What are Healthy Personal Boundaries and How Can I Maintain Them?
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- Опубліковано 3 чер 2024
- Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Qualified Clinical Supervisor. She received her PhD in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Florida in 2002. In addition to being a practicing clinician, she has provided training to counselors, social workers, nurses and case managers internationally since 2006 through AllCEUs.com #boundaries #personalboundaries #healthyboundaries
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Ive started creating boundaries for people who invite toxicity in my life. After i started self care and working on ny self esteem it has become easier to know what behavior to tolerate. I'm more at peace as i have cut off daily contact with people who constantly degrade me and talk disrespectfully to me. I'm no longer gonna tolerate such toxic behavior of anyone. Boundaries do affect many areas of life in a positive way and also attract better people in our lives.
Excellent. :)
Stop tolerating the toxicity
I didn’t even know what boundaries were until about 10 yrs ago. I’m 58. I’ve been a doormat and haven toxic. Working on this.
Thanks for watching and commenting. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
People need this reminder every month because it's so pervasive and easy to fall into
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This one was too short. I want more! Lol. I love hearing about boundaries because I now realize I had none and am working towards building mine
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
I've learnt the hard way that it's best to have too many boundaries rather than not enough of them. At least you can relax your boundaries little by little, it's much harder to suddenly create a Boundry which you didn't have before.
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I love listening to these while on my walks, thank you for this content especially during a dark time during a separation from my wife. Dam I miss her.
:( Fernando, wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@@DocSnipes Thank you ma’am
Goodness me this was fantastic. The sense of empowerment you feel when yoy stop being violated and the other person really has not a jot of empathy, plays mind games with you, is a user and uses you, and you say no thanks not today, is like a monumental weight being lifted. Don't be scared, they wouldn't be, just do it and cringe alone if you have too 😁
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In a nutshell boundaries equals respect and people must respect you a little more than they like/love you. The kiss of death to any relationship is when respect is not first. That's where you get the"I love you but I'm not in love with you" The fastest way to end any relationship is to give the other person everything they want and do whatever they say. The most powerful word in the dictionary is no. And when it's followed by a period it becomes a complete sentence. You get out of life what you tolerate and if you tolerate people using you then you'll get used. Ask me how I know.
Thanks for sharing
I needed to hear this reminder about boundaries and to remind myself to keep reinforcing boundaries in my life, thank you Dr.! 🙌🏻☀️
Thanks for sharing. Please so keep watching.
Thank you Dr. Snipes for being so kind and sharing this really helpful information. I missed out on development with this for some time, but I'm doing my best to learn about it now. Never too late to put on your training wheels and just try. ☺
Glad it was helpful!
Relationships are exhausting, emotionally draining and manipulation at its best. Solution; puppy, feed em, water em, love em and you have a loyal friend for life. Plus, they can determine who you should let in or chase away.
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Thank you!! It's this type of content that helps me keep growing away from toxicity and into better health!
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Anyone who has boundaries (and everyone does) only has to explain them to me. I can’t be expected to stay outside of a fence that you’ve put up, if the fence is invisible to me. I have no problem respecting boundaries that I’ve been made explicitly aware of. I WANT to respect them. 💞
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You provide a lot of good information. I wish I heard it much earlier and not allow people violate my boundaries and cause unhappiness.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
I really appreciate that you include slides with your video presentation. It helps so much with organizing the information, following along, and in general absorbing the content.
Thank you! Doing slides takes more work but, in the end, they help many more people and I an grateful to be of help. Could you, please, tell me what you’ve found most helpful from this video? How will this video help you set and maintain healthy personal boundaries?
This is really good stuff for me as I am exploring the idea of shoring up my boundaries and what I give away that does not make me feel good but I had to give. Growing up, I did not have the right to show disdain for people who crossed my boundaries. I was told that I have to count my blessings and that boundary violations were necessary. I am beginning to thank that there are things that are mine that I don't want to share. I "shared" away everything and I was left nothing and there way nothing I could do. No one would support me as having rights. Now I understand a lot better that friends are people who have things to give me that add to me and that I don't owe them everything for their support or for them to stay. When people respect my boundaries, then they are the people worth having as friends.
Excellent! Best boundaries delineation and explanation I have ever known. Thank you very much.
Thanks so much! I appreciate those kind words.
Very solid info. Thank you for all you do for the community!
These videos are gold and I’m glad I found them I’m anti social and nervous about opening up to a therapist and this is a good alternative thank you doc
Hey!!!! It's my favorite Dr.!!!! Thank you for the upload!!!
Very welcome
Thank you so much for the great notes!
You are so welcome!
I Love how complete is your work you explore many faccets of the subject, helping me a lot in my recovery. Thank you, sending Gratitude from Brazil
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Another great video, thank you for all your work. Videos like these are helping me get along with my girlfriend, family and friends better. Can’t get enough of these videos.
Great to hear! Thanks for watching.
This was one of the best videos and super helpful for my life. Thank you very much for changing peoples lives for the better through your presentations.
Too kind. Thanks so much!
Thank you doctor for a brilliant video and so deep and essential explanation of each aspect.
So nice of you! Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Thank you for all your good insights and sharing with us!! Your videos are very thought provoking and encouraging! I am a 12 stepper and listening to you makes me want to press on, try more, reach out and grow!
You've got this! Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Thanks for the good info 🙏🏼🙏🏼
So welcome! I appreciate you watching. Other videos on boundaries that might help can be found at: ua-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=boundaries
I used to think boundaries were to push people away. Now i know it's only to put my self care but only so i am able to serve multi versal unity
I am glad the video helped and I appreciate you watching.
Good stuff. I am saving this one.
Wonderful.
Fabulous video!
Many thanks!
Wonderful video. God bless you
Thanks for watching!
I’ve never set concrete boundaries,
As a child there were no boundaries or consistent examples. I’m currently doing cognitive therapy but I can relate to a lot of the issues you have shared to get help with. I’m 34 I sit here having destroyed my marriage I was unfaithful then I flip it and act like she cheated accusing her and resentful towards her over our 13 years together because I always would mess up and always dealing with the consequences. But why now after my infidelity. Why wasn’t I man enough to call it quits then why not set real boundaries. Was I doing it because I felt like I owed to her because she helped me be better. Why didn’t I reciprocate the love she gave and showed me?
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Thanks!
You’re most welcome. I appreciate you watching
Damn good Dr snipes 🤙 o.g Charles snipes thanks for the FREE videos/information 🙏
You are very welcome. :)
Enjoy learning more about this topic gives me a sense of making healthy boundaries and not worry about toxic people..
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Looking lovely on the dress 🥰😍.. also thanks fornthe education
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Boundaries. What’s your thought on the boundary perception between woman & man? Do they differ or are they the same or not? Also isnt expectations not also a tug between boundary & perception?
Thank you. Having boundary issues with am old friend. 😥
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Why don't they teach this in school? The world would be a more peaceful place!
I wouldn't argue. :)
I feel as if I attract people that are smart and intelligent but not emotionally equipped . It’s the small things that bother me that doesn’t feel right . But I didn’t know weather they were boundaries or me being social awkward . One of them is in my peer group is very normal to give hugs . But I don’t like hugs and it feels alward to have to tell someone that I don’t they look at me it’s just friendly
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Other people can't read your mind. If you don't want to be hugged be honest and kind. It can be cut off if you use tact and honesty.
Great
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Ooooo this is good 😻
Thanks so much.
Thankyou
Welcome
You look lovely as usual, Dr. Snipes!
Thank you kindly
I’m in a LDR so we talk on the phone and text regularly. I have never been one to keep my phone glued to my hip or ear but he likes to text and call from the minute I wake up to the minute I go to bed. If I don’t respond fast enough, he’s texting “are you okay” “why did you ghost me” etc. it’s exhausting. I feel like I have zero personal life anymore. I’m struggling to enjoy my hobbies and I don’t get a break. I wish I knew how to establish that boundary. Another thing that drives me crazy is he curses a lot in casual conversation (like dropping the f bomb). I told him that I don’t like that and his response was, “Are you that vanilla in bed?”. It slammed me shut like a Venus fly trap! 😂 Poor thing will never find out saying things like that.
He’s on the needy / insecure side of the spectrum ……
Sounds like it would be best to keep him as a long distance buddy .
I let people in when I know them. When they are kind to me. Those who are not, I don’t even bother with… Is this good for my healing?
Thanks for watching the video. I believed that is good for you. Listening to your gut and staying away from the people who are hurting you is a good thing and is helping you heal. Here is the video on identifying and responding to toxic people: ua-cam.com/users/live1LziPC0M_Zw?feature=share
God bless you and your family and friends forever in Jesus name
Cool
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Why do people get angry and vendictive when I set a boundry?
People who get angry when you set a boudary is because they would have benefited from your lack of boundaries somehow and you took that power away from them by setting a boundary.
My husbands anger multiplied when I set boundaries. I haven't let my boundaries down, he says our marriage is now over, but he refuses to leave. My boundary was I don't want anyone who rages against me and throws temper tantrums to touch me anymore, he could have got help and changed but no he got worse. He behaves like a child.
I am curious if boundaries can be put in place even after the relationship has gone on over some won’t. Sorry if the question is answered in the end lol
You are in charge of your life. Others have to deal with your decisions. You set a boundary. They deal with it or not. It is up to you how you deal with your boundaries being ignored.
Thanks for watching. You should always feel free to set your boundaries...obviously it is more complicated in an ongoing relationship if you are changing. Communication is key. Involve a license counselor if needed.
Omg, the shock hearibg the association between sociopaths, narcissists, psychopaths and.. addicts ?
Wtf.
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This connection is just dawning on me also… mind blown! Makes so much sense!
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Glad you are here.
My family wasn’t and isn’t safe for me. Friends, I don’t have…
I am sorry about that. How will you start setting and maintaining boundaries. Maybe the video on dealing with toxic people will help: ua-cam.com/users/liveBl6EZALS8HQ?feature=toxic
Anyone that call and I say “no contact” get blocked! 😂
I appreciate you watching
Do you work with people with bpd or just call them children?
What to do when a man is aggressive and touching just because you’re very curvy? Because I’m at a point of getting violent…I have mace, tasers and a Glock. Maybe I will start turning on the light to my taser as a warning…I know men like actions better than words.
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Im confused about how you can be friends with someone who is a troll and prides himself on it??
Troll, as in he likes to debate people. Not troll just to be ugly.
Do you want to be friends with a troll. It's a decision.
No boundaries when you're single. When you're single you are FREE
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Don’t you still have friends and relatives? You still need boundaries
My boundary is you knock on my door and I don’t know you are coming in advance….I do not answer my door. PERIOD!!! My neighbor has my number. Leave a note. 😂
I appreciate you watching and sharing your boundaries.
😢 think I have to giving up being a mom 💔
I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It sounds like you're going through a difficult and challenging time. Remember, it's okay to feel overwhelmed or exhausted as a parent, and you don't have to face this alone. Reach out to friends, family, or even professional support to talk about your feelings and experiences.
Being a parent is undoubtedly tough, and it's normal to have moments of doubt or frustration. Take some time for self-care and remember that it's okay to ask for help. You don't have to give up being a mom; it's a journey with ups and downs, and seeking support can make a significant difference.
If you'd like to talk more about what you're going through, I'm here to listen and support you in any way I can. Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources available to help you through these challenging moments. Take care of yourself.
@@DocSnipes thank you so much for your advice. Bless you.
Yes I'm currently doing cbt therapy with the pain management clinic. And I reached out for help for ptsd . Your views helping me to understand and do better . 🙏
This counselor says we don't have to change to pleass other people. Why does mental healthcare phyciatry, Pentecostal holiness Christianity religion false prophets and false standards, LGBTQIA and atheism. all push that we all have to change, to please other people who could only care less about us.
Interesting question. What conclusions have you come to?
Boundaries are so important I have a couple videos om my new channel talking about this. Feel free to check them out
what is a troll?
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_troll Thanks for watching.
Be SHREWD LISTENING PERSON.'.
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Topics politics and religion
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Great advice
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Thank you for your kind words and for watching the videos
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@DocSnipes sorry Doc. Would love to know your name. Guess I will probably not hear from you again. Can't blame you. Please take care Dear.
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Thanks so much for the tip. I really appreciate it.
You are welcome Dr. God bless you abundantly in the name of Jesus. 🙌🏻☀️