We will all hold up a light for you and the girls the darkness will be no more.. keep talking to us we are listening. I'll be a sounding board as long as you need.
Dearest Kelly you have absolutely nothing to apologize or feel guilty for everything you're going through is perfectly normal not to mention completely understandable considering all the trauma and loss you've endured, those that don't understand that can be grateful that they have no idea what it's like. Any good psychologist will tell you that it takes at least 5 years to adjust to any major life changes never mind the loss of a child as well as a major spousal betrayal on top of it! It is perfectly okay to not be okay! Please rest when you can and know it is ok ❤
I'm listening to you for several yrs too, and this recent family situation makes me remember how 34 yrs ago my dad passed, and I still remember, thank you for sharing your life and family❤❤❤❤@@KellyBarlowCreations
8 years now without my Axe-loving son...wherever in the world I smell it I think of him and smile or maybe shed a tear...lovely that you could each have a bottle to keep with you forever🥰
25 years on this grief journey with the loss of my son at 21. The year of firsts is difficult, but it's the anxiousness of the upcoming special days that seem overwhelming. Step back, breath and if I can give you any advice at all it would be this..do YOU, only what is best for you and the girls, and DO NOT let anyone tell you how you should feel or what you should do. Take time to let it out when it comes in those heavy heart waves, you will find an odd relief in that. Your followers will be here waiting...AGAIN, WHEN YOU ARE READY. Sending love💕💕💕💕
ANEN🙏🏼AMEN Words through you help me also, as I’ve missed out on a lot of family and healthiness. GOD BLESS ALL In time we will all be rejoicing in a new life surrounded by our loved ones in the purest of love. Don’t rush it, in GODS TIMING and ONLY HIS we all will be HOME. Respect you Kelly, and girls hold tight, with all three of you, you are strength and power and courage as Ray wants this for you, fill that love river with tears, flood the oceans just do not let it carry you away, to many need you all. Love, Peace, Grace, Mercy, Courage, Strength and a caring heart sent your way.🙏🏼❤️🫂🫂❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼🫂
Scent is so important. My grandmother's house smelled like dove soap. I keep a bar of it with me wherever I go. I can't pass it in the store without stopping and smelling it. It helps.
My dad and his mom separated ways when I was around 8-9 yrs old…so, I didn’t get to see her after that…still to this day I remember how her house smelled. 😔It always smelled like clean laundry and Cashmere Bouquet soap. 🥹Every once in awhile, I will smell “her” and it’s just little reminder that she’s not so far away. ❤
I have my Nanny's powder & powder puff. It's inside 3 zip lock baggies. I've only opened it a few times cause im worried it will fade but when I have, it makes me sooo happy cause she seems right beside me. 😊
Dear Sweet Kelly, you are going through every Mother’s worst nightmare, a place our minds and hearts never want to be. I have told you before, “Grief is really just love with no place to go.” I am sending bands of angels to surround you and the girls with warm loving thoughts and prayers for peace of mind and heart ❤️
My apology ahead do not wish to offend you but if God is there why he is doing all this for Kelly. She has lost so much over the years. I would understand the punishment if she would be a horrible person BUT SHE IS A LOVELY HUMAN BEING. Why make her suffer like this.
God is with Kelly, I just know it. Horrible things happen to really good people. That is life. He hasn't forsaken Kelly. She WILL get through this heartache
Sending good vibes to you & your girls , do you think it would be better if you put Rays house up for sale so you don't have sadness ? Not being mean spirited.
@@deborahlear7822 the house is now belongs to Kayla. Ray left it for her. It would be silky to sell. When she gets married she can move there and have a home.
Kelly, my heart just breaks for you. You take all the time you need. Lean on Jesus. Cry out to Him. He’s your comforter, He’s your healer! I’m praying for you. ❤🙏🏻
My nephew recently passed from cancer. I want you to know that your journey feels so close to home. You being on this platform has helped so many. I want you to know that.
Kelly, you have been through sooo much this past year..Give yourself time to grieve .At some point the pain will lesson and your memories will all stand out.. Love to you this season.
Kelly, my son died almost 50 years ago and I still grieve. He was only 20 months old but oh so many memories. Give yourself time. It does lessen but it will never go away. I feel so bad for you and the girls. It sounds like Ray was your rock. He's watching over you and the girls. Hugs and love
Kelly give yourself grace. Anyone who cares about you will also give you grace. I can’t imagine your pain. My sister lost her daughter my niece to a flu and it happened so fast. She was sick went to the hospital it was hours later she was gone. My sister still hurts every single day. This was 6 years ago and it’s like it was yesterday. I’m just so sorry. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I understand Kelly. I lost my 26 year old son in July. So many things ‘get’ me, but seeing his glasses on the sink in his bathroom really brings home the loss.
No mother should ever have to bury their child. No one. I am so very sorry Lori. I hope you have found others who have lost. I think it is very important. Grief is pain and when Pain patients get too much pain, we hide. My family and friends know if they haven't heard from me, I am in a dark place and I do not want that for anyone. God bless you.
The holidays are so hard especially when you have experienced loss. Please give yourself grace. You will never be the same but, you will come out of this dark time. You are such an inspiration, and we need you.
Brave heart, Kelly. 💙 I lost my brother a few weeks ago unexpectedly (sepsis from double pneumonia), and my mom is struggling. Your videos are comforting to me through my own grief, and it’s helping me stay strong and keep my own brave heart for my mom.
I’m truly sorry for the loss of your brother. It sounds like you are your mom’s rock. You don’t always have to be strong, let your feelings come out whenever they want to. Sending prayers for your family♥️
Take the time you need right now. We will all be here when you are ready to DIY with you. The prayers will continue for peace and grace to you and the girls! 🙏💙☀️
One foot in front of the other. Just keep doing what you're doing. You will come through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the girls. 🙏🙏🙂🙂
Father God, please be with Kelly and the girls during this season. Show them your love and that you are there for them. Please give them comfort and peace as they move along this life. May God be with you and the girls!
Oh, Kelly. My heart breaks for you. I know how hard the holidays are without your son. It's been 5 years for me, but I can't say they really get easier, but you do get to the point where you can cherish every memory without a total meltdown - or at least I finally did. Grief doesn't come with time limits so never appologize for when it hits. You never know what will trigger the devastating emotions. I pray for you daily. I pray for peace and comfort for you all and for God to bless you daily. My philosophy is grief is proof of a life well loved.
Dear Kelly, Sometimes it's a day at a time but, sometimes it's a minute at a time or an hour at a time. Be kind to yourself, patient to yourself, everyone grieves in their own time frame. For me it has taken about 2 years to get over a traumatic event, but that is how it works for me..Keep putting one foot in front of the other knowing that the road you are on is one you haven't traveled before...Sending Much Love and Prayers...
2 years is considered normal. Grief for me took 10 years before I was ready to move on, and I still get depressed at being alone for Thanksgiving and Christmas.
I have a pillow case of my grandma's that's in the cedar chest that was in her bedroom. It smells just like her house and the first time I smelled it, it brought back that first stage of grief and now, thankfully, it's comforting. I'm praying for you Kelly. Grief is so hard and it comes in waves, so many times when we least expect it.
God please give Kelly strength...peace and comfort not only for herself but daughters as well!!! This time is so tough for so many please show grace and compassion and empathy for those who have suffered loss....we need time to process things heal and move forward...please continue to lift up Kelly and the girls in this....
Grief is never a straight line. It's a move forward, then move back. As a parent, you never get over losing your child, all you can hope for is peace and acceptance
Oh sweet Kelly! I totally get it! My husband died 4 years ago, December 10th. Just 2 days away. I still have his bottle of shower wash (swagger) in my shower. I'll never get rid of it. The smell is him. He was a nurse, and I found his old stethoscope and threw it out. I now feel so much guilt about that. I'm so sorry his medicine cabinet hit you with such force! You'll be OK, it will take a lot of time! We're all here for you and the girls!! Prayers for comfort 🙏 ✨️ ❤️
Nobody has the right answers for you! This is your journey and your baby girls journey! You have a massive group here for you when you are ready! So much love to you!!
I had taken a break from crafting videos so I knew you were having a hard time when God kept putting you on my heart. I lost my husband to cancer 17 years ago tomorrow. That was horrible pain! I know it is worse to lose a child…Please know I am praying for you. God was there for me and will be there for you too. I’m so sorry you are having to go through this. Please know you have many subscribers praying for you.
Kelly, your grieving healthy. The tears are love, the darkness is a path to light. Journey through, give yourself grace, be patient with yourself. Keep supporting each other, you and your daughters. God knows your mourning, comfort and peace be with you through these holidays and throughout all new years too! I continue to pray for you all. I lost my Son Steven at age 24 in 2008 and i still have times when the tears flow heavily, it still feels like yesterday. You have all of us here on this channel who love and care for you and your daughters. Be sure and take care of you too!
My heart and prayers go out to you and to your beautiful girls. Please know that we subscribers (your extended family) lovingly stand beside you and behind you to take whatever time is needed. We will still be here when you need to talk or are ready to craft. Hugs to you all!
Love the idea of memory blankets❣️ Love seeing the doodles❣️ They are sunshine on a cloudy day❣️ Once again, Kelly, the wonderful person you are shines through like a beacon in the night❣️ You sacrificed yourself to clean the house for the renters, even shampooing the carpets❣️ That had to be hard physically, mentally, and emotionally. But, you put yourself aside to make someone else’s life easier. That speaks volumes to the loving, caring, and kind person you are. Please don’t feel guilty for the medicine cabinet. I am sure if you asked Kayla she would tell you that doing that for you was an honor because of all that you have done for her. Kelly, you are 💯 right❣️ You will come out of this❣️ I don’t think you need to ask your followers to be patient with you. We love you❣️ When you love someone patience is a given❣️ Please, Kelly, be patient with yourself. You have been hit hard. Sometimes it takes a while to get up after you have been knocked down. BUT, YOU WILL GET UP. WHY? BECAUSE YOU ARE A SURVIVOR AND THAT IS WHAT SURVIVORS DO❣️ Love you to the moon and back❣️🙏❤️🙏
Kelly, grief and dealing with the trauma your ex and his partner have caused--it's overwhelming and add to it this season of the holidays where you and the girls are reminded of good and bad memories...I pray, lifting you, Kayla and Allie. May God's Healing Love surround you all. 🙏
Grief comes in spurts. It can catch you totally unaware and knock you to your knees. You guys are doing great, you’re facing it as a family and you’re depending on and supporting each other. Keep it up. This loss is one you will never get over but you will get through. God bless you all, and may you have the best Christmas that you can this year.
14:15 Kelly, you have been through so much. We are all praying for you and the girls and Ray too. Even though you're not looking for a partner now, I just know your sweet soul will find love in the future from a good and kind man and you so deserve that. Give yourself grace. You are stronger than you know and so many people care about you. ❤
Kelly, when my husband passed, I had to keep his clothes (his special shirts) in a bag...I had a terrible time...there is no time limit for grief and I hope that you continue to be strong on this journey of transition...prayers...
Kelly, you don't have to apologize for your grief. Your followers understand. You and your girls come first. We all love you.i am still grieving the loss of my mom, who passed away over 30 years ago
I absolutely understand dear Kelly. My son passed 21 years ago and for you and the girls it is so soon. Know this his spirit will be with you always. You will suddenly smell his sent and know he is there with you in that moment. I have endured this great loss for so many years. Without Jesus I never could have gotten to this day. Which I still weep for my boy . The medicine cabinet was him alive and doing well so of course it hurt you so deeply. A mother's pain is deep , this young man is part of you. I will not cease to pray for you all. After my son passed I went through a divorce at the same time. Oh Lord comfort our sweet Kelly and her girls . No you don't heal you learn to endure life. It does get better but it takes a lot of time.
Grief is completely unpredictable. Sometimes we have to take it one minute at a time. because even an hour at a time is too much. Don't apologize or be embarrassed, focus on yourself and your girls. Try to plan a couple of fun things, because even if it seems impossible to leave the house you will eventually find that you start to feel a little pleasure or at least a little lighter. One thing that has helped me through grief is to find someone or a cause that could benefit from your unique talents. Helping someone in the name of your beloved lost son will help lift some of your sadness, when you're ready. Rocking needy baby's in an NICU or crisis nursery is particularly soothing to both the babe and the person rocking.
There just can’t be a time period put on grief. especially for a parent. It’s one foot ahead of the other one day at a time. Sometimes it’s not moving that day and that is ok. I remember when my son’s best friend died suddenly many years ago at 18, his mother screaming at me “ I don’t know what I am supposed to do.” It was like an arrow went thru my heart because I didn’t even know what to say the grief was so huge. You will find your way when the time is right for you. Grieving is different for everyone and you need to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. Praying you find peace and comfort.
😭😭😭 I felt that... My sister was killed at age 16- the sound of my mother's anguish. Kelly, I am glad you are getting memory blankets. May God grant you peace until you see him again ❤️
You've been so strong and I am proud of you! I've been here for years, as Jeff did voiceovers for you, saw the kids grow up, saw you and your bonus mom cooking together! I've smiled, laughed, and cried with you! You are not alone! Take all the time you need. The mountain of grief has peaks and valleys, and like now... sometimes avalanches too! You will make it through and your rainbow will appear in due time! Keep looking up and onward, you are loved! Stay you my friend🤗❤🙏🏾
Sending you so many hugs and prayers. I lost my son within days of you losing Ray. Although I didn’t lose my son in the same way, I’ve walked this journey along side you. I can totally understand all the emotions you’ve been and are going through. Sometimes listening to you validates the way I feel. Thank you for sharing this horrendously, gut-wrenching and heartbreaking journey. I find comfort in Jesus and knowing I will see my son again. I know it’s hard, but you keep going and I will too! 🙏♥️🙏
As a mom that walks your journey,, I am 6 yes in this. Grief is complex and unique. You will carry it with you. When it's too much just stop and set it down. It's OK and necessary. in your own time you will do things in his honor. You will smile thru tears..every day brings new ways to be and live and rest. My heart is with you. We all are here for you and your girls.
Kelly, I am so sorry that you and the girls are going through this horrible grief AND feelings of betrayal at the same time! You and your girls have amazing strength--you may not feel it right now, but I know it's there. All of us out here in the Kelly Barlow fan club are sending you love and praying for your pain to ease. Sending you all (including those wonderful dogs) virtual hugs! We love you!!
Jesus loves you, you are talented and your children need you. That woman is small , tiny in her pettiness. Your heart is wounded but large, spilling over with love for your children and others. You matter. Your love has made the world a better place. Don’t believe the lies lady✨❤️✨❤️
This is your journey and you are sharing what grief looks like. Our culture wants to hide grief but I know you are helping others and yourself by sharing. Do what you need to do for you and your girls. Blessings for peace and comfort.
Girl! That's the best thing you can do right now. Just keep trying. Grief runs in cycles. You are not alone! You have been on my heart this past week. ❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Everyone who has gone through this hears what you say. It is so familiar. Those who have not, cannot imagine it. The first year is so hard but you will begin to notice that you are healing. It never gets fully better, but then again, you wouldn't want it to. Because you love Ray forever and you will miss him until you see him again.
Kelly, grief is real and can be crippling. Please don't be too hard on yourself. You will heal from the pain that your ex caused. Chances are that he'll do to her what he did to you. She's a self-serving person to go out of her way to hurt you after what you were already going through. She is insecure. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Don't let their behavior take away from the memories you and your daughters will make. Live, Kelly. I won't tell my story, but you can do this. You are loved💜
@@KellyBarlowCreations His pride is making him stay with her. It has to be. If he leaves her or makes it known that he is against what she has done, then he is admitting that he was a fool. Don't let his pride take your peace.
Kelly - You take as long as you need. Grief can hit you when you least expect it - it is especially hard during the holidays. I continue to keep you and your girls in my prayers. 🙏🙏🙏
I continue to pray for you and the girls. This is a very rough road! I think the quilt idea is perfect! Take your time finding the right quilter to make them. The mother of a patient of mine came back 11 months after his passing to show us a quilt made by a friend from his shirts and a jacket that was not just a bunch of squares and really displayed his personality. May the God of all comfort be with you during this hard season🙏.
Kelly, This will be the 3rd Christmas without my son. The holidays are very hard… please give yourself some grace and time. You can’t force yourself to get thru your grief…. It will happen in time. From what I’ve been told… we must go thru it to come out the other side of it. It’s a rollercoaster ride that none of us stood in line for… but still we must ride it. I wish I could give you a hug …. From one momma to another.❤.
Off your feet, lose your seat. Tears of Joy when I see the love the doodles have for you. Their such a blessing, comfort for you Kelly. My heart goes out to you all. We all compress our feelings then bam, knocks you down again. I will continue to pray that all your hearts heal and God will see you all through. Doesn’t seem like it but it’s all in his plan. HE will never leave you nor forsake you. Kelly take you time, we are all here for you. Much love and prayers ❤️💯🙏🏻💐🐶🐶🐶
Kelly my little brother (36) passed two months before Ray. My pain and grief still as his big sister is crushing, my mother’s pain I cannot even fathom as I am a mother of 5 myself. Please know you and your girls are loved, prayed for continually, and our support of you is unwavering. I watch every video and cry with you, hope with you, and know one day we will all move past this crushing pain. Please be gentle on yourself, knowing we are here, your silent army of supporters. ❤
I can only tell you that the only way I have gotten through the loss of my parents, all of my siblings is through the Grace of God! Had I not been a a Christian and know that I would see them all again someday and that the Bible says turn it over to the Lord!! It’s not easy to do this but deep down I know I’m not alone!! Jesus is right beside me every moment of every single day. I just say Lord I can’t handle this today you need to carry me today!! Give me strength and something to take my thoughts away from the darkness today. Please Jesus please help me get through this and get my life back to a place where there is happiness and not full of sorrow!! Amen. Kelly I pray for you and your girls daily!! But I promise if you put your faith in the Lord he will bring you out of this!!!
My dearest kelly! I can't imagine what you're going through! Keep trying, my dear! God will give you the strength you need when you ask for it! We're here for you! We love and care for you! Prayers continue!
Kelly, only by the grace of God you will go. Jeff will answer for his life. Pray for him I promise you will be surprised by how it will help you with your journey through all of this. I buried my baby boy just before he turned 40. My life will never be the same. We will all be here for you.
Kelly, my heart is breaking for you and the girls. It does get tolerable as the years go by. My prayers are with you always. I know that rings hollow right now but God does care about you and what you are going through. You will see Ray again. ❤❤
Thank you for courageously sharing your journey. I’m so thankful you have your girls, and they have you. Sending lots of love to you all this holiday season. 😢🎄🎀🤍
There are no rules when it comes to grieving. You have been dealing with more than the loss of Ray. Please take all the time you need. The load will eventually get lighter. Give yourself grace. Your followers love you, Kelly. We will be here for you when you are ready.❤
Kelly sweetheart the firsts are the hardest. You are not alone in this you have your girls and everyone here on your channel. Sending you love hugs and prayers.
Kelly i have been a sub of yours now for years. The pain of grief comes in waves. It's been 32 years since my daughter went to Jesus. I have already begun to feel the sorrows of the holidays. You and your family will be in my prayers 🙏
I am so sorry you are dealing w this. I understand. Few do. I am having a rough time. Some days it's hard to get out of bed. There's nowhere to go w the pain. If you find a way out of the pain, the darkness please share. Personally I keep feeling the darkness enveloping and am just waiting til it swallows me completely
Kelly - if you didn't get any help with the quilts, I will be going to the states in a few days and my sis and I have a quilt store in FL and we know a lot of quilters and some who could help you in your needs. I've made several memory quilts - from my dad's shirts, mostly.
You take all the time you need sweet Kelly. Everyone griefs differently. We will be here for you, listening. Continued Prayers for you and your girls. ❤🙏
Kelly, I can't even imagine how you are feeling, but I do know every person grieves differently and there is no magical set time for grieving to stop. You are so amazing and an inspiration to and for all of us. God bless you.
My son was killed in 2007. He was in the Army. They boxed up his room and sent it to me. I didn’t have to go down that path. I had several t-shirts and sweatshirts.
Thank you for your service and your tremendous sacrifice! From my family to yours, may you and your family be blessed beyond measure. May you be blessed with the life you deserve, and may it be 100X what you have earned! AMEN!
We will all hold up a light for you and the girls the darkness will be no more.. keep talking to us we are listening. I'll be a sounding board as long as you need.
Your comment hit me hard! It brought me comfort🤎 thank you for that!
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Dearest Kelly you have absolutely nothing to apologize or feel guilty for everything you're going through is perfectly normal not to mention completely understandable considering all the trauma and loss you've endured, those that don't understand that can be grateful that they have no idea what it's like. Any good psychologist will tell you that it takes at least 5 years to adjust to any major life changes never mind the loss of a child as well as a major spousal betrayal on top of it! It is perfectly okay to not be okay! Please rest when you can and know it is ok ❤
I'm listening to you for several yrs too, and this recent family situation makes me remember how 34 yrs ago my dad passed, and I still remember, thank you for sharing your life and family❤❤❤❤@@KellyBarlowCreations
We're all here for you and girls personally and spiritually. Keeping you and your family in thoughts and prayers. Warm hugs for you all.
It's okay to let Kayla share her strength with you when you are tapped out. It's not a have to for her. It's a want to.
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@@KellyBarlowCreationsI would bet Kayla was ministered to by caring for you...
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Heavenly Father, please keep your loving healing hands around Kelly and her girls. Amen. ✝️💜
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8 years now without my Axe-loving son...wherever in the world I smell it I think of him and smile or maybe shed a tear...lovely that you could each have a bottle to keep with you forever🥰
25 years on this grief journey with the loss of my son at 21. The year of firsts is difficult, but it's the anxiousness of the upcoming special days that seem overwhelming. Step back, breath and if I can give you any advice at all it would be this..do YOU, only what is best for you and the girls, and DO NOT let anyone tell you how you should feel or what you should do. Take time to let it out when it comes in those heavy heart waves, you will find an odd relief in that. Your followers will be here waiting...AGAIN, WHEN YOU ARE READY. Sending love💕💕💕💕
I am truly sorry for your pain..
I am so very sorry for your pain. praying for comfort. ❤🙏
I lost my mom at 83 and my sister at 52 to a murder 31 years ago and it never gets easy.
@@gthornton3 That is excrutiating. I feel so very terrible for you!
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Words through you help me also, as I’ve missed out on a lot of family and healthiness.
GOD BLESS ALL
In time we will all be rejoicing in a new life surrounded by our loved ones in the purest of love.
Don’t rush it, in GODS TIMING and ONLY HIS we all will be HOME.
Respect you Kelly, and girls hold tight, with all three of you, you are strength and power and courage as Ray wants this for you, fill that love river with tears, flood the oceans just do not let it carry you away, to many need you all.
Love, Peace, Grace, Mercy, Courage, Strength and a caring heart sent your way.🙏🏼❤️🫂🫂❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼🫂
Scent is so important. My grandmother's house smelled like dove soap. I keep a bar of it with me wherever I go. I can't pass it in the store without stopping and smelling it. It helps.
My dad and his mom separated ways when I was around 8-9 yrs old…so, I didn’t get to see her after that…still to this day I remember how her house smelled. 😔It always smelled like clean laundry and Cashmere Bouquet soap. 🥹Every once in awhile, I will smell “her” and it’s just little reminder that she’s not so far away. ❤
I have my Nanny's powder & powder puff. It's inside 3 zip lock baggies. I've only opened it a few times cause im worried it will fade but when I have, it makes me sooo happy cause she seems right beside me. 😊
Lord be with this child that is suffering so much. For she needs you dearly. Be strong my dear.
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Dear Sweet Kelly, you are going through every Mother’s worst nightmare, a place our minds and hearts never want to be. I have told you before, “Grief is really just love with no place to go.” I am sending bands of angels to surround you and the girls with warm loving thoughts and prayers for peace of mind and heart ❤️
🙏🏾🙏🏾 that was your child. It’s ok not to be okay. If you need to talk through your grief and feelings it’s ok. God is still with you.
My apology ahead do not wish to offend you but if God is there why he is doing all this for Kelly. She has lost so much over the years. I would understand the punishment if she would be a horrible person BUT SHE IS A LOVELY HUMAN BEING. Why make her suffer like this.
God is with Kelly, I just know it. Horrible things happen to really good people. That is life. He hasn't forsaken Kelly. She WILL get through this heartache
Sending good vibes to you & your girls , do you think it would be better if you put Rays house up for sale so you don't have sadness ? Not being mean spirited.
@@deborahlear7822 the house is now belongs to Kayla. Ray left it for her. It would be silky to sell. When she gets married she can move there and have a home.
Kelly, my heart just breaks for you. You take all the time you need. Lean on Jesus. Cry out to Him. He’s your comforter, He’s your healer! I’m praying for you. ❤🙏🏻
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My nephew recently passed from cancer. I want you to know that your journey feels so close to home. You being on this platform has helped so many. I want you to know that.
Kelly, you have been through sooo much this past year..Give yourself time to grieve .At some point the pain will lesson and your memories will all stand out.. Love to you this season.
Kelly, my son died almost 50 years ago and I still grieve. He was only 20 months old but oh so many memories. Give yourself time. It does lessen but it will never go away. I feel so bad for you and the girls. It sounds like Ray was your rock. He's watching over you and the girls. Hugs and love
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I am sorry for your hurt, I came close to losing a new born grandson 8 months ago, it was a terrorizing feeling. sending love to you from Boston.
Kelly give yourself grace. Anyone who cares about you will also give you grace. I can’t imagine your pain. My sister lost her daughter my niece to a flu and it happened so fast. She was sick went to the hospital it was hours later she was gone. My sister still hurts every single day. This was 6 years ago and it’s like it was yesterday. I’m just so sorry. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Take all the time you need. We will be here. We will always be here.
Oh Kelly💕 I will pray for you and the girls🙏🏼
I'm sobbing. Take care of yourself! Take as much time as you need.🙏🙏🙏
I understand Kelly. I lost my 26 year old son in July. So many things ‘get’ me, but seeing his glasses on the sink in his bathroom really brings home the loss.
No mother should ever have to bury their child. No one. I am so very sorry Lori. I hope you have found others who have lost. I think it is very important. Grief is pain and when Pain patients get too much pain, we hide. My family and friends know if they haven't heard from me, I am in a dark place and I do not want that for anyone. God bless you.
So sorry for your loss! Lean on God and family🙏
I am so very sorry for your loss!
I am so sorry for your pain, I really am, love from Boston
So sorry for your loss
The holidays are so hard especially when you have experienced loss. Please give yourself grace. You will never be the same but, you will come out of this dark time. You are such an inspiration, and we need you.
Brave heart, Kelly. 💙
I lost my brother a few weeks ago unexpectedly (sepsis from double pneumonia), and my mom is struggling. Your videos are comforting to me through my own grief, and it’s helping me stay strong and keep my own brave heart for my mom.
I am sorry for the loss of your brother,
I’m truly sorry for the loss of your brother. It sounds like you are your mom’s rock. You don’t always have to be strong, let your feelings come out whenever they want to. Sending prayers for your family♥️
Praying for comfort, peace, and strength.❤❤😊😊
Praying for comfort,peace, and strength ❤❤😊😊
Sorry for ur loss
Take the time you need right now. We will all be here when you are ready to DIY with you. The prayers will continue for peace and grace to you and the girls!
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🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼don’t beat yourself up about anything. You keep doing whatever you need to do for yourself and your girls. We all love you.
One foot in front of the other. Just keep doing what you're doing. You will come through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the girls. 🙏🙏🙂🙂
Father God, please be with Kelly and the girls during this season. Show them your love and that you are there for them. Please give them comfort and peace as they move along this life. May God be with you and the girls!
Oh, Kelly. My heart breaks for you. I know how hard the holidays are without your son. It's been 5 years for me, but I can't say they really get easier, but you do get to the point where you can cherish every memory without a total meltdown - or at least I finally did. Grief doesn't come with time limits so never appologize for when it hits. You never know what will trigger the devastating emotions. I pray for you daily. I pray for peace and comfort for you all and for God to bless you daily. My philosophy is grief is proof of a life well loved.
Dear Kelly, Sometimes it's a day at a time but, sometimes it's a minute at a time or an hour at a time. Be kind to yourself, patient to yourself, everyone grieves in their own time frame. For me it has taken about 2 years to get over a traumatic event, but that is how it works for me..Keep putting one foot in front of the other knowing that the road you are on is one you haven't traveled before...Sending Much Love and Prayers...
2 years is considered normal. Grief for me took 10 years before I was ready to move on, and I still get depressed at being alone for Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Yes sometimes it is minute by minute.
Kelly, I wish I could just give you a big hug! You will survive this! Sending positive vibes and strength your way!
We are still here Kelly. I'm so sorry you hurt so bad. Just know we are here for you and your in my prayers. God bless.💕
I have a pillow case of my grandma's that's in the cedar chest that was in her bedroom. It smells just like her house and the first time I smelled it, it brought back that first stage of grief and now, thankfully, it's comforting. I'm praying for you Kelly. Grief is so hard and it comes in waves, so many times when we least expect it.
God please give Kelly strength...peace and comfort not only for herself but daughters as well!!! This time is so tough for so many please show grace and compassion and empathy for those who have suffered loss....we need time to process things heal and move forward...please continue to lift up Kelly and the girls in this....
Grief is never a straight line. It's a move forward, then move back.
As a parent, you never get over losing your child, all you can hope for is peace and acceptance
Oh sweet Kelly! I totally get it! My husband died 4 years ago, December 10th. Just 2 days away. I still have his bottle of shower wash (swagger) in my shower. I'll never get rid of it. The smell is him. He was a nurse, and I found his old stethoscope and threw it out. I now feel so much guilt about that. I'm so sorry his medicine cabinet hit you with such force! You'll be OK, it will take a lot of time! We're all here for you and the girls!! Prayers for comfort 🙏 ✨️ ❤️
Nobody has the right answers for you! This is your journey and your baby girls journey! You have a massive group here for you when you are ready! So much love to you!!
I had taken a break from crafting videos so I knew you were having a hard time when God kept putting you on my heart. I lost my husband to cancer 17 years ago tomorrow. That was horrible pain! I know it is worse to lose a child…Please know I am praying for you. God was there for me and will be there for you too. I’m so sorry you are having to go through this. Please know you have many subscribers praying for you.
Kelly, your grieving healthy. The tears are love, the darkness is a path to light. Journey through, give yourself grace, be patient with yourself. Keep supporting each other, you and your daughters. God knows your mourning, comfort and peace be with you through these holidays and throughout all new years too! I continue to pray for you all. I lost my Son Steven at age 24 in 2008 and i still have times when the tears flow heavily, it still feels like yesterday. You have all of us here on this channel who love and care for you and your daughters. Be sure and take care of you too!
Grief is so personal to each of us. Sending you prayers for love and light.❤
My heart and prayers go out to you and to your beautiful girls. Please know that we subscribers (your extended family) lovingly stand beside you and behind you to take whatever time is needed. We will still be here when you need to talk or are ready to craft. Hugs to you all!
Always here for u and the girls Kelly. Sending hugs your way ❤
You are loved, Kelly. You are loved ❤❤❤❤❤
Love the idea of memory blankets❣️
Love seeing the doodles❣️ They are sunshine on a cloudy day❣️
Once again, Kelly, the wonderful person you are shines through like a beacon in the night❣️ You sacrificed yourself to clean the house for the renters, even shampooing the carpets❣️ That had to be hard physically, mentally, and emotionally. But, you put yourself aside to make someone else’s life easier. That speaks volumes to the loving, caring, and kind person you are. Please don’t feel guilty for the medicine cabinet. I am sure if you asked Kayla she would tell you that doing that for you was an honor because of all that you have done for her.
Kelly, you are 💯 right❣️ You will come out of this❣️ I don’t think you need to ask your followers to be patient with you. We love you❣️ When you love someone patience is a given❣️ Please, Kelly, be patient with yourself. You have been hit hard. Sometimes it takes a while to get up after you have been knocked down. BUT, YOU WILL GET UP. WHY? BECAUSE YOU ARE A SURVIVOR AND THAT IS WHAT SURVIVORS DO❣️ Love you to the moon and back❣️🙏❤️🙏
Beautifully written. Kelly, you are a beautiful person. Take all the time you need. Hugs ❤
Perfectly said
Prayers for healing Kelly! If anyone can do this it’s you, you are stronger than you think,
Kelly, grief and dealing with the trauma your ex and his partner have caused--it's overwhelming and add to it this season of the holidays where you and the girls are reminded of good and bad memories...I pray, lifting you, Kayla and Allie. May God's Healing Love surround you all. 🙏
Grief comes in spurts. It can catch you totally unaware and knock you to your knees. You guys are doing great, you’re facing it as a family and you’re depending on and supporting each other. Keep it up. This loss is one you will never get over but you will get through. God bless you all, and may you have the best Christmas that you can this year.
14:15 Kelly, you have been through so much. We are all praying for you and the girls and Ray too. Even though you're not looking for a partner now, I just know your sweet soul will find love in the future from a good and kind man and you so deserve that. Give yourself grace. You are stronger than you know and so many people care about you. ❤
Kelly, when my husband passed, I had to keep his clothes (his special shirts) in a bag...I had a terrible time...there is no time limit for grief and I hope that you continue to be strong on this journey of transition...prayers...
Kelly, you don't have to apologize for your grief. Your followers understand. You and your girls come first. We all love you.i am still grieving the loss of my mom, who passed away over 30 years ago
I absolutely understand dear Kelly. My son passed 21 years ago and for you and the girls it is so soon. Know this his spirit will be with you always. You will suddenly smell his sent and know he is there with you in that moment. I have endured this great loss for so many years. Without Jesus I never could have gotten to this day. Which I still weep for my boy . The medicine cabinet was him alive and doing well so of course it hurt you so deeply. A mother's pain is deep , this young man is part of you. I will not cease to pray for you all. After my son passed I went through a divorce at the same time. Oh Lord comfort our sweet Kelly and her girls . No you don't heal you learn to endure life. It does get better but it takes a lot of time.
Amen❤❤❤❤
Amen, and may the Lord hold both you and Kelly in his hands.
I am sorry for your loss and pain.
Grief is completely unpredictable. Sometimes we have to take it one minute at a time. because even an hour at a time is too much. Don't apologize or be embarrassed, focus on yourself and your girls. Try to plan a couple of fun things, because even if it seems impossible to leave the house you will eventually find that you start to feel a little pleasure or at least a little lighter. One thing that has helped me through grief is to find someone or a cause that could benefit from your unique talents. Helping someone in the name of your beloved lost son will help lift some of your sadness, when you're ready. Rocking needy baby's in an NICU or crisis nursery is particularly soothing to both the babe and the person rocking.
There just can’t be a time period put on grief. especially for a parent. It’s one foot ahead of the other one day at a time. Sometimes it’s not moving that day and that is ok. I remember when my son’s best friend died suddenly many years ago at 18, his mother screaming at me “ I don’t know what I am supposed to do.” It was like an arrow went thru my heart because I didn’t even know what to say the grief was so huge. You will find your way when the time is right for you. Grieving is different for everyone and you need to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. Praying you find peace and comfort.
😭😭😭 I felt that... My sister was killed at age 16- the sound of my mother's anguish. Kelly, I am glad you are getting memory blankets. May God grant you peace until you see him again ❤️
You've been so strong and I am proud of you! I've been here for years, as Jeff did voiceovers for you, saw the kids grow up, saw you and your bonus mom cooking together! I've smiled, laughed, and cried with you! You are not alone! Take all the time you need. The mountain of grief has peaks and valleys, and like now... sometimes avalanches too! You will make it through and your rainbow will appear in due time! Keep looking up and onward, you are loved! Stay you my friend🤗❤🙏🏾
Sending you so many hugs and prayers. I lost my son within days of you losing Ray. Although I didn’t lose my son in the same way, I’ve walked this journey along side you. I can totally understand all the emotions you’ve been and are going through. Sometimes listening to you validates the way I feel. Thank you for sharing this horrendously, gut-wrenching and heartbreaking journey. I find comfort in Jesus and knowing I will see my son again. I know it’s hard, but you keep going and I will too! 🙏♥️🙏
Grief has no timeliness kelly. Take all the time you need. Praying for you and your girls.
Holidays are the worst ! you have to make it through this it get easier with time ❤ girl go outside close your eyes and just breathe
As a mom that walks your journey,, I am 6 yes in this. Grief is complex and unique. You will carry it with you. When it's too much just stop and set it down. It's OK and necessary. in your own time you will do things in his honor. You will smile thru tears..every day brings new ways to be and live and rest. My heart is with you.
We all are here for you and your girls.
Kelly, I am so sorry that you and the girls are going through this horrible grief AND feelings of betrayal at the same time! You and your girls have amazing strength--you may not feel it right now, but I know it's there. All of us out here in the Kelly Barlow fan club are sending you love and praying for your pain to ease. Sending you all (including those wonderful dogs) virtual hugs! We love you!!
Jesus loves you, you are talented and your children need you. That woman is small , tiny in her pettiness. Your heart is wounded but large, spilling over with love for your children and others. You matter. Your love has made the world a better place. Don’t believe the lies lady✨❤️✨❤️
This is your journey and you are sharing what grief looks like. Our culture wants to hide grief but I know you are helping others and yourself by sharing. Do what you need to do for you and your girls. Blessings for peace and comfort.
Girl! That's the best thing you can do right now. Just keep trying. Grief runs in cycles. You are not alone! You have been on my heart this past week. ❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Everyone who has gone through this hears what you say. It is so familiar. Those who have not, cannot imagine it. The first year is so hard but you will begin to notice that you are healing. It never gets fully better, but then again, you wouldn't want it to. Because you love Ray forever and you will miss him until you see him again.
Kelly, grief is real and can be crippling. Please don't be too hard on yourself. You will heal from the pain that your ex caused. Chances are that he'll do to her what he did to you. She's a self-serving person to go out of her way to hurt you after what you were already going through. She is insecure. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Don't let their behavior take away from the memories you and your daughters will make. Live, Kelly. I won't tell my story, but you can do this. You are loved💜
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@@KellyBarlowCreations His pride is making him stay with her. It has to be. If he leaves her or makes it known that he is against what she has done, then he is admitting that he was a fool. Don't let his pride take your peace.
@@sf9145 Exactly. Also, she and her daughters are grieving the man they thought he was. He's not that man.
Kelly - You take as long as you need. Grief can hit you when you least expect it - it is especially hard during the holidays. I continue to keep you and your girls in my prayers. 🙏🙏🙏
I feel for you. I’m keeping you in my prayers. God will be with you on this new journey. Keep trying! Love and hugs for you and the girls.
I continue to pray for you and the girls. This is a very rough road! I think the quilt idea is perfect! Take your time finding the right quilter to make them. The mother of a patient of mine came back 11 months after his passing to show us a quilt made by a friend from his shirts and a jacket that was not just a bunch of squares and really displayed his personality. May the God of all comfort be with you during this hard season🙏.
Kelly,
This will be the 3rd Christmas without my son. The holidays are very hard… please give yourself some grace and time. You can’t force yourself to get thru your grief…. It will happen in time. From what I’ve been told… we must go thru it to come out the other side of it. It’s a rollercoaster ride that none of us stood in line for… but still we must ride it. I wish I could give you a hug …. From one momma to another.❤.
I am so sorry for your loss.
may Peace be with you, sending a hug to you from Boston
One day at a time. You deserved this time to heal. Take the time you need. I'm praying for you and the girls.
It’s so beautiful that you honor your time and feelings. You are in my heart. ❤
Off your feet, lose your seat. Tears of Joy when I see the love the doodles have for you. Their such a blessing, comfort for you Kelly. My heart goes out to you all. We all compress our feelings then bam, knocks you down again. I will continue to pray that all your hearts heal and God will see you all through. Doesn’t seem like it but it’s all in his plan. HE will never leave you nor forsake you. Kelly take you time, we are all here for you. Much love and prayers ❤️💯🙏🏻💐🐶🐶🐶
Kelly I beg you to just KEEP TRYING, we need you, I need you.
Holidays are doubly hard. (((Hugs)))
I appreciate your words! Thank you☀️🫂🤎hugs to you!
Kelly my little brother (36) passed two months before Ray. My pain and grief still as his big sister is crushing, my mother’s pain I cannot even fathom as I am a mother of 5 myself. Please know you and your girls are loved, prayed for continually, and our support of you is unwavering. I watch every video and cry with you, hope with you, and know one day we will all move past this crushing pain.
Please be gentle on yourself, knowing we are here, your silent army of supporters. ❤
I can only tell you that the only way I have gotten through the loss of my parents, all of my siblings is through the Grace of God! Had I not been a a Christian and know that I would see them all again someday and that the Bible says turn it over to the Lord!! It’s not easy to do this but deep down I know I’m not alone!! Jesus is right beside me every moment of every single day. I just say Lord I can’t handle this today you need to carry me today!! Give me strength and something to take my thoughts away from the darkness today. Please Jesus please help me get through this and get my life back to a place where there is happiness and not full of sorrow!! Amen. Kelly I pray for you and your girls daily!! But I promise if you put your faith in the Lord he will bring you out of this!!!
My dearest kelly! I can't imagine what you're going through! Keep trying, my dear! God will give you the strength you need when you ask for it! We're here for you! We love and care for you! Prayers continue!
Sending prayers to you and the girls
Kelly, only by the grace of God you will go. Jeff will answer for his life. Pray for him I promise you will be surprised by how it will help you with your journey through all of this. I buried my baby boy just before he turned 40. My life will never be the same. We will all be here for you.
Thank you sharing the doodles with us. We all need that!
Prayers for you and your girls. I can’t imagine your pain but my heart hurts for you. Hang in there!
Lots of big hugs for you Kelly and your girls. You're never alone.
Love you, Kelly ,God bless you and your family. The fur babies are adorable as always 🐕🐕🐕🐾🐾🐾🕊
It would be awesome to flood Kelly’s mailbox with Christmas cards!!!! To let her and the girls know how much they are loved!
I love that idea, is her address available? a very sweet thought.
Yes how do we find her address?
Do you know if she has a P.O. Box? I would love to send her a card.
Ladies if you click on MORE under the title the drop down bar has her P.O. Box listed there .
@@kathyhutchinson3058 thank you Kathy,
There is nothing I can add to what others have said. I send you prayers and love. Be blessed today.
Sending love to you and your girls. Ray is always with you. ❤️
We all love you. Take all the time you need, we’ll be here when you are ready. One day at a time. Prayers for you and the girls.
Kelly, my heart is breaking for you and the girls. It does get tolerable as the years go by. My prayers are with you always. I know that rings hollow right now but God does care about you and what you are going through. You will see Ray again. ❤❤
Beautifully said
🫂 One minute, hour, day at a time. However long it takes you, you'll come out of the darkness. Continued prayers for you and the girls. 💜💜💜
I’m so sorry for you and the girls, sending prayers and well wishes. My heart goes out to all of you. Take the time you need….
Thank you for courageously sharing your journey. I’m so thankful you have your girls, and they have you. Sending lots of love to you all this holiday season. 😢🎄🎀🤍
Kelly we all grieve differently. You do what’s right for you and the girls. Sending lots of love and prayers to you all. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️
There are no rules when it comes to grieving. You have been dealing with more than the loss of Ray. Please take all the time you need. The load will eventually get lighter. Give yourself grace. Your followers love you, Kelly. We will be here for you when you are ready.❤
One day at the time. Take your time. Your girls need you, the puppies as well. We need Kelly in our lives to.
Your dogs are soooo cute! Love your interaction with them. You are healing and are getting stronger daily.
Kelly sweetheart the firsts are the hardest. You are not alone in this you have your girls and everyone here on your channel. Sending you love hugs and prayers.
Kelly i have been a sub of yours now for years. The pain of grief comes in waves. It's been 32 years since my daughter went to Jesus. I have already begun to feel the sorrows of the holidays. You and your family will be in my prayers 🙏
❤❤❤from Arizona...
I am so sorry you are dealing w this. I understand. Few do. I am having a rough time. Some days it's hard to get out of bed. There's nowhere to go w the pain.
If you find a way out of the pain, the darkness please share. Personally I keep feeling the darkness enveloping and am just waiting til it swallows me completely
I wish I had words to make you feel better but they would just be words, I am sorry for your pain.
Prayers & Hugs to you Kelly!!! You are doing a great job! We all love you!! 👩🏼
Sending Love and Prayers 🙏🏻❤
Kelly - if you didn't get any help with the quilts, I will be going to the states in a few days and my sis and I have a quilt store in FL and we know a lot of quilters and some who could help you in your needs. I've made several memory quilts - from my dad's shirts, mostly.
Dear sweet Kelly, we will be here waiting for you. Think of us as your light at the end of the tunnel❤ Love, prayers and hugs for you and the girls 🙏
You take all the time you need sweet Kelly. Everyone griefs differently. We will be here for you, listening. Continued Prayers for you and your girls. ❤🙏
You're stronger than you think Kelly! Sending you my love❤
Kelly, I can't even imagine how you are feeling, but I do know every person grieves differently and there is no magical set time for grieving to stop. You are so amazing and an inspiration to and for all of us. God bless you.
My son was killed in 2007. He was in the Army. They boxed up his room and sent it to me. I didn’t have to go down that path. I had several t-shirts and sweatshirts.
My heart,thoughts,and prayers go out to you.
I’m so so sorry.
Thank you for your service and your tremendous sacrifice!
From my family to yours, may you and your family be blessed beyond measure. May you be blessed with the life you deserve, and may it be 100X what you have earned! AMEN!
this is painful to read.. I lost my brother in viet nam and now at least I can remember the good times, I hope that happens for you.
I’m so glad you’re doing therapy, it helps a lot. I lost my 2 boys at the same time. We will see them again.
Omgosh so sorry for your losses! Many healing 🙏 to you
Oh my...😭😭😭
so so sorry for your loss. hugs from Boston
Awful 😢