The Struggles of Fighting Obesity | My Obese Life (Full Documentary) | Only Human
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- 20-year-old Shannon is a size 22 who celebrates her curves by selling lingerie to larger ladies, and Jess tries to lose some of the pounds she has put on through comfort eating.
Documentary examining the body image issues of three overweight women, including Shannon, who runs her own business making lingerie for larger women.
Director Mark Beech
Director Kayleigh Smith
Executive Producer Kerry Brierley
Executive Producer Elaine Hackett
Producer Mark Beech
Producer Kayleigh Smith
Series Producer Ruth Binsley
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Just wanted to say as a person with a healthy weight, when I see a larger person out walking/running or working out at the gym all I’m thinking is, “good for you!” I’m not judging you, I’m in inspired by you.
I'm overweight and I give kudos to people bigger than me who can go to a gym or take their shirt off at the beach. I know it's something I would never have the confidence to do.
same. I’m never judging them in a negative way, I’m proud that they made the decision to show up and make the effort.
Same
Me too
SMarie; Wow, so as a supposed reg sized person you’re inspired by overweight folks hitting the streets? How egotistical! And what do you call a healthy weight? Is that your diagnosis or a doctor’s? You most assuredly are judging other people. By thinking that your weight is healthy and theirs ain’t. Don’t care how ya word it Sis! Inspired? Gimme a freaking break already Dollface. A larger person? Good for you for feeling it necessary to sound off here with your analysis.
I can say with 100% honesty that when people are at the gym almost everyone is too busy dying to notice anyone else. I had that exact anxiety back when I started, now I make it my mission for people to know that it’s fully internal, no one is judging you or even watching.
Fr only time I look at people in the gym is when someone deadlifts, I see someone I know, or a girl my type. And even then it's 4 second glance max
This isn't related to weight, but when I came out as non-binary and stopped shaving my legs and underarms (I still look like a woman even though I'm not feminine presenting) the gym was actually the first place I felt confident to go in shorts. I got a couple of stares the first few times but you're right, most people don't even notice. It's actually a great place to go if you're insecure about any aspect of your appearance.
This is so true. Someone nearly DID DIE at my gym because they couldn’t get out of a deep squat and no one noticed they were struggling and shouting for help because everyone had their headphones on and were focused on themselves 😂 thank god there was a staff member nearby
I'm a 6'5", 260 lb body builder. When I see bigger people working out at the gym and chat with them, I always encourage them. I'm happy to help them for every part of their journey.
the men grunting 😂 on the weights is so ridiculous, it‘s a show for some but most have their headphones on and keep to themselves
I must have been watching too much Foodie Beauty and Amberlynn because the first thing I thought was ‘these women don’t seem that big’
Ha ha right
And my 600lb life, so same!!
I thought it was only me!!!
Lol
Your right!
Omg its sad to listen to Naomi, she is beautiful and seems kind and still doubts why someone would be with her. It's ok if someone wants to lose weight but dont lose your confidence, you are worth of love!
I thought she was more attractive than her boyfriend to be honest.
@@senoritaaurora5123 me to x
Tx for making me feel good..
All 3 are beautiful on their own way
P PM
"My school had a no bullying policy but I was getting bullied and they did nothing about it so what was the point" i felt that so deeply.
I think that there's probably an army of people feeling that with you 🙁
The teachers just want to get through the year with as little hassle as possible. If you don't fight back yourself, you can't expect anyone else to do so.
@@anonmouse15 often that's not true. teachers will try to do things about it and be dismissed by admin, or told to turn a blind eye. I was a teacher and saw bullying and unfortunately every time I tried to go to administration to actually do something, I'd just be told to destroy the documentation. they punish teachers for trying to help the kids.
Bullying got so bad for me I had to call the police. That's when my old school took action.
@@goodnightmyprince6734❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I'm not even halfway through but listening to Naomi, it's just so heartbreaking. There is more going on there than just her weight -- I hope her boyfriend is truly loving towards her. Relationships should have more trust.
People like to believe bullies are often misunderstood and bullying because someone bullied them or their just "hurt people" the truth is some people are just rotten to the core and they often run in groups. Poor kid x
Bullies often reflect what they learn from their parents.
Ignorant and unempathetic people get children and can't raise them to be a normal person, because they lack the knowledge themselves.
Sometimes bullies were bullied or feel depressed an stuff,,, I was mean to a girl once an i felt bad about it but i was unhappy very deep down sad and other ppl were being mean to me at school, I didnt knnow why i did it tho it was pathetic,of me, i felt bad about what id said to her an i was trying to be nice an friends with her after that time ,,,, I really liked her alot even when i was being mean to her that time,,, messed up i know
Or they’re just telling the truth 🤷🏻♀️
@@trishmagenta883 let me guess, you're the bully in your "friends" group!
@@aron1632 Lmao facts are facts. No one cares about your feelings.
Shannon seems to confuse "enjoying life" and "eating oneself to death"
And sadly by time she realizes it, she will be opting for surgery to save her life. You don’t have to be “on a diet” to lose weight. You can eat anything you want, just in moderation. I’ve been both sides of the spectrum due to thyroid issues. I’ve kept more than 100 lbs off 20 years and I’ve never starved nor gave up certain food items.
Shannon's parents are both big - I think a common problem with being overweight is when you grow up with both your loving parents are overweight, it really normalizes it for you, solidly in your subconscious. There's far more to it than that of course, I'd guess that obesity comes from multiple factors incl. the western diet and the copious amounts of sugar we eat
Yes. I know a lot of families where the kids are somewhat overweight and mostly it seems to be due to the parents- also larger- having normalised huge portion sizes at every meal. There doesn't seem to be a lot of awareness in the UK or US now about what is 'normal' re: portion sizes.
Funny enough I'm the only overweight person in my family. Even growing up I was the only one on a diet while the rest of the family would eat bowls of ice cream.
@@maidahaltrecht6577
Ugh, so sorry to hear that. Parents being overweight is certainly not the determining factor, it's only psychological while there's probably hundreds of biological factors - some of us just need less food! I only have one meal a day, one bowl at dinner time, and I'm not skinny
I don't know if you can say it's love go make their child obese
@@muckyducky666
Saying I said "it's love" is an oversimplification - why couldn't parent's be a contributing factor?
A big one
Very similar to average weights being higher in different parts of the country. Parent determine a massive amount of who you are, and not just biologically
I really love how there was no judgement in this video or commentary. Just 3 overweight women sharing their personal stories and living the lives they want to live. So refreshing to see different perspectives.
I'm curious how Shannon will feel about being bigger as she gets older. She's really young so it seems the health issues associated with obesity hasn't become a problem yet. I say this because I have people in my life who, like Shannon, were very happy being bigger and had no problems with having more curves. Then, they either got old enough (usually in their 30s) or big enough that their weight started to severely affect their quality of life i.e., lots of difficulty and pain walking and moving, sleep apnea, internal organs not working correctly, not being able to do anything without being exhausted quickly, etc. My bigger friends ended losing a lot of that excess weight so they could enjoy life again, instead of being mostly immobile and in pain. It became more of a necessity than a vanity issue. They're still on the bigger end and still love their bigger bodies, but they're a lot healthier now and more full of energy to do things that they want, so we're all happy with that. There is no perfect body size or weight, but there is an ideal range of how your body should function and that looks different on everyone.
I do think obese ppl have a shorter lifespan - let me look it up before I pass on any bad info - it's roughly from 2yrs to 14yrs shorter lifespan depending on how obese - morbidly obese ppl rarely make it past 55yrs old.
I'm not bothered by seeing obese people nor do I blame / have any less respect for them, I just want them to know that they CAN be more fit if they want to - but how to tell them that without upsetting them :/
EVERYONE should practice self control. There will definitely come a point when Shannon regrets her choice.
@@chaparra71
this is an entirely simplistic and non-constructive sentiment - that is sadly everywhere. 'Just choose the "right" thing... or you'll be sorry".
You cannot just CHOOSE to not have a problem that you're having. That's the freaking definition of a "problem".
@@schmoborama You can choose to stop eating so much
Yeah anyone that big young will have multiple chronic diseases by the time they're 50.
I’m Shannon from the documentary and I’m fat, I’ll stand up and say that. There’s a lot of things that the documentary didn’t show. I’m happy whatever size I am, I’ve been smaller and I’ve been larger and I honestly couldn’t care less. Happiness comes from within not from how I look 💕
Dear Shannon, you are still very young and health issues aren't showing yet. But believe me, they will ruin your life in no time. I have a friend who thought like you do. At 40, huge issues started to show up : high blood pressure, diabete and of course no chance to have a baby. It's all right, if you do not want to have children. But swallowing huge amounts of pills isn't the solution either. My eldest sister has always had weight issues, my brother and I hadn't. She lost a lot of weight after 40 to avoid harsh medication. Now, she's fine, still overweight but not obese anymore. Do not think about your figure, think about your healthy future.
You say that happiness comes from within, sure. But is there any happiness when you are on very severe medication ?
@@misstoujoursplus thank you for the concern Christine, I’m permanently disabled due to no fault of my weight, I take multiple medications a day. I don’t eat that unhealthy my main issues are I skip breakfast and lunch and only eat my tea but then I have binge eating disorder. The documentary doesn’t show the years I spent at slimming world trying to lose weight, every time I ate I would calculate the syns in my head and it made me miserable. The documentary was also filmed 4 years ago a lot has changed. Just because I’m happy the way I am doesn’t mean I’m not trying to lose weight and be healthier. It means I’m happy regardless of my size 💕
@@shannonnicolequinn685 Thank you for your very honest answer. The issue here is : why are you binge eating ? I couldn't start the day without breakfast (well, in France, we do not eat very much at that time , but it's helping against binge eating...). You really should be helped not by a dietetician (it's absurd) but by a good psychologist. There is something else you should try : find something to do that you would love, anything (nothing very athletic, just a hobbie). It helps to change your mind. My sister does gardening, she loves it and she's not binge eating anymore. Good luck :)
@@misstoujoursplus I developed binge eating disorder when I was younger and I am with a psychiatrist :)
There's always the "do this do that" brigade trying to pretend like they care about your health. At the end of the day you know what risks there are with being overweight you don't need to be told, and if you're comfortable as you are then that's what matters the most. You do you. X
Naomi, he’s with you because he loves you, because you are beautiful, because you’re kind, compassionate.... I could go on. If YOU want to lose weight to feel better, you go for it. But nobody will think any different of you if you didn’t.
I don’t think so anyway.
A pretty soul and beautiful heart, are much more important ❤️
Don’t put yourself down. Do it because you wanna do it, or because you’ve chosen to make that healthy choice. Who you are will not change either way. X
Absolutely well said mate. 👏 totally agree. She’s so likeable it made me sad to listen to her say things like that. 😩
@@finlaymackenzie6678 same she seems so nice.
I agree you are a pretty girl
She should buy healthy choice frozen meals
Skipping meals does not cause weight gain, sugar and processed food does.
My baby sister is morbidly obese. She never talks about it. It makes me want to cry thinking that she may have such awful thoughts and feelings about herself. Let’s all be kind.
Keep telling your sister that you love her 💕
Shannon's mom and dad are obese too, so clearly it wasn't just what the doctor said to her, but also being raised by people that do not know how to eat healthily as well.
Why do you assume it is "unhealthy" food?
Genetics really does play a part with body type and metabolism but those with those bad genes have to work much harder than the skinny folks.
its tragic when someone "embraces" their obesity
For anyone wanting to achieve a thigh gap- some people's bodies just won't do it. I'm 5'4 and at one point I weighed 7.5 (105lbs) stone and I still didn't have a thigh gap. I really wanted it back then but now I realise it's not possible for everyone. Don't hurt yourself to achieve something that's not possible.
I didn't have an ED I was depressed and wasn't eating. But I saw it as a good side affect it definitely wasn't
sorry but thats actually a misconception. anyone can achieve a thigh gap
@UC5gWudP_u6U4PunBu2Xv7Bg I have a thigh gap too and I dont think it’s sexy either. I like mine because I think it looks pretty and it makes me feel cute and small, but I have an ed so.. most people arent gonna feel the same way about it i guess. I’d go more in depths about it but it doesn’t feel right to discuss my disordered thoughts in the comments of a youtube video like this
@@str4wberryshortcake yeah I'd just have to be 80lbs
@@emmah4309 which thank god your not honey 💛
@@elvesnspells7774 yeah I'm a healthy weight now. Going to the gym and eating healthy I actually like myself now:)
Don’t understand why people say they suffer from anxiety and darent go to the gym….but go on film on the telly.
Naomi is so beautiful. Wishing the best for these three lovely girls
Just for any bigger girls (or boys) out there, 6 months ago I was a size 22. I am now a size 16. It can be done, but it does take a lot of focus and energy. You have to plan what you are going to eat every day. I have combined nutrition with online walking workouts.
I found the best plus size clothing on Shein
Naomi is so sweet and the way she talks about herself is so heartbreaking 💔 Wanting to lose some weight and improve your fitness is great, but I hope she also eventually sought some counselling to help build her self confidence ❤ And I hope her boyfriend showers her with love and affection everyday no matter her size ❤❤❤
Part of it is we associate female insecurity with sweetness. So women are conditioned to act & feel insecure so that they attract sympathy. We’ve got to start seeing confidence as sweet
@@drrush3421 I think I understand what you are saying, it's considered quite arrogant to be confident so most people would rather be self deprecating. But I think Naomi's insecurity stems from associating thinness with self confidence and beauty. In my experience being thin never made me happy though, I hope she gets the support she needs now 💕
I think the confidence will come with the weight loss. It always does.
@@drrush3421 No, I think you're missing the point. The sweet part isn't that she's feeling insecure, the sweet part is how her boyfriend is able to comfort her about her insecurity and also how much she actually cares about him.
While I do not agree with Shannon's POV on weight I do appreciate the fact that she was given the chance to have a platform to share her views.
When I see someone who's overweight out walking or running for fitness, I only cheer them on in my head. Nothing but respect for someone who gets out there and grinds.
My heart breaks for Naomi. I am a recovered anorexic with serious anxiety issues. My lowest weight was 89 pounds ( I am 5 ft. 7 inches tall.) It literally destroyed my health. I am now 160 pounds and I am so happy with my body size. I eat healthy food and exercise but if I want a chocolate bar once in a while I eat and enjoy it. Shannon is an inspiration to women of all sizes everywhere. I wish all these beautiful women every happiness in their lives.
I’m sorry but Shannon is not an inspiration - she is headed for a heart attack before she’s 30 the way she is carrying on. There is nothing inspiring about that. On a separate note, I’m very pleased to hear you made a full recovery and glad you are happy with your healthier body now!
@dianethompson2458 I use to be anorexic also, my lowest was 74 lbs. I have BAD anxiety and now I'm huge from Prednisone for Crohn's disease. I've turned into my biggest fear. Now I'm 189 lbs and uncomfortable all over my I refuse to buy myself clothes and will not wear anything tight, low cut or short. I wear mostly jammies and jogging pants. Also long baggy T-shirts and sweatshirts my self confidence is like Naomi's. I have no clue why my husband is with me, but he is. I love him very much 💗
I have lived with a heavy..man for 32 years...what a total sweetheart he has been ! !...I feel like the luckiest woman in the world ! Do not judge a book by its cover ! ! Love only see's the heart ! ! All physical beauty comes from the heart ! Just be kind ! ! !
I was an obese child. I was severely bullied and I thank my mother for being frank towards me. She also dropped me in a gym and left me there for two hours. I did that everyday. She also restricted my diet. No fast food or fizzy drink. I lost the weight and my health was so much better. I think half the battle is that most parents are afraid to tell their kids the truth. Most of the parents of these obese children are overweight themselves. Hence eating problems is obviously a family problem. I was diagnosed with PCOS. Combine that with my IVF, i gained some weight. My husband decided to do intermittent fasting with me and eat healthy because he's afraid of me getting sick. It is such a sacrifice and a lifelong commitment to be healthy but a good support system who are willing to tell you the truth is so much better than someone who just wants to coddle you.
These girls are so brave for sharing their story with us. Please learn not to judge other people, you have no idea what someone is going through and what has led them to use food for comfort.
All the best ❤️
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please don't judge school shooters, u have no idea what they r going through that has led them to violence 🙄
@@alexbaranowski9315 oh come on, get a grip! that is a ridiculous comparison.. people who comfort eat are only hurting themselves.. school shooters are taking lives.
@@alexbaranowski9315 Are you seriously comparing a school shooter to someone being overweight? Please seek help.
@@trishmagenta883as a bigger girl yourself, you should appreciate the support and acceptance
"Enjoying yourself is what life is all about." -- Shannon's father.
Wrong.
Refusing to exercise self-control, having no foresight and indulging with impunity leads to gluttony, which is what's being celebrated in that remark... and no amount of feel-good mantras are going to mitigate the dire effect on health that await.
Preach!
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It seems like Jess is surrounded with people who love, support and care for her, her friend Lucy and her boyfriend, her brother, she's already in the right path and I hope she uses her advantage of a support system to really lose the weight and above all be happy with herself. Naomi seems lovely, such a beautiful and gentle lady and i assume that's part of the reason her boyfriend love her. I hope she gain some confidence and realize she doesn't need thigh gap, she just need to get healthy physical and mentaly.
I really hate the way diet culture has turned deciding to turn eating healthier into this “miserable” thing you have to force yourself to do. At the end of the day it’s about learning how to cook healthy and delicious foods and portion control when it comes to high calorie foods. I still have things like cake and pizza once in a while but I’m not stuffing my face with it. You don’t have to deprive yourself to live a healthy lifestyle you just have to be careful not to over do it with dessert and junk food
Same, I was once overweight. Lost it by walking, and using a sledgehammer.. so true, I eat Pasta dishes, curries, burgers. Just cook healthy. Weigh out my food. And even tonight I had a personal size Domino’s Pizza once in a while isn’t gonna kill.
What the documentary doesn’t show is that comment was in relation to the several years I spent with slimming world and it made me completely miserable, looking at every food and automatically thinking of syns. It’s not that I eat unhealthy all the time, I skip breakfast and lunch which is a big issue and the I have binge eating disorder which again is a huge issue :)
And not relating to food as a way of emotional outlet, plenty seem to have an emotionally drive of punishing themselves or rewarding with things they eat.
Preach! I usually have a really healthy appetite, the amount of comments I got already about eating “bunny food” .. or “you don’t have to be on a diet, you know?” I AM NOT ON A DIET, the way i eat is my diet. I do love sweets, a lot, but i won’t constantly buy them, because they are not good for me, I rather enjoy them sometimes
mainstream media/culture is quite toxic if you care, you can and should eat everything if you like too but in moderation, go eat pizza cake,drink a coke nothing wrong about that in particular.
everbody is different and so is the right way to gain/lose weight, losing weight isn't a race as gaining weight isn't a race, keep it steady you can come to the finish line one way or the other.
changing diet > making a diet
I love Shannon’s confidence! Her saving grace now is the fact that she’s young. Very unlikely that she will be content and happy at 35 or 40 because inevitably the health problems will be an issue.
Lucy and Jess sound like wonderful friends. What a blessing it is to have a friend who is there for you when things get really tough. I wish them both the happiness of their friendship for life.
I need a friend like that
As someone who goes to the gym 4/5 times per week, I don't see someone and wonder 'why are they here', or 'they shouldn't be here'. If anything it makes me happy when I see people coming to the gym and they are probably at the start of their fitness journey, whether that be someone who is seen as overweight or underweight and looking to build muscle. I appreciate how daunting the thought of a gym could be, so knowing that those people have over came that and are putting the work in to make a positive change in their life is great to see.
We were all there at one point and to alot of people's surprise, the gym is a lot more friendly than people probably think. I have no problem at all with people asking me for tips, or ideas etc.
If anyone who is just starting at the gym is reading this, keep it up and remember that the days you don't want to be there are the days that matter the most. I've never did a gym session and came out wishing I didn't go and just lay watching TV.
Good luck and keep it going 👌👌😮
"Life's about enjoying oneself.!" and the result of such a faith.
God it breaks my heart watching this, I can relate to all these girls on so many levels. I remember crying everyday, not being able to look in the mirror and at one point I didn't leave the house for a year because of my size and low self esteem. I've lost 12 stone since then and my mental health is so much better, I did it for myself but I wish I could tell my old self that even though I was bigger, I was still worthy of love and life! All these girls are beautiful inside and out, whatever size they are.
Love yourself. No matter what you weigh. When you love yourself, it makes taking care of yourself so much easier
Look at Shannon's parents, they encouraged her to overeat--enablers.
Girl, I‘m a size 10 (EU 38), sometimes size 12 in trousers and I still don’t have a thigh gap. My legs get really sore in summer when I don’t wear anti-chafing pants under skirts. I don’t think it necessarily has to do with your size, but also with your anatomy. I know girls who are size S and still have chafing legs!
Yes definitely I’m a size 6 or xs and I don’t have a thigh gap either xx
@@evecatherine1445 I’m a size 4 and still don’t have a thigh gap. You can lose all the weight in the world and not have one. It’s bone structure xx
Exactly. I'm 157cm, 70kg (154lbs) and an AUS size 12/10 (size 8/6 in America) and I have a tiny tiny thigh gap.
If you are obsessing about an idiotic "thigh gap", you need mental help because you are broken.
@@aruglaempire2518 Tell that to people who are
A monk once gave me some life advice, "If you look around and don't like the life you're at, only you can change it." 🙏 keep it real, I'm proud of those helping themselves, I pray for those who can't. Life happens once, you're here now, make it count. 🤘🌺💚
I am 5'7 and was size 14 most of my adult life and felt exactly like Naomi. Now that I'm size 10 and ill, I see how much life I lost worrying about other people opinion.
A size 14 is a lovely healthy size
@@mollymcbride2481depends if they meant size 14 UK or size 14 US.
A size 14 in the US is equal to an 18 in the UK which wouldn't be considered typically healthy.
But I do agree a size 12-14 UK is a good size 😊
Stick thin
@@itsmochicakesHow can you know, though? People come in so many shapes and sizes. My mother in law is thin, but she has big hips. IDK her size, but possibly US 18 due to hips. But so thin otherwise.
I'm so sorry you're sick💔😞🫂
Girl, he's still with you because he loves you. Not all men are shallow idiots.
I love seeing overweight people working out/walking/jogging! It makes me happy for that person! It means that person is trying to better their life and take control of their health. That’s inspiring and many unhealthy but still regular weight people should learn from!
I have gained some weight this year and I was terrified to go to the gym. I'm barely overweight but my confidence has been so low. However, it took me like 2 tries to realize no one at the gym gives AF about u. There's people of all sorts. It's a haven for promoting health and well-being.
having a thigh gap simply shows that your upper leg bones /sockets are set a bit farther apart in your pelvis.
Even when I'm 15 pounds overweight I have a thigh gap.
If your body isn't structured that way, exercises won't do anything.
I'm convinced that the thigh gap thing was a marketing ploy for the beauty/ exercise/ diet industry.
All a person should consider is their health and believing/ knowing that you look good and are comfortable with your body.
When I was 10, and only a little chubby, but alreeady shy, my teacher drew a lopsided rectangle on the blackboard. She then called on me to stand up, and announced to the classroom that I must have sat on the dented rectangle. That was the beginning of my 4 year anorexia battle, and lifelong eating problems.
That's messed up, I hope you're recovering well
What a cruel teacher!
Wtf. I hope you are doing well now!
It's almost unbelievable how some teachers take delight,( or used to,) in being so cruel to children and I hope you are at a happier point now. I won't ever forget one of mine asking who would like the role of Cinderella in the end of term class play when I was also your age, and without thinking my hand raised up. The teacher turned his head to me and said ," Cinderella is little, like Debbie, Verity and Judy are, not big like you!" I felt so embarrassed and ashamed to think that just for a moment I had completely forgotten that I was the shortest but chubbiest little girl in the class, how could I have done something that was so stupid of me to do? It was most likely because Debbie, ( who the teacher picked for the part ,) hadn't reminded me that about my body in a while at the time!
Sorry that happened to you
If parents are obese then 99% of children end up obese. The bullying by other kids and outsiders just aggrevates the problem further. It's a never ending cycle.
I used to be 271lbs. My daughter was starting to gain. She doesn't all star competition cheer and is a base. She has a lot of muscle mass. I've lost almost 100 pounds in a year. My daughter has lost 15 pounds. Small life changes add up to huge results. You have to want it
God, watching Neomi struggle is like watching myself in highschool. Even though I have perfect body right now, I still feel so insecure about every imperfections just because I used to be overweight in highschool..I hope she is doing well and I send her my full support ❤️
Not sure what “perfect” says about us all
I used to be 250 at 5 foot 1. I wasnt really depressed about it but i knew it wasn't healthy. I'm now 202 and its slow progress but still progress
I always say that to my future wife about “finding someone else” but she’s taught me what love is, I’m not even as big as I use to be but I still have body dysmorphia and struggle with how I think about myself but my fiancé tells me all the time “I love you so much, it’s not what’s on the outside because your heart makes you beautiful”. I would have never known love if it weren’t for her.
I'd like to speak out for all the skinny women who get bullied just the same. "You're so skinny! You must be anorexic or anemic or on drugs"... Can we all just stop? No one will ever be satisfied. As long as you are.. one life is right!
To anyone reading this. If you're working out, eating or doing whatever, regardless of your size, I'm not paying attention to you or thinking anything negative unless you are rude or obnoxious. I prefer polite people when I'm out and about. That's it. Everything else is irrelevant. I believe this is the way the overwhelming majority of people are. We are busy getting on with our own lives~
i sincerely hope jess is now healthy and happy today, bless her and her family
These girls are sweet ,honest and I feel for them. The kindest thing is support them in their journey to reach their healthy weight. I don't believe in telling people to accept their size if it's not in their best interest or well-being .
I wish these ladies all the very best 💖
I'm 60 pounds overweight and I went to a nutritionist last week. She told me to stop all calorie and sugar drinks immediately. Also, she said 70% is what you eat and 30% is exercise.
She’s right.
It's actually 0% diet and 0% exercise. Nothing has a proven track record of failure over the long term than diet and exercise. Everybody gains the weight back and then some because diet and exercise don't solve the problem of the chronic disease of obesity.
It's one thing being confident in yourself, but people have to realise that excess weight will eventually cause health problems
Agree, body positivity should be based on making healthy choices regardless of weight
Wanting a thigh gap isn't always achievable. It has to do a lot with your bone structure. Not all skinny people have a thigh gap. I have a healthy normall size, I don't have a thigh gap and I don't have thigh chafing.
I have a thigh gap but I’m tiny, yet I know girls skinnier than me who don’t have one
If you obsess about a "thigh gap" get some help because you are mentally ill.
I have a tooth gap. Does that count?
I’m a size 6 uk and don’t really have one
All through school I was bullied to the point of actually being tortured on a daily basis. Nothing was done about it. I became so self hating, so anxious and suicidal.
😡😡😤😤. I’m so sorry to hear that. Just horrible…
I am also so sorry that you went through that. 😢
One of the biggest lessons I've learned in my life is that satisfaction is a journey. Don't give up on something because you aren't completely happy yet, look for those small progressions that you are making. Maybe you have not lost any weight yet, but that fact that you started exercising and have stuck with it is a progression. Same with playing piano or another instrument. You will not master it within a few weeks, it takes time, but you are better than you were when you started every time you do it. We can apply this to anything in life. When the long term goal seems to big, just try to be better than you were yesterday and you will see, things will come in time
Thank you for this
It's difficult to change your eating habits, It's like changing a big part of your life but when u start seeing the result of your hardwork, u will realise that the hardwork is worth it, just don't loose hope and everything will be fine.
P.S:- I am writing this from my own personal experience, I was 120 kg But now I am 60 kg.
Naomi is a beautiful and sweet girl! I hope she gets to a point where she is happy with herself regardless of her weight
I'm hoping Naomi stopped the contraceptive injection. I had the same issue when I went on it but as soon as I stopped the weight fell off. My doctor was shocked lol
That dad saying life is just about enjoying yourself may well bury his daughter, what a dupe!
Naomi, you are beautiful and it's an addiction I can relate with. When I used to drink heavily, I would hide it because I would be judged. I felt ashamed. At the end of the day, you do what's right for you and it ain't nobody's dirty business! Thank you for being so earnest. It's refreshing to see people being real in this day.
From my understanding over eating is just like any other addiction which can spiral out of control. Wish these girls healthy happy futures x
Exactly
Thank you ladies for sharing your stories. What an inspiration you are to others. I personally think all three ladies are absolutely beautiful.
"It's just Jess" I think that was love, not a discount of who Jess is. As in "I don't think of Jess as a size, she's just Jess. My best friend."
I wasn’t plump when my partner met me but I have gained quite a bit according to me but he still loves me and just laughs when I comment about not being beautiful.
He reminds me he loves me and tells me I’m beautiful. He hates when I comment negatively about myself and says it’s rude to him as well. Be confident in you and the right person will be as well. Naomi you are beautiful with a cute personality. Be confident, trusting, and adventurous.
Naomi is gorgeous!!! It’s great she’s working on her health but the way she talks about herself and her body breaks my heart :(
Atleast she been honest
Shannon can't possibly look in the mirror & think that's attractive. Naomi on the other hand is extremely attractive. I'm more like Naomi that wants to hide the flab rather than flaunt it as having it all hang out it looks hideous. She's got the right idea
I’m so sick of fighting my weight problem since I was 35. Thank goodness I was a normal weight in high school so I wasn’t bullied. I’m now 68 and the fight continues
Your age is inspiring and it is never too late to change your lifestyle and become an even better version of yourself.
I feel bad for Shannon. Confidence and self-love is great but don't try and find it through the "sexual liberation" of buying lingerie and "eating whatever you want". True self-love is doing things that are good for your body, mind and spirit.
Please don’t feel bad for me, I’m living my best life.. my comments on eating what I want was in regards to slimming world and how toxic it was for me ❤️
Best comment on here so far
She’s allowed to explore and if wearing lingerie makes her feel sexy, then good for her!
@@shannonnicolequinn685Shannon I love u!!! I’m literally the beauty standard and I look up to u ur so confident I hope u are well
Jess is an amazing sister and daughter! And Naomi has a rwally awesome calm vibe bout her
Shannon: "If I could change my height I would." Amen to that. Five foot nowt here and forever wishing my mother had picked a taller guy to have kids with, lol.
You ever seen drag race uk?
@@Amber-oc9ih Nope. Not really my sort of thing.
@@bluehydrangea6837 I only asked because ur username is the same name as my fave drag queen haha, just a coincedence i guess
@@Amber-oc9ih Oh! Ha ha. They probably got it from the same place I did: Lana Del Rey. I'm a huge fan of hers and love both the colour blue and the flower, so it seemed like the perfect name to use for my log-in and my weight-loss blog. Plus it just sounds like a really pretty name! x
@@bluehydrangea6837 It is a pretty name :)
24:25 "You only got one body"
Well, exactly. So you should take care of it, don't you think?
Holy moly I can’t tell Shannon apart from her mom 😮 they’re like clones of similar ages.
yes I thought the same thing!
Shannon will hopefully come to her senses when she gets older and the excess weight becomes more physically challenging. I was the same size as her and had had enough when I got to age 59, especially when I learned that staying as I was would likely take 6 years or so off my life. Doesn't seem to matter at her age....age 50/60 is a long way off....then one day you blink and there you are.
Naomi must be tall, at size 8-10 clothes for 11 stone weight. My weight is 10 stone and I'm size 12-14. It's amazing how much height makes a difference.
I just said the same thing. I’ve just turned sixty and now, even though I haven’t increased in weight, everything wobbles anyway. I feel like it was five minutes ago that I was 30 and my skin held everything together. But, you know, youth is definitely wasted on the young.
Oh, and I’m 5’10” and I used to be 10 stone and was a size eight at that weight. I’m nearer 11 stone now and am a 10 on the bottom and 12 on top. Height really makes a huge difference
I'm 5 feet tall and used to weight 176-180lbs. I am now 125lbs give or take and to this day I will still occasionally hide a candy wrapper because I feel bad about eating it, worried that one candy will make me revert to old ways. Losing weight for me was/is just a much a lifestyle change as it is a mentality change to get at the root the cause and heal from what brought on the gain in the first place and coming to terms with it in order to move forward. I
I’m 125 lbs and I don’t have a thigh gap! I have narrow hips so my thighs rub together, every body is built differently ❤
14:55 dont have that stuf in your house. you cannot eat it, if its not there. I have no weight issues whatsoever, so I might be wrong here. But if my partner wants to lose a few pounds after christmas etc. we usually agree of no junk in the house.
If I want a snickers, I can easily eat it outside or at work :)
As someone with an active BED that's resulted in obesity I hate to say this so cliche but it's really not as simple as that. If the food isn't at home, believe me I'd go out of my way to order large amounts of take away food and binge that. Or I'd go to the shops, end up getting carried away and buying so many bad snacks, bringing them home and then eating till I felt physically sick. Even if I have plenty healthy food in the fridge, I'd still order take aways. Then the amount of guilt that comes afterwards hits you like a punch in the face. It's infuriating because really I know better than that, I know what's good for me and what's not. I'm very educated in what a healthy lifestyle and diet entails but that doesn't matter. It's a coping mechanism, and emotions kind of take over sometimes. Especially after stressful days at work or just an overwhelming day. Therapy and seeking professional help is THE best way to try and work on less destructive ways to cope. I can't speak for everyone else with a BED but that's my experience.
@@suna2317 Well said
I live on my own, and the key to my latest health journey is dont buy it, cant reach for it, only me that was bringing it home, as you say if I want a treat, its outside my former treat cupboard....
We have to do what helps us....👍
Totally agree, I don’t have it in the house so I won’t reach for it. If you have to go out of your way to go and get it, you’re less likely to eat it. It’s a good psychological trick, when treats are in sight and within reach studies always show people eat more.
My partner loves snacks but he has to miss out on having them at home because of me 😂
All the ladies are beautiful! So proud to see the ones making healthier food choices and Naomi even exercising at the end. Eating to live and living to eat and exercise has made a big difference in my life and I love to see other success stories as well. Much love 💛
I second the comment below mine. I see overweight/obese people working out, speedwalking in the park and it makes me feel like I should give them a high five. not that they need my praise or validation, but more like " Hey there! Get after it, this is a space for you, welcome!"
These girls all have kind hearts, they have faced adversity and grief for being larger then average. I wish them well
I’m all for body positivity but people need to extend that same positivity with regard to what they put inside it.
Joseph & Jess touch my heart on so many levels...!!💘💕
Back then i was only dieting and it was torture. Now I found the balance. I eat whatever I want even if its unhealthy but I control the portion and excersize is a must daily. I also fast on certain days like busy days, im easily distracted. Im so much happier now. I dont see it as a diet, but a lifestyle.
I'm 230lbs. At my heaviest i was 250lbs. I'm desperately trying to lose weight, I want to feel better and look better more than anything else in the world. Actually paying attention to the serving sizes listed, switching from potato chips to tortilla chips, from milk/white choc to dark choc, from cookies to low calorie ice cream bars and fruit has made it 1000x easier to stay in my calorie deficit. It about making smart choices in the supermarket. I get so disappointed when people complain about their weight and know they need to change but keep making the same choice... If you dont buy it, you cant eat it
Snacking is a huge problem. I have no snacks at home or work when I need to drop my weight.
Jess has really gorgeous, long, thick, glossy hair. I totally envy her for that.
No one is ever truly happy with themselves when they’re obese…
Being overweight considerably increases your changes of getting heart-attacks, strokes, High blood pressure, High LDL cholesterol, low HDL cholesterol, or high levels of triglycerides (Dyslipidemia), Type 2 diabetes, coronary heart disease, Gallbladder disease, Osteoarthritis and the list goes on, contrary to how some obese people feel 'healthy', the stark reality is that they may face early mortality.. but it's not easy to admit to oneself that they have a problem and then to go on and address it, it can be a life-long commitment to not only change their eating practices, but to also cut down on their portions.
My mom is 5'6 and about 203 lbs at the age of 83 and her body is dearly paying for being obese.
I wish she had lost weight when she was younger since she wouldn't be in such bad shape today.
I wish these girls the best, and to not worry about looks so much but getting back to a healthy weight to avoid so many problems and conditions and likely an early grave 💛
I’m sorry, but I cannot agree with Shannon, “you only got one body, you might as well be happy with the body you have”.
Of course you should be happy but the great thing about our body is that we can shape it however we want it to be. You can eat anything you want. Moderation and discipline. Consistency.
My boyfriend can eat sweets/junk without gaining weight too, because he only eats a piece at a time. It's called portion control and I can't do it. Thats why I bought him a safe to store his sweets etc in lol. Hes often too lazy to open the safe and ended up eating less of it too haha
I also see that snacks box as very problematic, and getting a safe is a really smart solution.
I'm the same, only good thing is I cant eat dairy so I ask him to buy treats which have diary in them so I'm not tempted !
Do have them at all. After a while you get used to not having sugar and after a few months you cant eat them anymore, because they taste SO sweet that you will vomit.
@@funjunkyy that won't work for me, if I start I could not stop, so instead I stopped cold turkey and now I don't crave it anymore, I still eat sweets sometimes but I only buy specific portions
28:15
I disagree with this sentiment. When I was obese I was always aware of the creeping pains and aches as a result of being overweight. Now I have an athletic build I have a lot of spare calories to go around and not feel guilty eating because I'm more in tune with my body and feeding my gains.
The young lady worrying about her boyfriend don’t you ever put yourself down again you are beautiful and your boyfriend loves you no matter what lose weight for you sweetheart and it will work I hope you do well be happy x
All three young ladies are inspiring, I really enjoyed watching this and hope the girls are all doing well ❤🫶
There is a thing called balance. You can be on a healthy diet and eat out here and there. Can't people understand this. (I'm not talking about people with eating disorders or illnesses, people who think eating whatever they want is okay because life is too short apparently)
It’s funny because I actually do have an eating disorder 😂💕
you've never struggled with food in your life right?
@@nasrinv loll I commented this like 4 months ago, tell me why i struggle with a eating disorder now🤣🤣. I would like to apologise for the comment, I was trying to sound smart idk 🤣. Time flies differently I guess, i struggle with a binging and purging/ restricting disorder right now. Im pretty open about it.
@@nevermind3421 This is probably the first time I read someone apologizing for a youtube comment, respect
@@shannonnicolequinn685 Yes, overeating is a disorder. Obesity is a symptom of that disorder. Life is not too short to fix it.
These women are all lovely and I love their confidence. The girl who wears the clothes that are stylish has exactly the right attitude to fashion and women should not hide away under shrouds of fabric. My only worry is their health - when nothing is wrong with you, you can afford to be happy at whatever size absolutely but when the eight causes health problems and misery - that's what turns me off towards body positivity at any size. I'm not saying you can't be happy being the size you are - just the health problems that will eventually occur.
Why would you wanna wait til the problems arise? No one should be too overweight ever cause the problems will get you everytime.
@@yongkysiaw6597 yet it happens so they can love themselves and work of their health. saying "no one should be too overweight" is pointless because its a problemthat clearly exists
This is why I'm teaching my daughter how to box as I'm not having any bully try it on