Divorced women in Pakistani society can be happy too! - BBC URDU
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- Опубліковано 1 жов 2020
- منحوس، بدنصیب، بچاری۔۔۔ یہ وہ چند طعنے ہیں جو مَردوں کے بنائے معاشرے میں اکثر طلاق یافتہ عورتوں کے حصے میں آتے ہیں۔ لیکن اب بے شمار پاکستانی خواتین نے اِس متعصبانہ رویے کو تسلیم کرنے سے انکار کر دیا ہے۔ آئیے ایسی ہی ایک باہمت لڑکی سے ملتے ہیں ہمارے ساتھی کریم الاسلام کی اِس ڈیجیٹل ویڈیو میں۔
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Her command of Urdu and english and expression of her feelings is great example for our educated youths. Simply amazing. I wish her good luck.
Yes. Education speaks! Educated insan ka Pata chal jata hai ❤️
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We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
زبردست سلام ھے آپ کو میں خود ایک عورت ھوں اللہ پاک ھر عورت کو ھمت دے اس معاشرے میں رھنے کی
Thnx
tu aurat hai mard ke naam se 🤣🤣🤣
We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
منحوس عورت نہیں وہ مرد ہیے جو طلاق دیتا ھے!
Ap ko kis na kha dr akhlaq sb zaruri ni Ka hr orat thk ho or ya bhi zaruri ni Ka hr mard galt ho . This is only one side story . Lkn hamara is mashra ma talak yafta orat ya beawa orat ko wo izzat ni milti jo milni chiya ya sach ha pr ap na itnhi glt bt ki ha . It's my opinion I hope I will not mind .
@@umairnaghman3365 I vehemently disagree with you...
We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
@@umairnaghman3365 I agree with you.
Are you sure? Do you know what you type here?
باتیں کڑوی ہیں لیکن سچی ہیں
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We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
اللہ تعالیٰ ہر بیٹی کے نصیب اچھے کرے اور بُرائی کرنے والوں کو نیک ہدایت عطا فرمائے آمین ثم آمین ❤️
Stay blessed 👍 be happy 😊
i want marriage with you anam please me with you that's why I am interested
@@jassimmuhammadtrunpfakeyou331
بچے فری میں مل جائیں گے تمہیں محنت کی ضرورت ہی نہیں پڑے گی
Aameen
Plz mary lya be dua kar dyn or bati kay lya be
Allah pak sab ki bhen betio k naseeb achey kare Ameen
I can understand your situation as I got divorced right after my marriage.... To be exact after 3days. . The person I married to was not Physically well and unfit for marriage but his parents forced him to get married just because to save their image.... Cut to the current situation I completed my MS with gold medal.... Working as assistant director in ministry and recently my research paper published in a very reputed journal.... The whole point is women have the right to be happy even though they are divorced whatever the reason... I proudly say I m a very happy and satisfied with my life....
may u always stay blessed !
If you don't mind, join on wtsup, trust me, don't worry plz.. Stay Blessed.. Ameen..
Miss. Aish..
You don’t need a man in your life to be successful.
MashaAllah you are motivation
Unbelievable. Allah Pak bless every woman in this world.
آمین۔😕
Seriously this dude is commenting like this attitude of men towards women esp divorced women is something new to him... I'm like get outta here you hypocrite!
Rahima pasha daughter of pasha Saab remember
We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
Ameen
I was also divorced after 6 months of my marriage but after i married to a wonderful person alhamdulillah
Ma Sha Allah same I'm also going to be a divorcee after 6 months of marriage 😢😢😢but Im sacred to find a good person
This is a social Evil in our society
Not everyone is cruel in the Society. Very difficult to know how someone will treat you in the long run. The best action is not to decide things hastily, always do your best and be happy with what you have been given by the almighty.
Where does it say the Almighty approves of men abusing their wives? Isn't it written that a husband must love his wife as he does his own body? Is it also written that a husband that lives his wife loves him self? Is it not true that no man ever abused himself, but feeds himself and cherishes himself. So how can any husband treat his wife life valueless. Is he not defaming his claim to love the Almighty? Should he not receive justice for his lack of respect to the Almighty, and lack of respect for the women that he has been blessed to have in his life; and for his arrogance and inability to appreciate the Almighty's generosity in having a precious wife?
Wish the women would not be abused there. So many nice men in other countries looking for a decent nice wife that they can genuinely love. I know some and it sad that they are not appreciated.
@@Muhammadshoaibqureshi902 k
Yes u are right but ak divorce lady dubara shadi ksi aur man kar sakthi ha. Is dobara shadi ho sakthi ha aur ya koi gali nahi divorce hoti ha is ma koi buri bat nahi
A well educated girl brimming with confidence and excellent command of English and Urdu language. A very truthful and positive and proud daughter of Pakistan.
All I can say is best of luck and wisher her well for the feature..
اللہ تبارک و تعالیٰ کی ذات ہم سب کو اپنے حِفظ و امان میں رکھے اور ہماری بہنوں اور بیٹیوں کی عزت و ابرو کی حفاظت فرمائے۔ آمین ثم آمین
بہت افسوس ہے کہ اگر آپ کے ساتھ یہ ہوا اور ہمیں تو نہیں معلوم کہ آپ کے ساتھ ضرور نہیں کہ سب لوگ ایک جیسے نہیں ہوتے ہیں
We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
Allah har Beti ka naseeb acha kare ameen
Ameen
دنیا میں بہت سے اچھے لوگ بھی موجود ہیں
We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
Achy log kismt walo ko Milty ha
Sister U r brave, ignore this society
True n Right really
Right
Absolutely
Taboos of our societies and cultures have destroyed more life's then any disease ever could..
Well put.
And sadly very accurate.
بلکل سچ کہا آپ نے۔👍
Very true
We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
She got divorce because of her taboo or because of her behavior
Parents behaviour toward daughter like a liability
And they treated Son like a investment opputunty
being a brother its really awful and
idiotic behaviour
Our society still stuck in old narratives
Pakistan needs more men like you, not mysogninistic. Finally someone said it :)
Ye jahalat Kuchh logon Mai hogi whn pr aap preshn Mt Allah aapke sth I salute you.
یااللہ انہیں ھدایت عطا فرما جو عورت کی عظمت کو نہیں جانتے
Wow. Congratulations u r not living with that man who didn't deserve u or ur child. U r a strong women that the weak men in this society fair. Loads of love.
We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
Marriage is another name compromise...unfortunately 99 percent mismatch...my parents also mismatch...dont worry time goes very fastly...we r not built for this world..b brave.
We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
I was raised and supported by such great parents who gave me the freedom to choose my own partner and the choice to get married only if I choose. I love my single life no drama just a happy life. I feel the pain this women has, hope she finds some peace and joy.
Allah sb ki bhen betio ky naik nseeb kry ameen...
Proud of my sister ❤❤❤❤
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We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
Let’s talk about 2021. Honestly our society has improved a lot about divorcees and independent women. 👍🏻
Yes it's true. Things have been changed now..
You are beautiful, strong, live a happy and healthy life..my good wishes for you
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We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
Salute to your courage sister, this is highly patriarchy, where women are subject to issues that you have mentioned. It takes huge courage and guts to live in this society. May Allah resolve all your issues. My best wishes are for you.
Yes ofcourse
Allah sub betiu k naseeb ache kre. Ameen. Ye khatoon boht bahadar hain life ko face krna janti hain lekin sub aisi nhy hoti ,talaq un k liye mot se zyada takleefda hoti hay
Really heartbreaking. First of all I pray to Allah that all Pakistani girls shall be like you so well groomed educated & graceful. With lots of praying for both of you to have a beautiful prosperous happy healthy life.💐💕
Yes I totally agree with you parents dont value daughters but you are a strong woman 💪 ❤ 💙 💖 ♥ 💜 💪 my wishes are with you
Sharam tuh aa nahi rahi aap ko yah baat karte hoain k waldain batyion ko tarjee nahi dete .
اللہ پاک آپ اور آپ کے بیٹے کے نصیب اچھے عطا فرماۓ ۔آپ ایک بہادر خاتون ہیں
Spotted alot of "LOG" in this comment section jo "Kuch keh rhe hain (bakwas hi hai lekin)... You are strong MaaShaaAllah 😍
ہر طرف ہی غلاظت کے ڈھیر ہیں, کیا کہا جا سکتا ہے؟ اللہ ایسی سوچ رکھنے والے/والیوں کو ہدایت دے!
اور اللہ سبحان و تعالیٰ ہر بہن بیٹی کے نصیب مقدر اچھے کرے آمین❤
آج خواتین کے عالمی دن کے موقع پر میں یہ کہوں گا کہ اللہ نے عورت کو اتنا عظیم بنایا ہیے کہ حضرت عیسیٰ علیہ السلام کی پیدائش سے اللہ نے یہ کر کے دکھا دیا ہیے کہ کسی کی پیدائش باپ کے بغیر تو ممکن ہیے مگر ماں کے بغیر کبھی نہیں۔۔۔۔
دادی حوا
بغیر ماں کے ہی دنیا آئی
ماشاءاللہ۔ بہت خوب صورت الفاظ میں ہمت سے دفاع کیا اور حوصلے سے زندگی بسر کر رہی ہیں۔ اللّٰہ تعالیٰ مزید صبر و استقلال عطا فرمائے آمین
I am educated and divorced single mom in uk , am busy working monday to friday daily grindstone.
Oh! feel so sorry for the lady.
She's strong enough to live life happy.
Jo aap ko tanaa dete hein tab tak nhi mre gey jab tak woh khud b bugat na lein😔😭😢💔💔💔💔
We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
@@cookingwithdeeandmeRM 😢💔😭😭😭
Allah kara aysa he hoo, aur Allah paak humari madad kara,
@@cookingwithdeeandmeRM ameen sabar krne walo hi ki akhrit hai
I can feel that you are a brave woman, you are not scared from anyone, you are a strong face & bright future of women of Pakistan, I wish you good luck.
suna hai agar nabi ki beti ho tu usko bhi divorce ho jati hai ... i am proud of you ! you are a strong mother ! wish i was a strong man just like you are a strong proud human being .
U r great inspiration for all those women who think they can do nothing. I also thought several times to be live independently but when I look towards society I came back.
Manhoos woh hai jo talaq deta hai na keh woh jiko diya jaye.
I totally agree with u sis ..society kbbe except nai krte Ki divorce ma hmsha ladki galat nai hoti hain Lkn blame ladki ko he milta ha puri lyf!
Talaq Yafta se Shadi kren unhe takleef dekh kr bahot tension hota h unhe bhi Pyar ki Zarurat h Dua kren Allah apne naik bande k dil mei Mohabbat dalkr aapse milwaye Aameen
So inspiring mashallah, thank you for sharing your story and standing up against the patriarchal society. A true Queen 👑 May you always find happiness within yourself
We are two sisters our condition is same may Allah help us, world is very cruel no one is helping here, we are very much destitute to earn money for our lively hood, so we started this youtube channel,plz help us, may Allah help you. Loads of love from kashmir.
Sure women should be independent
I m divorced with 3 kids .....he was mentally sick ....I m well educated....ap ka aik aik word exactly is society ko represent kr rha hy .....u r so brave ...uni (idary) ma log ikhlajeyat ni sikhaty ....Sirf degree laity hen ....
باجی اللہ تعالی آپ کو دین دنیا کی سب خوشیاں نصیب کرے اور آپ کو آپ کی اولاد کا سکھ نصیب کرے آمین
اللہ تبارک و تعالی آپ کو ڈھیرووں خوشیاں کامیابیاں عطا فرمائے آمیین فی امان اللہ
U r determined, that is enough to connect happiness. Be happy, n motivated.
I was shocked when I was not invited at my best friend's wedding because I was divorced 🤣
Young lady, please don't take negative remarks seriously, these remarks do not reflect who you are, they reflect who the narrow minded and insensitive illiterates are.
You are full of confidence, intelligence, education, and appear to be a good Muslim. Do not forget that every hardship is followed by ease.
Divorce is legal in Islam, it does not taint the divorcee, you have a beautiful son, I'm sure that you are doing an outstanding job of parenting. You were too good for the person who divorced you, the right person will come along, I'm confident. Best Wishes for a very, very bright, happier, and successful future, Inshaallah.
We really need to develop a society that could respect and value the women that she deserves
Your thinking is very commendable, brother! May Allah give you more respect as well!
Be Happy in life.
We are surrounded by judgemental people ! This is really heartbreaking but this society make us feel strong and to live the life we deserve .
Respected mam you are saying right 🙏🙏🙏
My dear sister my best wishes are always with you.
Yes you are beautiful and strong woman
Brave lady Mashallah. God bless your family.
Deen Quran o sunnat se duri ka natija Jahil log Allah se nhi darte Rasul Allah s.a.w ne divorced aor bewa aorton se bhi shadi ki thi
Allah taala duniya ki her bahen aur beti ka naseeb achha karay aur sabko khushiyan naseeb farmaye aameen.
I comprehend this all... Because I also face all these circumstances bitterly
Wish u good luck brave lady..❤️
Love u girl.... ALLAH BLESS U ALWAYS AAMEEN
Hmary piary Nabi saw ne khud tlaQ yafta se Nikah frmay aur izt bkhshi Allah pak hmn Dotson ki tkleef door krny mn logon ko as tkleef se bahir nikalny izt krny aur SMJHNY mn k dukh hota Kia he SMJHNY Wala bnay Ameen Allah bless u and ur son ameen
Manhos wo khd hein Jo apko kehtey hein ..you are great woman we are salute to you & your personality
Agreed with you...Allah ap ko khush rakhy.. U r too mature and humble
Major fact which v neglect is Deen Islam. If Islam exists practically in our society then we can minimize this nonsense behavior.
more respect to you
Allah apko khush rkhy apko aur apke bachy dono ko,apki preshanyian dor kren aur society ki gandi nazron sy dor rkhy. Ameen...!
Yes i agree with you.
My marriage lasted for 2.5 years. My ex has married 4 times. And I had the same insecurities about my daughter which you are explaining. I am educated, independent and successful alhamdulillah. I needed to move to USA to save my daughter from the toxic Pakistani society. I can 100% relate to what you are saying. I feel n pray for your ease. More power to you and your son.
Plz pray for me I got divorced month back two sons living with MIL giive me power
@@syedajaveria3318 I am extremely sorry to hear about your experience. May you have the best of life after this painful incident. You are strong mom surviving with two kids. Prayers for your peaceful life ahead. I will be more than happy if I can be of any use for you. Please let me know if you need any help or suggestion from my little knowledge. Stay safe and happy. Ameen
@@syedajaveria3318 Allah Pak apko humesha khush Khushhaal aur sehatmund rakhe along with children.. Ameen
Assalamualaikum.bohot duwain.Allah Pak apko humesha khush Khushhaal aur sehatmund rakhe along with daughter.Ameen
Alhumdulillah Im with my son's now... No doubt Allah help those Who help themselves... I have a small appartment on rent doing job and Alhumdulillah bht peaceful life hay...
Such a brave nd strong lady appreciated
Beti ik esa khubsurat rishta hai jo sab k nahi naseeb mai nahi hoti..... Hazoor pak ki beti btalaq yafta thi..... Ey logo sharam. Kro sharam krooo mat kaho esi larki ko nahosat.... I am literally crying because mai b guzar chuki. Hn esy halaat se loog kiu jeene nahi dety
Haye sach mai bht dhukh hota hai k muslims ne h talaq yafta ko nahosat samj lia hai.... Islam ne to esa kuch nahi kaha esi aurat ko....
You r right? May God Bless u
Allah apke sath hai sister ignore karo dunya ko
Preach positivity and change thinking ! You are right and keep moving with hope
There are many men even within Pakistan who are looking for divorced ladies. But are found complaining regarding demands of women that they can't really fulfill
I can feel her pain
Because my sister is suffering from this
Main khud ye pain feel kar rahi hn 25 ki age mai.
@@hinanaqvi695
Plz pray for my sister
@@goharayoub7245 bhai dil sy dua hai ALLAH TALAH ap ki sister ki life ko khushiyon sy bhar de unky naseeb bhtreen hn agy koi azmaish na ho unki life mai...mai koi hoti tu nahi khch khny wali bas jis dard sy wo guzar rahi hain mai achy sy samjh sakti hn bas ap log kabhi bhi unhen tanha mat choriye ga hamesha apni sister ka sath diye ga INSHALLAH ghar walon k sath k sath wo life mai achy sy agy barh paye gi.mai ajj khush ho jee rahi hn tu meri family ka full sport mujhy mila hai..family jab sath ho tu bare sy bare dukh o takleef sy insan bahar aa hi jata hai ..or uper ALLAH tu mojood hi hai jo sab k dilo k hal sy bakhubi waqif hai ...
@@hinanaqvi695
Thanks for ur well wishes
N I,m a young girl not a guy
@@hinanaqvi695 Mai bi feel lonely I want to have friends that feel this pain
I think you are better than Qasim Ali shah and other motivational speakers👍
Sab women ko jeenay ka haq hy
یہ، ہمارے سوسائٹی کا المیہ ہے، سب سے بڑا نقصان، مرد و عورت کا نہیں، بچوں کا ہوتا ہے۔
It's very hard to survive in this society...🥺
U are absolutely right
Yes true
You are beautiful, you are strong, you are awesome the way you are, more power to you❤️
Great lady can u contact with me
Allah Pak Mari Behan Pr Karam Krain Or Acha Naseeb Krain Ameen.
Stay Blessed 💗
Kahan gya wo waqt jb ksi orat ko talaq hti thi to sihaba ready hoty thy k mein is sy nikah krnga. Hum sb apk kasoorwar hain
Allah give you more happiness sister and you be a more Strong
Kya ik larki k sath agr hadsa paish a jaye to wo kya kre mar jaye... Agy jeene ka haq nahi kya use..... Badlooo apne app ko logo badloooo hazoor pak ki examples pe chalo... Kosish kro kisi insan ko dhuk na doo zuban ka diahoa dhuk bht bara dhuk hai
In our society there are too many ages old cultural issues . She is right.
With due respect its because of the women of Pakistan Second marriage is considered as an abuse or a sin . A groom getting beaten on second marriage is made fun of over the media. When you see second third marriage as its commanded by Allah the society will be clean from such issues as well as the filth of rape , child abuse and many other fitnas. May Allah protect us Ameen
You are a great personality,
Doing great.
Keep it up ma'am
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I am 100% agree with you dear be strong
Yiu are a strong women who took the right step at right time. MashsAllah You are raising your son beautifully. You are inspiration to many of young females who are trapped in troubbled marriage. More power to you sweetheart ♥️
Aslamuali kum..ya bat tu bilkul thek hai k hamara mowashra thek nahi hai ...Allah tala har beti k neseeb achay kray...Allah pak har beti ki izaat mahfooz rakay
Allah has blessed you with a beautiful heart,you are a very educated and intelligent lady.the people who give you abuse and talk bad about you need their head checking,they need to be educated and not act like jahils, too many people have black hearts and need to stop judging others,may allah bless you sister and i wish you a happy life.
Brave women ... Allah ap k naseeb achy kare...Ameen
YOU are an INSPIRATION for this SOCIETY. more power to you strong lady.
Same here
Big big biggggggggg silute for this brave courageous most respectable girl, she is very positive against all the negativity negligence and bad behaviour of our socitey and our so called loved ones...A person who have bare the stresses is an example of real personality except others who proven them selves as stone. Stone could not bare any stress and worst conditions except Gold. Because stone splits but Gold could not splits after havey fire and stress..
Imran Gujranwala cantt.
Stay safe and strong
Allah pak her larki ka naseeb bht acha karein,kash ye humari society change ho jay,khud bhi izzat sy zindgi guary or bakiyo ko bhi jeeny dain.