Life after Divorce: 'Explaining emotional abuse is impossible' - BBC URDU

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  • Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
  • پاکستان جیسے معاشروں میں خواتین کی زندگی کو شادی کے بغیر ادھورا تصور کیا جاتا ہے، اور اسی سماجی دباؤ کی وجہ سے بہت سی خواتین ناخوش، ذہنی اذیت، جسمانی اور جنسی تشدد تک برداشت کرتے ہوئے اپنی پوری زندگی گزار دیتی ہیں۔
    تاہم حفظہ پرویز اور شیرون شاہد نے سماجی رویوں کے برعکس، مسائل کے حل کے لیے شادی ختم کرنے کا فیصلہ کیا ہے۔ مزید دیکھیے براق شبیر کی اس ویڈیو میں۔۔۔
    شوٹ اینڈ ایڈیٹنگ: فرقان الٰہی
    #Pakistan #Women #Abuse #Divorce #BBCURDU
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 61

  • @uzal5168
    @uzal5168 2 роки тому +23

    These two courageous women are indeed so brave and strong...I am divorced and I realized after my divorce that life with my daughter can be so good even after divorce , thanks to Allah Almighty for bringing me out of the abusive relationship.

    • @bbcurdu
      @bbcurdu  2 роки тому +1

      آپ کے خیال میں پاکستانی معاشرے میں طلاق یا خلا کو آسانی سے اب بھی کیوں قبول نہیں کیا جاتا؟

    • @chotadinosaur8277
      @chotadinosaur8277 2 роки тому

      One side story is why every time men are responsible in BBC stories..

    • @MM-lx6ln
      @MM-lx6ln 2 роки тому

      @@bbcurdu
      In Pakistan society, it's a appeal to tradition that noone want to change. First accept than change.

    • @abdullahbangash1960
      @abdullahbangash1960 2 роки тому

      May Allah bless you Ameen

  • @saimaqutab4727
    @saimaqutab4727 2 роки тому +8

    Divorce is not the end of life for a man so why it should be an end of life for a woman? It can be a start of a new and better life for both man and woman if they are suffering in a relationship.

  • @mahiqazi4902
    @mahiqazi4902 2 роки тому +6

    With drenched eyes, I want to say that I am a single mother for almost ten years after taking Khula. I had the similar story. I want BBC and other such platforms to make more motivational videos on this topic. Trust me! You are doing great by encouraging us. Because everyone else in Pakistani society does the opposite. N we are so drained because of the toxic societal pressure that even such a small video can keep us motivated and positive for some days.

  • @zohanshah8529
    @zohanshah8529 2 роки тому +6

    Heart touching for us and thought provoking for those who still thinking about norms and chains of society. Its better to be alone than to be abuse. This shows the hope of life. Great.

  • @newdawn5946
    @newdawn5946 2 роки тому +10

    How can marriage be a certificate of love? Marriage is only a contract. Decide all the terms and conditions in advance, and keep doing it at time intervals. Humanity not only teaches to adjust but also teaches love.

  • @qurrathashmi1421
    @qurrathashmi1421 2 роки тому +2

    Indeed brave women these are. May Allah Pak gives u more strength and courage InshaAllah

  • @man08839
    @man08839 2 роки тому +2

    Allah save us from discrimination

  • @fakihashah6123
    @fakihashah6123 2 роки тому +4

    A very informative video about the reality of not just these two women but countless others. Emotional and psychological abuse is most difficult to prove which makes it a lot more difficult for women, and men alike, to get out of a toxic marriage.

  • @nasirlbw2567
    @nasirlbw2567 2 роки тому +4

    We r nothing without women. We should respect women as mothers sisters wives. Very strange to c such behaviors from highly educated peoples. Im really surprised what happened with these beautiful and educated girls

  • @naeemullah3883
    @naeemullah3883 2 роки тому +16

    Promoting divorse..
    Some men also also suffer from their oposite partner.. even they commit sucide.. why you people not realize the pain of men.

    • @bbcurdu
      @bbcurdu  2 роки тому +4

      آپ ہمیں بتائیے

    • @misbahbhatti39
      @misbahbhatti39 2 роки тому +6

      Aurat logn k hawason pr sawaar h or koi bt nh h.. mard chahy bhai ho shohr ho baap ho beta ho wo b hr rishty me baaz oqaat utni hi problem face krta h jitni k aik khatoon magr mard k emotions pr koi bt krny ko tayyr nh h... Bht sari biviyan aesi hoti hain jo qabar tk poncha deti hain husband ko zehni aziyat dy dy kr... Kindly dono tarf k logn ki islah kren..

    • @misbahbhatti39
      @misbahbhatti39 2 роки тому +2

      @@bbcurdu ap aesy mardon ka b interview kren jo apni biviyon ki taraf sy zehni aziyat ka shikaar hoty hain..

  • @uzal5168
    @uzal5168 2 роки тому +3

    Very good report by BBC Urdu... divorce is not end of the life for woman ... Allah gives its permission...

  • @saranndailyroutinelife3742
    @saranndailyroutinelife3742 2 роки тому +5

    رشتوں میں ایک دوسرے کا احترام کرنا بہت ضروری ھے .

  • @khadimhussainmughal1560
    @khadimhussainmughal1560 2 роки тому +7

    U were married with wrong man . I m still happy with my wife 50 Years 7 grown up marred. I have many differences education she is sick no physical relation take drugs argues but I have one thing in my mind she love n care me and moreover mother of my children.

    • @zeryabraza4637
      @zeryabraza4637 2 роки тому +4

      not all five fingers are equal. but these are also facts of our society many women are suffering with untold pain and also not doin mera jism meri marzi

  • @mrs.masroor7275
    @mrs.masroor7275 2 роки тому +1

    Literally true, zaberdast

  • @hadhikhan7730
    @hadhikhan7730 2 роки тому +6

    Emotional abuse is not only related to marriage ,it may happen before marriage as well..restriction is always there for girls .

    • @bbcurdu
      @bbcurdu  2 роки тому

      آپ کے خیال میں ایسا کیوں ہے؟

    • @nymramalyk9017
      @nymramalyk9017 2 роки тому

      @@bbcurdu hi I am a psychologist that's true emotional abuse can happen at any stage of life esy report karna mushkil tu hai but still it's possible mostly Hmary pas direction aur awareness nae hoti but according to me jab koi abuse krny ki had tak toxic hu tu hmy esy insan ku expose zaror krna chayi mgr hum nae krty q ky hmy lgta we cannot do this aur esy toxic log society mn agy sy agy bar jaty hein but actually we can expose such kind of people it's just a lack of awareness that we cannot......hmara emotional and psychological abuse py bat na karna esy violence ku hide krna hi es ky bar jany ki waja hai

  • @mlaeekkhan
    @mlaeekkhan 2 роки тому +3

    mostly marriages are successful, divorce ratio not considerable/significant.What BBC

  • @starssky1236
    @starssky1236 2 роки тому +1

    Absolutly correct....same situation i am facing since.got.married in 2020

  • @uzmazeeshan2662
    @uzmazeeshan2662 Місяць тому

    Very good video

  • @rajamoassababeer3663
    @rajamoassababeer3663 2 роки тому +2

    Kash main apny leay Kuch kar sakti

  • @Bilal-qy2sb
    @Bilal-qy2sb Рік тому

    Instant gratification is cause of many failures even in relationships. Patience is a key to success.

  • @meherbano3412
    @meherbano3412 2 роки тому +11

    I know some personal stories of divorced women who are very unhappy with their divorce decisions.I do not believe what these two ladies on BBC Urdu are conveying🤷🏼‍♀️.

    • @bbcurdu
      @bbcurdu  2 роки тому +5

      معاشرے میں ہر قسم کی کہانیاں ہیں صرف اس لیے ہم استحصال کو نظر انداز نہیں کر سکتے۔

    • @uzmahaq1358
      @uzmahaq1358 2 роки тому +6

      you are one such example of this pathetic society..ofcourse divorce is not s good thing but if you would have listened to them, they told you the reasons.

    • @waheedahmad5668
      @waheedahmad5668 2 роки тому

      @@uzmahaq1358 their reasons are genuine but she didn't talk about them. She just talked about the other side of the coin.

    • @mrs.masroor7275
      @mrs.masroor7275 2 роки тому

      @@bbcurdu exactly

  • @newdawn5946
    @newdawn5946 2 роки тому +4

    Does love mean that all legal and illegal activities should be supported? People love us, we keep the same expectations, never think that we should go ahead and love people. To love the universe without any condition means to love God. Then you will find that your arm is filled with love.

  • @Vip__honey
    @Vip__honey 2 роки тому +5

    ماں باپ سے کبھی حساب نا کرنا
    ورنہ رزق کے دروازے تم پر بند ہو جاینگے🙏

  • @rakhshandajabeen7880
    @rakhshandajabeen7880 Рік тому

    Emotional abuse is very painful thing but nobody can understand only the people who suffer with this

  • @hirasharmeen9683
    @hirasharmeen9683 Рік тому

    Really encouraging stories for ladies who are being in abusive relationship. Emotional abusing just ends in suicidal action . Its very hard for ladies to think about divorce but mental peace is more important than living in continuous abusive relationship .✌️

  • @shaneefoodtravelbeauty8266
    @shaneefoodtravelbeauty8266 2 роки тому +2

    BBC Urdu سے کیسے پرسنلی contact ہو سکتا ہے پلیز کوئ بتا دے کعورتیں کیوں abuse کا شکار ہیں ماں باپ خود بڑی وجہ ہیں

  • @zaina5569
    @zaina5569 Рік тому

    Brave girls!

  • @zeryabraza4637
    @zeryabraza4637 2 роки тому

    agreed with all of them

  • @dawood55us
    @dawood55us 2 роки тому

    Hmmmmm good decision

  • @chotadinosaur8277
    @chotadinosaur8277 2 роки тому +2

    One side story is why every time men are responsible in BBC stories..

  • @abdullahbangash1960
    @abdullahbangash1960 2 роки тому +1

    Divorce is bad as per Hindu traditional values. However, Islamic traditional values specially in Arab countries it's a normal breakup of 2 persons.

  • @aymenmalik5794
    @aymenmalik5794 2 роки тому

    Exactly

    • @crs39
      @crs39 2 роки тому

      Peaceful religion spreading peace🤲🤲🕊️

  • @recipekitchenforeveryone6061
    @recipekitchenforeveryone6061 2 роки тому

    Making their space in a society,
    Where society don't even tolerate
    their decision to start living Life Again

  • @Shaista.Raja.786.
    @Shaista.Raja.786. Рік тому

    Foreigner ki language English Hoti uny bhi divorced Hoti gawon Mai unperh larki ko bhi divorced Hoti hai...male can abuse they think it's their right in Pakistani society....

  • @thiminitubers5026
    @thiminitubers5026 2 роки тому

    Good morning friend

  • @ahmadmuhammad9420
    @ahmadmuhammad9420 Рік тому

    I want 2nd merrage any woman interested?

  • @saddamsvlog3129
    @saddamsvlog3129 2 роки тому +2

    Apki Engrezi Ki Waja Se Apko Talak Mila Hai ?

  • @saddamsvlog3129
    @saddamsvlog3129 2 роки тому +1

    un Larko Pe bhi video Banao Jiske Wife Ghar Chor Kar Saural Chale Gaye hain Or Bina Waja Husband Ko chor Gaye Hain Or Husband ko Blackmail Kar Rhy Hain

  • @mohsinsheikh00a
    @mohsinsheikh00a Рік тому

    I will marry the divorcee