Oliver James @ 5x15 - Love Bombing
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- Опубліковано 3 гру 2013
- Oliver James trained and practised as a clinical child psychologist and, since 1988, has worked as a writer, journalist, broadcaster and television documentary producer and presenter. His books include the best-selling 'Affluenza, They F*** You Up' and 'Britain on the Couch', which was also a successful documentary series for Channel 4.
He is a trustee of the Alzheimer's charity, SPECAL. Oliver's new book is called 'Love Bombing'.
Recorded at The Tabernacle in London in September 2013.
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As a veteran and abused at 9 years old and suffered 21 years of society's persecution I totally agree...
I think there is some permanence to traits received at birth, but it’s not explained by genetics.
There are other theories of biological inheritance.
Really lovely ideas. Please don’t use the term “love bombing” as this has pretty much the opposite meaning from what you are recommending. If you’ve ever been love bombed you would not use that term lightly
I don't know if you were aware of this man's qualifications and clinical reputation but he is and was quite a genius. Unlike many people now, he is a fully qualified psychodynamic psychotherapist. The 'love bombing' term you refer to is a label that was used by trick cyclists.. .not proper therapists. However, you can figure out the difference, I'm sure. Oh and I also trained in psychodynamic therapy. And your follow up comment relating to child development.... this is his speciality and he is right, the first 6 years of any child's development is crucial for hard wiring in the brain. There are more and more young children with ADHD. It doesn't surprise me... not necessarily because both parents are working full time and have little quality time with the children, but when they do, they are constantly over stimulating the child trying to overcompensate. And then there are the phones, iPads, etc. To say that a parent is 'toxic' is perhaps a little accusatory when you do not know them. However, the world is cramming every bit of time in a day, with noise/stimulus and no one ever considers that maybe just staying at home and doing nothing but relaxing... reading and having one on one time with a child is really all they need when they are young. Everyone is different. Most parents do the best they can, but sadly it tends to be the very wealthy who are the worst. Social media has a lot to answer for. It will only get worse.
@@heatherboughton5936 I concur. Love bombing term seems to have a certain reputation. Love bombing like he said can be healing to some.
Also, really there is nothing wrong with the child. You say, “your child’s problems”. Surely it’s the parents who have problems if they’re so neglectful of their children the child needs Ritalin to cope? It’s the parents who are in need of the drugs and therapy and time with their family. The kids would probably be better off spending time getting love and care from people who actually give a shit about them. Frankly, if a parent is so neglectful they need to be told to spend time loving their child that child needs someone else to look after them. They probably need LESS TIME WITH THE TOXIC PARENT