Yeah after thinking about it you realize that Sarah is also attention deficit like Steve. They both crave attention without doing anything to warrant it. Like OP and her wife are going through stuff and also took in the child of a beloved friend who lost her life. They’re parents so ofc they need more attention as well. Idk if Steve is homophobic (sounds like he is, or just bitter and jealous). I don’t think Sarah is but I can be wrong. I just hope Sarah can realize she needs to leave Steve and learn better ways of getting attention
@@maddiemcnugget1076 i mean it's weird how long it took them to come to terms with it because sarah literally said that ''she died years ago, get over it'' was an honest truth
The mom is an enabler, not a "peacemaker", and is as bad as the people she enables, she thinks that trying to maintain peace is not picking a side, but you are 100% picking a side when you don't call out on people's BS. Remember guys, don't call out only the people BS, but enablers too.
I love OP’s comments about the recorder, honestly bring some humor to this not-so-humorous situation (seriously though, recorders are AWFUL). Hopefully Sarah can see how her choices affect her relationship with her family (it’s pretty evident) and makes the decision she finds best for her.
I wonder if Steve is as nice to his wife as OP thinks. I bet he sometimes says snide things in private. Or he will once he has alienated her from the family.
@jiimms9288 It’s a small instrument that is mostly taught in elementary school. It’s usually plastic, 12 inches long, with a bunch of holes that allows you to change the tune of the music as you blow into it. Think a very small, cheap, seriously nerfed clarinet without the reed or the fancy hole stoppers. And Hot Crossed Buns is usually one of the first tunes learned.
Ugh, peacemakers like the mom always suck coz they put the blame on the ppl defending themselves instead of the other party they always say the attacked party should be the bigger person and just let it go. Fuck that, by doing that the other party never learns or stops fuckign around.
"be the bigger person" and "be the better doormat" sound suspiciously similar. Every time I hear someone say "be the bigger person" I say fuck that. My mom used to say "just ignore them" and the bigger person one too, and it infuriated me so badly. When she finally saw what I was dealing with, she never said that shit again. This story shows that there are people who don't deserve to be loved, because they are such a prick. That whole damn family couldn't stand the asshole.
Steve wasn’t being “honest”. He was throwing a tantrum because no one wanted to talk to him. The rest of the family need to join together to let Sarah and Stave know that they are in the wrong. I would absolutely encourage people to not only avoid Steve, but also refuse to attend any gathering where he is in attendance.
He just wants to be a dick to people who he thinks don't have the right to return fire for cheap laughs. When people give him some REAL honesty, he screeches like a manchild. Petty bully behavior that he should've gotten knocked out of him by the time he was old enough to not have munchkin privilege anymore.
Steve and Sarah definitely bonded over bullying others or Steve gave Sarah that validation to be a complete ass. So like, even if Steve and Sarah break it off, Sarah definitely was on some hater time bc nobody drops slurs like that. I'm sure most of the family would probably take her back outside of OP and a few others but I'm so curious about how that'd go
She destroyed her relationship with her entire family for a guy who has absolutely no reediming qualities, Sarah is destined to a pretty miserable life if she ends up marrying Steve
"You're ripping the family apart!" No, it's one person being cut out by EVERYONE. That's some amazing unity actually. So many people confuse "taking the high road" with being a massive wimp. You can't be "above" people who are walking all over you. Quiet is not harmony. You need to take stands against things that cause disharmony if that's what you really desire, but they don't, they just want quiet.
there’s only so much that ppl can take as far as “taking the high road.” case in point: OP, kay, the grandparents and OP’s dad. if anyone’s tearing the family apart, it’s OP’s mom and sarah. they’re enabling steve’s behavior and his behavior has been enabled for 8+ years. i’m glad OP stuck to her decision
Steve is not even family. 8 years and they are STILL not married? Sarah doesn't want to be married to him, anyway. He only treats her well because they are NOT married. He is a snake.
the high road can only go so high before it comes to a cliff, you either jump off that cliff or are faced with turning a corner but you can't go any higher. at some point you will have to descend.
The best way to tell if someone's "honesty" is them just being blunt or a bully is to see if they can take what they give. I don't have a filter and will often just say what's on my mind, but I recognize that, so if someone does the same to me, it's fair game and I don't demand apologies. Steve's just a bully because when someone gives him a taste of his own medicine, he gets angry his victims are fighting back.
There's a big difference between being honest and being intentionally hurtful. Hiding behind 'it's just a joke' or 'I'm just being honest' is no excuse for bad behavior. Respect and kindness go a long way, and I hope he realizes that soon
I can already tell Steve is a jerk and obnoxious and crappy person. And Sarah needs to stop staying quiet and stuff and needs to stand up to Steve bullying others and she’s crazy for demanding an apology for her stuck up boyfriend. And Kay, I have so much respect for her for standing up to Steve.
So sarah is actually worse than steve and is purposely tormenting her family with steve because she enjoys watching it. That is so messed up. Narcissists will lose their mind when they lose their victims
Mom doesn’t know what the high road is. It doesn’t mean to sit there and let abuse slide. It means taking action without turning into the person who wronged you. Steve belittles human grief. OP’s partner called him out on his horrible behaviour and told him the consequence is that he’s unliked by all of them. These are two different things.
Steve is one of those kinds of people I absolutely hate. Kay is right, when he does he will only have Sarah there for him if she hasn't left him by then or just died herself.
I really dislike anybody who uses meanness under the guise of honesty. There is a reason why people don't tell the full truth and why there's such a thing as little white lies. You should not be absolutely rude just because you can be in because it gives you attention. All of this tells me that Steve is a narcissist or has narcissistic tendencies. Either way the guy needs therapy. Sarah needs therapy too.
There is literally *nothing* that can be done about Steve. He will *never* admit he's in the wrong. If OP gives in and gets her wife to apologise, Steve would take that as validation of his obnoxious behaviour and it would get worse. Also, I question whether he's *really* treating OP's sister well. I suspect he's actually bullying her worse than he bullies everyone else, but she's not recognising it yet. She will - give it time.
my egg donor was a nasty vicious rotten individual.. few friends. not sure why they tolerated h er but I think it is because they did not see through her narcissism. she wasn't as bad as others I've read about, but she lasted no more than 2 years at any one job. at the end of it, she was so hated and despised that people would go out of their way to backstab her if they had the opportunity. same thing here
I'm so glad that OP and Kay have such huge support and OP's mom did the right thing in the end. Also, I'm pretty sure the recorder is the bane of every parents' existence. 😅
🎉YAY!!! SUPER MEGA HAPPY ENDING!!!🎉 Yeah recorders are terrible!!! I’ve always been super prone to having headaches/migraines. So almost every time I practiced I’d give myself a headache from playing the devil flute!!! Also I couldn’t practice in my house I had to go outside!!!🤣😂😅😭
"Sarah" is a grown-up and can fight her own battles. She obviously wants others to do it for her. There really is something to be said for cutting the toxicity out of your life. It not only affects you but also your spouse, offspring, job, friends, extended family and your own physical and mental well-being. When I was 21 I started therapy, and right away the doctor encouraged me to break away from toxic family members. i wasnt strong enough to do it then and i ended up having several more years of pain and suffering. When I was finally able to do it turns out the doctor was right all along. I had many peaceful years after that. Thirty years later they are old and sick so i try to do my part to help but every time I have to interact with them it just brings up all the old pain and anger. It seems that we can never really be free from childhood trauma.
if Steve was abusive towards Sarag everything would be easier, if he was actually physically and or verbally abusive, she would just be in a toxic relationship and if she got out everything would be better. But no, she is just as bas as Steve if she sided with him for so long and is willing to isolate herself from her own family. It's sad, but sometimes Jerks are just jerks, not monsters, it's easier to want them to be worse so we don't have to feel bad about cutting them out, but no, they are just toxic in slightly less harmful way.
I'm glad the mom got around to things. But I'm wondering who else in the extended family is like Steve and Sarah bc i do wonder if this was the sole situation this type of thing happened or if she's got a friend that is just like Sarah and Steve
And like, i get this is general ideology she learned from other her family, but this definitely can't be the first time the mom okay'd a habitual line stepper (assuming the person isn't Sarah since OP didn't even hint that their relationship was antagonistic before Steve). Bc she very likely might be letting this happen in other situations, and I hate that for her Hopefully this mjght be the catalyst to get the mom to understand that she can have and maintain boundaries,not take any disrespect from ppl, and see that it's not taking the low road
Sarah is a bigot and Steve is a _raging_ narc. They deserve each other. Good on OP, Kay, little Jack, OP's dad and granddad for dropping their bs. Sad that it took OP's mom so long to come around, but I guess I get it given her own parents and not wanting to lose contact with one of her daughters, even though said daughter is a pos. Also, fastest way to spot a bully? Find someone who's "just being (brutally) honest." 99.9% of the time, they're like Sarah and/or Steve.
None of what Steve said was him being “honest.” It was all him being an AH. And epically so. And if Sarah can’t and/or refuses to see that, continues to defend him and/or makes similar horrible comments claiming “honesty,” then she is just as bad as he is. And OP’s mom needs to stop trying to play peacemaker and accept that no one else wants to be around this toxic couple. I seriously hope that mom doesn’t do anything stupid like trying to force reconciliation, especially by surprise, or she risks losing a helluva lot more than just an enabling daughter and her daughter’s jackass of husband. Edit: Glad Jake helped his grandma see the light. And Sarah is seriously such an AH herself. No wonder she and Steve were attracted to each other.
OK after my novel length post, I said I would try not to comment again lol. But I can’t help adding this , and it’s actually not about the story itself. It’s about the recorder. My son is nearly 17 and got his recorder when he was in second grade, I think. he still has it and there are days. I still hear him playing it. He will sit there and just be in the middle of a video game and still pick it up and just start making noise. So I too wanna curse the person who made them lol
Good for the family. When the recorder was first mentioned, I thought tape recorder. At stories end, I realized musical instrument. Watch the " Gentle Giant" children's show
I’m at the beginning of the story when the AH has the nerve to tell someone to get over it for f-sake. That she should be over someone’s death by now? There is no timetable on grief. To be honest, we can’t really control when the memories hit us harder or when we’re having a good day about it. I know this for a fact because the anniversary of my mom‘s death just passed on November 16. She died 42 years ago when she was only 24 years old and I was six. I don’t even have any memories of her for some reason , and that hurts. One would think that would make it easier for me to grieve due to the lack of time with her and lack of memories that I have. It’s not. The only thing I have or a handful of pictures and a few random stories that other people who knew her tell me. My point is because it was so long ago doesn’t mean that I don’t have my days where I break down in tears over it. ..I had a great life, but doesn’t mean I don’t miss my mother every day. My grandmother raised me and gave me everything she could though it was her that was her daughter that died to her husband, passing the year before was born. but I couldn’t get triggered by that. I hate when someone tells someone they should be over. I don’t care who it is what the reason ones there is no timetable on when you grieve. Don’t let anyone ever tell you that. someone did actually tell me that I should be over it. Actually, they didn’t tell me they were talking behind my back to one of their buddies and it got back to me and that was the beginning of the end for that neighbor and I I have PTSD from a certain things and just like it doesn’t my mother, the memory of something at the most random moment and you’ll just break down and then wait that day you could be full of smiles or you could be in bed. Is that OK . Never let anyone make you feel bad for you. Obviously, it consumes you every single day and of course I might recommend, talking to someone professionally or at least just talking to someone at all professional or not. The holidays are especially triggering since she died the week before Thanksgiving. And of course Mother’s Day is especially triggering, her birthday is as well as it is only a month after mine, which is right after Mothers Day . . Anyway, I am so sorry to write a novel when we’re just on here, listening to a story. He’s already said these things a minute or two I can only imagine what the rest of the stories gonna be like and I will try to refrain from adding more comments, but I make no promises lol. I’m up for now.
People like the "so-called honest" Steve never acknowledge they could ever be the one in the wrong. NC with The toxic couple Steve and Sarah. Forget them.
Wondering about the reference to 'crying wolf' on the 'introduction icon'. Usually crying wolf is eg keep telling people something that is a lie but then not being believed when it is the truth. Does it sometimes have a different meaning in other cultures?
The fact even the 4 years old knows that Steve's honesty is "shit" says more than Steve's "honesty".
OP realized in the update that Sarah isn't that different from Steve. They belong together
Yeah after thinking about it you realize that Sarah is also attention deficit like Steve. They both crave attention without doing anything to warrant it. Like OP and her wife are going through stuff and also took in the child of a beloved friend who lost her life. They’re parents so ofc they need more attention as well. Idk if Steve is homophobic (sounds like he is, or just bitter and jealous). I don’t think Sarah is but I can be wrong.
I just hope Sarah can realize she needs to leave Steve and learn better ways of getting attention
@@maddiemcnugget1076 i mean it's weird how long it took them to come to terms with it because sarah literally said that ''she died years ago, get over it'' was an honest truth
@@cototototorra7106 Maybe she needs someone who loves and understands her more
@@lifein.letters i mean she had her hubbie’s family but she is willing to burn any bridges or them for that miserable jerk
SISTER: Apologize to JERK, or we won't come for Christmas!
OP: Promise? Your proposal is acceptable.
unironically, the dad is actually really funny, good on him for supporting kay and op
I can't imagine how crazy OP must be feeling after having to listen to Hot Crossed Buns on the Recorder for the 1000th time.
that’s exactly what i was thinking
The “straight” comment made me laugh so hard lmao
The mom is an enabler, not a "peacemaker", and is as bad as the people she enables, she thinks that trying to maintain peace is not picking a side, but you are 100% picking a side when you don't call out on people's BS.
Remember guys, don't call out only the people BS, but enablers too.
Men like this pretty much ALWAYS have an enabler mum who is solely responsible for her crappy son
I love OP’s comments about the recorder, honestly bring some humor to this not-so-humorous situation (seriously though, recorders are AWFUL). Hopefully Sarah can see how her choices affect her relationship with her family (it’s pretty evident) and makes the decision she finds best for her.
That recorder comment came so out of left field! It was hysterical!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂
I wonder if Steve is as nice to his wife as OP thinks. I bet he sometimes says snide things in private. Or he will once he has alienated her from the family.
What’s a recorder? I couldn’t get it
@jiimms9288 It’s a small instrument that is mostly taught in elementary school. It’s usually plastic, 12 inches long, with a bunch of holes that allows you to change the tune of the music as you blow into it.
Think a very small, cheap, seriously nerfed clarinet without the reed or the fancy hole stoppers.
And Hot Crossed Buns is usually one of the first tunes learned.
@@themayhemofmadness7038 Thanks so much for taking the time to explain it in detail 🙂
Ugh, peacemakers like the mom always suck coz they put the blame on the ppl defending themselves instead of the other party
they always say the attacked party should be the bigger person and just let it go.
Fuck that, by doing that the other party never learns or stops fuckign around.
That's not peace, that's complacancy.
Co-signed because that was some real shit you just said!
"Please lie down and be a doormat again, I'm afraid they might turn their attention to me if you dare stand up for yourself!"
"be the bigger person" and "be the better doormat" sound suspiciously similar. Every time I hear someone say "be the bigger person" I say fuck that. My mom used to say "just ignore them" and the bigger person one too, and it infuriated me so badly. When she finally saw what I was dealing with, she never said that shit again. This story shows that there are people who don't deserve to be loved, because they are such a prick. That whole damn family couldn't stand the asshole.
Steve wasn’t being “honest”. He was throwing a tantrum because no one wanted to talk to him. The rest of the family need to join together to let Sarah and Stave know that they are in the wrong. I would absolutely encourage people to not only avoid Steve, but also refuse to attend any gathering where he is in attendance.
He just wants to be a dick to people who he thinks don't have the right to return fire for cheap laughs. When people give him some REAL honesty, he screeches like a manchild. Petty bully behavior that he should've gotten knocked out of him by the time he was old enough to not have munchkin privilege anymore.
Steve and Sarah definitely bonded over bullying others or Steve gave Sarah that validation to be a complete ass. So like, even if Steve and Sarah break it off, Sarah definitely was on some hater time bc nobody drops slurs like that. I'm sure most of the family would probably take her back outside of OP and a few others but I'm so curious about how that'd go
Funny how the "brutally honest" can't ever handle their own shit thrown back.
She destroyed her relationship with her entire family for a guy who has absolutely no reediming qualities, Sarah is destined to a pretty miserable life if she ends up marrying Steve
The "recorder" as in the instrument? I can understand how awful those things sound especially when given to children!!!
What tree s this recorder thing?
Edit: nvm
Any instrument sounds awful if the person playing it doesn’t know how to. Instead of criticising, try teaching them instead.
"You're ripping the family apart!" No, it's one person being cut out by EVERYONE. That's some amazing unity actually.
So many people confuse "taking the high road" with being a massive wimp. You can't be "above" people who are walking all over you. Quiet is not harmony. You need to take stands against things that cause disharmony if that's what you really desire, but they don't, they just want quiet.
They call it "keeping the peace" I call it cowardice
If you are on the high road too long you will asphyxiate from the lack of oxygen.
What's the problem. Kay was just being honest.
Kay just said some truths that everyone else Wishes they had the chutzpah to.
there’s only so much that ppl can take as far as “taking the high road.” case in point: OP, kay, the grandparents and OP’s dad. if anyone’s tearing the family apart, it’s OP’s mom and sarah. they’re enabling steve’s behavior and his behavior has been enabled for 8+ years. i’m glad OP stuck to her decision
Steve is not even family. 8 years and they are STILL not married? Sarah doesn't want to be married to him, anyway. He only treats her well because they are NOT married. He is a snake.
the high road can only go so high before it comes to a cliff, you either jump off that cliff or are faced with turning a corner but you can't go any higher. at some point you will have to descend.
The best way to tell if someone's "honesty" is them just being blunt or a bully is to see if they can take what they give. I don't have a filter and will often just say what's on my mind, but I recognize that, so if someone does the same to me, it's fair game and I don't demand apologies. Steve's just a bully because when someone gives him a taste of his own medicine, he gets angry his victims are fighting back.
Kay got medieval on Steve's a$$.
‘A paper cut to the eyeball’ 😂😂
There's a big difference between being honest and being intentionally hurtful. Hiding behind 'it's just a joke' or 'I'm just being honest' is no excuse for bad behavior. Respect and kindness go a long way, and I hope he realizes that soon
Oh yes. Being honest with the person's best interest in mind is wholesome, if what you say hurts vs supports it's bullying or mean spirited.
I can already tell Steve is a jerk and obnoxious and crappy person. And Sarah needs to stop staying quiet and stuff and needs to stand up to Steve bullying others and she’s crazy for demanding an apology for her stuck up boyfriend. And Kay, I have so much respect for her for standing up to Steve.
Sarah is definitely not quiet. She supports Steve
Sarah is as nasty and toxic as Steve. She just lets him take the heat for it. She's no better.
So sarah is actually worse than steve and is purposely tormenting her family with steve because she enjoys watching it. That is so messed up. Narcissists will lose their mind when they lose their victims
Some people who are brutally honest enjoy being brutal than honest.
A merry Christmas to you, Kay and Jack!❤️
You don't decide for someone else how long it takes to "get over it."
And to decide her grief was just attention grabbing...?
Wow. That's toxic.
Mom doesn’t know what the high road is. It doesn’t mean to sit there and let abuse slide. It means taking action without turning into the person who wronged you. Steve belittles human grief. OP’s partner called him out on his horrible behaviour and told him the consequence is that he’s unliked by all of them. These are two different things.
Steve is one of those kinds of people I absolutely hate. Kay is right, when he does he will only have Sarah there for him if she hasn't left him by then or just died herself.
Honestly this is one of the most heartwarming stories I've heard. Makes me jealous of their family haha
OP's mom needs to take a stand and not give in to pressure.
I really dislike anybody who uses meanness under the guise of honesty. There is a reason why people don't tell the full truth and why there's such a thing as little white lies. You should not be absolutely rude just because you can be in because it gives you attention.
All of this tells me that Steve is a narcissist or has narcissistic tendencies. Either way the guy needs therapy. Sarah needs therapy too.
Classic narcissist behaviour. My mum ruined every gathering our family ever had. This family dealt with it as well as anyone could. Good for you all.
There is literally *nothing* that can be done about Steve. He will *never* admit he's in the wrong. If OP gives in and gets her wife to apologise, Steve would take that as validation of his obnoxious behaviour and it would get worse.
Also, I question whether he's *really* treating OP's sister well. I suspect he's actually bullying her worse than he bullies everyone else, but she's not recognising it yet. She will - give it time.
Or his bullying of Sarah is subtle at present - but it will get worse.
my egg donor was a nasty vicious rotten individual.. few friends. not sure why they tolerated h er but I think it is because they did not see through her narcissism. she wasn't as bad as others I've read about, but she lasted no more than 2 years at any one job. at the end of it, she was so hated and despised that people would go out of their way to backstab her if they had the opportunity. same thing here
Isn’t it funny when people finally stand up to a bully, then they think they are the injured party.
I'm so glad that OP and Kay have such huge support and OP's mom did the right thing in the end.
Also, I'm pretty sure the recorder is the bane of every parents' existence. 😅
‘Verbally slapped’….lol…..I’m borrowing that😁👍🇺🇸
This is a really nice one, I'm glad op kay and jack are doing well.
How long do you think it’ll take before sister and Steve realize that they have no one left because of their actions
That's their secret: They are not going to realize it.
Steve definitely knows and is probably hunting for new ppl to emotionally drain
@@edgechanBecause they're freaking stupid.
🎉YAY!!! SUPER MEGA HAPPY ENDING!!!🎉
Yeah recorders are terrible!!!
I’ve always been super prone to having headaches/migraines. So almost every time I practiced I’d give myself a headache from playing the devil flute!!! Also I couldn’t practice in my house I had to go outside!!!🤣😂😅😭
😂😂😂😂 YES , Grab dad and grandpa and go have a lovely xmas 😂
This is a sad story, however I love op and her family ( not sister or brother in law) you ate all so funny ha ha ❤
Obviously the bad guy in this story is inventor of the recorder. A true menace to society for eons.
"Sarah" is a grown-up and can fight her own battles. She obviously wants others to do it for her. There really is something to be said for cutting the toxicity out of your life. It not only affects you but also your spouse, offspring, job, friends, extended family and your own physical and mental well-being. When I was 21 I started therapy, and right away the doctor encouraged me to break away from toxic family members. i wasnt strong enough to do it then and i ended up having several more years of pain and suffering. When I was finally able to do it turns out the doctor was right all along. I had many peaceful years after that. Thirty years later they are old and sick so i try to do my part to help but every time I have to interact with them it just brings up all the old pain and anger. It seems that we can never really be free from childhood trauma.
THE COUNCIL HAS DECIDED, SEPARTE THE SPOIL FRUIT SO NOT TO RUIN THE GOOD ONES
Steve deserves this apology: Kay should say how sorry she is that Steve is such a mean asshole!
if Steve was abusive towards Sarag everything would be easier, if he was actually physically and or verbally abusive, she would just be in a toxic relationship and if she got out everything would be better. But no, she is just as bas as Steve if she sided with him for so long and is willing to isolate herself from her own family. It's sad, but sometimes Jerks are just jerks, not monsters, it's easier to want them to be worse so we don't have to feel bad about cutting them out, but no, they are just toxic in slightly less harmful way.
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Mom needs a reality check and so does Steve
Internet strangers arent always "the way to go"
I like how the story went on a tangent to curse the recorder twice. 😂
Really though. I don’t think I’ve ever heard that thing played elegantly.
I'm glad the mom got around to things. But I'm wondering who else in the extended family is like Steve and Sarah bc i do wonder if this was the sole situation this type of thing happened or if she's got a friend that is just like Sarah and Steve
And like, i get this is general ideology she learned from other her family, but this definitely can't be the first time the mom okay'd a habitual line stepper (assuming the person isn't Sarah since OP didn't even hint that their relationship was antagonistic before Steve). Bc she very likely might be letting this happen in other situations, and I hate that for her
Hopefully this mjght be the catalyst to get the mom to understand that she can have and maintain boundaries,not take any disrespect from ppl, and see that it's not taking the low road
@@eyez409 It can be from outside sources, maybe she got in with the mean kids at school. learnt it from online.
Sarah is a bigot and Steve is a _raging_ narc. They deserve each other. Good on OP, Kay, little Jack, OP's dad and granddad for dropping their bs. Sad that it took OP's mom so long to come around, but I guess I get it given her own parents and not wanting to lose contact with one of her daughters, even though said daughter is a pos.
Also, fastest way to spot a bully? Find someone who's "just being (brutally) honest." 99.9% of the time, they're like Sarah and/or Steve.
None of what Steve said was him being “honest.” It was all him being an AH. And epically so.
And if Sarah can’t and/or refuses to see that, continues to defend him and/or makes similar horrible comments claiming “honesty,” then she is just as bad as he is.
And OP’s mom needs to stop trying to play peacemaker and accept that no one else wants to be around this toxic couple.
I seriously hope that mom doesn’t do anything stupid like trying to force reconciliation, especially by surprise, or she risks losing a helluva lot more than just an enabling daughter and her daughter’s jackass of husband.
Edit: Glad Jake helped his grandma see the light. And Sarah is seriously such an AH herself. No wonder she and Steve were attracted to each other.
OK after my novel length post, I said I would try not to comment again lol. But I can’t help adding this , and it’s actually not about the story itself. It’s about the recorder. My son is nearly 17 and got his recorder when he was in second grade, I think. he still has it and there are days. I still hear him playing it. He will sit there and just be in the middle of a video game and still pick it up and just start making noise. So I too wanna curse the person who made them lol
Good for the family. When the recorder was first mentioned, I thought tape recorder. At stories end, I realized musical instrument. Watch the " Gentle Giant" children's show
I’m at the beginning of the story when the AH has the nerve to tell someone to get over it for f-sake. That she should be over someone’s death by now? There is no timetable on grief. To be honest, we can’t really control when the memories hit us harder or when we’re having a good day about it. I know this for a fact because the anniversary of my mom‘s death just passed on November 16. She died 42 years ago when she was only 24 years old and I was six. I don’t even have any memories of her for some reason , and that hurts. One would think that would make it easier for me to grieve due to the lack of time with her and lack of memories that I have. It’s not. The only thing I have or a handful of pictures and a few random stories that other people who knew her tell me. My point is because it was so long ago doesn’t mean that I don’t have my days where I break down in tears over it. ..I had a great life, but doesn’t mean I don’t miss my mother every day. My grandmother raised me and gave me everything she could though it was her that was her daughter that died to her husband, passing the year before was born. but I couldn’t get triggered by that. I hate when someone tells someone they should be over. I don’t care who it is what the reason ones there is no timetable on when you grieve. Don’t let anyone ever tell you that. someone did actually tell me that I should be over it. Actually, they didn’t tell me they were talking behind my back to one of their buddies and it got back to me and that was the beginning of the end for that neighbor and I I have PTSD from a certain things and just like it doesn’t my mother, the memory of something at the most random moment and you’ll just break down and then wait that day you could be full of smiles or you could be in bed. Is that OK . Never let anyone make you feel bad for you. Obviously, it consumes you every single day and of course I might recommend, talking to someone professionally or at least just talking to someone at all professional or not. The holidays are especially triggering since she died the week before Thanksgiving. And of course Mother’s Day is especially triggering, her birthday is as well as it is only a month after mine, which is right after Mothers Day . . Anyway, I am so sorry to write a novel when we’re just on here, listening to a story. He’s already said these things a minute or two I can only imagine what the rest of the stories gonna be like and I will try to refrain from adding more comments, but I make no promises lol. I’m up for now.
People like the "so-called honest" Steve never acknowledge they could ever be the one in the wrong. NC with The toxic couple Steve and Sarah. Forget them.
i feel op and her son recorder relationship.
Wondering about the reference to 'crying wolf' on the 'introduction icon'. Usually crying wolf is eg keep telling people something that is a lie but then not being believed when it is the truth. Does it sometimes have a different meaning in other cultures?
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