I teared up when you told the story of how Blake called her father saying that you miss him. Its what I did as a six year old, everything seemed so simple and possible back then if only the adults (mum and dad) stopped being so complicated and loved each other as I knew they did. Ugh, it even hurts thinking of little me, I was wrong but in a way I was right. Anyway, all the best!
For whatever this is worth, I have been through astonishingly similar circumstances... no one can understand your situation like you can, so I won't say "I know what you're going through"... but I have some idea. My point is, from my own experience, I can tell you that I was surprised at what I could adapt to when necessity dictated it. All the best to you. I know you'll come out on top one way or another.
Hey, i just came across your video, I hope you're doing well!! I actually clicked on the video thinking "omg she looks so cool! She looks so pretty ,and I LOVE her hair" 😍😍😅 . ❤
Hello Coffee. I’ve been viewing your videos since before you even got married and I’ve always thought of you as a person with a positive outlook on life and I really like that about you. It’s unfortunate you’re going through this but I’m sure you’ll be fine. Best of luck!
I'm so sorry to hear that. It's odd how aspects of our lives coincide at times. I've been separated for 4 months & have a 2.5 year old daughter. I was devastated at first, but her dad was abusive so now I'm extremely relieved & doing so much better. Although, it also means that I'll probably be a single mom with full custody. And I still need to finish my education so that I can be financially independent too. I'm sad for my daughter, but tbh she's doing very well. She'll be too young to remember. Let's keep doing our best! Things will improve. I'm sure Blake feels loved by both of you. Keep doing that psychological work with the therapist, it'll give you the deepest peace. You guys can do it, life is long & this is just a tough moment. 🌸
i know how you feel hun. I got divorced after ages of trying to make it work but if its not meant to be then take the best aspects of the relationship and build off of that to build a happy and amicable environment for your kid. You are gonna be fine trust me. Keep yourself occupied. Enjoy other peoples company and support and before you know it everything will have settled into a happy normality.
I know he screwed you over. You have every right to be angry. And you want to punish him by depriving him of the daughter that you both created. Am I wrong? Love yourself.😢
I whole-heartedly support co-parenting when it's feasible. First, you're bilingual, English-Spanish. You're teaching that to Blake. Basti is bilingual, English-German. He's teaching _that_ to Blake. So, between the two of you, Blake can grow up to be trilingual, English-Spanish-German. That's a _very_ useful combination in the world, today. Second, your citizenship is _American,_ by birth. Basti's is _German,_ by birth. So Blake could grow up to be a _dual_ citizen. And the universities in Germany (revered worldwide) don't charge tuition.
My parents divorced when I was too young to have a clear memory of it. I've heard it's the norm for every child to have a time when they wish their parents were back together. I didn't and I'm not sure why, but it's probably because my father has always been quite glaringly abusive in a few different ways; he's _psychologically_ abusive, and when I was very small, he was _physically_ abusive as well. I remember wishing I could establish and maintain a social situation he was not _part_ of. I remember, when I was in my adolescence, my mother told me that the judge who approved her divorce told her that he had determined that anyone who wanted to have any dealings with reality must keep their dealings with _him_ (my father) to a _minimum,_ but her demeanor made it clear she found _this_ an overreaction. We can't go telling him that he doesn't get to have something he really _wants,_ now _can_ we? I have gotten the impression she was a very different type of woman at the time she filed for that divorce; someone who could be trusted to just enforce such an order. She never has. She was granted _full custody._ All the cards were placed in her hand. All she had to do, when dealing with my father, was put her foot down and say, "No." All she had to do was recognize that he couldn't be reasoned with. That's the norm with abusive people. They _can't_ be reasoned with, so you don't try to _reason_ with them. You don't try to talk to them, because you understand that they're not _listening._ You just put your foot down and refuse to be _moved._ But in all honesty, my _mother_ is abusive as _well;_ albeit in more subtle ways.
Your father's mother is Colombian? _In_ Colombia? And she's reaching out to make sure _you_ are okay? 🤔 Sofia Vergara immigrated from Colombia to the US because it was _safer_ here. I've recently had occasion to check the Democracy Index, the Peace Index and the Corruption Perceptions Index. I would be more concerned about whether _she's_ okay.
You're loved Stephanie. You shouldn't worry about the future too much. You're a desirable woman and you will find someone else in life. So you're half Columbian are you going to visit family in Columbia? I hope they're not in the alternative product distribution business...lol, I am just kidding but that could be profitable.
Thank you for posting these. theres not a lot of these videos and this is very similar to what im going through
You are lovable just the way you are!!!!😅
I teared up when you told the story of how Blake called her father saying that you miss him. Its what I did as a six year old, everything seemed so simple and possible back then if only the adults (mum and dad) stopped being so complicated and loved each other as I knew they did. Ugh, it even hurts thinking of little me, I was wrong but in a way I was right.
Anyway, all the best!
For whatever this is worth, I have been through astonishingly similar circumstances... no one can understand your situation like you can, so I won't say "I know what you're going through"... but I have some idea.
My point is, from my own experience, I can tell you that I was surprised at what I could adapt to when necessity dictated it.
All the best to you. I know you'll come out on top one way or another.
Thought & prayers friend. Also, remember that everything you say on the internet can & will be used against you in the court of law.
I remember the rick and morty episode you were taking about how Beth and Jerry were thinking about a three some.
Hey, i just came across your video, I hope you're doing well!! I actually clicked on the video thinking "omg she looks so cool! She looks so pretty ,and I LOVE her hair" 😍😍😅 . ❤
Hello Coffee. I’ve been viewing your videos since before you even got married and I’ve always thought of you as a person with a positive outlook on life and I really like that about you. It’s unfortunate you’re going through this but I’m sure you’ll be fine. Best of luck!
Ive been through it, its hard but it does lead to better times as you said
Don't make it easy for him
Is that a f*ck sling in the back?
I'm so sorry to hear that. It's odd how aspects of our lives coincide at times. I've been separated for 4 months & have a 2.5 year old daughter. I was devastated at first, but her dad was abusive so now I'm extremely relieved & doing so much better.
Although, it also means that I'll probably be a single mom with full custody. And I still need to finish my education so that I can be financially independent too. I'm sad for my daughter, but tbh she's doing very well. She'll be too young to remember. Let's keep doing our best! Things will improve. I'm sure Blake feels loved by both of you. Keep doing that psychological work with the therapist, it'll give you the deepest peace. You guys can do it, life is long & this is just a tough moment. 🌸
i know how you feel hun. I got divorced after ages of trying to make it work but if its not meant to be then take the best aspects of the relationship and build off of that to build a happy and amicable environment for your kid. You are gonna be fine trust me. Keep yourself occupied. Enjoy other peoples company and support and before you know it everything will have settled into a happy normality.
I know he screwed you over. You have every right to be angry. And you want to punish him by depriving him of the daughter that you both created. Am I wrong? Love yourself.😢
I whole-heartedly support co-parenting when it's feasible.
First, you're bilingual, English-Spanish. You're teaching that to Blake. Basti is bilingual, English-German. He's teaching _that_ to Blake. So, between the two of you, Blake can grow up to be trilingual, English-Spanish-German. That's a _very_ useful combination in the world, today.
Second, your citizenship is _American,_ by birth. Basti's is _German,_ by birth. So Blake could grow up to be a _dual_ citizen. And the universities in Germany (revered worldwide) don't charge tuition.
My parents divorced when I was too young to have a clear memory of it. I've heard it's the norm for every child to have a time when they wish their parents were back together. I didn't and I'm not sure why, but it's probably because my father has always been quite glaringly abusive in a few different ways; he's _psychologically_ abusive, and when I was very small, he was _physically_ abusive as well. I remember wishing I could establish and maintain a social situation he was not _part_ of.
I remember, when I was in my adolescence, my mother told me that the judge who approved her divorce told her that he had determined that anyone who wanted to have any dealings with reality must keep their dealings with _him_ (my father) to a _minimum,_ but her demeanor made it clear she found _this_ an overreaction. We can't go telling him that he doesn't get to have something he really _wants,_ now _can_ we?
I have gotten the impression she was a very different type of woman at the time she filed for that divorce; someone who could be trusted to just enforce such an order. She never has. She was granted _full custody._ All the cards were placed in her hand. All she had to do, when dealing with my father, was put her foot down and say, "No." All she had to do was recognize that he couldn't be reasoned with. That's the norm with abusive people. They _can't_ be reasoned with, so you don't try to _reason_ with them. You don't try to talk to them, because you understand that they're not _listening._ You just put your foot down and refuse to be _moved._
But in all honesty, my _mother_ is abusive as _well;_ albeit in more subtle ways.
Somebody looks relieved x
Sorry to hear that.... :o(
Therapists almost ruined my marriage too. Family isn't a factory. Half-assing responsibilities helped a lot. Hope you two work it out.
🤔 Maybe I've misunderstood something, here. Blake has her own _phone?_
She does
@@caffinejedi 🤔 But... she's so _young._ 🤷 Well, okay.
Your father's mother is Colombian? _In_ Colombia? And she's reaching out to make sure _you_ are okay? 🤔 Sofia Vergara immigrated from Colombia to the US because it was _safer_ here. I've recently had occasion to check the Democracy Index, the Peace Index and the Corruption Perceptions Index. I would be more concerned about whether _she's_ okay.
She lives in New York but is from Colombia
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You're loved Stephanie. You shouldn't worry about the future too much. You're a desirable woman and you will find someone else in life. So you're half Columbian are you going to visit family in Columbia? I hope they're not in the alternative product distribution business...lol, I am just kidding but that could be profitable.
Hug!
Hey caffine Jedi
Would u move back to Japan
Probably not but you never know
@@caffinejedi why don't you move to Colombia? It's nice there I lived there, it's cheaper to live there too plus u get to be with your people
@Key Boards I'm not ready to be so far away again for a while.
Iam pro-vajazzle as many people know