Why Did He Break Up With Her After She Met His Family?
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- Опубліковано 3 лип 2022
- Michelle and her boyfriend were only together for a month before he broke up with her. He ended things shortly after she met his family without an explanation...until now!
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OMG!!!!! I'M OVER HERE CHOKING N CRYING LAUGHING WHILE DRINKING MY PROTEIN SHAKE!!!! I LOST IT WHEN BERT JUST CASUALLY SAID, "AREN'T YOU GLAD YOU HIT US UP? ISN'T THAT COOL TO GET CLOSURE ON THAT?" I FREAKIN LOVE HOW AWKWARD HE GETS ON THESE CALLS!!!! LMAO!!
She never said “thank you for checking this for me”. That says a lot.
That's true she wasn't even thankful for the help from the radio station.
Different ppl have different manners...not everyone has perfect manners
@@Starchild42 but if you're rude and you barely see what you did wrong, some people need to learn and change. Or are you the type of person that will say, if you don't like me for me, then screw them?
You can be rude to me all you want but don't ever be rude to my family especially my grandparents
Hahahahahahahaha
Well that was awkward 😂
Beyond 😬
Whoo… ouch… I was over here embarrassed for her… damn!!
Yeah that would be really awkward unfortunately at least two of these things can look very different at different households. In some homes the kids eat first and some Holmes the guests eat first and in other homes they don't care . A lot of families also would find it rude to ask questions about family especially if they are particularly private
She doesn't sound like an old-fashioned, big-family type of person (nothing wrong with that), he was raised in one like that which he cannot undo.
They just aren't meant for each other. But looking at her phone during a prayer is super rude. Who does that?
Not respectinggrace is extremely rude, I don't care if you're not religious I'm not and I still do it if I'm at house that does that, I totally cringed listening to that email 😬
The things she didn't pay attention to are just common courtesy imo.
Whatever you do, DO NOT get on the phone while you are meeting a family. Perhaps then you could pay more attention to what is going on around you. And..... HAVE RESPECT for the ELDERS!
Right? All seems pretty common sense to me lol. Hopefully after she was done with her pride being bruised she learns a lesson.
Seems like she wasn't paying any attention at the party..especially if she doesn't remember some of the things he pointed out .On your phone during a prayer shows she wasn't paying any attention.
Geez. She's clueless. I'd ask the Grandparents if they need help to fix their plates.
Yeaaaa she’s a rude bitch too to them
This girl sounds exactly like my ex. Self absorbed. Only talked about themselves. Never really asked about my family. So glad we broke up. I am dating someone who is 10x better. Also, you never go ahead of the elderly or those who are older than you unless they insist that you get the food first!
Well my family would have said the same. It's those details that really matter.
And... hopefully she learned something.
How can she not remember if she got in line before the grandparents for getting food...?! Ugh smh
She probably should have paid more attention but in my opinion the boyfriend should have kind of stood by and guided her because some families the guests eat first of the families kids eat first and some families do not care. This is one of the things that was on his list that is very different for every family
Oh WOW! If what he said was indeed 💯 then yeah, nerves aside, seems pretty selfish. Living and Learning at its finest and most awkward!
Can somebody help me end this call? Say Bye. Bye! Lololololol
Being on the phone during the blessing would’ve been a giant red flag in my family as would you getting your food before the elders.
It has to be a culture clash. In the Hispanic community family is essential part of who you are. I’ve dated men (of a different culture) who fail to understand the dynamic of my family structure of respect. When it comes to meeting the family it’s about earning the respect & getting to know them. In my relationships I made it a mission to get close with partner’s mothers and sisters because that’s what I expected of me. If I’m serious about the relationship it’s important to establish myself as a the kind hearted person who loves to spoil my partner & his family. However this can only be done after months of dating like 6-10mo. It’s difficult to put that amount of energy to someone if there’s no true foundation. In this case; it was too soon and too much for an unstable relationship to work out. He set himself up for failure because he failed to know the women he was bring home to his family and friends. I know y’all didn’t talk about the possibility of culture clash but it’s a considerable variable in this case. Different cultures hold different values when it comes to family.
Why do so many people think truth is harsh/mean? Grow up!
I was about to excuse her for her not asking questions because maybe she is nervous or something. People freeze up. But the jumping in line in front of grand parents? When I met my husbands family I kinda took a backseat approach and waited a bit. Its not important for all people, but some do obvs.
Poor bert
I mean I agree but it's hilarious because it's just part of his job and I would imagine the people calling it would be a whole lot more awkward and nervous LOL
Well, I think Tommy was right. She is a horrible person 🤣 she made it obvious she didn't want to be there in many ways. I doubt she was nervous or cares at all, and he didn't know her well enough and brought someone who embarrassed him. It's good they told him, I'm sure she remembers doing all those things but thought she was entitled to do whatever like get food first for whatever weird reason, like so she could bail sooner.
I was raised with very little to no etiquette so I learned a lot of things a hard way when I was in my teen years. But definitely paying attention and Follow your boyfriend's lead would have been the best. I am really not sure to say about scrolling on your phone during prayer that is an obvious impolite thing to do the least you could do is excuse yourself to go to the bathroom and do it then. That being said I don't think she is selfish or selfish or self centered I just don't think she was paying attention and was super nervous.
It's hard to ask questions about other people because people get offended so easily.
What questions do family members expect a new girlfriend or a boyfriend to ask them?
All that was from his family's opinions, like her leaving so he could spend time with his family, but he thought of her leaving in a negative way...
He needed a date for the party. Didn't want to go to the family thing along.
To much family
So it sounds like she went there at sat with people she didn’t even know. Why wasn’t he sitting her if she was his plus one
Some other family members knew her from some place else
He seems like a Mama's boy
I think she is better off without him. Sure, she made some errors with the family, but it seems like he abandoned her during the party. She was essentially his date. How do they know she was on her phone during the prayer? Obviously, somebody had their eyes open. Did I hear correctly? He didn’t tell her these things, because he didn’t want her to feel bad…I think he knew that she would have explanations for some of the things his family pointed out, and that he would look bad for not helping her navigate through the party. He could have told her that he wanted her to stay longer…poor communication on his part.
Ok, agree with some of it, but I do have question….I am an introvert and have been painfully shy and I wouldn’t necessarily ask questions about anyone bc I am guest and to me, asking questions about their family is rude to me…I wouldn’t even talk about myself unless directly asked…
So, my query is this…Is it rude asking questions of their family?!? I think some ppl would consider asking as rude behaviour, so what is etiquette?!?
Yeah I was raised with little to no etiquette but I do know the every family can be very different as far as asking questions about the family and who goes to eat first. Some families against the first other families the kids eat first of the families the cooks eat first. In my opinion the boyfriend failed because he could have guided her a little bit and given her a heads up about some of these things are different for every family
Sometimes when it is time to eat, nobody is willing to be first in line. (I don’t think that was the situation in this case.) Where was the boyfriend during all of this? It sounds like he abandoned her during this party.
Exactly. I'm good at sitting back melting into the background but the worst experience I had was when my man left me floundering with his family at a gathering for a funeral. I am usually pretty good at being respectful ang having good etiquette things but in his family those things alongside me not being white was all it took for his extended family to not care for me lol. Luckily his immediate family loved me n he didn't take much stock into what those family members have said. I did let it be known that i wouldn't be going back I didn't care who died.
My grandma wouldn’t feel so entitled to go first that it would be an issue. My GMA has always been about feeding everyone else, y’all’s Gma’s are extra.
I thought company ate first lol. My grandparents wouldn't care about that at all. I mean, I get some of the things.... Like the prayer and only talking about yourself. But if food is served and nobody is getting up...unless she ran and just completely knocked the grandparents out of the way lmao. But mine definitely wouldnt care, they'd just want food in general lol
Nope Michelle ain't the ah here. They have only been together for a month and you expect her to ask about your family? Mad about cutting in line but you probably didn't tell her about how the functions operate. (most don't) the icing on the cake was the prayer thing that's when I knew this guy wasn't being honest about who he is. I bet he doesn't act all Christian in front of her and only his family and that's why she was on her phone. Michelle nta here.
I agree with everything you're saying on top of that how would someone know she's playing on her phone unless they are looking up from prayer as well?
Playing devils advocate 😉
You escaped that one girl.
This man boy is so attached to his families apron you would not handle it... Sounds like a huge family probably up inside everybody's business.
Men boys like that never quite cut the apron strings, their partners can find them selves in the shadow of the matriarchy always.
How many times here have we seen big troubles when his family come to call.
It does seem that you don't come from a big family so didn't understand the big family protocols.
Good that you found this out early.
Exactly, I can't deal with too much family
It also seemed like he abandoned her at the party. He also has bad communication skills. He should have explained to her that he wanted her to stay longer at the party. Once he broke up with her, he didn’t tell her his family’s reasons for not liking her, because that would have made him look bad.
There is never any reason to ghost - like ever. If you don't have the balls after one date to just leave a generic or even specific message, don't date. Be a man or woman and own up.
He told her the next morning that he was breaking up with her.