It's interesting the thing that keeps me most focus is when I'm working on a project I put everything I have into it and I don't look left to right I just keep moving forward usually I'm the type who doesn't stop until the project is finished no matter how long it takes, whether it's sleep deprivation that that is affecting me or whatever but generally speaking that's sort of my saving Grace I have a pretty good work ethic so I'm glad about that, never had any addiction problems I experimented with a lot of stuff but never really got hung up on anything I don't know what that's saying but it is what it is
I am so impressed by your journey. I am am totally aware of how cliche that sounds, so excuse the clumsiness of the words and see the authentic feelings behind them, I'd appreciate it :) I empathize being overwhelmed and blocking or avoiding feelings.
My mom's been gone since 1990 & none of us (my siblings) really have any photos of her. Luckily one of her best friends texted me a pic of her recently. Anyway, on Sunday I posted it to my Facebook as a Mother's day tribute. And throughout the day, I found myself...refreshing the page to see how many likes it was getting 😂😂 Not only that, but also WHO was liking it! I think EVERYONE wants validation to some degree; social media's just another way to get it. So I'm pretty sure you're not alone in this. As far as using your phone to avoid feelings, I can assure you that's quite common too. I know that I use ALL TYPES of media (streaming shows/tv, movies, music) for that very purpose. I used to spend lots of money buying things, THINKING they'd fill the void inside me. And it NEVER worked, go figure 😋 Now I listen to music on my phone, always with headphones & turned up LOUD. Am I trying to drown out the outside world? Or just the constant ruminating thoughts in my head 🤔 By the way, the total likes on my mom's pic? EIGHT🤦♂️
I just found this section on YT where it tells me what comments I haven't responded to! 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ Since my sibling left 2 weeks ago, I've reverted back to using electronics to avoid my feelings... maybe more than ever. How are you doing with yours?
@@HealingWithTheWolfe Hey! 🙋♂️ I'm still using tech to avoid myself 😋 My therapist is going on maternity leave soon so, while happy for her, I'm a bit anxious. I've been seeing her for about 2.5 years now, and we've made real progress together. Because of her, I'm more forgiving of myself; there's a "compassionate voice", as she calls it, to drown out the more critical one. But then something happens & I'm reminded that my issues haven't gone away. They're just always...THERE 😂🤣 Plus I live alone, so I'm by myself a lot. I think staying busy CAN be helpful; might as well use the time productively, right? So I get out of the house daily, do some excercise, touch base with those I love. I recently tried my hand at drawing again 😊 But eventually I'll have to confront my issues; to SIT with them, turn them around in my head & my heart. I think this is what YOU'VE done, and continue to do; using YOUR experiences to show us that there IS a way forward in this life 🙏 You're a testament to the possibility of healing, through love but also by doing the necessary work 💪
@@jazzhands79 Man, few people in the world make me feel better than you do. It's been pretty crazy to me these past couple months to see some of my stuff come back. I don't think I truly believed it was all gone for good, but I did naively hope it might be. It is always difficult when a therapist leaves. While I was in my therapy program last year, the head of the program, who I had several hours/week with, had her mother die. It was especially strange, because, she came back to work before she "should" have, and that actually annoyed me more, because she KNEW I could feel her feelings just as much as she could feel mine. I never said anything about it, but she did end up taking a few more days off after that. Anyway, I feel confident that you will be able to call on your therapist's voice and advice when needed throughout her leave. Will you be seeing anyone else in her place? Of course, Dr. Wolfe is always available... for real and for pretend haha
@@HealingWithTheWolfe Awww Shucks 😌 Thank you 🤗 And I agreed to ONE session with someone she recommended, with the option to continue. And I'm sorry that things came back up for you these past few months. You're in the midst of an ongoing process but look how far you've come 💪 That tells me that you can, and WILL, heal more with time, until the distance between you & your trauma feels even greater 🙏 My hope is that any negativity or triggering incidents are outweighed by the support of those who love you and will be in it WITH you, side-by-side 💪 Sending love to you now, and always 🤗
@@jazzhands79 Maybe you'll like the new person! Or maybe you'll hate them. I think both could be valuable experiences. Sending you love on that! And thank you! Honestly, the events that have triggered me have forced me to address parts of my trauma that I tried to convince myself didn't need addressing--things I tried to pretend weren't real, mostly out of guilt and shame. Because of that, I am thankful for the opportunity to finally accept and address those pieces, and thus release all the difficult thoughts and feelings associated with them 🙏🏻
Interesting perspective! Phones are poison. Even with the best of intentions, you are attacked with ads on web pages that are tailored to your life and struggle. I encourage you (not advice, lol) to shield yourself from those who approach you. You are stunning and popular in your industry. Their words are not authentic! lol Strike a conversation with the people who seen you as a person and not a lay/internet star :)
I just came across your channel and I subscribed.All your videos are so nice and your channel is excellent. You look so gorgeous and adorable as always. Continue the great job you are doing on your channel. Have a beautiful Sunday. Best wishes and take care.
I think there’s an unfortunate co-dependency with tech in general. This is literally why I go camping: a decluttered life, phone left in van - then I consume vast numbers of books - always lighthearted - and play my guitars. But I do try not to drink 😱
@@JamesThomas-zl9er Yes! Camping, disconnecting, and reading is awesome 🙌🏻 Since this video I've deleted (probably temporarily) most of my social media (except twitter, only because it's connected to OnlyFans- but I don't have the app on my phone), and I've gone several days at a time with my phone off. It's so much better!
It's interesting the thing that keeps me most focus is when I'm working on a project I put everything I have into it and I don't look left to right I just keep moving forward usually I'm the type who doesn't stop until the project is finished no matter how long it takes, whether it's sleep deprivation that that is affecting me or whatever but generally speaking that's sort of my saving Grace I have a pretty good work ethic so I'm glad about that, never had any addiction problems I experimented with a lot of stuff but never really got hung up on anything I don't know what that's saying but it is what it is
I am so impressed by your journey. I am am totally aware of how cliche that sounds, so excuse the clumsiness of the words and see the authentic feelings behind them, I'd appreciate it :) I empathize being overwhelmed and blocking or avoiding feelings.
My mom's been gone since 1990 & none of us (my siblings) really have any photos of her. Luckily one of her best friends texted me a pic of her recently. Anyway, on Sunday I posted it to my Facebook as a Mother's day tribute. And throughout the day, I found myself...refreshing the page to see how many likes it was getting 😂😂 Not only that, but also WHO was liking it! I think EVERYONE wants validation to some degree; social media's just another way to get it. So I'm pretty sure you're not alone in this.
As far as using your phone to avoid feelings, I can assure you that's quite common too. I know that I use ALL TYPES of media (streaming shows/tv, movies, music) for that very purpose. I used to spend lots of money buying things, THINKING they'd fill the void inside me. And it NEVER worked, go figure 😋 Now I listen to music on my phone, always with headphones & turned up LOUD. Am I trying to drown out the outside world? Or just the constant ruminating thoughts in my head 🤔
By the way, the total likes on my mom's pic? EIGHT🤦♂️
I just found this section on YT where it tells me what comments I haven't responded to! 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ Since my sibling left 2 weeks ago, I've reverted back to using electronics to avoid my feelings... maybe more than ever. How are you doing with yours?
@@HealingWithTheWolfe Hey! 🙋♂️
I'm still using tech to avoid myself 😋 My therapist is going on maternity leave soon so, while happy for her, I'm a bit anxious. I've been seeing her for about 2.5 years now, and we've made real progress together. Because of her, I'm more forgiving of myself; there's a "compassionate voice", as she calls it, to drown out the more critical one. But then something happens & I'm reminded that my issues haven't gone away. They're just always...THERE 😂🤣 Plus I live alone, so I'm by myself a lot. I think staying busy CAN be helpful; might as well use the time productively, right? So I get out of the house daily, do some excercise, touch base with those I love. I recently tried my hand at drawing again 😊 But eventually I'll have to confront my issues; to SIT with them, turn them around in my head & my heart. I think this is what YOU'VE done, and continue to do; using YOUR experiences to show us that there IS a way forward in this life 🙏 You're a testament to the possibility of healing, through love but also by doing the necessary work 💪
@@jazzhands79 Man, few people in the world make me feel better than you do. It's been pretty crazy to me these past couple months to see some of my stuff come back. I don't think I truly believed it was all gone for good, but I did naively hope it might be. It is always difficult when a therapist leaves. While I was in my therapy program last year, the head of the program, who I had several hours/week with, had her mother die. It was especially strange, because, she came back to work before she "should" have, and that actually annoyed me more, because she KNEW I could feel her feelings just as much as she could feel mine. I never said anything about it, but she did end up taking a few more days off after that. Anyway, I feel confident that you will be able to call on your therapist's voice and advice when needed throughout her leave. Will you be seeing anyone else in her place? Of course, Dr. Wolfe is always available... for real and for pretend haha
@@HealingWithTheWolfe Awww Shucks 😌 Thank you 🤗 And I agreed to ONE session with someone she recommended, with the option to continue. And I'm sorry that things came back up for you these past few months. You're in the midst of an ongoing process but look how far you've come 💪 That tells me that you can, and WILL, heal more with time, until the distance between you & your trauma feels even greater 🙏 My hope is that any negativity or triggering incidents are outweighed by the support of those who love you and will be in it WITH you, side-by-side 💪 Sending love to you now, and always 🤗
@@jazzhands79 Maybe you'll like the new person! Or maybe you'll hate them. I think both could be valuable experiences. Sending you love on that! And thank you! Honestly, the events that have triggered me have forced me to address parts of my trauma that I tried to convince myself didn't need addressing--things I tried to pretend weren't real, mostly out of guilt and shame. Because of that, I am thankful for the opportunity to finally accept and address those pieces, and thus release all the difficult thoughts and feelings associated with them 🙏🏻
Interesting perspective! Phones are poison. Even with the best of intentions, you are attacked with ads on web pages that are tailored to your life and struggle. I encourage you (not advice, lol) to shield yourself from those who approach you. You are stunning and popular in your industry. Their words are not authentic! lol Strike a conversation with the people who seen you as a person and not a lay/internet star :)
I just came across your channel and I subscribed.All your videos are so nice and your channel is excellent. You look so gorgeous and adorable as always. Continue the great job you are doing on your channel. Have a beautiful Sunday. Best wishes and take care.
Thank you! ❤️
Wow! So impressed by this video
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Seems to me you need to find a high quality traditional man and start family.
I can't tell if this is a joke or not....
I think there’s an unfortunate co-dependency with tech in general. This is literally why I go camping: a decluttered life, phone left in van - then I consume vast numbers of books - always lighthearted - and play my guitars. But I do try not to drink 😱
@@JamesThomas-zl9er Yes! Camping, disconnecting, and reading is awesome 🙌🏻 Since this video I've deleted (probably temporarily) most of my social media (except twitter, only because it's connected to OnlyFans- but I don't have the app on my phone), and I've gone several days at a time with my phone off. It's so much better!
No gym anymore? After Covid crisis?
What?