy women. Soul of what you have going on, and move carefully when considering Romance. The slower you move, the less distance you have to retreat if need be. Good Tidings to you sir!
I am a semi loner,I need my alone time but we are social/tribal animals,we need each other,alone for too long makes you a social outcast,makes it hard to function properly with others. Balance is key.
Couldn’t have said it better
I tend to pick up on people's energy. I am naturally at peace when i am alone, it's the other negative energy of others that put me down, people telling me what i am, always correcting me to let me know I'm wrong and trying to control me like some damn robot, but i push all that aside and mentally clear my head so to not let the negative energy pick up on me, sometimes it's just really hard to block that "crap". I'm only 25, but been like this my whole life., being very sensitive that is. I love listening to your words of wisdom and watching you go out and be at peace. I wish to be even more like this when i am old. Just getting away and to be alone is what i truly feel, But to make it in this modern world, you need people, but i am an extreme introvert that has a hard time dealing with the bull-crap that people run me through, well, just because i see through it all, and i always have that feeling that comes back and the anxiety takes over. I have issues, i know this. These videos are like a sort of "therapy" for me. Thank you George for being here, i truly appreciate what you are doing for people.
I feel like this at times and used to feel it way more. Before you can be happy alone, you need to overcome your anxiety around people. Otherwise being alone becomes avoiding social situations and you can't be happy like that.
Greg Foster same here and same age! Lol
Beautiful! When I lived on a farm in my younger days, when overcome by daily life and routine, I would go into the woods and build a small canopy out of fallen limbs and brush, sit inside it and let Nature soothe my ills! I would spend most of the day there in quiet solitude and contemplation! I passed this practice on to my sons who, thankfully, didn't think Dad had weird rituals! This practice boosted my spirits and enriched me on many occasions! Thanks for allowing me on your adventure!
I'm a woman who is trying to find myself and my happiness, I feel like I've been alone all my life
I am alone too. Don't worry and everything will be fine
@@guya5352 I try my best. Thank you 💝
Thanks again GB! Once again you come through for me. Wife left me last week and im alone and healing over the holidays.
Dan Hoff hey man I wish you well and that you heal nicely. Good luck in 2019...
@Reginald Dove my guess its the ultimate way to "hurt" you on a day that is meant to be about joy and happiness
.the ex was obviously toxic so glad you can be free now
"Who are you giving your heart to that does not deserve it"
Powerful message.
Fantastic Video. When you can be alone, you gain self confidence. When you have self confidence you attract good energy, people, etc.
say that rob
A comment from an old fart in his sixties.. Life long bachelor with no kids. Professional job, seven figure portfilio on a middle class job. Don't get married unless it's obvious it's true love. And I mean obvious. I spent this Christmas day alone. It was peaceful, joyful, productive and satisfy. Had fun cooking in the kitchen.
There's a massive difference between being alone and lonely. Once you learn the difference, you'll totally understand why I said it.
I'm still open to romance with a woman, but don't need it.
Merry Christmas to all my MGTOW brethren!
Yes there is a difference between being alone and lonely I wish I learned 30+ years ago.
Sound advice. My first marriage was a one sided disaster, my second ended with her death but was a perfect melding of like minds and ambition, very rare. I'm staring down the barrel at 62, see absolutely no reason to risk everything I've accumulated over a piece of paper and gold band.
@@19thunderball57 Women say they get married for security, but getting divorced is so easy these days with no fault divorce that it makes a man ask himself what's so secure about marriage. There's no guarantee your spouse will work, respect you, become a druggie, go crazy, or stayed married to you. Where's the security? It's an illusion. Nothing in life is secure.
@Amin
One that doesn't expect you to kiss her ass or no pussy for you. An alpha male is a gentleman, but not a pussywhip! It's okay to pass on sex. You'll respect yourself.
@@mlkefisher5382
But you've learned, correct? Settling for a woman not worthy of you so as to not be lonely and hoping to get sex on a reasonable amount of the time ends up being a soul destroyer for a man. You'll likely end up being a beast of burden. All about her and nothing about you.
Lesson? Be a worthy man! If not there yet, keep trying to improve. Improvement is not contingent upon a woman's affirmation.
I have no friends and love my solitude. I also go hiking often. It's great. I'd rather be alone than be surrounded by fake, superficial people who are energy vampires. I'm done trying to fit in and make genuine friends. Being alone is great when you've got great hobbies to entertain yourself with.
Hey. Hope you are doing well. Salutari.
Looks peaceful. I was chatting with one of my late wife's oncologists one afternoon years ago and inquired how he dealt with all the sadness and death on a daily basis. His method was backpacking off into the Olympic or Cascade mountains by himself every chance he got. Said that and his camera was his way of decompressing.
I've noticed being around women in nature it seems that they are always ready to go. When around men in nature it seems they don't want to go but stay longer. Why is that? Has anyone noticed this?
As a man aware of how the modern world works and as someone who has spent time in the outdoors, I love this video. Sometimes a man has to get in touch with nature to find peace and balance on the inside.
I'm also glad you discussed appropriate risk management and safety in this video. Just a good sweet spot between not being naive about the hazards found in the environment while not being so risk averse about enjoying its riches.
Happy Holidays!
The mountains of Pennsylvania brought me so much peace growing up. The dense mountain Laurel, the rolling mountain creeks and streams, the deep hollows filled with oaks, maples, and poplar, the burst of wing beats from a Ruffed Grouse, the crash of a deer ahead, the flash of a native Brook Trout in a stream, the peaceful distant roar of winds sweeping across the ridges and down the mountainsides.... all things that take me back to being a kid again.
I spent a lot of time in the forest growing up hunting, fishing, or just hiking. Away from the prying eyes of people and in the realm of the curious Chickadee lighting on limbs beside you to sing their song like a child telling you a story, the Nuthatches and woodpeckers playing the forest magicians hiding acorns in the most impossible places, the industrious grey squirrel systematically moving from tree to tree snipping and dropping acorns, butternuts, walnuts and beech nuts, and the ever wary whitetail deer whose prying eyes and near perfect nose was hard for anything to escape the attention of. I was so lucky to essentially grow up in the forest. My time alone made me much of what I am today.
Nothing is as sweetly valuable as an ever-available, living and humbly wise UA-cam grandfather. You Rock, sir.
Always love getting to watch your videos. As a young man, turning 20 in a week, these videos always fill me with enlightenment. I've found that many of your videos have helped me with problems I face in my life and have allowed me to realize a path for myself. Thank you and a Merry Christmas!
George, it must feel good to have honest men waiting for your next video. Keep it up brother. It is one of my goals to meet you!
I am 15 and unbearably lonely, there is a fine line between being alone and lonely, lonely is when your like me, no friends, never been with a girl or kissed one and this is the time when people should be with their friends
And also with you George!!! Ty for being a stand up..to help men AND women put their best foot forward. Lots of love 😁🤗💛 Light n Love
I left my first job two days ago, and as you said I needed to put my foot down, I got stuck with that job, stuck in life, nothing was happening. Thanks George you made me feel much better about my decision. Will focus only on myself and growing my side hustle into a successful business. Happy holidays.
YES! I can totally relate to this. I'm a frequent solotraveller. Last year, I spent 5 nights in Iceland, completely alone, to film a personal passion project (on my channel). I just slept and ate in a car... It wasn't the most comfortable, but it was definitely a surreal and beautiful experience; I'd recommend anyone to try solotravelling at least once in their lifetime! Solitude can teach you many things about yourself. :)
Well said!
It's so weird George, a lot of the videos you post speak to me at where I am at in life at different times. Currently going through a rough breakup with a woman I cared a lot about but she doesn't appreciate anything we had shared in our relationship. Just how she could turn out to be such opposite person from how she was in 7 months will always behoove me.
A woman will never love you in a way that you would like to be loved. Read the Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi my friend. Be strong it'll passed
I so relate. 11 months ... then poof she's done. I'm heartbroken
You're better off with out her bro
gun1911 Behooves? I think you might mean ‘befuddles’. As for the woman, be aware there are many, many personality disordered people out there and they only see others as objects to serve their needs; who we are, our needs and boundaries don’t matter, in fact they are a pain in the arse to these people. Consider it a lesson the universe is trying to get you to understand. It usually goes something like this: firstly, don’t be mistaken; evil walks among us. Secondly, the unconditional love we seek in others can only come from and for ourselves.
Seven months can leave a welt or two. Ouch. It hurts like hell and takes some time to recover from, but it will happen. Feel sorry for those who invested two years (my case) or even decades of their lives with a house, job and children in jeopardy. Peace and all the best.
I know what you're going through, guys. A month ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 5 and a half years. Well, she broke up with me. The apparent reason being that she started insisting more and more on 'more commitment', like living together etc, but she has kids from a previous relationship (I have a kid of my own from a previous marriage too), and raising someone else's kids and taking up responsibilities I don't want at this stage of my life, is something I will NOT be bullied into doing. I had made this very clear from the start of our relationship, even at the stage when it was still just casual dating.
Anyway, despite knowing my intentions, she of course tried to change my mind several times. Once she saw that won't work, she decided 'she didn't feel the same way about me any longer'. I did see it coming at the back of my mind, but you're still a bit taken aback when it 'suddenly' hits. And 5 years is a considerable amount of time. You do get attached and develop feelings for the other person.
Anyway, that was it, she called me to say she wanted to break up, and basically we broke off all contact almost immediately. Yesterday I thought I'd do the decent thing and texted her 'Merry Christmas'. She didn't even acknowledge or reply! By the evening I did send her another text with "So not even a simple greeting out of common decency, now? lol .. this is laughable" or something like that. I admit I was pissed and let it get to me a little.
This coldness and callousness from a woman who for the last several years - and up to a couple days before she decided to break up - would tell me 'I love you' every day, wanted to talk on the phone and chat online all the time, and for all intents and purposes couldn't get enough of me! Once they flick that switch in their mind, you'll be amazed how quickly they can erase you from their consciousness.
Lessons learned:
- As has been said already, she's never yours. It just happens to be your turn, right now. Enjoy it while it lasts.
- Women love opportunistically. As soon as she resigned herself to the fact that she won't be getting more provisioning from me than I'm willing to give, she decided to look for greener pastures. Women only love you for what they think you can do for them.
- She could profess her love for you a hundred times a day, but don't be fooled. It's just a fleeting feeling that can change completely at the drop of a hat. It's a smoke screen. A woman's words are worth less than nothing. Only her actions count.
I hope you had a good Christmas and wish you the best for the coming new year, gentlemen. Oh, and thanks, George, for yet another great video. They do help make certain tough times a bit more bearable. :)
Hey George, love your channel! I have often thought about doing a hike like this. You are so right about it being a great way to heal. Thanks for what you do!
I’m just realizing I watched this video maybe years ago, and that I’m just now subscribed to your channel and watching you regularly. The greatest battle for me has been to be able to enjoy my time alone and not crave that relationship to fill gaps in me.....
Merry Christmas! Thanks for the continual words of wisdom.
Great vid. I hiked Mt. Rainier alone for years mainly due to most trails being vertical and friends were lazy lol. I was on a trail once and saw a cool downed tree about 40 yards off the trail. Walked over to it took some pictures looked around and no trail. I remained calm focused trying to remember my walk path and found the trail again but forest hiking is no joke. You can literally get lost walking a few feet off the trail.
One of my favorite GB videos! Genuine.
So true on the earth healing!! That’s exactly why I chased a career change at 40 and went into horticulture! Everywhere I live I study native edibles! Survival skills etc. Just made it to Longwood gardens for the first time a few years back! Beautiful countryside. Reminded me of the Northwest a little with all the rhododendrons! I’m new to your channel, Love finding your older videos. I’m a young 55 and raised by a single abusive mother. You are the father I wished I’d had! Sure would have saved me from some hard lessons. Incredible seeing comments from a 15 yr old young man finding peace in watching your videos! Speaks volumes for how you’re touching people’s lives! Keep making content sir! Lots of lost men looking to find peace these days!
Thank you George and Merry Christmas! Always feel that Antaeus mythology working when in nature, having to touch ruffle earth, rocks, fallen leaves to re-energize.
I love this! Being alone in nature or wherever is the best way to recharge the batteries you need for social life, at least thats how I imagine it.
Im under 18 from England and I love that there are other people who also who enjoy being alone in the outdoors as much as I do!
Nature heals me so much, especially when I'm depressed . go out in the park (at dark) and just be by myself. amazing stuff brother
I love the waterfalls and the running water. Listening with headphones and I could almost taste it and smell the area.
That looks like a very enjoyable yet tranquil getaway.
Every time I watched your video, it's meditating. I felt a clam and peace. I'm looking forward to be comfortable by myself in the future. With love and happiness, may you have a great new year!
I agree with the healing. I live in Central Florida now, I tend to go to the beach in the afternoons and sit with my feet in the sand and watch the sunset. I call it my filter and charger for the soul!
I'm originally from south jersey, I thought that was PA right before you said it! Beautiful. Great post!
George, this is my 3rd Christmas alone and this one was really the toughest. However! I also like going for a hike here in Colorado. But the thing that I am very excited about is, I ordered a metal detector! I metal detected with my family in Wisconsin as a kid. I have been watching many, many metal detecting videos on UA-cam and I am very excited. I love history, and to find old coins or relics would be thrilling! To hold something that another person held 50,100 or 200 years ago is really something to me. And, to be out in nature itself. My dad found some civil war relics and a Admiral Dewey coin in his front yard. I'm going to be 46 very soon, and to go metal detecting with my pipe would be ideal. Merry Christmas, and Peace be with you.
have fun buddy! it sounds exciting
but as with everything, it needs patience
@@nikosorf4250 Thank you sir, I have been out detecting and it is exciting! I have found lots of junk, but I have also found coins, a ring, and even a buried, long forgotten bottle of liquor, wrapped in a black t-shirt.
That sounds awesome! I was just in Colorado for 2 weeks visiting a friend. It was absolutely the most beautiful place I’ve ever been to. I’m from Ohio so I’ve never seen mountains or been in that sort of evelation. Good luck as you continue to look for treasure. I hope you find something worth millions!!
@@bassfishing9783 Thank you sir, I hope your visit was great! And, finding that treasure would be speechless! Thank you again! Take care.
People who can't be alone are afraid of what they'd learn about themselves if they'd spent time on introspection. They surround themselves with people (usually other low quality, co-dependent, needy types) because if they did some self analysis? They wouldn't like what they'd discover.
Only women (and some weak men) freak about about living and (especially) dying alone. Its funny...women always say "aren't you worried about dying alone?" Yet their hsuband kicks first, their kids put them in a nursing home and they end up dying alone anyway.
Now that men aren't getting married, women are more alone now than ever, so they double down on the shaming language about being alone, and interpret that as being lonely, which it isn't.
Classic projection.......they critique in others what they fear in their own lives the most.
We love you George! Great video!
There's something very therapeutic watching this. Something calming.
"Boredom indicates a lack of inner resources"-Stannis Baratheon, G.O.T.
Thanks for another great video nature can heal your mind and soul
And also with you, my friend. May you have an amazing new year.
I have a wonderful memory of when I took my family there for bike riding. As soon as i saw the Rhododendrons as you walked into the trail I was Instantly brought back in time. Very nostalgic right now. Amazing place.
Beautiful nature and enjoyed the convo, happy holidays!!!.Also time to be unstuck in 2019 ^^
Great video George. Merry Christmas 🎄
you genuinely are enjoyable to listen to, and the nature just compliments it
George, you're not alone. You have us.
Never realized you were a Pennsylvanian. My family has a house in the Poconos and getting out in the woods is so calming. Best sleep I have is when I go up into the mountains. 😀
Im only 32 now but I feel like I 'd be living a similar life in about 20 more :) Merry Christmas !
Something about nature calls to me. We don't say it but the things he says resonates. I agree we need to be alone with ourselves some time. I love your videos because when you speak its calming and relaxing. Recently divorced i gave it everything and in the end i left with nothing and she took the kids and it all. Anyway these videos speak to me and i am thankful. Thank you.
And the most important video to me, this is nature at it's finest. Free spirit.
Hope you've enjoyed your day.
You're one of my top 5 content creators. God had blessed you with a gift to touch people's hearts and make them see life a different way which is the way it really is. Thanks for your authentic contents
wow, i am so glad i watched this video. This is what i needed, i was sure i wasn’t the only one. Peace and Love from Florida 🌴 🌊
Brilliant George. One of your best vids.
Very relaxing. Merry Christmas.
man I love being alone. Especially on psilocybin mushrooms in the woods
And also with you! Thanks for the wonderful waterfall footage.
I needed this video. I am returning to a place in my life where I will embrace being alone and not be lonely.
UA-cam recommended this to me, and before watching this video let me just say this:
Loneliness is not that big of a deal. Society makes it seem as if loneliness was a bad thing, it's not. It's all just programming, it's society making you think it is. Loneliness in and of itself is a pretty neutral state. Possibly the most neutral state there is. Sure, there is an absence of people, but there's also absence of pain, peer pressure, responsibilities, expectations, and you can completely be yourself. You are free of all boundaries and limits society puts onto you. Loneliness is a blessing as much as it is a curse, if not more so.
Or, as Schopenhauer said: One who doesn't love the solitude doesn't love freedom.
Merry Christmas George
I love time in nature. No noise or light pollution other than what nature provides. Thank you for sharing your time with us.
George, Thanks for the video. I feel your vibe. I'm 70 and still will boulder and rock climb (when the knees are up to it), work out regularly, bike, write, philosophize, meditate and know the earth offers many treasures, not the least of them healing our body, mind, and spirit. Nice Pipe!
beautiful.
the waterfall ear raped tf out of me tho
this was a great wholesome video that i needed to see, it makes me feel better about being alone. very wise and very dad, thankyou! peace be with you friend
I too love practicing the art of solitude. It was very peaceful and enjoyable watching this video. Thank you very much for uploading it and sharing your experience with us.
I need a “How to be with people and enjoy it”
And also with you....
You demeanor is very relaxed while making this video. Good to see You healing yourself. Part of me was hoping for the end of the video so you could get back to getting 'centered'. BUT, thank you for taking us along on your hike!
I have been living in the Black Forest in Germany since three months now, it is my first christmas alone. But during the holidays I go alone in the forest every single day and it is so healing and peaceful. Sometimes it is just better to leave the people behind, and go into the nature. Merry Christmas.
Step 1: Be an introvert
Wrong. Being an introvert is just a lack of extroversion. Being an extrovert that masters solitude is so powerful. Just like thinking you're introverted then overcoming the discomfort to socialize and get over that petty social anxiety.
@@clarkfluegel6875 You have the wrong idea of introversion if you think its petty social anxiety. Sure some may have social anxiety but some people prefer to be alone. Those people can entertain themselves and prefer less people in a given area when around them. And introverts like me hate it when people assume we are hermits hiding in the dark, too scared to talk to people. That couldnt be further from the truth.
@@northernninety7 I can relate to that.
@@clarkfluegel6875 There are different personality types in this world. Some people are more introverted . Its not petty to be who they are..
This is my first Xmas alone,
George your videos have helped a great deal
Thank you buddy
#unstuckmillionaire2019
Mine too!
Merry Christmas
same here, i really appreciate you sir.
I enjoyed this Christmas alone as well. Merry Christmas to all you out there.
@@dave32566you've got one of the best username's I've seen, up there with 'HillaryClintonsClit'
Chiming in 3 years later here but I have been single for the last two years. With someone for 5 years before that and single for several years before that. My single times have been the best without question. I'm not much of a people person to begin with so I enjoy my alone time, well me myself and my dogs. The world (nature) is beautiful and very therapeutic. Newly subscribed and diggin the vidjas.
This guy is so freaking awesome …. Old school strong, wise and cool.
As a introvert, I love seclusion lol.
Please have a seat
You’re cool!
I have lonely life as a almost40yr old man,thanks to the fact that never been married.
Reply to me if you need to have a conversation 😎
As soon as you mentioned laying down just to connect with earth i subscribed
Very interesting point of view. I get new/old valuable ideas from you every day, and then put them to the test. After watching you do it, I'm now back to my hikes, twenty+ years after I stopped doing them and, sir, I love them. So, once again, thank you...
First view and comment! Merry Christmas George!
You managed to make me miss hiking. I stopped doing it due to bears, coyote, etc. Being in nature like that is so refreshing and revitalizing. That waterfall was very nice.
Drea East Coast bears won’t attack unless you mess with their cubs if they have any and coyotes won’t mess with you
Be safe , loud and hike at safe times, if you can , carry a capable weapon you are capable with.
Love the video Mr. Bruno. Very inspiring
Your beard is the best ever man, I don’t know why you are reccomended to me but I loved this vid