We Get Honest About Having 5 Kids
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- Опубліковано 27 лис 2018
- We were having a conversation about having children and we decided to film it. Hopefully some of this is helpful to you all.
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I’m from a family of 11. I find that a large family helps us learn to share and not be self centered. We always appreciated anything that we received. Children are a gift!
I think a lot of young parents forget that they are the PARENT! Children need to have this, not a friend. Great advice Art and Bri!
Darlene Graham yes!!! it is painful to watch a tiny one lord it over a parent....
Your sweet baby is a scene stealer , what an adorable little person!
I just wanted to say I cried almost throughout this whole video. I have two children, 18 months and 3. Most days are so hard. It seems in this day and age having a village and using it is so frowned upon. Thank you for relating to us...too often people only care about hearing the positives, people don’t want to help through the storm. I’ve struggled with ppd for 3 ongoing years. It’s been the hardest thing ever. I just can’t say enough how thankful I am for this video. ❤️
Everyone has a village anymore. Every store I go into there are at least 3 kids to every family.
I wanted 5 kids but God bless me with 2 daughters who are now 19 and 17. I believe they're truly miracles because I was told in my twenties that conceiving and carrying a baby would be very difficult for me. I thank God every single day because he blessed with two kind, smart, and loving young women.
Susan West Such a blessing. Thank you for sharing our story.
My husband and I have twelve children , ages 4 to 23 ( six girls , six boys ) and one Granddaughter....I love my large family and what being in a large family teaches.. patience , caring for others , and working together 🙂
We have are moments of bickering etc but when life hits the fan we have each other's back 😉
I want my kids to enjoy the little things in life..playing outside , climbing a tree , splashing in puddles .... the dishes will still be there , the kiddos will eventually move on .
My mom would like my house to be cleaner , but hey I can clean my retirement away LOL my kids will only be small and take my cuddle and kisses so long 😂
Enjoy that Beautiful family ! ❤
I had two kids and was overwhelmed, because I did not have a teammate in my husband. He helped with absolutely nothing for the kids or the house or even to earn money. You are a team. That’s the way it should be. Then I got pregnant with my third from this man and I thought I was going to lose my mind. No one knew I thought it was going to lose my mind. On the outside I held it together. My third child came and the stress was incredible. I was also struggling for money. Anyway, multiple children work best when you’re not alone. Also having a stable financial situation is key. I divorced the loser when my girls were 12, 10 and 7 and my life instantly became much less stressful. They are now 31, 29, and 26 and the youngest is pregnant with her 2nd child within a marriage that is a team. TEAMWORK is key. MONEY is key. Then it’s manageable.
Tnx for sharing.
My parents had EIGHT of us (on purpose). Mom always said three was the hardest number because they were all very young and helpless and she only had two hands.:) She said more than three kids was easier because the older kids can help and you learn how to go with the flow and let go of the little things.
Thank you for sharing your very personal thoughts. After my husband died a few years ago, I was so stressed about sending Christmas cards I did not know what to do. I felt so relieved when I gave myself permission not to do that, it was so empowering. This might seem very insignificant to some, but at the time it was a big thing to me. Thank you Bri and Art for being such awesome parents, you have been such a blessing.
I totally understand. We have 5 kids and, truly, it does feel easier with 5 vs. 2.....crazy, but its just because we have learned and grown so much as parents.
I'm the oldest of 7 kids, 7 years between me and the youngest. The more of us there are, the more we have to interact with, besides just our parents. I think that helped take some stress off my parents, although we were very poor, sometimes in a good place, and sometimes not. I had to help raise the younger ones, which I thought made me an expert when I had children. No way. Every child is different, and society loves to judge everything you do, or not do. Everyone seems to think we are supposed to be perfect parents, instinctively knowing everything to do just right. That puts a lot of pressure on you, especially when you don't know what to do, or you feel dammed if you do, or damned if you don't. It's better that we think, talk about it, and ask questions, without people judging and condemning us. Or threatening to take our children. That takes so much pressure off, which also just improves the family relationship. Children, especially babies, sense stress, anxiety, and fears. And when you keep trying to live with that, instead of trying to resolve it, it can create mental problems, and worse.
I think you guys are wonderful! I LOVE your family! Keep following what you're doing! I wish we had your inspiration when my parents were young, and when I was a young parent. Now I share your videos with my children and others, to help them with their families, or future families!!! God Bless you All!!!
Great video. We have four kids from fourteen down to six. Our youngest is nonverbal and on the autism spectrum. We have definitely had our challenges. I would much rather listen to experience than “expertise”. God has use my kids to make me a better person. The one thing I tell you parents, if they ask for advise, is to be the person you want your kids to be. Kids learn more from watching you than listening to you.
Amen lol cause they dont listen well they copy!! Lol...
The Crazy Seis Amen ❤️
Oh dying to yourself , YES ! I have 4 grown children , 20 , 27, 29 and 31 ..I started my Mommy career when I was 16 years old .. I look back and find myself not missing a thing but grateful I did it . All are productive citizens of our world , I'm thankful it's over though . Grandmother of three .
I have six between the ages of 11-8 months and I totally understand what you're saying here. The more kids I've had, my expectations have changed and that has helped. Also, having older children to help makes a difference. But ultimately, truly embracing my role as a mother and resting in it - that has changed my heart. I love having a large family ❤
I also think lifestyle helps. Homeschooling and homesteading allows a slower pace of life. I don't think I could handle this many children in the busy, suburban, public school lifestyle.
I had 5 children and now my oldest is 31 and my youngest will be 21 soon. I wouldn't change a thing. Even though there were hard times and stress sometimes, they have brought me so much joy. Never a dull moment!
Wilder is such a handsome and cute boy! I have a very big smile on my face watching his bright face.
I think the toughest part of parenting is when they are transitioning into adulthood, when their decisions are permanent, when their choices are not wise. I am currently watching my daughter run full speed to a cliff while refusing all advice and wisdom from her elders and peers. Knowing she is of age there is little I can do but pray. My son is making poor decisions as far as his future, education, career and digs in his heels and chooses his own way. It was easy to homeschool them because I knew what was best. Now they are choosing and it is horrifying!! I now keep my mouth shut and just pray and pray and pray. My encouragement to you is to pray NOW for wisdom when the time comes for them to jump the nest. God bless your beautiful family!
brightpurpleviking + Dear, you can cry out to God, hand her over to Him and trust Him. Pray for her every day with all your heart, that He manifests to her personally! you can do that, and it is very powerful!
Gladys R. White thank you so much for the encouragement! I have prayed so hard for her every single day. I am grateful God loves her so much and is able to change her direction easily. What a tremendous hope we have in Him-! God bless you ❤️
I think in cases like this, just remember what you have steadfastly worked to "install" in your children and have faith that eventually, that "software" will win out. Trust your children. They must make their own mistakes to really learn, after all.
ecophilia absolutely! A good friend it’s told me this very thing. “Trust the foundation you’ve built under your kid!” So hard, though 😞
Brightpurpleviking, I know what you are saying. It is hard to have raised your children the best way you knew how, to think that you instilled in them good things and what they will need to make wise decisions, and then see them get out on their own and race headlong to disaster. One of my children made a lot of really bad decisions for a lot of years. They are ow almost forty and finally stopping for a moment to take stock of their life. They blamed us for sheltering them too much for a long time, and maybe we did. Now they are finally starting to realize that they are responsible for their life and that their choices affect their kids’ lives. I said STARTING to. Keep praying! After they’re grown, the more you say, the less they hear!
Great video I have 4 children. They are all adults but one now. I suffered with anxiety and depression. One thing I would like to add is not to get caught up in what society "says" a family should look like. Don't listen to criticism. Thank you for your videos.
I have three beautiful children age 4 and under and expecting my fourth baby in February. I really needed this video this morning.🙂
Justin and Mary Ward we have very similar aged kids and we just had our 4th two months ago. I won’t say it’s not hectic but this has been my easiest transition thus far. The baby has been the easy part, the hardest part has been keeping up with the older ones. Just wanted to encourage you! You’ve got this!
Having kids is hard! We have 3 sons, all just 2 years apart. My hardest days were when they were all in school, all in sports, all needing big dinners, all needing clean clothes, all needing help with homework and school projects, all needing lunches packed for school. The list goes on and on. Those were hard days! My husband worked long hours until our youngest was 12. Then he changed jobs, and was home in the early afternoon to help. Thank God, cuz I was ready to just drop dead at that point. Lol! It was still hard work, but we made it. We have 3 fantastic sons. Great advice guys! Love from Texas
My parents had 5 children in 4 1/2 yrs. Last two were twins. I arrived almost 6 yrs to the day of the twins and my sister 4 1/2 yrs after me. My sister and I are sure we were oops babies but my parents called us the blessings. My Dad drove transport truck and was often gone for days. When I had my three and times were hard, I asked my Mum, who was 1 of 11 children, how she did it. She told me to sit down and enjoy them. Forget about the house it will be there tomorrow but the child today will not be the child tomorrow. Closeness of family was important to them. I know times were hard for my parents with so many mouths to feed but they left us with good memories of the time they spent with us and what they taught us, not the material things we didn't have. We miss them both so very much.
I think moms hold themselves up to ridiculously high standard and it can suck the joy right out of being a parent/woman. Not every family has the same routine, motivation, income, needs, space. Quit reading good housekeeping if its going to cause stress in your life instead of enjoyment! quit hanging out with people who act like being perfect (martha stewart and the pioneer woman) is
your goal in life over quality time with your children/family. Parenting is messy, don’t be afraid to roll up your sleeves and get dirty.
live within your means, and be happy with that. get creative, use your imagination, think outside the box because its ok to do that.
you are the boss of your own life, you make the rules! Im really worried about Rebecca Rhodes, I think shes a prime example of
this conversation and its making her sick. I can see you have worked some things out Bri and you are in a much better place. I
hope she realizes that what she thinks and wants matters. its ok to say NO. You are not a failure if you decide to change up your
routine for your own sanity. you need to eat, sleep, take care of yourself! Art and Bri, you made great points in this video. ❤️❤️
So young yet so wise! Yall are an inspiration and encouragement to this old soul. Luv seeing you and your family, thanks for sharing!
I cut cable years ago. I would much rather spend my time watching real people than actors. Happy to support your channel!
Lol. Wilder loves the camera....he’s a cutie. Brighton and Justice are getting soo big! You guys are so blessed with two beautiful daughters and three healthy curious boys. Teach them what you know, guide them (potter and the clay), and know them. Stress less and be blessed.
I can identify with everything you’ve said. It’s easy to feel pressure to please other people. At the end of the day, it’s ok not to. And that’s a huge release of pressure.
It took me until last year at the age 43 to realize I had the ability to live my life the way I wanted. In the past, I often found myself overwhelmed with just the mere thought of pleasing others or meeting THEIR expectations of me.
My child has angel wings and even though I can not relate to having 5 children, your message and encouragement serve me as a reminder during this often stressful time of the year. ❣️
Your honesty is refreshing. Even at uh 60+ it's important to recognize when to step back and just breath. Live, Love, Laugh. Happy Holidays to you all. 💞
Great video....I feel like you have helped a lot of people today. My biggest thing was trying to keep everything spotless and that just doesn't work (at least not for me). When I gave myself permission to let the dusting go for a few days...wow what a difference that made. When your children grown up you want them to remember you always had some time for them, not that you were too busy with what ever else might be going on. Thanks for sharing this, love your beautiful family. Have a Blessed day.
Good parents always worry about being good parents I think. I'm 46 and my around 70 parents still worrie about being good parents eventhough I told them a tousand times they are. My dad drove me to an appointment today because due to secomstances I don't drive anymore and he stated as long as I can I will do this for you no questions asked. Ain't he great. I love my folks.
This video comes at the best possible moment in my life. I was asking and doubting myself about the vast majority of things you have talked about in the video. It is so reassuring to hear what you have to say. Thank you
Oh man Bri, preach it! I have a 3 year old, 2 year old and another due in a few months and I do feel like I'm just in survival mode. Hard to enjoy life. Feeling like I gave up everything (and always will) for the kids. Feeling like I can't take time for myself cause this and that need to be addressed. It really is so hard
Hold the Walnuts Stay encouraged!
My husband and I were married 15 years before we had children and it wasn't because I was having difficulty we just put it off. So I had my first one at 35 and my last one at 40 and had three boys about two years apart. The first one was rough because I had not had to deal with another individual in my life that took up my time. Then I had the second one because the first one was becoming too dependent on me as their playmate. When I had the third one it was my bid for a girl but having another boy ended up to be better for our family. I guess what really help was the oldest one even though he was a boy really help me with his younger brothers and to today he still does. I tell him I think he is a better parent than I am the boys are now 22,20 and 18.
Such wisdom. Made me think back 40+ years. I could have used this then. I would have been a much better parent and person. I work now on being an incredible grandma!
As a single parent of 5 one of my big regrets is that I didn’t take the time to stop and just be with them more. There was always work and house work , garden, etc. They are now 36-22 and their view is we did tons of stuff together and I was always there for them. So I guess my view as a mother I felt I wasn’t doing enough. You both are great parents and your kids are beautiful.
This is me now I constantly clean the house or work I have 4 children oldest is 8 a 7 year old a todler and a 1 year old baby a currently expecting my 5th and that's a fear of mine am I going to regret not taking more time to enjoy say the heck with cleaning once and a while and take it all In
Your a great inspiration to all your a normal young family going through stresses etc and your not afraid to share the reality of life, thank you xx
Each of you are so kind and sweet. Thank you for sharing your life and helping others. I do love each of you and I hope that you have a blessed Christmas and 2019.
Getting ready to start our school day and honestly, was really struggling this morning. This helped me so much. I just needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing your heart. You are such a special family.
Shield Grace. I am the oldest sibling in my family, and while I also grew up fast and was able to help my parents meaningfully, I think my parents sometimes lost sight of me also being a child. Not ill-intentioned. I think it's a slippery slope and you guys seem to be aware of it. :) Thank you for sharing.
I’m going the old videos from before I found you. This is one of the best advice videos for parents I have ever seen. Oh how I could have used this in 2006-2008! Thank you for your honesty, and sharing your beautiful family with us. 💕
Your children are loved which shows in their awesome behavior. That is a reflection on you.
Thank you for your honesty. As a mother of 3, I often believed I was not meant to be a mother and was ruining them. It is not, never was, that I didn't love them. Depression has been a long term companion, and needing to be a perfect parent didn't help.
Counseling helped me a lot, but God has helped me more than anything. I wish I had known Him sooner when my kids were small so they could know Him now. Thats something I regret now as a grandma, Its nice to see you guys being so honest and open about your life with your children, God bless you all.
Katherine Bragg You can be a great influence on your grandchildren. I was raised by a single mom who was not a Christian, but my grandmother was a very devoted Christian. She had a huge impact on my life toward serving the Lord. Don’t live in regret, you can love and pray for your kids and grandkids and you CAN make a difference in their lives!
My wife and I had six children at one time. Three biological children and three foster children. One was a teen, then five under eight. It seemed easier. We put off our dreams for our kids. Now that we have our first grandbaby, we are finally planning our future. The kids are grown and our lives are in stage of restart. Great video!
I call it wisdom ☺....
As someone who also has anxiety that feeling of not having a choice in all things is very real...when I learned yes,I do have a choice ...it's was the ahha moment I was looking for.
The trick for me is learning how to stop in the moment..just stop and breath...
Plus therapy worked for me to learn how to stop...
Great video
Hugs from TN
Art, Bri and family
Being calm is great and ty all for shareing with us all
gb you all tc for sharing your time and Iam glad god has work his love to your family..
I'm thankful you are "real" and post these videos. In some ways, I'd love to have a family of 3+ kids. In others, I'm sooooooooo tired from not having slept more than 4 or 5 hours consecutively in more than 2 years. I'm a first time momma with an active 2 year old (she's like my husband). I am so overwhelmed with my stay-at-home mom duties. I'm always behind on dishes and laundry, and my house is an embarrassing mess...the chaos stresses me. Bri mentioned simple meals...if you could do a video on simple real meals, I'd appreciate it! I used to spend 1-2 hours cooking dinner every night. Now I am trying to batch cook, and I'm getting better, but my brain doesn't think in the language of "low-prep," "forgiving," or "quick" meals. Like...quick meals used to be risotto and roast chicken...I cannot stand and stir a pot non-stop for 30 minutes anymore. Lol!
You two are so down-to-earth, it’s been lovely to see you grow, as well as your family. Give the girls extra love today, they help out around the house and make things easier.
I used to stress at the holidays too, because I wanted everything to be perfect. As it turned out, the holidays were always perfect regardless of how much I stressed about the details. It’s family that makes it perfect, even if it doesn’t go the way you planned.
Love your channel, you guys...all 7 of you, are a joy to watch!
Great advice from you guys. I couldn't help but notice Grace's expression while you guys were talking. It reminds me when I was her age, when my parents talked about financial struggles in front of me, it made me take on that worry, and made me feel helpless for our financial struggles. I just ask that everyone remember what your conversations are in front of little ones, cause some, like me, took that on and caused me great worry as a child. I know you understand what I mean, love you guys, from TX
You are such a wonderful family! I love watching your videos - they make me so calm and happy. Enjoy your youth and your children, life passes so quickly. Spend every minute you can enjoying your sweet children - other things can wait! I don't regret any of the time I spent with my kids - the things that seemed so important and demanding at the time have been forgotten but I have such amazing memories of little things my kids and I did together! You all have found the way for a wonderful life and it's so wonderful to watch!!
Thank you so much!!! I needed to hear this today!
What a great video 💗. So many of us get stressed around the holidays and this really reminds me to try to be present in the good moments and not focus on the unimportant.
The power of saying "NO"....we all need to practice it!
You guys are awesome...thank you for the encouragement. This video hit the spot for me (Sam) and I think you're right about doing what you need to do for your family, instead of trying to fit in another person's box. Thank you for sharing!!!
This video is right on the mark! We have 2 adult children (27 & 21). Parents must talk to each other and be unified, then they can help the children grow. You are right Bri, this season can be very stressful and you need to give yourself permission to say "No, this is not what I want" and change it. Keep up the good work, you have a great family and UA-cam channel.
Thank you for your honesty and openness
Such a happy baby boy. So cute,. Hugs guys. :)
Thank you so much for the encouragement.
Thank you for the encouragement. A very relevant reminder this time of year. Blessings to you and yours :)
I have six kids as a single mom. It’s just that practice makes progress. The two of you together makes it easier and more enjoyable. I would never trade my the experience as a mom raising my kids. They are all adults now and they are great! Thanks for sharing!
I appreciate and admire you guys so much. You're such an encouragement!
Thank you guys, this was so helpful.
Such wisdom. Such love. Thank you! ♥️
As a fellow Mama of 5 who are now between 13 and 22, I agree that those earliest years were the hardest. There have been hard teenage moments, but not the puddles of tears every time my husband goes to work kind of hard 😊 I do think that I struggled with undiagnosed post-partum depression.
And I also urge you to follow that desire to take away all distractions and lean into these brief years of intense motherhood ....I regret some years that I let other things become distractions and wish I could have a do-over 💜
He is the happiest little man.
This touched my heart. A wonderfully honest and humble look at parenting.
Grace! Such wisdom! I really love the way you think so deeply!
Hey friends. I really enjoy these kinds of videos that you make. You both have such Grace and exude love as you share the wisdom you've gained along the way. I just wanted to say one of the biggest things that really helped me as I was struggling new mom was reading Ann voskamp One Thousand Gifts and learning to journal gratitude. Off and it was just one sentence but I kept a list and it really shifted things for me. Instead of always focusing on what I had lost from my previous life before kids it really helped me see all the beautiful things right in front of me that I could be thankful for. It made all the difference.
THANK YOU so much for this message. We have a 2.5 yo who we ACHED for before she was born, who, upon arrival, spent the next 7+ months either nursing or screaming with almost zero in between. Combo that with my own childhood traumas, and I have been a MESS for a really long time. And it took me over a year to realize that it wasn't even about my daughter- it was about me. I've been in therapy over a year now with a trauma-specific therapist, and it has been an incredible journey. I'm not "all better" by any means, and I still have a long way to go, but since I started dealing with my own traumas, I have come to be completely enamored with my daughter in all the ways that people swore I could be, and yet I had never experienced. Moral of the story: everyone's journey is different; don't let your initial experiences or anyone else's experience define you; children have a way of forcing you to grow in the most wonderfully painful way, and it's totally worth it. 2 years ago, I was swimming in shame over feeling like I had made an enormous mistake in becoming a mother, and now I can't even imagine a life without this incredible little soul who is fire and joy and worth every bit of work I have to put in to know her.
Along the lines of "you have the power to make your home what it needs to be", we have all but decided not to have more children (at least for a while). I always wanted many children, but given the amount of work I have left to do on myself in order to heal myself, it's just not something we are purposely willing to take on. I hope to one day be in a place where I can safely bring more children into our home, since they are such a joy, and y'all's honest messages of life with many children makes me feel like it could be possible to know a life with a more full home. Thank you for sharing, and thank you for inspiring and encouraging me again and again. I'm really grateful for y'all's voice.
I think this is the second time watching this video and its perfect timing as I feel a bit crazy with now just getting a job, school and two kids under 5 . Thank you for being the balm I needed again ! Art and Bri thank you for being such a wonderful family to watch ! Sending love , from Kansas
What a beautiful reminder, thank you all for sharing❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you Art & Bri. I am not a parent, but this was still.one of the most inspiring and touching videos i've see in a while. Thank you Bri for sharing your story and tip about dealing with anxiety. It's refreshing to have someone honestly discuss their life, rather than just share a one dentional.portrayal of themselves (like so many other youtubers do).
Thank you for keeping it real
love this one, brings back tons of memories. your on the right track, time fly's, enjoy as much as you can, make those memories...
good day to you Art, Bri & Family !! thanks for sharing another awesome update and adventures on and off the homestead !! 👨🌾🎥👍✝
Your family and yourselves bring a smile to my face! Be well, be happy and have peace! Thank you for being here!
Had three now all grown, it was the best of my life. It was hard at times, and when I could get away, I was always in a hurry to get home to them. lol It is a season and one I wish I could revisit. A wonderful time. Thanks for reminding me of them.
The days are long but the years are short. You are raising your kiddos beautifully. We have 5 kids that we homeschool on a small acreage farm 4 are graduated, last one started high school this year, 2 are married an we now have 2 grands. We didn't do too many activities that detracted from family time and I don't have a single regret! Our kids ha e all thanked us and want to do what we did! God has blessed us and may He bless you as well!
Your children are sooooo incredibly blessed that you two are their parents. I love how open and real you are with them, and with us, too. It makes me so happy to see you enjoying life and love!
This is great! I do think almost every mom (and even dads)have the same thoughts at a given day - and if she's honest to herself - and even if she has only two children, like me. But like you say, we grow and then we realize, whats really important - and its not the ego.......It is so nice to see you talk about all that so freely, it is so helpful, you nice people over there. It helps me also to understand, that we are all the same even more and more everywhere on this planet earth. Thank you
I've been watching a few of your videos over the last few days, having come to you through Roots and Refuge. I've really enjoyed them, but this really spoke to me, because my boys are all grown up now, with my eldest (step-son) having his own children, but when I had my baby I was totally overwhelmed. I was bombarded with what I should do from all angles, and yet supported from non. I felt totally isolated after a very difficult pregnancy, and birth with a baby that I couldn't bond with. I was just sat here watching you feed you baby, thinking how lovely that is, but remembering watching my sister-in-law feed my nephew, who is six weeks older than my son, and feeling so inadequate because my baby was hungry and miserable all the time. I was in so much pain to! When he cried to be fed, I cried too. He had me awake all night because he was so hungry, and I was at my wits end. Finally a new health visitor asked me how I was, she was the only one that had, and when I told her she told me to start giving him a bottle of formula as late as I could before I went to bed. I can't tell you the difference it made to him. At nine weeks though my milk totally went, and I was so happy. I know they say that breast is best, but not when they are not doing the job right, your baby is literally starving, and you are both miserable. Finally I was able to start bonding with this beautiful little boy I had, who is now a strapping 24 year old. I have seen other mums criticize women like me for 'giving up', and 'not trying hard enough', because they did whatever. We accept that things go wrong with animals, and that sometimes we need to bottle feed calves, goats, foals, kittens, puppies...anything...except us it would seem with some people.
We're all just trying to get through this life, and to support each other is the better way to do that. Non of us are perfect, and our choices don't always match, but we can all choose to be beautiful in our approach, rather than ugly xx
I’ve got 5 daughters ages 31 to 15. My best advice is to try to stop and enjoy SOMETHING about each of your children every day. Believe me I know that some days it’s hard to do that. Notice the things that make them unique and special and tell them! Let go of certain expectations and focus on doing the best you can in that moment. They grow up so quickly. I would love to spend just one more day cuddling and breathing in each of them as babies!
God, I wish I would have seen this video when I was a first time mom of twins! I thought the them same things, felt lost and so depressed. It took me such a long time to believe in myself again and see I am a good mom and I didn't ruin them :) Thank you for your honestly.
Bri, thank you for opening up about what you went through I went through something very similar after having my son and it didn't get better until I saw counseling. You are a strong rock, mama! Love seeing mama and papa on the same page with parenting!❤
Love this!!! I needed this today
Amen. Thank you for sharing your heart. Very encouraging.💜
You guys are amazing to put your real feelings out there and tell the truth my mom had 11 kids and I am amazed by your sweetness you guys should be honestly proud of yourselves yes we all go through hard times but I watch your videos and your honest is amazing. God bless you and your family.
You guys are awesome and I love you so much! Thank you for your transparency! I wish we had had you guys around when we were raising our 5 children. May the Lord bless you all, precious family.....
You two are such amazing people and a truly beautiful family. ❤
Thank you Art & Bri for sharing and being so open about parenting..... You all are so blessed to have each other and are such beautiful people and AMAZING parents. We can be so hard on ourselves as parents which in hindsight is so crippling. Blessings to you and your family 💖
I needed to hear this.. Thank You both so much for your words. I have 5 kids as well and things have not been at all easy. Last night I stressed out, and Bri you are so right. Had I stopped and thought about what was fully stressing me out I might not have gone off on my kids the way I did. But I should've stopped and placed my mind in that "zone." Everything seems to be hitting all at once & it just became over whelming. My 14 year old son is slightly autistic & has been struggling with a few things in life. My 12 year daughter has been getting bullied at school plus going through some thing with her biological father for whom she doesn't want to see, but everything got to the point where she was contemplating suicide. I had the cops at my door asking to speak to her and I. It's still an on going battle & I have to keep an eye on her. I have three other little one's ages 8-4. All for which need my attention. I panicked last night and just went full blown "crazy off" not meaning to but it just all exploded. Sorry for the long response. I hope you guys have a wonderful week. God Bless.
I like how you explained that the real break is WITH family. I’d love nothing more than to be at home, in my bubble, loving my people and sharing time.
Thank you for this. I only have one child, a 5yo, but the feelings of anxiety and stress you mentioned are so real to me. My son is so full of life and love, but more often than not I see him in a negative light because of the anxiety I feel when he is enjoying himself to the fullest (ie jumping off things, running, yelling happily... etc). I need to figure out how to let go, for both our happinesses. Anyway, thank you again. Your encouragement, as always, is so replenishing, and will hopefully help me to figure out what I need to do to change up things for the better for my family.
Love your heartfelt advice on family and encouragement ♥️
Yes to the surrendering 🙌 I have 4 kids ages 11,7,3.5, and 12 months. We homeschool and some days are hard!!! My oldest 3 are boys and when we had our daughter she really threw me for a loop!! She cried for hours and hours and hours until she was 9-10months and still she is very fussy and always needs me to hold her. She is now letting my husband hold her a little but still prefers me. Its very draining to have a human literally hanging off you crying almost every waking hour. I just had to surrender to this season. I let everything go that I possibly could to bring the stress level down. I had to and still do need to remind myself daily this isn't goingto last forever. She wont be a baby forever. Eventually she will sleep thru the night. But ya this baby really chiseled me into a selfless more patient momma and for that i am thankful. Its all a journey
Hi Art and Bri. We are very soon moving out of Auckland City, New Zealand 6 hours south to our first home with 3 acres near a country village. To do homesteading, homeschooling. Two kids, 3 and 6. Thanks for your videos!!! Been watching a year now. Been an inspiration to us all in many ways. Appreciate your honesty and warm personalities so much.
So good! Bravo for sharing tthese experience out there for others! God bless!
Look at that big smile! Thanks for sharing! I’m dealing with the desperation and overwhelming feeling now and I don’t have kids. Ah, but it is good to hear that this feeling will pass. Thanks for reassuring my heart, Bri :3
I love everything about this, thank you so much!!!!
Just came on this older post. I raised our 5 kids and the age span was 10 years. It did get easier. The easiest was the younger years, but more busy as they were older,. They are now all 5 married, living within 6 miles of us, so we totally enjoy them as wonderful hard working adults. You are doing a great job. Enjoy this time because it truly goes in a flash! Each one is a blessing for sure. My husband was a wonderful dad and partner, so having them all was mostly easy. Not perfect, but staying home to raise them was a struggle financially, but totally worth the sacrifices made. You give wonderful advice so keep on doing what you are doing. You are a lovely family. Blessings ❤️
young familys can learn so much from you and your walk . I sure wish you tube was around when I was young. I remember putting so much pressure on myself. so this kind of "teaching " is so helpful to other familys. thank you.