I 💯 recommend this technique to every parent I know! I took the classes 17 years ago and it was probably the best parenting decision I ever made. I love the bedtime routine. We have a set time where the kids are expected to be in their room and quiet. If they choose to do something besides sleep that is their choice, but they are still expected to go to school no matter how tired they are. Because of this my kids learn responsibility and to listen to their own bodies. My middle schooler often has activities before and after school and it is not unusual for her to go to sleep at 8 pm on those days. The best thing is bedtime is WAY less stressful and traumatic for everyone. Now 12 and 8 my kids often put themselves to bed before their bedtime. They just let me know they are going to bed. I ask them if they have got everything ready for the next day, and say good night and tuck them in (if they want it). I sometimes get criticism for "letting them have too much control". I just shrug and say it works for us. My children are responsible, hard working, intelligent and very well behaved. I consider that a success...
i love this! I agree.. nowadays, (this generation esp) we, as parents, can't be 100% in control. we have to work with them, build relationship with them but at the same time, establish that we are still their Parents. Allow them to understand that what we do/the decisions we make is out of our love for them. Ephesians 6:4 "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord."
I am preparing for an interview at a preschool that uses Love & Logic. Thank you for putting together this overview because it was so helpful and insightful. Even if parents don't have time to read the book, I feel that it has enough examples that we can put it into practice today.
I agree with most of this thanks for the imput. We must also remember every child is different and act differently. You have done ✔ an excellent job explaining the love and logic approach. Meals are important 😋 😌 so Idk?? About this one?? 🤔 💭 so no denying meals in my household. Chooses are excellent to incorporate with parenting. I always taught chores for the later years but I guess I was wrong?? Which I later found out??🤷🤦♀️.
Tim, on the bedroom time with the "uh-oh" statement, do NOT remind them why they went to their room. It's all about celebrating their return in a good mood. Keep the good vibe. NO reminding.
I have many many questions about this whole thing and a lot of not agreeable with many of those things but the "oh oh this is so sed" is the most annoying things I have ever heard.... put yourself in the shoes of a child when they are drawing something not he wall innocently and they hear that, do you think, they are going to immediately think that the writing on the wall is bed or that they creativity is? Promoting their creativity would be a lot better don't you think and maybe offer them other options to where to draw unto and clean that up with them? so that they reinforce doing something that they made by mistake a something that can be adjust together and you can bond with your child and make using a mistake something enjoyable and even bonding rather then portraying it as being sed, you really think God is going to really care or think that it is sed that one has drawn on A WALL?! have we not done it throwout history a lot? we constantly draw on walls, I understand having a certain amount of decency and a mindful understanding of taking care of the things we own properly. When we broke toys my parents would warn us about being careful with it otherwise it will brake, then OBVIOUSLY it broke, they where never angry but also will not buy us a new one but what they did was giving us some tolls and help us maybe repair it or we would just ask for how we could repair it and they will give us something to do it and that was it, they just reminded us that they told us that it would brake and now we have to deal with that but they never said it is sed, like that sounds really depressing, even as an adult imagine doing something and someone comes along and tell you it is sed.... how would you react, that has nothing to do with empathy that sounds more like pity or even just belittling, is that about the toys not just common sense tho?! why would you take away a toy from your child, if they broke it, they already expreicne the consequences of their actions and one is going to just reinforce that it was a bed thing?
I give treats to girls that brush her teeth??!?!?! no, it s not always about a reward?! why don't you just explain to your child why it is useful to brush their teeth, it has nothing to do with a reward, they are getting wired to think that they should do things only if they get something in return? this whole things sounds a lot like almost turning a child into a people pleaser to be honest, well much more like a parent pleaser...
I 💯 recommend this technique to every parent I know!
I took the classes 17 years ago and it was probably the best parenting decision I ever made.
I love the bedtime routine. We have a set time where the kids are expected to be in their room and quiet. If they choose to do something besides sleep that is their choice, but they are still expected to go to school no matter how tired they are. Because of this my kids learn responsibility and to listen to their own bodies.
My middle schooler often has activities before and after school and it is not unusual for her to go to sleep at 8 pm on those days. The best thing is bedtime is WAY less stressful and traumatic for everyone.
Now 12 and 8 my kids often put themselves to bed before their bedtime. They just let me know they are going to bed. I ask them if they have got everything ready for the next day, and say good night and tuck them in (if they want it).
I sometimes get criticism for "letting them have too much control". I just shrug and say it works for us. My children are responsible, hard working, intelligent and very well behaved. I consider that a success...
i love this! I agree.. nowadays, (this generation esp) we, as parents, can't be 100% in control. we have to work with them, build relationship with them but at the same time, establish that we are still their Parents. Allow them to understand that what we do/the decisions we make is out of our love for them. Ephesians 6:4
"Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord."
I am preparing for an interview at a preschool that uses Love & Logic. Thank you for putting together this overview because it was so helpful and insightful. Even if parents don't have time to read the book, I feel that it has enough examples that we can put it into practice today.
This is great! Thank you
I agree with most of this thanks for the imput. We must also remember every child is different and act differently. You have done ✔ an excellent job explaining the love and logic approach. Meals are important 😋 😌 so Idk?? About this one?? 🤔 💭 so no denying meals in my household. Chooses are excellent to incorporate with parenting. I always taught chores for the later years but I guess I was wrong?? Which I later found out??🤷🤦♀️.
Thank you, this was such a clear outline for practical application.
Tim this is Great!! Can you do a video on Parenting Teens with Love and Logic book?
Precisely what I was looking for!! Thank you so much for the summary! It seemed very well but together :-)
Thx for the advice 😍 have a great day :)
their books have helped me
Thank you!!
Thanks this was helpful!
thank u it really worked
Tim, on the bedroom time with the "uh-oh" statement, do NOT remind them why they went to their room. It's all about celebrating their return in a good mood. Keep the good vibe. NO reminding.
Thank you! Where did you get the audio book format from?
Amazon
Love and Logic has a variety of CDs with live talks and they are awesome!
I have many many questions about this whole thing and a lot of not agreeable with many of those things but the "oh oh this is so sed" is the most annoying things I have ever heard.... put yourself in the shoes of a child when they are drawing something not he wall innocently and they hear that, do you think, they are going to immediately think that the writing on the wall is bed or that they creativity is? Promoting their creativity would be a lot better don't you think and maybe offer them other options to where to draw unto and clean that up with them? so that they reinforce doing something that they made by mistake a something that can be adjust together and you can bond with your child and make using a mistake something enjoyable and even bonding rather then portraying it as being sed, you really think God is going to really care or think that it is sed that one has drawn on A WALL?! have we not done it throwout history a lot? we constantly draw on walls, I understand having a certain amount of decency and a mindful understanding of taking care of the things we own properly. When we broke toys my parents would warn us about being careful with it otherwise it will brake, then OBVIOUSLY it broke, they where never angry but also will not buy us a new one but what they did was giving us some tolls and help us maybe repair it or we would just ask for how we could repair it and they will give us something to do it and that was it, they just reminded us that they told us that it would brake and now we have to deal with that but they never said it is sed, like that sounds really depressing, even as an adult imagine doing something and someone comes along and tell you it is sed.... how would you react, that has nothing to do with empathy that sounds more like pity or even just belittling, is that about the toys not just common sense tho?! why would you take away a toy from your child, if they broke it, they already expreicne the consequences of their actions and one is going to just reinforce that it was a bed thing?
I give treats to girls that brush her teeth??!?!?! no, it s not always about a reward?! why don't you just explain to your child why it is useful to brush their teeth, it has nothing to do with a reward, they are getting wired to think that they should do things only if they get something in return? this whole things sounds a lot like almost turning a child into a people pleaser to be honest, well much more like a parent pleaser...