COMING OUT TO MY DAD AS TRANSGENDER

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  • @atticusgene2177
    @atticusgene2177 6 років тому +2817

    im not mad at the dad, I'm sure he loves her. I think he just doesn't realise the power of a name. I don't think he realises it hurts to be called the wrong name.

    • @heyna1185
      @heyna1185 6 років тому +65

      @@Network126 don't project your own issues on other people's lives. Thank you.

    • @Network126
      @Network126 6 років тому +15

      @@heyna1185 I'm going to keep venting as much as I need to. This is my outlet. I deserve to be heard too.

    • @heyna1185
      @heyna1185 6 років тому +81

      @@Network126 you can comment whatever you want but I have no respect for people who blame an entire minority group for their own personal issues. You're dad might have hurt you and your family but it doesn't make sense for you to blame "transsexuality" for it. A lot of people have a fucked up childhood but not everyone goes around blaming others who are totally unrelated to their own life. There's literally no need for you to misgender Jae despite being disrespectful. You disrespect her for no reason, I'm not gonna respect you either buddy

    • @Network126
      @Network126 6 років тому +9

      @@heyna1185 Wow you're so triggered by this! I'm not here to make enemies, I'm here to wake people up and make people realize that this gender-bending shit hurts both sides. If facts hurt your feelings, then so be it. You're probably going to be furious when my book comes out. It's going to be such a blow to the trans community.

    • @valentinaaa3330
      @valentinaaa3330 6 років тому +14

      HeyNa He's not generalizing them all. I can only imagine how damaged he is just from experiencing this at such a young age. He's explaining how it's hard for both parties and it's extremely ignorant of you to block out an experience caused by this... I understand that transgenders experience so much trauma and i really do get that but it impacts people's lives around them. And his story is a great example.

  • @Littlechonch
    @Littlechonch 7 років тому +1804

    ''Do you still play guitar?'' YOUR DAD IS SO CUTE IM SORRY

    • @Gigachad-kb1pp
      @Gigachad-kb1pp 3 роки тому

      @Miss Cute no I cant

    • @Gigachad-kb1pp
      @Gigachad-kb1pp 3 роки тому

      @Miss Cute guy alart

    • @Gigachad-kb1pp
      @Gigachad-kb1pp 3 роки тому +1

      @Miss Cute alright Mr cute

    • @Gigachad-kb1pp
      @Gigachad-kb1pp 3 роки тому

      @Miss Cute I didn't

    • @tianapolanco4926
      @tianapolanco4926 3 роки тому +5

      @Miss Cute sorry you have to deal with people like desta. male, female or anything else, no one deserves that.

  • @ap0llogetic427
    @ap0llogetic427 5 років тому +1182

    I think he’s trying to say: „you’re still my child. You’re still the person I raised“

    • @gimygaming8655
      @gimygaming8655 5 років тому +31

      That does make sense.

    • @katewarner-clement7558
      @katewarner-clement7558 5 років тому +110

      Me too. He sounds like he's trying to be supportive but doesn't know how to do it.

    • @damanichildrey84
      @damanichildrey84 4 роки тому +8

      Nah. That's your heart felt thoughts not approving what he said, and trying to soften the blow. He clearly is saying, he's still is gonna call him jason, and refer to him as such.

    • @AlexSmith-ov6fk
      @AlexSmith-ov6fk 4 роки тому +17

      That's how it sounded to me. He just sounded a bit ham-fisted, which I suppose can be natural for someone still processing such a life changing scenario. She was right to keep reminding him Jason isn't her name anymore, and it felt like this is a relationship with opportunities to improve. I don't think anyone can expect everyone they come out to to be immediately onboard 100%, especially the people that raised you. I think you need to listen for the positives, take them for what they are and be patient with the negatives.
      Kudos to the poster, anyway. This was an incredibly moving video and I wish her and her family all the best. ❤️

    • @lamariposa5558
      @lamariposa5558 4 роки тому +17

      @@damanichildrey84 This is such an ignorant statement. You do realize that there are people who aren't familiar with the issue of being transgender and the changes it brings along, especially the older generations (her father is between his 50s and 60s)? No, apparently not.
      He's talking to his child, who he only knew as male for over twenty years, for the first time since she came out to him as transgender.
      This is his position: He's confused, overwhelmed, he doesn't know what's the right thing to do or say, probably doesn't even know what all of this means, he needs to process what he learned and get to know his child from a whole new perspective as well as get used to it.
      And so, he asks her questions about how she felt, about her current life, he tells her he'll always love her and says that he's happy as long as she's happy.
      Furthermore, Jae's storytime after her coming out confirms that her dad fully supports her, accepts her as his daughter and refers to her that way.
      The way you shame him for misgendering her since he didn't know any different without and ounce of consideration is sickening.
      You're no better than any transphobic, just as obstinate and hostile towards everything outside your bubble.

  • @choiseokone
    @choiseokone 6 років тому +1641

    When he said “maybe god wanted you to be like this” that makes me happy. Because most people say “god made you a man/woman” but he said otherwise which is cool

    • @vmaxyneko5734
      @vmaxyneko5734 6 років тому +28

      Idc about god and don't believe in god, i only care if shes happy the way she is

    • @lyndonleedalee1738
      @lyndonleedalee1738 6 років тому +42

      @@damanmanswantssubssubsgimm2423 If happiness is wrong by your god then I want to become a satanist. Sorry.

    • @elizaheintzelman8764
      @elizaheintzelman8764 5 років тому +12

      @@damanmanswantssubssubsgimm2423
      That might be true to you but why do you care if we go to "hell."

    • @crazyunicorn4884
      @crazyunicorn4884 5 років тому +8

      God is fake

    • @lionofthecherubim4486
      @lionofthecherubim4486 5 років тому +4

      @@lyndonleedalee1738 oh ok. So u think pedophillia is ok because it makes pedos happy gotcha

  • @graces-r59
    @graces-r59 7 років тому +2092

    "I didn't wanna lose you" broke me

    • @graces-r59
      @graces-r59 7 років тому +58

      You have no idea, do you?

    • @asterry6049
      @asterry6049 7 років тому +20

      +it'sMe TheHerpes your an awful person for thinking that! What is the matter with you!? You would willing post a comment out to the public like this?! You need to find help and see how much suffering these people are going through! I do care about you because I believe that you were taught that these people are bad or you were bullied or abused and I just hope you learn to love people. Please just delete your comment and confess that you made a mistake and you are going to do your hardest to be kind and good.

    • @asterry6049
      @asterry6049 7 років тому +4

      I edit it because I forgot the + but besides that nothing else changed.

    • @darklake9420
      @darklake9420 7 років тому +3

      Gracie Dolan That's what my mother told me before I lied my way back into my closet.

    • @librababy2639
      @librababy2639 7 років тому

      Weak

  • @Hi_Its_LP
    @Hi_Its_LP 7 років тому +1627

    You can tell he loves his child. So much. He's struggling to make sense of everything. It can be tough (depending on how you were brought up, your culture, religious beliefs, etc) to understand this particular situation. It sounds like this man is guided by life long religious principles. He is trying. You can hear that he really does love his child. No matter who she is. I think he's confused and trying to put it all together. The hardest question for a lot of parents to answer is "why did this happen?" Stay strong, beautiful. He will come around.

    • @erichbradshaw4673
      @erichbradshaw4673 7 років тому +32

      __LP__ Exactly!!!! I feel like she was hard to him. He was trying so hard and he still loves her and support her even bought a guitar I mean...there are fathers abandoning their kids for being trans, her father was EXCELLENT !!!

    • @myoona648
      @myoona648 7 років тому +26

      __LP__ Right, like with the name too. I understand that it's hard to hear your birth name when you're transgender, but it's hard for a parent to completely ignore the name that they chose out for you. I'm sure he will come around even more at one point.

    • @Hi_Its_LP
      @Hi_Its_LP 7 років тому +3

      TheDeadliestUnknown Sounds like someone needs a hug.

    • @OliviaNoel
      @OliviaNoel  7 років тому +63

      TheDeadliestUnknown I actually paid for my entire transition and for me to live on my own. I battled my entire life to be who I am; I've experienced homeless, prejudice, racism, etc, just because of the person that I am. if it's one person who knows what she wants it's me. But thank you for input and thank you even more for the view. 😘

    • @EmilyRoseVance
      @EmilyRoseVance 7 років тому +26

      TheDeadliestUnknown She's financially independent and can do whatever she wants with her life. I assume you're a man. Her living authentically as a woman for the rest of her life is the same thing as you living as a man for the rest of yours.

  • @brewine9727
    @brewine9727 7 років тому +841

    People are bashing her dad. it's honestly so damn hard to comprehend and wrap your head around the whole thing. I have a 17 year old transgender son. It took me a long time to understand. I'm going on 56 and it was so uncommon back in my days that when I first heard it it was almost bizzare. But for my son, I tried my hardest to do the best I can. I started calling him Nick instead of Danielle , but it took me 3 years. This is very difficult and especially for parents and grandparents. Now 8 years later he is my son and I no longer see him as my daughter. This is very hard to see your child change to someone else. Its very hard but I love him. His happiness is all that matters.

    • @brewine9727
      @brewine9727 7 років тому +73

      You can't expect them to automatically say okay daughter! I love this new change this is amazing I support you! This hurts us too. Not because it's wrong but just because it feels like a lost. Imagine living with and raising your son and he one day tells you he is your daughter. It hurts us too, but we love our children.

    • @sunshinenuggets385
      @sunshinenuggets385 7 років тому +37

      Bless you. It can be hard to fully understand the situation of your child. The fact that you learned to accept him and call him who he wants gives me hope😁

    • @FreakingFerret
      @FreakingFerret 7 років тому +17

      Will you adopt me? I'm joking, my parents aren't very accepting but I'm here two more years, so I think I can last. I would love to hear dad call me his son, but I don't think it'll ever happen.

    • @FreakingFerret
      @FreakingFerret 7 років тому +15

      Robin Sezen That question made me cringe in every way possible.

    • @FreakingFerret
      @FreakingFerret 7 років тому +18

      Robin Sezen No, I am a man trying to make other people see me as a man as well. I am a man, some people just don't see it that way.

  • @oliviakingsley4884
    @oliviakingsley4884 6 років тому +1570

    SHES SO PRETTY WOW I AM S O GAY

    • @jubjub4603
      @jubjub4603 6 років тому +24

      I feel that 😭😤

    • @zach4936
      @zach4936 5 років тому +13

      U look it

    • @evadelliquadri
      @evadelliquadri 5 років тому +4

      i know.

    • @tye4895
      @tye4895 5 років тому +2

      @@zach4936 yucare

    • @zach4936
      @zach4936 5 років тому +3

      @@tye4895 I didn't say I did care tf u on about

  • @hazelnutsheep7863
    @hazelnutsheep7863 7 років тому +1244

    I felt so bad for her when her dad started to call her Jason.

  • @brandi2510
    @brandi2510 6 років тому +656

    I really like this dads reaction. He is definitely trying. It's going to be hard for him to automatically start calling her by a different name. But you can tell he's seriously trying so hard to understand and be there. I have respect for him.

    • @hunterwheeler5510
      @hunterwheeler5510 6 років тому +2

      B I can tell he does not like it but he is just trying to be the best dad he can

    • @lyndonleedalee1738
      @lyndonleedalee1738 6 років тому +12

      @@Network126 You don't understand because you don't have dysphoria.

    • @th3yluvx4nny
      @th3yluvx4nny 6 років тому +3

      @@lyndonleedalee1738 oop someone said it

    • @murphdawgswizzle
      @murphdawgswizzle 6 років тому +2

      but he kept calling her Jason. that was bothering me.

    • @christophermcgarry6832
      @christophermcgarry6832 5 років тому +1

      Lyndon Leedalee It's not dysphoria. It's dilusion.

  • @Marta-fs3jb
    @Marta-fs3jb 6 років тому +452

    Don't worry your dad just need some time, you are a pretty girl and he will understad it.

  • @minecarft6460
    @minecarft6460 5 років тому +500

    ‘but that’s not who i am...’ 😭 💔 omg also ur voice is adorable

  • @Jam29Josh
    @Jam29Josh 7 років тому +3807

    Damn that almost made me cry.
    Sounds like a good dude who wants to be supportive

    • @mountainmistakes4169
      @mountainmistakes4169 7 років тому +6

      Politely Enraged Gamer I feel sad for the dad..the phone hangs up..and he wants to shoot SOMONE...fuck this dud..you will always be Jason and a boy

    • @brendonmakesthosehighheels838
      @brendonmakesthosehighheels838 7 років тому +99

      Mountain Mistakes Fuck you???

    • @undercoverundercover1480
      @undercoverundercover1480 7 років тому +5

      Politely Enraged Gamer ikr

    • @bunny8962
      @bunny8962 7 років тому +3

      Ikr

    • @-s-8355
      @-s-8355 7 років тому +13

      Politely Enraged Gamer But he won't consider saying her name

  • @cl4za
    @cl4za 7 років тому +424

    I think he's saying "you'll be Jason to me" because to him you'll be the same to him like you won't be different in his eyes. You'll always be his kid. So glad he was so supportive and loving 💜

    • @mayberry6636
      @mayberry6636 7 років тому +27

      Clarezy May this is exactly how I took it when he said it! ❤️ I just don't think he used the right words to explain what he meant x

    • @boydiv
      @boydiv 7 років тому +10

      Clarezy May that's how i understand his words, too, but it's so relateable that she tooked it wrong in that situation, because she thought he would not support her. And if you raise a kid, and year later it tells you he/she is not the one who he/she was Born as, it's pretty Hard and room some time. I hope and, After all we heard in this call, I guess he will try Ing to u drrstand it better and maybe will call her by her real name and accept her completely as the Person she is now ^-^

    • @docteurshepherd
      @docteurshepherd 7 років тому +4

      Clarezy May yeah I think she was just upset because he was saying he accepted her but at the same time wasn't by still calling her Jason

    • @elkm9802
      @elkm9802 7 років тому

      Clarezy May. Thank YOU someone understood!

    • @noenth
      @noenth 7 років тому

      Clarezy May thats exactly what i thought when he said that!

  • @smiles0901
    @smiles0901 7 років тому +173

    Give your dad time to adjust to a new name... he says he accepts you and that's a HUGE first step!! You've taken a giant first step by talking to him!!! Embrace these successes!!! Congrats on your transition and new life... all the doors are opening for you!!!

    • @tawnayrigoyen1557
      @tawnayrigoyen1557 6 років тому +1

      smiles0901 well said

    • @johnclhugyugihjbvgbkj9729
      @johnclhugyugihjbvgbkj9729 6 років тому

      Agreed, to a point. I don't believe/agree with certain lifestyles but at least the dad is trying, I agree there.

  • @Sour.Lemonz
    @Sour.Lemonz 6 років тому +398

    I haven’t seen many MTF trans people, honestly If I saw you in public, I would never clock you as a trans. I think you are very beautiful, and it’s great that you can accept yourself, you’re very inspirational. Honestly you are way prettier than me, I’m really jealous

    • @femboyrules7594
      @femboyrules7594 5 років тому +9

      You're not ugly you're a gorgeous human :)

    • @fuckwit107
      @fuckwit107 4 роки тому +23

      Hi, I'm a trans man and I really love your sentiment! However I'd like to give you some friendly pointers on how to compliment trans people in the future. I can see why you would think saying someone doesn't look trans is a compliment, but a lot of the time isn't seen as such. Many trans people who don't pass can feel invalidated, or "less" trans. Just saying they're pretty works! Again I really love your intentions, just wanted to give some guidance!

    • @Sour.Lemonz
      @Sour.Lemonz 4 роки тому +13

      @@fuckwit107 yes, yes, im aware of that now :) i think everyone is beautiful no matter what they identify as whether they pass or not. I actually came out as a trans identifying nonbinary at the start of this year 😊

    • @fuckwit107
      @fuckwit107 4 роки тому +13

      @@Sour.Lemonz Oh radical!! There's so much personal growth in this comments section, proud of y'all.

    • @leetiffee7814
      @leetiffee7814 4 роки тому +3

      I’m 13 and I’m a male but want to be a female but don’t know how

  • @elizaroll9810
    @elizaroll9810 7 років тому +614

    How is her skin sO PRETTY HOW?!

  • @tenna_martyna916
    @tenna_martyna916 7 років тому +867

    Aww this girl is just so beautiful just the way she is.

    • @patriciaproctor4284
      @patriciaproctor4284 6 років тому +9

      Tenna_ Martyna he* handsome*

    • @charliebrayson
      @charliebrayson 6 років тому +50

      Jack Frost What is your problem? You're just actively trying to offend people, beautiful and handsome aren't gender specific, and she's a female

    • @patriciaproctor4284
      @patriciaproctor4284 6 років тому +8

      Charlie Brayson no he is a male not a female not trying to annoy people

    • @charliebrayson
      @charliebrayson 6 років тому +38

      Jack Frost You have no right to decide someone's gender

    • @patriciaproctor4284
      @patriciaproctor4284 6 років тому +8

      Charlie Brayson i know i don't he was born male so he is a male i didn't decide god did ☺

  • @jbwayz157
    @jbwayz157 6 років тому +2128

    YOUR VOICE IS SO SWEET

    • @alondrahernandez1350
      @alondrahernandez1350 6 років тому +24

      Lightforyourfaces she sounds like a monster

    • @christinetakch4507
      @christinetakch4507 6 років тому +7

      SHE SOUNDS LIKE EDEN THE DOLL

    • @vamp0065
      @vamp0065 6 років тому +16

      IKR ITS SO SOFT AND DELICATE AND JUST AAGH

    • @vanessakoztadinova3653
      @vanessakoztadinova3653 6 років тому +3

      Lightforyourfaces you are soo right

    • @jennylopez8306
      @jennylopez8306 6 років тому +4

      Lightforyourfaces It sounds like Diana from Wonder Woman!! I love her voice!

  • @BananaWorm
    @BananaWorm 6 років тому +685

    The dad didn’t do anything wrong. He obviously doesn’t know how to react to this, he’s still supporting her and is accepting it. He even said so. Idk why people are talking shit.

    • @galaxy._.boi0451
      @galaxy._.boi0451 5 років тому +25

      Flex2slick it’s not a mental illness. 😤🙄🙄

    • @MidnightLabyrinth12
      @MidnightLabyrinth12 5 років тому +25

      For me at least, it's common for people to say "hey, I support you....BUT...." and say exactly what the issue is here.
      Most of my family has been this way and even some of my friends have too. They'll say they support me, but claim that they just want me to be androgynous, pick at every bit of myself that makes me insecure in my masculinity, and go as far as to say "[deadname] is your name. That's who you are, and that's what I'll call you." and do way more things than that.
      Sure people can say they are supportive (and I'm sure the dad is supportive), but everyone has something to nit pick about things like this and act like it doesn't hurt the person telling them this. Words can be powerful and so can names.

    • @IronShredder
      @IronShredder 5 років тому +17

      @@daddyndaughter6106 It isn't a "mental illness." Educate yourself before saying stupid shit.

    • @rer-cilantro4008
      @rer-cilantro4008 5 років тому +4

      @@IronShredder I love your answer you are great

    • @rer-cilantro4008
      @rer-cilantro4008 5 років тому +2

      @@daddyndaughter6106 what a pussy that can't even give an answer

  • @commanderuwu457
    @commanderuwu457 7 років тому +2383

    The dad the whole time: "I SUPPORT YOU CHILL THE FUCK OUT I LOVE YOU, BUT WHY DIDNT YOU TELL ME SOONER, AND PICK UP THE GOD DAMN PHONE."

    • @burzumhemdead3561
      @burzumhemdead3561 7 років тому +105

      Bubbles Wilson that's what I herd, I herd a father that loves his child regardless,

    • @kkzcraze6225
      @kkzcraze6225 7 років тому +7

      Burzumhem Dead like...like a *herd* of cows? ooohhhh heard. yeah go back to 2nd grade

    • @burzumhemdead3561
      @burzumhemdead3561 7 років тому +16

      seriously? wtf did I do ,to deserve that? try and be nice to the libtards , and this is what I get.

    • @hailyhomer7858
      @hailyhomer7858 7 років тому +17

      Bubbles Wilson wtf her dad will always remember her as Jason

    • @ilovefrankocean7823
      @ilovefrankocean7823 7 років тому

      Haily Homer he is still a boy and doesnt put him in a girl position

  • @imaniyup7908
    @imaniyup7908 7 років тому +615

    "if God tells you to do this it got to be for a reason" I love this

    • @SasuKarinChIdOri
      @SasuKarinChIdOri 7 років тому +24

      Lion Serpent the first time i heard someone in this situation use god to accept someone.I thought it was rlly cute.

    • @emmamaguire8491
      @emmamaguire8491 7 років тому +9

      Cindy Pollard Maybe not, but you can tell he is trying to make her feel better

    • @zoeann7315
      @zoeann7315 7 років тому +16

      I'm Christian. And I get it. People are scared of doing what they feel is right, or doing what makes them happy because they think it will dissapoint God. But people need to realise that everything happens for a reason. So if you really have faith in God, just let it be.

    • @thewhitewolf490
      @thewhitewolf490 7 років тому +3

      KlarClara God doesn't exist and there is no such thing as sin.

    • @zoeann7315
      @zoeann7315 7 років тому +2

      Samael Where's your proof? Of course we can't prove it. But neither can you. It goes both ways.

  • @Hanna-rt6tb
    @Hanna-rt6tb 7 років тому +104

    "i'm normal" - the most important sentence she said that shows how strong she is. bless

  • @GreiyzVallejoKat
    @GreiyzVallejoKat 6 років тому +128

    Your dad loves you, he may not completely understand, but with time he will, he loves you and accept you, thats the important, he really triyng

    • @jamesedwardford589
      @jamesedwardford589 4 роки тому +1

      Hey guys how far away are we love one another a different angle minor rights even or not exact opposite of you I love you respect you honor you and I here I'm just razon equally angry mad or sad or any kind of way I want to be the boys people that wish day set them up as someone feel like the little bun and self and feel like it's worse than you are on your own cuz they took getting here I want it want to feel are your feelings adult about this and that and our people and people don't want other people so I want to I am open arms personality person that does not I love everyone all equally all the same even your a different calling everybody out there for color your all beautiful marijuana card or sword or fat I still love you anyway and I still love you and I'll help people that like the someone shot him up and pushed him out of the way and for your face before getting rid of old by someone's purple words and bullying I want to speak up campaign one day hopefully from her when I was getting bullied and hurt but other people cuz we get hurt if you like you mad at Eric people before like you want to push him away and surrounding face, names go up and ring on that so hope you guys are okay and probably not calm people that being bullied or feel like they've been Littles work being pushed out more like from home and his people know where I am I feel so sorry that they had a rough time at home or any type of things happened home and I care if it's someone Tarak didn't care but you have to say I do cuz I want to help people that

  • @lemonskilledmyson9862
    @lemonskilledmyson9862 7 років тому +1049

    You'll alway be the same person to him. I think that's what he's trying to say.
    I don't think he was trying to be rude. I think that's what he was trying to say. :)

    • @hailyhomer7858
      @hailyhomer7858 7 років тому +2

      Yeah

    • @-s-8355
      @-s-8355 7 років тому +26

      Lee is a he The name is very important to her. Being called Jason.. Saying that she is only Jason, can't be called something different, is actually pretty fucking rude.

    • @lemonskilledmyson9862
      @lemonskilledmyson9862 7 років тому +13

      Quinn Winchester but that's not what he was saying.
      He's saying she'll always be the same person to him

    • @thetruepatriot7733
      @thetruepatriot7733 7 років тому +4

      Quinn Winchester well although he changed his name, appearance, and voice...she is still a guy! no amount of medication can change that. these people have a mental illness and the treatment is transitioning. I'm fine with that, but people have to stop pretending this is normal and recognize that this no different than diabetes.

    • @rattyamber6848
      @rattyamber6848 7 років тому +14

      LIZZY THE ROTTWEILER no they don't have a mental illness, she is a she and won't be a a male they *TRANSITIONED*, and it's disrespectful to call someone something they aren't and clearly you sound like a homophobic.

  • @twi.squared
    @twi.squared 7 років тому +1097

    Her dad doesn’t seem to understand that calling her son and Jason still is not accepting her, her dad seems like a pretty cool person but that makes me sad

    • @RayAtchley
      @RayAtchley 6 років тому +61

      twila502 aj He'll understand eventually. The best thing she can do is just let time pass eventually he'll fully accept her

    • @RayAtchley
      @RayAtchley 6 років тому +1

      ThePOKERJEDI I'm a Trump supporter bruh

    • @patriciaproctor4284
      @patriciaproctor4284 6 років тому +5

      twila502 aj but he is a he he is biologically a he

    • @girlwithoutafairy
      @girlwithoutafairy 6 років тому +18

      Pronouns are not biological indicators. Besides that being trnsgender is a biological issue so one could make the argument that she is biologically a woman.
      Male & female refer to sex and can never be changed
      Man, woman, boy, and girl refer to gender.
      Pronouns refer to gender

    • @IronCay
      @IronCay 6 років тому +2

      It takes time

  • @katelyndickinson3458
    @katelyndickinson3458 6 років тому +496

    poor girl her dad is sending such mixed messages i really hope he can learn more.i wish her only the best

    • @shyryTsr2k
      @shyryTsr2k 6 років тому

      Same

    • @shyryTsr2k
      @shyryTsr2k 6 років тому

      @Jonathan Castelino girl* 👀

    • @shyryTsr2k
      @shyryTsr2k 6 років тому

      @Jonathan Castelino girl~*

    • @wnhi5029
      @wnhi5029 6 років тому

      @Jonathan Castelino what is with people asking about other people's genitals like the fuck?

  • @danny6356
    @danny6356 5 років тому +201

    "maybe God wanted you to be like this and it's who you are. so you be proud of yourself. because I'm proud of you too. okay?
    and I'm with you. a hundred percent."
    gdi I almost started crying. this man deserves no hate. he is trying to support his daughter and needs time to adjust. good on him.

    • @theevilmoppet
      @theevilmoppet 4 роки тому +7

      @@mmarvel2003 No, that's just not how being transgender works. *She* is his *daughter*.

    • @dawn2697
      @dawn2697 4 роки тому +4

      @@mmarvel2003 no her name is Olivia because she now changed her name to Olivia

    • @DinosaurNick
      @DinosaurNick Рік тому

      @@mmarvel2003 Her name is (I think) Olivia

  • @MeelC8
    @MeelC8 7 років тому +291

    Hi, Jae... I'm a mexican writer, I'm bisexual so I understand how hard it is to come out. See.. I'm writing a LGBT book, it's poetry, actually... And this video inspired me so so so much! Thank you! stay strong! You're a beautiful woman. Much love :)

    • @RosieBrownie
      @RosieBrownie 7 років тому +4

      Melissa Cornejo You're *AMAZING* 😊👍

    • @MeelC8
      @MeelC8 7 років тому +4

      Rosie Brown Thank you so much!!!! ❤❤❤

    • @felicityjohnston9276
      @felicityjohnston9276 7 років тому +5

      Melissa Cornejo id love to read that ❤ im lesbian. everyone i know knows that i am and most people dont want me to be lesbian they wish i am straight but im not. i used to be bi and they know that. so they still think i could be with a guy.but the truth is i was only bi as a form to fit in because i tried to deny myself because it is hard. but i love being different and i love my sexuality. mainly my moms the only one in my family who fully accepts me,but she has to lol....shes bi. but people say if im happy then they have no choice but to accept me bec happiness is the most important thing.

    • @skye7489
      @skye7489 7 років тому +4

      Melissa Cornejo I just came out to my friend last night as bi. she's the onky one who knows.
      I know thts off topic ok bye now

    • @felicityjohnston9276
      @felicityjohnston9276 7 років тому +2

      Pacify That Crybaby thats great. ❤did she take the news happily? i hope so.

  • @jaycelegends4300
    @jaycelegends4300 7 років тому +181

    this is both heartbreaking and heartwarming at the same time.

    • @sugarwuzzy7586
      @sugarwuzzy7586 6 років тому

      Damn...that profile picture gave me a fucking heart attack!

  • @chadlikespasta3142
    @chadlikespasta3142 6 років тому +2347

    whoa, you're actually a really beautiful girl. im extremely sorry your father is the way he is. atleast he still loves you. it sucks, i know. but you'll get through this. again, atleast your dad is accepting, and maybe one day he'll understand.

    • @riccardoagodi4309
      @riccardoagodi4309 6 років тому +13

      Chad Eats Pasta no he is a deformed man

    • @thetruth2258
      @thetruth2258 6 років тому +23

      Its a guy....not a girl.....

    • @adiosAuxiliator
      @adiosAuxiliator 6 років тому +107

      SHE'S a girl. If she says she's a girl she's a girl. She has female hormones and her name is Jae.

    • @patriciaproctor4284
      @patriciaproctor4284 6 років тому +13

      adiosAuxiliator are you dumb that's a fucking dude not matter what

    • @SnowTheGoon
      @SnowTheGoon 6 років тому +14

      What more do you expect from him? He had a son, raised him, loved him, gave him everything he needed and even now fully supports him. Its his son, that's who he knows, its basically the same thing like when a dad tells his daughter that no matter how old she is, she's still his baby girl. Its not about him not accepting the change, its literally whats in his heart.

  • @leonardodicapriosbabymama111
    @leonardodicapriosbabymama111 6 років тому +404

    "I wanted to kill myself for the longest time"
    I want to hug u so bad omg...my mom died when i was 10 and she was the only one who would accept me....keep fighting sis maybe one day we can all be accepted as human💔

    • @lex4103
      @lex4103 5 років тому +7

      nawhwwh sorry this has nothing to do with your comment but
      SKSKSKSK YOUR NAME
      CRANKGAMEPLAYS
      DAN AND PHIL
      AND TØP
      YOU ARE MY COPY

    • @leonardodicapriosbabymama111
      @leonardodicapriosbabymama111 5 років тому +5

      @@lex4103 lmao😂

    • @nohtopia
      @nohtopia 5 років тому +4

      💕💕💕

    • @tye4895
      @tye4895 5 років тому +3

      Ok 1 love ur name ||-//, 2 I'm so sorry for your loss.

    • @virgilsanders1542
      @virgilsanders1542 5 років тому

      I am so sorry for your loss

  • @sahrayasmin8534
    @sahrayasmin8534 7 років тому +158

    I have a transgender brother (born female) he is 14 years old and had multiple suicide attempts the last one was the worst..
    he is still having trouble to go on in life, because of a similar problems like mentioned(bullying or family support) this video made me cry so much and gave me hope that one day the father of mine can accept my brother..thank you for posting this video!
    i wish you the best of luck and success in life ♡

    • @bojana875
      @bojana875 7 років тому +11

      Sahra Eleah you are such a good sister.😊

    • @sahrayasmin8534
      @sahrayasmin8534 7 років тому +8

      princess jin thank you so much !!🌹

    • @sofiadrizi6980
      @sofiadrizi6980 7 років тому +7

      Sahra Eleah I hope your brother will be okey and you too of course I wish you all a beautiful happy life ❤

    • @sahrayasmin8534
      @sahrayasmin8534 7 років тому +5

      Sofia Rtrsrtrs thank you so much 😘 i wish u happiness and a good life🌼🌼🌼🌼🌹🌹🌹

    • @sahrayasmin8534
      @sahrayasmin8534 7 років тому +3

      Game Gamer thank you🌹

  • @ImFuckingAwesome97
    @ImFuckingAwesome97 7 років тому +463

    my parents told me I'd always be their baby girl but now years later they've told me when they look at me they can only see their son, Charlie. it took time but now they understand and see me as their little boy.

  • @hara0453
    @hara0453 7 років тому +747

    God...why did I start crying?

    • @mattheffernan4854
      @mattheffernan4854 7 років тому +5

      It's me me cause your soft

    • @stression7899
      @stression7899 6 років тому +8

      It's me me the ninja is cutting onions where you are again

    • @telesha8902
      @telesha8902 6 років тому +3

      I couldn't find an available user name same I did too

    • @maddiesvlogs8243
      @maddiesvlogs8243 6 років тому

      I couldn't find an available user name please sub to my channel!

    • @jessicajones7689
      @jessicajones7689 6 років тому +3

      Hear with you I'm a transgender woman my name is Jessica Samara

  • @hussainabbas4765
    @hussainabbas4765 6 років тому +1054

    I swear you guys complaining about the dad misgendering her are giving me cancer.
    He needs time do adjust.

    • @JC-jd1us
      @JC-jd1us 6 років тому +12

      It's one thing to adjust it's another to outright deny someone love for being themself.

    • @tiko5876
      @tiko5876 6 років тому +11

      J C la la land is wonderful huh? Fuckin tweaker.

    •  6 років тому +16

      J C which he didn’t do so youre comment is irrelevant

    • @mikaeladonna590
      @mikaeladonna590 6 років тому +16

      For real fuck the labels the dad is still showing Love through all the struggles . Shit I’m a crossdresser planning to transition in the far future and if people wanna call me Michael idgaf they can call me IT for all I care . I’m happy :)

    • @pedrosenchez5622
      @pedrosenchez5622 6 років тому +10

      Right? That take times, it is not everybody who can go so easly and already making an habit to call you by your other name. Jeez! People are never happy tsss .
      The father is already a good parent to support and love her. But nooo, not enough ...-_- pathetic

  • @janeholiday9799
    @janeholiday9799 7 років тому +2280

    i feel like everyones dad answers the phone the same way
    "Hello?"
    hello...
    "...HELLO??"
    ...hello..
    "HELLO!??"
    edit: oh my gosh ty for the likes i hope ur dads are all doing well and will recognize your voices 😭💕

    • @viiperbiite
      @viiperbiite 7 років тому +19

      BobDuncansWife :3 literally my mum.

    • @snazzyperson1106
      @snazzyperson1106 7 років тому +14

      BobDuncansWife :3 my dad answers like "whats'aht min" (what's happnin)

    • @leggomyeggo8814
      @leggomyeggo8814 7 років тому +5

      Lol thats how my dad answers too

    • @kittiekillua9751
      @kittiekillua9751 7 років тому +6

      BobDuncansWife :3 my dad is like "what do you want" and I talk to him about something and he ends it 😂

    • @dirtylenzcap5586
      @dirtylenzcap5586 7 років тому

      BobDuncansWife :3 OMIGOSH EVERY TIME

  • @nameunknown4320
    @nameunknown4320 7 років тому +496

    I'm still a closeted trans girl, this video hit me SOOOOO hard. People like you give me hope. ❤ Sending love your way.

    • @AlexaHuisman
      @AlexaHuisman 7 років тому +26

      Name Unknown I wish you luck with coming out when you're ready. I know it's scary and it's hard but you can do this. you got this, girl

    • @soupsiedaisie
      @soupsiedaisie 7 років тому +4

      You're a dude.

    • @callmesononemoretime3664
      @callmesononemoretime3664 7 років тому +14

      gore and you're an ignorant bitch :)

    • @kyrad7890
      @kyrad7890 7 років тому +2

      Just let people live how they want! If a cis boy wants to be a woman let them be just that!

    • @ZaraAngel
      @ZaraAngel 7 років тому +13

      Big Bosseseses you have the most fucked up close minded mind

  • @briizrachel
    @briizrachel 7 років тому +653

    She's so cute, her smile is contagious.

    • @sosa3017
      @sosa3017 7 років тому +7

      his smile not her.

    • @bojana875
      @bojana875 7 років тому +56

      SosaDa'Vinci *her* smile.

    • @noenth
      @noenth 7 років тому +45

      SosaDa'Vinci *HER* smile is beautiful, and she's a beautiful person

    • @domenic3933
      @domenic3933 7 років тому +4

      Michael4ever - Rachel |-/

    • @Noided88815
      @Noided88815 7 років тому +6

      Michael4ever - Rachel *his

  • @ysabiau4058
    @ysabiau4058 5 років тому +148

    Oh my god she is absolutely gorgeous.
    Y’all need to stop being rude to the dad, he’s trying to understand something that’s very hard to comprehend. I think what he meant was that you will always be his child and no less of a person than you were before?

  • @sofiaverduzco8244
    @sofiaverduzco8244 7 років тому +316

    Why did I start crying when they talked about the guitars wtf

  • @kaik8561
    @kaik8561 7 років тому +70

    I came out to my mom as trans in December 2015 and the first thing my mom said was "I'll never see you as my son." Now she's actually making attempts to use my correct pronouns and name. Took lots of time & explaining but she's finally starting to come around. I wish you all the best with your dad and your transition.

  • @caswelch6689
    @caswelch6689 7 років тому +378

    you and your girlfriend at the end made me so happy, she was so sweet. this whole video is so sweet omg i gonna cry

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 років тому +17

      Thas is one cool chick.

    • @deniset2115
      @deniset2115 7 років тому +5

      I'm still confused. This is a once male who's now female and has a romantic girlfriend? So this is a transformation to be a lesbian?

    • @ryanisarat2550
      @ryanisarat2550 7 років тому +19

      Denise T Sexuality and gender are two different things.

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 років тому +13

      SkytaskyGaming You seem to be confused.
      Yes, both are biological, in that they are both possessed by biological entities, rather than say, a calculator.
      Biological sex, Sexual Orientation, sexual expression, and gender are all different things.
      All of them are rooted in biology.
      And some of them are influenced by our desires and choices.
      In that someone can be born with a brain and personality that does not match their genitals.
      And some are ambivalent, and can choose. Not all can.
      Imagine if you woke up with the wrong genitals and appearance tomorrow.
      how would you feel.
      That's how a lot of trans people fell, from childhood.
      Does that make things clearer?

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 років тому +2

      King of Pop Exactly what causes the variation in human sexuality is not completely understood.
      It has a genetic component, a hormonal component, and a psychological one.
      It's not under your control, nor is it wholly genetic.
      Research is ongoing.

  • @emeliaristo4848
    @emeliaristo4848 6 років тому +92

    At the end, when her girlfriend was comforting her, made me melt because they smiled at Each other and kissed each other and showed there love for each other. It's so sweet ❤️❤️❤️

  • @baka4041
    @baka4041 7 років тому +156

    You are so brave, you did it! And you two are so adorable, glad to see that you have people who support you

  • @hollychamberlain4759
    @hollychamberlain4759 7 років тому +63

    Oh my god, the part where you said "I didn't choose this" made me cry...and then your dad said "God is looking at you, he put you in there. You're okay." This is great 👏🏻☺️💓

  • @terrybyte8328
    @terrybyte8328 7 років тому +318

    He's telling you that he supports you, yet he calls you his 'son'. Hopefully it's because it's a shock and he will get there soon. Also, when he sees how you look he's going to be mesmerised!

    • @ghostxlee5565
      @ghostxlee5565 7 років тому +9

      Tezza The Poetic Guitarist my mother fully supports me, it just takes time to change pronouns and names

    • @Bundy6Hunna
      @Bundy6Hunna 6 років тому +3

      because son coincides with his, or “her”, sex/gender. it’s simple. i could care less if someone wants to live their life as a female, you’re still gonna be a male but i don’t care what you have going on in your head, just don’t force society to bend to your will just because you don’t understand biology

    • @denizyuksel5093
      @denizyuksel5093 6 років тому +4

      Members Only Media "just because you don't understand biology"
      Oh boy, you guys are the only people and totally not biologists all around the world.

    • @lucien9815
      @lucien9815 6 років тому

      Tezza The Poetic Guitarist the problem is, I don't think he understands.

  • @PokemonParadise2010
    @PokemonParadise2010 6 років тому +103

    The dad is pretty understanding imo.. yes he may be old school but he ain't disowning his child... or saying to not do that... watch from 5:03 to 5:23

  • @weirdoonthestreet1155
    @weirdoonthestreet1155 6 років тому +398

    I'm glad I found a mtf. Theres always ftm on the internet (no hating) because they get more support. When a boy who feels like a girl and is a girl wants to be a girl it's bad. I'm glad you had the guts to tell your father. I'm trans ftm and my family dosent support.

  • @cosmo588
    @cosmo588 7 років тому +1983

    I've never watched you before, but I'm proud of you, I hope your future is as bright as your smile💕

  • @WebVManReturns
    @WebVManReturns 6 років тому +2174

    If I were her father, I would respond by saying, "I HAVE NO SON!!! So daughter, how is life treating you now?"

    • @night7185
      @night7185 6 років тому +3

      WebVMan him.

    • @jonathanmoss503
      @jonathanmoss503 6 років тому +73

      Typo “I HAVE NO DAUGHTER!!! So son, how are you doing

    • @-kiwiflower3783
      @-kiwiflower3783 6 років тому +103

      Jonathan Moss ass

    • @jonathanmoss503
      @jonathanmoss503 6 років тому +6

      Galactacium I wouldn’t want to see his

    • @KN_-kc6kx
      @KN_-kc6kx 6 років тому +60

      Brian Zmolek Well truthfully that's transphobic and it's all about which gender the person feels, and doesn't matter biologically what you are. You can be a toaster of you want. You aren't hot tho, that's the thing, so that's one thing you'll have to improve on, mabey a few plastic surgerys will fix it. Being trans is about how you feel and then transitioning to the gender you feel to stop dysphoria get the most of you and lead you to the edge of suicide.

  • @justin_rawrxd8113
    @justin_rawrxd8113 5 років тому +280

    Me:I so relate so much to this
    Mom:”yOuR nOt A bOy *birth name*”
    Me:*starts crying when I here my birth name
    Mom:” YoU cRy tO mUcH tO bE a BoY”

    • @Static3649
      @Static3649 4 роки тому +28

      I know I'm a year late but I saw that nobody commented so
      *Hugs*

    • @xoll1571
      @xoll1571 4 роки тому +16

      Awh im trans too and I found this pretty funny it’s good that you can make a joke about it stay strong bro 🤍🤍

    • @rememberme3762
      @rememberme3762 4 роки тому +6

      @@xoll1571Male or female?

    • @xoll1571
      @xoll1571 4 роки тому +10

      Remember me!!! Female 💕

    • @huaraches8934
      @huaraches8934 4 роки тому

      Calm down justin

  • @natheniapotter4858
    @natheniapotter4858 7 років тому +156

    so incredible, literally in tears😭💛

  • @sywitz
    @sywitz 6 років тому +157

    I could really tell your dad cares about you a LOT. He isn't the most eloquent when it comes to comforting you, and he doesn't always say the most empathetic, calming things, but he really does care about you, which is fantastic :)

  • @chrisdarcyxx8747
    @chrisdarcyxx8747 6 років тому +59

    It seems like her dad wants to understand, but because of his background and the way he's brought up, he's struggling to. I find it sweet that he still loves her, even if he is still calling her Jason. Maybe he'll get it and start calling her Jae one day. (Side note: I'm in love with her hair)

  • @Max-ny1pm
    @Max-ny1pm 3 роки тому +13

    I'm telling my parents I'm trans soon. But I have no clue how.
    Honestly this helped me gain so much confidence you said it so easily.
    Your so beautiful. And so brave.

    • @ax6356
      @ax6356 2 роки тому +1

      did it go as imagined?

    • @sunskist
      @sunskist Місяць тому

      how did it go?! update please 🙏🙏 im in your shoes you were in 3 years ago and terrified

  • @shesinscrubs
    @shesinscrubs 7 років тому +831

    Your smile is so radiant! I can't imagine how hard this was, you're so strong💕

    • @shesinscrubs
      @shesinscrubs 7 років тому +18

      Hurt my heart every time he said J*****😞

    • @shesinscrubs
      @shesinscrubs 7 років тому +52

      I have the same bee pillow pet 😂

    • @OliviaNoel
      @OliviaNoel  7 років тому +101

      same. but i'll make him come around

  • @twothree995
    @twothree995 7 років тому +251

    Stay Strong! ❤️ if people in you're family don't support you move on.

    • @hatipkazani
      @hatipkazani 7 років тому +2

      Mia R f u he bought guitar for her he accepted her what the f you are talking don’t separate people from family for a fu... name .

    • @olivia-jtrans5693
      @olivia-jtrans5693 6 років тому +1

      Mia R, thank you that's what I do, someone who rejects me I can do without.

    • @plasthicck
      @plasthicck 6 років тому

      Its hard to move on from someone who has been in your life from the beginning, its much easier said than done. Im a transgender teenager also and i am so thankful for the family i have as they accept me for who i am, but hearing her pain and how scared she was really hit close to home for me. Growing up i always felt like i was broken, and if I actually showed the truth i would be rejected by the people who mean the most to me. Everybody’s situation is different but at the same time NOBODY wants to be different.
      (Not attacking you btw)

  • @jetoyeandrews9820
    @jetoyeandrews9820 7 років тому +70

    I wish I had a girlfriend like that, so maturing and kind, they're such a beautiful pair. You're so strong baby girl❤️ I hope one day that I can do the same

  • @gillfyy
    @gillfyy 5 років тому +59

    You transitioned so well! I love your voice too. And this is exactly what my dad said when I told him I want to transition, he said whatever you become or are you will always be my (insert real name here)

  • @yoinx5435
    @yoinx5435 7 років тому +33

    Oml I cried during this, you are an amazing person. You got an instant subscribe from me.

    • @theilluminati4687
      @theilluminati4687 7 років тому

      Heyimmercer I laughed. and then cried cos its so fucked up

  • @steverock100
    @steverock100 7 років тому +203

    Him saying that you will always be Jason, to him, is a parent thing. It's not meant to be hateful or hurtful. He even said he supports you and accepts who you are.

    • @Blankphotograph5799
      @Blankphotograph5799 6 років тому +3

      Donald Stevenson yes it’s great and we understand that but they have to understand that it does hurt.

    • @milo9376
      @milo9376 5 років тому

      Very off topic but the profile pic you have rn i used to have as my lock screen and my instagram pic 😂

  • @lumosnox22
    @lumosnox22 7 років тому +212

    im not religious at all, even in the tiniest bit. I don't believe in religion, I've never been to church, I don't really believe in any deities. but I loved that the dad said "maybe god wanted you to be like this, and that's who you are". I feel like a lot of religious parents tend to use religion and their god to make their child feel like shit, but jae's dad used it to try to be supportive. I think that's really sweet.

    • @samuelc.3575
      @samuelc.3575 7 років тому +1

      yes, i noticed that, it was sweet of him.

    • @patrickstar7428
      @patrickstar7428 7 років тому +5

      No, not really. Most(except the few that are assholes) TRUE CHRISTIANS or religious people will be accepting of really anything.

    • @user-ut7wi1if9q
      @user-ut7wi1if9q 7 років тому

      SAMMYY TRANS AF yeah he is a true father

    • @mikaylagrace9106
      @mikaylagrace9106 7 років тому +2

      No Christian is perfect, as no one is truly perfect. But Christians ARE commanded in the Bible to accept and love everyone. God, our friends and enemies, people of all race genders and religion, and even ourselves as we have the Holy Spirit dwelling in us. Sometimes we mess up and may act like we don’t like someone, but a true Christ follower doesn’t have to like everyone but is commanded to love everyone. Please don’t think that all Christians are hateful because you saw one person who claimed to be Christian act hateful towards people of different views than them. I am Christian and I try my best to love everyone although sometimes I don’t agree with others morals or ideas of sins/okay acts.

    • @alanamorris1984
      @alanamorris1984 6 років тому

      Ur gonna go to hell

  • @freyayt6789
    @freyayt6789 4 роки тому +85

    My respect for her dad: 📉📈📉📉📈📉📈📉📈📉📈📉📉📉📉📈📉📈📉

  • @lindseysummers5351
    @lindseysummers5351 7 років тому +50

    Jae, you put a lot of thought and heart into this. I can tell by your father's words that he loves you very much. Accepting that he has a daughter named Jae is going to take him time. I've learned that, as a transgender person, patience is a virtue and sometimes you have to take what you can get. Give him time to get acclimated, be prepared to answer his questions, and if he is going to disagree with you at all on this topic, don't invalidate his feelings but instead let him know where you're coming from (you did a great job of this during your conversation, and I'm so proud of you!!) It's a long and difficult road for someone in transition. Know that you are never alone, as there are always going to be people out here supporting you. As for the detractors, they will always be there, talking their smack. Let 'em. They don't matter. You know who you are as a beautiful young woman. Be happy, be strong, and be proud.

  • @trippm102
    @trippm102 7 років тому +262

    You have a Father who loves and supports you and is willing to be there for you instead of write you off take his hand and accept it. "Jason" is just a name not your person, your father accepts everything else about you don't force him he'll accept the name when he's ready. ❤️

    • @erichbradshaw4673
      @erichbradshaw4673 7 років тому +4

      Tattooed Dad Exactly!!!! 👏👏👏👏

    • @drabby7925
      @drabby7925 7 років тому +5

      Tattooed Dad you don't understand

    • @ethaniovino9908
      @ethaniovino9908 7 років тому +3

      Tattooed Dad Exactly! And as hard as it is for us trans people to come out, be accepted, and feel comfortable in our own skin, the parents struggle with it too. My bio dad struggled with it before accepting me and calling me "Ethan" instead of my legal name. (Though my dad also struggles with split decisions and mental illness, so it didnt last too long because of that). The parents usually feel as though they've lost a child, even though that may not be the case, and it takes time for them to come to terms with that and "celebrate a new child," from their point of view. However, everyones parents are different. Some will never come to terms with it, some take longer than others, and others will accept it immediately. This woman in this video has an accepting father; he's not disowning her or abusinv her. He even wanted to talk with her about it. But you can see he's going to struggle with it at first, but acceptance is the first step to coping with it. I wish my dad reacted the way her dad did when I came out as FTM. And hopefully, he'll come to terms with her, but it takes time and nobody should try to shame him for that. She's a beautiful woman with a beautiful girlfriend and i know her and her father will try to get through this together.

    • @ethaniovino9908
      @ethaniovino9908 7 років тому +2

      lydia willyhands I believe he does as a matter of fact. Even a certified gender therapist will tell you that. Her father is struggling just as she is, but he accepts her. It will take time for him to come to terms with this.
      Sincerely, an FTM person who has been abused, kicked out, and not truly accepted by his biological father, and has gone to a variety of therapy, including but not limited to conversion (unsuccessful & very detrimental) and gender (successful & very beneficial) therapy.

    • @MiaRosenbloom
      @MiaRosenbloom 7 років тому

      Tattooed Dad, do you have an aversion to your biological sex, gender role as a man, and birth name (gender dysphoria)? If not, then you have no idea what it's like to be trans, and therefore you have no right to judge what you don't understand.

  • @kj7915
    @kj7915 7 років тому +142

    It sounds like he just wants to learn and be supportive.

    • @patriciaproctor4284
      @patriciaproctor4284 6 років тому +1

      Kayla Rose finally someone who did not say she

    • @charliebrayson
      @charliebrayson 6 років тому +28

      Jack Frost They're talking about her Dad, not her.

  • @whydoineedthis.
    @whydoineedthis. 5 років тому +57

    When her voice started cracking and she was on the verge of tears I started crying...I wish I could give her a big hug.
    EDIT: When she said she wanted to kill herself...damn I felt that. I'm balling my eyes out. I just want to give her a hug.

    • @jamesedwardford589
      @jamesedwardford589 4 роки тому +2

      If you feel like there's someone's out there in the world that feel like they're alone for you to pick up there or what happens in Fast and I'm open person and I care about our feelings other than myself I've been charged for Daiso different reasons and Clyde love people even there like restaurant us to love you even when you mad at me not liking Trump I'll still love you anyway even you be angry with me at pushing me away I will come

  • @colinenowakowski7418
    @colinenowakowski7418 7 років тому +786

    you're the strongest girl I've ever seen. Be proud of yourself you're beautiful

    • @colinenowakowski7418
      @colinenowakowski7418 7 років тому +17

      Big Bosseseses and you are a dumbass.

    • @co9620
      @co9620 7 років тому +6

      Big Bosseseses No, She is a woman

    • @CHloE748
      @CHloE748 7 років тому +2

      Coline Nowakowski "woman" *insert meme ARE YOU SURE ABOUT THAT!* 😂

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 років тому +8

      +CHloE748 so punctuation, not your thing huh?
      and yes, she seems pretty sure about it.

    • @miajoy8870
      @miajoy8870 7 років тому +3

      Big Bosseseses If you disagree with this why would you watch it?

  • @courtneyfleming8698
    @courtneyfleming8698 7 років тому +175

    I hate it when certain family members tell me, "I love you and support you, but you will always be (deadname) to me."

    • @tuckermayatt2705
      @tuckermayatt2705 7 років тому +18

      Courtney Fleming well it takes time to process this type of stuff :p

    • @l64258
      @l64258 7 років тому

      I don't know about anyone else, but personally, I hear in the dad using her birth name, he's using it because it seems he feels he's losing this child and he's scared. Although I understand and have 100% respect for the person dealing with it, I think they have to understand that the parents are going through it as well, and particularly in this case, it sounds like he did not see it coming so he will need time to get used to it. Personally, I would call someone by any name and use whatever pronouns that they would like me to but I think when it comes to the parents, trans and non-binary people need to understand that its not just them going through it and especially for the parents, no parent wants to think that they haven't realised that their child has been going through something so big on their own. I don't necessarily agree with everything the dad said ie religion and the name and pronouns, but I do hear a father who loves his child, has genuine concern for her mental and emotional wellbeing and is doing the absolute best he can to support her and love her in a situation that he doesn't understand.

    •  7 років тому +3

      Damn give them a break? At least they are trying to attempt on growing instead of saying "get out of my life". Gotta give people time, most people are like that.

    • @lainaann3574
      @lainaann3574 7 років тому

      Its easy for me to call them by there new name but pronouns take a while. I don't mean to be rude if i "misgender" someone im just stupid lol

    • @brittlandrum7672
      @brittlandrum7672 7 років тому +1

      Courtney Fleming calling someone by their old name brings the person losing their child peace and some closure.

  • @christiecazarez5754
    @christiecazarez5754 7 років тому +94

    This is honestly inspiring and so brave. I love you so much Jae and I thank you for putting this out for everyone to see. You deserve so much more. Thank you so much

  • @kittiepuppimeow
    @kittiepuppimeow 6 років тому +69

    GIRL YOUR VOICE IS SO PRETTY AHHHHH I LOVE IT

    • @bacicinvatteneaca
      @bacicinvatteneaca 5 років тому +1

      That's a lie. You can say many things about her femininity, but complimenting her voice is a lie, and lying like that is the best way to generate new transphobia.

    • @fawnie5887
      @fawnie5887 4 роки тому +4

      Thingaloo but her voice is pretty??

    • @kittiepuppimeow
      @kittiepuppimeow 4 роки тому +4

      @@bacicinvatteneaca I’m not lying.. what does this even mean?

    • @bacicinvatteneaca
      @bacicinvatteneaca 4 роки тому

      @@kittiepuppimeow hypocrisy generates contrarian reaction

    • @priestgoober5160
      @priestgoober5160 4 роки тому

      @@bacicinvatteneaca your jealous

  • @naome3904
    @naome3904 7 років тому +43

    i HATE it when people are like "he was born a boy he will always be a boy" like i was born a baby but i'm not a baby anymore and Jae isn't a boy she's a girl

    • @OscarLopez-np2zf
      @OscarLopez-np2zf 6 років тому +3

      If you were born with a penis you will forever be a male, even if you chop it off!

    • @jamesedwardford589
      @jamesedwardford589 4 роки тому +1

      If you want with phones out and stuff and I didn't feel like they're here or there anywhere but here because who likes full like you're angry mad at other people in like he's like all the feelings out and what's going to happen if lick your friends out in the opening and it's like oh I have feelings too you know I feel angry and mad I didn't say I didn't trust routing for someone or pull someone here but you feel like you get angry and mad how to parent rating height of people that they can

  • @user-gx7we5qt6c
    @user-gx7we5qt6c 7 років тому +14

    i can't imagine the fear she was so hesitant but it ended up benefiting. your smile is beautiful btw :)

  • @sagegreeby2861
    @sagegreeby2861 7 років тому +713

    only four minutes in and im sobbing

    • @sagegreeby2861
      @sagegreeby2861 7 років тому +9

      im non binary and im afraid to come out to my parents and tell them that im not tori im sage. they know im bi and they think its a phase... im so glad you had the courage to come out. youre so brave

    • @OliviaNoel
      @OliviaNoel  7 років тому +42

      Tori Greeby stay strong 💕 always be true to yourself and never let anyone tell you differently ! You're perfect

    • @sagegreeby2861
      @sagegreeby2861 7 років тому +11

      Jae Noel thank you so much. you inspire me so much

    • @5FOOT6WARRIOR
      @5FOOT6WARRIOR 7 років тому +3

      only four minutes in and I lost brain cells

    • @meexooc
      @meexooc 7 років тому +2

      Tori Greeby me too- I love how her dad kept supporting her and saying he's here and he loves her no matter what.

  • @rosieemily8758
    @rosieemily8758 5 років тому +26

    Her dad is saying he accepts her but he won’t acknowledge that Jason isn’t who she is anymore! Please don’t feel like you ever want to end your life! You are beautiful for who you are and no one should make you feel any differently x 💛 x

  • @whisperingdonut1311
    @whisperingdonut1311 7 років тому +33

    I feel like your dad handled that really well. New names are hard to get use to sometimes.

  • @LeonIsAPro
    @LeonIsAPro 7 років тому +16

    OMG that was so touching. This is how a parent should behave, unconditionally love your children. You are a brave woman, I sorta know what it is being bisexual, and this was one of the most stressfull moment in my life to come out to family and friends, so I know it requires courage. It's great that you have your dad's support, it makes a huge difference to have a parent's support.
    Don't worry about him calling you son, or your old name, or using the wrong pronouns, he has many years of memories with you as his son, so it's gonna take some time for him to adapt, but he definitely has the right attitude towards you.
    I know it must've hurt hearing him say "to me you'll always be Jason", but what he meant was the person, not the name or gender. He truly cares about you, and he didn't say that to hurt you. This is new to him, and he needs time.
    I never had a relationship with my mother, we were never friends. Until I came out to her at 43 years old. Before we spole once a year, maybe 30 minutes of agonising talk, but now we speak every week and I enjoy our talk. I even look forward to it, I even surprises myself with thinking of calling her when I have news. Being myself was the key to us having a relationship. I'm not saying it will be the same with you and your dad, but do not miss out the chance of connecting with him. Mine died many years ago, and I will always regret not having had one with him.
    Good luck dear :-)

  • @GageElle
    @GageElle 7 років тому +1760

    I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!! You inspire me in so many ways, and this video will inspire so many others. You're incredibly brave for sharing this and you deserve all the support in the world. LOVE YOU JAE ❤️💚💜💛

    • @PedroNogueiranunes
      @PedroNogueiranunes 7 років тому +6

      Gage omg, my diva is here!

    • @magixshiz2543
      @magixshiz2543 7 років тому +2

      *it'sMe TheHerpes* Well, if your telling the truth, watch your ass for assault charges.

    • @Your20droid
      @Your20droid 7 років тому

      it'sMe TheHerpes Fuckin hell, can't believe you have Delirious as your YT banner

    • @kcdarla
      @kcdarla 7 років тому +1

      Gage Right on the money Gage. Could not have said it better. 💜

    • @chadlikespasta3142
      @chadlikespasta3142 6 років тому +2

      it'sMe TheHerpes yknow, i understand your mentality, ive grown up amongst people who feel the same as you. but all i can tell you is that this aint a choice. kids like this dont choose to be this way, thats evident from the suicide rates. and i dont understand how letting them be themselves and leaving them alone is harming society. i will say, society is going to an extremely leftist place, which isnt good. but letting kids like these be themselves isnt part of the problem. id really love to hear some feedback on this comment, im always up for a good, civil debate

  • @ToadNibb
    @ToadNibb 2 місяці тому +1

    I was so confused about who I was 5 years ago when I first stumbled upon your videos, and despite countless hours of digging, I haven't been able to find your channel again until now. I just wanted to thank you so much. If I had never come across you in the first place I am unsure if I would have ever figured out who I was. Seeing you go through this process gave me the courage to do it myself, and though it has been difficult, I wouldn't go back for anything. Thank you so much, I hope you are doing well!

  • @nanners1154
    @nanners1154 7 років тому +15

    OH MY GOD YOU'RE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PERSON I'VE EVER SEEN INSIDE AND OUT OH MY GOD

  • @noodlellsouperllboy8879
    @noodlellsouperllboy8879 7 років тому +88

    your dad is kinda awesome even if he is calling you your old name and yes he could have handled it better but still It could have been worse but I think you're incredibly brave you did a awesome thing also you look beautiful I hope you have a great day

    • @user-cn9cd1sc1c
      @user-cn9cd1sc1c 7 років тому

      SpAcE/rOcK/WOW OuO he means that he wont see her any differently except that now shes a girl

    • @noodlellsouperllboy8879
      @noodlellsouperllboy8879 7 років тому

      turqouisehattern idk man I think he'll come around eventually

  • @sheilaj.1163
    @sheilaj.1163 6 років тому +1032

    Ok, as a mom of a transgender son, I don't understand why your dad is responding in this way..he keeps calling you Jason when you have already legally changed your name. then the whole God thing has to be brought into it. I feel for you.. I'm sorry hon..and your mom shut you out? Awful My son is Sam Collins, not sure if you know of him, but he's also a UA-camr and came out last year as trans to all his supporters. I hope your dad is more supportive of you and accepts you as Jae and not calling you Jason. It is hard, yes, for parents but they should be supportive. Were you close to your dad before, or from a distance? I hope you can work things out but the most important thing for you is that YOU are happy with who you are, and live your life, surround yourself with those who love you... I support you !

    • @sheilaj.1163
      @sheilaj.1163 6 років тому +46

      TYSM! :) I'm sorry your sister didn't get the support of your mom...hopefully in time, she will come around.. it can take people time to adjust. Thanks for supporting Sam!

    • @olivia-jtrans5693
      @olivia-jtrans5693 6 років тому +31

      Sheila J. very nice comment, parents and others make it about "themselves" what an EGO. like: [how can you do this to me ? ? ] Jae is a beautiful girl.

    • @sheilaj.1163
      @sheilaj.1163 6 років тому +10

      ty

    • @helloleonhere
      @helloleonhere 6 років тому +26

      Sheila J. I just want to say I love Sam’s videos! He’s a great person and I’d like to be friends with him tbh
      And you’re a incredible mom!

    • @katelyndhenin1623
      @katelyndhenin1623 6 років тому +14

      i watch your son all the time! you seem like such a great mom.

  • @immortxelle
    @immortxelle 6 років тому +28

    I love your hair. You are killing the game girl. It will take a little bit for your dad to understand. Stay strong they will always be people who don't like it.

  • @marshiahammock9134
    @marshiahammock9134 7 років тому +17

    your one brave young woman! I believe that God gives each one of us our own burden to bear. He made you this way. So be strong!!! He judges all of us by what's in our heart and whos in our heart... Your beautiful inside and out it seems to all of us!!!

  • @MLCelaya317
    @MLCelaya317 7 років тому +65

    how beautiful that he accepts supports and loves you. you might not even realize it now but him telling you that God put this into your life for a reason is so beautiful and meaningful. it is the best thing you can keep in the back of your mind whenever you feel insecure. your dad loves you. how lucky you are.

  • @emmaurbon-newman7861
    @emmaurbon-newman7861 7 років тому +6

    Jae, you are such an amazing person and we are here for you one hundred percent of the way. You are so brave for doing this and then sharing this was such a brave thing. You inspire me and a ton of other people. You are such an inspiration to so many people. Thank you for sharing this with us and we all love you!!!!!!!

  • @reOblackcat
    @reOblackcat 6 років тому +55

    My father was exactly the same as yours at the beginning, but now he's more supportive

  • @kittikat4124
    @kittikat4124 7 років тому +21

    Awh, babe, you are so strong for doing this! much love to you❤

  • @daniellealexandra237
    @daniellealexandra237 7 років тому +885

    This broke my heart so much. Seeing you cry like that 😢
    It seems like your dad can't seem to let go of 'Jason' which is understandable as he watched 'Jason' being born and raised him for such a long time. But he also says he supports you which is a good thing right? At least he doesn't hate you. Keep strong and one day your dad will accept it fully and call you by your real name. Lots of love 💕💕💕

    • @Stellajenkins
      @Stellajenkins 7 років тому +5

      she was never born a male in the transgender communitys eyes?..

    • @socorrespecial
      @socorrespecial 7 років тому +3

      Chloe's Gaming Channel what

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 років тому +20

      +Chloe's Gaming Channel No. Thier innate sense of self was female. Their body just didn't match.
      Think of it like this: Your mom is black. Your dad is black. Your siblings are black. Your culture, life and friends are black.
      But, you have a skin disorder that makes your skin white.
      Are you black?
      If there was a treatment that could fix your skin, so you look the way you think you should, would you take it?
      Same sort of idea. She's a woman.
      But she was born with the wrong hormones and genitals, for whatever reason.
      And now she's working on fixing it.
      wouldn't you?

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 років тому +8

      +BornAgain happyfriday sorry, but no.
      A: not evil,
      B: nonexistent people have trouble doing anything, let alone 'saving' anyone.

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 років тому +10

      +BornAgain happyfriday Clearly? Nope. Sorry. Not clear at all.
      What business of yours how somoene esle chooses or needs to live their lives?
      What does 'god's opinion matter, when no one can even show that it exists?
      Abomination? This is the same bible that condones killing unruly children, human sacrifice, abortion, slavery and genocide?
      Not sure a follower of that religion has any business telling anyone else about morality.
      Fuck that. Fuck you also.

  • @rachaelramen6281
    @rachaelramen6281 7 років тому +12

    This was such an inspiring video, I am so proud of you Jae, I am so happy for you too. I can't even explain or imagine how scary this was. I respect you so much, you are helping so many people out there in the world, trans or not. Your strength truly inspires others. I can't wait to see more of your lovely journey, and am excited to see your growth. 💗

  • @cylecrisp6203
    @cylecrisp6203 3 роки тому +16

    This is powerful. One day I will come out to my father as trans, I fear him honestly.

    • @justin8354
      @justin8354 3 роки тому

      no ur who u ben

    • @bellaxxi4116
      @bellaxxi4116 2 роки тому

      Hey I’m in the same boat as you. It’s been 6 months I really hope it goes great for you ❤️❤️.

    • @DinosaurNick
      @DinosaurNick Рік тому

      @@justin8354 who's Ben?

  • @chantiquoi
    @chantiquoi 7 років тому +23

    this touched my heart im glad you feel free and can be yourself 😭

  • @kengineer12
    @kengineer12 6 років тому +49

    Personally, I love the way she was honest. Telling how you feel is the best way to make sure people understand.

  • @lisiaraya3356
    @lisiaraya3356 6 років тому +128

    I know this is off topic,but your voice is sooo soft&relaxing
    I love it!!

  • @KaleidoSaurus
    @KaleidoSaurus 7 років тому +195

    You're such a pretty girl.

    • @VanKalladon
      @VanKalladon 7 років тому +4

      no

    • @raindrops7388
      @raindrops7388 7 років тому +10

      She's lovely:)

    • @mechbride4442
      @mechbride4442 7 років тому +1

      Bryant Nelson rude

    • @mechbride4442
      @mechbride4442 7 років тому +2

      Bryant Nelson Lmao but it doesnt mean you have to be so unnecessary. If its a joke then thats fine but if youre doing it just to make someone cry then thats not okay

    • @adsumabyss
      @adsumabyss 6 років тому

      Lol

  • @aboutagirl5085
    @aboutagirl5085 6 років тому +341

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
    So proud of you and I don't even know you.

  • @jessicabentley5508
    @jessicabentley5508 7 років тому +24

    Girl, I would've been crying soo much I would go through soo many tissues. You a lot stronger than I am. I am also MtF Transgender but I haven't had the guts to come out to my parents, soo I told them I'm going to the therapist for depression. I was going to have a sit down with me, my parents, and my therapist in the same room after the first 3-4 months and get my therapist to help me explain who the real me is to my parents. Us girls gotta stick together.

  • @unlacedmalkavian
    @unlacedmalkavian 5 років тому +3

    I'm currently going through this exact thing with my mom. Thank you so much for filming yourself at such a vulnerable moment. You took that conversation in stride, you're so brave. While speaking to my mom tonight, I broke down sobbing for the longest time. She said very hurtful things. But it's because she doesn't understand, she's confused, she's upset, she's not quite sure what she should do, what her role in my life is now... I love her, so much... it hurts me more than anything else, more than I can express, that she is resistant... but at the end of the day, she tells me she loves me... and I'm hopeful it will get better. I hope it got better for you.

  • @lilembarrassing9247
    @lilembarrassing9247 6 років тому +40

    Just came across this video, never seen your videos or channel before so I don’t know how the situation is now but I just gotta say;
    Girl I’m so sorry, this was heartbreaking to watch. You are so strong to get through this, to listen to the things he said.
    I hope he came around, he sounds like he wants to be there for you and loves you and not disown you atleast, he just doesn’t understand really. Atleast that’s what it sounds like to me in this video. He sounds like he want’s to understand to with the questions he’s asking.
    Sending you lots of love ❤️ You are a beautiful and strong woman to go through this 🙏🏻