If they truly believed in gender roles, you wouldn't be working and your brother would. Also, your mom and sister would also be doing all household chores.
If I were OP I'd do a credit check just in case to make sure no ones opened any loans or debt in her name and I'd keep a constant eye on it. Families like these aren't above taking advantage of their children like that.
I never understood why people who rely solely on someone to exploit treat the exploited bad. Like, that person is LIFE! You have nothing without them, and 9 times out of 10, scaring them into coming back doesn’t work Also, if I was OP, I would send the mom the body wash she gave me. Maybe not the exact one, but just one similar
This was my life. Except Im male. So, I got nothing. Absolutely nothing. Best thing I did was move, and go no contact. Havent heard a word in 10 years. Not even one attempt by any of them to contact me. So clearly it was the right decision.
Well done Mike! I worked with kids that had parents who never should have been parents and I used to tell them when they were beating themselves up about things... You can chose your friends but you can't chose your family. That is definitely a lottery but you don't have to stay in it.
@@dylancobalt7807 actually... I was cooking, cleaning, and taking care of my younger brother at 8. And, started working at a farm down the road, at 10, picking strawberries for $20 a day, back in 1984. 🙄 I actually had a farm exempt, driving permit at 12.
Good for you for making the decision to move out! You deserve to be valued and appreciated, and sometimes taking that step back is the best way to find your own happiness and independence.
If I were her, I'd moved to a different city. Those crazies already know where she lives and would return out of the blue to cause more trouble or harm. Run!
Moving to different city is easy. But to get job? Nah. Especially she's already has a good paying job, good position. She mentioned that she earned more than average people in her age. But the downside, 70% money went to her family.
That's what happens when you don't properly maintain your Single Point of Failure. It's like if the single load-bearing beam of your house starts showing rot or termites but don't do anything about it and the house eventually collapses. Good on OP for abandoning that garbage. More people should do as she did.
Happy to hear you are now starting out on your own life, not leadimg someone elses. No doubt it will beva successful one. Never look back, no regrets (apart from not escaping earlier!) onwards and upwards. 🍀
Damn... just one person left and almost everyone landed up in serious trouble. Those idiots left the entire house to one person and milked OP completely until he broke
Theres a few losers who havent watched the whole video and yet have the audacity to say "shes just playing the victim she should move out and stop playing the victim". You cant even finish a whole video before making an ignorant comment. What do you do, just live life acting like youre better than each person youve made assumptions about? Here's a reality check for you... youre most likely the person that everyone secretly hates.
Just started listening and sounds like OP needs to move out asap and cut off all support for the family. By doing all the work and financial support they feel they don't have to work and can just live off OP.
Good on you OP. I was emotionally extorted my whole childhood and i ran fast and hard at 18. My sister didnt listen and shes being finacially exploited by them. . . But she made her bed lie in it. Ill still visit for christmas and pray for you but u have ni space to be worried for you.
She's got 2 kids under their roof. A few times a year she will call me to have a break down about their controlling behaviors just like we had as kids. She's not being physically abused and I've called CPS and they've handled waved it away. So I'm legally prepared to adopt my nephews the moment I need to (have everything but a home inspection done for getting a foster licence). But I can't break her codependency issues. So she self medicates the same cycle our very depressed 2 pack a day chain smoker mom did and I pray she never gets the PTSD rage fits dad took out on me as a kid but I think my oldest nephew is getting them. But other than reporting when I see it nothing can be done but love them enough to know they can call if they are in trouble.
13:17 security? Glad the police were eventually called! And I hope someone was recording their insanity. Glad to hear they are getting their just punishment!
We teach others how to treat us. OP's family know that they can get away with it, so they will keep doing it. OP needs to lock down her credit to keep her parents or siblings from applying for credit in her name. She also needs to have a post office box and bank accounts that her parents don't know about.
I was very sick and virtually bed bound for several years. But we never took money from my son. When he turns 18 next year, I expect him to contribute a small amount towards utilities and food. I still buy him clothes, gifts, and restaurant meals. I was able to take care of our rental properties, as doing all of the indoor and outdoor housework. And I homeschooled our son until my illnesses.
I can understand parents who exploited the responsible child while enabling bad behaviors of the other, but i dont understand how they can think it is ok to just her give body wash as birthday while giving others expensive gifts and lavish party, and then show pikachu surprise faces when op was pissed then move out? bet they are kicking themselves and wished they gave better presents that time.
I had the mother from hell. Had to get on public assistance to get away from her. Father, forgive them they don't know what they do , and thank you for protecting me worked miracles in my life, and doing Holy Communion and praying for everyone.🙏
You saved your ass i mean if you would have been late to leave the house your reputation would have been ruined but lucky you you moved out just on time
At least she ran away, cut contract, pressed charges, did nothing for them afterwards, and didn't feel bad for making the right decisions for herself. Too many stories have these people either try to maintain some status quo or gradually (and i mean painfully slow) to make the right choices for themselves.
My brothers got houses, cars, clothes, and luxury vacations while I got nothing. Now they don't want to take care of our sick parents. I can't take care of them, I live several states away. It's just too bad that that now my brothers have to repay my parents for all they did for them. I'm guessing my parents will soon realize what POS my brothers are.
The only advice i can give is. Run!!! You'll be keeping those louts for the rest of your life. Your parents are absurd. Your sibs will leach off you forever if you let them.
Why cant they do household chores? My sister works for the family because i take care of our bedridden grandma and our siblings are too young to work, but she comes home to a clean house, washed clothes and a warm meal. Family is all about working together, if one is earning the money then the others should make sure they can have a comfortable rest at home. Theyre already working hard outside and they still have to work at home?
That idea was a throw off of the emerging middle class after the industrial revolution. Before the industrial revolution, everyone worked. At the same or similar jobs.
It's just... People aren't arrested and thrown into prison just because they tossed around someone's apartment and were ordered to pay a small fine? In fact that wouldn't even have gone in front of it real judge. That would have been a civil case.
Last story, glad you got out but let trash be trash, not everyone succeeds in life. Terrible thing to say but for the longest you were preventing the inevitable, while they held you back from doing better.
You can't control other people, only YOU, and how you react to them. Move out. Shut off the money train you're giving them a free ride. Live your own life, for yourself. In other words, move on.
Some days the supply of available curse words is insufficient to meet my demands. Fitting here. I would tell those "people", to F-OFF. And I would keep a LOUISVILLE SLUGGER by my front door for unwanted visitors. Not to mention having the COPS and a LAWYER on SPEED DIAL. They are SORRY excuses for human beings, let alone to be called "family". (Yeah, the NEW curse word!)
I used to get villian action figures for decades. I threw them into a box . I took them to a comic book store, and the shop owner gave me this huge check, and I hid the money .
I'm not shocked, the one that keeps the family together by being both the provider and punching bag, once they leave everything falls so quickly you'd wonder if you accidently fell into a tv show.
Damn that body wash was STRONG. Cleaned out that deep down DNA dirt from OP's life.
Best comment lol
That's a great poetic metaphor. I love it 😄
If they truly believed in gender roles, you wouldn't be working and your brother would. Also, your mom and sister would also be doing all household chores.
Exactly definitely wasn’t a gender thing if she was responsible for paying the bills
they believe in 'gender rolls' when it suits them.
True
Came here to say exactly every damn thing said here.
very true my family is the same way to
Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.
So true !!!!!
This 💯💯💯
Especially if the others are lazy scumbags
Beautifully said!
So true my friend!
If I were OP I'd do a credit check just in case to make sure no ones opened any loans or debt in her name and I'd keep a constant eye on it. Families like these aren't above taking advantage of their children like that.
My dad did that
That's true. They know your SSN.
The problem is there r kids nd parents who will take advantage of each othere which is sad
Finally a story with a person that knows how to use the phone to hangup on BS. I'm only at 945, but that little part makes me happy.
Agreed! Finally someone shuts up these clowns and not give them their time to talk to an entitled wall!
So basically as soon the ATM left the family went down the drain
As it should have. Bunch of leaches.
Leave and don't look back. NTA
😂😂😂
… as soon as … … left, the …
Hope you locked down your credit and bank information.
Made sure to check to loans and credit cards opened under your ssn
The scapegoat finally left and now the lazy slugs are collapsing! ❤❤ Good for you!
"Gender roles"? Then her father, and brother need to be working so she can stay home.
Her mother and sister should be taking care of the house. Gender role, bah!!
OP family took advantage of her kind nature
And as it happens with people this kind, the moment they stand up for themselves, they become the villains
What a satisfying story. Everybody got their's and without therapy. Can you even imagine it.
Yeah,watching these stories have made me question whether therapy actually works
@@hankogle6858 it doesn't
Especially when they are biased ones
@@DCD762 clearly u know jack shit about therapy to think therapy never works
@@hankogle6858 Yes. But it is quantity>quality thing.
Like exercise.
Gotta say, that probably was the most expensive body wash in history...
pretty sure it takes 1st place for most expensive body wash ever.
😂😂 that body wash cleaned actual dirt from op's life. She is fresher than ever.
@@AkA553😂😂
W comment Frfr
Damn, that bath soap sure did screw everyone except for OP
I never understood why people who rely solely on someone to exploit treat the exploited bad. Like, that person is LIFE! You have nothing without them, and 9 times out of 10, scaring them into coming back doesn’t work
Also, if I was OP, I would send the mom the body wash she gave me. Maybe not the exact one, but just one similar
They need the person to feel like crap so they don't realize they deserve better.
Right! Don’t bite the hand that feeds you! Guess that family never heard of that saying.
This was my life. Except Im male. So, I got nothing. Absolutely nothing. Best thing I did was move, and go no contact. Havent heard a word in 10 years. Not even one attempt by any of them to contact me. So clearly it was the right decision.
Well done Mike!
I worked with kids that had parents who never should have been parents and I used to tell them when they were beating themselves up about things... You can chose your friends but you can't chose your family. That is definitely a lottery but you don't have to stay in it.
Not your fault. You have peace now.
So you probably didnt have to do all the chores a women would have had too. She had to work and be a 'typical female'
@@dylancobalt7807 actually... I was cooking, cleaning, and taking care of my younger brother at 8. And, started working at a farm down the road, at 10, picking strawberries for $20 a day, back in 1984. 🙄
I actually had a farm exempt, driving permit at 12.
@mikebolton3816 wow whatever country did you live in that was possible, im sorry you grew up there
In my culture 😅gifts like body washes are considered kinda rude because it implies that the person gifting feels the person is smelly...
That might've been the point now that you mention it.
@@luciuswalker8578 "How dare you be smelly working so much hours and being free house maid? Here, Don't make us live with this smell of yours!" XD
I have a bunch of nieces and they love body washes and “girly” things in general.
@Deangirl86 though there is a difference between just a random, 1$ body wash, and something of value
Did it annoy anyone else that it was playing the same backdrop over and over
Very much, had to leave my phone face down to listen
Yes. Red should use longer background videos.
It's a fucking AI slop video dude. What do you expect?
Real friends call the police.
security usually responds faster then the police in situations like this.
Two kids who could work and mom can get a job, too. If there's barely any food, mom will have to stop eating so much.
Good for you for making the decision to move out! You deserve to be valued and appreciated, and sometimes taking that step back is the best way to find your own happiness and independence.
If I were her, I'd moved to a different city. Those crazies already know where she lives and would return out of the blue to cause more trouble or harm. Run!
Moving to different city is easy. But to get job? Nah. Especially she's already has a good paying job, good position. She mentioned that she earned more than average people in her age. But the downside, 70% money went to her family.
OP should get a restraining order on them.
Block them. Call the cops and put restraining orders on all of them.
2:49 He didn’t borrow shishi. Funny how gender roles don’t apply to you when you’re carrying the lion’s share of family responsibilities.
I still remember getting a box of Coco Puffs, candy, and a small makeup bag for Christmas. Man I really wanted to cry
This daughter , is a great , smart , and inventive young lady. ,
Definitely should have told them "yes, it is that bad living with u."
when the parents asked if living with them was so bad OP should of said 'hell yeah! you guys are a bunch of lazy leeches'
She can't say that until she stayed there or she wouldn't be able to get out
It's always the elder children that suffers the most
The parents are the only ones to blame. This is why Katrina & Joseph are this way
That's what happens when you don't properly maintain your Single Point of Failure. It's like if the single load-bearing beam of your house starts showing rot or termites but don't do anything about it and the house eventually collapses.
Good on OP for abandoning that garbage. More people should do as she did.
Happy to hear you are now starting out on your own life, not leadimg someone elses. No doubt it will beva successful one. Never look back, no regrets (apart from not escaping earlier!) onwards and upwards. 🍀
That body wash was STRONG,cleaned out the sh-t from her brain:O
Lol gender roles only seem to matter these days when men don't want to do housework. Because how tf is it ok for her to work and pay bills?
Damn... just one person left and almost everyone landed up in serious trouble. Those idiots left the entire house to one person and milked OP completely until he broke
Good for you ... Keep the toxic people away from you ...
I was totally invested from start to finish! Thank you for all the time you put into creating this. These stories make my day! 😊👏
We love a recovered people pleaser! 🥰
Take care of yourself, you didn’t ask to be born, you don’t owe them anything.
Emotional blackmail
Time to leave girl, let the chips fall where they fall. You are making yourself sick.
Theres a few losers who havent watched the whole video and yet have the audacity to say "shes just playing the victim she should move out and stop playing the victim". You cant even finish a whole video before making an ignorant comment. What do you do, just live life acting like youre better than each person youve made assumptions about? Here's a reality check for you... youre most likely the person that everyone secretly hates.
People are the product of their own choices. Where ever they ended up, its on them. No one else.
Just started listening and sounds like OP needs to move out asap and cut off all support for the family. By doing all the work and financial support they feel they don't have to work and can just live off OP.
OP should say they're finally willing to contribute to household expenses, then buy them a bottle of body wash.
Good for you! You realized this earlier than I did
Your mother and sister will do nothing as long as O.P. continues to do the housework. She needs to move out and stop being a victim.
Did you watch the whole video? Are you deaf? Are you blind?
At the end. Lol at the mother. Learning the hard way.
At 25, it's time to leave the nest.
All of that over some bodywash 😂😂😂😂 im so happy for op. I bet they're mad they didn't treat her better
Block block block and don't answer the door...
Good on you OP. I was emotionally extorted my whole childhood and i ran fast and hard at 18. My sister didnt listen and shes being finacially exploited by them. . . But she made her bed lie in it. Ill still visit for christmas and pray for you but u have ni space to be worried for you.
Is she doing okay???
She's got 2 kids under their roof. A few times a year she will call me to have a break down about their controlling behaviors just like we had as kids. She's not being physically abused and I've called CPS and they've handled waved it away. So I'm legally prepared to adopt my nephews the moment I need to (have everything but a home inspection done for getting a foster licence). But I can't break her codependency issues. So she self medicates the same cycle our very depressed 2 pack a day chain smoker mom did and I pray she never gets the PTSD rage fits dad took out on me as a kid but I think my oldest nephew is getting them. But other than reporting when I see it nothing can be done but love them enough to know they can call if they are in trouble.
13:17 security? Glad the police were eventually called! And I hope someone was recording their insanity. Glad to hear they are getting their just punishment!
We teach others how to treat us. OP's family know that they can get away with it, so they will keep doing it. OP needs to lock down her credit to keep her parents or siblings from applying for credit in her name. She also needs to have a post office box and bank accounts that her parents don't know about.
It doesn't belong to anyone, I understand it deeply inside, it's meaningful
I was very sick and virtually bed bound for several years. But we never took money from my son. When he turns 18 next year, I expect him to contribute a small amount towards utilities and food. I still buy him clothes, gifts, and restaurant meals. I was able to take care of our rental properties, as doing all of the indoor and outdoor housework. And I homeschooled our son until my illnesses.
I can understand parents who exploited the responsible child while enabling bad behaviors of the other, but i dont understand how they can think it is ok to just her give body wash as birthday while giving others expensive gifts and lavish party, and then show pikachu surprise faces when op was pissed then move out? bet they are kicking themselves and wished they gave better presents that time.
Take your peace and cherish it!
Lmao where's the check 😂😂😂😂😂
That one was hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂
I had the mother from hell. Had to get on public assistance to get away from her. Father, forgive them they don't know what they do , and thank you for protecting me worked miracles in my life, and doing Holy Communion and praying for everyone.🙏
Lmao all the family had to do was praise her, respect her, appreciate her, and wish her well, and they couldnt even do that.
Wow…sad she went through this and it happens to a lot of people…I do like listening to these videos but it doesn’t need to be this long
Well written fake STORY.
Better then most scripts
They should've added that the brother got either jump or was made someone's bitch in prison.
My siblings got and I did not. I was cinderella in real life. No happy ending. All my money always went to others as well.
You saved your ass i mean if you would have been late to leave the house your reputation would have been ruined but lucky you you moved out just on time
Doormat Diaries is more like it.
At least she ran away, cut contract, pressed charges, did nothing for them afterwards, and didn't feel bad for making the right decisions for herself.
Too many stories have these people either try to maintain some status quo or gradually (and i mean painfully slow) to make the right choices for themselves.
I wouldn’t feel bad for them they did it too them selves.
My brothers got houses, cars, clothes, and luxury vacations while I got nothing. Now they don't want to take care of our sick parents. I can't take care of them, I live several states away. It's just too bad that that now my brothers have to repay my parents for all they did for them. I'm guessing my parents will soon realize what POS my brothers are.
Now I wanna hear the aftermath
Don’t bite the hand that feeds you
HAVE A GOOD DAY
Sis gone end up on an episode of Criminal Minds. Wild
Change your phone number and move.
Sometimes goodbye is a 2nd chance. Why didn't she block them toxics. She gave them sonewhere to live. Prison. Good job op.
The only advice i can give is. Run!!! You'll be keeping those louts for the rest of your life. Your parents are absurd. Your sibs will leach off you forever if you let them.
My suggestion is for OP to move to another city several states away.
Why cant they do household chores? My sister works for the family because i take care of our bedridden grandma and our siblings are too young to work, but she comes home to a clean house, washed clothes and a warm meal. Family is all about working together, if one is earning the money then the others should make sure they can have a comfortable rest at home. Theyre already working hard outside and they still have to work at home?
Gender roles?? I thought that meant the women stayed at home and men work?? Say goodbye
That idea was a throw off of the emerging middle class after the industrial revolution.
Before the industrial revolution, everyone worked. At the same or similar jobs.
Love it like till 12:42 I didnt knew if Op was a male or female
It's just... People aren't arrested and thrown into prison just because they tossed around someone's apartment and were ordered to pay a small fine? In fact that wouldn't even have gone in front of it real judge. That would have been a civil case.
SO all but OP ended up in Jail? Glad she got away from them lunatics.
Pls. Support your mother. I am sad i lost both parents
Such an abusive family. I'm glad she escaped. They emotionally abused her while completely depending on her
Last story, glad you got out but let trash be trash, not everyone succeeds in life. Terrible thing to say but for the longest you were preventing the inevitable, while they held you back from doing better.
These type of people are not cool. Get away from the lazy people. It is time to change all phone numbers and email numbers.
Leave them better off without them soonneerrrr
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😡😡😡 Financial and emotional ABUSE!!!!
No Tea OR Sympathy for ANY of those losers!!!🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️
my family is the same way it really make you want to end it all
In this day and age idk why the sister didn't get an OF. But none of the family really seemed very sharp.
I hope this is fake, but if it's real OP got out before her "family " destroyed her.
Lock down your bank information. Make sure they can't take out loans or cards in your name.
"since i knew their financial situation"
So how come the sibs get extravagant gifts?
You can't control other people, only YOU, and how you react to them.
Move out. Shut off the money train you're giving them a free ride. Live your own life, for yourself. In other words, move on.
Op is adopted
If they believe in gender roles, tell them they have to support you.
I thought your sister would end up working the pole.
Good for you for choosing yourself and moving forward 💪
Some days the supply of available curse words is insufficient to meet my demands. Fitting here. I would tell those "people", to F-OFF. And I would keep a LOUISVILLE SLUGGER by my front door for unwanted visitors. Not to mention having the COPS and a LAWYER on SPEED DIAL. They are SORRY excuses for human beings, let alone to be called "family". (Yeah, the NEW curse word!)
I used to get villian action figures for decades. I threw them into a box .
I took them to a comic book store, and the shop owner gave me this huge check, and I hid the money .
I'm not shocked, the one that keeps the family together by being both the provider and punching bag, once they leave everything falls so quickly you'd wonder if you accidently fell into a tv show.