Highly Sensitive People & Emotionally Unpredictable Homes

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 97

  • @timcromarty2711
    @timcromarty2711 2 роки тому +70

    When ever I've done a project such as diy at home, if the project wasn't going to plan or going smoothly I would feel really angry. I recently came across an idea that the cause of this is that when you come from an unstable or chaotic home, when you become an adult you want stability and peace. So for me when a project doesn't go as planned, it's a form of instability or chaos and a reminder of past unhappiness. Something to work on for me.

    • @reesebn38
      @reesebn38 2 роки тому +4

      That's me as well.

    • @волк-ы1ш
      @волк-ы1ш 2 роки тому +3

      That's a good point, I'm very similar.

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому +5

      This is a wonderful insight! And I love that you know that you can now create this for yourself and to have compassion for the anger. 🌟

  • @sarahs5340
    @sarahs5340 2 роки тому +29

    My mother, who I had an enmeshed relationship with, was bi-polar. She tried so hard to cover it up, but the emotional landscape was unpredictable. I’m in my 40s and still don’t understand my place in the world. I had so, so many opportunities but nothing has felt right. I spent most of my 20s and 30s just trying to get to know myself. In my 40s I tried to find my place and calling, but I haven’t found it yet.

    • @hunleycat
      @hunleycat 2 роки тому +6

      We’re the same. Wishing you peace and joy.

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому +3

      This makes so much sense. Have you done some inner child work? She may be a bit frozen in time! I would suggest some inner child work to integrate her and shine ✨

  • @amandadasilva675
    @amandadasilva675 2 роки тому +6

    See all this self inner work I gotta do as adult. It's embarrassing, I wish people w issues would stop having kids. Your jus creating more broken people . I've subscribed to you for some time and haven't scanned thru your page in a while. The topics your discussing are really hitting home for me. Learning to be a adult when I do not know nothing is embarrassing . But I'm glad to know other people are experiencing the same struggle . It's a even safe feeling knowing others have this same struggle. Sending good vibes to everyone. You deserve the world and more.

  • @corner23
    @corner23 2 роки тому +24

    Wow.....that way you described adopting the identity that your parents assigned to you really hit home.

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому +3

      Wonderful! I have another video coming that goes even deeper! Stay tuned & thanks for watching ✨

  • @MistiPatrella
    @MistiPatrella 2 роки тому +11

    Thank you!!! I’ve been trying to figure out the nature of my family dynamic for a while now. Nothing quite fit until I saw this. THANK YOU! I cried for 15 minutes because I finally found clarity about what was happening.
    Now I can step OUT of the pattern.
    Thank you.

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому +5

      BOOM 💥 this makes me so happy for you!!! Onwards and upwards now ✨

    • @els20051
      @els20051 2 роки тому +1

      Just 💛💛💛 to you!!

  • @sgcsgc6974
    @sgcsgc6974 2 роки тому +6

    Another one of your coping mechanisms if you grew up in an emotionally unpredictable home is to adapt your perception of yourself that mirrors the perception your parents are projecting onto you. Nailed it! Thank you!

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому +2

      It’s a truth that goes unrecognized too much of the time! More videos in this soon!! We will go deep and break it down. 🌟

  • @bw3153
    @bw3153 2 роки тому +5

    I remember in my 30s realizing my dad doesn’t know who I am. If he did he wouldn’t like me. And I don’t want to be who he thinks I am. I began to see my parents as peers in the adult world. You choose, I choose… we’re all doing the best we can. You are not able to give me what I seek. So began the journey into reality.

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому +3

      So powerful! I have a video coming out soon about “Filling the parental void”. I believe this one will speak to you also. Stay tuned ⚡️

  • @Gloroxsocks
    @Gloroxsocks 2 роки тому +2

    Yeah this is why I’m 22 and still have no established career, I’ve always known what I wanted to do just never had the safe space to develop, my parents didn’t care about it or motivate me towards my dreams either. All of the things I should have been developing since I was a kid I’m having to do all on my own right now with no support which holds me back even more I’m so disappointed and overwhelmed 😭😵‍💫

  • @juliethoma4356
    @juliethoma4356 2 роки тому +8

    I feel seen & heard. This helped me feel more compassionate towards myself. Thank you Candace x

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому

      That makes me so happy! I see you, you are NOT alone in this! ✨

  • @stevefranks1711
    @stevefranks1711 2 роки тому +5

    Bless you for this video. The content is very appropriate for me (at the age of 65) -- and my late Mother too, given her home environment. And I loved your observation "And by the way, it wasn't your fault." GOLD!

  • @thewishingpooltarot5425
    @thewishingpooltarot5425 2 роки тому +3

    It's heartbreaking to lean this stuff, I am greatfull for the strength you are to deliver it in such a supportive and compassionate way xxx

  • @clearwater7000
    @clearwater7000 2 роки тому +4

    I perceive to the very core. That's exactly the feeling! You explained perfectly clearly. Thank you! All blessings! 💓

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому +1

      I’m so glad I could do this for you! Sending love ✨

  • @Angell_Lee
    @Angell_Lee 2 роки тому +4

    Eveyrtime I see one of your upload, it brighten my day even more! WIshing you lots of love and sunshine energy your way. Have an amazing one xo

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому +1

      Awwwww what a lovely thing to say! I’m so glad you are here ✨

  • @nehemilia5033
    @nehemilia5033 2 роки тому +1

    Reconnect with my inner child and reintergrate her

  • @tofferarvid6589
    @tofferarvid6589 2 роки тому +2

    When we chose to come to earth and forget everything we knew we would be gifted so we chose emotionally unpredictable families for a reason so we would learn how to deal with the world when we start our true purpose... If we had a "normal" family we wouldn't be strong enough to do what we volunteered to come back to do...

  • @calb488
    @calb488 2 роки тому +5

    I grew up to one most abusive manipultive narcissistic mothers to ever exist. The video makes true points.

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому +2

      I am so sorry for your experience! You deserved better ✨

    • @thorabast8817
      @thorabast8817 2 роки тому +1

      I did too. It sure does! You're not alone! 💜💙💜

    • @thorabast8817
      @thorabast8817 2 роки тому

      @@CandacevanDell Thank you for this video! 😊

  • @deanmoulton8994
    @deanmoulton8994 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you beautiful Candace! Don't overdoit on Friday.

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому +1

      Hahaha I will try not too! I’m thinking I will do a long bday over a couple of weeks. Why not?!?

    • @deanmoulton8994
      @deanmoulton8994 2 роки тому +1

      @@CandacevanDell Party like a Neutral Observer and make it last all year!

  • @wimsylogic65
    @wimsylogic65 2 роки тому +5

    I am feeling hopeless right now. I've already rejected who I used to be and have been trying to figure out who I really am. I pretty much feel like I'm going in the right direction on knowing who I am. But sadly I found that i did lose A lot of my family. I was not very social person, I don't have much of anything for friends. people around here so unstable. Most of the time I feel like, All I have in this world is my husband and children. Because of The rising prices of everything, we're having difficulty keeping up with the bills and feeding our family properly. We can't afford childcare and I have no transportation. And I feel like we have nobody to turn to for help.

    • @annessa369
      @annessa369 2 роки тому +3

      Your message really touched me. I am so empathetic to your story. Sending much good LUCK energy and prayers that things will be so much BETTER for you and your family.🙏🏻🍀🌸

    • @danae-rain3019
      @danae-rain3019 2 роки тому

      If you are in the US than please vote Democrat. Democrats want to subsidize child care so it is more affordable. They want to raise hourly wages to match inflation over the last 40 years. People today are much much poorer thanks to Republicans funneling monet to the rich. They've got their voters hopped up on anger over guns and trans people while they rob us blind.

    • @jcr-studios
      @jcr-studios 2 роки тому +2

      So sorry it has been a challenging time for your family. Sending much love to you. Visualizing you and your family feeling joyful and a deep sense of comfort. ❤️

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому +3

      I totally hear you and it is very difficult. But you have your husband and children and that LOVE alone will help you pull through to the other side. Sometimes people who no longer serve us will leave so that the right people and healers can enter. You are exactly where you are supposed to be ✨🌟

  • @leobeaupre858
    @leobeaupre858 2 роки тому +1

    Hi Candace, Happy birthday..
    Very helpful 🤗

  • @visakgopinath3135
    @visakgopinath3135 2 роки тому +1

    Even that "c" is an EMOTIONAL trigger for me your videos helped me a lot

  • @SassyL62
    @SassyL62 2 роки тому

    the girlyyyy that helped me so much in the beginning back in 2017

  • @thejoycatcher8189
    @thejoycatcher8189 2 роки тому

    Well said. I’m so glad I found you. I just subscribed today. It’s been a lot of work healing and slow but so worth it. I’m excited to continue to learn more.

  • @ShervinShares
    @ShervinShares 2 роки тому +1

    2:15 & 4:45

  • @earthtosashaasmr
    @earthtosashaasmr 2 роки тому

    Thankyou candace . I’m happy I’ve come back to you. Interested in the inner work course , assuming you have a vid on it ?

  • @karalarson5877
    @karalarson5877 2 роки тому +1

    Spot on video for me!!! Thank you!

  • @LucieBeatrix
    @LucieBeatrix 2 роки тому +1

    this was really helpful to help me understand myself better

  • @radicalhonesty3628
    @radicalhonesty3628 2 роки тому +1

    I try so hard
    to focus on the video
    and I cannot.
    I just can't. I can barely breathe
    through the pain I'm feeling.
    It's like a 999-trillion pound weight
    on top of my chest.
    I am breathless in my agony.
    My soul is raped.
    I am tormented and tortured
    by grief and sorrow.

  • @Who_hack_here
    @Who_hack_here 10 місяців тому

    Growing up my mom always make me do this or that more than two other sisters include doing illegal for her many things not normal such as get her beers at illegal age. She didn’t care. Never let me sleep late on weekends I thought to myself I’ll never do that to my own children. Married in 1980’s and had two girls. Ex husband didn’t do much to help around home and girls either. I’ve been sick almost all my life. Had caregiver helping me via state program. One day I decided to go on strike against my ex and kids. They laugh at me. I just wanted fair share of help and love which I didn’t get.

  • @seanrademeyer3104
    @seanrademeyer3104 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you. Divine timing for this message and it’s an answer to a prayer.

  • @VirgoKat
    @VirgoKat 2 роки тому +1

    I so needed this video today, with🙏 gratitude,💜 love &🕯light, thank you💫

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому

      Thanks so much for watching! Sending light ✨🌟

  • @TheRythmofsoul
    @TheRythmofsoul 2 роки тому +1

    OMG! This is exactly what happened and happens to me 😱

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому +1

      So validating to see it all spelled out right? I’m so glad you have this clarity and awareness! 🌟

  • @BeStillandKnow0000
    @BeStillandKnow0000 2 роки тому

    Thank you for making me feel understood 🌷

  • @triciamears7338
    @triciamears7338 2 роки тому

    Thank You, it’s all starting to make sense 😥.

  • @squelch9
    @squelch9 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you, this was incredibly relevant and insightful.

  • @humanityhealthyself4430
    @humanityhealthyself4430 2 роки тому

    Another solid gold video. Thank you!

  • @juliethoma4356
    @juliethoma4356 2 роки тому +1

    Only half way through, but I can say THANK YOU for this already

  • @candacecooper7688
    @candacecooper7688 6 місяців тому

    I have no idea what my identity is...hypervigilent all the time growing up.

  • @lonlep1831
    @lonlep1831 2 роки тому +2

    🙏ver good, thanks 🙏🌷🙏 btw the title was not precise for me (home means for me “now” in stead off upbringing/ family)

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому

      Ahhhh yes, I am referring to childhood home.

  • @rosiemac2538
    @rosiemac2538 2 роки тому +2

    great video❤

  • @jsavannah123
    @jsavannah123 2 роки тому

    Omggg this hit so close to home

  • @nehemilia5033
    @nehemilia5033 2 роки тому +1

    This has been my story liké forever. I am not that type of girl anymore who self rejects. Its about me not them

  • @reesebn38
    @reesebn38 2 роки тому

    Thanks that was great! Happy early Birthday!!

  • @loveandcherishdebbie
    @loveandcherishdebbie 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you

  • @teslagoth9401
    @teslagoth9401 2 роки тому +1

    This is good

  • @vtmfitness
    @vtmfitness 2 роки тому +3

    What if you can't remember anything from your childhood?

    • @motokokusanagix4564
      @motokokusanagix4564 2 роки тому +1

      İf you don't have any medical problem it means you traumatized to the degree inorder to survive your brain suppressed your memories. I know its little bit hard to swallow the truth. I am personnaly in the same path trying to figure it out what happened to me and feel emotions and feelings again. So good luck.

    • @akvilestankeviciute-caiced4399
      @akvilestankeviciute-caiced4399 2 роки тому +2

      I don't remember almost anything from my childhood, very close to zero memories. And the ones that I have are more like flashes or images.

    • @calb488
      @calb488 2 роки тому

      Must been boring childhood tbh.

    • @CandacevanDell
      @CandacevanDell  2 роки тому

      This can happen as a coping mechanism to move away from pain. As you heal, you will also have a healing of memories 🌟

  • @kimallen3932
    @kimallen3932 2 роки тому +1

    ❤️

  • @Mansions.
    @Mansions. Рік тому

    Is gold this work. In the future looking back people will say. This girl she gets it. She is talking real. Is like the child telling the emperor you are not wearing any clothes. This is the role she is playing. The exposer of the truth. Real deal talk.

  • @fayr.2134
    @fayr.2134 2 роки тому +1

    Shazam!

  • @jennjenn02
    @jennjenn02 2 роки тому +1

    Preach!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 lol
    But seriously, THANK YOU for this video Beautiful Soul!! 🙏🏽💜

  • @visakgopinath3135
    @visakgopinath3135 2 роки тому

    I think i have to tattoo that "c"on my wrist because it keeps me emotionally secure, may be because of your love addiction theory

  • @happysky7964
    @happysky7964 Рік тому

    Will you be my bff?

  • @Mira-jj6du
    @Mira-jj6du 2 роки тому

    How do you get out of an emotionally unpredictable home when you’re living with teenagers?? 🙄 talk about unpredictable home

  • @anigemini3958
    @anigemini3958 2 роки тому

    Thank you... This term finally describes what I experienced 🥲