"Hustle culture" and praying at the altar of business are getting a lot of women into a lot of trouble. TURN OFF THE SOCIAL MEDIA. Turn off the constant noise and droning of women who wake up at 4:30 AM every day and go hard until they collapse into bed each night. We aren't meant to live life like we are machines. It is okay to live life slowly. It is okay to say no to outside activities. It is ok to take a nap. It's okay to not want your life to look like the lives you see on IG and Pinterest and mommy blogs. Save your sanity ladies, and turn off any voices telling you to do more, be more, and want more. Those voices are NOT from God. He will only ever tell you to LOVE more, and love does not equal "busy".
My daughter and I call each other our oxytocin booster.... We learned once that you shouldn't hug for less than 20 seconds to get a release of oxytocin... When we need a boost we just reach out to the other and have a good long squeezy hug... And, no joke, I can actually feel it happen... It's such a nice thing.
So good! As a nurse working full-time at the hospital, serving at church, military wife & mama of 3, I was burnt out beyond belief. Everything that used to bring me joy became an obligation. I went to working every other weekend and eventually quit the hospital all together. It had to be done. I don’t think God meant for us to live that way! For now I am working on my small UA-cam channel and working on my BSN while my husband is back on deployment rotation. I will go back to work eventually but not at the cost of losing who I am as a wife, mama, & believer. Thanks for posting!!!❤
I have goosebumps. I just started looking into cortisol levels and balancing hormones etc and it's exactly for this reason. It's almost like I don't even know how to get myself healthy anymore, like it's impossible to be motivated. Your video is so needed today!
Chronic stress ruined my body. I had been seriously stressed out my entire life until one day my body couldn’t handle it anymore. I developed Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia, and IBS all at the same time. I figured out that stress is my number one trigger for a flare up. I have been trying to turn this around for the last 7 years. I’m still working on it, but am making progress. It’s not easy. Any time I am asked the question “what is something you wish you could have told your younger self?” And I always say “find a way to manage the stress. There is only so much your body can tolerate before it gives up.”
Was in the same boat as you. Chronic fatigue, chronic pain, autoimmune disease and mental illness. Stress is no joke. I’m so happy that I came out the other side and love seeing others reminded that it’s possible - and even though it’s not easy, it’s simple things that make a difference. Grateful for this message. Hope you keep thriving 🤍
You are the only other person I know outside of my home area that knows that expression about “wishing in one hand…”. 😂😂 I grew up in Mississippi and have lived all over as a travel nurse. New friends and colleagues would just hoot when I’d say that! Thank you for making this video. I am just finding it but the timing is perfect. God bless you and your family as yall recover from Hurricane Helene. ❤
This resonated with me Angie! Busy isn’t necessarily a good thing. I always thought that being busy busy busy meant being productive and justified my existence lol. I Went to a women’s retreat and the speaker talked about the acronym “BUSY”… B- being U- under S- satan’s Y- yolk She talked about how you can be “busy“ and totally miss out on what is important in life…this really hit home because I realized that I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off and not enjoying life ….and more importantly, I was not properly prioritizing God, family, friends, etc.
Things I’ve done to eliminate stress 1. Got rid of social media (this eliminated more stress than I thought it would) 2. Get rid of clutter (do this often) 3. Watch cleaning videos on UA-cam. This helps motivate me and appreciate my home and taking care of it. 4. Start a budget (just started Dave Ramseys baby steps and we already are saving money and paying off debt). 5. Plan out weekly meals ( keep it simple, no need to complicate this). I do grocery pick one day a week which helps save money and time.
I just wanna cook you spaghetti and meatballs, garlic bread, with a nice glass of wine... and your dessert of choice! you are so vulnerable and it truly helped me❣️ new mom here 🙏 boundaries are even harder when you have toxic relationships 😔 God is with us💕
I was just telling a friend how I think I am dealing with either depression or anxiety because I’m having a hard time looking forward to anything positive in my life right now. My best friend who I haven’t physically seen since 2018 was coming for a short visit. I was so nervous about the visit it was hard to get excited. I am currently parenting on my own because my husband is deployed. We have six young kids six and under. I LOVE them and I do enjoy being home with them. I am homeschooling and overall I feel good about everyday. I just downloaded the audiobook because of your suggestion. I don’t know when I’ll get to start it but I am looking forward to listening to it because I need to address how I am feeling. I need to be on my ‘A’ game for my kids.
Thank you for helping us feel normal with all the things going on. My chronic stress was my job of 32 years, lucky for me I was retirement age. It took me months after I retired to feel like being productive after pushing so many hours for so many years. After 3 years I finally am excited about doing fun stuff that I never got to do when I worked. Thanks!
Thank you for sharing this! A certain amount of stress is to be expected, but when one gets overloaded with stress, it is difficult to function. Knowing other’s struggle with the same thing helps.
Sooooo timely. Since December I've been so burnt out. I have chronic illness, autoimmune issues, was sick for 3 weeks straight (cold turned sinus infection turned ear infection) I definitely got to the "I don't even care anymore" stage. Still trying to drag myself out of bed and do something. It's so hard with little kids. We went bowling as a family Saturday and it was the first time I left the house in 6 weeks. 😵 it's been rough! Definitely going to listen to that podcast
Girl you are singing my song. I'm a researcher too. And i have learned so much helpful info. But lately i sit at my desk and stare. Then walk into my room and stare. I wondered last week how much time a day am i just starting into space because I can't even anymore. I wish people could understand how much work dreams come true can be. (We just bought a house) The pressure I put on myself is suffocating. And then it's on everyone around me too because i can't do everything by myself. But everything is a really stupid to do list. Thank you for making me feel not alone in this and reminding me that the smallest steps make the biggest difference. Hugs to you as we're on this journey together.
Highly recommend the book titled Burnout. Written by two sisters and they speak directly to women and our societal expectations that also lead to our stress and eventually burnout.
I started taking vitamin D and magnesium and it has given me the energy to workout de stress. I hit a wall big time and gained 80 lbs after having my kids. I'm done having kids and want to get my body back to where it was and not feel so stressed.
I appreciate your videos. Contrary to the comment saying you do this to yourself to cause stress, I think that discussing these things with others helps to de-stress in itself. Knowing that you are using your experiences to help others can feel rewarding and nurturing as well. So, there can be a trade off there. Yes, it’s true, we can all get into a rut of “all the things”, and that can be a balancing act. Sometimes we need to trim the fat, but this is not a time for others to point the finger when you are trying to help from your personal experience. Thank you for sharing your life with all of us. I enjoy your videos and seeing how you manage homeschool. I decided to homeschool when my three kids got into the hamster wheel of public school, tutoring, and activities. We were all burned out, and homeschool, ironically brought a level of peace I didn’t think was possible. It’s only videos like yours that gave me the courage and motivation to do it. So thank you for that, and for being vulnerable with us, and for using your valuable time to help others. ❤
THANK YOU!!!!!!!! This video was so inspiring and very helpful. I have read many articles regarding Stress types and Cortisol was in most of the articles. You also have problems with weight gain when your Cortisol levels are off. I try to stay away from news because it is so hyped up and sad with all the stations airing all day long. Regarding work stress was HORRIBLE, I retired, I gave them 4 months notice so they could find a replacement, however, the manager made my work space so miserable I just walked away.
That is clinical depression. I became severely depressed after a year of intense stress. I am on prescription Celxa for depression, which has given me my life back. I also take saffron, GABBA, magnesium, vitamin d3 k2, and herbs to help my adrenals. I quit watching the news. I walk and listen to music every day. It really helps.
So good, Angela!! Thank you for sharing, I love "our talks" lol. Im currently trying to declutter my mom's things since she went to a memory care facility. It feels overwhelming. My daughter walked in once while I was watching your vlog. She said, "Who's that?". I said, "It's my friend. Ha! Who I've never met." So appreciate your frankness and willingness to share what you're learning! It really helps!
It's amazing how you can change a huge problem just giving attention to solving in just small chunks of time each day. Sometimes that's all you have time or energy for.
What a great video ❤️ I hit a wall in December when the most horrible tension headache of my life struck for two weeks. I didn’t even know that was a thing, I literally felt like I was dying. I was given a muscle relaxer and a chiropractor recommendation and the chiro has been LIFE CHANGING. More importantly though, I had to pray and realize that the previous six months had wrecked me - between being pregnant with terrible morning sickness, marriage hardships, homeschool struggles, friendships straining, it was all so obvious but not to me for months. I also started intentionally reading scripture daily and enjoying and looking forward to it, it’s been so healing. And vitamin D has been really helpful as well. Life feels so much better now and I’m so hopeful.
I hit burnout in January 22 but didn't realise it until June... Our schools were put on another closure for 2 weeks. I had made it through working from home, for a software company I've been with since 2012, through all of the initial lockdowns that brought all of my 4 kids home, and the fits and spurts of the returning to and coming back home from school for 1-3/4 years, moving our oldest out to university, prepping the second to head to the Army, but that last one just broke me. When I finally thought, I'm not functioning normally anymore, I started researching this "burnout" thing everyone was mentioning, and like going through I diagnostic checklist I realised it was me. In hindsight, I figured out the beginning of it was when I started getting angry whenever I read reference to us being 'resilient' through all of the change. I dispised the word! I'm doing better now. Slowly but surely focusing on what was truly important to me, getting better at giving myself grace, and saying No from my gut. And yes, I did change jobs, not because it caused me stress but because I was doing it mechanically and found no interest in it anymore. The new job learning curve has been rough but is more of a normal stress level with peaks as I need to figure something out and valleys, even joy when I succeed. Good luck on your journey.
All of this hits home so much!! Thank you for sharing. Thank you so much for saying you don’t do tik tok! As a new content creator I feel so much pressure to do tik toks but I refuse to get it or do it. It’s a major source of stress! I have watched you for so long and you have been monumental in so many areas of my life. Thank you for sharing your life so that we can learn so much from you. Blessings to you and your family!
I so feel this. I can deal and deal and deal and nothing really bothers me anymore. And I literally do not care any longer if anything changes. I'm going to listen to this podcast and see if I can't find this book!! Thank you!
Thank you for this. I resigned from my teaching career of 19 years this past May after having a panic attack at work so bad they sent me to the hospital in the ambulance with a suspected heart attack. I’ve been working through examining my life and figuring out what is next for me. I know I want family to be my number one priority, but I am still exploring who I AM without my career of so many years. I was horrible at boundaries and balance between work and personal life. I want that calm, rather than the “productive” stressful state I was attempting to live in for so long. Until I lost my “spark” and could barely summon the energy to make it through my day… Lots of great thinking here. Very relatable. Your perspective is appreciated. 😊
I too have had to learn to set boundaries and know it is not easy, especially if you are easily distracted by the fun things or generally overwhelmed by life. I am starting to look at things differently now I have decluttered a lot of my possessions. One of the questions I now ask is ‘how often and for how long am I prepared to clean this particular room in a week to maintain it at a standard that is acceptable to me?’ This obviously depends on the room and its usage, but if I am conscious of how long it takes and that time is too long, I look at 1) what I am constantly tidying up and why it does not get put in its designated home which for me generally needs to be out of sight; and 2) what I can permanently remove from the room to reduce the time I spend cleaning it. I have found if everything you keep has a home of your choosing and it is just as easy to put away as leave out, and if something is removed for a period and not missed (if it is bring it back and try removing something else, otherwise declutter it) life is way calmer. You have time to do more of what you want, there is less arguing over chores and your environment brings you peace. It has taken me 54 years to learn this (clearly I am a slow learner!) but as I live with less, I find I want less.
This has really hit home in areas of my life. Not in the way you are in but in the area where I procrastinate because ever since I retired, I don’t have a schedule. Oh I’ll do it tomorrow just because I can … but tomorrow never really comes. I am worse in these winter months. I will check out his book thanks ❤
So true , done do news very much & stop posting on Instagram that was not healthy. We say we won’t compare and then we do. Instagram is a lie it’s not all organized or beautiful lol. I’m finally at a great place. Awesome topic my friend
I really like the video. As you talked I totally relate to stress and anxiety.. of course I am not a mother of 8. But I am a father of 6 and a grand father of 8 and counting. I know my stressed an't the same as yours. As I listen to you I think more about Stephen covey's book 7 habits of highly effective people. Particularly his time management matrix. On another thing you talked about oxytocin. I used to be a dairy farmer and we to give shots of it to cows sometimes when they were upset to calm them down so they would let their milk down. It can be addicting to them
Dang I feel like I got the therapy session that has been years long awaited.i didnt know there was actual names for what i have been going through and that im not the only one who has felt this dynamic and deep feeling. Crazy how certain things and struggles will make you feel so alone and that your the only one feeling like this bc it does run so deep. It's relieving to know its not just me and there are actual real reasoning for it..thank you for this 💕
Oh my gosh. I am sitting here w a saliva test from my Dr to do. I do have a mass on my adrenal gland but one of my blood levels was off, but, the list of "symptoms" from the cortisol is off the chart. What you spoke of, I am so there!! So I am doing the "midnight cortisol saliva test" this coming week. It also can cause anxiety and panic attacks that can be almost paralyzing and you can't sleep, then you crash and can't get up What is motivation?? I don't know anymore. Then the guilt eats you alive.... I have had to stop watching "the news" period!!! May I add I have a 11,4 and 2 yo, so this is a huge struggle! Your Dr can help, and find the source, sometimes it's medical as well as environmental . It IS a real thing and things CAN be done! Thank you for bringing awareness!!!!
Several months ago, I signed up for online therapy, through the app Better Health and I have been BEYOND pleased with my therapist and the ability to do my therapy via voice or video calls from the privacy of my home. When I signed up there was some initial questions just to kinda get an idea of what it was I was dealing with; in my case, my husband left and wants a divorce and I don’t want that but I’m forced to do it because he does not wish to work on the marriage. I do have health insurance, but where I live in this world part of California our healthcare is terrible so the only therapy I could find was once a month at best and through like a county program which I did not want to do so if you’re looking for a therapist to talk to I strongly suggest better help it’s amazing. And btw, for trauma, stress, etc using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is so good.
I definitely feel like I’m dealing with a lot of burn out. The past year and a half has been one stressful experience after another. My husband almost died last year from a heart attack and that’s been quite the process of trying to make sure he stays healthy. Then we moved during the summer And moving is always horrible but this move in particular was very bad. We’ve had some issues with the new house and one of our cats who is elderly is not doing well and so it’s been one fire after another tip put out. I have a teenage daughter who is not doing well in her school and wants to go to boarding school where she can focus better and that’s a big process. So I feel like I’m chasing a tiger and I know that I’m burnt out because I feel like a lot of time is my emotions are weirdly flat when it comes to certain things. It’s also hard to know what my dreams are, because I feel like my worries, overwhelm my dreams of the future. Anyways, sorry you had to read all of that but I totally understand what burn out is completely because I am definitely dealing with it right now.
It's so true that a move can be particularly bad. I've moved 9 times as an adult, and I still look back at one of moves about 4 years ago and feel I never recovered from it even though we've sold the house and moved on.
Loved this video. I am not currently feeling this way but I have in the past. Additionally I have several friends struggling with this. One thing I want to point out is to make sure you go ahead and get your labs done. There are several supplements that can really help with cortisol issues & there are other medical conditions that can cause cortisol issues. So be sure to see your doctor if this has been a chronic problem.
Thanks so much for sharing this! As a homeschool mom of 3, plus a 2 year old running around, and I own an accounting firm that I run from home (and Jan is the busiest month of the year) I’ve been feeling BURNT TO A CRISP! I’ll be looking up this book on Audible for listening while I’m working. Thank you!! 💜
My have to: keep my two tiny humans alive. My want to: play the piano, even just one song, though more is generally better, it's crazy how much of a difference such a small thing can make in my day
I’m so excited for decluttering! Due with my first baby early April and want to get the house in order before his arrival! It’s not in terrible shape, but with so much new stuff going to be coming in for baby, we need to make room and clear out!
Thank you so much for sharing! 3 years ago i hit a wall, burn out, anxiety and panic attacks. I'm on the good way, but i'm always carefull. So i really gonna read that book! Hopefully it's translated in dutch. Again... thanks!
Stress has been strongly effecting my health issues being maxed out over the last 7 months. Especially my stomach and my widespread pain-not to me ruin weight gain from the stress cortisol 😢
I truly appreciate this video. I’m good at compartmentalizing stress in order to keep moving but eventually we deal with it. Having specific ways to manage your own Mindset can be such relief. I’m decluttering w you!!!!
Ever since 2020 I find myself avoiding the news because it just freaks me out even though I see the fear making in it. The areas of stress like a family member or my daughter's schooling I have foudn those but it is not so easily remedied. Though we do try. What I feel more difficult to deal with is the expectations society (and not even social media but the surroundings you live in) places on you and if you for whatever (valid) reason you cannot conform to it you get shamed. And I struggle mostly with that, and the want to do's I see no time for. So still at the point of peeling mysef off the wall and hope by summer get a bit back on track. Thanks for sharing.
Spot on! This content is hugely relatable to me and I don't find a lot of family vloggers discussing it. Maybe a series on sit downs this year on your journey?
I hear you! Thanks for putting this out there. And when I think about TikTok I think of silly teenagers and that’s really not your demographic ✌️ I wouldn’t want to get on there either. So don’t! Good for you!!!
You are a Mother you are at work 24 hours a day, seven days a week and 30 days a month othewise you are never off work but it is one of the best jobs in this world
I just started reading "Essentialism" by Greg Mckeown (may have spelled his last name wrong) and it's sounds like these two books are very complementary to each other!
Angie, WOW!! I have without reading the book come to a understanding of yep, I need to do this, I want to do this, and I must do this. You know Sis, it is like each day that is presented to us, that I have come in wisdom and understanding that, it is a process no matter the want, need, and must. The process is I am going to stay calm in and thru the process, so I can have peace, joy, thru out. So that I can sustain a calm and peace in life,because bottom line is that which comes day by day the need to get thru, is a process and I have chosen to process a b, c as best to my ability to sustain a mental state of ok it is a process and it must be accomplished however, choosing to allow the peace and calm along the way. One day at a time. And even finding the joy therein to take a breath and even a laugh. Lol saids a woman who is in a state of loosening hair from stress 🙏
I don't know what's stressing me out, I have a really light life, I live in Germany but I'm returning to the States soon. Got to see the world and traveled a lot, but we are returning soon so maybe that's why I have Gerd so badly my esophagus feels eroded, literally. I have an EGD on Thursday. So I have stress somewhere. 😩 I feel blessed to have gotten away from the States for a while though, while there's no place like home, home has become something foreign to me. So maybe that's where my stress. The winter is always difficult too.
This definitely resonates particularly about not being able to feel connected anymore. Have you heard of the youtube channel Jinna Jinton? She is an inspiration when it comes to living in the moment and finding joy where you are.
Off topic (sorry 😁) But a while back you recommended a life insurance company. I can't remember the name of it. If you happen to see this I'd appreciate the name of it. Thank you so much!!!! 😊
When all my brain does is focus on your shirt and try to figure out the entire video what it says but thinking man that doesn’t look like an N at the end. Hahaha I think it says Risen? May need to Re listen. I swear I have ADHD LOL
"Hustle culture" and praying at the altar of business are getting a lot of women into a lot of trouble. TURN OFF THE SOCIAL MEDIA. Turn off the constant noise and droning of women who wake up at 4:30 AM every day and go hard until they collapse into bed each night. We aren't meant to live life like we are machines. It is okay to live life slowly. It is okay to say no to outside activities. It is ok to take a nap. It's okay to not want your life to look like the lives you see on IG and Pinterest and mommy blogs. Save your sanity ladies, and turn off any voices telling you to do more, be more, and want more. Those voices are NOT from God. He will only ever tell you to LOVE more, and love does not equal "busy".
YASSSSSSS I agree completely. Get off social media!!!! It’s so much quieter. Read “To Hell with the Hustle” and “The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry”
My daughter and I call each other our oxytocin booster.... We learned once that you shouldn't hug for less than 20 seconds to get a release of oxytocin... When we need a boost we just reach out to the other and have a good long squeezy hug... And, no joke, I can actually feel it happen... It's such a nice thing.
So good! As a nurse working full-time at the hospital, serving at church, military wife & mama of 3, I was burnt out beyond belief. Everything that used to bring me joy became an obligation. I went to working every other weekend and eventually quit the hospital all together. It had to be done. I don’t think God meant for us to live that way! For now I am working on my small UA-cam channel and working on my BSN while my husband is back on deployment rotation. I will go back to work eventually but not at the cost of losing who I am as a wife, mama, & believer. Thanks for posting!!!❤
I have goosebumps. I just started looking into cortisol levels and balancing hormones etc and it's exactly for this reason. It's almost like I don't even know how to get myself healthy anymore, like it's impossible to be motivated. Your video is so needed today!
Chronic stress ruined my body. I had been seriously stressed out my entire life until one day my body couldn’t handle it anymore. I developed Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia, and IBS all at the same time. I figured out that stress is my number one trigger for a flare up. I have been trying to turn this around for the last 7 years. I’m still working on it, but am making progress. It’s not easy. Any time I am asked the question “what is something you wish you could have told your younger self?” And I always say “find a way to manage the stress. There is only so much your body can tolerate before it gives up.”
Same story here. ❤️😢
Was in the same boat as you. Chronic fatigue, chronic pain, autoimmune disease and mental illness. Stress is no joke. I’m so happy that I came out the other side and love seeing others reminded that it’s possible - and even though it’s not easy, it’s simple things that make a difference. Grateful for this message. Hope you keep thriving 🤍
I was literally praying asking God to help me understand this less than 30 minutes ago. Thank you so much for sharing! -Suzanne
You are the only other person I know outside of my home area that knows that expression about “wishing in one hand…”. 😂😂 I grew up in Mississippi and have lived all over as a travel nurse. New friends and colleagues would just hoot when I’d say that!
Thank you for making this video. I am just finding it but the timing is perfect. God bless you and your family as yall recover from Hurricane Helene. ❤
Time to DECLUTTER ! Praying and being in nature has helped me stay calm and slay the day ❤ Thanks for ideas and support 😊
This resonated with me Angie! Busy isn’t necessarily a good thing. I always thought that being busy busy busy meant being productive and justified my existence lol. I Went to a women’s retreat and the speaker talked about the acronym “BUSY”…
B- being
U- under
S- satan’s
Y- yolk
She talked about how you can be “busy“ and totally miss out on what is important in life…this really hit home because I realized that I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off and not enjoying life ….and more importantly, I was not properly prioritizing God, family, friends, etc.
I heard a speaker saying that if Satan cant get you to do wrong, he will keep you busy.
Things I’ve done to eliminate stress
1. Got rid of social media (this eliminated more stress than I thought it would)
2. Get rid of clutter (do this often)
3. Watch cleaning videos on UA-cam. This helps motivate me and appreciate my home and taking care of it.
4. Start a budget (just started Dave Ramseys baby steps and we already are saving money and paying off debt).
5. Plan out weekly meals ( keep it simple, no need to complicate this). I do grocery pick one day a week which helps save money and time.
I just wanna cook you spaghetti and meatballs, garlic bread, with a nice glass of wine... and your dessert of choice! you are so vulnerable and it truly helped me❣️ new mom here 🙏 boundaries are even harder when you have toxic relationships 😔 God is with us💕
I was just telling a friend how I think I am dealing with either depression or anxiety because I’m having a hard time looking forward to anything positive in my life right now. My best friend who I haven’t physically seen since 2018 was coming for a short visit. I was so nervous about the visit it was hard to get excited. I am currently parenting on my own because my husband is deployed. We have six young kids six and under. I LOVE them and I do enjoy being home with them. I am homeschooling and overall I feel good about everyday. I just downloaded the audiobook because of your suggestion. I don’t know when I’ll get to start it but I am looking forward to listening to it because I need to address how I am feeling. I need to be on my ‘A’ game for my kids.
God luck, honey! I’ll be praying for you and the kids and your husband
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Thank you for helping us feel normal with all the things going on. My chronic stress was my job of 32 years, lucky for me I was retirement age. It took me months after I retired to feel like being productive after pushing so many hours for so many years. After 3 years I finally am excited about doing fun stuff that I never got to do when I worked. Thanks!
Thank you for sharing this! A certain amount of stress is to be expected, but when one gets overloaded with stress, it is difficult to function. Knowing other’s struggle with the same thing helps.
Sooooo timely. Since December I've been so burnt out. I have chronic illness, autoimmune issues, was sick for 3 weeks straight (cold turned sinus infection turned ear infection) I definitely got to the "I don't even care anymore" stage. Still trying to drag myself out of bed and do something. It's so hard with little kids. We went bowling as a family Saturday and it was the first time I left the house in 6 weeks. 😵 it's been rough! Definitely going to listen to that podcast
Thank you Thank you Thank you 🤗
Praying many blessings on you and your beautiful family ♡
Awesome topic, I’m a go getter and when I had my business I was working so much, burn out, and no self care I was a mess. No more.
Do you have a video on how you juggle homeschooling, having a biz, the home, other relationships, and self time/care?
Girl you are singing my song. I'm a researcher too. And i have learned so much helpful info. But lately i sit at my desk and stare. Then walk into my room and stare. I wondered last week how much time a day am i just starting into space because I can't even anymore. I wish people could understand how much work dreams come true can be. (We just bought a house) The pressure I put on myself is suffocating. And then it's on everyone around me too because i can't do everything by myself. But everything is a really stupid to do list. Thank you for making me feel not alone in this and reminding me that the smallest steps make the biggest difference. Hugs to you as we're on this journey together.
Highly recommend the book titled Burnout. Written by two sisters and they speak directly to women and our societal expectations that also lead to our stress and eventually burnout.
I started taking vitamin D and magnesium and it has given me the energy to workout de stress. I hit a wall big time and gained 80 lbs after having my kids. I'm done having kids and want to get my body back to where it was and not feel so stressed.
I appreciate your videos. Contrary to the comment saying you do this to yourself to cause stress, I think that discussing these things with others helps to de-stress in itself. Knowing that you are using your experiences to help others can feel rewarding and nurturing as well. So, there can be a trade off there. Yes, it’s true, we can all get into a rut of “all the things”, and that can be a balancing act. Sometimes we need to trim the fat, but this is not a time for others to point the finger when you are trying to help from your personal experience. Thank you for sharing your life with all of us. I enjoy your videos and seeing how you manage homeschool. I decided to homeschool when my three kids got into the hamster wheel of public school, tutoring, and activities. We were all burned out, and homeschool, ironically brought a level of peace I didn’t think was possible. It’s only videos like yours that gave me the courage and motivation to do it. So thank you for that, and for being vulnerable with us, and for using your valuable time to help others. ❤
Thank you for your kindness 🖤
THANK YOU!!!!!!!! This video was so inspiring and very helpful. I have read many articles regarding Stress types and Cortisol was in most of the articles. You also have problems with weight gain when your Cortisol levels are off. I try to stay away from news because it is so hyped up and sad with all the stations airing all day long. Regarding work stress was HORRIBLE, I retired, I gave them 4 months notice so they could find a replacement, however, the manager made my work space so miserable I just walked away.
That is clinical depression. I became severely depressed after a year of intense stress. I am on prescription Celxa for depression, which has given me my life back. I also take saffron, GABBA, magnesium, vitamin d3 k2, and herbs to help my adrenals. I quit watching the news. I walk and listen to music every day. It really helps.
So good, Angela!! Thank you for sharing, I love "our talks" lol. Im currently trying to declutter my mom's things since she went to a memory care facility. It feels overwhelming.
My daughter walked in once while I was watching your vlog. She said, "Who's that?". I said, "It's my friend. Ha! Who I've never met." So appreciate your frankness and willingness to share what you're learning! It really helps!
It's amazing how you can change a huge problem just giving attention to solving in just small chunks of time each day. Sometimes that's all you have time or energy for.
Can't wait for the declutter challenge,!
What a great video ❤️ I hit a wall in December when the most horrible tension headache of my life struck for two weeks. I didn’t even know that was a thing, I literally felt like I was dying. I was given a muscle relaxer and a chiropractor recommendation and the chiro has been LIFE CHANGING. More importantly though, I had to pray and realize that the previous six months had wrecked me - between being pregnant with terrible morning sickness, marriage hardships, homeschool struggles, friendships straining, it was all so obvious but not to me for months. I also started intentionally reading scripture daily and enjoying and looking forward to it, it’s been so healing. And vitamin D has been really helpful as well. Life feels so much better now and I’m so hopeful.
You're so lucky your body told you to stop and heal before it was too late. The two week headache was the best thing that ever happened to you.
Thank you for talking about this condition, that we can changed by doing a make over of sorts of changing our mind set.
I hit burnout in January 22 but didn't realise it until June... Our schools were put on another closure for 2 weeks. I had made it through working from home, for a software company I've been with since 2012, through all of the initial lockdowns that brought all of my 4 kids home, and the fits and spurts of the returning to and coming back home from school for 1-3/4 years, moving our oldest out to university, prepping the second to head to the Army, but that last one just broke me.
When I finally thought, I'm not functioning normally anymore, I started researching this "burnout" thing everyone was mentioning, and like going through I diagnostic checklist I realised it was me. In hindsight, I figured out the beginning of it was when I started getting angry whenever I read reference to us being 'resilient' through all of the change. I dispised the word!
I'm doing better now. Slowly but surely focusing on what was truly important to me, getting better at giving myself grace, and saying No from my gut. And yes, I did change jobs, not because it caused me stress but because I was doing it mechanically and found no interest in it anymore. The new job learning curve has been rough but is more of a normal stress level with peaks as I need to figure something out and valleys, even joy when I succeed.
Good luck on your journey.
All of this hits home so much!! Thank you for sharing. Thank you so much for saying you don’t do tik tok! As a new content creator I feel so much pressure to do tik toks but I refuse to get it or do it. It’s a major source of stress! I have watched you for so long and you have been monumental in so many areas of my life. Thank you for sharing your life so that we can learn so much from you. Blessings to you and your family!
I so feel this. I can deal and deal and deal and nothing really bothers me anymore. And I literally do not care any longer if anything changes. I'm going to listen to this podcast and see if I can't find this book!! Thank you!
Thank you for this.
I resigned from my teaching career of 19 years this past May after having a panic attack at work so bad they sent me to the hospital in the ambulance with a suspected heart attack.
I’ve been working through examining my life and figuring out what is next for me. I know I want family to be my number one priority, but I am still exploring who I AM without my career of so many years.
I was horrible at boundaries and balance between work and personal life. I want that calm, rather than the “productive” stressful state I was attempting to live in for so long.
Until I lost my “spark” and could barely summon the energy to make it through my day…
Lots of great thinking here. Very relatable.
Your perspective is appreciated. 😊
Amanda, I don’t know you but I totally get it & I’m so proud of you! God bless you! I’m sending up a prayer for you right now🥰
@@f8thfulmom , I appreciate you so much. Thank you. ❤️
I definitely requested for the free workbook. I need it a whole lot. I started college for the first time ever this year, and there is so much burnout
Wow I needed this. Thank you so much for sharing and making this video. I’ll be getting the book and joining your decluttering! ❤️
You’re my favorite person , whom I’ve never met! I love your videos and your humor … you have the greatest heart!
I too have had to learn to set boundaries and know it is not easy, especially if you are easily distracted by the fun things or generally overwhelmed by life. I am starting to look at things differently now I have decluttered a lot of my possessions. One of the questions I now ask is ‘how often and for how long am I prepared to clean this particular room in a week to maintain it at a standard that is acceptable to me?’ This obviously depends on the room and its usage, but if I am conscious of how long it takes and that time is too long, I look at 1) what I am constantly tidying up and why it does not get put in its designated home which for me generally needs to be out of sight; and 2) what I can permanently remove from the room to reduce the time I spend cleaning it. I have found if everything you keep has a home of your choosing and it is just as easy to put away as leave out, and if something is removed for a period and not missed (if it is bring it back and try removing something else, otherwise declutter it) life is way calmer. You have time to do more of what you want, there is less arguing over chores and your environment brings you peace. It has taken me 54 years to learn this (clearly I am a slow learner!) but as I live with less, I find I want less.
I never comment but this video feels like it was made for me. I am not coping at all. This was helpful. Thank you.
This has really hit home in areas of my life. Not in the way you are in but in the area where I procrastinate because ever since I retired, I don’t have a schedule. Oh I’ll do it tomorrow just because I can … but tomorrow never really comes. I am worse in these winter months.
I will check out his book thanks ❤
Feeling this so much. Going to check out this book. Thanks!
So true , done do news very much & stop posting on Instagram that was not healthy. We say we won’t compare and then we do. Instagram is a lie it’s not all organized or beautiful lol. I’m finally at a great place. Awesome topic my friend
I really like the video. As you talked I totally relate to stress and anxiety.. of course I am not a mother of 8. But I am a father of 6 and a grand father of 8 and counting. I know my stressed an't the same as yours. As I listen to you I think more about Stephen covey's book 7 habits of highly effective people. Particularly his time management matrix. On another thing you talked about oxytocin. I used to be a dairy farmer and we to give shots of it to cows sometimes when they were upset to calm them down so they would let their milk down. It can be addicting to them
Dang I feel like I got the therapy session that has been years long awaited.i didnt know there was actual names for what i have been going through and that im not the only one who has felt this dynamic and deep feeling. Crazy how certain things and struggles will make you feel so alone and that your the only one feeling like this bc it does run so deep. It's relieving to know its not just me and there are actual real reasoning for it..thank you for this 💕
Oh my gosh. I am sitting here w a saliva test from my Dr to do. I do have a mass on my adrenal gland but one of my blood levels was off, but, the list of "symptoms" from the cortisol is off the chart. What you spoke of, I am so there!! So I am doing the "midnight cortisol saliva test" this coming week. It also can cause anxiety and panic attacks that can be almost paralyzing and you can't sleep, then you crash and can't get up What is motivation?? I don't know anymore. Then the guilt eats you alive.... I have had to stop watching "the news" period!!! May I add I have a 11,4 and 2 yo, so this is a huge struggle! Your Dr can help, and find the source, sometimes it's medical as well as environmental . It IS a real thing and things CAN be done! Thank you for bringing awareness!!!!
Several months ago, I signed up for online therapy, through the app Better Health and I have been BEYOND pleased with my therapist and the ability to do my therapy via voice or video calls from the privacy of my home. When I signed up there was some initial questions just to kinda get an idea of what it was I was dealing with; in my case, my husband left and wants a divorce and I don’t want that but I’m forced to do it because he does not wish to work on the marriage. I do have health insurance, but where I live in this world part of California our healthcare is terrible so the only therapy I could find was once a month at best and through like a county program which I did not want to do so if you’re looking for a therapist to talk to I strongly suggest better help it’s amazing. And btw, for trauma, stress, etc using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is so good.
Amen, from a CFS perimenapausal woman!
I needed this right now. Thank you
I enjoyed this so much, this is my life now!
Oh this hits home! Thank you for sharing ❤️
I loved your last declutter! Looking forward to the new one. The last one was a big help for me in a time I was needing it
I definitely feel like I’m dealing with a lot of burn out. The past year and a half has been one stressful experience after another. My husband almost died last year from a heart attack and that’s been quite the process of trying to make sure he stays healthy. Then we moved during the summer And moving is always horrible but this move in particular was very bad. We’ve had some issues with the new house and one of our cats who is elderly is not doing well and so it’s been one fire after another tip put out. I have a teenage daughter who is not doing well in her school and wants to go to boarding school where she can focus better and that’s a big process. So I feel like I’m chasing a tiger and I know that I’m burnt out because I feel like a lot of time is my emotions are weirdly flat when it comes to certain things. It’s also hard to know what my dreams are, because I feel like my worries, overwhelm my dreams of the future. Anyways, sorry you had to read all of that but I totally understand what burn out is completely because I am definitely dealing with it right now.
Praying for you Angi. xx
It's so true that a move can be particularly bad. I've moved 9 times as an adult, and I still look back at one of moves about 4 years ago and feel I never recovered from it even though we've sold the house and moved on.
So helpful... just what I needed. Thank you and love from the UK xx
Loved this video. I am not currently feeling this way but I have in the past. Additionally I have several friends struggling with this. One thing I want to point out is to make sure you go ahead and get your labs done. There are several supplements that can really help with cortisol issues & there are other medical conditions that can cause cortisol issues. So be sure to see your doctor if this has been a chronic problem.
I am feeling this exact thing! Thank you for this! It’s time to make some changes!!!
Thanks so much for sharing this! As a homeschool mom of 3, plus a 2 year old running around, and I own an accounting firm that I run from home (and Jan is the busiest month of the year) I’ve been feeling BURNT TO A CRISP! I’ll be looking up this book on Audible for listening while I’m working. Thank you!! 💜
We need more Real earth Angela B.
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Angie, thank you so much for sharing this. I have been here in exactly what you're talking about.
My have to: keep my two tiny humans alive. My want to: play the piano, even just one song, though more is generally better, it's crazy how much of a difference such a small thing can make in my day
I’m so excited for decluttering! Due with my first baby early April and want to get the house in order before his arrival! It’s not in terrible shape, but with so much new stuff going to be coming in for baby, we need to make room and clear out!
Wow! Needed this, thanks so much for having this chat today, you’re such a beautiful, sweet soul. God bless love🙏💜
You are so welcome
Thank you so much for sharing! 3 years ago i hit a wall, burn out, anxiety and panic attacks. I'm on the good way, but i'm always carefull. So i really gonna read that book! Hopefully it's translated in dutch. Again... thanks!
Thank you! I will devour the book
Stress has been strongly effecting my health issues being maxed out over the last 7 months. Especially my stomach and my widespread pain-not to me ruin weight gain from the stress cortisol 😢
Thank you Angela 🙏🏻 I got so much out of this video 🙌🏼 You’re one my favorite UA-camrs 💓
Thanks for posting this. Very useful information.
I truly appreciate this video. I’m good at compartmentalizing stress in order to keep moving but eventually we deal with it. Having specific ways to manage your own
Mindset can be such relief. I’m decluttering w you!!!!
Ever since 2020 I find myself avoiding the news because it just freaks me out even though I see the fear making in it. The areas of stress like a family member or my daughter's schooling I have foudn those but it is not so easily remedied. Though we do try. What I feel more difficult to deal with is the expectations society (and not even social media but the surroundings you live in) places on you and if you for whatever (valid) reason you cannot conform to it you get shamed. And I struggle mostly with that, and the want to do's I see no time for. So still at the point of peeling mysef off the wall and hope by summer get a bit back on track. Thanks for sharing.
This is just the conversation I needed
This was fantastic. So relatable and informative!
This was so helpful and just a fun way to think about self-improvement. I actually laughed out loud when you impersonated dopamine... so funny!!
Spot on! This content is hugely relatable to me and I don't find a lot of family vloggers discussing it. Maybe a series on sit downs this year on your journey?
Thankyou Angela ♥️🤗🙏
Been here since day1
This is really insightful and boy did I need to hear it... Without knowing I needed to hear it lol
I'm also refusing to get on TikTok. I'll always find you on UA-cam 😉
Excellent…we listen to the same podcasts….thx for this.
Thanks Angie! I needed this today!
Thank you for the wisdom you share. ❤
This!! Thank you, thank you for sharing!
I enjoyed this so much! Thank you
Thank you for this video ❤️
Angie, you might be interested in a book called Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski written especially for women.
I found you because I was doing a major declutter at the same time
I hear you! Thanks for putting this out there.
And when I think about TikTok I think of silly teenagers and that’s really not your demographic ✌️ I wouldn’t want to get on there either. So don’t! Good for you!!!
Ooooh this is excellent. Thank you so much. (Anxiety is making my hot flashes worse- i see that).. also, hot flashes suck!
You talked about increasing serotonin oxytosis, what's the best natural way to do that? Also, have you heard of SSRIs and how they might help?
You are a Mother you are at work 24 hours a day, seven days a week and 30 days a month othewise you are never off work but it is one of the best jobs in this world
I just started reading "Essentialism" by Greg Mckeown (may have spelled his last name wrong) and it's sounds like these two books are very complementary to each other!
you'll be fine
Angie, WOW!! I have without reading the book come to a understanding of yep, I need to do this, I want to do this, and I must do this. You know Sis, it is like each day that is presented to us, that I have come in wisdom and understanding that, it is a process no matter the want, need, and must. The process is I am going to stay calm in and thru the process, so I can have peace, joy, thru out. So that I can sustain a calm and peace in life,because bottom line is that which comes day by day the need to get thru, is a process and I have chosen to process a b, c as best to my ability to sustain a mental state of ok it is a process and it must be accomplished however, choosing to allow the peace and calm along the way. One day at a time. And even finding the joy therein to take a breath and even a laugh. Lol saids a woman who is in a state of loosening hair from stress 🙏
Needed this
My cortisol is flatlined- did the saliva test in October
Great video Angie
I don't know what's stressing me out, I have a really light life, I live in Germany but I'm returning to the States soon. Got to see the world and traveled a lot, but we are returning soon so maybe that's why I have Gerd so badly my esophagus feels eroded, literally. I have an EGD on Thursday. So I have stress somewhere. 😩 I feel blessed to have gotten away from the States for a while though, while there's no place like home, home has become something foreign to me. So maybe that's where my stress. The winter is always difficult too.
This is where I’m at right now.
This definitely resonates particularly about not being able to feel connected anymore. Have you heard of the youtube channel Jinna Jinton? She is an inspiration when it comes to living in the moment and finding joy where you are.
So I signed up but I’m not sure how to receive it 🤔 via email?
Yes
Off topic (sorry 😁)
But a while back you recommended a life insurance company.
I can't remember the name of it. If you happen to see this I'd appreciate the name of it. Thank you so much!!!! 😊
Ethos! www.ethoslife.com
@@angela.braniff Thank you so much!! 💓
When all my brain does is focus on your shirt and try to figure out the entire video what it says but thinking man that doesn’t look like an N at the end. Hahaha I think it says Risen? May need to Re listen. I swear I have ADHD LOL
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