It's so awesome that you're pushing back against the whole influencer-excess wedding trend!! Opting for a simpler, more meaningful celebration is a truly wise decision. Your wedding is about the love you two share, not the show, and that's something to be admired!
Appreciate it so much thank you! Now don’t get me wrong… I LOVE witnessing / watching / attending all of the fabulous frivolous wedding life but it’s just not for us! If it were up to Dejan and I, we would simply do ~nothing~ at all and go frolick on a beach somewhere 😂
I've been married for 35 years, my dress cost me £70 and my Mama made it for me. It's not about the wedding it's about the marriage. There is just so much pressure on weddings these days & the money some people spend on them is crazy. It's about two people, make it what you both want it to be. ❤
@@gayatrijadhav8660 it is. I lost my Mama 13 yrs ago but I still have my dress & she stitched a strand of hair into the hem (something dressmakers used to do).
I agree with this sentiment a million times over! My hubby & I celebrated 41 yrs of marriage in May and our wedding was simple. I wouldn’t have had it any other way. It’s encouraging to see someone who prioritizes the marriage over the party. ❤
I must say I’m so impressed with your wisdom on the wedding. The dress is gorgeous btw. But not feeling the pressure or caving to the pressure of others expectations is so impressive at your young age. Kuddos to you and Dan!
I bought a wedding dress when I was engaged the first time - yes, you read that right. And when I called off the wedding…three months before the day…. I held onto the dress. Had NO idea if I’d ever wear it or anything. Fast forward to actually getting married (different fiancé/groom) and I tried on a ton of different new dresses and ended up still loving my original. I had it altered so it had less of a full skirt and more of a mermaid skirt, and that was that! BUT I never wanted to hold onto my dress, not having kids, and so I sold my dress a few years later. And she sent me photos of her in it on her wedding day, and then she passed it along to another bride and sent me a photo of the two of them together with the dress. It was SO special, and honestly one of the BEST and my most favorite things about my dress. I spent so much on it, and then two more brides got to have it make them feel beautiful too. 😊
The dress is gorgeous, a timeless piece that would have been perfect for New York! I love that you’re true to yourself and having the wedding that you as a couple want. A celebration of the love you have for each other with your family and closest friends❣️
Have the wedding that you want. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. My thoughts about my wedding were exactly the same as yours. I cared more about the marriage then I did about having an extravagant wedding.
OMG!! I JUST got engaged and the wedding industry is insane!!! thanks for talking about this. People’s expectations are crazy. the day you get engaged: when’s the wedding?? like gimme a SECOND!!! and when you tell people you are eloping it’s like oh a wedding would be nice!!! well if you want to pay for it and plan it go for it 😂 people forget that it should be about LOVE and celebrating 2 people. ❤
I so appreciate this take! My fiancé and I got engaged this last January, and we’re just starting the wedding planning now. And I can’t tell you how many people are surprised we’re doing a slowish engagement. We always knew for us we were going to take our time planning, etc to avoid the typical stress of wedding planning. Thank you for sharing this side of the wedding world! 💖
my husband and I married ourselves in our living room during quarantine, it was absolutely perfect for us. It's nice that you guys are doing what you want instead of what's expected.
What a refreshing chat and conversation! Also, people always say like "oh, what if you regret not doing x, y, z" and I always think, then you can just do another wedding later! Like how sweet to renew your vows 20-30 years later! It's about the person and the relationship, not the singular day
My dress was a pale pink Ralph Lauren coctail dress and it was perfect! I still have it and have worn it multiple times since. We also had a small ceremony and then dinner for fam, and it is a beautiful memory, haven't regretted not having a big wedding one second! So you do you, make the day yours the way you guys want it to be!
My husband & I had a courthouse wedding. I do regret not having someone take pics - we did this quick, no planning. Yet here we are happily married for 24 years & have 2 young adult children.
Yes!!! This is exactly how I feel about weddings. Thank you for voicing your opinion on this and being so open in the harsh internet world. I love you and Dejan together 🫶🏼
I absolutely love that dress and can see why you picked it. It looks like something I would expect you to pick, it seems your style. It's gorgeous and you look fab in it. But I am super curious to see what you actually will wear on your special day. xoxo
Happy almost Wedding day 💕 You will make a beautiful bride! Enjoy your day, it was the best day of my life and it went by so quick! Soak in every second you possibly can 😊
It’s so refreshing to hear someone have the same mindset when it comes to weddings! The day should really be about you and your love, not for or about anyone else! Thank you for being yourself and for giving others the courage to do the same🥰 in a world with so much flash, the simplicity and honesty is refreshing!
It is simply elegant. I see Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy having considered this as her dress to JFK Jr. back in the day. It is clean lines, timeless style, sophisticated, easy breezy yet streamlined also somehow. The shoulders give it a little princess on a dress that otherwise is made for a queen. It absolutely is a NY wedding dress. That was a good choice for your previous wedding vision. ❤
Do whatever makes you feel good. 💕💕 I’m celebrating 30 years this month. I bought a $200 dress I saw in a bridal magazine. And I felt so good in it. And when I look at the pics and I still feel so happy about my dress!! You have a great attitude Love you girl💕💕
The wedding dress woes are REAL! I went back and fourth before committing bc I didn’t want to feel any regret. Thankfully I didn’t and I’m still obsessed w my dress. Can’t wait to see yours!
I always has dreams of a big wedding but when I saw the costs I just couldn’t commit. So we ended up eloping just the two of us in Slovenia and it was incredible! My dream day that I never knew was my dream. You do you ❤
Love your take on this! I got married in a 89,99 Mango dress 14 years ago and even tough I sometimes think I could have gone a little (or a lot) more extra, I still love the photos and the style and it was an absolutely magical day! PS: Would you mind sharing where your gold bracelets are from? Love them! Much love from Germany!
You are so right! A wedding is a day but a marriage is a lifetime. The dress doesn’t matter as long as you are happy in it. I’ve been married 23 years and while it seemed important at the time, in hindsight it really isn’t. To be honest as far as photos go, while I love my photos, they are definitely from 23 years ago and as you say your style changes!!! 😆
Thank you! Yes!!! I picked my dress so far in advance and my body has changed and it's just not the same feeling ! I don't like it anymore but it costs so much I feel like I have to wear it. I agree there is so much pressure surrounding the dress and wedding and it really sucks. No matter how much people warned me about the bridal industry, I still fell into the traps and pressure !
I found your wedding pics on insta and came here to hear your wedding dress discussion. It's resonating with me SO much because I'm in the process of dress shopping right NOW and literally have the same budget. I actually tried on the Jenny Yoo Viviana dress and loved it. It's in my top two with another more expensive option. I've worried "is it ENOUGH" bc there IS so much pressure on the day/pics/dress. But seeing you rocking it and looking absolutely amazing has made me fall in love with it all over again! It's stunning in its simplicity.
My husband and I had a small, family-only wedding when we got married many years ago, and if I had it to do all over again - I’d do exactly the same thing. Congratulations, Lan & Dan! 🎉❤
A wedding is about celebrating the love between two people. Everything else is just extra. The dress, the food, the decorations… it’s not important. Of course you want it to be nice and memorable, but in the end all that matters is you marrying the love of your life in front of the people you care about ❤ it’s all I remember from my wedding. Will be married for 11 years this Thursday 🥰❤️
The dress is beautiful and I can totally see your vision. It is classic and will never go out of style. I am sure you will look beautiful, no matter what you wear!
Oh my gosh, I absolutely loved that dress! I can't wait to see what the actual dress is going to look like. And I completely 1000% agree with Allana when it comes to how much money people spend on their wedding, this *one* singular day. It's just a big elaborate party and kudos to anyone who wants to do that, but I can not for the life of me imagine spending 15k 😮 on a dress that I won't ever wear again.
I’m sure your wedding will be amazing in every way whatever dress you decide to wear. We live in Scotland. My hubby and I got married in NYC City Hall 6 years ago. He hired a kilt and I got a dress from eBay for £50 and just had the train removed. We hired a photographer who took us around NYC for photos and we stayed for a few days as our honeymoon, then had a small party and blessing to celebrate with family when we got back home. It was all just perfect. I believe it’s not about how much you spend, it’s who you choose to spend it with that matters most. ❤ Hope your special day is amazing in every way for you guys. 🎉 xx
You’re wise and humble! Beautiful inside and out! I have the same perspective on weddings! To each their own but something intimate, in your backyard will be sweet and memorable. Also, never realized it but love your little triangle tattoo. So cute. ❤
I so agree with you about the wedding pressure etc! Bridal shopping 5 yrs ago blew my mind! I ended up with a sample & had it altered! Kudos to you, you will be a stunning bride, so glad you found the one! Sell the other or have it dyed. ❤
I see u in a halter dress or one shoulder dress. U have worked soo hard for that body and your arms and shoulders look soo beautiful!! U need to show it off. Can’t wait to see the dress u will be wearing ❤.
The dress is beautiful and suits you so well, I can totally see the vision you had. I also understand how you feel, me and my partner in the same situation rn and I just can't bring myself to spend so much money on a dress I will wear for a few hours, although growing up I dreamt about a custom made gown with all the bells and whistles.
You're thoughts on weddings very much mirrored my own--I'm almost 10 years in and I don't regret keeping things simple. I hope you have your original dress altered and rock it at an event--it is very classy but the shoulders and back keep it interesting. xo
Thank you for sharing this perspective of wedding planning. I relate to this SO MUCH. I went to pick up my dress from final alterations, and walked out with a completely different dress (that was cheaper). The wedding pressure is so real and unnecessary. Appreciate you pushing back! Have the wedding you want, nothing else matters.
Its so great to see you doing your wedding the way you want! Esp. from influencers. My fiancé and I also have the same mentality about big weddings. We’ll be spending our efforts and money on our honeymoon instead ❤
I love your attitude towards the wedding. For some people they want the big white wedding but I feel the same as you, to spend so much on one day is crazy! The dress is timeless and so elegant, do agree that it was more your previous style. Hopefully you can sell it on and someone else will fall in love with it ❤
Felt this to my core! Love you even more for sharing this. The pressure of buying a dress so early was so stressful and I totally changed my style when it came to my actual wedding date, but had spent so much money on the dress there was no turning back. You’re going to be beautiful and the love you two have will be the most important thing the day of. Thanks for being a real one- there is far too much pressure on all of the material things for wedding days
I’m completely 💯 with you on your idea of a love celebration! You just keep doing you, fam. Also your “simple elopement” doesn’t mean I won’t simply bawl my eyes out at the thought of you becoming the official DN family 🥹
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Okay so per use your videos super entertaining. But the thing I’m most amazed and happy about is that this is a SPONSORED video but you’re able to talk about other brands in your skin care routine. FINALLY a brand has realized that it’s not realistic/common for a person to use all one brand in a single routine/day/process and now I’m genuinely more likely to purchase their product because of how it was presented to me. Whoever made this happen, if it was you, Deyan, or the brand kudos to you. That’s awesome!!!
the dress is totally something I saw you in, but you could wear a paper bag and still look stunning! Wishing you and dejan all the best in married life ❤
I agree with you so much on the wedding thing. We flew from Nova Scotia to Vegas to get married. They have packages where they take care of everything. It was fun, the pictures were beautiful, it was steamed online for those who couldn’t be there in person… and then we got to have a fun vacation with everyone afterwards! All of that and it was still thousands less than friends I knew who had traditional weddings. 😊
I have never been married but i agree so much with all the comments that this wedding pressure nowadays is tragic!!! Do whatever makes your heart happy the memories of a wedding are important but the memories of the before and after the wedding life are many more and more important!!! I am wishing you the best!!!
The dress is beautiful and sophisticated (and clearly too big), but you have to go with your heart and I'm really glad that you have found a dress that feels right for you right now. I honestly feel that the more money you spend on a wedding, the more pressure you feel for everything to be perfect, instead of being able to just enjoy your day. I'm certain that you and Dejan will have the best, happiest day 💗
Allana,I absolutely love your mindset regarding getting married. If/when I do, it’ll be at a courthouse. Have no desire for a big splashy, spendy wedding. The dress is beautiful but I can see why you had a change of heart. Love ❤️ to you
I walked down to the fashion district on Spadina and bought a dress for less than 600 bucks including alterations. I loved and it made me feel fab. It was all I needed. I’m sure you will look gorgeous!
My husband and I didn’t tell anyone we were getting married and just asked 2 seniors from our church to stay after the service to witness. It was soooo special. Not everyone agreed or understood but it’s not their day.
I LOVE that you aren’t giving in to the ridiculous pressure to have a wedding that could send a couple kids to college. I love seeing the photos but I’m also always aware at the money spent. I saw an influencers kids’ first birthday yesterday and I thought what you thought about wedding “My god what did that cost”. There’s so many people really struggling financially in our current world that it also feels classy to not be boastful even if you can totally afford it. It’s a crazy standard and those children grow up thinking they need all that too. There’s something huge to be said about just keeping things super simple and enjoying the people, the memories, and yeah investing in your backyard space where you can fully enjoy that money spent. Love it! I’m so excited for you to have the wedding you’ve been dreaming of. That Sept 10/21 joke is hilarious 😆
I totally agree about the wedding dress! There is so much pressure on brides to find the perfect dress. When I was trying on dresses for my wedding, every boutique I went to was pressuring me to buy a dress before I leave. No one was concerned about how I feel in the dress or if it was really what I wanted. The wedding industry just wants to take your money cuz you're most vulnerable on the most important day of your life. I ended up wearing a Free dress from a friend who kept her dress in good condition..no one even noticed! You do you girl, can't wait to see you on your special day =)
I'm not at all surprised by your attitude towards your wedding dress, the ceremony, how you feel about all the pressure etc. I don't know, maybe you lost yourself for a bit, but I 100% can see you and Dan having a really authentic, intimate wedding experience instead of one of those more customary over the top (imo) wedding. The impression you're giving me of your wedding is something more unique, refined, something indelible which is how I see both you and Dan. I hope you both have the most beautiful wedding day. 💕
I am literally ONE WEEK away from our wedding and I'm so ready for it to be over lol. Very excited, very ready to be married to my best friend, but the pomp and circumstance is so overwhelming. Every vendor is so good at creating the pressure and standards - we've unsubscribed from everything and even decided to do our own flowers! Fast forward to some of your post-wedding vlogs, it was beautiful. For sure a special day for you two and your families, I can't wait for ours!!!
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Totally agree with the pressure placed on consumers. I’m happy you found a dress for you, that reflects the both of you, celebrating your very special day. ❤❤
Thank you and I agree!! 🥹💖 I found myself in a PANIC trying to find a replacement dress that would be worthy of the online wedding space and I really needed to step back and think about that and what I really wanted 😅
I work as a bridal stylist and I agree with so many of your thoughts on the wedding industry!! So many bridal shops are more concerned with making a sale and making money rather than actually helping the bride... Being told to size up and get alterations? It's just to make more money (especially if it's the same shop doing the alterations!). Being told you NEED to buy a dress now or it won't come in time? Depends on the designer but our shop can sometimes have dresses come in within a month or two of ordering. The prices of gowns? You should see the actual order cost versus the MSRP... I know that at the end of the day it's a business and we still need to make money but I try to focus more on empowering the bride to make an informed decision and give them an experience that is positive instead of adding to the pressure and stress that is wedding planning. I LOVE that you both are doing what feels right to celebrate and that you went with a dress that makes you feel amazing! Congrats to you and Dejan, you both deserve to have the perfect day without the outside pressures of the wedding industry cutting in!
Omg this is so refreshing and I feel THE SAME! I'm in Canada too and getting married in September and I could not care less about having a whole shebang. Got a beautiful affordable dress 1 month ago lollll having a small ceremony just family by the lake and dinner after. Easy peasy. So happy for you!!
LOLOLOL Opened up UA-cam to see this as im looking for something to watch while I do my makeup to go to my Bridal Dress appointment later today! Ahhh how cool!
I felt the same way about my wedding dress when picking one out. I mine was beautiful and it cost only $350. You would never know. I loved 🥰 it. And I am happy with my decision. You will be wonderful whatever u get!!
I agree so much with you about the pressure and stress we put on the wedding dresses. Before I got engaged I had pinned dresses I would love to wear but I didn't know exactly how much they cost. After we got engaged and I started looking for my wedding dress I was so overwhelmed because I cannot justify to spend £3000+ for a dress I will wear once and then will need to sell or something. So I decided to buy a gorgeous fabric and try to sew it. We'll see how wise that choice was during next year hahaha
Do what you both want. It is your day. My husband & I "eloped" with immediate family and 2 close friends. I bought my off-the-rack dress 3 days before the wedding & shoes the day before. The dress was just a regular ivory-colored dress, nothing fancy or full-length, that was $60. We have been married for 28 years and we did it the way we wanted and not what was expected of us. Enjoy your backyard because that will bring you great joy everyday and your wedding will be a great memory. Congratulations!!!
Hope everything goes welll for you Allana. Have a goood timeeee! Cant believe I have been following you for the past 5-6 years and now WE BOTH are getting married one-month apart! ❤❤❤❤ Mine is on Oct-28th. Wish you all the besttt happyy fun time and ofcourse a peaceful marriage for lifetime. 🦋
Thank you for sharing your feelings and opinion about eloping instead of having a traditional wedding!!! My fiancé and I are doing the same because we have been to other weddings and truly could not imagine us spending that amount of money on one day and we both hate attention so it would be our worst nightmare😅…. For what?? To please others?? No thanks!!
Girllll! Totally relate to the pressure of the wedding industry! I’m getting married in October and I’m excited and know the day will be great BUT I’m already saying to myself that i wish we would have eloped took all the pressure and “have to’s” out of it. It’s honestly an overrated industry that robs you and stresses you unnecessarily.
It's so awesome that you're pushing back against the whole influencer-excess wedding trend!! Opting for a simpler, more meaningful celebration is a truly wise decision. Your wedding is about the love you two share, not the show, and that's something to be admired!
Appreciate it so much thank you! Now don’t get me wrong… I LOVE witnessing / watching / attending all of the fabulous frivolous wedding life but it’s just not for us! If it were up to Dejan and I, we would simply do ~nothing~ at all and go frolick on a beach somewhere 😂
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that's right but true love is honest and selfless and yes I honestly would
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I've been married for 35 years, my dress cost me £70 and my Mama made it for me. It's not about the wedding it's about the marriage. There is just so much pressure on weddings these days & the money some people spend on them is crazy. It's about two people, make it what you both want it to be. ❤
Amen AMEN! What a beautiful story and so sooo special that your ma was a part of it too 😭🫶🏻
Oh your dress truly is one of a kind 🥹❤️
@@gayatrijadhav8660 it is. I lost my Mama 13 yrs ago but I still have my dress & she stitched a strand of hair into the hem (something dressmakers used to do).
I agree with this sentiment a million times over! My hubby & I celebrated 41 yrs of marriage in May and our wedding was simple. I wouldn’t have had it any other way. It’s encouraging to see someone who prioritizes the marriage over the party. ❤
@@valhoff3 Congratulations, we got married in May too!
That dress is utter perfection! Such a classic. Will never age!
She deserves a loving spotlight 🥲🥲
@@allanaramaa She deserves to be dyed a different colour and worn another time.
@@quadboxlol yes
@@allanaramaa Piccante Orange, maybe?
@@quadboxI was going to ask if you’ll be selling it? It’s gorgeous. I’m sure the dress that tops this one has to be absolutely STUNNING.
I must say I’m so impressed with your wisdom on the wedding. The dress is gorgeous btw. But not feeling the pressure or caving to the pressure of others expectations is so impressive at your young age. Kuddos to you and Dan!
I bought a wedding dress when I was engaged the first time - yes, you read that right. And when I called off the wedding…three months before the day…. I held onto the dress. Had NO idea if I’d ever wear it or anything.
Fast forward to actually getting married (different fiancé/groom) and I tried on a ton of different new dresses and ended up still loving my original. I had it altered so it had less of a full skirt and more of a mermaid skirt, and that was that!
BUT I never wanted to hold onto my dress, not having kids, and so I sold my dress a few years later. And she sent me photos of her in it on her wedding day, and then she passed it along to another bride and sent me a photo of the two of them together with the dress. It was SO special, and honestly one of the BEST and my most favorite things about my dress. I spent so much on it, and then two more brides got to have it make them feel beautiful too. 😊
you will not regret having a small meaningful celebration with the one you love, and doing what you both truly want ❤️❤️❤️
The dress is gorgeous, a timeless piece that would have been perfect for New York!
I love that you’re true to yourself and having the wedding that you as a couple want. A celebration of the love you have for each other with your family and closest friends❣️
Have the wedding that you want. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. My thoughts about my wedding were exactly the same as yours. I cared more about the marriage then I did about having an extravagant wedding.
OMG!! I JUST got engaged and the wedding industry is insane!!! thanks for talking about this. People’s expectations are crazy. the day you get engaged: when’s the wedding?? like gimme a SECOND!!! and when you tell people you are eloping it’s like oh a wedding would be nice!!! well if you want to pay for it and plan it go for it 😂 people forget that it should be about LOVE and celebrating 2 people. ❤
I so appreciate this take! My fiancé and I got engaged this last January, and we’re just starting the wedding planning now. And I can’t tell you how many people are surprised we’re doing a slowish engagement. We always knew for us we were going to take our time planning, etc to avoid the typical stress of wedding planning. Thank you for sharing this side of the wedding world! 💖
My heart is happy with how much you’re posting! I’m so happy! Lol😆
my husband and I married ourselves in our living room during quarantine, it was absolutely perfect for us. It's nice that you guys are doing what you want instead of what's expected.
What a refreshing chat and conversation! Also, people always say like "oh, what if you regret not doing x, y, z" and I always think, then you can just do another wedding later! Like how sweet to renew your vows 20-30 years later! It's about the person and the relationship, not the singular day
My dress was a pale pink Ralph Lauren coctail dress and it was perfect! I still have it and have worn it multiple times since. We also had a small ceremony and then dinner for fam, and it is a beautiful memory, haven't regretted not having a big wedding one second! So you do you, make the day yours the way you guys want it to be!
My husband & I had a courthouse wedding. I do regret not having someone take pics - we did this quick, no planning. Yet here we are happily married for 24 years & have 2 young adult children.
Yes!!! This is exactly how I feel about weddings. Thank you for voicing your opinion on this and being so open in the harsh internet world. I love you and Dejan together 🫶🏼
I absolutely love that dress and can see why you picked it. It looks like something I would expect you to pick, it seems your style. It's gorgeous and you look fab in it. But I am super curious to see what you actually will wear on your special day. xoxo
Happy almost Wedding day 💕 You will make a beautiful bride! Enjoy your day, it was the best day of my life and it went by so quick! Soak in every second you possibly can 😊
It’s so refreshing to hear someone have the same mindset when it comes to weddings! The day should really be about you and your love, not for or about anyone else! Thank you for being yourself and for giving others the courage to do the same🥰 in a world with so much flash, the simplicity and honesty is refreshing!
It is simply elegant. I see Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy having considered this as her dress to JFK Jr. back in the day. It is clean lines, timeless style, sophisticated, easy breezy yet streamlined also somehow. The shoulders give it a little princess on a dress that otherwise is made for a queen. It absolutely is a NY wedding dress. That was a good choice for your previous wedding vision. ❤
Do whatever makes you feel good. 💕💕
I’m celebrating 30 years this month. I bought a $200 dress I saw in a bridal magazine. And I felt so good in it. And when I look at the pics and I still feel so happy about my dress!!
You have a great attitude
Love you girl💕💕
You are the best at sharing your opinions without shaming or putting down others who do things differently. It’s very refreshing and respectful.
The wedding dress woes are REAL! I went back and fourth before committing bc I didn’t want to feel any regret. Thankfully I didn’t and I’m still obsessed w my dress. Can’t wait to see yours!
You totally have the right mindset and your wedding is going to be lovely!!
I always has dreams of a big wedding but when I saw the costs I just couldn’t commit. So we ended up eloping just the two of us in Slovenia and it was incredible! My dream day that I never knew was my dream. You do you ❤
Yay!!! Too late to watch tonight but so happy to see this! Something to look forward to in the AM! Congrats Lan!
Love your take on this! I got married in a 89,99 Mango dress 14 years ago and even tough I sometimes think I could have gone a little (or a lot) more extra, I still love the photos and the style and it was an absolutely magical day! PS: Would you mind sharing where your gold bracelets are from? Love them! Much love from Germany!
You are so right! A wedding is a day but a marriage is a lifetime. The dress doesn’t matter as long as you are happy in it. I’ve been married 23 years and while it seemed important at the time, in hindsight it really isn’t. To be honest as far as photos go, while I love my photos, they are definitely from 23 years ago and as you say your style changes!!! 😆
I love your spirit and philosophy when it comes to weddings and spending money on them, I really do !
This is why I love you Allana! I love how transparent you are and love that you are going with what you want vs what the expectation is. ❤
Thank you! Yes!!! I picked my dress so far in advance and my body has changed and it's just not the same feeling ! I don't like it anymore but it costs so much I feel like I have to wear it. I agree there is so much pressure surrounding the dress and wedding and it really sucks. No matter how much people warned me about the bridal industry, I still fell into the traps and pressure !
I had a small wedding too. It’s not un-serious, it’s just low-key! I’m happy for you!
I found your wedding pics on insta and came here to hear your wedding dress discussion. It's resonating with me SO much because I'm in the process of dress shopping right NOW and literally have the same budget. I actually tried on the Jenny Yoo Viviana dress and loved it. It's in my top two with another more expensive option. I've worried "is it ENOUGH" bc there IS so much pressure on the day/pics/dress. But seeing you rocking it and looking absolutely amazing has made me fall in love with it all over again! It's stunning in its simplicity.
My husband and I had a small, family-only wedding when we got married many years ago, and if I had it to do all over again - I’d do exactly the same thing. Congratulations, Lan & Dan! 🎉❤
A wedding is about celebrating the love between two people. Everything else is just extra. The dress, the food, the decorations… it’s not important. Of course you want it to be nice and memorable, but in the end all that matters is you marrying the love of your life in front of the people you care about ❤ it’s all I remember from my wedding. Will be married for 11 years this Thursday 🥰❤️
Absolutely!. Thanks you share your definition of what is and should be a wedding. ❤
The dress is beautiful and I can totally see your vision. It is classic and will never go out of style. I am sure you will look beautiful, no matter what you wear!
Oh my gosh, I absolutely loved that dress! I can't wait to see what the actual dress is going to look like. And I completely 1000% agree with Allana when it comes to how much money people spend on their wedding, this *one* singular day. It's just a big elaborate party and kudos to anyone who wants to do that, but I can not for the life of me imagine spending 15k 😮 on a dress that I won't ever wear again.
I’m sure your wedding will be amazing in every way whatever dress you decide to wear. We live in Scotland. My hubby and I got married in NYC City Hall 6 years ago. He hired a kilt and I got a dress from eBay for £50 and just had the train removed. We hired a photographer who took us around NYC for photos and we stayed for a few days as our honeymoon, then had a small party and blessing to celebrate with family when we got back home. It was all just perfect. I believe it’s not about how much you spend, it’s who you choose to spend it with that matters most. ❤ Hope your special day is amazing in every way for you guys. 🎉 xx
I adore the fact that you guys are just raw and real !! Don't change.....
You’re wise and humble! Beautiful inside and out! I have the same perspective on weddings! To each their own but something intimate, in your backyard will be sweet and memorable. Also, never realized it but love your little triangle tattoo. So cute. ❤
I so agree with you about the wedding pressure etc! Bridal shopping 5 yrs ago blew my mind! I ended up with a sample & had it altered! Kudos to you, you will be a stunning bride, so glad you found the one! Sell the other or have it dyed. ❤
Allana blessing us with a 30 minute Vlog 😍
I see u in a halter dress or one shoulder dress. U have worked soo hard for that body and your arms and shoulders look soo beautiful!! U need to show it off. Can’t wait to see the dress u will be wearing ❤.
GIRL! Watching the skincare part, literally all I could look at was your chest and arms - damn! The program is workinggg, chest/arms are killer
The dress is beautiful and suits you so well, I can totally see the vision you had. I also understand how you feel, me and my partner in the same situation rn and I just can't bring myself to spend so much money on a dress I will wear for a few hours, although growing up I dreamt about a custom made gown with all the bells and whistles.
You're thoughts on weddings very much mirrored my own--I'm almost 10 years in and I don't regret keeping things simple. I hope you have your original dress altered and rock it at an event--it is very classy but the shoulders and back keep it interesting. xo
It’s a beautiful dress and I can see why you chose it, but the one you chose in the end was stunning!
Thank you for sharing this perspective of wedding planning. I relate to this SO MUCH. I went to pick up my dress from final alterations, and walked out with a completely different dress (that was cheaper). The wedding pressure is so real and unnecessary. Appreciate you pushing back! Have the wedding you want, nothing else matters.
I wore my older sister wedding dress, I loved and it was a beautiful wedding ❤ you do you Alana, always do you ❤
Its so great to see you doing your wedding the way you want! Esp. from influencers. My fiancé and I also have the same mentality about big weddings. We’ll be spending our efforts and money on our honeymoon instead ❤
The dress is so beautiful. I think it’s perfect (with alterations) but you’ve got to feel happy in it
I love your attitude towards the wedding. For some people they want the big white wedding but I feel the same as you, to spend so much on one day is crazy! The dress is timeless and so elegant, do agree that it was more your previous style. Hopefully you can sell it on and someone else will fall in love with it ❤
There is no one perfect dress! There are a LOT of dresses that one could look and feel amazing in. Embrace your choices and celebrate! 🎉
Felt this to my core! Love you even more for sharing this. The pressure of buying a dress so early was so stressful and I totally changed my style when it came to my actual wedding date, but had spent so much money on the dress there was no turning back.
You’re going to be beautiful and the love you two have will be the most important thing the day of. Thanks for being a real one- there is far too much pressure on all of the material things for wedding days
I’m completely 💯 with you on your idea of a love celebration! You just keep doing you, fam. Also your “simple elopement” doesn’t mean I won’t simply bawl my eyes out at the thought of you becoming the official DN family 🥹
Wedding month twins!! Can’t believe it’s already next month. Congratulations 🤍
💯 agree! When someone says "you look tired", it is literally the equivalent of saying "you look like s#@%"! Just keep the comments in your own head
Truly 😅😅😅
That dress is stunning in its simplicity 😍
totally agree with you about the dress shopping! im so happy you found one that you love now! you are gonna look so beautiful! 💕
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Okay so per use your videos super entertaining. But the thing I’m most amazed and happy about is that this is a SPONSORED video but you’re able to talk about other brands in your skin care routine.
FINALLY a brand has realized that it’s not realistic/common for a person to use all one brand in a single routine/day/process and now I’m genuinely more likely to purchase their product because of how it was presented to me.
Whoever made this happen, if it was you, Deyan, or the brand kudos to you. That’s awesome!!!
I absolutely love that gorgeous hair color on you! Really the perfect shade for you❤
the dress is totally something I saw you in, but you could wear a paper bag and still look stunning! Wishing you and dejan all the best in married life ❤
I agree with you so much on the wedding thing. We flew from Nova Scotia to Vegas to get married. They have packages where they take care of everything. It was fun, the pictures were beautiful, it was steamed online for those who couldn’t be there in person… and then we got to have a fun vacation with everyone afterwards! All of that and it was still thousands less than friends I knew who had traditional weddings. 😊
I have never been married but i agree so much with all the comments that this wedding pressure nowadays is tragic!!! Do whatever makes your heart happy the memories of a wedding are important but the memories of the before and after the wedding life are many more and more important!!! I am wishing you the best!!!
Love the dress and can see why you chose it....can't wait to see the actual one!
The dress is beautiful and sophisticated (and clearly too big), but you have to go with your heart and I'm really glad that you have found a dress that feels right for you right now. I honestly feel that the more money you spend on a wedding, the more pressure you feel for everything to be perfect, instead of being able to just enjoy your day. I'm certain that you and Dejan will have the best, happiest day 💗
The dress you showed is gorgeous and makes you look so elegant ❤
Allana,I absolutely love your mindset regarding getting married. If/when I do, it’ll be at a courthouse. Have no desire for a big splashy, spendy wedding. The dress is beautiful but I can see why you had a change of heart. Love ❤️ to you
I walked down to the fashion district on Spadina and bought a dress for less than 600 bucks including alterations. I loved and it made me feel fab. It was all I needed. I’m sure you will look gorgeous!
that dress is a classic design so you didn't go wrong there. would look beautiful in the cooler months
My husband and I didn’t tell anyone we were getting married and just asked 2 seniors from our church to stay after the service to witness. It was soooo special. Not everyone agreed or understood but it’s not their day.
That dress is stunning... it does suit you and I love the shoulder pads... you'd look great in anything! 😊
I LOVE that you aren’t giving in to the ridiculous pressure to have a wedding that could send a couple kids to college. I love seeing the photos but I’m also always aware at the money spent. I saw an influencers kids’ first birthday yesterday and I thought what you thought about wedding “My god what did that cost”. There’s so many people really struggling financially in our current world that it also feels classy to not be boastful even if you can totally afford it. It’s a crazy standard and those children grow up thinking they need all that too. There’s something huge to be said about just keeping things super simple and enjoying the people, the memories, and yeah investing in your backyard space where you can fully enjoy that money spent. Love it! I’m so excited for you to have the wedding you’ve been dreaming of. That Sept 10/21 joke is hilarious 😆
I totally agree about the wedding dress! There is so much pressure on brides to find the perfect dress. When I was trying on dresses for my wedding, every boutique I went to was pressuring me to buy a dress before I leave. No one was concerned about how I feel in the dress or if it was really what I wanted. The wedding industry just wants to take your money cuz you're most vulnerable on the most important day of your life. I ended up wearing a Free dress from a friend who kept her dress in good condition..no one even noticed! You do you girl, can't wait to see you on your special day =)
I'm not at all surprised by your attitude towards your wedding dress, the ceremony, how you feel about all the pressure etc. I don't know, maybe you lost yourself for a bit, but I 100% can see you and Dan having a really authentic, intimate wedding experience instead of one of those more customary over the top (imo) wedding. The impression you're giving me of your wedding is something more unique, refined, something indelible which is how I see both you and Dan. I hope you both have the most beautiful wedding day. 💕
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You are stunning! Can’t wait to see the real deal 💕💕
I am literally ONE WEEK away from our wedding and I'm so ready for it to be over lol. Very excited, very ready to be married to my best friend, but the pomp and circumstance is so overwhelming. Every vendor is so good at creating the pressure and standards - we've unsubscribed from everything and even decided to do our own flowers! Fast forward to some of your post-wedding vlogs, it was beautiful. For sure a special day for you two and your families, I can't wait for ours!!!
Allana, how you felt after seeing Shay, it’s the same I feel every time you post. Like you are perfect goddess 😍
Ok ok WOW thank you 😅😅😅 I just need her to bottle up whatever heavenly glow her skin was soaking up!!
I also used the nuface leading up to my wedding. I can see a difference immediately after but you have to stay consistent. As I learned using it, the microcurrent needs access to muscles to work so try putting the prongs right above the jaw bone bc it won’t work through bone. If you do use it over the bone it could act as a guasha, if you will but you’re not getting any of the microcurrent benefits. Hope that helps!
Totally agree with the pressure placed on consumers. I’m happy you found a dress for you, that reflects the both of you, celebrating your very special day. ❤❤
Thank you and I agree!! 🥹💖 I found myself in a PANIC trying to find a replacement dress that would be worthy of the online wedding space and I really needed to step back and think about that and what I really wanted 😅
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I work as a bridal stylist and I agree with so many of your thoughts on the wedding industry!! So many bridal shops are more concerned with making a sale and making money rather than actually helping the bride... Being told to size up and get alterations? It's just to make more money (especially if it's the same shop doing the alterations!). Being told you NEED to buy a dress now or it won't come in time? Depends on the designer but our shop can sometimes have dresses come in within a month or two of ordering. The prices of gowns? You should see the actual order cost versus the MSRP... I know that at the end of the day it's a business and we still need to make money but I try to focus more on empowering the bride to make an informed decision and give them an experience that is positive instead of adding to the pressure and stress that is wedding planning. I LOVE that you both are doing what feels right to celebrate and that you went with a dress that makes you feel amazing! Congrats to you and Dejan, you both deserve to have the perfect day without the outside pressures of the wedding industry cutting in!
Truly, your shoulder and chesticle definition is #goals
Omg this is so refreshing and I feel THE SAME! I'm in Canada too and getting married in September and I could not care less about having a whole shebang. Got a beautiful affordable dress 1 month ago lollll having a small ceremony just family by the lake and dinner after. Easy peasy. So happy for you!!
LOLOLOL Opened up UA-cam to see this as im looking for something to watch while I do my makeup to go to my Bridal Dress appointment later today! Ahhh how cool!
My husband and I eloped last year and I bought my dress from reformation. No regrets! You do you!
Woohoo! I bought mine off the rack and had a fantastic day. The dress was worn once. Good for you :)
My husband and I eloped. We realized it’s the marriage that matters most, not necessarily the wedding. Congratulations to you both!!
The original dress is stunning🤩🤩🤩
I felt the same way about my wedding dress when picking one out. I mine was beautiful and it cost only $350. You would never know. I loved 🥰 it. And I am happy with my decision. You will be wonderful whatever u get!!
I love the dress ! Its gorgeous, i do see why you got it. 👌❤️❤️💕
I actually love that dress! So chic.
I agree so much with you about the pressure and stress we put on the wedding dresses. Before I got engaged I had pinned dresses I would love to wear but I didn't know exactly how much they cost. After we got engaged and I started looking for my wedding dress I was so overwhelmed because I cannot justify to spend £3000+ for a dress I will wear once and then will need to sell or something. So I decided to buy a gorgeous fabric and try to sew it. We'll see how wise that choice was during next year hahaha
It’s 2am & im up watching this 🤩
Nooo go to sleep my sweet and get your rest! I shall be there in the morning 😅❤
Do what you both want. It is your day. My husband & I "eloped" with immediate family and 2 close friends. I bought my off-the-rack dress 3 days before the wedding & shoes the day before. The dress was just a regular ivory-colored dress, nothing fancy or full-length, that was $60. We have been married for 28 years and we did it the way we wanted and not what was expected of us. Enjoy your backyard because that will bring you great joy everyday and your wedding will be a great memory. Congratulations!!!
Hope everything goes welll for you Allana. Have a goood timeeee! Cant believe I have been following you for the past 5-6 years and now WE BOTH are getting married one-month apart! ❤❤❤❤ Mine is on Oct-28th. Wish you all the besttt happyy fun time and ofcourse a peaceful marriage for lifetime. 🦋
Weddings should only be about the bride and groom celebrating their love. Nothing else matters. Good for you guys doing it your way!!!
Thank you for sharing your feelings and opinion about eloping instead of having a traditional wedding!!! My fiancé and I are doing the same because we have been to other weddings and truly could not imagine us spending that amount of money on one day and we both hate attention so it would be our worst nightmare😅…. For what?? To please others?? No thanks!!
It's such a NYC city hall dress - gorgeous!
Girllll! Totally relate to the pressure of the wedding industry! I’m getting married in October and I’m excited and know the day will be great BUT I’m already saying to myself that i wish we would have eloped took all the pressure and “have to’s” out of it. It’s honestly an overrated industry that robs you and stresses you unnecessarily.