I’m 26 right now, the youngest of 5 kids. My oldest sister takes the most from my mother. My brothers always asking too. It def does not stop at 18 unless you’re a horrible deadbeat parent that should of never had children to begin with
@@vr-qc1vf shaming makes people do things counter to their own well being. It's what they do now, but in more violent times they just (forced) it on women, and they won't admit that's what they actually want
Yeah. They do that. I've been told I think I'm too good for everybody because I turned down advances. Like my life is so cursory and unimportant that I should be able to entirely upend it so I can include another human. Then they lie about their own situations to convince you to do what they want and treat you like you're insane when you respond the way you would if (any of) it was true. There have been the name callers, accusers, arrogant swaggerers and even a couple nice guys. Since it is literally impossible to tell if the nice ones were pretending (the way the rotten ones pretended) I eventually gave up. Been single with a roommate for many, many years. Both sides of the bed are mine, every night. And I wouldn't change it for the world. I learned my lesson. It took 40 years. But I learned. 😂
@@vr-qc1vf It's usually one of three reasons: (1) Because they're scared no one will want to marry and have kids with them, which are two things they desperately want but won't admit it; (2) they're stuck in an unhappy marriage with kids they realize they didn't actually want to have and are jealous that the woman choose a different, more fufilling path; or (3) they want to control women and the choices we make for ourselves.
That's what the father's are for. Since most women can't get him to step up you try to guilt trip other women to pick up the slack. These days child free women are not having it.
@@dianneyung111 When my friends and family had children, I was there helping them with their children. My mother wanted me, begged me to have my baby. She said she would help, and my child's father also said how he would be there. In the end, they all weren't dependable. So no, I'm not trying to guilt trip childfree women to take care of my child. I had to figure it out all on my own, I would tell any woman to think twice before bringing life into this evil world. Don't believe people who say they will be there. Rising children is time consuming and very very difficult.
@@fantasyfox965no it doesn’t take a village. It takes the two people who had sex to raise that baby. I’m childfree for a reason. Raise your own damn kids.
For 15 years I knew I wanted to be child free but as I approached 30 I felt pressure from myself and my husband and I just feel so constantly exhausted, stressed, miserable quite frankly. The small glimmers of happiness don’t make up for the mental anguish. My son absolutely deserves a better mother than me, I try and not let him see the frustration nor take it out on him but I find myself struggling everyday and having a mental break day at least every other week. My advice is wholeheartedly don’t do it.
I can feel it. In my family all my sister in law's are pressured to get pregnant within 2 years of marriage. And I won't lie If I say I'm terrified of marriage!
It's the difference between "show" and "tell": they keep telling you how beautiful and rewarding motherhood is --- and then show you the opposite is actually true. Watching my female friends have kids really tipped the scale for me.: their mental and physical health declined, their finances suffered, their relationships deteriorated. I had front row tickets to the reality of motherhood and I'm opting OUT, sorry
Calling someone “selfish” for doing something also definitely implies that what they are doing is objectively GOOD for them. You don’t call someone selfish for NOT pursuing their dreams or for doing a job that doesn’t pay well. You call someone selfish when they put their own happiness first. Which means every single one of these parents calling us selfish believes we’re living the better life. They were selfless for sacrificing their happiness, we are selfish for prioritizing it.
I knew when I was 9 years old. I am not 39. No regrets. My fertility is all but gone and I don't care. I will not freeze eggs and I will not do IVF. Dogs are great!
@@haute03 yeah nah. I won't set a new life on this wretched world. The only thing I'd do is adopt, because that's an existing child that just needs a mom.
Girl, this! I was perfectly fine being an only child, when my mom remarried and had more kids….I knew then I didn’t want to have children just based on babysitting my siblings.
I have a sister that I kinda helped raise and I love her so much. But no children for me, there’s a long list of reasons why. Sometimes I have nightmares where I’ve just given birth to a baby or a surrogate delivered one for me and I wake up in a cold sweat. I remember the feeling of regret in one of those dreams as soon as I saw the newborn and I literally asked the surrogate “can we pretend it’s not mine and you just keep it?” lol I felt awful
I stopped at one child(a son) he said he doesn’t even want siblings, well you weren’t getting any anyway. You’re constantly worrying, children are expensive and I have seen every damn Disney movie ever made and I’m so happy I no longer have to go do children things, six flags, pizza every single day. I’m so happy he’s older now and I can sleep in. 🙋🏽♀️🤦🏾♀️
Honestly parents should have nanny robots or a live in nanny it shouldn’t be a thing only for the rich especially since women are working and taking care of kids all alone
I have friends who now have young adult children and I asked one if she had another choice, would she still have kids. She thought about it and said no. BUT she also said she wouldn’t know who she was as a person without kids. That kinda made me sad. Imagine not knowing who you are unless someone else was involved. Wow.
I just thought of something. A lot of these child free women are on vacation on tik tok thinking about why they are loving being child free. Go have fun and enjoy your childfree life. Let the lifestyle speak for itself.
I realized at 24 kids were not a reality i wanted. I had this realization that it was only the IDEA that i liked, but the actual reality was absolutely wrong for me. I have never sought out children to interact with like through babysitting or holding someone's new baby. Kids have always made me very uncomfortable. None of this is to say that kids cant be hilarious and even very sweet...but the 24/7 over stimulation is a massive no. You cant return the kid if it doesnt work out..
I'm glad I'm childfree because it gives me the choice of freedom to go after the things I want in life without any distractions or delays. I still have a lot of mental and physical self improvement to do, and whether I accomplish them all or not, at least I had the opportunity and abundance of freedom to at least try.
Yeah I'm transgender and wasn't allowed to medically transition until 17 because I might "regret it".....the day after I booked the consultation with the top surgeon I saw a pregnant 15 year old, literally what's with the double standard?
It baffles me the amount of parents that have done shiesty things to others, then turn around and have kids. Funny enough, all the people I know that are like that are struggling in someway, mentally, financially or physically.. and it’s affecting their children. They say karma comes but never when..😂 I’m by no means shiesty… but I recognize that I could never subject a child to the consequences of my actions! Plus, I like my quiet! And the freedom to be irresponsible if I want. 🤷🏾♀️
My friend (mother of 3): When are you going to have kids? Me: I have cats. My Friend: That's not the same! Me: I know. People get mad at you when you leave kids alone for the weekend with a clean litter box and a bowl of food.
Im like the girls mom. I became a mom and was in it 110%. Anything less than 80%, society would rather you not have a child. I put so much thought into it, and am now raising my legacy to be world traveled, tri lingual, and giving her every opportunity. Be 100%. Some of us are, but i feel like its less than half honestly.
I have a lot of respect for this take. I know that at absolute best, I feel like about 30% maximum desire for the sharing creating a child with a partner side of things but that nosedives goes wayyyy into the minuses once its about being locked in raising that kid to adulthood and having the responsibility and pressure of being as present as possible emotionally materially and mentally to give them the best opportunity..and having no alone time?? Nah I am so far from being all in that I am better off avoiding it. Any desire I do have for nurture or legacy is going into hopefully setting my nephews and niece up financially, and adopting pets 😅
Parents go too hard core these days and it’s ruining their kids, (Not to say this is you @LisaSoul… I think if you can do all those things and keep your kids grounded that’s beautiful, but all kids don’t need that level of parenting) Most kids just need good enough parents. Kids don’t need to be tri-lingual, worldly geniuses, kids just need love, care, understanding and freedom to grow into the people they are. Too many people are over doing parenting and raising entitled children. I think it’s because they wait until they’re older and so grow these romances of what child-raising should be. People, in general, don’t need to get it 110% right, 80% is amazing.
@@fleurosea they make the kid think it's smarter than it is, producing burnout. vanity really. if the parent isn't smart themselves they shouldn't pressure the kid.
I grew up with 4 languages, hasn't affected me negativrly. Now I speak 7 languages, learning japanese and italian, that is a BIG advantage in life. Travelling is nice if you are the adventurous type, I can't sit every weekend at home, I need my Trips. It all depends on tvf personality. I am 22, I percieve most people my age as mentally disabled...
I'm 23. Thank God for peacefulness I feel right now knowing that I will never have to go dating again because there's truly no purpose in it. I am 11000000% sure I'm not having kids. Husbands/partners are also a burden anyway, so why would I risk stressing out? Thank you Lord!!!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
The girl with the grey and white hoodie had the most level headed response about wanting to be childfree. I think the hard part is having to continually - almost daily try to justify to yourself and possibly other people why you are child free. That’s why I had a kid - I didnt want to be constantly questioning it or trying to justify to myself. It’s definitely a lifestyle not for everyone but you have to make peace with that.
I’m an introvert and so is my son. I am so glad he’s older and we both like staying in our own rooms, but he also loves being around me. So I make that sacrifice for him, but that is my limit because it’s too hard especially as a single mom. 🤦🏾♀️😏
I have 3 older pets and I have a mental breakdown everyday. They are the reason I know I don’t want any kids. They are expensive and they are akin to toddlers in diapers. I’m exhausted. I’m so drained. I love them but I yell at them to get away from me at least 20 times a day, I can’t tell a child I don’t want them near me when I get overwhelmed and over stimulated. I will not cause or pass down the abundance or mental illness I have. My animals are more equipped to handle my mental issues than a human 😂😂
I have a dog, i love this fool with every once of me. Ive noticed how he is a burden, ie keeping him alive. I think a kid is going to be 1000 times worst, cus its not just surving but thriving. Thats stressful. And idk if i want to love something that much in this fucked up world.
32F, my brothers both had multiple children, i keep an adorable dog. It is WAY cooler being a single aunt/uncle ya'll. You can have the best of both worlds! A clean house, regular vacations and if you want to play with kids just go visit your niblings. It's fabulous and they think you're the coolest adult they know cause you roll up with the lego and giant stuffed animals their folks wont buy for them, cause you can afford to🤘
I knew at age 5 that I didn't really want kids. Not in the way i know now, but I was able to intuit it. My dad left the day after my 4th birthday, leaving my mom to raise me and my sister alone. As a man i knew I didn't want to put myself, a woman, or a potential child in a position where I didn't want to fulfill that obligation.
As a big sister who more has 2 nephews, watching my brothers and sisters was a lot. I was constantly watching my siblings and also even little cousins as i got older because i was the trusted responsible one. I don't want to.
I never dated, never will. I am PROUD to be Single by Choice. I don't want all that unnecessary Drama. Same for motherhood. I have better Plans for my life. And sure as heck not forcing a child into this dystopian nightmare
My mom loves motherhood and she's overall pretty good at it especially now that she's more stable and with a man who actually parents unlike my biofather. I have friends and cousins and a stepbrother who are happy with their kids, and I am happy for them. Does not and will not change my mind. I'm still on the fence on if I have the mental capacity to care for a pet even though I desperately want one.
PEOPLE ARE SO BITTER when we say we dont want little Chucky's 😈 Like baby I'm happy, living life stress free, waking up when ever I want enjoying my free time💁♀️😋⛳🌞
If I became a mom, it wouldn't be fair on the kids. I just know in my heart that if babysitting my friend's two very well behaved boys for a day leaves me exhausted and happy that I get to go home to a child free house- I would resent my kids. Never mind 'it's different when they're your own.' I know it in my heart that I would not want my children around for as long as they would inevitably be.
Gtbh A lot of these "concerns" are based in poor partner choice and having children with no plan in place. Kids are great if you already have everything else sorted. The problem is the vast majority do it backwards. They have kids _then_ get married, try to build a career and create a home.
Lol. Tell that to all of the women who "did it the right way" and still wound up having to divorce the husband that they vetted to d&ath before getting married. Children change the entire dynamics of any relationship and MEN LI€. So, grow up, and stop gaslighting people.🙄😏
No matter how in love and commitment her man seems, a woman just doesn't know what kind of dad a man is gonna be til he has his own kids then it's a bit late to change anything. Dudes that are great with other people's kids are no indication
@@GB_008 This is so true, but some people don't want to hear it. They think they can plan away and do things the right way and everything will be fine. Unfortunately, life doesn't work that way most of the time.
“Your hands are sticky in a way that concerns me…” 🎯🎯🎯
I'm 49, and all I hear from my friends is, I Love My Kids BUT...
Thank you! Do they not hear themselves?! lol
They all regret it, and they just want to manipulate childfree women into giving up our freedom to be miserable with them.
This!!!!
cognitive dissonance
I don't want children. It is a lot of responsibilty and it doesn't stop at 18.
I agree 100%
I’m 26 right now, the youngest of 5 kids. My oldest sister takes the most from my mother. My brothers always asking too. It def does not stop at 18 unless you’re a horrible deadbeat parent that should of never had children to begin with
Facts
@violetbrugetti6630 I guess I'll be a deadbeat mom when my daughter turns 25 because that will be my limit.
Raising children is stressful AF!
I literally had a man to tell me that was lonely and miserable, because I was so happy about not having the burden of a husband or children
why are they like this?? like dont threaten me with a good time sir
And yet when we say we don't want kids, they say WE will be lonely 😂
@@vr-qc1vf shaming makes people do things counter to their own well being. It's what they do now, but in more violent times they just (forced) it on women, and they won't admit that's what they actually want
Yeah. They do that. I've been told I think I'm too good for everybody because I turned down advances. Like my life is so cursory and unimportant that I should be able to entirely upend it so I can include another human.
Then they lie about their own situations to convince you to do what they want and treat you like you're insane when you respond the way you would if (any of) it was true.
There have been the name callers, accusers, arrogant swaggerers and even a couple nice guys. Since it is literally impossible to tell if the nice ones were pretending (the way the rotten ones pretended) I eventually gave up.
Been single with a roommate for many, many years. Both sides of the bed are mine, every night. And I wouldn't change it for the world. I learned my lesson. It took 40 years. But I learned. 😂
@@vr-qc1vf It's usually one of three reasons: (1) Because they're scared no one will want to marry and have kids with them, which are two things they desperately want but won't admit it; (2) they're stuck in an unhappy marriage with kids they realize they didn't actually want to have and are jealous that the woman choose a different, more fufilling path; or (3) they want to control women and the choices we make for ourselves.
Biggest lie in this video is that lady saying D.W. is a sweet kid. She is not😅
I was just about to say that
She's the auntie that knows DW is spoiled. I bet she is really cool with Arthur.
Because no one wants to help. And raising a child is not an individual thing.
It takes a village to raise a kid, or however that saying goes.
💯
That's what the father's are for. Since most women can't get him to step up you try to guilt trip other women to pick up the slack. These days child free women are not having it.
@@dianneyung111 When my friends and family had children, I was there helping them with their children. My mother wanted me, begged me to have my baby. She said she would help, and my child's father also said how he would be there. In the end, they all weren't dependable. So no, I'm not trying to guilt trip childfree women to take care of my child. I had to figure it out all on my own, I would tell any woman to think twice before bringing life into this evil world. Don't believe people who say they will be there. Rising children is time consuming and very very difficult.
@@fantasyfox965no it doesn’t take a village. It takes the two people who had sex to raise that baby. I’m childfree for a reason. Raise your own damn kids.
For 15 years I knew I wanted to be child free but as I approached 30 I felt pressure from myself and my husband and I just feel so constantly exhausted, stressed, miserable quite frankly.
The small glimmers of happiness don’t make up for the mental anguish. My son absolutely deserves a better mother than me, I try and not let him see the frustration nor take it out on him but I find myself struggling everyday and having a mental break day at least every other week.
My advice is wholeheartedly don’t do it.
Why’d you husband pressure you into something you don’t want?
I can feel it. In my family all my sister in law's are pressured to get pregnant within 2 years of marriage.
And I won't lie If I say I'm terrified of marriage!
reproduction coercion
It's the difference between "show" and "tell": they keep telling you how beautiful and rewarding motherhood is --- and then show you the opposite is actually true. Watching my female friends have kids really tipped the scale for me.: their mental and physical health declined, their finances suffered, their relationships deteriorated. I had front row tickets to the reality of motherhood and I'm opting OUT, sorry
Calling someone “selfish” for doing something also definitely implies that what they are doing is objectively GOOD for them. You don’t call someone selfish for NOT pursuing their dreams or for doing a job that doesn’t pay well. You call someone selfish when they put their own happiness first. Which means every single one of these parents calling us selfish believes we’re living the better life. They were selfless for sacrificing their happiness, we are selfish for prioritizing it.
I knew when I was 9 years old. I am not 39. No regrets. My fertility is all but gone and I don't care. I will not freeze eggs and I will not do IVF. Dogs are great!
Kids suck and dogs suck too.
The kids throwing tantrums was it for me...😮
The bumble “have and want more” actually had my heart racing 😂
Fuck that 😂
Same!! Girl they want us to be baby mama #2, 3, 4, etc. 💀
@@haute03 yeah nah. I won't set a new life on this wretched world. The only thing I'd do is adopt, because that's an existing child that just needs a mom.
I found out I don't wanna have kids when I found out how expensive they are
I don’t think I even wanted to be a big sister much less a mother. Plus the world is a great ghetto.
Girl, this! I was perfectly fine being an only child, when my mom remarried and had more kids….I knew then I didn’t want to have children just based on babysitting my siblings.
I have a sister that I kinda helped raise and I love her so much. But no children for me, there’s a long list of reasons why. Sometimes I have nightmares where I’ve just given birth to a baby or a surrogate delivered one for me and I wake up in a cold sweat. I remember the feeling of regret in one of those dreams as soon as I saw the newborn and I literally asked the surrogate “can we pretend it’s not mine and you just keep it?” lol I felt awful
Feeling like 95% of mothers would do do overs if they could lmao
I think current parents/ our parents just want us to suffer like they are/ did. Pass! 😊
I stopped at one child(a son) he said he doesn’t even want siblings, well you weren’t getting any anyway. You’re constantly worrying, children are expensive and I have seen every damn Disney movie ever made and I’m so happy I no longer have to go do children things, six flags, pizza every single day. I’m so happy he’s older now and I can sleep in. 🙋🏽♀️🤦🏾♀️
Parents looks miserable
They are and have the nerve to be broke!
Honestly parents should have nanny robots or a live in nanny it shouldn’t be a thing only for the rich especially since women are working and taking care of kids all alone
I have friends who now have young adult children and I asked one if she had another choice, would she still have kids. She thought about it and said no. BUT she also said she wouldn’t know who she was as a person without kids. That kinda made me sad. Imagine not knowing who you are unless someone else was involved. Wow.
I just thought of something. A lot of these child free women are on vacation on tik tok thinking about why they are loving being child free. Go have fun and enjoy your childfree life. Let the lifestyle speak for itself.
I realized at 24 kids were not a reality i wanted. I had this realization that it was only the IDEA that i liked, but the actual reality was absolutely wrong for me. I have never sought out children to interact with like through babysitting or holding someone's new baby. Kids have always made me very uncomfortable. None of this is to say that kids cant be hilarious and even very sweet...but the 24/7 over stimulation is a massive no. You cant return the kid if it doesnt work out..
One baja blast for me please!! It sounds delicious. 😋
It is ❤
I recently saw how you can make it yourself with Mountain Dew, Sprite and a little blue Powerade. Yumm!
I'm glad I'm childfree because it gives me the choice of freedom to go after the things I want in life without any distractions or delays. I still have a lot of mental and physical self improvement to do, and whether I accomplish them all or not, at least I had the opportunity and abundance of freedom to at least try.
12:03 24 yrs old is too young to be striving to have a child, and your brain isn't even fully developed yet
Yet there are so many girls and women in the world having kids at younger ages 😢 and many of them don't have a choice 😢
Why is 25 a better age than 24 to have kids? I mean at 25 ur just getting used to to ur new developed brain that you’ve never had before
Yeah I'm transgender and wasn't allowed to medically transition until 17 because I might "regret it".....the day after I booked the consultation with the top surgeon I saw a pregnant 15 year old, literally what's with the double standard?
1:45 😂 13:30 yes I want less responsibility too and to simply be 😊
It baffles me the amount of parents that have done shiesty things to others, then turn around and have kids. Funny enough, all the people I know that are like that are struggling in someway, mentally, financially or physically.. and it’s affecting their children. They say karma comes but never when..😂 I’m by no means shiesty… but I recognize that I could never subject a child to the consequences of my actions! Plus, I like my quiet! And the freedom to be irresponsible if I want. 🤷🏾♀️
My friend (mother of 3): When are you going to have kids?
Me: I have cats.
My Friend: That's not the same!
Me: I know. People get mad at you when you leave kids alone for the weekend with a clean litter box and a bowl of food.
Having pets is gross. Having kids is unnecessary. I have no kids and no pets and life is great because my house is always quiet and clean.
Im like the girls mom. I became a mom and was in it 110%. Anything less than 80%, society would rather you not have a child. I put so much thought into it, and am now raising my legacy to be world traveled, tri lingual, and giving her every opportunity.
Be 100%. Some of us are, but i feel like its less than half honestly.
I have a lot of respect for this take. I know that at absolute best, I feel like about 30% maximum desire for the sharing creating a child with a partner side of things but that nosedives goes wayyyy into the minuses once its about being locked in raising that kid to adulthood and having the responsibility and pressure of being as present as possible emotionally materially and mentally to give them the best opportunity..and having no alone time?? Nah
I am so far from being all in that I am better off avoiding it. Any desire I do have for nurture or legacy is going into hopefully setting my nephews and niece up financially, and adopting pets 😅
Parents go too hard core these days and it’s ruining their kids, (Not to say this is you @LisaSoul… I think if you can do all those things and keep your kids grounded that’s beautiful, but all kids don’t need that level of parenting) Most kids just need good enough parents. Kids don’t need to be tri-lingual, worldly geniuses, kids just need love, care, understanding and freedom to grow into the people they are. Too many people are over doing parenting and raising entitled children. I think it’s because they wait until they’re older and so grow these romances of what child-raising should be. People, in general, don’t need to get it 110% right, 80% is amazing.
@@fleurosea they make the kid think it's smarter than it is, producing burnout. vanity really. if the parent isn't smart themselves they shouldn't pressure the kid.
I grew up with 4 languages, hasn't affected me negativrly. Now I speak 7 languages, learning japanese and italian, that is a BIG advantage in life.
Travelling is nice if you are the adventurous type, I can't sit every weekend at home, I need my Trips.
It all depends on tvf personality.
I am 22, I percieve most people my age as mentally disabled...
I'm 23. Thank God for peacefulness I feel right now knowing that I will never have to go dating again because there's truly no purpose in it. I am 11000000% sure I'm not having kids. Husbands/partners are also a burden anyway, so why would I risk stressing out? Thank you Lord!!!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
timothy said only marry if you burn in lust...
Who TF is Timothy?????
Marriage is a worthless outdated Custom, just don't.
The girl with the grey and white hoodie had the most level headed response about wanting to be childfree. I think the hard part is having to continually - almost daily try to justify to yourself and possibly other people why you are child free. That’s why I had a kid - I didnt want to be constantly questioning it or trying to justify to myself. It’s definitely a lifestyle not for everyone but you have to make peace with that.
I’m an introvert and so is my son. I am so glad he’s older and we both like staying in our own rooms, but he also loves being around me. So I make that sacrifice for him, but that is my limit because it’s too hard especially as a single mom.
🤦🏾♀️😏
I have 3 older pets and I have a mental breakdown everyday. They are the reason I know I don’t want any kids. They are expensive and they are akin to toddlers in diapers. I’m exhausted. I’m so drained. I love them but I yell at them to get away from me at least 20 times a day, I can’t tell a child I don’t want them near me when I get overwhelmed and over stimulated. I will not cause or pass down the abundance or mental illness I have. My animals are more equipped to handle my mental issues than a human 😂😂
Dw aunt is sooo cool!❤
I have a dog, i love this fool with every once of me. Ive noticed how he is a burden, ie keeping him alive. I think a kid is going to be 1000 times worst, cus its not just surving but thriving. Thats stressful. And idk if i want to love something that much in this fucked up world.
I have a plant. That's the only living thing reliant on me, and all I have to do is give it water and sunshine. Super easy, and it's thriving.
I get irritated and overstimulated when me car bothers me sometimes i know I’d be 100x worse with a whole human who has more demands
32F, my brothers both had multiple children, i keep an adorable dog. It is WAY cooler being a single aunt/uncle ya'll. You can have the best of both worlds! A clean house, regular vacations and if you want to play with kids just go visit your niblings. It's fabulous and they think you're the coolest adult they know cause you roll up with the lego and giant stuffed animals their folks wont buy for them, cause you can afford to🤘
niblings is a cute word 🙂
Must be a Narcicisst when you get your rocks off from children thinking you are cool.
I knew at age 5 that I didn't really want kids. Not in the way i know now, but I was able to intuit it. My dad left the day after my 4th birthday, leaving my mom to raise me and my sister alone. As a man i knew I didn't want to put myself, a woman, or a potential child in a position where I didn't want to fulfill that obligation.
I’m in two minds….I’m really glad my mother had me
You couldn't be unhappy if your mother hsd you because you wouldn't exist.
Let go of that naive pseudo logic
That one clip with the list and the screaming child was enough for me😂
As a big sister who more has 2 nephews, watching my brothers and sisters was a lot. I was constantly watching my siblings and also even little cousins as i got older because i was the trusted responsible one. I don't want to.
I never dated, never will.
I am PROUD to be Single by Choice.
I don't want all that unnecessary Drama.
Same for motherhood.
I have better Plans for my life.
And sure as heck not forcing a child into this dystopian nightmare
My mom loves motherhood and she's overall pretty good at it especially now that she's more stable and with a man who actually parents unlike my biofather. I have friends and cousins and a stepbrother who are happy with their kids, and I am happy for them. Does not and will not change my mind. I'm still on the fence on if I have the mental capacity to care for a pet even though I desperately want one.
does anyone know where i can get the list this woman has made / is making? thanks
PEOPLE ARE SO BITTER when we say we dont want little Chucky's 😈 Like baby I'm happy, living life stress free, waking up when ever I want enjoying my free time💁♀️😋⛳🌞
If I became a mom, it wouldn't be fair on the kids. I just know in my heart that if babysitting my friend's two very well behaved boys for a day leaves me exhausted and happy that I get to go home to a child free house- I would resent my kids. Never mind 'it's different when they're your own.' I know it in my heart that I would not want my children around for as long as they would inevitably be.
….im soooo sick of this debate. Why are we pitting parents against those who do not have kids?
Omg that screaming kid from one of the first videos sounded waaay too old to be having a tantrum like that. Ugh no thank you.
"When does menopause start?" hahahahahahahaha.
...catmoms unite...
Anyone else childfree by choice that's also poor and stupid?
Men are not like women at all you have to do a lot of work to make it work with men unfortunately
Parenthood is a choice, vote blue to be sure it stays that way ladies 💙.
DW you are so innocent and naive 😅😂
Gtbh A lot of these "concerns" are based in poor partner choice and having children with no plan in place. Kids are great if you already have everything else sorted. The problem is the vast majority do it backwards. They have kids _then_ get married, try to build a career and create a home.
Lol. Tell that to all of the women who "did it the right way" and still wound up having to divorce the husband that they vetted to d&ath before getting married. Children change the entire dynamics of any relationship and MEN LI€. So, grow up, and stop gaslighting people.🙄😏
No matter how in love and commitment her man seems, a woman just doesn't know what kind of dad a man is gonna be til he has his own kids then it's a bit late to change anything. Dudes that are great with other people's kids are no indication
@@GB_008 This is so true, but some people don't want to hear it. They think they can plan away and do things the right way and everything will be fine. Unfortunately, life doesn't work that way most of the time.
Life happens while you’re busy making plans.
@@GB_008Doing it the right way is establishing yourself first and making sure it’s the right person. Single and childfree is the way to go