COMING OUT TO MY DAD AS TRANSGENDER
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- Опубліковано 23 сер 2024
- I sent my dad a letter a few weeks ago explaining that I am a transgender woman. I waited to tell him because I was so scared of losing him the way I lost my mother. Our relationship has always been distant, but we still had a relationship. I did not want to lose him. Being of Mexican decent with deep Catholic roots, I was terrified he'd shut me out the way my mother did. I was scared of going through that twice. However, after so much thought, I finally felt like it was time to face what I've been avoiding. You can't hide yourself. You must always stay true to the person you are. This has been a battle that I will face my entire life. Through so much hardships and lost of so many, I can finally be myself. This video is the first phone call with my dad as myself. Everything he said was so unexpected. I cannot stress enough how much this phone call means to me. I have felt alone for so long. I have felt so scared for so long. This was absolutely everything I have ever needed. I am finally free.
I am finally Jae.
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I think he’s trying to say: „you’re still my child. You’re still the person I raised“
That does make sense.
Me too. He sounds like he's trying to be supportive but doesn't know how to do it.
Nah. That's your heart felt thoughts not approving what he said, and trying to soften the blow. He clearly is saying, he's still is gonna call him jason, and refer to him as such.
That's how it sounded to me. He just sounded a bit ham-fisted, which I suppose can be natural for someone still processing such a life changing scenario. She was right to keep reminding him Jason isn't her name anymore, and it felt like this is a relationship with opportunities to improve. I don't think anyone can expect everyone they come out to to be immediately onboard 100%, especially the people that raised you. I think you need to listen for the positives, take them for what they are and be patient with the negatives.
Kudos to the poster, anyway. This was an incredibly moving video and I wish her and her family all the best. ❤️
@@damanichildrey84 This is such an ignorant statement. You do realize that there are people who aren't familiar with the issue of being transgender and the changes it brings along, especially the older generations (her father is between his 50s and 60s)? No, apparently not.
He's talking to his child, who he only knew as male for over twenty years, for the first time since she came out to him as transgender.
This is his position: He's confused, overwhelmed, he doesn't know what's the right thing to do or say, probably doesn't even know what all of this means, he needs to process what he learned and get to know his child from a whole new perspective as well as get used to it.
And so, he asks her questions about how she felt, about her current life, he tells her he'll always love her and says that he's happy as long as she's happy.
Furthermore, Jae's storytime after her coming out confirms that her dad fully supports her, accepts her as his daughter and refers to her that way.
The way you shame him for misgendering her since he didn't know any different without and ounce of consideration is sickening.
You're no better than any transphobic, just as obstinate and hostile towards everything outside your bubble.
''Do you still play guitar?'' YOUR DAD IS SO CUTE IM SORRY
@Miss Cute no I cant
@Miss Cute guy alart
@Miss Cute alright Mr cute
@Miss Cute I didn't
@Miss Cute sorry you have to deal with people like desta. male, female or anything else, no one deserves that.
im not mad at the dad, I'm sure he loves her. I think he just doesn't realise the power of a name. I don't think he realises it hurts to be called the wrong name.
@@Network126 don't project your own issues on other people's lives. Thank you.
@@heyna1185 I'm going to keep venting as much as I need to. This is my outlet. I deserve to be heard too.
@@Network126 you can comment whatever you want but I have no respect for people who blame an entire minority group for their own personal issues. You're dad might have hurt you and your family but it doesn't make sense for you to blame "transsexuality" for it. A lot of people have a fucked up childhood but not everyone goes around blaming others who are totally unrelated to their own life. There's literally no need for you to misgender Jae despite being disrespectful. You disrespect her for no reason, I'm not gonna respect you either buddy
@@heyna1185 Wow you're so triggered by this! I'm not here to make enemies, I'm here to wake people up and make people realize that this gender-bending shit hurts both sides. If facts hurt your feelings, then so be it. You're probably going to be furious when my book comes out. It's going to be such a blow to the trans community.
HeyNa He's not generalizing them all. I can only imagine how damaged he is just from experiencing this at such a young age. He's explaining how it's hard for both parties and it's extremely ignorant of you to block out an experience caused by this... I understand that transgenders experience so much trauma and i really do get that but it impacts people's lives around them. And his story is a great example.
When he said “maybe god wanted you to be like this” that makes me happy. Because most people say “god made you a man/woman” but he said otherwise which is cool
Idc about god and don't believe in god, i only care if shes happy the way she is
@@damanmanswantssubssubsgimm2423 If happiness is wrong by your god then I want to become a satanist. Sorry.
@@damanmanswantssubssubsgimm2423
That might be true to you but why do you care if we go to "hell."
God is fake
@@lyndonleedalee1738 oh ok. So u think pedophillia is ok because it makes pedos happy gotcha
"I didn't wanna lose you" broke me
You have no idea, do you?
+it'sMe TheHerpes your an awful person for thinking that! What is the matter with you!? You would willing post a comment out to the public like this?! You need to find help and see how much suffering these people are going through! I do care about you because I believe that you were taught that these people are bad or you were bullied or abused and I just hope you learn to love people. Please just delete your comment and confess that you made a mistake and you are going to do your hardest to be kind and good.
I edit it because I forgot the + but besides that nothing else changed.
Gracie Dolan That's what my mother told me before I lied my way back into my closet.
Weak
The dad the whole time: "I SUPPORT YOU CHILL THE FUCK OUT I LOVE YOU, BUT WHY DIDNT YOU TELL ME SOONER, AND PICK UP THE GOD DAMN PHONE."
Bubbles Wilson that's what I herd, I herd a father that loves his child regardless,
Burzumhem Dead like...like a *herd* of cows? ooohhhh heard. yeah go back to 2nd grade
seriously? wtf did I do ,to deserve that? try and be nice to the libtards , and this is what I get.
Bubbles Wilson wtf her dad will always remember her as Jason
Haily Homer he is still a boy and doesnt put him in a girl position
‘but that’s not who i am...’ 😭 💔 omg also ur voice is adorable
I KNOW RIGHT
Ikr
Danny Gonzalez yeah I wish I have her voice
Oh Drew. I didnt know you were here. Why is your picture of danny tho?
🙌🙌👌
I swear you guys complaining about the dad misgendering her are giving me cancer.
He needs time do adjust.
It's one thing to adjust it's another to outright deny someone love for being themself.
J C la la land is wonderful huh? Fuckin tweaker.
J C which he didn’t do so youre comment is irrelevant
For real fuck the labels the dad is still showing Love through all the struggles . Shit I’m a crossdresser planning to transition in the far future and if people wanna call me Michael idgaf they can call me IT for all I care . I’m happy :)
Right? That take times, it is not everybody who can go so easly and already making an habit to call you by your other name. Jeez! People are never happy tsss .
The father is already a good parent to support and love her. But nooo, not enough ...-_- pathetic
You can tell he loves his child. So much. He's struggling to make sense of everything. It can be tough (depending on how you were brought up, your culture, religious beliefs, etc) to understand this particular situation. It sounds like this man is guided by life long religious principles. He is trying. You can hear that he really does love his child. No matter who she is. I think he's confused and trying to put it all together. The hardest question for a lot of parents to answer is "why did this happen?" Stay strong, beautiful. He will come around.
__LP__ Exactly!!!! I feel like she was hard to him. He was trying so hard and he still loves her and support her even bought a guitar I mean...there are fathers abandoning their kids for being trans, her father was EXCELLENT !!!
__LP__ Right, like with the name too. I understand that it's hard to hear your birth name when you're transgender, but it's hard for a parent to completely ignore the name that they chose out for you. I'm sure he will come around even more at one point.
TheDeadliestUnknown Sounds like someone needs a hug.
TheDeadliestUnknown I actually paid for my entire transition and for me to live on my own. I battled my entire life to be who I am; I've experienced homeless, prejudice, racism, etc, just because of the person that I am. if it's one person who knows what she wants it's me. But thank you for input and thank you even more for the view. 😘
TheDeadliestUnknown She's financially independent and can do whatever she wants with her life. I assume you're a man. Her living authentically as a woman for the rest of her life is the same thing as you living as a man for the rest of yours.
I think he's saying "you'll be Jason to me" because to him you'll be the same to him like you won't be different in his eyes. You'll always be his kid. So glad he was so supportive and loving 💜
Clarezy May this is exactly how I took it when he said it! ❤️ I just don't think he used the right words to explain what he meant x
Clarezy May that's how i understand his words, too, but it's so relateable that she tooked it wrong in that situation, because she thought he would not support her. And if you raise a kid, and year later it tells you he/she is not the one who he/she was Born as, it's pretty Hard and room some time. I hope and, After all we heard in this call, I guess he will try Ing to u drrstand it better and maybe will call her by her real name and accept her completely as the Person she is now ^-^
Clarezy May yeah I think she was just upset because he was saying he accepted her but at the same time wasn't by still calling her Jason
Clarezy May. Thank YOU someone understood!
Clarezy May thats exactly what i thought when he said that!
I haven’t seen many MTF trans people, honestly If I saw you in public, I would never clock you as a trans. I think you are very beautiful, and it’s great that you can accept yourself, you’re very inspirational. Honestly you are way prettier than me, I’m really jealous
You're not ugly you're a gorgeous human :)
Hi, I'm a trans man and I really love your sentiment! However I'd like to give you some friendly pointers on how to compliment trans people in the future. I can see why you would think saying someone doesn't look trans is a compliment, but a lot of the time isn't seen as such. Many trans people who don't pass can feel invalidated, or "less" trans. Just saying they're pretty works! Again I really love your intentions, just wanted to give some guidance!
@@fuckwit107 yes, yes, im aware of that now :) i think everyone is beautiful no matter what they identify as whether they pass or not. I actually came out as a trans identifying nonbinary at the start of this year 😊
@@Sour.Lemonz Oh radical!! There's so much personal growth in this comments section, proud of y'all.
I’m 13 and I’m a male but want to be a female but don’t know how
The dad didn’t do anything wrong. He obviously doesn’t know how to react to this, he’s still supporting her and is accepting it. He even said so. Idk why people are talking shit.
Flex2slick it’s not a mental illness. 😤🙄🙄
For me at least, it's common for people to say "hey, I support you....BUT...." and say exactly what the issue is here.
Most of my family has been this way and even some of my friends have too. They'll say they support me, but claim that they just want me to be androgynous, pick at every bit of myself that makes me insecure in my masculinity, and go as far as to say "[deadname] is your name. That's who you are, and that's what I'll call you." and do way more things than that.
Sure people can say they are supportive (and I'm sure the dad is supportive), but everyone has something to nit pick about things like this and act like it doesn't hurt the person telling them this. Words can be powerful and so can names.
@@daddyndaughter6106 It isn't a "mental illness." Educate yourself before saying stupid shit.
@@IronShredder I love your answer you are great
@@daddyndaughter6106 what a pussy that can't even give an answer
People are bashing her dad. it's honestly so damn hard to comprehend and wrap your head around the whole thing. I have a 17 year old transgender son. It took me a long time to understand. I'm going on 56 and it was so uncommon back in my days that when I first heard it it was almost bizzare. But for my son, I tried my hardest to do the best I can. I started calling him Nick instead of Danielle , but it took me 3 years. This is very difficult and especially for parents and grandparents. Now 8 years later he is my son and I no longer see him as my daughter. This is very hard to see your child change to someone else. Its very hard but I love him. His happiness is all that matters.
You can't expect them to automatically say okay daughter! I love this new change this is amazing I support you! This hurts us too. Not because it's wrong but just because it feels like a lost. Imagine living with and raising your son and he one day tells you he is your daughter. It hurts us too, but we love our children.
Bless you. It can be hard to fully understand the situation of your child. The fact that you learned to accept him and call him who he wants gives me hope😁
Will you adopt me? I'm joking, my parents aren't very accepting but I'm here two more years, so I think I can last. I would love to hear dad call me his son, but I don't think it'll ever happen.
Robin Sezen That question made me cringe in every way possible.
Robin Sezen No, I am a man trying to make other people see me as a man as well. I am a man, some people just don't see it that way.
Damn that almost made me cry.
Sounds like a good dude who wants to be supportive
Politely Enraged Gamer I feel sad for the dad..the phone hangs up..and he wants to shoot SOMONE...fuck this dud..you will always be Jason and a boy
Mountain Mistakes Fuck you???
Politely Enraged Gamer ikr
Ikr
Politely Enraged Gamer But he won't consider saying her name
SHES SO PRETTY WOW I AM S O GAY
I feel that 😭😤
U look it
i know.
@@zach4936 yucare
@@tye4895 I didn't say I did care tf u on about
"I wanted to kill myself for the longest time"
I want to hug u so bad omg...my mom died when i was 10 and she was the only one who would accept me....keep fighting sis maybe one day we can all be accepted as human💔
nawhwwh sorry this has nothing to do with your comment but
SKSKSKSK YOUR NAME
CRANKGAMEPLAYS
DAN AND PHIL
AND TØP
YOU ARE MY COPY
@@lex4103 lmao😂
💕💕💕
Ok 1 love ur name ||-//, 2 I'm so sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss
"if God tells you to do this it got to be for a reason" I love this
Lion Serpent the first time i heard someone in this situation use god to accept someone.I thought it was rlly cute.
Cindy Pollard Maybe not, but you can tell he is trying to make her feel better
I'm Christian. And I get it. People are scared of doing what they feel is right, or doing what makes them happy because they think it will dissapoint God. But people need to realise that everything happens for a reason. So if you really have faith in God, just let it be.
KlarClara God doesn't exist and there is no such thing as sin.
Samael Where's your proof? Of course we can't prove it. But neither can you. It goes both ways.
I really like this dads reaction. He is definitely trying. It's going to be hard for him to automatically start calling her by a different name. But you can tell he's seriously trying so hard to understand and be there. I have respect for him.
B I can tell he does not like it but he is just trying to be the best dad he can
@@Network126 You don't understand because you don't have dysphoria.
@@lyndonleedalee1738 oop someone said it
but he kept calling her Jason. that was bothering me.
Lyndon Leedalee It's not dysphoria. It's dilusion.
"maybe God wanted you to be like this and it's who you are. so you be proud of yourself. because I'm proud of you too. okay?
and I'm with you. a hundred percent."
gdi I almost started crying. this man deserves no hate. he is trying to support his daughter and needs time to adjust. good on him.
@@mmarvel2003 No, that's just not how being transgender works. *She* is his *daughter*.
@@mmarvel2003 no her name is Olivia because she now changed her name to Olivia
@@mmarvel2003 Her name is (I think) Olivia
Your dad loves you, he may not completely understand, but with time he will, he loves you and accept you, thats the important, he really triyng
Hey guys how far away are we love one another a different angle minor rights even or not exact opposite of you I love you respect you honor you and I here I'm just razon equally angry mad or sad or any kind of way I want to be the boys people that wish day set them up as someone feel like the little bun and self and feel like it's worse than you are on your own cuz they took getting here I want it want to feel are your feelings adult about this and that and our people and people don't want other people so I want to I am open arms personality person that does not I love everyone all equally all the same even your a different calling everybody out there for color your all beautiful marijuana card or sword or fat I still love you anyway and I still love you and I'll help people that like the someone shot him up and pushed him out of the way and for your face before getting rid of old by someone's purple words and bullying I want to speak up campaign one day hopefully from her when I was getting bullied and hurt but other people cuz we get hurt if you like you mad at Eric people before like you want to push him away and surrounding face, names go up and ring on that so hope you guys are okay and probably not calm people that being bullied or feel like they've been Littles work being pushed out more like from home and his people know where I am I feel so sorry that they had a rough time at home or any type of things happened home and I care if it's someone Tarak didn't care but you have to say I do cuz I want to help people that
I have a transgender brother (born female) he is 14 years old and had multiple suicide attempts the last one was the worst..
he is still having trouble to go on in life, because of a similar problems like mentioned(bullying or family support) this video made me cry so much and gave me hope that one day the father of mine can accept my brother..thank you for posting this video!
i wish you the best of luck and success in life ♡
Sahra Eleah you are such a good sister.😊
princess jin thank you so much !!🌹
Sahra Eleah I hope your brother will be okey and you too of course I wish you all a beautiful happy life ❤
Sofia Rtrsrtrs thank you so much 😘 i wish u happiness and a good life🌼🌼🌼🌼🌹🌹🌹
Game Gamer thank you🌹
I came out to my mom as trans in December 2015 and the first thing my mom said was "I'll never see you as my son." Now she's actually making attempts to use my correct pronouns and name. Took lots of time & explaining but she's finally starting to come around. I wish you all the best with your dad and your transition.
Oh my god she is absolutely gorgeous.
Y’all need to stop being rude to the dad, he’s trying to understand something that’s very hard to comprehend. I think what he meant was that you will always be his child and no less of a person than you were before?
At the end, when her girlfriend was comforting her, made me melt because they smiled at Each other and kissed each other and showed there love for each other. It's so sweet ❤️❤️❤️
Truly heart felt.
Such a beautiful couple.
Ikr it was so wholesome i broke down crying, i really need this in my life i want what they have
Fr ☹️
"i'm normal" - the most important sentence she said that shows how strong she is. bless
It’s ‘he’. get that right
Give your dad time to adjust to a new name... he says he accepts you and that's a HUGE first step!! You've taken a giant first step by talking to him!!! Embrace these successes!!! Congrats on your transition and new life... all the doors are opening for you!!!
smiles0901 well said
Agreed, to a point. I don't believe/agree with certain lifestyles but at least the dad is trying, I agree there.
Me:I so relate so much to this
Mom:”yOuR nOt A bOy *birth name*”
Me:*starts crying when I here my birth name
Mom:” YoU cRy tO mUcH tO bE a BoY”
I know I'm a year late but I saw that nobody commented so
*Hugs*
Awh im trans too and I found this pretty funny it’s good that you can make a joke about it stay strong bro 🤍🤍
@@xoll1571Male or female?
Remember me!!! Female 💕
Calm down justin
I'm telling my parents I'm trans soon. But I have no clue how.
Honestly this helped me gain so much confidence you said it so easily.
Your so beautiful. And so brave.
did it go as imagined?
I felt so bad for her when her dad started to call her Jason.
HazelnutSheep him*
Blankphotograph5799 but he has a point
*HazelnutSheep* him*
The Eternal Induction him
The Eternal Induction him*
i feel like everyones dad answers the phone the same way
"Hello?"
hello...
"...HELLO??"
...hello..
"HELLO!??"
edit: oh my gosh ty for the likes i hope ur dads are all doing well and will recognize your voices 😭💕
BobDuncansWife :3 literally my mum.
BobDuncansWife :3 my dad answers like "whats'aht min" (what's happnin)
Lol thats how my dad answers too
BobDuncansWife :3 my dad is like "what do you want" and I talk to him about something and he ends it 😂
BobDuncansWife :3 OMIGOSH EVERY TIME
You transitioned so well! I love your voice too. And this is exactly what my dad said when I told him I want to transition, he said whatever you become or are you will always be my (insert real name here)
My respect for her dad: 📉📈📉📉📈📉📈📉📈📉📈📉📉📉📉📈📉📈📉
Well said 😬
Him saying that you will always be Jason, to him, is a parent thing. It's not meant to be hateful or hurtful. He even said he supports you and accepts who you are.
Donald Stevenson yes it’s great and we understand that but they have to understand that it does hurt.
Very off topic but the profile pic you have rn i used to have as my lock screen and my instagram pic 😂
Hi, Jae... I'm a mexican writer, I'm bisexual so I understand how hard it is to come out. See.. I'm writing a LGBT book, it's poetry, actually... And this video inspired me so so so much! Thank you! stay strong! You're a beautiful woman. Much love :)
Melissa Cornejo You're *AMAZING* 😊👍
Rosie Brown Thank you so much!!!! ❤❤❤
Melissa Cornejo id love to read that ❤ im lesbian. everyone i know knows that i am and most people dont want me to be lesbian they wish i am straight but im not. i used to be bi and they know that. so they still think i could be with a guy.but the truth is i was only bi as a form to fit in because i tried to deny myself because it is hard. but i love being different and i love my sexuality. mainly my moms the only one in my family who fully accepts me,but she has to lol....shes bi. but people say if im happy then they have no choice but to accept me bec happiness is the most important thing.
Melissa Cornejo I just came out to my friend last night as bi. she's the onky one who knows.
I know thts off topic ok bye now
Pacify That Crybaby thats great. ❤did she take the news happily? i hope so.
When her voice started cracking and she was on the verge of tears I started crying...I wish I could give her a big hug.
EDIT: When she said she wanted to kill herself...damn I felt that. I'm balling my eyes out. I just want to give her a hug.
If you feel like there's someone's out there in the world that feel like they're alone for you to pick up there or what happens in Fast and I'm open person and I care about our feelings other than myself I've been charged for Daiso different reasons and Clyde love people even there like restaurant us to love you even when you mad at me not liking Trump I'll still love you anyway even you be angry with me at pushing me away I will come
The dad is pretty understanding imo.. yes he may be old school but he ain't disowning his child... or saying to not do that... watch from 5:03 to 5:23
I'm still a closeted trans girl, this video hit me SOOOOO hard. People like you give me hope. ❤ Sending love your way.
Name Unknown I wish you luck with coming out when you're ready. I know it's scary and it's hard but you can do this. you got this, girl
You're a dude.
gore and you're an ignorant bitch :)
Just let people live how they want! If a cis boy wants to be a woman let them be just that!
Big Bosseseses you have the most fucked up close minded mind
you and your girlfriend at the end made me so happy, she was so sweet. this whole video is so sweet omg i gonna cry
Thas is one cool chick.
I'm still confused. This is a once male who's now female and has a romantic girlfriend? So this is a transformation to be a lesbian?
Denise T Sexuality and gender are two different things.
SkytaskyGaming You seem to be confused.
Yes, both are biological, in that they are both possessed by biological entities, rather than say, a calculator.
Biological sex, Sexual Orientation, sexual expression, and gender are all different things.
All of them are rooted in biology.
And some of them are influenced by our desires and choices.
In that someone can be born with a brain and personality that does not match their genitals.
And some are ambivalent, and can choose. Not all can.
Imagine if you woke up with the wrong genitals and appearance tomorrow.
how would you feel.
That's how a lot of trans people fell, from childhood.
Does that make things clearer?
King of Pop Exactly what causes the variation in human sexuality is not completely understood.
It has a genetic component, a hormonal component, and a psychological one.
It's not under your control, nor is it wholly genetic.
Research is ongoing.
GIRL YOUR VOICE IS SO PRETTY AHHHHH I LOVE IT
That's a lie. You can say many things about her femininity, but complimenting her voice is a lie, and lying like that is the best way to generate new transphobia.
Thingaloo but her voice is pretty??
@@bacicinvatteneaca I’m not lying.. what does this even mean?
@@kittiepuppimeow hypocrisy generates contrarian reaction
@@bacicinvatteneaca your jealous
This is powerful. One day I will come out to my father as trans, I fear him honestly.
no ur who u ben
Hey I’m in the same boat as you. It’s been 6 months I really hope it goes great for you ❤️❤️.
@@justin8354 who's Ben?
my parents told me I'd always be their baby girl but now years later they've told me when they look at me they can only see their son, Charlie. it took time but now they understand and see me as their little boy.
Charlie Zolnai I want that
I want that x2
Charlie Zolnai 😂😂😂😂
Lol wtf
Crazy Sob ?
She's so cute, her smile is contagious.
his smile not her.
SosaDa'Vinci *her* smile.
SosaDa'Vinci *HER* smile is beautiful, and she's a beautiful person
Michael4ever - Rachel |-/
Michael4ever - Rachel *his
When I saw the thumbnail I thought it was like a ftm coming out before even transitioning like damn sis u pass I'm so proud of u😭❤
I was wrong I will believe that help you would happen but my therapist or anything I want to help people go through the process of hurting and it went by your someone have an argument or someone or someone call you names cuz you been angry for other people and set them out and you. That someone out there to hurt your feelings
@@jamesedwardford589 huh😀
I love your hair. You are killing the game girl. It will take a little bit for your dad to understand. Stay strong they will always be people who don't like it.
If I were her father, I would respond by saying, "I HAVE NO SON!!! So daughter, how is life treating you now?"
WebVMan him.
Typo “I HAVE NO DAUGHTER!!! So son, how are you doing
Jonathan Moss ass
Galactacium I wouldn’t want to see his
Brian Zmolek Well truthfully that's transphobic and it's all about which gender the person feels, and doesn't matter biologically what you are. You can be a toaster of you want. You aren't hot tho, that's the thing, so that's one thing you'll have to improve on, mabey a few plastic surgerys will fix it. Being trans is about how you feel and then transitioning to the gender you feel to stop dysphoria get the most of you and lead you to the edge of suicide.
You are so brave, you did it! And you two are so adorable, glad to see that you have people who support you
Her dad is saying he accepts her but he won’t acknowledge that Jason isn’t who she is anymore! Please don’t feel like you ever want to end your life! You are beautiful for who you are and no one should make you feel any differently x 💛 x
My father was exactly the same as yours at the beginning, but now he's more supportive
YOUR VOICE IS SO SWEET
Lightforyourfaces she sounds like a monster
SHE SOUNDS LIKE EDEN THE DOLL
IKR ITS SO SOFT AND DELICATE AND JUST AAGH
Lightforyourfaces you are soo right
Lightforyourfaces It sounds like Diana from Wonder Woman!! I love her voice!
I hate it when certain family members tell me, "I love you and support you, but you will always be (deadname) to me."
Courtney Fleming well it takes time to process this type of stuff :p
I don't know about anyone else, but personally, I hear in the dad using her birth name, he's using it because it seems he feels he's losing this child and he's scared. Although I understand and have 100% respect for the person dealing with it, I think they have to understand that the parents are going through it as well, and particularly in this case, it sounds like he did not see it coming so he will need time to get used to it. Personally, I would call someone by any name and use whatever pronouns that they would like me to but I think when it comes to the parents, trans and non-binary people need to understand that its not just them going through it and especially for the parents, no parent wants to think that they haven't realised that their child has been going through something so big on their own. I don't necessarily agree with everything the dad said ie religion and the name and pronouns, but I do hear a father who loves his child, has genuine concern for her mental and emotional wellbeing and is doing the absolute best he can to support her and love her in a situation that he doesn't understand.
Damn give them a break? At least they are trying to attempt on growing instead of saying "get out of my life". Gotta give people time, most people are like that.
Its easy for me to call them by there new name but pronouns take a while. I don't mean to be rude if i "misgender" someone im just stupid lol
Courtney Fleming calling someone by their old name brings the person losing their child peace and some closure.
I feel like he was trying. It’s good that he’s trying and accepting her. Some dads would shut her out or disown her. Give him time and space to adjust. People have to remember that when it comes to older generations they weren’t really raised around many people who are openly lgbtq+ . Many who are accepting still do not fully understand it and may have lots of questions so you always have to be prepared to answer any questions and shut down any false assumptions. It takes time and even when you come out it’s still not over. Well wishes to you and your loved ones 💞
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so incredible, literally in tears😭💛
How is her skin sO PRETTY HOW?!
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I'm currently going through this exact thing with my mom. Thank you so much for filming yourself at such a vulnerable moment. You took that conversation in stride, you're so brave. While speaking to my mom tonight, I broke down sobbing for the longest time. She said very hurtful things. But it's because she doesn't understand, she's confused, she's upset, she's not quite sure what she should do, what her role in my life is now... I love her, so much... it hurts me more than anything else, more than I can express, that she is resistant... but at the end of the day, she tells me she loves me... and I'm hopeful it will get better. I hope it got better for you.
He needs time, but it broke my heart seeing the way she was devastated when he called her the wrong name. You are amazing, beautiful and strong, I'm proud of you girl.
You'll alway be the same person to him. I think that's what he's trying to say.
I don't think he was trying to be rude. I think that's what he was trying to say. :)
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Lee is a he The name is very important to her. Being called Jason.. Saying that she is only Jason, can't be called something different, is actually pretty fucking rude.
Quinn Winchester but that's not what he was saying.
He's saying she'll always be the same person to him
Quinn Winchester well although he changed his name, appearance, and voice...she is still a guy! no amount of medication can change that. these people have a mental illness and the treatment is transitioning. I'm fine with that, but people have to stop pretending this is normal and recognize that this no different than diabetes.
LIZZY THE ROTTWEILER no they don't have a mental illness, she is a she and won't be a a male they *TRANSITIONED*, and it's disrespectful to call someone something they aren't and clearly you sound like a homophobic.
Oh my god, the part where you said "I didn't choose this" made me cry...and then your dad said "God is looking at you, he put you in there. You're okay." This is great 👏🏻☺️💓
IM NOT CRYING YOU ARE!!!!
I’m so lucky to be able to know you and be apart of your journey and I can’t wait to see you tomorrow
Sydney Houghton what
If he insists on calling her Jason, she should cut him off
Who? Where's the she? I see a man wearing a wig, and his father
I've never watched you before, but I'm proud of you, I hope your future is as bright as your smile💕
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Aww this girl is just so beautiful just the way she is.
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Jack Frost What is your problem? You're just actively trying to offend people, beautiful and handsome aren't gender specific, and she's a female
Charlie Brayson no he is a male not a female not trying to annoy people
Jack Frost You have no right to decide someone's gender
Charlie Brayson i know i don't he was born male so he is a male i didn't decide god did ☺
I'm really crying rn because I feel relatable. I mean after I came out both of my parents don't accept me for who I am.
But you, your dad at least still care about you...
I'm so jealous of you and so happy for you. :')
I DONT KNOW YOU BUT I ALREADY LOVE YOU ! You’re beautiful don’t ever stop being YOU ! Be YOU and be PROUD ! Always do what makes you happy, you’re happiness comes first ! Self love is everything ♥️ you’re so strong ! Love you for this video and being so open. I know it’s not easy xoxo
@Gaz Roberts shut your fuck
This broke my heart so much. Seeing you cry like that 😢
It seems like your dad can't seem to let go of 'Jason' which is understandable as he watched 'Jason' being born and raised him for such a long time. But he also says he supports you which is a good thing right? At least he doesn't hate you. Keep strong and one day your dad will accept it fully and call you by your real name. Lots of love 💕💕💕
she was never born a male in the transgender communitys eyes?..
Chloe's Gaming Channel what
+Chloe's Gaming Channel No. Thier innate sense of self was female. Their body just didn't match.
Think of it like this: Your mom is black. Your dad is black. Your siblings are black. Your culture, life and friends are black.
But, you have a skin disorder that makes your skin white.
Are you black?
If there was a treatment that could fix your skin, so you look the way you think you should, would you take it?
Same sort of idea. She's a woman.
But she was born with the wrong hormones and genitals, for whatever reason.
And now she's working on fixing it.
wouldn't you?
+BornAgain happyfriday sorry, but no.
A: not evil,
B: nonexistent people have trouble doing anything, let alone 'saving' anyone.
+BornAgain happyfriday Clearly? Nope. Sorry. Not clear at all.
What business of yours how somoene esle chooses or needs to live their lives?
What does 'god's opinion matter, when no one can even show that it exists?
Abomination? This is the same bible that condones killing unruly children, human sacrifice, abortion, slavery and genocide?
Not sure a follower of that religion has any business telling anyone else about morality.
Fuck that. Fuck you also.
Her dad doesn’t seem to understand that calling her son and Jason still is not accepting her, her dad seems like a pretty cool person but that makes me sad
twila502 aj He'll understand eventually. The best thing she can do is just let time pass eventually he'll fully accept her
ThePOKERJEDI I'm a Trump supporter bruh
twila502 aj but he is a he he is biologically a he
Pronouns are not biological indicators. Besides that being trnsgender is a biological issue so one could make the argument that she is biologically a woman.
Male & female refer to sex and can never be changed
Man, woman, boy, and girl refer to gender.
Pronouns refer to gender
It takes time
That made me f*cling cry^^" It's nice to have a father like this, who is supporting and accepting you. And I think that sometimes he calls you with your right name. I hope that all the good stuff happens to you, you deserve a happy life. The thing is that I have also a trans gender friend. I accepted him from the beginning and supported him the whole time, we are like best friends, so I could understand and I hope that others understand how you feel.
You are such a beautiful girl. I hope you'll find acceptance from everyone. I hope he realized how much he hurt you, his own daughter
whoa, you're actually a really beautiful girl. im extremely sorry your father is the way he is. atleast he still loves you. it sucks, i know. but you'll get through this. again, atleast your dad is accepting, and maybe one day he'll understand.
Chad Eats Pasta no he is a deformed man
Its a guy....not a girl.....
SHE'S a girl. If she says she's a girl she's a girl. She has female hormones and her name is Jae.
adiosAuxiliator are you dumb that's a fucking dude not matter what
What more do you expect from him? He had a son, raised him, loved him, gave him everything he needed and even now fully supports him. Its his son, that's who he knows, its basically the same thing like when a dad tells his daughter that no matter how old she is, she's still his baby girl. Its not about him not accepting the change, its literally whats in his heart.
this is both heartbreaking and heartwarming at the same time.
Damn...that profile picture gave me a fucking heart attack!
wow, your daddy loves you so much. What a cool dad you have and what a brave girl you are.
I came out to my mother and she was cool too. Thank you for this video, it touched my heart.
Your dad seems like he’s really trying, like he wants to get it right for you. A lot of people won’t see that it will just take tome for him to adjust. I came out recently to my whole family they still use the wrong pronouns and name but it’s okay I don’t expect them to get it right away. So I wish the best for you in your life and transition.
Also I couldn’t help but say that you’re a gorgeous girly who deserves so much. Lotta love ❤️
I could really tell your dad cares about you a LOT. He isn't the most eloquent when it comes to comforting you, and he doesn't always say the most empathetic, calming things, but he really does care about you, which is fantastic :)
It hurts me when transgender people are still called by their old names 😭💖
It's a big deal for some. Not for others.
I imagine it's related to how much stress it causes them.
Itsjussangel I'm transgender and I get it that people find it hard to call you on your preferred name and pronouns but after 1,5 years everyone calls me Nick and when they call my old name on accident it's okay, when it's on purpose it's not and I speak out about it immediatly.
CHloE748 stfu
+sonoki82 Bullshit. If they are trying to do the very difficult thing of establishing a new identity, against the opposition of people like you, You don't think that people's refusal to accept their new identity makes things harder?
As to depression, if you had the wrong body, and were verbally attacked, and sometimes physically attacked *by people like you*, you don't think that's likely to cause stress and lead to depression?
Quit making a difficult thing even harder.
Try not to be an asshole.
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12:16 a question every good dad asks.
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I understand this and as someone who still isn’t out to my dad this makes me want to try but Im 99% sure Ill be told never to come home if I do. I am so happy for you. I wish I could be as strong as you, but I never will be able to be that strong I’m 100% certain that my dad would never talk to me again the same way my mom is. Its hard to force my voice anymore when I talk to my dad, I understand that you want him to call you your new name but just what he said is more than 80-90% of people will do I’m dead named daily at work, if I could get my dad to say “I accept you” I wouldn’t get mad if he never called me Skye or Schuyler a day in my life as long as I know that someone in my family could still love me. I’m so sorry if this comment feels like I’m making this about me. Its just this is so powerful and makes me wish I could be this strong.
i HATE it when people are like "he was born a boy he will always be a boy" like i was born a baby but i'm not a baby anymore and Jae isn't a boy she's a girl
If you were born with a penis you will forever be a male, even if you chop it off!
If you want with phones out and stuff and I didn't feel like they're here or there anywhere but here because who likes full like you're angry mad at other people in like he's like all the feelings out and what's going to happen if lick your friends out in the opening and it's like oh I have feelings too you know I feel angry and mad I didn't say I didn't trust routing for someone or pull someone here but you feel like you get angry and mad how to parent rating height of people that they can
Don't worry your dad just need some time, you are a pretty girl and he will understad it.
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@@dieowo4549 Unfortunately this is incorrect. She's a woman according to science, because gender is in the brain.
Not a girl
Marta he isn’t a girl
16:13 the way she smiles and says again😖😖😖. I’m not crying, you are 😭😭💜💜
If you feel like suicide taking in these what you want in yourself but don't people love you the owner used to care about you even the slightest detail when if you want pray for the time and that was holding you you're nothing but your God loves you so much you don't want any happen to you or if you can suicide or hurt so much hurt yourself or you stopping to hurt them they care about you they don't want you to feel like the feel like you want to hurt yourself or even slice thinking about hurting yourself in someone that cared about you I care if you feel that way and I'm sorry it was the people had no that's my thinking I'll help people go through this is not
this is so raw and your passion within pursuing who you are is something that i can only imagine having and going through. i’ll support you until the end of time, and i understand the fear of telling your parents something that you are unsure if they’ll accept and support on a smaller scale, and that is something i have yet to concur, and i respect and look up to you until the end of time. keep doing you always💖
He's telling you that he supports you, yet he calls you his 'son'. Hopefully it's because it's a shock and he will get there soon. Also, when he sees how you look he's going to be mesmerised!
Tezza The Poetic Guitarist my mother fully supports me, it just takes time to change pronouns and names
because son coincides with his, or “her”, sex/gender. it’s simple. i could care less if someone wants to live their life as a female, you’re still gonna be a male but i don’t care what you have going on in your head, just don’t force society to bend to your will just because you don’t understand biology
Members Only Media "just because you don't understand biology"
Oh boy, you guys are the only people and totally not biologists all around the world.
Tezza The Poetic Guitarist the problem is, I don't think he understands.
I wish I had a girlfriend like that, so maturing and kind, they're such a beautiful pair. You're so strong baby girl❤️ I hope one day that I can do the same
This made me cry.
Im so proud of you. That hug your girlfriend gave you, really hit me. You’re so lucky to have a relationship like that.
Im proud of you.
That was hard to watch. Your dad is a good parent. He was crying at the end. He really loves you. I hope your relationship continued to evolve with him.
poor girl her dad is sending such mixed messages i really hope he can learn more.i wish her only the best
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@Jonathan Castelino girl* 👀
@Jonathan Castelino girl~*
@Jonathan Castelino what is with people asking about other people's genitals like the fuck?
My step mom always says that she will never see me as a boy until I get all the surgeries and I'm like ??? what if I don't want bottom surgery?? Like top surgery sure but bottom surgery ruins your sex life and isn't worth it and surgeries don't determine gender so ??? ugh
Alex Lemay Covers Agree,
What's the point of being trans if you never cure the dysphoria, what's the point if you're never going to advance in your transition, what's the point if you're not getting testosterone and bottom surgery for your SEX LIFE, hence causing more dysphoria since you're having sex with genitalia that doesn't fit you in the first place
Jackson Sarber Not all Transgender have Dysphoria you dipshit. not all Transgender want Top/Bottom Surgery. not all was *T/E* to transition. some are comfortable with their body, just switch clothes and done. don't speak like you know all this shit cause obviously you don't speak for others experience. I met plenty of Trans who are comfortable with their body and some who aren't which who suffer *dysphoria* .
WAR IS SLAVERY! FREEDOM IS PEACE!
Trans people can love their body, but they can also have dysphoria. Dysphoria isn't hating your entire body or self.
Alex Lemay Covers it's not worth it for a ftm person to get bottom surgery. There's so many risks.
Hey, just wanted to say, thank you for sharing this wonderful personal moment. It's absolutely not your obligation but you did so anyways...many cheers to you.
Everyone is saying this isn’t a good father for calling this person jason but you have to understand he raised and cared for this person as his SON with the name of JASON. He says he supports her as trans he just doesn’t understand what she is now, it’s just as hard for this father to see his son change into his daughter as it is for her to tell him. I also don’t blame the mother for leaving for the same reason, it takes a lot to see someone you raised and love not be that person anymore. Goodluck to her and her family
That's exactly what my parents say to me.
"You'll always be *birthname*. You'll never be my son. "
And it hurts.
re-fucking-tweet. ~lukas
You need to realize that they hurt just as much as you.
For them... they lost their son or daughter.
Think about that next time. Maybe you are hurt, but they are hurt too. All that matters is that they still love you. Parents never accept 100% the choices their kids make. That's just parents being parents.
being trans should not make "parents be parents." we are coming into our own. we are becoming the person we are meant to be. they should know that we are still their child and we will now be happy. ~lukas
TriggerWarning I'm a 100% agree with you!!! Is exactly what I wrote,it is not only one's journey ,is your family's journey as well,and will be for everyone you decided to involve in, she had to be more conscious on her father's feelings and be Happy because he still loves her and he is supportive and he's trying so hard to understand and be with her. I can't believe she doesn't believe in God, Are all trans people not God believers???
Jack Elliott thats how my boyfriend's parents are, but I was like "okay here's what we'll do..." and I moved him out, and now he lives with me and my parents, his parents don't have any contact with him(their choice) I helped him get started on testosterone, and get his top surgery, and hes so much happier now I'm so happy I got him out of that toxic household
you're the strongest girl I've ever seen. Be proud of yourself you're beautiful
Big Bosseseses and you are a dumbass.
Big Bosseseses No, She is a woman
Coline Nowakowski "woman" *insert meme ARE YOU SURE ABOUT THAT!* 😂
+CHloE748 so punctuation, not your thing huh?
and yes, she seems pretty sure about it.
Big Bosseseses If you disagree with this why would you watch it?
I recently accepted that I'm a Trans girl, my best friend helped me and slowly I'm trying to come out with my closer friends, but still I'm so scared to came out to my parents
I know they may accept it, but I know it might be hard to understand (like her dad, that accepted her but still doesn't know how to act about it), it's such a hard process, but watching this really gave me some of that courage that I needed
I know you didn't upload this with the objective to make someone feel like "I can do it", but to me, really touched me and makes me really wanna go on, because I wanna feel happy of who I'm and watching people like me being able to do it, really inspires me
Thank you, this mean a lot to me
This is incredible and so real and raw. Thank you for sharing all of it!
It seems like her dad wants to understand, but because of his background and the way he's brought up, he's struggling to. I find it sweet that he still loves her, even if he is still calling her Jason. Maybe he'll get it and start calling her Jae one day. (Side note: I'm in love with her hair)
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!! You inspire me in so many ways, and this video will inspire so many others. You're incredibly brave for sharing this and you deserve all the support in the world. LOVE YOU JAE ❤️💚💜💛
Gage omg, my diva is here!
*it'sMe TheHerpes* Well, if your telling the truth, watch your ass for assault charges.
it'sMe TheHerpes Fuckin hell, can't believe you have Delirious as your YT banner
Gage Right on the money Gage. Could not have said it better. 💜
it'sMe TheHerpes yknow, i understand your mentality, ive grown up amongst people who feel the same as you. but all i can tell you is that this aint a choice. kids like this dont choose to be this way, thats evident from the suicide rates. and i dont understand how letting them be themselves and leaving them alone is harming society. i will say, society is going to an extremely leftist place, which isnt good. but letting kids like these be themselves isnt part of the problem. id really love to hear some feedback on this comment, im always up for a good, civil debate
That is an honest video. I feel your pain and even transitioning in my 40s, the emotional cycle of coming out is the same.
I’m amazed at your bravery & honesty in sharing this. I almost cried. Bless you! 💕
I feel like your dad handled that really well. New names are hard to get use to sometimes.
"Maybe God wanted you to be like this"
I'm a Christian and many other self righteous Christians say that being gay or being trans is "wrong". The phrase "God made you this way for a reason" is true. I feel like God made certain people gay and made certain people trans for a REASON! It's not wrong! Nothing is wrong. God does hate anyone for anything and he accepts all. I feel like being a Christian is about spreading love. Loving people. Being love.
Yayee P. yesssss....my mom and I had q conversation about Trans people and I said "I think god make mistakes" (as in he put then in the wrong bodies) and she said "No! God only makes what we perceive as mistakes. but are really lessons in love. "
Yayee P. omg i love you.
Yayee P. I'm Christian and I feel the same way
KlarClara, "allah" is just the word "god" in Arabic. When it comes to Christianity, Islam, and Judaism, they all can be summed up as "same god/different messenger". All of these religions are Abrahamic, therefore they originated from the same source, and historians have proven this.
Yayee P. Nope, saying that this is against God's Word isn't self-righteous. It's fact. In the Bible, God explicitly states his stance on homosexuality of all kinds. When people reiterate His Word, they aren't hating or bashing; they're stating facts within the Bible.
This hits home so hard. I have a similar dynamic with my dad. He doesn't criticize me for choosing to transition, but he's clearly disturbed and unhappy with it. He also says he can't see me as anything but his son. When I told him about my decision years ago, he called me crying. Like you, we were never super close. We care about each other, but we don't have an explicitly affectionate relationship. I'm about to have my first HRT appointment exactly 7 days from now and I've yet to tell him. I'm pretty afraid of how he's going to handle it. I think he's hoping that I'm going to change my mind. I feel like he'll come around at some point. I don't expect to be disowned. But, it's beyond disheartening when your father not only doesn't accept you for who you really are, but refuses out of fear of what's truly best for your wellbeing. I understand this is hard on those around us as well, but I hope and feel that your father will come around and completely accept the real you. They'll never be able to understand what this is like, but he clearly loves you and wants you to be happy and I, as I do with my dad, have high hopes that seeing the change in our quality of life firsthand will ease them into full acceptance. xoxoxo
Ok this is the first vid I’ve seen off of you and I always look at the thumbnail first and OMG YOU ARE HONESTLY THE PRETTIEST GIRL I HAVE EVER SEEN 😍😍
Kid I know guys but some people like doing things by we are with what it is when it is not in things goes to different ways this way. Wade Green type of way that I feel like I just asked you in the world no one is the world doesn't hate you he loves you and I one loves you so much they they care if there's people around you to love you