I splurged on so much skin care and makeup today and immediately felt guilty after I left the store. Then I remember how hard I’ve worked these past months and how I haven’t been taking care of myself and I deserved to feel better. Thank you for this video Colette!
that sounds like a youtuber i know she goes by letters she made a promise to herself that she wasnt going to buy anymore makeup products for a certain amount of time and broke it while talking to her boyfriend about how she made that deal with herself (ex boyfriend now) maybe try making rules like that so that way never spend to much money on makeup
@@ihartevil Oh that’s interesting. I haven’t bought makeup in YEARS lol and I found it odd that the one time I did I felt horrible about treating myself, it wasn’t about the money at all.
No fkn way this bjcj and no one even comments on this, Denise u should look up the poem ozymandias it’s like so much time has past U ain’t even scary no mo lmfao
I. Needed. This. I have been working through a lot of stuff lately and I realized I never allow myself to be happy. I am always denying myself my own needs!! WHAT?! I am throwing out the outdated cassette of my negative self-talk and starting over. I deserve to be happy. Thank You! This video confirmed what I've been working through and thinking about!
“Those that make consistent selfish choices are those that don’t love themselves.” Oof. I have to remind myself it’s not my journey that they are lashing out to me. It’s their journey to try to love themselves. I’ll keep focusing on loving myself too. 💖 THANK YOU
Yes when others lash out even when they make it all about you it isn’t about you at all. When you can see that it makes it easier to have compassion instead of lash back but you absolutely have every right and duty to yourself to set boundaries with those kinds of people.
Thank you for this video! As a new mother, I always forget to take care of myself because I want to be the best mother to my son. I think I’m so wrapped in not wanting to become my mother and for some reason, even for a split second, taking a moment for myself makes me like her. I know that’s sad to say because everyone who has a healthy relationship with their mother looks up to their mother and aim to be like her, but in my case, I don’t. My mother is a heroin addict who put my siblings and me through a lot of stuff. I feel like it’s my job to break that family chain because her mother and her mother’s mother were the same. I just need to remind myself that carving out an hour to take a breather does not make me like her at all. So thank you for reminding me! ❤️
You are so right taking time for yourself is not at all the same as losing yourself in addiction. Addiction hurts the ones you love but it hurts you the most. You are already so much more self-aware and I know you will be a great mother you are already breaking the chain you are re-writing your story and your history and beginning a new legacy! Your family tree will be forever changed because of your part in it! Believe in yourself! LOVE yourself!
Ty for this collette!!! I’ll be 39 on next Thursday and pregnant with our first and probably only child. I’m very high risk. I’m having a hard time doing something for myself. You just gave me another boost to do something for me in the comin weeks!! Love your beautiful self!!! I hope you are doing awesome!!!❤️❤️❤️
It took me almost 40 years to get to this realization! After a terrible car accident my husband and 3 girls were in a few months ago I ended up depressed and just a shell because I had nothing left. I was driving them to appointments and making sure they felt loved and OK, but I let myself go and it took 2 months to admit I was depressed and needed to start giving myself some attention. Just small things, but it has helped so much. I always laughed at the "fill your cup" thing but it's true!
So so true. I wish I could go back and tell my past self not to rely on other people to make me happy/entertain me so that I have a good day. Its completely up to yourself to make the best of each day, and slow down for some self care. PS Collette I now see where Brock gets his random weird voices from 😂 You are hilarious!
I am really enjoying your short, packed with good info, positive videos. And I am glad to see your face. Having been a long time viewer I feel like the Shaytards are old friends and I like seeing little bits of what you are all up to.
I agree with all of this! I also think our families kind of have to get use to us spending time each day on self care and to ourselves... especially when we haven’t in a long time. I think the end result though will be a happier family all around! I’m so happy you are sharing your thoughts on different things again! 💕
Love these videos you've been posting lately!! Such good reminders for all of us on how important it is to nurture and cherish our minds, bodies, and souls. Thank you for the positive reminders!! You're a true light in this world 🌟💖
I first started watching you when you lived in LA when Brock was a baby. I was a teenager that needed something happy in my life when everything wasn’t happy at home and school. Your family helped with that! I never missed a video! Love that you’re back! ❤️
Thank you. I definitely don’t have time for self care. My life would be easier and better for those around me if I did. It’s not really something I think about with two jobs and 4 small children and a husband to care for. It’s something I would like to work on though.
Wow you are a busy mama! There is a time and season for being busy in our lives and that’s OK it won’t last forever but you can still try to do little things to give yourself what you need 😊
I have never put myself first. I have done that lately and now im being told I'm selfish and I am being a "itch" all of a sudden. when really I am just trying to make myself happy for once in my life. anyone else have those issues? people around them not understanding why your putting yourself first..backlash for it? thats what im currently dealing with.
Today.... just 3 hours ago.... I was in the dr office discussing my battle with anxiety. I am slowly.... slowly... understanding the importance of self-care and coming to terms with the fact that I may need help. One step at a time.
I'm LIVING for Colette's new found strength because shes had enough of Shay's toxic patterns. Yes, that's between them and what happened is heartbreaking but I'm so glad that she's not going to put up with that crap anymore.
You remind me so much of my big sister ... she’s the nicest person I know and looks just like you. I’ve looked up to you and enjoyed your video’s since 2009.... thanks for being you Colette ! ❤️
I saw something the other day that said “burnout exists because we’ve made rest a reward rather than a right” and this applies to us mothers, too. Self care is so important and it shouldn’t be something we have to earn or something we have to feel guilty about
Are you one of the most cutest, sweetest, most beautiful, selfless of people I’ve known. (Well I actually don’t know you personally, but from since the beginning of watching your very first blogs, I have a little bit of an idea of who you are) all I know is, you seem to hold yourself together so well! I’m a momma of 4 as of 1 year ago! It’s not easy and you make it look so easy. You absolutely deserve to be “selfish”. I agree with you on self care, especially when you feel like you just give and give, take care of others before your own, is a lot! If no one tells you that you are amazing and doing an amazing job, you definitely need to hear it! Keep being beautiful you! Hugs! Btw you are hilarious 😆 you inspire me to be a better mom/person and to come out of my shell!
Thank you so much! You are doing a great job 4 kids is a lot and we don’t get a trial run 😆 we must believe in ourselves that we are doing our best because we are on any given day doing all we can no question about it.
Right on time needed this 🥰🥰🥰🥰 been feeling so down on myself lately for being so selfish w my time and energy thank you thank you thank you this was confirmation
It's hard to take you honestly or seriously because of all the things that have happened that every one from the Shaytards camp is totally ignoring. I'm glad you're working on yourself, and I really hope you're happy.
This is definitely something i struggle with. Especially now during the pandemic. My coworkers are still out due to covid exposure and we may not know when they come back. But I’m immunocompromiaed and worry about my health. But I’m in the office with only one other person. So what i do? Is feel bad leaving her to work by her self, but also i have to worry about my health!
This reminds me of... When the kids go to sleep!!! She's just sharing some truths and some humor!! Thank you!! Also, hope your rat is doing well!!😀 And yes.. we miss your entire family!! Have a good and safe Turkey Day!!
I’ll say it again “YOU CANNOT POUR FROM AN EMPTY CUP”. Take care of yourself if you want to help anyone else. ❤️
It’s so nice to see you back here!! Your perspective is always so refreshing
Thank you so much!
I splurged on so much skin care and makeup today and immediately felt guilty after I left the store. Then I remember how hard I’ve worked these past months and how I haven’t been taking care of myself and I deserved to feel better. Thank you for this video Colette!
Yes yes yes!
that sounds like a youtuber i know she goes by letters
she made a promise to herself that she wasnt going to buy anymore makeup products for a certain amount of time and broke it while talking to her boyfriend about how she made that deal with herself (ex boyfriend now)
maybe try making rules like that so that way never spend to much money on makeup
@@ihartevil Oh that’s interesting. I haven’t bought makeup in YEARS lol and I found it odd that the one time I did I felt horrible about treating myself, it wasn’t about the money at all.
@@Anisa03530 that is odd but ya you needed a break
Keep going. Let no one try to control you, you are perfect just the way you are.
You are missed.
Thank you 🥰
Man, I am so happy you're sharing your infinite wisdom with the world, again! 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you! 🥺❤️
I never thought about how being selfish = not truly loving yourself. I am ENLIGHTENED.❤️
❤️❤️❤️
No fkn way this bjcj and no one even comments on this, Denise u should look up the poem ozymandias it’s like so much time has past U ain’t even scary no mo lmfao
We love you!!!!! I miss you i Am 27 and I grew up with you as a mother figure to me and I'm sure many feel the same. THANK YOU FOR THE CONTENT
@@bornstandin you wasn't apart of the shaytards family dog. You missed out
I was 15 when they began their journey.
Thank you for being so loyal, and you’re welcome 😊
@@ColetteKati been here since I was 12! I’m 23 now 😋
Taking care of yourself will help you take care of others, thanks for your positivity Colette 👍
I. Needed. This.
I have been working through a lot of stuff lately and I realized I never allow myself to be happy. I am always denying myself my own needs!! WHAT?! I am throwing out the outdated cassette of my negative self-talk and starting over. I deserve to be happy. Thank You! This video confirmed what I've been working through and thinking about!
Yes throw that cassette away! You are worth it 🥰
100 percent true Colette!! Thank you for making this little ray of sunshine video!!☀️☀️ sending you loveeee🧡❤🧡
“Those that make consistent selfish choices are those that don’t love themselves.”
Oof. I have to remind myself it’s not my journey that they are lashing out to me. It’s their journey to try to love themselves. I’ll keep focusing on loving myself too. 💖 THANK YOU
Yes when others lash out even when they make it all about you it isn’t about you at all. When you can see that it makes it easier to have compassion instead of lash back but you absolutely have every right and duty to yourself to set boundaries with those kinds of people.
This is the wholesome quality content we need in 2020. Thank you Colette
Thank you for this video! As a new mother, I always forget to take care of myself because I want to be the best mother to my son. I think I’m so wrapped in not wanting to become my mother and for some reason, even for a split second, taking a moment for myself makes me like her. I know that’s sad to say because everyone who has a healthy relationship with their mother looks up to their mother and aim to be like her, but in my case, I don’t. My mother is a heroin addict who put my siblings and me through a lot of stuff. I feel like it’s my job to break that family chain because her mother and her mother’s mother were the same.
I just need to remind myself that carving out an hour to take a breather does not make me like her at all. So thank you for reminding me! ❤️
You are so right taking time for yourself is not at all the same as losing yourself in addiction. Addiction hurts the ones you love but it hurts you the most. You are already so much more self-aware and I know you will be a great mother you are already breaking the chain you are re-writing your story and your history and beginning a new legacy! Your family tree will be forever changed because of your part in it! Believe in yourself! LOVE yourself!
Ty for this collette!!! I’ll be 39 on next Thursday and pregnant with our first and probably only child. I’m very high risk. I’m having a hard time doing something for myself. You just gave me another boost to do something for me in the comin weeks!! Love your beautiful self!!! I hope you are doing awesome!!!❤️❤️❤️
Love this, love you , love self care, ANNND love your background 🤍
I’m so excited to see you share your wisdom and personality. Miss you and so glad to see you again friend!
Wooooooot!!!!! The First Lady of UA-cam is back!! An amazing woman! God bless you!
Thank you. I needed this. So much turmoil inside.
Love that you’re back and giving us more awesome content! You’re super blessed and love ❤️ how long your hair is! Thank you for all your advice
Thank you so much that means a lot!
It took me almost 40 years to get to this realization! After a terrible car accident my husband and 3 girls were in a few months ago I ended up depressed and just a shell because I had nothing left. I was driving them to appointments and making sure they felt loved and OK, but I let myself go and it took 2 months to admit I was depressed and needed to start giving myself some attention. Just small things, but it has helped so much. I always laughed at the "fill your cup" thing but it's true!
The things you say resonate so much with the teachings of Theravada Buddhism.
I'm always looking after others then myself. I know , what you are saying is true, but its so hard for me to change. Love you.
These short bit sweet videos are just what I need! Short enough to make time to watch, but still puts such a great impact on me.
Love this Colette
I’ve missed you. Thank you for posting. Please keep it up. People need to hear this.
Love love this!!!! Self care is everything 🙌🏼
You’re amazing! Thank you Colette! 🤍🤍
colette you are such a breath of fresh air!
i as a young woman aspire to be as amazing and inspiring as you
So so true. I wish I could go back and tell my past self not to rely on other people to make me happy/entertain me so that I have a good day. Its completely up to yourself to make the best of each day, and slow down for some self care. PS Collette I now see where Brock gets his random weird voices from 😂 You are hilarious!
I am really enjoying your short, packed with good info, positive videos. And I am glad to see your face. Having been a long time viewer I feel like the Shaytards are old friends and I like seeing little bits of what you are all up to.
Colette is HILARIOUS and I love her accent she did
Self care is vital as a mom and wife ! Love you Colette
I agree with all of this! I also think our families kind of have to get use to us spending time each day on self care and to ourselves... especially when we haven’t in a long time. I think the end result though will be a happier family all around! I’m so happy you are sharing your thoughts on different things again! 💕
Love these videos you've been posting lately!! Such good reminders for all of us on how important it is to nurture and cherish our minds, bodies, and souls. Thank you for the positive reminders!! You're a true light in this world 🌟💖
I first started watching you when you lived in LA when Brock was a baby. I was a teenager that needed something happy in my life when everything wasn’t happy at home and school. Your family helped with that! I never missed a video!
Love that you’re back! ❤️
I’m so glad that you are healing and happy again! Your hair is gorgeous. Love the color!! Love you Collette!! Xoxo
Love you Colette!! You're so wise
Life coach Colette era is a good one. 🥰
Thank you. I definitely don’t have time for self care. My life would be easier and better for those around me if I did. It’s not really something I think about with two jobs and 4 small children and a husband to care for. It’s something I would like to work on though.
Clinical Depression is as real as a fractured bone. If not treated, it only gets worse. Please take care of yourself. 🙏
Wow you are a busy mama! There is a time and season for being busy in our lives and that’s OK it won’t last forever but you can still try to do little things to give yourself what you need 😊
I have never put myself first. I have done that lately and now im being told I'm selfish and I am being a "itch" all of a sudden. when really I am just trying to make myself happy for once in my life. anyone else have those issues? people around them not understanding why your putting yourself first..backlash for it? thats what im currently dealing with.
Today.... just 3 hours ago.... I was in the dr office discussing my battle with anxiety. I am slowly.... slowly... understanding the importance of self-care and coming to terms with the fact that I may need help.
One step at a time.
Yes! Never be ashamed to need help! I did too and I’m so so so glad I found help for my mental and physical battles
Amen sister!!!
I'm LIVING for Colette's new found strength because shes had enough of Shay's toxic patterns. Yes, that's between them and what happened is heartbreaking but I'm so glad that she's not going to put up with that crap anymore.
You truly should write a book!
🙌❤️
SHE ALWAYS LOOKS SO BEAUTIFUL AND ALWAYS GIVES BEAUTIFUL SPEECH!!! 💜💜
In the bloopers, all i could see was emmi! She sure is your mini 🥰
Your content and your presentation is always enriching! Keep shining your light ❤️
Thanks for this Colette! I needed to hear it and have some family members who think now I’m selfish for not giving as much of my time. 💜
Wish my mother gave me this advice growing up. Thanks alot for this video Collette.
You remind me so much of my big sister ... she’s the nicest person I know and looks just like you. I’ve looked up to you and enjoyed your video’s since 2009.... thanks for being you Colette ! ❤️
I'm learning to self care right now. Sometimes it's a hard struggle for me.
I understand, one day at a time it’s a journey worth taking 💗
@@ColetteKati I will remember that. Thank you for the positive inspiration. 🙏🏻❤
I saw something the other day that said “burnout exists because we’ve made rest a reward rather than a right” and this applies to us mothers, too. Self care is so important and it shouldn’t be something we have to earn or something we have to feel guilty about
Oh my gosh I love you 😂❤️ You’re so dang fun & always share such awesome perspective. Keep it up my friend! 🙌🏼❤️
Working out every morning is my self care and I LOVE IT
Thanks girl. I needed to hear this. It gives me perspective on someone important in my life who may need to learn more self love.
Are you one of the most cutest, sweetest, most beautiful, selfless of people I’ve known. (Well I actually don’t know you personally, but from since the beginning of watching your very first blogs, I have a little bit of an idea of who you are) all I know is, you seem to hold yourself together so well! I’m a momma of 4 as of 1 year ago! It’s not easy and you make it look so easy. You absolutely deserve to be “selfish”. I agree with you on self care, especially when you feel like you just give and give, take care of others before your own, is a lot! If no one tells you that you are amazing and doing an amazing job, you definitely need to hear it! Keep being beautiful you! Hugs! Btw you are hilarious 😆 you inspire me to be a better mom/person and to come out of my shell!
Thank you so much! You are doing a great job 4 kids is a lot and we don’t get a trial run 😆 we must believe in ourselves that we are doing our best because we are on any given day doing all we can no question about it.
thank you so much for being such a great role model. you are so funny and explain it so well. god bless you and your family
So glad to be seeing your face on my screen again Colette 😊 please keep making videos like these I love em!
This video helps me to understand how to live my life. Thank you Colette, you are my new favorite therapist! 😂💛
Right on time needed this 🥰🥰🥰🥰 been feeling so down on myself lately for being so selfish w my time and energy thank you thank you thank you this was confirmation
Amen. Facts!
We have missed you sooooo much!!! I love how you present this!!! Great job!!! Great perspective ❣❣❣❣❣👍👍👍👍👍😁👍👍👍👍👍
HIGH FIVE ✋
We all missed you on UA-cam collette and on the shaytards UA-cam channel.
It's hard to take you honestly or seriously because of all the things that have happened that every one from the Shaytards camp is totally ignoring. I'm glad you're working on yourself, and I really hope you're happy.
Wow, I really needed to hear this positive message. Thanks for posting this. This really helped me a whole lot...
missed u! such a great topic and such a great point of view ! thank u
Love this message! Really needed that.
I bet you give your kids the BEST advice and talks.
I love you!!!!
This is definitely something i struggle with. Especially now during the pandemic. My coworkers are still out due to covid exposure and we may not know when they come back. But I’m immunocompromiaed and worry about my health. But I’m in the office with only one other person. So what i do? Is feel bad leaving her to work by her self, but also i have to worry about my health!
Was not expecting this tonight
Love this thank you I needed this today. 😎❤
Miss watching family vids :( but im glad youre doing well and are healthy! Stay safe
Great to see you back again 💜 I never put myself first 😔
It’s time! 💗💗💗💗
This made me seriously think about the last time I did anything for myself, to care for and improve myself... I honestly do not know.
I love this message, thank you!
I also love that you put the bloopers at the end 😊🤪❤️
Wonderful!! Thanks!! More!!💖😍👍🎉
Exactly
Needed this!
Love that your making videos!!!!! Great video ❤❤❤
I didn’t realize how much I missed your perspective in my life, until I watched this video ♥️
amazing mother and a forgiving wife wow super momzzzzzzzz
I am so happy that u are happy ☺️
You're such an Emmy!
Hi! I love this and needed this reassurance thank you, Colette!
Love 💘, so much and hope everything is going well for you and your family and God bless you all and stay safe and healthy. Love 💘, 💘 😻
I am working on myself but it's hard to work when you have a family in need of your attention😔
Yes yes it is, just start small. A little love goes a long way ❤️
This reminds me of... When the kids go to sleep!!! She's just sharing some truths and some humor!! Thank you!! Also, hope your rat is doing well!!😀 And yes.. we miss your entire family!! Have a good and safe Turkey Day!!
i love you toooo :)
you make me smile. it takes me a looooong time to take care of ME. but now i am on a good way
Brb. I need to watch this 10 more times
That "I love you" squishy face at the end -- looks just like Emmi! 💕
Good words 💯
This was much needed
I truly believe in self care ❤ love you miss you
I always get excited when I see you pop up in my subs!
Love this!
YOU'RE STILL MY FAVE thanks for coming back to UA-cam :)
I love this! I also heard somewhere that you can also think of it as an oxygen mask, you have to put yours on first in order to help others.
Omg I love unedited you! ✨❤️
I love the message of the video and your energy ❤️