Relationship | Whether You Should Marry or not? | Dr. Hansaji Yogendra
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- Marriage is and should be, a deeply personal decision. But how can one know if it's the perfect time to marry or not? Here's a video to help you navigate this challenging subject and make an informed decision.
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Amma please make a video on hot to reduce acne scars and pits please amma🙏🙏🙏
Please make a video on whether to have kids or not as well madam....Coz., parenting has been the most challenging these days...thank you 🙏
Hansa Maa could you please make a video on making healthy boundaries? It would be very helpful
Sooo beautifully explained, Maa :)
This really help me with my decisions Amma😘and i can relate to this…Some people always asking me why I’m still single or not yet married? I answered them like this, “Getting married is not a competition, that i have my own timeline..because I don’t like to get married for the sake of having a partner in life…Our relationship will not lasts longer if I force myself to do so..I will just settle down if I’m physically,mentally, spiritually and financially prepared..I am not closing the thought of “ we need a partner “ for as long we are ready and responsible enough to fulfill our duty as partner or as husband or wife..can you enlighten me Amma if i did the right thing or Not…I need your suggestions..Thank You and May God Bless you💕😘😘🙏
I am 46, unmarried and very happy. It's important to be content and happy with yourself first. Other things will automatically follow.
Very true question
@@Zada08 wtf
You will regret later on .
@@itsmeedeepu5944 who told you.. Nobody live together till death.. May be husband or wife die... Then you r alone... After marriage also... Even children don't take care of... Then what should you do... Regret for what? Do you know...
@@juhigautam9874 don't do anything sleep tight anyway one day you are gonna die. such negative thoughts you need healing.
The woman silently took revenge by offering the shawl to the man even though it was hot outside cos the man had asked her to reheat the rice🤣🤭
😂
So true....😁😁😁😁
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😂😂😂
Well said😂
Summary:
Marry if you are ready to adjust and compromise and can find a similar good minded soul as partner.
If you dont want to get married have other selfless goals to serve the society in general in whichever way you can.
Whatever way find a way to serve.
Dear Grandmaa I am 23 year old girl and I don't want to marry I want to take care of my parents and give back them all the happiness which they have sacrificed for me..
You can do both. Marry if you want a family to give back the good things given to us. Best wishes.
You can support your family better with a marriage, as your parents will be happy Your children also would support your parents.
Your parents are the past and present...Your Husband will be the present and future....choose your partner with compatibility not looks....
i support you
Sister agar unhone tumhe Aisa boll diya ki beta hum aapke sath nhi rehna chahte tum shadi krke jao or hmari khusi isi m hai ki aap ache se apna ghr bsaye...tb kya jwab dogi unko..fr kaise sacrifice krogi
I guess a healthy, well balanced relationship comes from communication instead of listening without questioning. But I respect your point of view.
Yes .
Its beautiful to be alone. To be alone does not mean to be lonely. IT means the mind is not influenced by anything
Very true 👍👍
Rightly said
@shubham yes it's possible but u have to make your decision, I took my decision when I was 21 as well
@shubham bro u r just 21 I am 24 now and have no pressure to get married, bcoz I told my father..... I am not going to marry unless I am satisfied with myself. So you have to discuss this with your parents. there is no other way. Try it
True
Now a days people are getting married becz of society and family pressure I think this should not happen as it will end up with lot of chaos.
Correct
True
I was in same situation and still not buy that concept no matter how hardship I face I will not bow down until I am sure to get married 👍🤗 U r for once Never live by other rules.
Khud independent bann jao koi kuchh nahi bolega even ladies ko bhi nahi
People were always marrying because of social/peer/parental pressure. In fact the pressure was even more earlier. Atleast nowadays many people are choosing their own partners against the wishes of the society/peers/parents.
To the person reading this never lose hope there's always something to be grateful for :)
❤
@@nitikamehta9150 Loads of love and warm welcome your appreciation and support is all I need :)
But isnt it wrong the way you portrayed it? You could have taken some good example where both listen to each other in a better way? The man ordered her to heat the already heated rice for his own benefit while the women told him to wear a shawl for his benefit. It's 2021 and people still think women should be the caregiver while the man can be dominant and order the women around?
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No. The example was correct. I agree it was exaggerated but it is true... Respect and trust with your partner is all we need in a marriage.
You are right when it comes to how this example glorifies absolute trust and respect without any logic behind it. Why heat the hot rice again? Why wear a scarf when it is already hot outside? Both of them should have questioned eachother because neither of their logic made any sense, that would have been considered good communication. Questioning eachother does not mean that they do not respect each other, that is how people grow. Also at some points in the video I can't deny the fact that certain patriarchal undertones does exist.
Absolutely!
I too agree with you but I have a different point of view here. My view is there is no need to be that much devoted that you oversee others mistake. This is not trust, this is foolishness. As a partner you need to grow with each other which can be done by clearing each others mistake hence just to avoid argument not telling truth about someones foolishness or mistake is utterly nonsense thing to do. There should be trust and a thought should be given when your partner points out the mistake then together each others flaws can be removed and one can grow in relation together. Also in a basic sense atleast both should be comfortable with telling each others mistake openly. I like her videos but this example made me dislike her video for the first time.
Marriage is not for everyone.
Some Empathetic people can't handle Chaos and Negativity.
They just want live peacefully Alone.
🤍🙏😊
True
Problem arises when it's a lopsided relationship. One is submissive, one is dominant/exploitative. In this story, it appears to be balanced and backed with trust.
we urge the couples to work on and have balance, trust, respect, love for happiness and peace in the family and for the ideal society
@@theyogainstituteofficial thank you 🙏❤️
Nope that's wrong
Usually bdsm relations are much healthier than normal relation
Dominant attracts submissive ,submissive attracts dominant...masculine and feminine energies attract each other
Problem is that u want a ur girl friend in ur husband
I think the decision of getting married or not should be absolutely practical and nothing else.
Yes ma'am. You are totally correct. I suffered because my parents misunderstandings, arguments....think 1000times before marry if not ur children will suffer.
So true..... 10000000 agree with you . rishta ma baap ka nh nibh pata .. Toot bache jate h. Bacho ko us gunha ki saja milti h .. Jo glti unhone nhi ki .. Rishta unhka nibha vo nh pa rhe. Saja hume milti h
Exactly....we are 3 kids...and we have an extremely traumatic childhood, till date we are suffering and dilemma still lies to choose happiness or stick to our duties as kids and keep thriving to "make our parents" happy which we don't know is possible or not.
@@InspiroreaderneetikaI have anxiety, depression, going through till now... No one can understand the pain I have gone through...if I could I would unborne myself...my parents are the first reason I don't want get married ever
@@crazyFun129are your parents forcing you to get married?
@@roshnipraveen8901 not forcing yet , but will in the coming year
For now they gave me time to make my mind already...cause they won't support my descision of being single 💔
U were right first become friends understand them that's important but in most of the families especially in mine ppl think if u spend time to understand it means u liked them and the decision should be yes but it's equally important to know each other and decide it's not about only our life it's abt another person life too and in modern terms that's called dating but arrange marriage has little to no scope for this since parents are involved both sides and they talk decide everything except about the choice and interest of the girl and boy who r getting married
If reading this stay focused,life is beautiful,work on yourself.If someone is busy finding faults in you ,you keep on increasing your skill this will help you.believe in yourself and universe
Meanwhile
The LEGEND THE GEM
RATAN TATA GARU
LAUGHING FROM THE CORNER
Life teaching and learning video.
Actually my age is 30 from couple of days I'm searching that why should we marry. What is the main reason...
To some extent I got answer from this video. And yes if I marry someone I'll maintain that faith, understanding and love which tought in this video.
Thanks a lot mam.. u hv explained everything about the decision to get married or not to get married.. I agreed with ur point whatever u hv briefed in ur speech.. thanks once again for ur quality advice..🙏
I am the Ayurveda Student, And I am very attached to shrimad bhagavatam and Krishna, I strongly want to Practice Ayurveda, and want to live the life of saffron within following my passion.Should I completely surrender to any Devotional Organization Or Keep up my passion with Devotion?
"the descision is all yours"....after that spiritual remark and stressing 70% of time on getting married 🙂.
There should be healthy arguments... The result of arguments should be to come to a conclusion together and not about winning the argument... Just because the spouse needs to invest in a loss incurring company and abiding by their decision will simply push the family into bankruptcy... Love is also about listening and not only about listening...love is made of multiple threads with many many small beads... The only thing is partners should be ready to put effort , improve themselves and work as a team in the marraige..i cudnt fully accept her ideology...marraige is not giving up even when things get difficult... I have seen many couples fighting daily yet couldnot stay away from each other for a day...so in a marriage make your own rules along with your partner..there is no one standard formula for every marriage...
You are our grandma, who give some beautiful advices to us, 🙏
Amazing.
I am afraid to live with in laws , What if I have to live my life on his mother’s terms
What will be the use of getting married when I can’t take my own life’s decisions
Instead I can live my life on my own terms
How to find if someone right for us in arranged marriage where u get to meet a guy only once and no one shows their true colours in just one meeting 😢
Hello , what you have decided to get married or not??
శ్రీ కావ్య రిప్లై ప్లీస్
With all respect, she's not reflecting any idea of parabrahman it seems. She is talking from a social perspective and that's good when you're engulfed by kama and moha. But universally her points doesn't stand at all. There's a reason the last stage of our life is sanyaasa and not grihastha.
I feel I come from some other planet.
I want to have someone in my life who cares for me and loves me, cooks me my favourite food BUT I don't want to care for and love anyone in my life.
I don't know what to do 🤔
The God is un married only already persist as a noor. We can't trace ifinite number.
My personal opinion based on my experience with toxic couples is SINGLE LIFE IS THE BEST
My present situation is same..I too is in this dilemma
After listening you mam
I still get confused and i have little bit of unknown fear I don't know what it is called. I know that partner is needed for every body's life but whenever I listen about my marriage I started feeling uncomfortable please give me answer of this question?
Excellent Hansa Ji
Bahut hi Utham aur unda thareeke se bayaan kiye hain aap
Thanks for this beautiful advice mam, from past few days my parents were forcing me to marry it just broke something inside me it feels like all my dreams will end of I get married now but I'm afraid also if I reject this Rishta now would I ever get better chance again in life like this but now I know what I should do from now on thank you mam
What you did then??
Please reply
@@roshnipraveen8901 hii mai toh ye comment bhul hi gyi thi but agr apko ye janna hai ki mne kya Kiya toh mai bta du ki mne wait Kiya or apne career pe focus Kiya mere freinds ki bhi marriage ho chuki hai pr mjhe meri life Mai brabri chiye thi is liye mne job pe focus Kiya ab mai 2-3 month mai apna dream achieve krne wali hu uske baad mai shyd rishta dekhna shuru kr du
@@roshnipraveen8901 hey I'm sorry for late reply I don't know about what in particular u r asking but if you want to know about my wedding offers then I tell you that I'm still single and currently very busy and focused on my job
It is thought provoking and balanced view. Thankyou for the upload. However I am slightly disappointed yoga institute didn't portray our Indian traditional weddings in the video.
👍 true sister
In arrange marrige it will be difficult to make first friend and then partner . We are living in society where we need to decide on 1 hr meeting . In that case how can make sure that.. That person is perfect for us????
Very nice mam videos always gives me motivation thank you🙏
Thanks ma. This lesson is very empowering. Will remember this.
How many people here are more than 45 years of age and unmarried?
Does showing respect mean blindly obeying someone even though you know it was a stupid suggestion?. Like reheating a hot rice, or draping a shawl on a hot day?🤔
Respecting opinion is ok but following blindly is not partnership. Questioning is really important as i fell .
as an alien i am glad to know about this human behaviour
Mathajiiii ❤️ Awesome 🙏🙏🙏..lots of respect to you..Stay blessed and stay Healthy ❤️🙏
Regret my marriage every single day. 😞
The only point that I don't agree 🤷with "Marriage is essential for spiritual growth".. what about Swami Vivekananda, Sami Sivananda, Swami Dayanand Saraswati...they are all spiritual leaders. Madam, only this time you have misguided your audience 🙏🙏🙏
Celibacy is essential for spiritual growth. Not marriage
Olden times didn't have social network, peer pressure, feminism, gender inequality. In todays time highest level of compromise is required for a marriage to last, the question is who will compromise 😉😂
I am 38 and still not married, as i feel I am not physically, mentally, emotionally and financially fit and ready for it. This is the reason I say that marriage is not for everybody. If u really wanna have a family, u have to be strong in the 4 categories i mentioned above. If you are unable to protect yourself, how will you protect your family. From ancient times till now, people take marriage as a child's play. Even now i can see that most people look at the age to get married, but are they physically, mentally, emotionally and financially strong? Do they have the capacity to deal with it? These things they will ignore. And when troubled times come, they will drink, smoke a lot, fall for domestic violence, and much worse, it will lead to a divorce. Remember marriage is a commitment and your spouse and kids would be dependent on you. They will look after you. So you have to be strong first. I am not suggesting this only for males. Even for females it applies.
Do you ever get married?
@@gowtham6822 I don't think so. I faced a severe trauma around 7 years back which I am not comfortable in revealing. From then on i realised where i am standing. Trying to heal slowly. So i don't think marriage is on the cards. I am also not too unhappy about it. Just going with the flow in life.
Thank you Amma ❤️Much needed video now a days💯
Dear madam, thank u so much for giving valuable advices for our life
There are many families who got split n spoilt taking bad decisions. Time has changed so much to this ideology if just following whatever decisions the other takes these days. Logic does a play a very huge role in today's fast pacing world. Anyways. Thank You.
Nothing has changed...everyone ask where do I work and how much I earn...then they proceed..lol..his is why families are spolit and broken mentally..they do not find the good human inside the guy..
thanks for your lovely..nd valuable. lecture mam 🙏🙏🌷🌷🌷
I heard too much adjust, compromise and no ask questions in this video, That’s sound not pleasant at all. We born alone and we will die alone. When it has to be alone, then why can we live alone. Alone is the peace and freedom. Keep your mind and body fit. Travel the new places, interact with people, follow your passion, take care your parents, help others and most importantly be happy that you’re alive everyday. I would say single life is way better than married life, only if you’re happy soul and living everyday with gratitude.
Thank you so much madam for this video really very clear to understand
marriage is one of the shittiest thing i have ever seen. Yes being brutally honest. Its definetly not for everyone. Not for me atleast
point is valid but example is baseless, we should quetion ech other and understand others perspective. just because partner saying to do something, one will never do it.
Marriage gives happiness for short term and it revokes your independence. See life - earn money - do world tour,try to explore this world,enjoy your money ,die _------- don't allow anyone to interrupt your happiness.
mam aapki baat sunke bahut aanand huaa, aisi hi sachhi baton ki humare samaj mein aavashykta hai
Off course i will
It's a blessing to be loVed by the team wiVe,s
If any ...
I do not agree when you said marriage is important for spiritual journey..that's not true at all .. marriage has nothing to do with spiritual journey.spiritual journey is your own ..and your death is also your own ..it doesn't even matter whether you r walking alone in life or walking with your partner and kids . spiritual journey is all about your own understanding about life and your purpose on this planet and how you grow while facing your pain ..how you handle your emotions and how good you r when it comes to treating others.. when you become one with nature and universe.. when you see things beyond explanation and when you know no matter whether you r with others or not end of the day ..we have to walk alone and die alone but you have no complaint.. ...just because two people r married that doesn't mean they r growing spiritually and becoming spiritual .. absolutely wrong marriage is an institute.. specially designed to control people and their lives and their freedom by the name of fear of being lonely ..fear of old age and fear of insecurity..and hope of getting love and finding right one .and live happily ever after .however few people will definitely have great married life but many of them will only suffer and live with toxic partners ....and stuck into wrong marriages because of kids and financial insecurities.. marriage is more beneficial for kids because human .kids take almost 18 years to grow up . marriage gives more security to kids they get education..food .shelter ..love and protection from their parents . people get married because they want to reproduce..that's the only true reason behind marriage..urge to reproduce is so strong that's why men and women come together..that's the only purpose of marriage ..my simple answer whether one should get married or not is this ..if you want to produce kids .. definitely get married .and if you don't want to produce kids and don't waste your money ..time .. efforts and lifelong commitment than stay singal and only get married when you cross that breeding period..have a partner ..and be happy .. till than enjoy being singal ..rest can definitely devote their time for kids and call it family and live for them even that is also not a bad choice for them who really love kids
Well said! I agree 100%
The problem is we cannot decide for the other person.
Why our mythology doesn't have any homosexual relationships? Should this mean our history and mythology is not the ultimate truth?
Respect is good but not questioning or blindely faith is not understand by me
Mam your way of explaining and speaking is so soothing thank you for this video
If what this lady is saying is true if marriage then 90 percent of marriages would have resulted in divorce. This is entirely rubbish.
Nice video. However, bit unrealistic to draw analogy with saint/Gods' marriage in today's day and age. Being caring and respectful does not mean lose your mind. Reheating steamed rice is waste of resource. Also in India, marriage is never just about the spouses, there is an entire package associated.
Celibacy is the only way to truth. Avoid marriage at all costs.
I have never met anyone; the cosmos has not given me that opportunity.
Please tell me regarding how astrology is most important in marriage Life. Is astrology is correct to predict future am filled with negative thoughts.
Astrology is one part but u have to think from ur whether to have tat person or not,and decide
Thankyou Dr.Hansaji this is most needed for me.
Thank u madam. Thought that marriage was a hindrance for spirituality.
How will get know before marriage that how would be good and adjust the girl whom we going to get marry? Especially in arrange marriage 😂😂😂....because of theses many of them taking divorce!!!!
I'm a below average man without handsome looks, low income, with long term illness, low confidence levels, afraid of women, with heavy financial burdens. So how I'm suitable for marriage ? when I've these many negatives how can I expect someone can come in my life. If a woman comes in to my life due to my miserable life style even she has to suffer along with me. I'm trying to make my life balanced but my health condition makes a set back. I'm trying to convince my parents that I'm not interested in getting into relationship but they're not agreeing how can I convince them.
Wow.. really helpful... thought.. thanks mother 🙏
My husband is caring, doesn’t mind my habits, love me so much without expectations, He is best in terms of me .
Never utters or is angry at me
Has appointed maid and doesn’t expect me to work
Yet
Marriage sucks
He has all bad habits
Keeps messy and unhygienic (though doesn’t expect me to clean.
It’s like I’m mothering this nasty fellow.
When he is around I just hate his presence.
He asks me to hire a maid
He come home drunk partying and doesn’t care if I’m waiting.
Why to marry. I have only life. There's so so so much to explore. So much to do. Many many dreams. There's whole universe out there. Earth is nothing in front of it. Who knows when we are gonna die. I may get die tomorrow. Enjoy life to fullest. Follow your dreams. Invest in yourself. Don't fall in society trap.
First you should improve your English 😂
Wonderful explanation thank you madam
What to do when you realised that ,you failed to get a right person after few years of marriage.
There is nothing right or wrong..Einstein said Everything is relative in this world...Also U should change ur frame of reference.😊
you tolerate, adjust and compromise... there is nothing perfect or right in this world... dont change anything.. just your perspective
Only you know the answer,coz whatever descision you take now,you are the one who is going to face it's repurcussions....
why dont you get divorced ?
Soo beautifully explained
Wish this video 2as made 20 yrs back....
I'm only 19 years old and I'm in pressure of merriage😢 I don't want to marry now what should I do I'm very scared now i have no idea what to do 🥺
Doing everything without questioning, is this really possible anyway😶
May be possible those days...... But practically not possible nowadays.
Sounds kinda stu-pid
Not stupid but senseless
I am 35 year old lady, Unmarried. Should I get married? Or Am I too old for Marriage?
Namaste, it is a personal call, try talking to a counsellor who can guide you through your dilemma.
@@theyogainstituteofficial I don't hv any counselor mam. So asked you.
@@MonaliMishra-f3sI'm also same as you.
I'm also same as you
Great thought!👍
Maam, your video is superb.
But now a days girls married for money, later put in a dark
5:51 the check boxes you mentioned all men has it, it is only the women that are not interested in those.
Mam that doesn't happen in Indian arrange marriages, people don't get time to know each other much and they are not even given the chance to know. Not all men and women are great.. some become prey to their partners or in laws . It's all dramatic and we are forced to deal with it. Not everyone will be helpful
Meaningful video
Mai 39 saal ki hu aur unmarried hu my mother passed away last year mere papa 77saal ke hai aur unki tabiyat bhi theek nahi rehti mara aur koi nahi hai now I am worried about my future and confused mai shadi nahi kerna chahti per jab mai budhi ho jaungi ya bimar hogi tab mai akele kese survive kerugi bas mere pass iss sawaal ka jawab nahi hai i am really confused i don't know what I do.
I want to talk with you. Any contact number.
Present marriage means parrot in cage.
I didn't like the examples you use to explain the question...
Omg no. Thats not a good example. From which era is this?
Not only men and women there are other genders too
Your story is very impressive but only if both are good as you described. But in reality one person is bad in less or more sense but one person from couple is agressive, some lazzy or selfish, some dominant so other one tolerate whole life (mostly women).. or one day stand against and spoil relationship...
I really feel the story which is said here is misguiding . You should never listen to something blindly even if it's said by ur parents or partner . Questioning should be done and if ur partner really respects then he or she should give you an explanation. That is what a healthy relationship is all about . The wife should understand that if it's hot outside then why will she give the cloth to her husband in the first place ? And also the husband should understand that if the meal is already hot ,why will he make her wife work harder ?
You are my favourite ma'am ❤️❤️
Love and respect ❤️🙏🏻keep blessings 🙏🏻
She means to accept the differences
Sorry to say but the example you have given portrays an image of a wife of medieval period who wasn't' allowed to do anything of her own other than fulfilling her husbands wishes and taking care of him. it's not contemporary and we shouldn't search happiness in marriage or by being single. Happiness comes from inside not outside. Just sharing my point of view which might not be pleasing for everyone.
It helps me a lot. Today I understand when we should marry and I think I am on the right way. I believe all these positive thoughts should also be applicable in a friendship relation so that we can respect and love unconditionally each other. Thank you very much for this video. I feel relaxed from today onwards.
shall we go on a date?
@@sanjibkumarbiswas4167 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Aaj ke time me ye possible nhi hai😊😊
Amma beautiful saree and so nice you explained ❤️❤️
It is ok leave your parents for your future goal if they don't support
Thank you so much ma’am ❤
With all due respect to you, I'd say no matter what you preach, I'm happy being alone and would never marry, this is your POV but in real world you never know any person's circumstances and what's his/her priority, so it's better not to come up with such judgements and asking people to get married.
What about the yogis who don't get married at all for the sake of getting on a spiritual journey, judgmental much? So sad to hear !
No... You got it wrong... Life has my stages... And one among is sanyas and the other is family life(grihasthashram) .. Its not necessary to remain a sanyasi or yogi to gain ultimate moksh... A family man who does his duties correctly is highly honoured than many yogis who try it through penance... What it says is karma is the real thing...
Also about yogis, brahmajarya is extreme penance.... So those who don't opt for family life, yogis opt brahmajarya to gain the salvation.... Both are extremely strong.. Like hanuman is brahmajaari, but lord ram is not....its all about our pure intention and actions.... 😊
Nice thought