Why I Quit My Teaching Job (Part 1)

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  • @SpecialBooksbySpecialKids
    @SpecialBooksbySpecialKids 2 роки тому +3791

    Teachers are some of the most important people in our society and they need to be better supported in so many ways.

  • @ccc56ccc
    @ccc56ccc 2 роки тому +2050

    Dr. Julia Hare’s words ring true:
    “The teachers are afraid of the principals; the principals are afraid of the Superintendents; the Superintendents are afraid of the school board, the school boards are afraid of the parents; the parents are afraid of the kids and the kids aren’t afraid of anyone!”

    • @MarkWendland
      @MarkWendland 2 роки тому +77

      Wish I could double-like this quote. Exactly right. It's a kind of political system based on fear and self-preservation where the teacher gets the bulk of responsibility and blame.

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 2 роки тому +44

      @ Quentenius
      That’s ridiculous. And they wonder why kids are falling academically behind more and more (even before covid).
      Teachers are required to focus on everything BUT education. Students learning is the last thing on the school boards priority list🙄

    • @adriasorensen2249
      @adriasorensen2249 2 роки тому +3

      Lol!

    • @emilyward4388
      @emilyward4388 2 роки тому +5

      Yup!!! 1000% true

    • @jamie-annmiranda49
      @jamie-annmiranda49 2 роки тому +3

      Truth! I feel that....

  • @shanikamacon879
    @shanikamacon879 2 роки тому +2910

    “When you’re good at your job, it’s almost like you’re getting punished for being good at your job,” that part. Sis, best friend, I feel you so much.🥺🥺🥺

    • @jra3978
      @jra3978 2 роки тому

      My husband always tells me, dont be a pretty horse, they always get fucked the hardest. Sad but true

    • @wethepplwhorblackerthanblu6442
      @wethepplwhorblackerthanblu6442 2 роки тому +59

      I'm a truck driver. I felt that to my bones I don't know what else to say but that I feel for everyone in this same situation 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🎯🎯🎯

    • @___LC___
      @___LC___ 2 роки тому +17

      I managed units at a residential treatment center and that’s exactly how it was.

    • @lydiamoore856
      @lydiamoore856 2 роки тому +63

      The reward for good work is more work! It is so discouraging

    • @stanrix
      @stanrix 2 роки тому +41

      I’m not a teacher, but yeah!
      Every workplace I’ve ever been in adds to your workload if you’re awesome.
      And you have to carry the deadwood workers too.

  • @Senacacrane
    @Senacacrane 7 місяців тому +149

    School is not for babysitting. School is for education. Parents need to understand that.

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 2 місяці тому +2

      Facts! It all starts at home. I completely understand that some parents have a lot on their plates, like being single parents, working 2 jobs and whatnot.
      But many teachers have those same struggles, their own kids at home, their own bills to pay, their own household chores to do, etc. but they still attempt to do the jobs they’re expected to do.

    • @ThrowItOnTheGrill
      @ThrowItOnTheGrill 2 місяці тому +2

      I can't even understand why people are having children in this day and age. I know accidents happen, but when I was sexually active, I was wearing a raincoat all of the time.

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 Місяць тому

      @ThrowItOnTheGrill
      Or they wanted kids b/c they thought it would be like having a puppy. Lol
      They like showing them off like an accessory showing off on social media how much “fun” parenting is, but when it’s time to down to business, they dump the kid onto someone else and say “Here ya go, they’re all yours bye”

    • @ThrowItOnTheGrill
      @ThrowItOnTheGrill Місяць тому

      @@amylee8969 Sadly, I agree. I've seen videos where kids are being exploited for likes.

  • @kcamp2024
    @kcamp2024 Рік тому +699

    The teacher who got shot by the 6 year old told administrators he had a gun and they did nothing. Teachers need to be protected. Kudos for thinking about your daughter and your health. You’re in my prayers.

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 Рік тому +21

      @K Camp
      Then the admin should have been fired and arrested for not doing anything. Idk what needs to happen. Maybe if more and more kids are bring in weapons and hurting everyone on campus, they’ll take it seriously.

    • @jomr4249
      @jomr4249 Рік тому +18

      That childs life will also be forever affected by that incident. When you let children run rampant and evil it affects the victims of it and their own future. It literally helps no one.

    • @jaytouvelle2359
      @jaytouvelle2359 Рік тому

      @@jomr4249 lock that kid he will get worse

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 2 місяці тому

      @jomr4249
      I heard a story about a teacher’s student passing away (I forgot the cause, I believe it was suicide). But when she seeked support from admin, they ignored the issue, didn’t reach out to the family to offer condolences, and told this teacher they “they can’t be distracted by this”.
      How can an admin ignore the death of a student. If they don’t care about a student losing their life, they won’t care about any other concern on campus. That’s a red flag.

  • @r3claim3r
    @r3claim3r 2 роки тому +1056

    My wife quit after just 3 years, citing impossible, conflicting standards, a hostile school administrator, and a decline in health. Teaching, while an honorable profession, has become too difficult of a job.

    • @brendamstewart5883
      @brendamstewart5883 2 роки тому +17

      So So TRUE

    • @indiald3373
      @indiald3373 2 роки тому +7

      essential

    • @mgnwill
      @mgnwill 2 роки тому +70

      Well, it’s no longer a job. It’s a dumping ground. I left teaching five years ago, and it took me two years before I could sleep more than two hours in a row, and a further six months before I could stop having anxiety attacks that prevented me from falling asleep because I was so worried that I wouldn’t get enough sleep because I was so stressed.

    • @teeb.2239
      @teeb.2239 2 роки тому +33

      I concur. I quit mid year after 3.5 years. Mental and physical health declined so quickly and consistently. Not to mention being injured on campus by students fighting, and teachers & admin NOT intervening because they thought I was a student. I deserve better. My OWN kids and family deserves better. Prayers to all educators.

    • @19GENESE13
      @19GENESE13 2 роки тому +6

      @@tahvyearains7261 edTech is a great alternative. You use all these learning platforms for a living, which means you know what's wrong with them & how to make it better. Use that to your advantage.

  • @Smilodon1985
    @Smilodon1985 2 роки тому +1325

    I was a special education teacher for 15.5 years (that .5 is not an accident), and I was the department chair for 10 of those years - during the first 14 years of that time I was considered by the administration and my peers to be a damn good teacher and department leader. Then we got a new principal... that person, in the year and a half I worked with them, forced a bunch of 20+ year veteran teachers to retire, and I guess I was too dense to read the writing on my back, so they forced me out in the middle of the next year. I never had any evaluation less than "clearly outstanding" or "exceeds expectations," and I got written up on the first day of the inservice week because I was preparing IEPs for two meetings the following day instead of doing bureaucratic paperwork. I knew it was going to be a bad year, but I didn't know how bad...
    Anyway, they forced me out in the middle of the year with a "separation agreement," promising me a "fresh start" with a "neutral reference" so I could find another job, with all my excellent evaluations, yaddayadda. Hahaha hahaha... For the next 2.5 years, I was a substitute teacher in three districts, with applications active in 22 districts in the large metropolitan area and the towns around. In all that time, I had a total of three interviews. None of them happened through HR departments - they happened when an admin person heard about me and called HR and told them, "talk to this guy." When I was interviewing for a non-teaching position that involved a psych screening, the evaluator who talked to me told me, "you know they did things, right?"
    Yeah, I know. So because they didn't like me, they destroyed my career, took my livelihood (substitute teachers don't get paid squat, and there are no benefits), and I was lucky to have survived. It came VERY close. I have been an adjunct professor for the last 11 years, and I love what I do, but until just now there has not been any opportunity to get full-time employment in my department. So that stunt, 15 years ago, resulted in 15 years (so far) of impoverished conditions for me and my family.
    I'm sorry I went on so long, and nobody likely has read this whole thing - but I just wanted to say good on you for standing up for yourself.

    • @sharontownsend8848
      @sharontownsend8848 2 роки тому +108

      I read the whole thing. Been there done that.

    • @jameegilson1357
      @jameegilson1357 2 роки тому +74

      I felt this on a visceral level. I have suffered through a similar experience and have been suffering since both physically and mentally. Personally, I just feel stuck because of retirement and financial issues. I am sorry you had to experience what you did, and your story is just too relatable for words. I wish all the best for you and your family.

    • @Sheloyigamer
      @Sheloyigamer 2 роки тому +76

      I also read the whole post. I also have had very similar thing happen to me during my 15th and 16th year teaching from one particular principal. I got evaluations from this petty jerk that were all good to great until I questioned a ridiculous and insane email he sent me about a recent observation. He was wrong and admitted he was wrong in a meeting but spent 2 years harassing me with bad evaluations and constant observations. I hated him, dreaded working, and worst of all began to question my value as a teacher. I took awhile for me to finally another teaching job: 2 1/2 years. I was broken still and resigned at the end of my 2nd year at this school when they reassigned me to teach Kinder which I am
      Not certified to teach. They just wanted me to go. I subbed for awhile then got a teaching position in Nov. 2019 at a public charter school. I earned TEA recognized teacher status that 2019-2020 school year. One pandemic and 2 years later, it’s bad evaluations and moving me to two different positions than the grade I had been teaching. I’m getting lots of interviews but it’s hard for me to interview with complete sincerity because of borderline trauma from all my years of teaching.

    • @EmoDKTsuchiya
      @EmoDKTsuchiya 2 роки тому

      It's all done to you on purpose. it's part of a bigger plot to destroy education

    • @Pterodactyl-kn3ve
      @Pterodactyl-kn3ve 2 роки тому +56

      Read it all. This is so real to so many teachers.

  • @collectingducks
    @collectingducks 2 роки тому +393

    i’m not understanding why teachers aren’t getting paid more. you guys 100% deserve a big raise like your job is the literal backbone of the country.

    • @danamichelle1290
      @danamichelle1290 Рік тому

      Well said! They aren't here to parent, they're TEACHING kids who are gonna be running the country and taking care of us in a few decades.

    • @ujdd201
      @ujdd201 Рік тому +15

      Administration gets all the money.

    • @2112jp
      @2112jp Рік тому +12

      @@ujdd201 it’s not because of that. The state government do not want to raise taxes; therefore prefer to keep teachers with low pay. For them teachers are replaceable

    • @FLgurl407
      @FLgurl407 Рік тому +25

      But men who put a ball in a hoop (hit ball w stick, throw ball through goal posts) make millions. 🤔

    • @sammyveinsmusic
      @sammyveinsmusic 11 місяців тому +6

      Right! It’s business 101 invest in your nations human capital like wtf is our government doing????

  • @savannah4439
    @savannah4439 2 роки тому +759

    I literally gasped when you said your blood pressure was 217/133. That is an actual medical emergency, as in people can have strokes and other organ damage from BP that high. I’m glad you’re ok and have been able to walk away from that situation

    • @nancydountoothers7245
      @nancydountoothers7245 2 роки тому +13

      YOU know the meaning of success, good for you! You are showing you know where your priorities should be. Your health, your family and if possible, your neighbor(students). If the administration doesn’t care about their teachers, who will? Without teachers, where would we all be? Love your videos. Keep up the great work. You are still making a difference. Thank you❤️

    • @jemieculp6847
      @jemieculp6847 2 роки тому +22

      I know right? I am super surprised they didn't admit her to the hospital for observation. Unless it started going down really fast once they took her to the ER. That is scary stuff.

    • @kathytownsend6378
      @kathytownsend6378 2 роки тому +2

      Yes

    • @shadowbeagle
      @shadowbeagle 2 роки тому +17

      Why weren’t you admitted. That blood pressure!!

    • @dianarobertson7319
      @dianarobertson7319 2 роки тому +7

      You need to be screened for essential hypertension please.

  • @jam_is_jammin
    @jam_is_jammin 2 роки тому +722

    It has always blown my mind that we say, “It takes a village to raise a child,” but then we expect a teacher to manage a class of 30 or more by themselves. I’m so sorry they didn’t listen to you and I’m glad you got out of there and prioritized your health. I hope you are well.

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 Рік тому +19

      @ jam
      It’s takes a village. But the parents play an important role in that village.

    • @linnybug719
      @linnybug719 Рік тому

      the MOST important role. I learned that if I didn't behave in class, trouble would be awaiting me at home. Doesn't anyone discipline their kids anymore? Better to do it when they're young because they will have problems growing up and being out in the world. @@amylee8969

    • @rhondabrown5216
      @rhondabrown5216 10 місяців тому +15

      The village doesn't raise the child, parents do. The village can tell a parent or remind the child to behave. For example, my friends daughter was caught playing Chinese fire drill at a red light and the person in the car behind new her mom and her daughter and reported to the mother. She got in trouble and didn't repeat that behavior. That's what it means for a village to take part in the welfare of the community.

    • @buffyranger6355
      @buffyranger6355 8 місяців тому

      Kids do not want the village. They want a real mother and a real father. As you now know the village has raised thugs, murderers, thrives , rapist, killers and drop outs. How is that working for you?

    • @zakithiganyaza5525
      @zakithiganyaza5525 2 місяці тому

      70 learners in my class all above 60

  • @angeladau2263
    @angeladau2263 2 роки тому +2930

    “If you’re good at your job, it’s almost like you get punished for being good at your job.” Yes. A thousand times yes. I couldn’t agree more. I feel your stress and anxiety and worry and desire deep in my bones. Thank you for being so open - it makes me feel a little less alone. ❤️

    • @queendiva1400
      @queendiva1400 2 роки тому +127

      If you good at discipline they give you all the behavior problems

    • @NaturallyLluvme
      @NaturallyLluvme 2 роки тому +65

      Yes!! I got all the reclassified freshmen. One told me someone would be waiting for me after school. He was suspended and his mom called and cussed me out. That was my last year...

    • @heatherstehlin8282
      @heatherstehlin8282 2 роки тому +137

      My admin keeps telling me I am a saint this year. I don’t want to be a saint. I want have something left for my own kids and husband when I get home.

    • @s.teacherplanner6108
      @s.teacherplanner6108 2 роки тому +16

      Amen!!!

    • @kimberleemcguire3399
      @kimberleemcguire3399 2 роки тому +23

      Bless you! Take care of yourself!

  • @barbarabrown5517
    @barbarabrown5517 Рік тому +241

    Administration just doesn’t care about their staff. This happens everywhere. It got so bad for me I had a complete breakdown in front of my class and landed in the hospital for 2 weeks. You were right to walk away. It is what is best for you. I got a job at the airport escorting unaccompanied minors to their connecting flights. It doesn’t pay as much, but I’m much happier.

    • @deniserankin2967
      @deniserankin2967 10 місяців тому +15

      From an administrator, with 13 years as a teacher and 13 as an administrator, I quit after 26. I cared very deeply for my staff. I still care for them! Sometimes things are out of our control also. I had 628 students, 80 employees to handle with crazy parents on top of that. I had teachers divide classes for the next year so everyone had equal behavior problems, troublesome parents, easy students, all of it! I had no problem taking over a class when a teacher was overwhelmed. I always felt appreciated by my staff! However, I didn’t feel supported by MY superiors. Please don’t make blanket statements about ALL administrators. My first couple of years… I made less than teacher pay, per day…..js…

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 10 місяців тому +9

      More like the parents don’t care about taking the responsibility of raising their kids properly. Admin has their faults too, buts it’s the parents who are ignorant enough to call and threaten the school for trying to give their kids consequences they rightfully deserved.

    • @reginaodell3035
      @reginaodell3035 3 місяці тому +2

      I had a panic attack after dealing with a dangerous student over and over without admin support. On my way out an admin stated, "Take care, we have to protect our teachers." I almost respond, which would have gotten me fired.

    • @saundrasakurai9089
      @saundrasakurai9089 2 місяці тому

      Sis,
      Glad you chose your mental/physical health and your family over mentally unstable incompetent individuals. Will be praying for you and your next journey.

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 Місяць тому

      @barbarabrown5517
      They don’t care about the kids either. Everything they say and do is to save their butts to make the school look good so it looks like they’re doing their job perfectly.

  • @onlyonestories1682
    @onlyonestories1682 2 роки тому +726

    I just quit my teaching job due to stress, anxiety, and panic attacks during class. I was a teacher for 16 years. Thank you for talking about this 💗

    • @anitanavarro4121
      @anitanavarro4121 Рік тому +15

      So sorry that happened to you. You made the right decision.

    • @user-sq9xo6bl6w
      @user-sq9xo6bl6w Рік тому +19

      I am quitting at the end of this year and getting out for sure. This job is killing people and its admin and the higher ups that don't support us and make our profession unbearable.

    • @GuruLiving4
      @GuruLiving4 Рік тому +6

      Omg! I’m right behind you

    • @ER-xl6cs
      @ER-xl6cs Рік тому +3

      That happened to me years ago. I left teaching in the classroom but found a way to use my teaching experience in a different job at a university. It’ll all work out. She’ll find a new job.

    • @jadejago7664
      @jadejago7664 Рік тому +2

      I'm leaving teaching, too....

  • @kimberlyn.2096
    @kimberlyn.2096 2 роки тому +861

    27 year teacher here. I’m resigning this year. I can’t take it anymore. It was the same for me. The stress became unbearable. I got to the point that I was crying every morning before work. It was NOT the kids. It was the administration and the utter disregard for their teachers as professionals and even sometimes as human beings. Horrible. God bless you and help you through this time.

    • @staceyranee5756
      @staceyranee5756 2 роки тому +16

      Love and hugs to you. Such a big loss, a teacher with 27yrs of experience. I'm really sorry.

    • @RR-lh1qs
      @RR-lh1qs 2 роки тому +30

      Behaviour comes from home. Parents really are co-partners in educating children. At the very least parents should teach good manners and good behaviour if nothing else. Much respect for this teacher!!

    • @jss61
      @jss61 2 роки тому +18

      27 year teacher as well. I am just a bit shy on hitting retirement, but things just keep getting worse instead of better. No one seems to get this. I am job hunting this summer, and it won't be in teaching. I will be looking for something and at this point, I just can't drum up an "I give a damn." I don't care if I make chit in $$. This job is killing me.

    • @kimberlyn.2096
      @kimberlyn.2096 2 роки тому +3

      @@jss61 best of luck!! I feel ya!

    • @EagleArrow
      @EagleArrow 2 роки тому +9

      I'm sorry you had to endure that. Thank you for the 27 years.👊 A lot was put on teachers because our society is broken. Maybe you can be a light in your neighborhood or community by tutoring. Many people homeschool today. 🙂🙏

  • @emilysullivan984
    @emilysullivan984 2 роки тому +977

    “Y’all will let teachers pass out and have a stroke, and won’t do nothing except replace us the next day.”
    THIS. I’m a first year teacher and I had to have one of my co-teachers grab me by the shoulders one morning and tell me this. She said, “It’s important for us to be good at our job, but our job is not more important than our personal lives and families. There is only ONE of you in your family and friends lives. There are hundreds of teachers that can walk in your classroom and teach your kids. They will replace you tomorrow if God forbid something happens to you.”
    And yes my job is important, but I go about my days a lot differently now. As hard as I know it was for you to walk out, the people that love you are thankful that you did. 💛

    • @caontiemcneal6547
      @caontiemcneal6547 2 роки тому +7

      Amen 🙏🏾

    • @tracicahill5725
      @tracicahill5725 2 роки тому +2

      I'm really sorry that you went through this.

    • @gdredd9587
      @gdredd9587 2 роки тому +7

      That’s crazy. Sounds like desert storm or something. Teachers deserve the treatment that football players get. Plus the salary

    • @charmaineespeut4627
      @charmaineespeut4627 2 роки тому +3

      That's how all jobs are. They don't care about us that's why I don't believe in working hard for others. Only work hard for yourself

    • @fredv7349
      @fredv7349 2 роки тому +1

      This applies to more jobs also.

  • @tuliplouart
    @tuliplouart Рік тому +148

    I had panic attacks, major depression, lost 15 pounds, and cried nearly every day to work when I was a teacher. It was so terrible. I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s so messed up.

    • @atomictime9410
      @atomictime9410 Рік тому +2

      Did you quit? I have been a sub after military retirement, and I get what you are saying. The military was a safer environment.

    • @matthewgonano636
      @matthewgonano636 6 місяців тому +3

      i don't blame you and emphasize you in every way. i hope you're doing better in life. And found a better way to live. Nobody deserves the shit teachers take

    • @tiffanyc223
      @tiffanyc223 4 місяці тому +11

      I'm so sorry you dealt with that. This is my first year teaching and my last year. I will not be going back in august. I had an overwhelming sense of dread on the way to work and the beginning of work every single day. Anxious and stomach pain. A lot of the kids and several teachers and administration kept telling me what an awesome teacher i was. and that's so bad because all of the good teachers leave. we're abused and not valued.

    • @NiaSaara
      @NiaSaara 3 місяці тому +1

      @@tiffanyc223 Same!!!!!

    • @kinseykrachinski3508
      @kinseykrachinski3508 2 місяці тому +1

      ​@@tiffanyc223I felt this exact same way! After one year. I'm doing a career change.

  • @lenorardful
    @lenorardful 2 роки тому +599

    Amen! I remember going to a funeral for a colleague. When we returned from the funeral, the custodians already had her classroom cleared out. Her belongings were placed in the hallway for anyone to take. That let me know that as teachers, we are replaceable.

    • @blockmasterscott
      @blockmasterscott 2 роки тому +98

      I'm a custodian. Just wanted to let you know that it's not us. What usually happens is that we're told by the office to make sure the room is clear before anyone comes back and makes a fuss. I've had principals and VP's watch us and tell us to move faster when clearing a room in a clandestine manner.

    • @lenorardful
      @lenorardful 2 роки тому +35

      @@blockmasterscott understood!

    • @CoryWillowTree
      @CoryWillowTree 2 роки тому +17

      My heart breaks at this. 💔❤️‍🩹

    • @wolfdolphen
      @wolfdolphen 2 роки тому +25

      @@blockmasterscott hi I'm a custodian as well. Your right! It's true some principles just don't understand.

    • @blockmasterscott
      @blockmasterscott 2 роки тому +8

      @@wolfdolphen hi! Thanks for answering!
      My biggest “principal” pet peeve is them deciding they can run summer clean up better than the BSS and having them hand the school back to you at the end of summer when they find out they mismanaged the time and are behind schedule, and you have to play catch up.

  • @damightyewok907
    @damightyewok907 2 роки тому +840

    As a custodian, I've seen this way too often. I've been the one sitting in a room with a crying teacher who is contemplating quitting or worse. Been the shoulder, voice of reason, ear to be ranted to, and the tissue holder. The parents, administration, and government have a huge disconnect from the teachers. Parents act like a teachers personal life is all access for them and that they should have an input in every aspect of it (ex: clothes you wear to the beach). Admin act like petty corporate bosses working in another state. You lodge a complaint about something, they will find a way to make it worse all while saying it is to make it easier on you. (admin doing evals the last day before a holiday "because you'll have less students and it'll be easier for you to handle them")

    • @nikkikalcevic7471
      @nikkikalcevic7471 2 роки тому +41

      Thank you for recognizing all of this. I so appreciate your comment and consideration. ❤️

    • @jxc3527
      @jxc3527 2 роки тому +58

      Our custodian saved my sanity last year. Thank you!!!!

    • @GF-wn2mv
      @GF-wn2mv 2 роки тому +31

      Thank you for the work you do. I make sure to show my appreciation for the custodial staff. This past Wednesday, there was supposed to be some bad weather so my board closed schools. No other board did. I saw a bunch of comments online blaming teachers for just wanting another day off as if we don’t get enough time off. As if we control the weather or have any say in anything the board does.

    • @Ashley-pi5sq
      @Ashley-pi5sq 2 роки тому +26

      Thank you for being awesome at your job too because it is HARD. The custodian at my school is my best work friend too!

    • @kristinaparker3698
      @kristinaparker3698 2 роки тому +57

      Custodians are the heart of the school. The custodian asked me yesterday how I was liking my first year in the district. The admins have not even asked me that. Thanks for being a shoulder to lean on!

  • @joosoo
    @joosoo 2 роки тому +912

    Honestly, I left America behind when I got my teaching degree. My mother was a teacher throughout my childhood and I remember the days she would break down crying because she had no help beyond myself and my sister cutting out laminate. I work in another country now and my classrooms are around 10-12 students and I have an assistant. The respect they give to teachers overseas is night and day compared to American schools.

    • @fortheloveofchocolat
      @fortheloveofchocolat 2 роки тому +24

      Where is this?

    • @Rosyblvsh
      @Rosyblvsh 2 роки тому +17

      ^ I second this question, currently finishing my ECE degree and want to work over seas, are you a ESL/TEFL teacher?

    • @joosoo
      @joosoo 2 роки тому +70

      @@Rosyblvsh I have my DELTA, so currently I work in an international school in Korea, but I've also worked in Italy, China, and Malawi. I wouldn't suggest teaching in China atm since they're changing policies to make it more difficult for foreign teachers. If you're American and want to teach overseas, getting into an Asian country is pretty easy. I'd suggest doing that first. You typically work as an immersion teaching assistant rather than solo teaching. It's a good way to get experience. Getting a visa for the EU is difficult but not impossible, but being more experienced and having a better degree will get them more willing to hire you.
      I wouldn't say that Korea is perfect when it comes to schools, but the way they treat teachers is very different compared to America. Just be careful about who hires you and look into them before accepting a job, especially when it comes to hagwons/cram schools.

    • @ericageier7493
      @ericageier7493 2 роки тому +22

      I’m headed overseas to teach after this school year. I’ve heard so many good things about teaching outside of the US. Excited to see what it’s like over there!

    • @pepmaths5812
      @pepmaths5812 2 роки тому +3

      Great...Which country is that?

  • @KJ-vu1nz
    @KJ-vu1nz 2 роки тому +222

    I'm a teacher in public school. No one gets what we go through and/or appreciates us! I get exactly what you are saying. I am a seasoned, veteran, decorated teacher of 30 years who has great classroom management. It is all so overwhelming and no one gets it! They are pushing good teachers out!!!!!

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 Рік тому +13

      @ KJ
      I agree. Don’t get me wrong, I love the routine of working with and helping my kiddos at work. But I DON’T love the current system of kids getting away with things without real consequences. It’s like all the consequences are removed and highly limited. The makes it harder not just for teachers and staff, but the students as well.
      I feel like todays kids are not being prepared enough for the real world, they’re just sliding by without learning the true value of respect and hard work.

    • @lindachisholm4201
      @lindachisholm4201 7 місяців тому

      Yep

    • @yonaavraham9594
      @yonaavraham9594 4 місяці тому

      ❤❤

  • @ashleyjackson9944
    @ashleyjackson9944 2 роки тому +729

    Girl, as a nurse, you did the right thing. Your 1st priority is going home to your baby. That blood pressure and that feeling sounds like an early stroke. Your body was warning you. You did everything that you could, they did wrong by you.

    • @tabithathewholistic
      @tabithathewholistic 2 роки тому +56

      Definitely sounds like a mild stroke! Or signs of it at least.

    • @omokaroojiire
      @omokaroojiire 2 роки тому

      Yep, NO job is worth your life!!!

    • @booboobaire3602
      @booboobaire3602 2 роки тому +24

      Well said, Ashley!! I did have two strokes with these feelings beforehand.

    • @StopWhining491
      @StopWhining491 2 роки тому +11

      A panic attack, maybe? Take care of yourself.

    • @nwatson2773
      @nwatson2773 2 роки тому +7

      I had a 42 year old day she had a stroke at her teaching job!

  • @Allybaba55
    @Allybaba55 2 роки тому +533

    I'm a therapist and I work with so many teachers. This year I swear only 25% of my teachers are returning to the field because they just cannot deal with the conditions they face. Happy to see them pivot to a less stressful field but makes me sad that the schools are losing such amazing people!

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 Рік тому +2

      Yeah it sucks. You’d think that after the covid pandemic……when schools were forced to close, that society would learn a lesson after this tragedy. Which is to value and appreciate members who contribute so much to society b/c you never know when everything will be taken away.

    • @tawanda4090
      @tawanda4090 Рік тому +1

      I wish had good teacher for my child this whole year. She differently was not a communicator and waited the last minute to inform you about your child. 90% of the time my child would tell me before the teacher did. I would even ask the teacher about testing and homework. Never got a conference the first half of the year. But got one upon request of me for a conference the 2nd half of the year. On stop of that the teacher went to jail and they covered that up. My child was getting hit on in by a boy and she would tell the teacher... nothing was done about. I had to plan out tell my child to defend herself because ur going to be a punching bag. This can cause her to think it ok to be hit on because the teacher didn't defend her. School is not school no more.

    • @letsgetit90
      @letsgetit90 Рік тому

      @@tawanda4090- go to the school district and document everything, such as any marks, bruises, and even the words of the other bully. If the teacher didn't do anything, go directly to the principal and the district.
      I just got done with my student teaching, and I know your situation pretty well. In many places, they hesitate to suspend or boot kids. If you can, I would recommend observing for a day or whatever amount of time you can. Keep up the good fight on protecting your kiddo!

    • @Yahshija
      @Yahshija 11 місяців тому +2

      @@tawanda4090did you just listen to the video.. most teachers are spread too thin. And are dealing with so much. 30 kids for 5 to 6 classes. Do the math.

  • @LadyAeval
    @LadyAeval 2 роки тому +451

    I am not a teacher, but I am a custodian and I see the pressure they put you under.
    I see the way they tie your hands and ignore the problems. I see the way they set up classes, and I know it’s not the kids themselves, but large class sizes and high needs kids and a single teacher is a bomb waiting to implode.
    30 kids is too much. I’m sorry you went through that. Im glad you did the right thing for yourself and I hope for the best for you.

    • @MarkWendland
      @MarkWendland 2 роки тому +12

      Thanks for noticing. God bless!

    • @lymarie1974
      @lymarie1974 2 роки тому +11

      Thank you for the hard work you do also ❤

    • @ARUD08
      @ARUD08 2 роки тому +8

      Thank you for the work that you do. Underrecognized, underappreciated.
      You all are the smart ones, not the suckers like us, enduring the constant blame and harassment.

    • @jammasia
      @jammasia 2 роки тому +3

      30 kids is too much but I wished that my class size was that small. 50 and 50 plus is over kill. My form class is 52 kids.

    • @sheilabrennan4481
      @sheilabrennan4481 2 роки тому +9

      Wow you nailed it. I was thinking the same 30 kids? Things are so out of control, such lack of true support from administrators for teachers, administrators one of buddy buddy with the kids instead of supporting teachers these days. Thank you for speaking up and speaking out. Custodians are some of our core people in education, you are obviously one that cares deeply and pays attention so thank you for that as well.

  • @kellyspoto9988
    @kellyspoto9988 Рік тому +96

    I know some people are going to disagree, but I think what you did was brave. I was a teacher....it's difficult. I was also in a supervisor position that became so stressful that I felt my blood pressure spiking and I felt unsupported and I started to feel targeted. I was getting ready for work one morning and I was sitting on the side of the tub, and I was dreading walking through the front door of my job. And I put pajamas back on and crawled back into bed. And I slept like a rock! I never called in or put in my notice. I just stayed home with my babies! Best decision I ever made. So good for u! If u don't take care of u...no one else will.

    • @friendlykiwi384
      @friendlykiwi384 7 місяців тому +2

      So true, u must look after yr own health first ❤

    • @bigred175
      @bigred175 3 місяці тому +1

      You did good!!!

  • @OLeary2282
    @OLeary2282 2 роки тому +577

    Just know that I FELT EVERY WORD and there are 1million teachers nodding their heads in agreement and saying YASSSS as you tell your story. I also reach 7th grade SpEd, and NOTHING you said was a bit dramatized. I say ON THE DAILY we get punished for being good at our jobs. Leaving the way you did was the only option. You would’ve been GAS LIGHTED and guilted back into that classroom if you did it any other way.

    • @honestteachervibes
      @honestteachervibes  2 роки тому +78

      They literally gas light us so hard.

    • @CKammes
      @CKammes 2 роки тому +7

      Facts

    • @Ngodsfavor1
      @Ngodsfavor1 2 роки тому +4

      Exactly

    • @junefranklin6181
      @junefranklin6181 2 роки тому +11

      I feel it exactly! It can’t be explained and she explains it so well. It still can’t be understood unless you’re in it. It’s so much stress.

    • @vswick
      @vswick 2 роки тому +19

      I was nodding the whole time & saying “yes!”. I felt every word & I teach 2nd grade. This is across the entire nation, so it’s definitely not a “me” problem like they gaslight us to think; it’s systemic.

  • @jenniferbaltzell5026
    @jenniferbaltzell5026 2 роки тому +592

    22 year teacher here…All of these comments are so spot-on. No one understands what we endure besides other teachers. The “good teachers get punished” hit home! The behaviors we’re expected to manage in the last few years are abhorrent! I’m lucky to have great administrators and co-workers, but SOMETHING has to change in society as a whole! I’m sorry you had to experience this.❤️

    • @2001csweetc
      @2001csweetc 2 роки тому +15

      I am doing my Ph.D. on why teachers leave the classroom and I would love for you to complete my survey if you have time. A survey can be found on the about me page section of UA-cam.

    • @lisaann2393
      @lisaann2393 2 роки тому +3

      I have been teaching for 23 years and I feel the same way. Sadly, I feel very unsupported by my district. I am truly glad you have support.

    • @39FORTYWATER
      @39FORTYWATER 2 роки тому

      🙏

    • @kathydavis6177
      @kathydavis6177 2 роки тому +2

      You nailed it! I’ve been coming home exhausted every day and over chats with my concerned husband, I’ve said this very same thing. It’s becoming a societal issue! We can’t keep up a constant dog and pony show to deflect these behaviors. I very much believe that unmonitored social media in the hands of our kids has contributed to this mess. I’ve been in this for 24 years now. I’m retiring at the end of next year. My two daughters are teachers too, and one is contemplating leaving the profession.

    • @whome7498
      @whome7498 2 роки тому +1

      And that's why I try to go above and beyond for my kids teachers with supplies and support and thank them every chance I get

  • @paigeseliger836
    @paigeseliger836 2 роки тому +449

    It feels like administration forgets you're a teacher and they think you're just there to watch the kids. Teachers aren't babysitters, they're educators. It's wild that daycare has a legal limit for adult to child ratios, but schools don't. I'm so sorry you reached the point of a medical emergency and still weren't taken seriously. Thank you for the time and energy you put into the kids. I hope you find financial AND emotional stability wherever you go next, because you deserve it

    • @davidlafleche1142
      @davidlafleche1142 2 роки тому +34

      Not babysitters, more like zookeepers.

    • @daniellemasterson7590
      @daniellemasterson7590 2 роки тому +12

      And all kids do better when there's a lower student to teacher ratio. I had 5 kids in my class and a co teacher and we could go back and forth from teaching to getting the next project ready to cleaning without gaps in the learning process and it never felt like work.

    • @monkeysluvdani
      @monkeysluvdani 2 роки тому +18

      🙋🏽‍♀️ childcare teacher here.... Ratios are not being followed in the times we are living in right now and we are dealing with many of the same stressors as the teachers in the public schools. We also had all the kids when schools were closed trying to do their virtual schooling.... We are feeling it too. We are short staffed, over worked (I work 50+ hours just in the building not counting what I do outside the building), and we are struggling financially. We have so many special needs kids who are not diagnosed yet or have IEP’s because parents don't want to see it or doctors won't help until they start school. We are also dealing with behaviors or unregulated children who are often violent towards us and other children. And the states are putting pressure on us to perform as if we were elementary school teachers so we are still very much providing a curriculum, observations, and assessments all while changing diapers and potty training and being pulled out of our regular classes to sub for other teachers because you're the best one in the baby room or the 2 year old room so now you're preschoolers have to deal with their teacher coming in and out for days or weeks at a time and when you get back you have to start over with your rules and expectations because while you were away there was no structure, and you need to out your classroom back together because nobody was cleaning it up or putting things back where it goes. She hit the nail on the head when she said it's like if you're good at your job you'll get punished. I feel that deeply.

    • @jacquilewis3323
      @jacquilewis3323 2 роки тому +1

      I praise our teachers! You deserve better!

    • @AngryPug76
      @AngryPug76 2 роки тому +6

      As a former teacher, you’re wrong. That’s how it should be. We aren’t allowed to educate, not really, not outside AP classes and even then it’s only teaching how to get into college instead of how to be productive adults. We are literally babysitters first and foremost. I was chewed out multiple times for “teaching too much and not giving enough busy work” (administrations exact words).

  • @Angela-tt5ik
    @Angela-tt5ik Рік тому +74

    It's tragic when good teachers quit. A lot of teachers I know who leave teaching become real estate agents. On the news they asked a former teacher what was one advantage of leaving teaching he said he can go to the restroom when he needs to.

    • @tiffanyc223
      @tiffanyc223 4 місяці тому +1

      Omg yes. I am not used to scheduling a bathroom break and a 40 minute lunch where you can't even get to your lunch until 15 after it starts.

  • @miyanawhite3601
    @miyanawhite3601 2 роки тому +507

    Current teacher, year 4. And I COMPLETELY agree with every word spoken. Behavior is a MAJOR issue. And our health is literally at risk daily, from parents sending SICK kids to school without a mask! too exhausted to constantly workout, stress from all angles. It’s dangerous at this point. And we have to choose us first because no one else will! Life is too precious, I lost a dear friend/coworker due to stress! Heart attack. She was not even 30 years old.
    We love the kids!!!! But…
    Discipline your children at home!

    • @jmichelle83
      @jmichelle83 2 роки тому +35

      I had a teacher tell me that her husband asks her to wear long sleeves because she is always bruised or cut up from her special needs students and he doesn't want anyone to think he abuses her. One kid actually fractured several small bones in her foot.

    • @karenk2409
      @karenk2409 2 роки тому +32

      I went to school in the 50s and 60s and this behavior was unimaginable. Teachers today have my total compassion ... I retired as a teacher just before this insanity began, and I feel for parents with kids in public school and the teachers who have to deal with this politically driven insanity ...love and prayers to all of you.

    • @terraalbritton6405
      @terraalbritton6405 2 роки тому +16

      Wow. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. Stress literally damages our bodies. Mental health is just as important as any other health issue, if not more so.

    • @terraalbritton6405
      @terraalbritton6405 2 роки тому +8

      @@jmichelle83 Wow. That is horrible!!!!

    • @nelle5686
      @nelle5686 2 роки тому +23

      Parents discipline your children! It isn't the teachers job to do this and children who are brought up without any respect for others are growing up without boundaries and are unmanageable and nothing is my fault self entitled brats!

  • @jessicahodges2935
    @jessicahodges2935 2 роки тому +656

    I did the exact same! Toxic positivity, false sense and focus on “self care”, and the expectation to do more with less is taking a toll. I’m proud of you for doing what is necessary for you. In the end our position is replaceable, but our lives are not.

    • @margos8475
      @margos8475 2 роки тому +18

      I love teaching, I do. But, admin is taking us for granted and I am just trying to be there for our kiddos! But these two or so yrs, it’s been painful.

    • @margos8475
      @margos8475 2 роки тому +13

      I respect you taking care of you! Even tho I know it hurts, remember you are valued and matter !

    • @tisharenee2755
      @tisharenee2755 2 роки тому +8

      That part!!!

    • @w.k.astrolabe280
      @w.k.astrolabe280 2 роки тому +11

      We put up posters all around our school this year that say "We will do anything to support our students." I was like, "RED FLAG FOR HOW THIS YEAR IS GOING TO GO." I will do what I can to help my students, but not anything.

  • @kebobscat
    @kebobscat 2 роки тому +243

    I quit in my first year. I was UTTERLY disillusioned. and I was in a KINDERGARTEN classroom. Despicable. Now I'm a mom who would NEVER send my children to public school. Home education for the win❤️

    • @jamee_maree
      @jamee_maree 2 роки тому +9

      I’d NEVER enroll my kids in the district I work for. It’s so sad to say but so spot on true.

    • @TheJocelynrae
      @TheJocelynrae 2 роки тому +5

      I always planned to homeschool (and do) because I wanted the individualized curriculum and attention and I didn't like certain things (academic and non-academic) in the public curriculums.
      But even if I thought classrooms of 30 were fine and the curriculum was top-notch, at this point I would still homeschool because the discipline structure and behaviour problems in the schools are SO BAD.
      I remember when good teachers ran good classrooms, and bad teachers had insane classrooms - now, it's all nuts...the job itself is becoming impossible.

    • @dlg5485
      @dlg5485 2 роки тому +26

      I'm not a teacher, but simply opting out of the public school system is not an option for the vast majority of families. That's not the solution to this problem. What we need is for everyone in society to push for better funding, staffing and overall conditions in our public schools. I know you advocated for home schooling (not charter/private schooling), but diverting funding from already struggling public school teachers is a huge part of the problem. Everyone pulling out will only make things worse for them. As a society, we all need to make a renewed commitment to improving the teaching conditions in our public schools, which will be better for students as well. That means more funding for pay increases, supplies, etc as well as additional staffing and other resources to lighten the load. Fixing public schools must become a priority for everyone in society.

    • @thisistheday597
      @thisistheday597 2 роки тому +6

      Wow, I wanted to teach ever since I was a little girl. I loved school and absolutely loved all of my elementary school teachers! But reality really hit me during my undergrad year after shadowing teachers in my school district. Discipline issues took up a lot of instruction time and regional test scores were below standard. But that was over a decade ago. Now everything has gotten worse in regards to discipline issues and now it's couples with serious mental health issues too. Our superintendent in our district is actually capitalizing on those problems by introducing curriculum like "gender and sexuality identity" which further confuses kids and creates more problems than helps.
      Our education system is on life support. And the prognosis is horrible. I pray it gets better but I would suggest any concerned parent to do a lot of research before sending their child to a public schools. Homeschool and Classical private schools are by far superior.

    • @scrapykat3028
      @scrapykat3028 2 роки тому +5

      Kindergarten is very stressful! It’s not for everyone!

  • @monique911
    @monique911 Рік тому +118

    I pursued teaching before and while I earned a role as a T.A. at my local elementary school. After seeing the lack of support from admin, I absolutely changed my mind. I left after 6 years to work in a call center. I had no degree and no idea of what I wanted to do.
    I went from call center CSR to business analyst in just a few short years. I work from home and make almost tripled what I would have made my first year of teaching. I never looked back and it moves me to tears knowing that I make more than teachers. Teachers are THE backbone in any society and I’m truly disgusted.

  • @ashleyb.3928
    @ashleyb.3928 2 роки тому +605

    I recently resigned in January from my teaching position. Our stories are incredibly similar. I'm glad that you put yourself and your family first. I gave ample notice, stocked my classroom full of supplies and snacks, and left two weeks' worth of lesson plans and copies... I was still labeled the bad guy for leaving mid-year. But I have zero regrets for leaving. It was what was best for me.

    • @anitagaka
      @anitagaka 2 роки тому +36

      I retired 3 years ago in the middle of the school year. I had some health issues along with the stress of classes like the one she described. I understood and agreed with every word she said.

    • @misschimere
      @misschimere 2 роки тому

      Q

    • @marie-on5yj
      @marie-on5yj 2 роки тому +6

      Good for you!!

    • @joycevernon8526
      @joycevernon8526 2 роки тому +17

      Sister you should have left earlier, but your one of those many good dedicated teachers out there who fight and support your children; your administrators don't really care about teachers or children and should not be in the positions they now hold. They're mean incentive and ignorant. Thank God for saving your life to take care of yourself and your child. You could haved died under that pressure but we all have an appointed time and God saved your life so you can live and share your story Love. These people treat animals so well but the human race they really don't care about which is very sad. God bless you, someone as honest and dedicated as you're God has a special plan for you, you commit your life to Him and stay faithful. It shall be well🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @ma_kal
      @ma_kal 2 роки тому +10

      The fact that they are trying to blame YOU for leaving instead of making teaching easier and better for teachers says the martyr culture that the teaching profession has cultivated.

  • @rachelekblad4424
    @rachelekblad4424 2 роки тому +354

    Our society has this messed-up idea that if you're a good teacher, you can work miracles. They don't let us be human. They make you feel like your refusal to tolerate abuse is somehow a character flaw or a lack of skill. You're totally right that if you had stayed and had a stroke, the school would have replaced you without any guilt or sense of responsibility. I can tell you're an incredible teacher from the videos you post, and your school has lost BIG TIME. Sadly, admin will probably never realize that because I bet they're totally out of touch with the needs of their students. All you needed was a good faith gesture, to know you're being heard and valued on a very basic level, and when they couldn't do that, you were 100% right to get yourself out of that situation.

    • @faridehghasemi239
      @faridehghasemi239 2 роки тому +1

      Couldn't agree more.

    • @mayaparson962
      @mayaparson962 2 роки тому +5

      Absolutely agree! You’re supposed to do 100% everything for them as if you are superhuman. We have to buy the supplies for the students, practically raise them because they’re coming in with absolutely no respect, stagger our groups to meet all of the academic needs in the class, create lessons, grade work, provide snacks because the children are always hungry meanwhile the school only provides an evening snack twice a week. All to still go home to our OWN children that we actually have 100% responsibility for and be completely burnt out. . . Just absolutely insane

    • @NerdyBird99
      @NerdyBird99 2 роки тому +2

      💯 It’s as if admin forgets what it’s like to be a classroom teacher. Sadly, most of my fellow teacher colleagues are on anxiety or anti-depressant meds

  • @christinaarandall
    @christinaarandall 2 роки тому +518

    This breaks my heart that this happened to you. (And those students to be honest because they clearly need more.) The public school system and lack of support (emotionally, physically, and def financially) is one of America’s biggest problems. It’s not right and it’s not fair. Teachers are one of the most important jobs we have yet one of the most under appreciated.
    Thank you for trying. I pray God will lead you to the place you are called to be. God bless you 🙏🏼💙

    • @ms.coleman8403
      @ms.coleman8403 2 роки тому +9

      And private schools aren't any better trust me !

    • @vanessab.6682
      @vanessab.6682 2 роки тому +14

      OMG. Christina! What are you doing here? Haha. Hi. I follow your channel. Good day girl!

    • @virginiaoflaherty2983
      @virginiaoflaherty2983 6 місяців тому

      You're right . But even if they doubled your pay the problems that are making the job impossible would not go away with a bigger paycheck. You give that job your all. Time not with your own family, your health, a big chunk of your income buying what your students need, trying to satisfy the unsatisfiable administration.

  • @lindayoung5179
    @lindayoung5179 Рік тому +53

    I was losing my hair due to stress. My admin had me document 5 different students in my class all day, every day, yet nothing happened. They sent a staff to document, and they said afterwards that my worst student stole things off my desk 5 times while I was rotating around the room helping my students. They finally admitted that they weren’t going to do anything. I sat in my car crying before going in to the school each morning. I had taught for 26 years, but just couldn’t do it anymore. I used to love teaching, but with the increased behavior problems, lack of parents taking responsibility, and poor administration it was putting too much stress on me. Sad to say that most of the teachers I taught with have also left the profession.

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 Рік тому +2

      @Linda Young
      I’d hate to be dealing with “leaders” like that. It’s like they’re either lazy OR too scared of angry parents coming up to the school and yelling at them. The purpose of consequences is being strict is to keep everyone on campus safe and prepare students. Then they wonder why kids are academically falling more and more behind. Even after remote learning during the pandemic has ended. There’s no more excuses.

    • @atomictime9410
      @atomictime9410 Рік тому +3

      Yep, as a sub I had students attack me and then report me to the principal. Without asking my side, I was banned from that campus. They principal just gave the control 100% to the students

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 5 місяців тому

      @atomictime9410
      As a sub, I once send a badly behaved kid to the principals office, and I got a call back from the office saying that they won’t take the kid. And that “all problems have to handled in the classroom.”
      Which is the laziest ridiculous response I ever heard.

  • @jenluv
    @jenluv 2 роки тому +1943

    This resonated with me so much! If you ask for help or you say you're having trouble, there is no empathy. There is no help. It's like "figure it out". And it's YOUR fault if you literally can't do what they are asking you to do. One thing I always said when I was teaching was that I didn't want a raise. I wanted help. I wanted another adult in the room that would help with things that I just physically couldn't get to. As someone who quit 5 years ago to do UA-cam full time, I know you're probably feeling all kinds of emotions about your decision, but you are going to be okay. At some point you have to take care of you. Thank you for fighting the good fight for as long as you did. You are a hero!

    • @honestteachervibes
      @honestteachervibes  2 роки тому +126

      Thank you so much sweet friend!!!

    • @BobbiGail
      @BobbiGail 2 роки тому +82

      Yes! If we ask for advice or help, we are suddenly incompetent. In a place of learning. Where we all should be LEARNING. So... the ppl who keep doing their job poorly over... and over... THEY are highly admired bc they don't strive to be better? Blows. My. Mind.

    • @jenniferjemison636
      @jenniferjemison636 2 роки тому +79

      Nursing is the same. You ask for help, not a raise and you are told that they can't help. You have to find a way and imagine you are trying to save a life!! My heart could not take the lack of caring and no compassion for the patient or myself. I left a job I loved but it was too unsafe for me and the patient.
      I now care for flowers. It is easier to save a life and I am my own boss. It is a life that allows me to sleep at night. 🤕🤕

    • @astheemeraldfalls
      @astheemeraldfalls 2 роки тому +20

      How many schools have teachers aides anymore? I attended Catholic schools so it was different but for the lower levels K-6th grade we often had a classroom teacher and then they had an additional aide.

    • @sirendipitybritt
      @sirendipitybritt 2 роки тому +5

      Thank you for this comment @jen luv 🤗

  • @claireboltjes7646
    @claireboltjes7646 2 роки тому +314

    Girl, no mom has 30 kids of the same age. It's not natural to have that many kids, especially alone. I believe you that the kids weren't awful. Just busy kids are a handful! I'm sorry you had to experience a body crash to see how hard it all was! Hugs and prayers! 💕

    • @alexh4935
      @alexh4935 2 роки тому +28

      Thirty is too many without an aid. Full stop. That she ONLY got stressed out during lunch says she must have had some next level classroom management.

    • @MaidMirawyn
      @MaidMirawyn 2 роки тому +13

      That’s it exactly. Kids have challenges, and it’s the responsibility of the school to group kids in a way that allows everyone to receive the attention and care they need. If you have a dozen kids with challenges, you spread them out so the teacher can have the time and attention for each kid, so that their behavior doesn’t negatively impact their classmates, and so that the teacher doesn’t have more than can be handled at one time.
      Thirty is just too many, even if they’re all “angels” with no particular challenges.

    • @ASmith-jn7kf
      @ASmith-jn7kf 2 роки тому +6

      An aid is not enough. A daycare has to have a person per six kids I believe so why is a school different. Not good for the kids, not good for the teachers.

    • @judisnyder4868
      @judisnyder4868 2 роки тому

      Amen!

    • @judisnyder4868
      @judisnyder4868 2 роки тому +2

      I remember having 78 kids in class in Chicago. Major teacher shortage!

  • @longorek
    @longorek 2 роки тому +292

    This is true. The better you are at handling challenging students, the more they load you up.

    • @kathy2910
      @kathy2910 2 роки тому +7

      So true!

    • @MsChris696969
      @MsChris696969 2 роки тому +28

      And to have so many special needs students in one class is not fair to the kids either.

    • @laurenskinner9069
      @laurenskinner9069 2 роки тому +8

      PREACH. It’s not fair

    • @annr1032
      @annr1032 2 роки тому +20

      Being good as a teacher almost leads to being punished, the better you deal with stuff the more they dump on your plate.

    • @PCTLadyPuterTutor
      @PCTLadyPuterTutor 2 роки тому +5

      This is so true. My mom was an elementary school teacher for 30 years. She started out teaching 1st grade and as she got older, moved up through the grades. In those 30 years, they would give her all of the behavior problems because "You can handle them better than anyone else." They also gave her all of the kids in that particular grade who had IEPs. She had kids in and out of her classroom all day long. They gave her split classes (4th/5th grade) multiple times, so she had to do TWO sets of lesson plans. 😣 All of this was done without even a classroom aide. And this was 30 years ago. I cannot imagine how difficult it is now. Miss, you did the right thing. You have to take care of yourself so you are around for your little girl.

  • @JimHoward
    @JimHoward 11 місяців тому +110

    I am no doctor, but blood pressure that high with fainting symptoms is very dangerous.
    You did the right thing.
    It’s tragic that they ran off a good teacher, but you’re exactly right you have your own family to care for.
    I hope you find a better place and I’ll say a prayer for you .

  • @kellyyork3898
    @kellyyork3898 2 роки тому +281

    My advice to teachers in these situations is to document, document, document and then hire a bulldog of an attorney to sue your district and principal. It can be done! Everyone makes mistakes, even serious ones…administrators especially do. Keep your eyes and ears open. Record data. Only when districts have to pay out millions will this abuse of teachers stop. Remember too to vote for candidates who support teachers specifically. Join and strengthen your unions.

    • @Angelhaswings555
      @Angelhaswings555 2 роки тому +18

      Unions unions unions !!!!!! Yes

    • @nancyf2183
      @nancyf2183 2 роки тому

      YES! JOIN YOUR UNION OR THE PROFESSIONAL ASSC THAT REPRESENTS YOU (in right-to-work states). Beware of American Assc of Educators. They're funded by the billionaires who are dismantling our public schools and putting out the "indoctrination" propaganda. And contact your state reps.

    • @lizzyfolks9116
      @lizzyfolks9116 2 роки тому +10

      That does nothing. My union didn’t back me up. And lawyers cost lots of money.

    • @kellyhanwright8411
      @kellyhanwright8411 2 роки тому +9

      I feel this in my soul. I had a notebook titled "survival" that I kept everything in, in case I needed my own backup! Learned double-quick after my first teaching experience!

    • @ginnysvec4809
      @ginnysvec4809 2 роки тому +3

      Yesss!!! Only thing is when there isn’t a union :(

  • @oldsusanna
    @oldsusanna 2 роки тому +342

    I totally GET THIS!!!! Teaching has changed dramatically the past 10 years. God bless you!!! I retired from my teaching job Jan. 1. DONE DONE DONE!

    • @bltpod
      @bltpod 2 роки тому

      Congrats to you! What do you do for work now? Im trying to grapple my mind around what jobs can a teacher who is trying to transition outside of the school environment.

    • @itzanjelwitaj1946
      @itzanjelwitaj1946 2 роки тому

      Yess

    • @2001csweetc
      @2001csweetc 2 роки тому +1

      I am doing my Ph.D. on why teachers leave the classroom and I would love for you to complete my survey if you have time. A survey can be found on the about me page section of UA-cam.

  • @angijordan6642
    @angijordan6642 2 роки тому +430

    People who’ve never been teachers before think that we are overpaid and don’t do anything! They have no idea as to the level of stress we face on a daily basis! Thank you so much for sharing your experience…your bravery is immeasurable!

    • @cindywhedbee1713
      @cindywhedbee1713 2 роки тому +19

      My dear friend was a teacher for 30 years, high school.
      She went through threats from the administration, football coach threatened her when she wouldn’t change a player’s grade, and a student blabbed about HIGHLY confidential information on another student. Many more examples.
      I was a substitute for two years and some the teachers treated me like dirt. Kids were undisciplined towards a sub. Vice Principal yelled at me for stopping a child running in the road during a fire drill.
      Last day for me.

    • @alyssahamlett
      @alyssahamlett 2 роки тому +16

      I've never been a teacher before but even I know yall have always been underpaid

    • @goldencalf13
      @goldencalf13 2 роки тому +5

      @@alyssahamlett while true. Teachers are amazingly well paid compared to most essential workers. Which essentially just means they actually make enough to live off of (even if frugally)

    • @Shesoluvlee
      @Shesoluvlee 2 роки тому +7

      2 miscarriages, poor health, and unruly administration

    • @editors4christ13
      @editors4christ13 2 роки тому +3

      I can't believe people would think that. My teacher (who has now retired after teaching for 42 years) has taught me many lessons about life. She even taught and helped our class with math issues we where having. Teachers teach us everything. I don't know why people regard teachers as lazy. If doesn't make any sense.

  • @CeriseGrist
    @CeriseGrist 2 роки тому +81

    2 years after my nervous breakdown in school (I'm a teacher)- I still can't listen to you're story without feeling like a desperate cornered animal. It's not right that people are treated this way.

  • @colleen1219
    @colleen1219 2 роки тому +343

    Your body was telling you what your mouth was not allowing you to say. You cannot love teaching or the kids more than you love yourself. Putting yourself first is one of the hardest things you have to do in life. I’m glad you’re making yourself and your family a priority.

  • @marciabentley9557
    @marciabentley9557 2 роки тому +189

    THIRTY Special Ed students!?!?!?!? I'm surprised that you lasted as long as you did! God bless you. YOU didn't fail the kids at all; they school system failed them. I pray that one day, administration figures out that treating teachers right is what will give them the outcomes they want. I almost cried just listening to you. As a retired state social worker, I kind of know how you feel. If I hadn't been able to get to the administrative level, I would have quit. And when I got to administration, I NEVER forgot to consider the well-being of the line staff.

    • @deedeemonroe1076
      @deedeemonroe1076 2 роки тому +19

      Not 30 sped skids, 30 kids with some being special Ed, some being back from alt school etc! Even still though it's hard

    • @Darshelle71
      @Darshelle71 2 роки тому +13

      Thats my thing, 31 students is wayyyyy too much for any one person to handle alone and especially with the different behaviors. Wow! But not surprised. It’s so sad the great Educators get treated so unfairly.

    • @klmammkm
      @klmammkm 2 роки тому

      🤣🤣🤣Chile that’s alot

  • @kaitlyndillon9225
    @kaitlyndillon9225 2 роки тому +227

    I just left teaching after 7 years. I know I was amazing as a teacher but I dealt with a lot of this similar issues including being assaulted by a student with ZERO repercussions. You are not alone and nobody understands it unless you've been there. I am SO happy for you.

    • @monique911
      @monique911 Рік тому +11

      This! I was only a T.A., but witnessed bruised and bitten teachers have to go back into the classroom with their assailant who got a slap on the wrist. Absolutely not.
      I’m happy that you got out, too.

    • @user-sq9xo6bl6w
      @user-sq9xo6bl6w Рік тому +2

      I agree. People outside of teaching can't even imagine.

    • @AmallieGames
      @AmallieGames Рік тому +6

      This is INSANE to me. I was a teacher for just one year and left because of stress, the parents/admin, etc. I never had to deal with violence though, I cannot imagine on top of all the general teacher stress having that piled on top.

    • @aim-for-greatn3z947
      @aim-for-greatn3z947 Рік тому +2

      This is insane!!! Growing up in a traditional home if I would EVER lay hands on authority ESPECIALLY teacher...
      I would of ended up dead 💀
      One time I school I did something that got me suspended and my parents literally beat my ass in front of the class u til I passed myself 😂😂😂
      Unfortunately you can't do that anymore

    • @mt_gox
      @mt_gox Рік тому +2

      @@monique911 Oh but children are living gods in "the homeland of America." Their farts are precious gifts! Their boogers are little nuggets worth more than gold! Always believe the child! 😂

  • @carmegimenosansano9183
    @carmegimenosansano9183 Рік тому +64

    I'm a teacher from Spain. I'm on my 7th year of teaching now. Last year I taught in the US for a school year ( ideally it was really going to be more) as part as an exchange program. Almost everyday there I question If I wanted to be a teacher and in these 7 years never happened to me before. In the end I ended it up leaving at the end of the school year ( for other health reasons) but I can't say I regret leaving and coming back to Spain

    • @loveisgod2910
      @loveisgod2910 5 місяців тому

      I believe you. The educational system in the US is a system of intentional destruction.

    • @yo_ne_eon
      @yo_ne_eon 3 місяці тому

      Do you think the children’s behaviors are cultural?? That’s so interesting😱😱😱😱

    • @carmegimenosansano9183
      @carmegimenosansano9183 3 місяці тому +2

      I think the cultural component plays an important role in it. I won't say I don't have or have had rough behaviors here in Spain but I def saw( at least where I was teaching in the US and from what I heard from other Spanish teacher working in other schools) more challenging / defiant behaviors in the US in general.

  • @audreydolan2637
    @audreydolan2637 2 роки тому +282

    It's like looking in a mirror.....this is the EXACT reason I quit. Unacceptable, dangerous classroom environment that admin purposely ignored. They were so unhelpful, unapproachable and unkind it truly blew my mind. I ended up getting injured on the job, needing workers comp. & physical therapy from the lack of care I got. Unanswered emails, unanswered texts, lies & laughs. I was not able to let one classroom & shitty admin drive me back to psychiatry and an early grave. I'm with you 100% and I'm so sorry that good teachers get treated like shit and run out of the profession.

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 2 роки тому +8

      It takes a whole village. Teachers cannot provide the best service for kids without everyone doing their job.
      Admin have to support teachers, respect their work, and take things into consideration.
      And parents need to do the most important job they committed too….which is to properly raise the kids they brought into the world.

    • @Ramiiyah
      @Ramiiyah 2 роки тому +1

      🙏🙏🙏thank you for your time teaching

    • @ConstantChaos1
      @ConstantChaos1 2 роки тому

      We're you also a phenomenal bigot or were you a decent person?

    • @ilovemytribe
      @ilovemytribe 2 роки тому +1

      What do you do now? I quit the Human Services field and never looked back..

    • @ann-retired
      @ann-retired 2 роки тому +1

      This breaks my heart. So many of us have gone into teaching well prepared, excited about possibilities, and full of hope for educating young minds. It breaks my heart every time another teacher leaves the profession. If you have children in school, I hope you can find it in yourself to be kind to your child's teacher. Your encouragement matters.

  • @rachels.6191
    @rachels.6191 2 роки тому +282

    I feel you 100%. Don't try to rationalize this. You did the right thing.

    • @consumerdebtchitchat
      @consumerdebtchitchat 2 роки тому +2

      I agree completely!!!!!

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 2 роки тому +1

      @ Rachel S.
      Yes! It’s quite sad for society as a whole. Admin and school boards don’t even prioritize learning and education anymore.
      Teachers support staff are forced to take on so many different issues except the one job they’re meant to do…..which is to teach.

  • @jessicalynn5474
    @jessicalynn5474 2 роки тому +361

    It’s so heartbreaking that so many teachers are being pushed out of teaching. Sorry to hear about your experience

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 2 місяці тому

      I have no motivation to be the “best” teacher by district standards. I strive and do my best for the students only. I’m not there to please the adults. I meet the minimum admin/district requirements to keep me out of trouble. I work hard to educate my students and maintain a healthy and safe environment for them and them only.

  • @ashleychambers2794
    @ashleychambers2794 Рік тому +12

    You were on my sons schedule to be his teacher last year which would have been his 7th grade year. Ironically the same class period that you’re referring to in this video. We walked to the room that was listed on the schedule and found out real quick it wasn’t you. She was mad at me when I asked about you and got offended Was very disappointed with the replacement we had. . Hopefully with the new head principal, change will happen but time will tell. Still a lot of the same of the other administrators and counselors. It’s not a good school or environment to be in. You’re 💯 correct on the principle you’re referring too and the board of education is not too far off from it. I referred to him as “ole spiky head boy.” 😂🤷🏻‍♀️. Couldn’t stand him. No professionalism. I hate it got to the point it did but know that it all happened for a reason. I’m proud of you for protecting yourself! Keep up the amazing work with your current career. You’re absolutely amazing! ❤❤

  • @alexanderadams8208
    @alexanderadams8208 2 роки тому +296

    Don’t feel bad about not giving a two weeks notice. Why extend to them that courtesy when they couldn’t even respond to an email? You’re never doing anything wrong when you’re doing what feels right in your heart.

    • @honestteachervibes
      @honestteachervibes  2 роки тому +25

      Thank you so much sweet friend! ❤

    • @FLMegan
      @FLMegan 2 роки тому +8

      I gave 24 hours and never looked back... I never felt bad. I felt relief, freedom and praised Jesus the whole way home.

    • @nwatson2773
      @nwatson2773 2 роки тому +1

      I have seen a coworker have a high blood pressure and us and stroke at work, all that was sent was one email and we never saw her or heard from her again she ended up having to go to a long-term care facility! The School Board does not care about anybody.

    • @hannahscott6604
      @hannahscott6604 2 роки тому +1

      Yeah fam. I would’ve just quit

  • @alloftheaboveeunicesmith9625
    @alloftheaboveeunicesmith9625 2 роки тому +264

    As a school nurse who only sees a part of what teachers experience... I'm surprised this doesn't happen to more teachers. Prayers for you. It's like hidden trauma that no one will validate.

    • @ddwhittaker
      @ddwhittaker 2 роки тому +6

      It does they’re just taking prescription meds. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @abbebatait1555
      @abbebatait1555 2 роки тому +20

      It does but we don’t talk about it. We get a lot of hate for real talk as if summer vacation is some kind of cure for the anxiety and stress we experience for 9 months of physical and mental abuse we experience- especially in special Ed.

  • @coradavis5467
    @coradavis5467 2 роки тому +196

    Nursing student here. The fact that your BP was 217/133 is extremely alarming! I can only imagine the amount of stress you and all other teachers go through on a daily basis. God bless you and all other teachers. This country desperately needs more teachers to help make class numbers smaller.

    • @DixonCider1234
      @DixonCider1234 2 роки тому

      She's also overweight...look at her.
      Smaller class sizes aren't the problem, it's parents who don't parent or discipline their kids or take any interest in their lives. The parents are the problem. The kids are a projection of their home environment.

    • @DixonCider1234
      @DixonCider1234 2 роки тому

      @HoneyNut Cocaine every job is stressful, why is it only women in predominantly female fields complaining?

    • @DixonCider1234
      @DixonCider1234 2 роки тому

      @HoneyNut Cocaine that's only in your head. Stop playing the race card and claiming you're a victim. It's nonsense.

    • @DixonCider1234
      @DixonCider1234 2 роки тому +4

      @HoneyNut Cocaine I didn't work hard for my degrees?

    • @DixonCider1234
      @DixonCider1234 2 роки тому

      @HoneyNut Cocaine that's more of a you and your "community" problem than a white problem.
      Look up education, wedlock, incarceration gang and poverty rates by demographics. Then look in the mirror.

  • @beckystephens711
    @beckystephens711 2 роки тому +122

    What you are describing is known as PTSD, pure and simple. As a principal in the same building I formerly taught, one of the things I TRIED to do was push in as much as possible and support the teachers. I was lucky and I was able to be use the only tool I had consistently - my time - to be present in the rooms, and CARE for the teachers. What was interesting was that the kids saw that, and for that time I was there, it helped. I took kids out of rooms and placed them in other rooms, I was able to communicate with parents, and again, I was LUCKY. . . I was supported by a social worker and a really good resource room teacher, AND a great staff. What you are talking about is so typical, and the courage it takes to provide context without blame is wonderful. I am so sorry for your experience, and I truly understand your feelings and your experience. As disruptive as resignation is for YOUR life, you did the right thing. You need to take your ability to speak to the heart of the matter(s) without demonizing the kids, and take your show on the road! I know you know that not all schools are like what you experienced, BUT the pressure teachers are under is the same everywhere. You are giving voice to what EVERYONE is going through, and you have an audience. As one door closes, another door opens, so maybe this is another opportunity to continue in education in a new, impactful and different way. I don’t need to wish you luck, because I know you will be successful. I do wish you peace and will remind you that your actions were correct and showed courage and common sense.

  • @nicolerodriguez7072
    @nicolerodriguez7072 2 роки тому +259

    As a fellow teacher.. I'm so sorry to hear this. People have no idea what really goes on in schools and what teachers deal with on a daily basis. Put your health 1st!! 😘

    • @lubystkaolamonola529
      @lubystkaolamonola529 2 роки тому +8

      I understand why Japan puts so much emphasis on order and discipline in the classroom for the first 3-4 years of school. Yes you can goof around on the break in designated area. You can have different opinions during classroom debate. But always you need to have proper manners and be decent.

    • @brendamstewart5883
      @brendamstewart5883 2 роки тому

      Amen

    • @prosperitylife5344
      @prosperitylife5344 2 роки тому

      Everyone knows republicans are constantly attacking teachers while they send their kids to private schools or home school. Wake up people

  • @robyncooperramsey8323
    @robyncooperramsey8323 2 роки тому +163

    You absolutely nailed it when you identified being gaslighted. When someone else minimizes your pain or doesn’t own their responsibility in the problems, they are trying to undermine your experience of your reality. You’re right: they don’t care. I’m impressed with your self-awareness and willingness to step away.

  • @curtrinalewis1642
    @curtrinalewis1642 2 роки тому +114

    The fact that you had to disregard your health in the first place speaks so many volumes to how teachers are being taxed in ways that no other profession is. They get to go to an office and be by themselves to get work done because of teachers. They get to be the professional they want to be without someone calling their names, asking for snack, throwing chairs at them and more...BECAUSE of TEACHERS! The day this is finally understood will be a wonderful day. If they can pay athletes the way they do just to entertain people and say they sacrifice their bodies for their fans. Then tell me what it does to a teacher to be threatened, beat, spit on, overwhelmed on a daily basis. (not a game by game basis) Teachers are mentally emotionally and spiritually taxed due to the stresses and changes we are forced to go through as a teacher.

  • @sweetcherry7759
    @sweetcherry7759 Рік тому +7

    Okay, that last part about hugging your child hit me and now im crying irl- always let them know u love'em and hug'em// so important

  • @netraflo
    @netraflo 2 роки тому +252

    I’m in my second year as a head principal. I’ve decided to walk away because those above me think it’s comical that “teachers are tired”. I fight for my staff and have had a rough year for it! Basically always have to hear “well we know you’re new to this…” Our superintendent stated that when principals say their teachers are tired, we’re really saying we (us principals) don’t have the stamina to do the tough work of coaching teachers and are making excuses. She then laughed and said “who ain’t tired in education” as if we were going to laugh with her. I don’t know what’s next for me, but being a principal may not be my call. I promise, I get it….if anything, I want you to understand that all Admin aren’t bad. Sometimes the crew above us make our jobs hard.
    Some days/weeks, I spend more time in repetitive meetings than I do in my building. I feel bad bc I know I need to be in classes. I can’t speak for your Admin, but some of us do care.

    • @Sheloyigamer
      @Sheloyigamer 2 роки тому +17

      I see you; those very rare but real, reasonable, compassionate administrators.

    • @ines3770
      @ines3770 2 роки тому +23

      that's the issue : not all admin is bad but the good one always leave because they cannot tolerate this nonsense... then good teachers leave too

    • @misfithomemaker3683
      @misfithomemaker3683 2 роки тому +4

      You sound nice. I live in Katy ISD, I mean, just look up that one. It's been in the news alot. Our whole system is corrupt and runs on nepotism. The 2 principals I've had experience with as a parent, were just bad, ....it was just a bad experience. I've been homeschooling since 2019. The school system needs reform, both parent's and teacher's needs should be addressed. The powers that be are about to reset and change everything in the coming years. It will be very different. Teachers won't have their own classrooms. They will travel from class to class. There will be more paraprofessional support because on a basic level we all need to accept that children need care, yes I said it...."child care". Teachers traditionally say, "we're not day care providers." The reality is this Nations children do need care, the whole child, physical, psychological, as well as academic should be addressed. Right now, we don't address it, they are just sleep deprived, emotionally damaged, messes at school. Teachers will spend more time at their computer on their individual students and on creating each students personalized curriculum. The classroom will belong to the students, they will decide things through consensus and community building. Teacher may miss their autonomy and ownership, but will ultimately feel more like the "professionals" they are. They will be less stressed. It will be very AI controlled and privacy will be gone. Oh, yeah, class size will be smaller and it might even have slightly different ages, borrowing from the Montessori style.

    • @beautifulbrown_infinity1673
      @beautifulbrown_infinity1673 2 роки тому +4

      @Netraflo Please check out the new NYC Schools Chancellor's movement. He's not an administrator or a bureaucrat, he's a father and a teacher first. He's focused on results and un-dumbing down the students. Its a breath of fresh air, breathing new life into what is, for most of us, our Purpose.
      We as educators need to get back to the basics and actually teach these children. IMO, most of us are getting burned out from lack of results because as the sista said there is a lack of STRUCTURE. Schools feel like a hangout. The teachers are fraternizing with the students, there is too much focus on social-emotional learning (which is subjective) and not enough on objective, empirical learning.Start doing PD that reorientates educators back to why they got in the field in the first place. We need to bring that one room schoolhouse mentality back because we have students on so many reading levels, with differenring learning styles, behavioral patterns etc.
      We are throwing special ed students into the mix of mainstream students and just accepting that the resources aren't there to properly structure classes or place those students. That's nonsense. There's billions in federal money to service SpecEd students but 99 times out of 10, its not even being claimed on the district level. If the LEAs/District won't do it, principals and other school leaders need to Develop a Child Find staff role that pursues IDEA resources for SpecEd students so we can have functional groupings and teachers like the sista posting don't get burned out.
      We really need you guys to lead right now, Principal. Teachers are burned out and our kids are suffering from 2+ years of learning loss.

    • @misfithomemaker3683
      @misfithomemaker3683 2 роки тому

      This is something all school professionals need to be aware of, you may have to back up and watch some of her videos to understand what she is taking about. In a nutshell its all about how the new reset school model they will push is all about control of the population.
      ua-cam.com/video/BdRfxcjWAc4/v-deo.html

  • @raresubstance
    @raresubstance 2 роки тому +48

    Had a friend under age 40, stroke out and die from job stress. SO GRATEFUL, you didn't let them ppl kill you too ✌🏾👍🏾

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 6 місяців тому

      That’s horrible. In those cases, they will easily replace you within seconds. No job is worth the risking your health over.

  • @rosemattax22
    @rosemattax22 2 роки тому +131

    I'm a retired therapist. I heard these stories all the time from my teacher clients. It breaks my heart that teachers are forced to cope with situations like this. 🙏 for you.

    • @anniewarbucks9697
      @anniewarbucks9697 2 роки тому +7

      The talk therapy is so necessary. Spouses and those that don't live this- don't get it.
      I wonder how many teachers see a psychiatrist in order to medicate to get through the day..

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 2 роки тому +1

      When more and more teachers quit and the teacher shortage becomes outta hand, school boards will go out of business and parents will have to homeschool their own kids.
      Maybe then they’ll wake up

  • @kristinaugust8717
    @kristinaugust8717 Рік тому +12

    When I worked at an alternative school, we had a big procedure about introducing new students. A new student changes the whole dynamic of the calm and structured environment we worked hard to create. I almost got punched in the face when a new good ball jokester provoked a gang member who was finally working hard to get his diploma. He was becoming a good student and finally trusted us because we gave him the space he needed. Then this kid comes in and throws off the whole dynamic. I’m Illinois your only supposed to have 7 sped/IEP kids in a class and then you need another teacher or Para. 30 students by yourself!!!! So glad you are taking care of yourself!! My sister had a stroke and they still didn’t care. I have another story but still working on that. THANK YOU FOR SHARING!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @roadtojoy21
    @roadtojoy21 2 роки тому +125

    This is why we have a teacher shortage!! I use to teach an now I work at a children’s museum and I LOVE it! I feel like I am a person and have a work life balance not just a teacher only, with no social life but my teacher friends!

    • @rileysmith1314
      @rileysmith1314 2 роки тому +3

      This sounds intriguing! How’s the pay compared to teaching?

    • @leslielewis7286
      @leslielewis7286 2 роки тому +3

      I'm really happy you love your job. I applied for a job at a children's museum after I retired from teaching. They asked me a lot of interview questions about how I would handle situations with complaining, overbearing mothers--moms who want their child to have a toy someone else is playing with or want to interrupt the class field trip constantly, etc. I left the interview feeling so much anxiety, had nightmares, got sick. When they offered me the job I couldn't take it. Teaching had destroyed me emotionally.

    • @daniellemasterson7590
      @daniellemasterson7590 2 роки тому +1

      As far as the work life balance, I saw a video of a teacher explaining some stats about tests and how they don't do anything (except make teachers have to grade papers for free in their own personal time) and that homework is unnecessary. We could take some of this work load away from teachers when we see that they aren't working. Creating personal plans/curriculum to the individual child is labor intensive at first, but gives children a better understanding and control over their education than test. Some kids get so stressed out that even when they know the answers they get it wrong. Many forget 96 % of the information in 3 days from constant cramming for different tests and their brains can only absorb and store so much information. Taking breaks once an hour for 15 minutes helps retain information. We could do much better to help teachers and students have better classroom experiences.

  • @quyenramos6682
    @quyenramos6682 2 роки тому +189

    What a sad day for education to lose another great teacher because they (the administrators/education structure) has set up such a toxic and stressful working environment. Praying for you to find your peace in a work that truly validates you and sees your worth to their company/organization!

    • @themiarosebeautychannel7379
      @themiarosebeautychannel7379 2 роки тому +5

      I am a teacher 30 kids there should be an assistant to help out. Teachers need to be taken care of and if they are not you need to stop and take care of you.

    • @aqueenofheart6632
      @aqueenofheart6632 2 роки тому +3

      This is the problem with the States, and probably other places. The only ones getting paid are the ones who work in the districts. They put all these kids in one classroom comes to show you they don't care about these students.

  • @prettysimplemusic
    @prettysimplemusic 2 роки тому +399

    These kids in 2022 are different. Humans, as we know it, have changed. I left the classroom 8 years ago - they were crazy then - I can only imagine the level of crazy they are these days! 🤦🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️

    • @FLMegan
      @FLMegan 2 роки тому +15

      I left 8 years ago too. Just awful n over it.

    • @damesaphira9790
      @damesaphira9790 2 роки тому +40

      They are crazier than you know....I have read their medical charts. ( Ex school nurse now retired.)

    • @mzzzzzzday
      @mzzzzzzday 2 роки тому

      EVERYONE has changed and we're forced to stick to a program that was outdated before covid.

    • @happycook6737
      @happycook6737 2 роки тому +12

      Typical of my state. Do not stay. There is no prize for finishing. Try to quit at the end of the school year. I'm glad this you tube person quit. You can't sacrifice your health.

    • @happycook6737
      @happycook6737 2 роки тому +56

      Exactly! Parents don't parent. They allow kids to sit endlessly on electronic babysitters. They indulge and pamper their brats. Their brats can do NO wrong, according to the parents. Add to that unreasonable administrators, toxic curriculum, crumbling school facilities, etc. I no longer say it's a good career when I'm asked. Retirement is in sight for me. I hope I make it. To younger teachers-- get out now. When you get older it is much harder to get hired. The difference in my district between a starting teacher and one with 30 years of experience is $7,000 in my district.

  • @pagedavis8940
    @pagedavis8940 Рік тому +20

    “ your not about to have a stroke up in here for no one” is my new life motto! You are amazing and as a fellow SPED Teacher I totally get it ;you are amazing and your videos make me smile. Thank you so much

  • @TurtleMyrtle12
    @TurtleMyrtle12 2 роки тому +242

    Hearing that admin will probably need to potentially step in to cover while they look for a new teacher is what they deserve. They knew you needed assistance cause you were struggling and they didn't give two toots. They put themselves in a jam by not working with you. You are very brave to stick up for yourself. Very impressive.

    • @ouestlelivre
      @ouestlelivre 2 роки тому +17

      Sadly, the admin is not going to step in and cover. They will get other teachers to give up their planning period to cover. Sadly.

    • @BettyBr29
      @BettyBr29 2 роки тому +2

      They probably will place 1 subteacher with even less training.

    • @laurenj8888
      @laurenj8888 2 роки тому +2

      You have the right to go on disability leave. Do you have a union? Do you have tenure? You can fight this if you want. You have been abused and your administration should be held accountable. What you are experiencing is sadly not new I retired after forty years and this type of thing has been going on forever but people are finally starting to refuse to tolerate it.

    • @colleenr871
      @colleenr871 2 роки тому

      I'm in HR and I agree with what you did. It sounds to me like you had little choice. Sometimes there are people, like maybe that assistant principal, that hear you and try to get something done but nothing will get done because someone else blocks it and does not agree. The only way to get change Sometimes is to leave. It won't be change there for you, but maybe it helps the next teacher and they do something that time.

  • @hellostephco84
    @hellostephco84 2 роки тому +250

    It's the "never got a response to the email" for me. Just hearing that gave me like...PTSD. The lack of response by admin when teachers are at their most vulnerable is one of the reasons I walked away too. Sometimes they are not interested in responding, sometimes they don't feel the situation warrants a response and sometimes there is an inability to respond to teachers because their hands are tied due to outside circumstances. Either way, it makes for an emotionally unsupportive and unhealthy working environment for teachers. Good for you for seeking the best solution for yourself. You've got so many bright things ahead of you!

    • @paulhamrick3943
      @paulhamrick3943 2 роки тому +5

      This is going to sound counterintuitive, and I know teachers feel threatened by this proposition because it is such a departure from the status quo and also associated with conservative, Republican politics, but in other white collar professions the issue of a poorly run workplace & bad management is handled by employees who simply change to a different employer but in the same industry. Businesses that can't retain good employees shrink and then go out of business.
      I realize that model might not actually work, I'm not saying for a fact that it does, but what I see with teachers is that they change jobs less. This puts less pressure on the school to try and retain employees. Additionally, public institutions are less agile and less adaptable, and they can be hamstrung by other regulations that sound good on paper but make everyone's lives worse at the workplace (at the school).
      I wish a state, say texas or georgia or something, experimented with going full voucher, and stayed that way for 2 decades. We need experiments to be run, not just in a single charter school, but over an entire geographical region. That's my (unpopular and never-gonna-happen) 2 cents.

    • @happycook6737
      @happycook6737 2 роки тому +8

      I find it hillarious that I am required, by my district, to respond to parent communications within 24 hours but our principal rarely responds to teachers' emails!

    • @happycook6737
      @happycook6737 2 роки тому +3

      @Alison Waterman I would bet money your colleague didn't want that kid but said, "Yes" to your face and told principal, "Please, not in my class "

    • @davidlafleche1142
      @davidlafleche1142 2 роки тому

      @@paulhamrick3943 Conservatives always do a far better job of running schools than Liberals.

    • @6686Andrea
      @6686Andrea 2 роки тому +2

      I'm having flashbacks from my past week. It's only my second year good scores but I'm literally one foot out

  • @mountainmama7672
    @mountainmama7672 2 роки тому +96

    My aunt was a teacher for over 30 years, retired in the early 1970’s and her best piece of advice was ‘never stress over a job that will have your position posted before your obituary’. I have seen it first hand with a local district while working for an attorney.
    I don’t know what caused the shift so quickly but it has a domino effect and we are losing over 20 teachers in my area next month.

    • @ninaloves4866
      @ninaloves4866 2 роки тому +7

      That was great advice from your Aunt.

    • @Em_Powell_KC
      @Em_Powell_KC 2 роки тому +1

      Wow! I love that!

    • @scorepeaun8511
      @scorepeaun8511 2 роки тому +1

      Whoa! That hit hard. But, sadly she was right.

    • @silentkraken
      @silentkraken 2 роки тому +1

      They mentioned this in one of their podcasts! It's so true

  • @shantelelewellen2788
    @shantelelewellen2788 Рік тому +35

    I’m a teacher! I hear you. I think only teachers truly know the extreme stress we go through. I’m sorry you experienced all of this.

    • @aim-for-greatn3z947
      @aim-for-greatn3z947 Рік тому

      Honest question what motivated you to become a teacher in the first place.

    • @cindylovette5827
      @cindylovette5827 Рік тому +1

      I was a secretary at an elementary school, and I do know what teachers deal with. I quit after one year as secretary. I barely made it to the end of my contract! I’ve seen what goes on. God bless all of you teachers!

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 5 місяців тому

      It’s not only teachers. It’s also nurses and retail workers who have to deal with ridiculous people. But teachers are definitely at the top of the list.

  • @MrsO1983
    @MrsO1983 2 роки тому +189

    I left after teaching middle school for 10 years in 2019. Haven't looked back. Everything you said is the reality of it now. I didn't want to give up but the lack of support and excessive criticisms pushed me out. I gave a notice, but it was hard. I totally understand. Bravo for putting your mental and physical health first, cause "they" won't!

    • @AC-xf6sw
      @AC-xf6sw 2 роки тому +5

      What do you do now? A lot of us have been led to believe we can't find jobs elsewhere or that no one wants our education degrees. I need someone to speak on this and provide career counseling for teachers trying to transition out.

    • @MrsO1983
      @MrsO1983 2 роки тому +2

      @@AC-xf6sw I struggled with the same thing for a few years before I left. But, I'm a stay-at-home mom now. I have a four year old son to teach and my husband was okay with the idea. I don't really know what else I'd want to do. Let me know if you come up with something.

    • @Sunflower-N-Daisy_Dreams
      @Sunflower-N-Daisy_Dreams 2 роки тому +2

      @@AC-xf6sw I'm opening up my own daycare with my best friend. But you can do the same thing with homeschool programs for any age and run it the way you want to. I'm not sure what state you are in, but Texas just requires you to have a curriculum & the parent sign up the child. It's a easy process here especially if the parent is willingly to work with you.

    • @daniellemasterson7590
      @daniellemasterson7590 2 роки тому +1

      @@MrsO1983 I'm a stay at home mom too. I'd like to make a homeschool collective. I've taught in one years ago and loved it. We taught one day a week so everyone could work the other days. Parents that couldn't take off could pay more and support teachers that want a classroom with low classroom ratios and more freedom of what, where and how to teach. There really was no administration, no required tests, no real rules persay, yet they were well behaved and thinking back now, there wasn't even a principal and no one thought to have one, because there were no problems with acting up. If children were getting antsy, at any point, we had the freedom to just take them to the park and let them run or go to the grocery store and teach them how to make sure they have enough money for what they want and that they received proper change back and how much tax was and how to calculate that. It's hard to expect them to succeed in the real world if they are kept in a box until their adults.

    • @teeb.2239
      @teeb.2239 2 роки тому

      @@AC-xf6sw as someone who now works as a contract worker…. Try higher education. There are training positions for faculty/staff. If you have a Masters degree there are supplemental adjunct positions. Seek out student advisor positions. If you have a passion for History, English, etc… seek out Office Admin/Coordinator positions within particular colleges. Think outside of the box. There are opportunities out there for us.

  • @bluedaze42
    @bluedaze42 2 роки тому +75

    It's interesting to note, that when teachers retire after 28 or or so years, they end up looking younger and healthier than they did while teaching. I've seen that with each teacher that has retired in our school the last 10 years. The best way for a teacher to get a facelift is to quit or retire. That's how stressful it can be.

    • @marie-on5yj
      @marie-on5yj 2 роки тому +2

      Yes!!! I've seen that too!!

  • @feminineallure6763
    @feminineallure6763 2 роки тому +187

    Dear Lord please bless this former teacher good measure, pressed down, and overflowing with financial stability and peace beyond understanding.
    You have a host of understanding teachers and former teachers who understand and empathize with what you are saying AND who are praying for and with you! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @naomikatepp
    @naomikatepp 11 місяців тому +3

    I was shoved down the stairs the day after report card conferences. I nearly shattered my knee cap and was out for months before I could walk again. My principal helped carry the wheelchair to the ambulance, then went back to his office to write me up and try to make it my fault. This is the same man who 3 days prior had torn up a pink slip in front of the whole class and said in front of them that he wasn’t accepting pink slips anymore. He took away my authority publicly and then tried to write me up for having insufficient discipline and authority that “they thought they could get away with it”. They never caught the assailant, apparently there were no cameras in the stairwell, just the halls. This was an overload class of 36 8th graders. You have my sympathy. Like you, I decided my ability to walk was more important that continuing my job. It was my 5th assault leading to the worker’s comp clinic or hospital in a year and a half. Thank you for trying. I now tutor online. I love it.

  • @LynneC44
    @LynneC44 2 роки тому +93

    I am a teacher too…and all I have to say is that as a society we are screwed. No one other than teachers, social workers, therapists, police, firemen, EMTs, nurses, and doctors have a clue what is happening in our society. It is falling apart. 30 kids? 30?????? I was at my doctor’s office yesterday…changing up my antidepressant and anxiety meds so that I can keep on keeping on…🤦‍♀️

    • @ms.w.9214
      @ms.w.9214 2 роки тому +8

      Amen sister, you hit the nail right on the head when you named the helping professions. Take care of yourself 👩‍🍳

    • @icantm0sh
      @icantm0sh 2 роки тому +8

      You are so right, they don't know what's coming... I'm leaving the education field after 9 years due to having 32 kids with only one other adult to help. All of them 3 to 5 years old. No help offered and they shut down the program for next year because I said I wasn't returning.

    • @Onegoodyarn
      @Onegoodyarn 2 роки тому +10

      Add school bus drivers to that list.

    • @TannyYem
      @TannyYem 2 роки тому +4

      I'm sorry that you are experiencing this. I decided this September to remove my kids from school. With all the agendas that's going on and force mandates in these school I can't with good faith send my children. It's a shame that the few good teachers get burnt out in this way. No child other than your own is worth the stress. If you too need to walk away do what you must. Signed a supportive mother you teachers especially the good ones are underpaid

    • @charlenelynnecomingsmcdani6179
      @charlenelynnecomingsmcdani6179 2 роки тому +1

      Parents know this as well.....

  • @sharaevans7196
    @sharaevans7196 2 роки тому +77

    This made me tear up. People have no idea the amount of stress that we try to cope with on a daily business. You did the right thing.

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 6 місяців тому

      Yeah. And honestly its not so much the teaching and kids that educators gets stressed about. It’s the toxic environment is some schools and lack of discipline with some kids.

  • @pepbdup
    @pepbdup 2 роки тому +91

    I actually had a mild stroke in my classroom 2 weeks ago. Then get a letter saying I may not be rehired due to professionalism and attendance. I have more professionalism then administration. Especially when you confide in your principal and they run and tell the person that I said something about them, so I get bullied by that person. So I completely feel your pain. It really is horrible that administration makes us feel this way.

    • @TheDiana1988
      @TheDiana1988 2 роки тому +31

      You need a lawyer

    • @LeighPhillips78
      @LeighPhillips78 2 роки тому +8

      Sue.

    • @DeeBlaregold
      @DeeBlaregold 2 роки тому +2

      Wow! Sorry 😞

    • @FoodNerds
      @FoodNerds 2 роки тому +7

      Oh no that’s terrible! That’s also a breach of your confidence and creating a hostile work environment.

    • @thebestindewest
      @thebestindewest 2 роки тому +3

      My goodness sending healing thoughts and prayers🧡

  • @mac__attack8609
    @mac__attack8609 Рік тому +21

    A job is not worth having a stroke over! So glad you chose your health and safety. I’m a para and one one of the science classes I was in had 31 kids, which is fairly uncommon in my district, but not unheard of in that school since the city keeps expanding housing developments in that area. Luckily, there no major behaviors. My kids were awesome students and so were there gen ed peers. The science teacher and I were fortunate!!! That so disheartening to hear you did not have the support you needed and asked professionally for. I don’t see how difficult it would have been to switch some of your kids to different blocks to reduce the load on that block. Shameful.

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 Рік тому

      @mac__attack
      True. My job is important but my health comes first! Always.

  • @meditationgirl
    @meditationgirl 2 роки тому +73

    It breaks my heart watching this video. Everything you said, I mean everything you said is 100% true. I’m a teacher and I’m quitting in two days. Looking back on my years as a teacher, I’ve been bullied, threatened, belittled, and even physically attacked. As a teacher you’re expected to just deal with it or have better classroom management. Teachers are responsible for everything and parents are barely held accountable for nothing.
    Years of teaching, a master’s degree, and thousands in student loans and I’m walking out! I choose me. I choose my health. I choose life. I see so many young teachers with high blood pressure, stomach ulcers, depression. This is the most stressful job I know of.
    Give a two weeks notice? You might not have survived for two more weeks 🤷🏽‍♀️ Who’s to say you wouldn’t have had a stroke or heart attack within those two weeks.
    Every job has some amount of stress to it, but teaching has enormous stress on a daily basis throughout the day. Your body will eventually give out. I’m happy you chose you before it was too late. Teaching is horrible and I hope one day the system changes to benefit the kids because the public school system is doing a great injustice to our society.

    • @2001csweetc
      @2001csweetc 2 роки тому +1

      I am doing my Ph.D. on why teachers leave the classroom and I would love for you to complete my survey if you have time. A survey can be found on the about me page section of UA-cam.

    • @mayaparson962
      @mayaparson962 2 роки тому +2

      I am a teacher and have also experienced all of the same things that you listed. I’m leaving after my contract comes to an end in 52 days

  • @emilycunningham7107
    @emilycunningham7107 2 роки тому +183

    When an admin and counselling team are not willing to move schedules it PROVES that they don't actually care about kids. We ask for schedule changes because it is best for kids. When admin don't take care of their teachers they are failing the kids. Period. Full stop. No argument. Caring for teachers is caring for kids.
    Proud of you. Find a place that wants what is best for teachers and kids.

    • @allisong78
      @allisong78 2 роки тому +10

      This is the issue I’m having now. Not telling us stuff, lying to us, and believing the kids over us is ridiculous.

    • @e1234-f
      @e1234-f 2 роки тому +2

      hell no i aint stayin more weeks!

    • @stefaniaguaman2742
      @stefaniaguaman2742 2 роки тому +1

      Yes!

    • @powers1217
      @powers1217 2 роки тому +4

      My husband got offered a new teaching job yesterday and will likely take it, largely in part to this very thing…as well as admin not doing their jobs and bowing to helicopter parents/parents who threaten.

    • @happycook6737
      @happycook6737 2 роки тому +2

      I'm convinced that schools that want the best for teachers and students are unicorns.

  • @lisafreebairn4253
    @lisafreebairn4253 2 роки тому +82

    I seriously want to cry listening to this. It makes me sick to see teachers treated like this. I don't blame you for quitting. What a slap in the face!

  • @rrvlawine
    @rrvlawine Рік тому +6

    I am a teacher of 20 working with disabled students for my entire career. It is sad that the support wasn't there for you. Because the truth is that the kiddos lost an amazing teacher that career but you had to prioritize you. If you are not well you can't help anyone. Our administration keeps forgetting that. We need to be supported in order to do our job well. Hope you are doing better and I am sending you good thoughts your way.😊

  • @nfj0108
    @nfj0108 2 роки тому +232

    I'm a teacher and teachers in my school are experiencing the same thing. I feel most of us have some form of PTSD and most of us are in therapy. It's even offered at no charge this year. What is that saying? You are speaking the truth. People who don't teach say some of the most ignorant statements. I go home stressed and exhausted everyday. I also have some decisions to make. I applaud you for the courage and strength it took for you to walk away. Who cares what anybody else has to say. Blessings to you.

    • @trace3254
      @trace3254 2 роки тому +10

      I retired and wanted to give back. I have been assaulted twice....seriously hurt. First time by an elementary school boy. Second by a high schooler in alternative school. No one really cared and received no support. You are so right. The teachers are getting hurt and it's swept under the carpet. I have developed high blood pressure since I started "wanting to give back". Oh yes, you are right. I have watched kids laugh at teachers who were hurt by other students.

    • @kimberlyhicks3644
      @kimberlyhicks3644 2 роки тому +6

      I walked away 11 years ago and I never looked back. It's not even worth it.

    • @nishamack586
      @nishamack586 2 роки тому +9

      Hi. I have empathy for you teachers, as I have worked in bedside nursing for 17 years. I just quit my job last month. PTSD is real. I don't miss not one second, maybe my patients but the health care system treated us like less than human the last few years. I wish you guys all the best.❤❤

    • @TStevensfayettek12
      @TStevensfayettek12 2 роки тому +6

      We had a para stabbed with a pencil and the student was sent home for a day. 😳😬
      They “reward” him with ice cream if he has a day where he doesn’t have an outburst or tear up the room. 😩😩

    • @trace3254
      @trace3254 2 роки тому +5

      @@TStevensfayettek12 Same happened to me. I sent a couple of very unruly girls to the principals office. They came back emboldened saying they had pizza!! Then when I tried to get them to not disrupt the class after that...these two 11 years olds got up, made a scene and walked out.

  • @amykins1283
    @amykins1283 2 роки тому +77

    "If you are a teacher who is good at their job it's almost like you get punished for it." I felt this so hard. I am that teacher. Just because I am good at managing behaviors doesn't mean it isn't stressful and you can pile on me.

  • @txmathnerd2182
    @txmathnerd2182 2 роки тому +106

    I felt this in my soul. This past year we had a teacher out with Covid. I taught her classes AND mine AT THE SAME TIME. Class sizes ranged from 40-60. They had subs some days just to have another person in the room, but not always. The teacher ended up resigning and never came back, so I continued teaching two-thirds of our 7th graders until Christmas break. It was the most stressful situation in my 31 years of teaching. Let’s just say my principal was zero help.

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 2 роки тому +7

      When schools are turned into chaos due to poor leadership and lazy parents, no sub wants to take over those classrooms.
      I was a sub for 3 years and been to a couple of the worst classes and truly felt sorry for the teachers who deal with it in a daily basis.

    • @xoxia7758
      @xoxia7758 2 роки тому

      The substitutes subreddit says the job is keeping the kids alive these days.

    • @rickkuhn6577
      @rickkuhn6577 2 роки тому

      Surely against union guidelines the principal should have filled in

    • @noelquentin57
      @noelquentin57 2 роки тому

      Many states are right to work states and have no unions for educators. Others have extremely weal unions. Teachers are on their own.

    • @noelquentin57
      @noelquentin57 2 роки тому

      You did the right thing for your own health and safety.

  • @JillPerry-i9f
    @JillPerry-i9f 4 місяці тому +7

    I can tell that you are a great teacher. People just have no idea what teachers go through on a daily basis. I am now retired. I never knew how much it was affecting me until after I retired. Even though I loved teaching, it was just so so much!!

  • @valerieodonnell6764
    @valerieodonnell6764 2 роки тому +87

    Panic attacks are such a trip, they come out of nowhere and sometimes it's hard to even figure out why they are happening. You can think you're handling everything fine and feel like you aren't stressed out but then your body lets you know you are indeed stressed. I hope you are feeling better, its the worst!

    • @brandi66RN
      @brandi66RN 2 роки тому +1

      Worst feeling ever!

    • @scrapykat3028
      @scrapykat3028 2 роки тому

      I had a bad panic attack subbing in an eighth grade life science class. Guess what I got as a full time slot-ya… 8th grade science! Took me awhile to deal, but it turned out to be one of my best years!

  • @Lina_Pina
    @Lina_Pina 2 роки тому +66

    I quit teaching via email after the first week of what would have been my 6th year of teaching (fall 2015). It was the best decision I ever made even though i didnt have a job lined up afterward. No longer taking the stress home, no longer dreading the school day before it even started, no more self-harming thoughts. I didn't care how they felt about me leaving, and I also didn't care about all the things I purchased with my own money that I would be leaving behind. Being that stressed over teaching someone else's kids is not worth it at all. Good for u!

    • @Du-Masses
      @Du-Masses 2 роки тому +2

      When I think of all the stuff I bought with my own limited funds….sigh

    • @dancingprincessmj
      @dancingprincessmj 2 роки тому +1

      I’m currently a teacher also thinking of leaving their current place and I couldn’t agree more! The stress and the self-harming thoughts are real😞 Good for you for leaving and standing up for yourself.

  • @lowryfamily06fe
    @lowryfamily06fe 2 роки тому +137

    You did the right thing. My mom went from being told she is healthier than anyone her age (specifically mentioning her heart health) to having anxiety so bad she was having heart issues. Her blood pressure was at stroke levels and she had to take medication for 6 months-a year. It was literally killing her.
    YOU ARE NOT BEING DRAMATIC. It would have killed you. She was a Life Skills SPED teacher. She worked for 40 something years to get her teacher’s degree. She worked for 1 1/2 years before retiring due to health.

    • @jenniferprice2934
      @jenniferprice2934 2 роки тому +19

      So many teachers are relying on anxiety and depression medication just to be able to go to work everyday. It is ridiculously overwhelming!!!

    • @kaybay759
      @kaybay759 2 роки тому +6

      This is so true. So many teachers are medicated for high blood pressure and anxiety caused by the work environment.

    • @reneehall9566
      @reneehall9566 2 роки тому +1

      So sad.

  • @shamiles4104
    @shamiles4104 8 місяців тому +3

    Your health is more important than any job. You did the right thing for you. ❤

  • @lindapeterson3613
    @lindapeterson3613 2 роки тому +56

    You were in Stroke zone. You are wise to quit. Be an educator in a museum or a zoo or other non school setting. I love teaching and leading school groups at the museum hear in Seattle. Much more fun and the parents and teachers get the trouble. You have skills that you can do so many things. You were having a panic attack. My last year of teaching I had a class like that with crazy parents. I retired. I was a nurse for 24 years. That was easy compared to teaching which I did in 6th grade for 16 years. I want to give you a big hug

  • @i.d.3671
    @i.d.3671 2 роки тому +85

    This is such a sad story...this lady is loosing her health, her sanity and her job and no one listens. Thank you for what you did. This just encouraged me so much to keep on homeschooling, I know its not for everyone but I feel so blessed to be able to do it. Best wishes to you.

    • @user-sq9xo6bl6w
      @user-sq9xo6bl6w Рік тому +1

      Good for you. Public school is broken and on top of being a teacher who can totally relate to this video, I feel guilty as a mom that I don't have the financial means to homeschool my child or put my kid into private school. I am worried for all of our kids and it's not the teachers fault.

  • @melissasaint3283
    @melissasaint3283 2 роки тому +109

    "But my body was like 'NO Fam, we stressed out! If you don't sit down, I'm gonna MAKE you sit down!' "
    This story is very upsetting, and I'm so so sorry that you are going through this!
    But that quote is so clever and hilariously spot👏on👏accurate👏 to the experience.
    That's a perfect description!
    The problem is that our culture brushes panic attacks aside as a sign of weakness or something that's "all in your head" when it's often a sign that someone is experiencing an unsupportable, toxic level of stress that is hurting their mental and physical health.
    And ***good for you*** for not just medicating yourself through this. Daily anxiety medication for years is no replacement for being your own hero and improving what is under your control in your life!!

    • @venimprincess
      @venimprincess 2 роки тому +1

      This comment!

    • @crayonofdarkness215
      @crayonofdarkness215 2 роки тому

      So true. I went through 2 out of 3 years of a speech and language pathologist master’s program and ultimately I left my program because I was faced with the difficult decision of going on anxiety medications or just quitting my program and changing my life course. The pressures of the SLP field and the teaching field are very similar because it involves insane case loads of children coupled with insane expectations of being able to do everything for everyone, all the time, without making a mistake or needing a moment of rest or a break in the day. I had such severe panic attacks every day that I became very unwell and my digestive system basically stopped working. I lost lots of weight and was sick all the time. I am still so grateful I left that profession and healed my body and mind and do not take any medications and never have. It’s 100% true that a toxic, unsupportive environment will ruin your health as long as you stay in it.

  • @masarax3712
    @masarax3712 4 місяці тому +4

    I quit my job two months ago as a teacher of three years, and finally feel like I can breath….i literally felt my cortisol levels (stress hormones) rising. I was more irritable, depressed and stressed I felt myself becoming an angry person. Best decision I ever made. Thankyou so much for making this video!! Very brave of you

  • @Sheloyigamer
    @Sheloyigamer 2 роки тому +54

    24 years teaching, Recognized teacher, 2 1/2 years at a public charter and I just cannot keep doing this. I’m falling apart physically and mentally. I am on intermittent FMLA but the stress, the b.s. and the intentional targeting just keeps on going; insanity! Teachers are truly disrespected, degraded, devalued. This was a problem long before the pandemic that I tried to justify and blame myself. Now, it’s all out there. Teachers are finding their voice, their limits, and their true value. Medication has helped me somewhat. But the problem isn’t being acknowledged, addressed and no medication will help that.

  • @ambersluder9483
    @ambersluder9483 2 роки тому +94

    "Everyone is stressed, I don't want to add to their stress by asking for help." We feel this in our soul so we are all out there doing too much to hang in there! Bless you heart for having to go through this!

  • @BubblyViolin11
    @BubblyViolin11 2 роки тому +132

    I’m so glad that you chose to prioritize your health. My co-teacher from 4 years ago had a capillary burst IN HER EYE due to stress. I had divots in my nail beds from stress and my best friend (who is young and in her 20s) was put on heart medication due to the stress she was under. IT 👏🏽 IS 👏🏽 RIDICULOUS 👏🏽

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 2 роки тому

      Districts that are filled with teachers going through this need to come together a protest. Without motivation and support, nobody, even the most experienced professionals cannot do their job.
      Im fortunate enough to have an admin whose supportive of their staff and is willing to listen and negotiate. But many districts don’t have that.

  • @sharonbugenhagen6265
    @sharonbugenhagen6265 2 роки тому +15

    I started crying when you mentioned blood pressure. My BP went crazy last year. I'm on so many meds, including BP now. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. No one cares about us teachers. I wish you well.

    • @amylee8969
      @amylee8969 Рік тому

      @Sharon Bugenhagen
      Sad truth is no ever learns from history’s past. During the pandemic when schools were forced to close, kids were forced into online learning. B/c of this households were worried about child care while parents worked, daily meals for kids, social development, etc.
      You’d think that after such a tragedy that society would have more compassion and respect not just for teachers, but retail workers, after-school program workers, cafeteria workers, etc. but sadly, that hasn’t happened. It only got worse.