story time about bullying...(mean girls, high school and advice)

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  • Hi guys! You've been sending me so many dms lately about bullying and feeling alone so I feel like RIGHT NOW would be the perfect time to share my story and what high school was REALLY like for me. I love you! You are not alone xoxox.
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  • @hafsaegal3398
    @hafsaegal3398 2 роки тому +816

    "It's not cocky to be confident and it's not humble to hate yourself" sooo inspirational, thank you Spencer.

  • @eylulbasakcetinkanat4352
    @eylulbasakcetinkanat4352 2 роки тому +204

    Shifting from “not being alone but being lonely” to “being alone but not being lonely” is an actual GLOW UP ✨💅🏻

  • @ornellabecerra8827
    @ornellabecerra8827 2 роки тому +1770

    Spencer definitely cares about her supporters, she makes us feel so confident and so happy everytime we watch her videos. Keep going spence!!! we love u so much!!

    • @Spencer.Barbosa
      @Spencer.Barbosa  2 роки тому +555

      I love you so much forever

    • @usernameidk23
      @usernameidk23 2 роки тому +48

      @@Spencer.Barbosa ly sm def my all time fave yter

    • @doingoinoinoinoing
      @doingoinoinoinoing 2 роки тому +17

      @@Spencer.Barbosa you're such a huge inspiration and great role model
      keep doing what you love we lysm tyyy

    • @haley2408
      @haley2408 2 роки тому +4

      I completely agree!💕

    • @preppycloudzdancing8861
      @preppycloudzdancing8861 2 роки тому +10

      @@Spencer.Barbosa This was such a helpful video I’m about to start high school and I’m really scared because I’m currently being cyber bullied and I have to actually go to the same school as the bully. This video helped me understand that if I don’t let in all the negativity and hate I will feel way better and if I’m more confident it will make the bully scared to bully me. I love your videos and your channel so much!!

  • @maria-dr6zv
    @maria-dr6zv 2 роки тому +475

    im in grade 8 and being bullied right now. it's really nice to know that there's someone out there that understands what im going through and that has grown from it. thanks Spencer :)

    • @kenneeddyy
      @kenneeddyy 2 роки тому +28

      Hope things get better for you. ❤️❤️

    • @shootingstaraldc
      @shootingstaraldc 2 роки тому +21

      I’m sorry! You are much more powerful for them. You should get their nasty words out of your head and be you.

    • @kenzie6135
      @kenzie6135 2 роки тому +10

      All you need to know is how to love yourself that’s all that matters bec when you can do that then YOU CAN BE YOU, don’t care what they say

    • @maria-dr6zv
      @maria-dr6zv 2 роки тому +5

      @@kenzie6135 thank you! it helps a lot :))

    • @maria-dr6zv
      @maria-dr6zv 2 роки тому +4

      @@shootingstaraldc yeah that's right! i am better than that

  • @ErikaDiane
    @ErikaDiane 2 роки тому +1067

    spencer thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing your experience🤍it really tugged at my heart - i’m so proud of you for coming so far!

    • @Shehd2006
      @Shehd2006 2 роки тому +15

      love u erika!!

    • @ejj1114
      @ejj1114 2 роки тому +18

      wait omg- Erika, u and spencer should collab cuz y’all are the best 🤍🤍🤍

    • @User-eo6rj
      @User-eo6rj 2 роки тому +3

      Love ya both🥺♾️🤍

    • @literallymylife_
      @literallymylife_ 2 роки тому +7

      yooo what u doing here haha

    • @victoriapeterson8360
      @victoriapeterson8360 2 роки тому +6

      Omg ur verified now

  • @jenniferthompson5146
    @jenniferthompson5146 Рік тому +70

    I’m 31 and it still hurts 😢. Senior year of high school I was bullied by the friend group I was in. It was my best friend’s friends. I wish I would have had the strength to ditch them all and go alone, but I had no wise counsel about the situation so I didn’t know any better. Today I know that bullies are very insecure people and hate the light that you have. Jesus and many good people in the Bible were hated and ostracized, and that comforts me.

    • @ch36799
      @ch36799 6 місяців тому +1

      Please accept all Jesus Christ as your Lord and saviour ✝️❤

    • @JuliePatrick-m1j
      @JuliePatrick-m1j 20 днів тому

      Jenniferthompson5146, I agree with you 100%. I am going through it at 55.

  • @annatelford9905
    @annatelford9905 2 роки тому +586

    I’m currently balling my eyes out. I’ve never felt so much love through a video. I’ve struggled my whole life with bullying from others and from my self. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I wish I could meet you 🥲❤️I love you thank u so much

    • @Spencer.Barbosa
      @Spencer.Barbosa  2 роки тому +203

      I love you SOOOOO much! You will get through this I know it ! ILY

    • @jessica.rachna
      @jessica.rachna 2 роки тому +13

      @@Spencer.Barbosa i love you. spencer.

    • @savannahgolden6036
      @savannahgolden6036 2 роки тому +9

      You can do it don't let people bother you

    • @breaks3085
      @breaks3085 7 місяців тому +1

      I got bullied in the gym, the girls that were working at the Reception, told All the members to not talk to me, people were looking at me with discuss as if they spreaded a Rumour, I train in a different location but under the same gym. An one of the girls that was involved, works at the Reception were i train, now she's giving me Sad looks as if she's feeling sorry for me, like she's wants to be cool. She's actually a good looking girl, that you wouldn't expect that from.

    • @Sparkbark45
      @Sparkbark45 3 місяці тому

      Omg I feel like I’m in the same situation. 🥲

  • @Balletlover-cx1cv
    @Balletlover-cx1cv 2 роки тому +62

    Some girls are just so insecure that they take it out on others and it’s horrible. Spencer is so sweet and I can’t believe that this happened to her. She’s so strong to share it! 💕💕💕

  • @sanasdiary4851
    @sanasdiary4851 2 роки тому +632

    Who else is literally soo inspired by Spencer and her content !!!
    💗

    • @Spencer.Barbosa
      @Spencer.Barbosa  2 роки тому +144

      Omg yayyayaya

    • @EllishandZooayy
      @EllishandZooayy 2 роки тому +6

      Me, I discover something new about me and discover how beautiful I am everyday

    • @User-eo6rj
      @User-eo6rj 2 роки тому +3

      Me

    • @usernameidk23
      @usernameidk23 2 роки тому +1

      @@Spencer.Barbosa your so pretty and inspirational thanks for making us love ourselves even more lysm!!!

    • @nikkiwilmore-carr5594
      @nikkiwilmore-carr5594 2 роки тому

      I love you 😘

  • @musicaltheatergeek7
    @musicaltheatergeek7 Рік тому +140

    I'm currently going through a situation where two girls are bullying me and "recruiting" other people to join in by spreading false rumors about me, gossiping about me, and just saying really means about me like she's ugly, immature, childish, unpopular, irrelevant, etc. It's incredibly hurtful as I also deal with my own insecurities that make their words hurt twice as much. And to top it off, they're always finding ways to tarnish my reputation and it's hard to explain my side of the story because they believe everything those girls say about me. But, this video really makes me feel more comforted and hopeful that things will turn around for the better.
    Moral of the story: bullying is horrible. Don't do it to anyone.

    • @aida7760
      @aida7760 Рік тому +9

      Don't be sad . Just believe and love yourself 🎉

    • @urluhv
      @urluhv Рік тому +8

      im here if u ever need someone

    • @nikkikoukal6027
      @nikkikoukal6027 Рік тому +10

      At the end of the day honey you know the truth about yourself so when these mean people spread rumors about just know they are small minded people and won't amount to much of they don't change so at the end of the day honey stay true to yourself and remember you are an amazing person ❤

    • @kaitlynwalker13
      @kaitlynwalker13 Рік тому +5

      That is literally happening to me right now

    • @lolk9932
      @lolk9932 Рік тому +2

      @@nikkikoukal6027 so so true

  • @senseifroggy8321
    @senseifroggy8321 2 роки тому +281

    i love the energy spencer radiates 💛💛 im 14, and she honestly stands as such a role model to me as I'm sure she is to so many others.
    her videos really inspire me, and honestly, spencer and so many other strong people like her have changed me so much!
    since I was quite young, I've always felt quite insecure about certain things, and im so happy with myself rn. like ngl, I doo get quite insecure at times and struggle with weight related thoughts, bUUTTT its getting so so good, and im able to realise these patterns and teach myself that media is differently presented to how real life actually is like.
    i love spencer barbosa, and you 💗
    just like, thank you for being awesome

    • @hannahthomas1538
      @hannahthomas1538 2 роки тому +5

      23 soon, am a mum even haha and she's also my role model. She reminds me that I can be confident about my abilities, that I even have abilities haha

    • @hopesesay9598
      @hopesesay9598 2 роки тому +3

      Same

    • @hope-mv9lv
      @hope-mv9lv 2 роки тому +5

      about to be 14, and same! shes such a wonderful person and makes me feel so much better when im feeling shitty

    • @senseifroggy8321
      @senseifroggy8321 2 роки тому +1

      @@hannahthomas1538 thats awesome!! 💗

    • @teamartina.S6786
      @teamartina.S6786 2 роки тому +2

      Same!!!❤️💗❤️

  • @maria_ra7
    @maria_ra7 5 місяців тому +11

    I hate when people do nothing when it comes to harrasment. It makes me understand thats not a one person problem it is more of a society issue.

  • @JonathanMcDonnell-q8t
    @JonathanMcDonnell-q8t 2 роки тому +126

    Spencer is honestly such an amazing person.She is so kind and resilient and better than any Well Being teacher I've ever had !!!Seriously,I don't understand how anyone could ever have bullied her,she's so the type of person I'd want to be friends with X x

  • @PurpleStars02
    @PurpleStars02 2 роки тому +349

    Can we be besties?! I’m serious. You are amazing and we have so much in common! ❤️

    • @Mia-jp6jj
      @Mia-jp6jj 2 роки тому +8

      WAIT OMG DID U POST SQUISHY VIDEOS IN LIKE 2017-2018

    • @anonymous-pb6xp
      @anonymous-pb6xp 2 роки тому +8

      Ok but that would be the BEST collab like ever oml 💀

    • @Lily_m13
      @Lily_m13 2 роки тому +1

      OMG hi Kayla I love you so much I have watched you for 2 years now I am a huge fan ily♥️❤️🤍🤎💕💓💖💗💘💙💚💛💜🖤🧡Also can you make videos with you bf y'all are such a cute couple 🧡🖤💜💛💚💙♥️❤️🤍🤎💕💓💘💗💖🍦🐼🥠

    • @lifecore1
      @lifecore1 2 роки тому

      Ahh! Hi Kayla, I didn’t know you watched Spencer!

    • @gracedoesart
      @gracedoesart 2 роки тому

      OMG HI KAYLA! u and spencer NEED to collab❤️ Seriously you guys are both amazing! I’m part of the Starfam and I’m a fan of Spencer (not sure what her fandom is called)! Both of you make me so happy and thank you for all you do!

  • @phoebe1569
    @phoebe1569 2 роки тому +91

    Spencer, u turned that negativity into your power and positivity that's what makes you special 🌻✨🥰

  • @beliz5562
    @beliz5562 Рік тому +28

    Your happiness is NEVER obnoxious. Anyone saying otherwise are sad and insecure people who are very jealous of your shining beautiful smile, amazing contagious energy and liveliness. (Even I am a little jealous of you Spen.) You are everything I want to be. I want to be able to feel as confident of being myself as you are. I wish you always stay as happy as now, in this video.
    We love you.

  • @coralklaas4345
    @coralklaas4345 Рік тому +12

    You were bullied and scapegoated my friend. This should never happen to anyone. I understand how you feel, because I've also been there. You are wonderful. There are too many toxic narcissists out there these days. If you are an EMPATH, narcissists are always going to try to come into your space. Stay smart. Being alone is painful. But never forget, it's better to be rid of toxic friends than in their midst. These jerks will reap what they sow. Hugs. ❤

  • @annes.7863
    @annes.7863 2 роки тому +75

    im sick right now, I have to quarantine from my family, and I feel like staying in bed forever. but, when Spencer posted, it made my day soooo much better. thank you so much spencer!! love you!

    • @solab3075
      @solab3075 2 роки тому +1

      Hope u get better ! 💕

    • @annes.7863
      @annes.7863 2 роки тому +1

      @@solab3075 thank you! 🙏💕

  • @tiffanypiney9172
    @tiffanypiney9172 2 роки тому +32

    The people that did bully you probably feel so foolish now, not just because your famous, but because of how confident you are and how you own yourself. You've grown so much from then but are still owning yourself for who YOU are, ILY🥰

  • @jemmaotingo450
    @jemmaotingo450 2 роки тому +116

    Im 14 turning 15... My whole life I've been bullied like you say, since grade 4. Being a pre teen and all is like going into a new world. I was bullied for a big forehead and furthermore, I'm really dark skin. My so called 'friends' bullied me secretly. I thought I finally found a place where I belong but shock on me! I always had a bad gut feeling about them but I ignored.... Because of them I bullied other people who were just minding their own business. Until this day I regret what I did but I didn't mean it intentionally. But I thank God that I learnt from my mistakes. In grade 6 I moved into a Catholic school. Even though it's strictly religious, the students in that school..... They always comment on my body because even though I have a thin body, my stomach is gigantic. Normally I feel most confident with a crop top so.... yeah.... They call me a whore and a slut because I show my hands, chest, etc. Today I couldn't take the hate anymore. I thought no one cared about me. I don't have a friend so far. I'm used to it but sometimes I feel devastated that theres no one I can share my happiness and sadness. It was just today that I felt like to commit suicide. That's when I got this video and trult it was a sign from God. I'm not really open to my parents because when I tell them about my problems, it crushes their soul a little so I dont want them to carry all my issues. I just wanted to put it out there. Never do I comment on a video but I had to on this one. So anyone who's going through this, you're not alone. Thank You Spencer. May God bless you. I'll try to talk to my parents 😉

    • @juanitakintossou4661
      @juanitakintossou4661 2 роки тому +1

      Hello, i Hope you will find happiness and peace ❤

    • @Lily_m13
      @Lily_m13 2 роки тому +9

      Hi I just wanted to comment I'm only 12 but I got bullied alot the other day someone said I was fat and ugly it really got me depressed 😔 😔 and every one thinks I'm a normal person and they don't know what's really happened to me I was mentally and physically abused because I would get punched in the head and when I got home I would just cry alot and today someone said "can u just go there is not purpose in this world for you" and I started crying in the middle of class I just wanted to let you know I madder and Im here with u❤️♥️💙💚💛💜🤎🤍🖤🧡

    • @sofdaloaf8464
      @sofdaloaf8464 2 роки тому +6

      @@Lily_m13 Hello 👋🏼, I don’t really comment on videos but I have to say this. Whoever said that about you is probably super insecure or they are just used to their way all the time. Ik everyone says this but you’re not alone. This happens to so many people (because we aren’t perfect people tend to bring the negativity on others) you are beautiful ok. Don’t let those people bring you down. And I know it could be hard but try to talk to someone about this because it could lead into something worse :(. You aren’t fat , whoever told you that, their insecurities are fat (thats the reason they told you that)
      Love yourself ok bc trust me it’s worth it down let the haters bring you down
      Edit: also don’t forget god loves you if anything else happens he will get you through it :)

    • @Lily_m13
      @Lily_m13 2 роки тому

      @@sofdaloaf8464 Hello thank you so much for this comment I'm doing better! Also do you have Snapchat? I was wondering if you would wanna be my friend

    • @squareapples5118
      @squareapples5118 2 роки тому +2

      @Jemma Otingo I can 100% identify with everything you've described. I've been there. The good news is everything you describe gets better as you get older. I remember hating elementary and secondary school from bottom of my heart for all the same reasons you described...
      As I got older and looked back on the years I'm glad I went through these difficulties. Why?
      Because I realized that all my childhood difficulties strengthened me and shaped me into a much better person than I would be otherwise.
      Yes you may often feel like your world is falling apart but as you get older and look back on it all, you'll be GLAD that you faced and got through all those trials. What do the strongest people with the best characters all have in common?? They have faced big trials through their life. The people with the easier lives are often shallow and boring in my experience.
      Oh and one more thing: You are NEVER alone. God is always with you even if the entire world turna against you.
      Psalm 23 verse 4

  • @ariellesmith102
    @ariellesmith102 10 місяців тому +12

    Remember, if you have hater, bullies, etc. You are doing something right in your life. People will always hate you/on you and there is nothing you can do about it. Just know that if everyone loves you it's fake love because not every person is going to love you, having haters is the best thing that could happen to you bc that let's u know that other people notice the good in ur life but they just want to make you feel bad right along with them. Misery loves company.

    • @Sparkbark45
      @Sparkbark45 3 місяці тому

      💯 exactly right. Thank you for the uplifting comment

  • @alysonwhitehead9194
    @alysonwhitehead9194 2 роки тому +17

    part of me can hardly beleive a girl this beautiful and amazing went through all that😭. in some way its comforting to know that you can still be great even if you don't have any friends at school.

  • @daisookie9549
    @daisookie9549 2 роки тому +10

    i’m in my last year of high school and last year was the worst year of my entire life i hated myself and my friends didn’t feel like friends at all so i really feel you on this one.i have a lot of social anxiety and i’m still hanging out with the same friends but i’m trying my best to just go one day at a time and seeing you make this video really lifted me up and i now rlly understand that other girls just like me do go through these things but they still turn out amazing so thanks again for this

    • @veronicamozee
      @veronicamozee Рік тому

      I got bullied so bad by ppl who wouldn't give A Fuck if I died or took my own life. I finally had to picture myself in the grave and say then what? Who would care? The ppl passion g judgment on you would just be like dumb for two seconds . Then I realized my life is important to to ME. And decided that I want to live and live happily no only for myself but to spite the haters. Keep living cause humiliation is just an emotion. It passes and life goes on. Gas yourself up, do something good for yourself or others. I got bullied by big stars sl I made a sassy post to let them know that they don't bother me at allllll. Like Marilyn or Coco said... "I don't care what you think of me, I don't think of you at all." Hope this helps. 💕

  • @sharanyamukherjee4613
    @sharanyamukherjee4613 2 роки тому +31

    Spencer i am not even kidding you are my favourite influencer. Literally when i wake up in the morning and open insta i want your post or reel to be there on my feed to motivate me . I have been so inspired by you that i am in a journey of loving myself no matter what because i did not before . I literally love you and happy for you for coming this far

  • @kanishkabhardwaj4252
    @kanishkabhardwaj4252 2 роки тому +19

    As someone who has been badly bullied since a young age, I can't explain to u how much Spencer's videos help me. They boost up my confidence and yea she is the ultimate big sister ,friend kinda figure who I love.
    Keep going spencer
    We love u!
    And we r always gonna stay by your side

  • @niashq
    @niashq 2 роки тому +33

    Girl, I totally get you. I was bullied too before high school, and then by the end of high school betrayed by those I thought were gonna be lifelong friends. If we had gone to the same school, we would have been great friends 🥲.

  • @dog6866
    @dog6866 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for making this video on the topic of bullying! Unforutunatly it's such a sad but common theme in schools all across the country. I myself was subjected to a lot of bullying in middle school and I can really relate to how you feel/felt during that time. But it makes me so happy to see that people are now coming out and talking about how bullying has afffected them and sharing their stories. I recently saw a case about bullying on social media about a girl {Aubreigh Wyatt} who unfortunatly took her own life and now her mom is trying to spread awareness about bullies and teen mental health on her social media platforms, which I applaud her for advocating not just for her daughter but for all the victims of bullies. Love your videos spencer!! Keep doing what your doing and may god bless you!!!

  • @haleigh1008
    @haleigh1008 2 роки тому +30

    Ya know, I have dealt with bullying and I am still in school. I've been doing virtual ever since covid started and I have felt so alone and grown way more insecure. But watching your videos has helped me so much spencer. You inspire me and so many more people. Thank you

  • @drshelockwho
    @drshelockwho 2 роки тому +12

    I just want to say that this incredibly helped me tonight, as a mother of a 4th grader , who's currently struggling with bullying, your content helps her feel like her "buckets filled" and shows her she isn't alone in this experience.
    She and I both really appreciate the help. It takes a team and we appreciate your kindness

  • @sheagroza
    @sheagroza 2 роки тому +31

    I was so insecure about my body before I found you. You’re the coolest internet big sister ever!!!!! I love you and your confidence! Never stop for anyone!! 💜💜💜

  • @ryleighstoltz276
    @ryleighstoltz276 7 місяців тому +7

    Literally watching this is gym class trying to hold in my tears from what the girls just said to me 😭

    • @splatz4669
      @splatz4669 4 місяці тому +1

      Omg gurl me too 😭 ur not alone

  • @KiwiKeyblade
    @KiwiKeyblade 2 роки тому +35

    I love your personality! You aren't annoying, you are happy and joyful! You rock! :D

  • @rileylouise1613
    @rileylouise1613 2 роки тому +187

    Spencer!! START A PODCAST WOMAN!! You are so amazing and I'm so glad that I found your channel because you've helped me soooooooo much, and I know you'll probably will never see this comment but I want you to know I totally understand ALL of what you've just said, I've just started High School which I love like academically and I'm lucky because I go to a small school, But socially it's kinda hard, I'm a very quite person and I've had a lot of anxiety and stuff, still do, but because I've been through some shit and other kids haven't I feel very.....different?? But I thank GOD every single day that I've been through what was possibly the worst few years of my life, because I learnt so much from it I would NOT be the person I am right now and I think that you've had the same situation, you've learnt so much from being bullied.....AND LOOK AT YOU YOUR GORGEOUS FUNNY AND SUCH A INSPIRING PERSON AND YOU ARE HAPPY AND LOVING YOURSELF WHICH I LOVE YOU FOR AND IS WHY WATCHING YOUR VIDEOS IS SUCH AN IMPORTANT DAILY THING FOR ME!! You make me so happy love your good energy, I'm sorry that this comment is so long, Oh and also I've ALWAYSSSSSSS wanted a big sister and you are such a positive female role model for me!!!!!!!! Don't ever feel bad about your self your awesome and a lot of people here think so I love you for being you!! Xx
    Oh also there is this one girl I go to school with and have known her for my whole life but she is extremely toxic to me and tears me down constantly and is super jealous for me being good at a lot of things but everytime I try and stand up for myself........It gets worst she is a spoiled kid and doesn't like the word, no, So I find myself always in awkward situations which is hard for me with being so quite and anxiety because I can't just say, no, and she always gets her way, but maybe it's me because as I've just said I've know her all my life so she's probably just used to me being so easy to boss around, so sorry I know it's my problem and not yours but do you have any advice???????? I'm always kind to everyone but at some point I think I need to draw a line, and also I'm so used to it I just have to kinda deal with it, Ahhhhhhhh I know this is like the longest comment ever but as I said I've ALWAYSSSSSSS wanted a sister so I've got a life time of questions hehe xx
    Also so sorry about the I hate Spencer club, I would NOT sign it : (
    Xx but look at you now!!
    Love you xxoo

    • @anyiapeli2510
      @anyiapeli2510 2 роки тому +3

      omfg a podcast would be such a good idea!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

    • @Seabass789
      @Seabass789 2 роки тому +4

      I swear if she starts a podcast will be hooked to it ... 24/7

    • @sidneybates37
      @sidneybates37 2 роки тому +3

      Ohmygosh yes please start a podcast i love you so much! You are beautiful and nice and i feel so much love even though i dont know you in person

    • @rileylouise1613
      @rileylouise1613 2 роки тому +3

      @@sidneybates37 Me or Spencer?? x

    • @sidneybates37
      @sidneybates37 2 роки тому +1

      @@rileylouise1613 spencer. But if you want to you totally should. But to be honest i know nothing abt u but if you are passionate about starting one you should

  • @janeashleysaylor3970
    @janeashleysaylor3970 2 роки тому +75

    Stawp because this queen has literally turned my life upside down! She literally is so real and such an inspiration. You can tell she truly cares about not only her beautiful self but everyone! Love you forever spencer I owe it all to you!

  • @Wisteria15
    @Wisteria15 5 місяців тому +2

    This is the most helpful bullying video to watch. All these other vids talk about some step by step way to talk back to bullies or be nice to them. She actually goes into the details no one wants to admit. I love her sm 😭

  • @oliviajones9660
    @oliviajones9660 2 роки тому +47

    Definitely start a podcast. Your voice is so soothing to listen to and you have great information.

  • @sloanesullivan3117
    @sloanesullivan3117 2 роки тому +14

    This literally made me cry, thank you so much Spencer for opening up with us and we are here for u bestie!

  • @lexysvlogs
    @lexysvlogs 2 роки тому +12

    It’s crazy that you got bullied this much because you’re actually so beautiful and down to earth. I feel like we totally wouldve been friends if we went to school together. Also I never fit in either, I had my fair share of sitting alone at lunch. It really can be devastating not having the positive highschool experience you’re always promised growing up, and never finding a friend group that you grow up with or eventually have at your wedding.

  • @AlyssaAcree-y2x
    @AlyssaAcree-y2x Рік тому +6

    ik i’m watching this in the future, i felt the same way Spencer felt through middle and high school. I’m in 7th grade and i’ve been bullied for my weight and my sexuality and i felt so bad abt myself. but i’ve learned to be confident. Spencer, if your reading this, you made me feel a lot more confident and i’ve learned to love myself, so thank you💕💕

  • @Egotistical432
    @Egotistical432 Рік тому +9

    Discrimination is just an illusion and everyone is beautiful.

  • @Nyah_Plays
    @Nyah_Plays 2 місяці тому +2

    I love your videos, you’re so real for example at my school some people make fun of one person and pick on them. And everyone’s quiet. No one dares to say a thing back to the bullies. I would love to be friends if you were at my high school. I also don’t fit in and have any friends. You’re like everyone’s big sister. You’re one of my fav UA-camrs.❤

  • @c4mcam12
    @c4mcam12 2 роки тому +32

    YOU SHOULD DO A PODCAST SPENCER, YOUR VIDS ARE SOOO GOOD AND SO NICE AND COMFORTING AND ILY SO MUCH 💕

  • @katelynnoecker2194
    @katelynnoecker2194 2 роки тому +7

    I'm SO glad you're at the confidence level you're at now. You've come out so incredibly strong on the other side of that bullying and are using that experience to help others who may be going through the same thing. I absolutely love watching your videos, you're a light in this world, you're a true inspiration ❤

  • @eswinter8015
    @eswinter8015 2 роки тому +13

    Spencer, THANKYOU for talking about this - this is something I wish I could've heard when I was younger, but it was also so good to hear now. You are so brave to talk about this and yes yes yes to the podcast!!

  • @iliketopine
    @iliketopine 2 роки тому +6

    I’m ten years older than you but you’re an inspiration in my life. You have taught me so much and always look forward for your long videos. Keep being you!!
    Blessings!!

  • @abbylovedhellokitty6385
    @abbylovedhellokitty6385 2 роки тому +10

    Aww I feel so bad this makes me cry 😭 I’m glad that your way more happier

  • @danielasykorova7673
    @danielasykorova7673 2 роки тому +5

    I used to be a bully but unfortunately a few years later circumstances changed and I was the one who was bullied. So I was on each side and tbh I am thankful for that experience. I’m really sorry for the mean things I did and hurtful words I said but without it I wouldn’t be who I’m now. And I just want to say that I’m looking forward to all your videos, instagram posts, stories… You make me a better person.

  • @priyamgoyal8082
    @priyamgoyal8082 2 роки тому +9

    i really needed advice for bullying from somebody i know and have been watching for a long time cause i was bullied for 4 years and it was not a fun time at all my confidence and self esteem went to 0 but i have working on myself for the past 6 months and this video was a cherry on the top ly spencer

  • @katiemeeley6235
    @katiemeeley6235 2 роки тому +38

    9:17 literally shocked me so much! How could a principal say such a thing? If a girl did that to a boy she would be called psychotic and the principal would DEFINITELY do something about that

  • @audrey228
    @audrey228 2 роки тому +27

    SPENCERRRR!!! you are so beautiful! You have helped me overcome my body image issues and insecurities. I’m in 10th grade and it is really hard but you are helping me through it. Also can we pls have a skincare/makeup routine?? you always look flawless 💕💕💕

  • @rebeccaschenker3943
    @rebeccaschenker3943 2 роки тому +5

    I’m going through similar things right now. High school is absolutely brutal(the girls in particular). You have no idea how much joy your content brings me, thank you

  • @ginnybean9835
    @ginnybean9835 2 роки тому +17

    Your so beautiful and give the best advice, your always in a good mood and always brighten up my day. I appreciate you and you are literally the greatest person alive.
    I was always the confident girl at school that everyone always picked on and everyone was jealous of.
    Your such a ray of sunshine and you didn’t deserve any of that
    Love you Spencer❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @antoniahiggins1757
    @antoniahiggins1757 Рік тому +4

    I can relate so much to this video. I was bullied in school, but in that I became mean. I love myself now but I struggle with the words and action that’s I had/did when I was younger. My advice; what ever you go through you always be nice to people and the other side will be waiting for you regardless.

    • @alechianese01
      @alechianese01 Рік тому

      that's a sweet revenge. i was ashamed to be too kind with who doesn't deserve that

  • @serenasalameh2062
    @serenasalameh2062 2 роки тому +3

    i am so happy that someone like u is on social media because your bullying story is just like mine, i was bullied at grade 5 by a groupe of girls that i though they were my "besties" we were on school trip to and i heard them talking shit about me bcz i was fat, but that day our techear spent a whole hour talking about bullying and how to be confident, and i never fit in too, i changed school last year and i don't have close frinds like i know alot of peaple and no budy hates me but at the lunch break i stay alone in the library every one thinks that i love reading but i actually read just when i feel lonely . anywayys i love your vids keep going you are making me love myself ❤

  • @dorottyavrba1796
    @dorottyavrba1796 2 роки тому +6

    Dear Spencer,
    Truly thank you for this video, I love how you're so emotional. I went through these things, not anymore tho, but you are such a good person, please stay like this and never change because I stan you gurlll. Thank you, and I love your videos, they are soooo helpful.

  • @bkriding
    @bkriding 2 роки тому +19

    I’m dealing with bullying right now, and I have no idea what to do. Thank you for making this video 🤍🪐

    • @indialois
      @indialois 2 роки тому +5

      I've been there in the past and, I know it might not help much, but I promise that somebody is there to listen and there will always be someone who cares.
      Do you have anyone you can talk to who might be able to support you? (Friends, parents, teachers etc.) If not, you can always @me if you want to talk about it

    • @bkriding
      @bkriding 2 роки тому +4

      @@indialois this is one of the nicest things ever, I can talk to my parents

  • @christyypark
    @christyypark Рік тому +2

    For whoever who needs this, your experiences don’t have to be huge disasters to be considered traumatic. Not everything is trauma, but many things are traumatic.

  • @Mr2sarah
    @Mr2sarah 2 роки тому +4

    I was being bullied pretty bad too for over 6 years by Girls and Guys as well! I feel the pain and they did a pretty big mess in my head and messed up my confidence.. You make me feel like my body isn't the problem even if i'm nearly 23yo I still have a "lot" of problem accepting me! So proud of the person you become and always smiling!

  • @hadleigh914
    @hadleigh914 2 роки тому +4

    I get bullied for my ears and it's constantly the same person! You've made me feel so so confident I can't even explain it

    • @channie2189
      @channie2189 2 роки тому

      Queen you're literally perfect. They're just so insecure to mind their own fucking business. Love you Queen 💗.

  • @Egotistical432
    @Egotistical432 Рік тому +1

    Everyone has a reason but people can’t see it only by reading. What are good things and what are bad things from two opposing sides just in conflict. It’s so sad that’s the cruel reality of pain. I wish the world would be more nice and kind 😢 because everyone being treated differently makes a huge impact on their lives.

  • @crxft1ue416
    @crxft1ue416 2 роки тому +9

    This was really really helpful. Thanks Queen. Keep being you. I would love to see a "you are enough" podcast talking all about why we should love ourselves. That would be amazing. Have the best day ever Spencer

  • @aliceeeee5642
    @aliceeeee5642 2 роки тому +5

    OMG SPENCER I LITERALLY LOVE YOU. I AM SO PROUD OF YOU FOR HOW FAR YOU HAVE COME. YOU LITERALLY MADE ME CRY I LOVE YOUUU. YOU WERE SUPER HELPFULLLLL. KEEP UP YOUR AMAZING CONTENT, EVERYONE REALLY APPRECIATES IT🤍

  • @ryleighprobert
    @ryleighprobert Місяць тому +1

    i feel so bad for you!!! nobody deserves to be treated like that, and it was so kind of you to not say the bulliesynames!!!! my favorite part of this video was when you said "you have fingernails, but that dosent mean you are a finger nail!". i love you so much and you are so awesome!!! you have helped me with so much stuff!! jesus loves you!!! have a blessed day

  • @Urfav_lunita
    @Urfav_lunita 2 роки тому +4

    To be honest, this video really helped me. I really needed someone to talk to me like this. You have been a big part of my life. This might sound kind of clingy, but u help me treat others better and treat myself better. I found you on tiktok one time and started following up, and then I noticed the big good impact you have on my confidence. By the way, thank you, and ur doing great too.

  • @annabellepiraux8017
    @annabellepiraux8017 2 роки тому +2

    Your literally my inspiration to do better in life, even when I've sunken to the lowest points. I'm so glad that you share everything to us and we know that we shouldn't feel ashamed. Good for working on yourself and coming to this point in your life!

  • @shainaschweitzer9231
    @shainaschweitzer9231 2 роки тому +3

    I was bullied from 3rd to 8th grade by a specific person. I moved away and haven't seen or talked to her. But I saw her outside a resturaunt a couple nights ago for the first time in years. Seeing her face just made me so angry I was shaking, and I right away broke down in the car. It was like ptsd. Just seeing her outside triggered something. I don't know how to get past this and move on. I've been told "You're better than her. Don't waste your time dwelling on it," stuff like that. But it was a whole five years of constant crying. I can't forget, and I don't know how to move on. Love you Spencer

  • @sicilypop
    @sicilypop 2 роки тому +4

    You’re amazing. I’m in high school right now and everything you described was so spot on. It makes me feel comforted that it is all temporary, and I really needed this video. I love you Spencer ❤️❤️

  • @zoet1904
    @zoet1904 2 роки тому +6

    (i hope you see this) i have been watching you for a while, my friends have delt with bullying too and i always stood up for them , i shared your channel with them and we were all inspired, after watching this we decided to start an “i love spencer barbosa club” . ❤️
    on a less deep note: gurl i love ur energy, and if ur ever struggling just remember, u look 🔥🔥 24/7 , i adore your vibe, your kinda like the big sis i never had

  • @liatalgranti4075
    @liatalgranti4075 Рік тому +1

    Amazing Spencer! I loved hearing your stories of being bullied from Grade 4-now and how you've been able to bounce back from hate and bullying with so much grace. I've also felt like a misfit and somewhat of an outcast my whole life, I've experienced so much rejection that deeply affected my confidence and to this day is something I am still working through. It is amazing how quickly you were able to turn your mindset around, you never let the hate effect how your felt about yourself long term and you never let it stop you from continuing to put yourself out there, incredible.

  • @lindseyr1796
    @lindseyr1796 Рік тому +7

    I've never related to someone more. Like this is basically what I'm going through rn in hs. It's so hard

    • @markzuckerbergstoilet
      @markzuckerbergstoilet Рік тому +2

      your not alone, I am too ❤❤ we will get through this 🙁

    • @addy2877
      @addy2877 7 місяців тому

      @@markzuckerbergstoiletsame, I wish there was a way that people who are bullied could just have their own school to get away from the cruel people

  • @nadeenaljabari4048
    @nadeenaljabari4048 2 роки тому +2

    she is honestly one of the realistic people ever and she’s just so kind and u can tell that she just wants to make so many people have and she’s just amazing

  • @siaccx3279
    @siaccx3279 2 роки тому +7

    Spencer has a big role in making me care less about people's opinion!!

    • @Calliegbert
      @Calliegbert 2 роки тому

      Amen!!!

    • @mmu_8
      @mmu_8 2 роки тому +1

      @@jenniferjones2289 yet you’re in her comments talking shit about HER videos which YOU voluntarily clicked on

    • @siaccx3279
      @siaccx3279 2 роки тому +1

      @@jenniferjones2289 since when did it become "egoistic" to love yourself and understanding your worth? she is just trying to spread self love and whats your point about her forehead? she is perfectly imperfect and stop pointing things out as if you're perfect with yourself and if you dont like her, just simply don’t watch lmaoo

  • @janvibatra2588
    @janvibatra2588 2 роки тому +12

    THANK YOU BESTIE FOR THIS BEAUTIFUL VIDEO! I WILL SUPPORT YOUR PODCAST SO MUCH I REALLY WANT YOU TO START A PODCAST BECAUSE YOU ARE AWESOME & SUCH AN INSPIRING PERSON UR VIDS ARE AWESOME 👏. KEEP GOING SPENCER, YOU ARE DOING GREAT AND ARE MAKING MILLIONS OF INSECURE PEOPLE FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES.
    LOVE YOU SPENCER 😘🥰❤️

  • @lilly-uf2vq
    @lilly-uf2vq 2 роки тому +8

    Please please please start a podcast! You have given the best advice I’ve ever heard on your channel and I would absolutely love to hear more. Love u 💗

  • @ILY95
    @ILY95 2 місяці тому

    You are honestly an inspiration!! Thank you for giving me a good mindset!! And I'm so sorry you had to go through that :( I wish there were more ppl like you! Likeeeee why can't ppl just be nice? It costs nothing, just match the energy. I would feel so bad about myself if I did that to somebody.

  • @pops7199
    @pops7199 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you Spencer!!I was literally so pissed that some girl at school made a comment about my beautiful MOM today.You made me remember that she has some family issues so I tried not to return any hurtful words because bullies really are projecting. I'm not satisfied by the fact that she has any problems or anything I'm just saying hurt people hurt people and its important to show love whether or not you or them are broken.Great advice,you've got a subscriber forever in me♡

  • @belenm6219
    @belenm6219 2 роки тому +1

    What a mature perspective. Proud of you girl - keep shining.
    From someone that was bullied growing up; 10+ years later… I’ve discovered that our bullies are people that are actually hurting..
    hurt people…Hurt People

  • @NotLilyyyy
    @NotLilyyyy 2 роки тому +3

    Spencer is so inspirational and I really needed this video right now, I’m currently really struggling not with my friendships but a few girls in my school hurting me and being so rude to me. I love you spencer you are my biggest role model and have helped me change the way i take things and think about myself 🥰x

  • @marianakloak2658
    @marianakloak2658 Рік тому +1

    Hey, Spencer I just want to say thank you for being yourself and teaching others on how to feel confident. I’m the same age as you and I’ve struggled with a lot of the same issues. Thanks for being the bigger person with the people that bullied you. It shows how strong of a person you are.

  • @refreshyourpage._.0
    @refreshyourpage._.0 Рік тому +9

    They were definitely being jealous of you, I have a strong dislike opinion towards jealousy, I never allowed it happen around me, and what concerns me the most is that jealousy people are quite often very attractive in someways because we think they are attractive or they are very confident so we allow them to do those harmful things to us, which is totally wrong. I’m just glad you are recovering yourself day by day you will eventually get over it and you will be better, and helping others helping us to, thanks for every encourage message.

  • @gracynarnold
    @gracynarnold Рік тому +2

    the beautiful power you hold after all these people trying to bring you down and now they see you as an extremely confident, powerful, and beautiful person inside and out who advocates for other people to find peace in themselves is unreal. that is such an amazing thing to have.

  • @KidHorsepower
    @KidHorsepower 2 роки тому +38

    As pessoas boas são sempre as vítimas e abusadas emocionalmente. Tudo de bom Spencer continua com esse sorriso😊

  • @Bellecg
    @Bellecg 7 місяців тому

    “I will hype you up at any point in your life” so good! Love this❤ So sorry you went through all this, you’re right those people who bullied you were projecting their insecurities and none of those things they said about you was true! You’re stunning inside and out❤

  • @brunahudson
    @brunahudson 2 роки тому +4

    if it makes you confortable now, know that you will never ever feel alone again ❤️ we got u
    thank you so much for inspiring us.

  • @bubblegum0.739
    @bubblegum0.739 Рік тому

    I actually love spencer sm like omg she is just so sweet and BEAUTIFUL 🤍

  • @kileyeverett4813
    @kileyeverett4813 2 роки тому +10

    Omg, I love you so much Spencer. I have become so inspired since I have been watching your content. I am so proud that you have come this far. Never ever ever stop smiling. Love you. ❤️🥰

  • @taylor_larents
    @taylor_larents Рік тому +1

    i know this was posted awhile ago, but i just want to say thank you so much spencer. i always feel like i'm the only teenager who doesn't go out on weekends and is more often than not alone due to all of the post i see of everyone in their big group of friends going on vacation together and overall celebrating life with each other. i've been friends with a group of girls since 5th grade and have watched the friend group expand into what is now. i've noticed some of the girls i've been close with since 2015 slowly drift away from me without really understanding why. i've seen my "friends" plan fun activities to do together without including me right in front of me. i've seen my siblings have the social life i've longed for and have never felt so alienated. however, this video has made feel me so seen and reading all the comments have made me feel less alone. thank you again for posting this video :)

  • @lydiacoffey2003
    @lydiacoffey2003 2 роки тому +5

    People used to line up outside of my class so when I walked out they’d all laugh and stare at my forehead, made fun of me for being a feminist and activist (I’m from a very conservative small town), I was bullied for about anything I would do. It led me to the darkest place in my life very bad depression and anxiety….but I made it out and not everyone does. I started a mental health club at my school called Head Strong, and once again I got bullied for it. It is still my passion to end the stigma on mental health, end bullying, and spread awareness. I’m 18 now and graduated going to university to become a psychologist. These bumps in the road led me to the place where I am, lead me to be more empathetic, and find myself without any influence of other people. I am me and I made it out!! My heart goes out to anyone that has gone through things like this!! Please reach out leave comments we are together 🤍

  • @juliaaa.
    @juliaaa. 2 роки тому +1

    hii spencer! It's so refreshing to hear your story, you have such a kind heart and you're so positive. I have some issues of my own and one of my friends tries to help but ends up making it worse or I just feel more insecure. I honestly don't think she means it in a bad way, she just does it wrong that's all. I really wanna focus on myself and my work, so these tips really helped me and I wanna grow confident because I know my worth, and you're definitely helping me achieve it. You've helped me sm, thank you!

  • @charlotte-ei9ud
    @charlotte-ei9ud 2 роки тому +4

    Spencer, you are the strongest, prettiest, bravest person ever. Remember, being sad, crying, feeling depressed is HEALTHY! You are the reason that so many people have gained their confidence back, including me. If anyone says shit like that again, just think to yourself “it’s just an opinion” because it is! It’s just someone’s opinion, and is someone’s opinion gonna take down Spencer Barbosa? Yeah I thought so, NO. Remember, the world doesn’t stop spinning. It can’t stop for these insecure people. And if these people think that….god they are insecure! Spencer you are my inspiration. Keep going. Ily xx

  • @celine9556
    @celine9556 Рік тому +2

    When she talked abt not being alive, I started tearing up it actually broke my heart 🥺

  • @Andri_444
    @Andri_444 Рік тому +5

    I was bullied..But I don't fit in with another school now either. The girls in my class pretend to be nice but I can see that they don't want me in the group and that they talk badly about me. I've been extremely bullied. It's better now.They also make fun of me because of my style, I like to wear darker baggy clothes.But I have two real friends outside of school. I wish I could have seen this video 3 years ago. Thank you, I'm so sorry you went through all that.💗💗

    • @Ohpleaseimbored
      @Ohpleaseimbored 7 місяців тому

      I'm so sorry if they did this to you, we're the same. At least their favorite hobby is to bully their victim which is why all bitches are obsessed with

  • @dorothycatherine7896
    @dorothycatherine7896 2 роки тому +1

    Spencer your candid truth about your bullying experiences early in life made me remember bullying in my own life at exactly grade 4 !! Like you, I couldn’t understand why. I wasn’t raised to treat anyone with anything but respect. A very upsetting time for me as a child Of course now i look back and realize that girl was most likely very unhappy with herself so she picked on me…. The new girl in class.
    My heart goes out to you….but you have persevered …. you are totally lovable and beautiful with the most beautiful heart. God bless you for being a wonderful role model to all young girls who might be considering self harm or worse because of bullying. You’re amazing and YES a very good person!! You deserve every happiness and good things and people in your life always.
    Thank you 😊 💕

  • @nord-ostsee-kanal808
    @nord-ostsee-kanal808 2 роки тому +3

    I had this friendgroup too. I was always the third wheel but never noticed it. Thankfully I realised it one day and found new friends i was actually happy with. It’s really important to talk about these times so no one feels alone when they realise it

  • @teens59
    @teens59 10 місяців тому +2

    im actually grateful that you are here for us and thank you for expressing your feelings to bulling and you are beautiful spancer i love you big sis🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @TheopolisQSmith
    @TheopolisQSmith 2 роки тому +4

    I feel that human nature in general makes some have the need to feel that they are better than others. It is a constant battle to overcome this tendency. Some are successful in this, others never do. This has gone on as long as humans have been on the planet.

  • @randomhead670
    @randomhead670 Рік тому +2

    I'm so sorry people treated you that way😥You're truly a gem to so many people and I love how supportive and confident you are💜Keep slaying, queen!🫰🫰

  • @user-wh5mg7nd6f
    @user-wh5mg7nd6f 2 роки тому +3

    Spencer I truly love you,you are like a big sister to me,you are my inspiration. I'm so sorry for what you had been through,but I want you to know that's you are an amazing person and you deserve everything❤️🥰

  • @kileyrose
    @kileyrose Рік тому +1

    I don’t usually comment on videos, but I want to thank you for posting this. I moved to a new school last year and it was not fun at all. I remember watching this video and it seriously changed my whole mindset . Glad I’m not the only one going through this 💗🤍

  • @subsofmoon
    @subsofmoon 2 роки тому +4

    Queen she deserves all the love and happiness she has helped me so muchh 🥺🦋❤